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You are here: Home / Open Forum / Open Forum: I Hate To Keep Whining…BUT…

Open Forum: I Hate To Keep Whining…BUT…

August 4, 2022 by tamaratattles 90 Comments

Y’all, I don’t know where to start. My brain barely functions these days. So, it is hard for me to remember what happened first. But this morning has been a doozy.  My neuropathy is getting worse and last night my feet were painfully numb and like ice so sleeping was hard. Then, a guy came to cut my grass at EIGHT AM. Why do people bang on the door like they are the cops? It scares the shit out of me!

Then, I tried to pay the GA Department of Revenue my estimated taxes for last year. I filed for an extension, and IRS wanted money anyway, so I sent them some. The directions said something like filing for a Federal extension, the state would grant one. It didn’t occur to me to may them something too. So the other day I got a letter from the state wanting money. Today, I went to the website to pay them what they asked for and it was literally impossible to do so. They wanted my AGI from my guestimated federal filing I could not find that paperwork. The bitch of it all is THEY KNOW THE ANSWER as that is how they determined what I owe. YET I CAN’T JUST PAY THEM THE MONEY!

Then, I discovered that someone was Ubering all over town on my AMEX card. I have a setting with AMEX where they send me an email any time a purchase is made without the card being present. I got two charges from UBER this morning.  One for around $63 and another for like $22. I called immediately and put a fraud charge on the transactions. But how could they use my card when I have the card on me at all times? How could they get the number?  Also, how far do you have to go to get a $63 fare? The $22 one was first and the $63 dollar one was 25 minutes later.

So, anyway, I have two very important recurring payments on that card. ONE IS FOR HOSTING THIS WEBSITE, and the other is for my health insurance. I had to cancel my card and get a new one sent. They claim it won’t affect recurring charges.

I also found out that the next fucking doctor I need to go to requires interstate driving. THERE IS NO WAY I CAN DO THAT. So, before all this started happening, I was trying to work up the courage to let me know if there is a day next week she can take me. I hate asking her for help. She’s a young married mom of two kids five and under. Oddly, I was literally wishing I could use Uber, when I got the notification in email about the fraud.

And, I am sick and damn tired of being scared to walk to the bathroom or the kitchen every day.

Today is once month since I fell on July 4th. I don’t have the mental capacity to problem solve. Thanks to those who read this. I know it’s been a long time of my whining. I’m trying to get things together over here. It’s just hard. 🙁

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  1. Kate says

    August 4, 2022 at 1:24 pm

    Can you put the donate button back up ? I would like to donate

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    • Tam says

      August 4, 2022 at 1:51 pm

      Great idea!

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    • Sandra says

      August 4, 2022 at 4:29 pm

      Please put the donate back on

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      • tamaratattles says

        August 4, 2022 at 5:04 pm

        Thanks, but that is really not necessary.

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        • KendraWatchesTooMuchTv says

          August 4, 2022 at 7:22 pm

          My offer stands

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          • tamaratattles says

            August 4, 2022 at 7:36 pm

            Can you email me?

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    • Amanda says

      August 4, 2022 at 5:55 pm

      You poor thing! Take it easy and be kind to yourself xx

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  2. Terri says

    August 4, 2022 at 1:30 pm

    What a sucky morning you’ve had. I hope your day improves. As far as your credit card being used by someone else when it’s never left your possession — all someone needs is the number/name on the card, the cvv # and expiration date. Anyone who has been in your house or is a good hacker could do that. I’m thinking lawn boy and/or his girlfriend since transportation seems to be an issue for them. Good thing you caught it before it got out of control. Uber should be able to tell you where the person was picked up/dropped off. I’m back to having to use Uber 4 days a week, twice a day to get to & from work so I’m pretty sure Uber can provide you with that info since you didn’t approve use of your card. I hope you find a way to get to your doctor appointment and that your neuropathy clears up soon.

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    • MelG says

      August 4, 2022 at 6:32 pm

      A friend of mine & her boyfriend were both hacked. A cop told them that hackers can focus on neighborhoods- that if you are using it online when they are hacking they can collect the data from cards. I have no clue how this works.
      Also, we had an extra debit acct that my husband was basically using for gas. The ONLY place he used it was a Murphy gas station near us. He did NOT pay at pump. He always went to the little attendant window. A cop he knows told him that scammers sit in the hotels near there w/laptops and collect data. I really have no understanding of how this all works. I have known of people going to big theme parks like Disney, Universal, etc and using RFID wallets & cases to protect credit cards from being scanned by scammers.

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      • Belinda says

        August 4, 2022 at 8:14 pm

        A friend of mine was hacked at the bank’s atm. It was all over the news. The thief installed a card reader over the atm reader. So it just scanned the cards. Because of that I always give the atm card reader a little shake. If it comes loose then its a hacker.

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  3. MzzMojo says

    August 4, 2022 at 1:36 pm

    This is not whining, it is healthy to release this! You are brave to share. I live alone with chronic pain and now have sciatica causing neuropathy in my toes/ball of my foot…like you described. When you share, it makes me realize others can relate.

    That being said, gawd what a bummer day. Hope you resolve the interstate drive issue. Sending you compassion and strength.

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    • FLA Beth says

      August 4, 2022 at 2:26 pm

      Agreed, this is not whining! Hearing your issues with the credit card is something that i’m sure all of us are concerned about. If it hasn’t happened to us, we know someone who has been a victim. Hope they get it sorted out…and catch the SOB who was using it!

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  4. Late2web says

    August 4, 2022 at 1:38 pm

    Have you tried a walker? I use a rollator (wheels instead of tennis balls) that has a seat to rest when you are tired. I go everywhere backwards in my home & haven’t fallen in 5+ years.

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    • Jananell says

      August 5, 2022 at 10:04 am

      Me too late2web. It was a real game changer for me at $100.

      You will work every detail out TT. “The way to eat an elephant is one bite at the time”. 💙

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  5. californiagirl360 says

    August 4, 2022 at 1:40 pm

    I would drive you if I didn’t live eleventy billion miles away. Wish I could help. I agree. Lawn Boy and/or Baby Mama might be suspicious, but I hate to point fingers. Fraudsters are pretty ingenious nowadays. 🙏🏻❤️ Hoping you feel better soon.

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    • tamaratattles says

      August 4, 2022 at 1:47 pm

      I haven’t seen Lawn Kid in over a month. Thus, the good news that my grass finally got cut. I was stressed someone would call the county on me and I would get a fine.

      Lawn Kid has never had a way to have any access to my Amex. I ordered food yesterday though and I called the manager of the place to alert him that there may be a problem there. I was super nice about it. I love that place. I think the guy who took my order wrote my info down or something. The manager said he would keep a vigilant eye on him.

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      • Terri says

        August 4, 2022 at 1:50 pm

        It always makes me uncomfortable to give out my credit card info when I order food for delivery. That’s exactly the reason why.

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        • MzzMojo says

          August 4, 2022 at 3:13 pm

          Not an option for everyone, but my credit union let’s me have two accounts. I can transfer funds back an forth. One card is exclusively used for online stuff, which I do a lot b/c of mobility issues, and phone orders. This keeps damage to minimum if someone gets the number.

          TT is probably right about the restaurant.

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        • JoJoFLL says

          August 5, 2022 at 1:42 pm

          I only use PayPal for food delivery.

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          • tamaratattles says

            August 5, 2022 at 2:53 pm

            oooh that is a good idea. I don’t know if my place takes it.

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  6. Tennessee says

    August 4, 2022 at 2:06 pm

    Sorry you are having to deal with fraud all the while feeling bad. As for the interstate driving don’t be too proud to ask a friend/neighbor. You would do the same for them if you could. As several other people have already said, there are many of us that would pick you up in a flash if we could. Glad your lawn got mowed. I have been “that lawn” several times myself and when it finally gets tidied back up it feels so nice. Hang in there Tamara💙

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  7. Sam says

    August 4, 2022 at 2:30 pm

    I went into a store once, a couple years ago, with my credit card in my pocket. I was working and didn’t want to carry my purse. Later that day, someone used it in a town about 40mi from here. That’s how I found out about touchless theft. Scanned through my pants. Lovely. I got one of those wallets that are supposed to prevent that.

    As far as taxes go, I pay quarterly, have been for years. Yeah, if you file extension you still have to send them something. Thing is, it doesn’t have to be exact. As long as you get it closer to right at year end, you’ll be fine. Georgia is seriously f-ed up. I’ve talked with accountants over the years about it. Makes IRS look like a cakewalk. Ridiculous. I started doing my own after a while. Harder when you have an LLC, S corp situation. I paid for that to be done. But if you don’t, slap something on that estimated tax voucher and send it.

    Also, Atlanta Checker Cab Co FTW. Screw uber. You might get ax murdered. Probably cheaper now, to boot. So they say. I don’t bar hop anymore but when I did those guys were great.

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  8. Vicam says

    August 4, 2022 at 2:43 pm

    I have one as well but mine is extra sturdy for my fat self. Don’t want thing to collapse and be worse

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    • Vicam says

      August 4, 2022 at 2:46 pm

      Talking about the walker with wheels mentioned above

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      • MzzMojo says

        August 4, 2022 at 3:15 pm

        At first thought you meant the RFID wallet! Glad you clarified.

        I have an Upright Walker, I love it. I feel more stable.

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  9. T D says

    August 4, 2022 at 2:47 pm

    If I didn’t love so far away I’d carry you. Please don’t hitchhike.

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  10. Erica says

    August 4, 2022 at 2:55 pm

    My father’s AMEX keeps getting taken despite him never losing the card! It’s the oddest thing. And they do transfer over recurring charges to the new card for you – the problem is one of the fraudulent uses of his card was a recurring charge. Anywho, hang in there! (insert cat hanging from branch here) We’re all rooting for you!

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  11. Ms B says

    August 4, 2022 at 3:19 pm

    Did you know there are services get you to your appointments. We have handivans here in my state that pick the elderly from their homes to take them to non-emergency medical appointments. If you google “handicap doctor appointment transportation”. At least some of them also accept insurance. not sure about the interstate options. i have been reading here for years but have never posted. (Makes me anxious, feels like public speaking) but i felt it important to suggest. Much love to you!

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    • tamaratattles says

      August 4, 2022 at 3:41 pm

      Thanks Ms B!

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  12. Kate says

    August 4, 2022 at 4:17 pm

    TT is the Dr is affiliated with a hospital many times the staff can refer to transportation options. Some insurances pay for this as well.

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  13. Lil Hammond says

    August 4, 2022 at 4:29 pm

    For safety reasons, I also keep a separate card for online and recurring purchases. I recently switched to PayPal because it offered a flat 2% back. I was even able to use it before the actual card arrived in the mail.

    Tamara,
    Praying you will get answers and help you need to get better.

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  14. Cody says

    August 4, 2022 at 5:11 pm

    Maybe Sheree is using your card to Uber around??

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  15. tamaratattles says

    August 4, 2022 at 5:32 pm

    I was today years old when I found out that neuropathy is apparently irreversible. Also, instead of resting I should have been walking. Um, walking is the thing I can’t do. Also, something I was doing for a whole nuther issue, is also bad for neuropathy. FML!

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    • Ingrid says

      August 4, 2022 at 7:44 pm

      my husband has neuropathy from covid, it is a weird thing, one minute you are fine, then you have crazy pain. He will be able to walk fine all day then wake up during the night and be unable to bear weight. Gabapentin helps some. also tried acupuncture and PT, I am sorry you are going through this!

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    • Fizz says

      August 5, 2022 at 5:51 pm

      When I had my spinal surgery, I was told by my surgeon that I had no muscle tone. I was like umm yeah I haven’t been exercising because of shooting pains and numbness (which is somehow painful) and sharp pains in my butt cheek. Nerves are the weirdest thing. They’ll just shoot off whenever. I would sometimes drag my leg behind me. One time I heard a clicking and it was a bottle cap stuck to the bottom of my foot. I’d no idea I even stepped on it. I still have issues but am much better since surgery. It took a minute though. I have tons of empathy for whatever it is your dealing with. xx

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      • tamaratattles says

        August 5, 2022 at 6:06 pm

        Thanks Fizz! At least today is a good day. 🙂 I don’t understand how body parts can be numb and really painful at the same time?!!?

        Also, I have no muscle mass either. I’m trying to get myself back to the old lady pond.

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        • Fizz says

          August 6, 2022 at 5:55 pm

          It’s the weirdest most inexplicable thing. Doctors told me they knew I was in pain and numb simultaneously but if they ever totally explained it (which I don’t think they did) I was in too much pain to remember. People totally don’t get it. I said to one of my coworkers at the time that I wished someone would just stab me and I’d bleed so they could get it. Instead I just bartended on one leg and cried when I turned my back to run credit cards. It’s a brutal pain. I’m sorry you’re experiencing it. Like you, I didn’t know what was happening at first. It’s a really scary, crazy thing. I did everything. Drugs. PT. Traction. Injections. Epidurals. Then finally surgery. It’s scary and people say stupid things. I hear you.

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          • tamaratattles says

            August 6, 2022 at 6:24 pm

            Thanks Fizz. Today is a bad leg day but a bit ago I stepped on something resulting in a tiny cut on my heel. No big deal. The important part is that I felt it. The Internet makes me so worried I will step on something and NOT feel it.

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            • Fizz says

              August 6, 2022 at 8:02 pm

              That’s actually so great! It sounds so silly but sciatica is a bitch. The fact that you’re feeling little things like that is big.

  16. jugabug says

    August 4, 2022 at 5:52 pm

    Not sure how, but maybe check if there is medical
    services in your area that offer rides. My daughter drives for a company that does that. She drives them to the hospitals that are downtown and some repetitive appointments. I dan find out more info to see if there is something similar in your state, just let me know if you want info. I know your dealing with too much and brain fog makes it hard to figure things out.
    I’m sorry to hear your having such a rough time! Many prayers for you!

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  17. NoOneCanPronounceMyName says

    August 4, 2022 at 7:23 pm

    Long time reader – sometime commenter here…sorry about the fuckery today brought….and I love you even more for mentioning Alexander and his terrible no good day…if you haven’t seen the movie you should. It’s super cute and a funny and a great reminder EVERYONE has a bad day sometimes. Also, because my life is a mess a lot of times…I can relate to so many of your recent posts. The back thing/neuropathy sucks. I hurt my back many years ago…but with pool therapy and regular old physical therapy, I have recovered. Soaking in water is my go to when it flares up, something to do with gravity? Idk but it can get better. I went from a desk job as a paralegal to running my own cleaning company cleaning vacation rentals where I live, the most physical job I’ve ever had and it rarely gives me trouble now. Even tho I clean other people’s houses, my house tends to be a wreck. When I am down and sick, it makes me crazy. So, for me, cleaning up the crib, helps me clear the clutter in my mind. More on that later. Just getting over Covid and may still have the Covid crazies but…I also had a bad thing happen about a month ago. I would call it a rescue situation but want to be sure it is understood he is the one who rescued me. I had never bonded with a pet the way I did with my little Luis, it was immediate and I was utterly taken by him right away. The loss was sudden and unexpected, and I am just a wreck over it. All my parents are passed and yes that hurt but the love I had for this little ball of fur was unlike anything I ever experienced. And the loss is devastating. He gave me purpose and made me a better human. I’m just really glad he found me. And it’s ok for me to be out of sorts and sad. He came right after our house burned to the ground while we watched …it was crazy watching all our memories and things just burn like an inferno. But…life goes on…and this little yorkie gave me so much joy and loved me thru it all. I didn’t think life would ever be normal again after that…but it did. In the meantime….fuckery abounds and I just try to do my best to put one foot in front of the other and keep it moving onto the next catastropHe. Thank god I’m stubborn and manage to hang around, life is so full of surprises and better than I could have ever imagined. I don’t want to miss it, especially now that the chickens seem to be coming home to roost for Alex Jones, the orange one and hopefully many more. I’m here with the popcorn and I hope you will keep posting….on all the things!!! The world is a better place with TT!!!!

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    • tamaratattles says

      August 4, 2022 at 7:34 pm

      Goodness! That’s a lot. 🙁 I admire your perseverance.

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    • Jananell says

      August 5, 2022 at 10:12 am

      Fuckery is correct. DITTO on alex jones, etc 👍

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  18. Deejay says

    August 4, 2022 at 8:00 pm

    What a day you’ve had. I pray things get better for you.

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  19. Marc says

    August 4, 2022 at 10:37 pm

    I am so sorry to hear that. I spent the entire day at the beach. Working all weekend. Love prayers more love more prayers GOD BLESS YOU
    xo Marc

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  20. Harrison says

    August 4, 2022 at 11:28 pm

    I know that in DC there are private ambulance services where you can rent an ambulance and a driver to take you to wherever you need to go for medical services. I know it’s much more than you need and I have no clue how much it would cost, or if it would be covered by insurance, but, there may be some kind of medical transport services available there. I have a friend who is an ambulance attendant and he’s taken people as far as NYC from DC. Don’t know how practical it would be for you but it’s just a thought.

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  21. jennyjennybobinny says

    August 5, 2022 at 12:26 am

    Jaysus my beach loving sister…okay..I had a really private card hacked and I know it was at a liquour store where the bitch must have done a quick photo of the front of my card? it happens and we think we are safe because they dont have the 3 numbers on the back but that is wrong. Also I SOOOO get the banging on the door….I have a massive fight or flight when I am scared and last week at my work these heifers banged on the door like it was the freaking SWAT team fixin’ to come in…I almost kicked their ass’s….lastly the taxes…I think as long as you continue to be in contact with them so that they know you want to make it right everything should be fine….disclosure and constant contact with govt means alot! Love ya! So sorry all this merde got heaped on you when you feel sick….I dont know your email but your know mine..I habe a degree in finance and accounting and I work in state govt if you want more of my 2cents….

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  22. jennyjennybobinny says

    August 5, 2022 at 12:35 am

    IKR???? I need knees replaced…Osteo bone one bone…I got shots to stop the pain so I can SLEEP but they say WALK WALK WALK..I can barely walk to the mailbox…it does not hurt but it is like bone on bone click click click robot shit and it is still very uncomfortable and mostly unstable….how can I walk for exercise??? I love my doctor but sometimes I really think they don’t have a good grasp of the reality they suggest???

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    • MzzMojo says

      August 5, 2022 at 1:49 am

      THIS!!!! Gawd I agree, doctors act like this is easy peasy. I have bone-on-bone knees and they tell me to walk. I get the robot click too. Even with a walker I am not as mobile as I want. They won’t give me knee replacement b/c I am OBESE per my records…but they will give me gastric bypass (WTF). I am now hideously bowlegged on one side and they just don’t care. Cortisone shots work somewhat.

      I did start working with a better physical therapist to strengthen muscles around knees and inner thigh muscles. But still, some days I just want to cry.

      Sorry to highjack your post, but it just spoke to my situation too.

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      • tamaratattles says

        August 5, 2022 at 10:23 am

        Not hijacking at all. It’s what this thread is for.:)

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      • jennyjennybobinny says

        August 6, 2022 at 12:34 am

        NO highjack WHATSOEVER!!! I am soooo glad you let me know I am not lazy for having problems with what my doctors suggests…walking is just hard… I just found out about the shots and am on my 2nd round.
        My doc. suggested the honeycomb/gel shot after the first cortisone but my insurance wont pay for it so I got a 2nd cortizone. I dont hurt but walking can still feel unstable .I am considering something called swerve? I think it is a kind of pedal machine you can sit and do to keep the legs and knees moving….maybe a more stable choice…and like Tamara said…we all need to support and add to our information ..thank you so much for your comment!

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    • Sam says

      August 5, 2022 at 8:33 am

      I get that. But it’s self perpetuating.. The less you do, the worse it gets. Just start slow. Don’t go far. I walk every morning, even when I don’t really want to. It makes a big difference in the way I feel, physically and mentally. My ole dog is still with me despite her diagnosis in June, so I can’t go as far but it’s good for both of us. You can do it!!

      Side note, I remember Sequoia. It’s weird looking at old posts and seeing all those screen names I”d forgotten about. I love how old school this joint is.

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      • tamaratattles says

        August 5, 2022 at 10:37 am

        I love a good Sequoia sighting. Always makes my day better.

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      • jennyjennybobinny says

        August 6, 2022 at 12:42 am

        Thank you so much! you are right I know I will feel better. I work 10 hour days and leave for work at 5:30 am but I can walk on my days off…thank you for the motivation!! I need that!

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  23. Sequoia says

    August 5, 2022 at 1:35 am

    This all sucks!

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  24. LA_in_KY says

    August 5, 2022 at 4:39 am

    I hope you are feeling better this morning. I have no advice because I have no knowledge of what you are experiencing, but I am thinking about you every day. And want to support you in any way I can.

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  25. LA_in_KY says

    August 5, 2022 at 4:46 am

    Did anyone else see Kathryn on WWHL? She looked a bit different from the Kathryn we see on Southern Charm this season. She was a bit more animated on the WWHL. I thought she looked much better with her more natural hair color. She and Olivia (?) were both kinda werid on the after show.

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    • Deejay says

      August 5, 2022 at 7:55 am

      They were a handful on WWHL. Andy was asking questions and they were having little side conversations. Kathryn did look great though!

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    • tamaratattles says

      August 5, 2022 at 10:36 am

      I didn’t recognize Kathryn at first. I am watching now.

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  26. Amanda says

    August 5, 2022 at 9:29 am

    I’m not sure about your state but my county and surrounding counties offer free transportation to dr appointments, etc. It’s not based on income or if you’re a Medicaid recipient. Their slogan is anyone can ride. We have plenty of patients that utilize this service. It’s not the most convenient but it’s worth looking into. Just an idea. ❤

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  27. Skye says

    August 5, 2022 at 9:32 am

    CAN YOU POSSIBLY EVER THINK I AM GOING TO HAVE A GREAT DAY? THINK POSITIVE FOR A CHANGE. THE MORE YOU BITCH, MOAN AND GROAN THE WORSE YOU WILL FEEL. I AM OUT, ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.
    #1 The rants have to stop.
    #2 Quit drinking. That is 99.9% of your problem.
    #3. You come every damn day seeking sympathy.

    You are out of control. I understand you are ill, perhaps bipolar but sincerely the rants have to stop. Take a break…..maybe a long break until you can just post without bitching, moaning, and groaning all the time. It has gotten to the point that is just plain unprofessional. I have come here to read the latest entertainment news and not to read a blog where you are having issues and people commenting are also having issues and pouring on sympathy for you. What has happened to this blog? It is past time to stop. You need help. There are plenty of FREE clinics that will help you but first, you must want to help yourself.

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    • Deejay says

      August 5, 2022 at 9:59 am

      Please have some compassion. She knows what her shortcomings are. Unlike you, most readers want to offer her encouragement to help her get through the difficult days.

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      • skye says

        August 5, 2022 at 10:14 am

        I have offered compassion for over a YEAR. Now it is time for her to take control of her life. Maybe spend LESS TIME here. You can offer encouragement but she has got to want to help herself instead of playing these mind games in her head that she can’t go here, do this, call them, etc. The “difficult days” have turned into YEARS. Tamara is enjoying all the “love u’s, praying for u, blah blah blah feeding her ego. She is not serious about getting help which starts with going to a free clinic and being evaluated for mental illness.

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    • Jananell says

      August 5, 2022 at 10:16 am

      Woe unto you.
      Don’t let the door…

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    • LA_in_KY says

      August 5, 2022 at 10:56 am

      If you don’t like what you are reading, then don’t read it. Go else where for your entertainment news. We have freedom to look at whatever we want on the Internet.

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    • Sam says

      August 5, 2022 at 12:27 pm

      And I quote, direct from our FREE host: “The Internet is a great and wondrous place. Everyone can find their niche. Here is a guide to figuring out if this is the place for you. This is a decision you should be able to make for yourself. If you determine this is not the place for you, there is no need for a dramatic exit. Just head off to find your happy place! There is no need to tell me you are leaving. I am not going to beg you to stay. In fact, many people need some help leaving here.”

      What a concept! She’s credited like 5 options for celebrity news. Be free.

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  28. Sara says

    August 5, 2022 at 9:37 am

    Take care of yourself first and foremost! Your site visitors love you and we all will stand behind you doing what you need for yourself.

    If you need help recalling, I wouldn’t mind trying it out.

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  29. tamaratattles says

    August 5, 2022 at 10:52 am

    Thanks everyone! I got some good sleep last night. The neuropathy is better today. I’m THINKING about walking outside. It’s just the whole concern about falling in public. I appreciate all the feedback. Tough love and the nice kind. I’m just trying to figure out what to do first today since I have a bit more feeling in my legs than usual! It’s a good day.

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    • LA_in_KY says

      August 5, 2022 at 10:58 am

      Happy to hear that!

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      • tamaratattles says

        August 5, 2022 at 11:39 am

        Okay I walked to the mailbox and back. It’s not far, but I lingered because it is such a beautiful day outside. The sun is shining and it’s only 81 degrees. I really wish I had a deck!

        The TWO WHOLE STAIRS were precarious and I walked like a penguin for some reason but I did it.

        Before the great fall, MONTHS BEFORE I told my doctor that I was having trouble walking. But it was my first visit to Kaiser. I signed up for a physical instead of an issue. I wanted like a complete work up to see what was wrong with me. Instead, she asked questions like “when was your last menstrual cycle” and gave me the roughest female exam I’ve ever had in my entire life, sent me to Timbuktoo for a mamogram, (didn’t go), gave me multiple HPV tests and completely ignored my complaints about not walking right (it’s hard to explain, at that time I could walk but….I wasn’t walking like myself) and I struggled to go up the two steps to get in the house (a problem that has only gotten worse.). So, I a skeptical that the entirety of my walking issue is from the fall. The neuropathy is probably from the fall, but something else is the underlying issues).

        ANYWAY. Once school gets out, I may try to walk over to the school parking lot and next door and add some boods to the little kids library box. Although, the last time I did that it was full and didn’t look like any kids were using it.

        So mark this down as a good day, bitch.

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        • MzzMojo says

          August 5, 2022 at 1:10 pm

          Small victories.

          I have Kaiser, having grown in up in military hospitals…I was prepared for how to work it. Sorry about your experience. I switched primary cares 4 times before finding one I work with on my issues (I waddle work). If you ever want info on self-advocacy or how to navigate the Kaiser maze…just ask. I am not preachy or a pest. I give info and do with it what you will.

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          • MzzMojo says

            August 5, 2022 at 1:10 pm

            that should be “waddle walk”.

            And again, glad it was a good morning.

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          • tamaratattles says

            August 5, 2022 at 2:35 pm

            Thanks Mizz. My … I guess it has become agoraphobia since Covid is really tested because Kaiser in Atlanta makes you drive to every single suburb for each test. Everything is at least 20 miles apart. I prefer to drive the speed limit or five mph more in the right hand land and let everyone pass me. But God forbid someone get behind me who wants off at the next exit, then it is all my fault they can’t drive seventy. It’s annoying. I’m also not really keen on other people driving me. It’s a problem.

            I thought I was going in for what I consider a physical, where they check out your heart and listen to your lungs and do the stupid thing where they hit your knees to check reflexes and do a blood workup and check your blood pressure and ask a lot of questions. That is not what I got at all. And instead of wondering why I could not get up from the exam table she just seemed annoyed.

            And I SPENT A LONG TIME PICKING HER. She had good reviews.

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        • Daintyfeets says

          August 5, 2022 at 7:59 pm

          I went for 15 years without a mammogram. finally decided to get one done at 57 (3d mammograms are the best). turns out I had a tumor which was cancerous. fortunately for me, a very small one. coming up on five years cancer free.

          dont wait too long. (not an order, or advice. a suggestion only.)

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          • tamaratattles says

            August 5, 2022 at 8:13 pm

            I know, I know, you’re right. But I am going to need to resolve the whole walking issue first. Kaiser sends you to eleventy billion different places. The boob smashing is at the same place as the fucking MRI people so when the time comes I’ll just do them both together maybe?

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            • tamaratattles says

              August 5, 2022 at 8:20 pm

              the boob leg place is way up by my sister’s house. It’s going to kill me to get that close and not be able to see her. She lives in a split level house with three levels and the stairs to get in are no possible for me at least for now. I struggled with them when I was well.

              And she can’t visit me because for the last 30 years she has been the full time healthcare provider for her daughter who was totally fucked up by the DPT shot at age two and had grand mal seizures and needs constant supervision and care. Back in my 20s I used to watch my niece so she could go on a quick vacation with her then husband. I was the only one she trusted because I know how to handle the seizures. Later in life I would relieve her on occaision so she could go to the grocery store or wherever without having to do it with my niece if she where able to go.

        • jennyjennybobinny says

          August 6, 2022 at 12:47 am

          shit..I get the two stairs completlely! with my knees I can UP stairs but DOWN kicks my ass…my two front porch stairs are not the same size and if I am sweeping them going down them is hard for me..

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          • tamaratattles says

            August 6, 2022 at 11:55 am

            Down is easy for me. It’s UP that is the issue. When I started this site, there was another site that used to steal all my work. It’s no longer there, but the owner put up one post per day of stolen information and then it was all comments. It was like an old lady coffee klatch (is that a word?). Everyone was checking in with everyone else’s doctor’s appointment. I never wanted to be that site.

            NOW I GET IT. We may have all come together over stupid reality TV shows, but for the most part we really care about each other more. I’m very isolated (mostly by choice I guess and COVID has me tripled down on that choice) so my interactions with you guys and very important to me. I love hearing about everything you guys are going through even when it is not good. It helps me, and hopefully some of you feel less alone.

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  30. Sam says

    August 5, 2022 at 12:21 pm

    Mmmm…shade.

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  31. MzzMojo says

    August 5, 2022 at 1:17 pm

    Thank you. That means a lot to me. I really like the sharing that happens here. It helps me feel sane and that I’m not such a hot mess…chronic pain and life’s curveballs are part of life.

    By the way, I ordered a HurryCane for stability since my sciatic neuropathy in foot makes me afraid of falls. It is awesome! And I got purple!

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    • MzzMojo says

      August 5, 2022 at 1:19 pm

      Having issues today! This was a rely to further up in the thread. I tried to repost and used the wrong email address. Now it’s waiting moderation. Sorry for making a mess.

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      • tamaratattles says

        August 5, 2022 at 2:47 pm

        NO need to apologize! This is your space as much as it is mine!

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  32. JoJoFLL says

    August 5, 2022 at 1:50 pm

    I’m so sorry about what is going on!

    Just so you know, you can mail the IRS and the state of Georgia a check. I do this when I don’t feel like dicking around with their website. Granted we don’t pay state taxes because we live in Florida but I used to have to pay South Carolina.

    How is it August already?

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    • tamaratattles says

      August 5, 2022 at 3:04 pm

      I’d need to find a check for that. LOL. That MIGHT be possible. Then there is the whole stamp thing. LOL.

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  33. Bosandi says

    August 5, 2022 at 3:26 pm

    I’m so sorry you are going through this. We’re all here for you.

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  34. tamaratattles says

    August 5, 2022 at 4:16 pm

    I just walked to the school parking lot and back. Don’t get excited. It’s only one house over. It was scary because I was alone. I was also very self conscious about the way I was walking/slash staggering. I don’t have a whole lot of control over what my legs do just yet.

    But, it’s a start. Now back to my Harry Potter marathon. 🙂

    P.S. I also ate almost an entire Turkey pot pie today. (Turkey because Marie Clare puts rosemary in the chicken one. EW.) and I drank five of the six teeny tiny V-8 juices I had in the fridge and tons of water. Oh and everytime I need something it magically appears in the fridge. Just Jenn added some things to my cart I was not familiar with. After researching my struggles I found that tumeric is helpful. It just so happens I found a little shot bottle of tumeric in my fridge. It’s like a Christmas miracle in August! 🙂

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    • jennyjennybobinny says

      August 6, 2022 at 1:10 am

      I freaking LOVE my basic ole time potpies…chicken or beef ike 5 for 10 dollars..I put them in my air fryer and they are ready in 11-12 minutes…and I have always loved V8 …I keep them at work when I get bitch ass HANGRY!!! I am also new to Tumeric but have found it helps me sleep better (for whaterver reason) I am not mad at that!!! i LOVE me some sleep!

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  35. tamaratattles says

    August 5, 2022 at 4:40 pm

    Good Lord my memory is completely shot. For the past couple of days I have been thinking about Romania. It was mentioned on TV or something and I kept feeling like I had been there. I had absolutely no memory of going there. It’s been driving me crazy why I feel such a connection to Romania.

    Um it was one of my first solo trips over a decade ago. stayed in two different cities. Was there AT LEAST two weeks. For the past few days I had zero recollection and could only remember my Paris trips. I am losing braincells by the day. 🙁

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  36. Chris says

    August 5, 2022 at 9:52 pm

    I have really bad neuropathy as well, and the freezing feet thing is excruciating. My acupuncturist recommended getting an infrared heat lamp. I just got mine on Amazon, and so far, it really helps. I recommend trying one. I have used heating pads in the past, but they don’t work nearly as well. My doctor also recommended a foot bath daily with hot water and Epson salts. I haven’t started this yet, but I am sure that anything that encourages circulation is a good thing. I hope this helps!

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    • tamaratattles says

      August 5, 2022 at 9:56 pm

      Thanks so much Chris! The beauty of my whining is that I find others with the same issue and great advice. Much appreciated. 🙂

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