First of all, I am overwhelmed by all the love and support on this site. It is much appreciated. Wednesday was a very hard day trying to get myself to the doctor when I can’t feel my legs. This makes walking difficult. I have to go back for more test tomorrow and it will be another hour or two of sitting on a hard chair which is horrible for my back. Driving is terrifying. Everyone around here drives like they are in a race and basically every street light some fool runs the red light. My anxiety is through the roof. I am trying to get as much rest as possible. At this point I may have to reschedule my appointment tomorrow. As I am apparently not going to get any sleep tonight.
I really do appreciate all the concern. I would ask that you do not call me until I get a grip on the injuries from my fall. Calling repeatedly AT MIDNIGHT is not really the best way to check on me. If I don’t answer don’t keep on calling me. I am living in a dark house because it’s hot. When the fucking phone rings, and it happens all dayum day and now into the night I have to find my flashlight, hunt for my reading glasses, hunt for the. If I hang up on you multiple times in a row. That should be a hint not to keep calling me. I’m trying to keep up with emails when I can. It’s now 2 am and the fucking phone is still ringing.
I’m going to need some time to heal. I’m not TRYING to be a bitch but who calls someone who is injured to check on them ALL FUCKING NIGHT LONG?
Take care of yourself. That is all I care about. I am agoraphobic and suffer from lots of other mental issues. Your honesty about your life keeps me going. I don’t know you in person but , and I know it is odd, but one day I would love to sit with you, have some cocktails, and other than that, no expectations.
Sending love and hugs!
Thanks for the update. Wow…People are calling and emailing you personallly?!?! I suppose it is well-intentioned but DAYUM. Perhaps turn ringer off if possible as well as doing that vacation thing so emails bounce back with reply saying out of office. I am glad you posted so I can stop worrying. I’m sure I am not alone in that. Take care!! See you on the other side when you feel like it and if you don’t, always be well!! Thanks for all the fun though I just started posting I have been reading for years. I am freaked by social media so this is as close as I have ever been to group internet interactions so thanks again for the fun and do you Boo! I wish you good health and a gentle journey.
Sheesh I see what you mean about being intrusive. Thanks for the post. Maybe they can give it a rest and let you rest. I hope you have enough in ya to make that appointment though. Take care and be well TT.
I’m glad you’re getting to the doctor even though it’s a hard thing for you to do. A suggestion you may take or leave. I am older now and occasionally need a nap to get through the day. I use Do Not Disturb feature because it allows calls from my non negotiables (spouse, two kids and the one sibling I like). If anyone else calls me, the phone doesn’t ring. Hope this is helpful x
That’s a thing! Really? I’m going straight to my phone and work out how to do this for myself. Thankyou!!
This may be the thing that convinces me to get a cell phone. I have a landline so I would have to hobble even further to just yank the phone cord out of the wall.
Oh. Welp. For the love of feck, get a mobile – it’s brilliant for that x
Don’t do it!! If you have a cell, everyone will expect you to be at beck and call!!
Amazingly enough, my cell runs out of battery so many days! 😂
That is exactly why I don’t have one. Back in the pink flip phone days, my boyfriend at the time bought me one. I felt like it was an electronic leash. No one needs to be able to call me any time any where. At the movies, at the grocery store, at the mall and wherever else I used to go when I did things.
It’s now three am. I am never going to get any sleep tonight am I?
Do what you need to do. Sleep during the day, wake in the evening. Who cares? Just don’t get a fucking cell phone. Lol
The cell phone is only an electronic leash if you let it be. I regularly turn the ringer off or use the Do Not Disturb feature when I need to rest. Take care.
I have both a landline and a cell but I don’t give my cell number out to everyone. Mainly I use it to text a few friends and for MY convenience. It’s kind of a safety net thing for me. If some random calls me I don’t answer and block that number. It is a simple Tracfone,only cost me 15$ and about 16$ a month. I can access the I-net and have more features than I know how to use. I accrue tons of minutes that I hardly ever use but I feel safer having one with me when I do go out which isn’t often. Maybe you could try Tracfone and if you don’t like it you won’t be out much money. I did it all online, from ordering it/activating it and buying additional data if I needed it. I guess how helpful it would be to you would depend on how coverage is for your area.Just a thought….
RubyLuby, Tracfone is exactly the way I went several years ago. I love not having an expensive contract with some other provider. I turn off the ringer at night but keep the phone on my nightstand in case of an emergency. I don’t drive so my cell phone is my connection to Uber (that might be an option for you, Tamara, when you need to get to a doctor appointment/run an errand). I have a landline which I use much more often than my cell. I don’t answer calls unless I recognize the number but that annoying sound of the phone ringing at all hours of the day/night makes you want to toss the phone out the window. Hopefully, Tamara, now that you’ve posted this the middle-of-the-night calls will stop.
My two cents CELL PHONE smart phone for photos / videos of all the places you will travel to YOU WILL BE I KNOW SO ! You can keep the landline for emergencies but a cell phone is more than a phone. Day planner / grocery list gps if you get lost shopping for groceries when feeling incapasitated. I know you are not crazy about the idea BUT I AM
xo Marc
p.s when you are ready to travel I can housesit organize clean clean clean DEEP CLEAN & get you up & running. Think about it.
Please
Think about it,TT!,
The other day I fell in the shower, but couldn’t reach my cell, so I couldn’t call anyone. I had to sit and wait for my husband to get home. Also, I only know iphone) there is a feature that you can set for any time period not to receive calls (mine is 7pm-7 am). Take care of yourself!
It has literally changed my world hehehehe
Keep going, Queen! I know you don’t do podcasts, but I’m sure you’d get some much needed cheer from Mattie and Poodle of Reality Gays. Their impressions of the various dum dums on these shows let’s light into my life. Damn it Tamara, you’re really going through it! I hope you get what you need and things start improving. You have a LOT of loyal and loving followers. I will always read your recaps and I don’t know what I’d do without them. I get 215 emails a day to this old yahoo account, and I delete about 213 of them unread, leaving just yours!
I hope you get to travel again soon. I hope I do! It was my birthday yesterday and I was given a Qantas flight voucher from my son in Sydney. This is great but challenging for my agoraphobic ass. I’ve not been on a plane in 7 years! I’ll keep telling myself it’s going to be good for me until I’m clipped into the seat. I only relax once I’m in this position and it’s just too late to worry about what I’ve forgotten etc.
I hope you get to look forward to something fabulous soon too. In the last years, as The Crazy has appeared, I’ve noticed that I’ve lost that wonderful feeling of anticipation and it’s replaced by anxiety. I’m trying to notice this when it happens and claw back the joy. I wish you joy too
Queen Jen,
Yeah! Reality Gays! They’re SO funny. My daughter turned me on to them.
She’s like met them and stuff.
They’re a real mood lifter.
I love Ben & Ronnie, too, on Watch What Crappens, but Matty and Poodle are much bawdier. 🤣
I know! I didn’t know that I needed a podcast gayer then Crappens until I found what was then 90 Day Gays – they had to drop that name because they got a ‘cyst and disease’ from one of the TLC affiliates. I highly recommend Reality Gays, but don’t play it at work or near the little ones!! They are so talented and hilarious, total theatre gays. I WISH I could meet them! Unfortunately, living in the cultural desert that is Australia, I don’t have access to any of the live shows. Keep going, Queen!
QueenJen, you are right about the Covid Crazy giving us anxiety, and clawing back to the joy! Perfect description!
I wish for safety and peace for us all.
The Covid crazy on top of the menopause crazy! Not a good combo, at all. I’ve just made plans with a wonderful old friend to do some cooking and textile type stuff together, maybe go for a walk in one of the beautiful parks that has a squillion different rose varieties near the river here. She’s probably saving my life, and I’m so appreciative. I used to live off grid and run a food van. That relationship ended and I lost all of that life. I’ve not cooked since. So it’s a big deal for me to make plans to do some cooking. We’ve got a surfeit of lemons, so I told her about Migliaccio, which is this bomb lemon semolina cheesecake made in Napoli for Easter. I am actually quite excited to do this. I’m even feeling the little warm sparks of joy in my heart, and I wish that for everyone here as well.
Love you TT! Take care of yourself! ❤️
I guess I’m Floridaboy. This too shall pass. Wishing you all the best.
There is quite a number of us from Florida on this site!
Hello from the Panhandle😁
Proud of you TT Do what you need/want to do. 💙💙💙
Five am still can’t get back to sleep. Will most likely miss my follow up today for more testing. 🙁
The kids start school next week. If you need me to take some PTO to come help I can. All of my follow ups are on thursdays so that’s the only day I’m not available. Let me know
I really hope you make your doctors appt
I can always give you a wake up call ot text UP @ 5 am Bed around 12 am. Work work work is my middle name…
Glad to hear from you and that you saw a doctor. You’re right about cell phones being electronic leashes. I turn my ringer on at 8am and off at 3 in afternoon. I was tired of people who used me to get them through their ride home from work . Bitching at other drivers, bitching at traffic lights and just bitching in general. All the while holding me hostage on phone. Don’t get one Tamara or hold off as long as you can. The older we get the more people feel they can shit on us. Excluding this community of course. Trolls are not this community.
Keep us posted about the doc visits and anything else.XO Dot
SHE’S BAAACCCK!! YAY. I was worried for a hot minute. I won’t offer advice because there’s plenty here and ur a smart woman!! I believe in you.
Did you see who Sheree’s new boyfriend is? Martel from Love & marriage Huntsville! OMG
I’m sure you’re taking BB but my first reaction was, Sheree from RHOA or RHOA? Lol!
Tamara, I hope today is a good day for you💙
I am so glad you posted, you cannot imagine how many times a day I think of you and hope you are ok. Sending you good vibrations and love.
Whoever you are, STOP calling TT in the middle of the night!!!!!!
Take care I’ll f yourself and we’ll be here when you get back! 😀
Of yourself that is. I really cannot reply when I’m using my phone. 😱
Yay!!! So happy to hear from you, TT!! Love you. Take care!! ❤❤❤❤
I just said a prayer for you.
Also, I have missed some things along the way here, where is Nanette? Is she ok?
I think she is (maybe) no longer around.
Thanks for answering me Fancy Pants. Don’t know what to make of that. Been reading what she has to say for a long time now.
Yes. I think we won’t be hearing from her anymore.
I hope Nanette is OK because she’s been a long time fixture here. I know we don’t know all the details but I loved her support and posts
Yes I too love Nanette but we need to respect T.T ‘s boundries private life coorespondence & life. Lets all not speculate during these troubled times. T..T needs encouragement positive vibes & a healing stress free environment. Here online & offline. I am in no way shape or form a verbal representative for T.T just another concerned reader trying to keep the vibe upbeat positive & healthy ! Nanette if you are reading this peace love & understanding. You are a wonderful person & we love your posts. Be well be happy until we hear / see you again online you are in our hearts & prayers.
Most genuinely
Most sincerely
Marc with a c 🟣🔵🟢🟡🟠🔴⚪️ Someday we’ll find it the rainbow connection the lovers the dreamers & me
Kermit the frog SOINDTRACK MUPPET MOVIE
Sweet song and lovely thoughts.
Thank you Marc with a c. I couldn’t have said it better! ❤️
Love me some Kermit
Nannette, if you are reading here, I miss you too. I always enjoyed your posts. Be well.
I remember when we had a donate button for you and we all donated -I think it was around the time Sherree was in court with you?
Why don’t you reinstate that ? I know many of us would be happy to contribute to medical costs Ubers etc. lots of love out there for each other 🙂
I think this was before my time but I like the idea.
Me too ! Walking around ( or in circle limping ) money as your father used to say. Mailed you a card anjou pear envelope. A pink envelope with your birthday gift will be mailed as soon as your gift arrives from Amazon.
A side note about cell phones. They are what you let them be. Having one is a safety factor for some of us. If you drive someplace and your car breaks down, having a cell phone means you can call someone for help without having to leave your car. If something happens in the middle of the night, having your cell phone within reach instead of having to try to make your way through the house to your landline is a good thing. People texting me multiple times because they’re bored is ANNOYING, but you can just turn off the phone & that problem is solved. I do love my landline, but when the power goes out that landline goes out too, I learned that the hard way.
You are back — Yay! It is funny how much I missed you! A “friend” I have never met, but I find myself wondering how you slept, how Banjo is doing, what the rapist is up to, how lawn kid is, or what your legs are doing! I love the recaps, but love the personal side too. Keep doing what you need to do for you – we are here for you.
Tamara lost Banjo earlier this year…….
I know – I was talking about all of the things I have wondered and worried about over the years. After I posted it I realized it looked odd and hoped it didn’t upset/bother.
Sending you lots and lots of healing & love TT. I know I don’t comment often, but just wanted to give you your flowers for always being a reliable source of honesty, levity and good ole common sense for me. Challenges with our health can really test our souls, but I’m happy to see your spunky soul still shining bright! Godspeed my friend.
Welcome Sweetmilk we need more lovely positive reinforcement posts. I am Marc with a c. You found your tribe dear soul !
I hardly ever respond to stupid simple texts. I often mute notifications on group texts with my parents and sister, cousins, etc. My phone only rings for numbers I have programmed, and even those are segregated with specific ringtones by group. The ringer is also usually manually off, so then only people on my favorites list make a sound.
Cell phone voice mail and block features are amazing. My phone number is very old and from an area code next to a major international metropolis. I get “local” messages in Chinese. Last week I got a call from Shanghai. All those numbers get blocked, and I often don’t know they call for hours even when using my cell.
I forgot to wish you well. I hate going to the doctor especially when it becomes one’s full time job. Hugs and kisses.
Just realized I messed up username. Thought it looked weird.
Please get well soon and PLEASE reach out if you need me!
XOXO!
Hope you feel bette4 soon and can at least enjoy the BB feeds despite everything else going on. Really thought this season was shaping up to be a dud but it is turning around for me.
public service message – love after lockup begins again this friday night.
Those of you with NETFLIX SEPT 23 2022 Blonde a film about Marylin Monroe debuts after premiring in VENICE FILM FESTIVAL in August 2022. Any readers here the book is by Joyce Carol Oates & is EXCEPTIONAL a narrative acount of M.M by M.M classified as fiction yet based on the real life events
Five stars TRUST ME !
This sounds amazing, thank you! I’m watching the Paul Newman/ Joanne Woodward series at the moment, the series I didn’t know I needed! Newman apparently decided to do an autobiography and had all these interviews done about their lives, family, friends and many people in the industry. BUT. He got cold feet and burned ALL the audio tapes of the interviews. Fortunately, one sly and savvy person kept the transcripts. So Ethan Hawke of all people has collected a bunch of big name actors, including George Clooney, to read/ act out the transcripts. Clooney, of course, has the Newman part! Woodward and Newman were both ‘method’ actors. I’m finding Joanne absolutely fascinating. I’ve read a lot of biographies of method actors like Dennis Hopper, for example recently, but never encountered an actress. Sorry, Marc, if you already know all this, I just thought others might be interested in it, also. Can’t wait for Love After Lockup and the Oates on Marilyn series!!
I watched this the other night. Really fascinating.
Ooh, I’m only two episodes in, and loving it. I just finished reading a book about Dennis Hopper and Brooke Hayward and the insane art house they created for the entire 1960s in LA. Hopper was in a couple of James Dean’s films, and they were both methody actors, so I’m kind of down a rabbit hole. About to read Marlon Brandi’s biography – more method, and in Apocalypse Now with Hopper! So this series is perfect right now. Watching the clips of Joanne acting? It really is something. Like beyond anyone I can think of today. ‘Blonde’ sounds amazing, especially given Marc tells us that Joyce Carol Oates is connected to the project, that gives it a whole time xtra layer. It’ll probably send me down a Kennedy/ Grey Gardens rabbit hole, and it’s probably time I switched it up.
Cant wait for this!
It’s nice to see you, TT! I’m glad to see that you made it to the doctor yesterday and I hope that you did not cancel your appt for today. You are certainly your own best advocate when it comes to your healthcare and it’s wonderful to see you taking control. I’m older than snot (and I bet older than you!) and I’ve only learned in the last ten years to be proactive instead of reactive in all facets of life.
Best wishes,
Nancy W
ICYMI: personal boundaries were repeatedly set and promptly crossed repeatedly. Then others piled on masquerading as more helpers. Some perhaps with good intentions initially but with zero ability to see the consequences of their own actions and continued to double down. Then assholes decided to pile on and type rude shit. Repeatedly and more aggressively hounding the holy hell out of her. JFC can she just take a damn break without everyone fucking with her or helping her to death. It’s ridiculous. She is not a special needs child who needs supervision. The site owner is taking a break for personal reasons. The end. If and when she feels like coming back, she will, whether or not it’s an inconvenience for anyone here.
That’s my take anyway. IJS. For whatever the fuck my opinion is worth. It feels icky and painful to watch. Back off people and chill your tits ffs. 🤯
PS/ if you really want to help, click on any old posts. There’s not a bad one in the bunch.
I agree with everything you said. The good intentions wrapped in advice would send me spiraling if i was her. SO not helpful and waaaaaaay too much. A hand up doesn’t mean telling someone what they should do. Often it is just listening and holding space for them while they work it out.
YAS!!! This^
Take good care!
Love you, TT. And I hope you feel better all the way around soon.
Everyone else check out TT’s old posts, my favorite are the purple pen posts back when the housewives posted weekly, delusional blogs and TT set them straight. The best ❤️
Nice suggestion! Just type in purple pen in search box and a variety will come up!
Lordy, the thought of you driving a car scares the shit out of me! I am so happy you are getting to the Dr though, really, and glad to see you back posting. luvs to you
Working all week no days off except Saturday & beach bound with my boi. Will send photos. Call text email whatever / whenever… IF NOT no news is good news no worries twin
I’m local if you need a ride anywhere, and I’m so old and my body is so brokedown that I can’t pass the toilet section at Lowe’s without wetting myself! Don’t ask how I know that … just believe that I do!
I move at the speed of a drunk sloth, so we’d be perfectly suited in mastering the rat race that is Atlanta … where it is currently so bloody hot that it takes a machete to cut the air, so knives need not apply!
Seriously; I’m painfully, and purposely, private and I will respect your privacy as I do my own. If you need a ride or wine and cheese delivered; I got you!❣ [New Commenter/Long Time Follower]
This made me laugh! You’re a very witty person. Love it!
Oh; I’m a mess and I like me this way!❣
OMG! speed of a drunk sloth!!! LOL. That’s my speed too! I’ll be giggling the rest of the day from that comment!!!
Drunk Sloths United! Giggling is the best because 1. It burns calories. 2. It doesn’t require movement and 3. It’s … free!❣P.S. It rained sideways [poured!] in, hot and sweaty, Atlanta this afternoon, so I am now a drunk sloth who is more than slightly moldy!
Hello, TT. Long time reader, first time commenter. I am a thirty-something year old male in the Midwest without any family out here. Daily, I find solace in your writing. I follow a few of the shows you like, but I don’t watch a lot of tv. Reading your recaps though has been a lovely diversion every day over the last few years. I, for one, hope you never stop. Hello, commenting community! Hope you all have a lovely night.
Welcome! I love this post! Have a great weekend.
Hey, I understand that there are a few here and Tamara talks to, drunk dials, whatever. I hate to see a dogpile on Daintyfeets, especially since I think she’s one of them. I’m sure she’s heard a lot. I don’t want to see her stop posting by any means. Nanette used to be chained to the radiator and I don’t know what went down there. Because it’s none of my business. I just thought it was over the line once you start talking about driving to Atlanta from Missouri. Sorry if you’re feeling hurt. Maybe some of the stuff you said shouldn’t have shown up here because of that whole boundary thing, I don’t know. I don’t proclaim to be the moderator. She complains a lot, is open about drinking, smoking, and being crazy. As a felllow complainer, I get it. Maybe that invites it, too.
Hell, I don’t know. I just hate to see it go away. I don’t think it will though. Yet.
So if Dainty was in that relationship with Tamara it is even worse that she posted that online post that was wrong on many levels….wrong and wrong and wrong. And then the guilt added insult to injury with the calls and threats of wellness checks…WHAT THE HECK????….Dainty….take your meds and slow your damn roll….goddamn…words hurt…write that down until you understand….
Give it a break jenny
Why? to quote…”I am VERY persistant”…..
Jenny, I think you are reading stuff into DaintyFeets’ comments that are not even there. Take a break and have a good weekend.
I for one would hate to see this happy little curve of the internet fade away and especially would hate to see T fade away. This community has been a blessing to so many of us and I’m confident that T found some life long friends, confidants, and amazing long-time supporters.
Having said that, this is not “our place” as much as we want it to be and T literally pays for this space of entertainment and open voice forums. This is her full-time job so to speak and we are not her employer, not her boss, not her producer or director. T can do whatever she pleases. As much as it pains us to be on the periphery and feel like we have a front row seat, to say and do anything such as give unsolicited advice, dig into her personal space, we really don’t have that right. Morally, we all want what is best, but in truth, we have to give T space, time, and grace even if it means a break in the action.
Let us as supporters make this about her, her well-being, and focus on her wishes and what is best for this space on the internet and limit our comments that talk about our own issues, offering unsolicited advice, making calls or contact when they aren’t asked for.
I think so many of us all mean well and think we are doing the Lord’s work here by being an internet friend, but please remember, T is a competent adult, and she gets to choose how best to manage her site, her life, answer or not, communicate or not, or have personal side bar conversations with those she feels are safe, loyal and above board on privacy.
For all of you (us) who may be doctors, nurses, therapists, DIY enthusiasts or just random people who think your life experiences are enough to persuade T into your line of action or thinking, just stop. Let her live her best life and when she wants your help, perhaps she will ask. Do not confuse or assume the internet as your personal therapy site for someone else.
Lastly, we all agree that we love this woman for who she is, what she says, what she posts and promotes. We can all agree that we love and wish her all the best and we can do that without getting up in her personal space. We can show love and support by clicking links, re-reading prior posts, and leaving notes of support. We can talk less about ourselves and more about what she posts in terms of entertainment. What we cannot do is dictate how she feels, or how she should feel, act or react, post, or respond to personal contact. I realize this may not be popular and I may be sitting at a table for one, but if I were in T’s shoes, slippers, or PJ’s right now, I too would just want privacy, quiet and time to put things in perspective.
Want to do something positive? Show her some love by clicking links. Forward her posts. Like and follow on Twitter. Offer positive comments. Give her the time she needs…..not the brief time you think she needs, but the time she dictates no matter how long. Offer but do not expect. Give unconditionally. Love conquers, but hate, demands, toxic and personal (uninvited) involvement just spreads exponentially and that is the last thing we should be doing.
Let’s give Tamara a break but in the meantime, share goodness with each other.
Tag—you are next!
Be good to each other and offer kindness instead of anger. The difference is measured in seconds. Choose wisely!
Hi y’all! I posted several columns ago about my dad turning 99. Yes 99! We celebrated this past Wednesday with two 9 9 balloons. Trust me you cannot find a 99 birthday balloon! We had cookie cake, balloons, and cards from his grandkids, kids, and nieces and nephews. It was wonderful. Just thought I’d share as it was a very happy event. My mom passed away several years ago but my dad keeps hanging in there. He’s a WWII vet and a good guy. Be grateful for your blessings! 😀
happy birthday to your Dad, Tam. how wonderful to have him for so long. thank him for his service for me
What a wonderful way to celebrate, I hope he had a great time.
(Yummmmy, cookie cake!)
Please continue to get better, TT. I have missed your recaps and your humor. 🙏🙏
Still click, click, clicking. Still check, checking, checking for your posts. Still laugh, laugh, laughing at the humor and the tenacity of your readers. Love, love, loving all of the beautiful people here. Still read, read, reading every comment that comes in! I just love you, your site and all of the people here!!! Lordy…don’t mean to give you any more pressure but ohmygolly…what a special place to visit. ❤️❤️