The last two days in this house have been absolutely terrifying. I’ve never been though such a bad storm in my life. I’m terrified of lighting and it hit the power pole at the end ot the driveway. My fears were validated by neighbor who stopped by to check on me today. No one had every been through anything like it and she was worried about me being alone.
I’m also experiencing some health issues. Not all of them have been discussed here. I wish I had said even less. Lesson learned. Lots of people gave advice. And some people are not okay when people don’t heed their advice immediately. Because of course they know better than me. So they repeat it over and over. Some people don’t give advice at all. They know somebody whose cousin dated someone with the same issue who suddenly dropped dead or was in the hospital with the same thing and had twelve heart replacement surgeries and lost all their limbs. These things are not helpful.
I appreciate those of you who were kind and sent well wishes. Those that were issuing demands and some insults. REPEATEDLY. Were decidedly NOT HELPFUL. You may think you know what is going on in my house because I am an over sharer. But, you have NO FUCKING IDEA.
If and when I come back to this site, I will do a LOT less sharing. I no longer see this site as a safe space. People who I thought were friends literally mocked my “cast iron injury.” Another of my biggest fears is falling and not being able to get up. I came really close to that last night. I always change the channel commercial come on.
I need some time to heal both mentally and physically.
I was not planning allowing comments on this post. But, most of you deserve the opportunity to post if you would like. I’m not interested in sympathy. The time for that is long past especially for those of you who think sympathy is mocking someone and being smart ass. This has not been a place I felt heard for the past few days. So, I am taking some time off. I’m sorry for the vast majority that I enjoy on this site. But, it only takes a handful to make me feel ridiculed on my own site.
I’m not sure for how long. I have a lot of decisions to make about what to do from here. If I didn’t own this site, I would never return here.
I’m so sorry, TT. You need not explain any more. There are some folks who seem more interested in scoring points than helping themselves or others. It’s so sad to watch.
Do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself, and hopefully we can all come back here in a better place.
Damn Skippy! 🤙
Dear TT. I see you and I fully support this decision. 💙
I second this. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Third
Tamara! I hate that you are going through this. You have been through so much and you are still here for all of us. I’m a regular reader, seldom commenter. I love your recaps and thoughts in general. I’m sending you good vibes and virtual hugs! We will be here when you are ready to return.
Ugh! This is why we can’t have nice things!
Sorry people suck!
Yes, people really do suck.
I’ve been here from the beginning and I ain’t goin no where. Take care of yourself TT.
OK, sounds like I may need to kick some asses on your behalf. I know you’ve been going through some heavy-duty stuff for a while. I don’t know why people can’t just give you a “hope you’re feeling better soon,” instead of being know-it-all jerks. Take however much time you need for your mental and physical well-being. In the meantime, you’ll be missed. Take care of yourself, Tamara.
Tamara, I am so sorry. It’s not sympathy, rather empathy I feel for you. Feeling sick, scared, alone, unheard and unsupported feels like the absolute worst. I do hope you feel better soon. I am sending you a big hug (but only if you want one). Cry your heart out if it helps. I consider you a friend and I care. That is all.
I love you TT. I hope you feel better soon. If you ever need ANYTHING I am here for you.
I hate that this safe space has become unsafe for you. That really sucks. I apologize for any contribution I may have made to that feeling for you. Wishing you well as soon as possible.
Take as long as you need
when you are done will be here waiting.
Don’t take too long I miss you already.
Tamara – I am SO sorry you are going through this and do not feel supported! Please take whatever time you need knowing those that do support and are genuinely concerned are here for you. I can’t imagine what you are going through – am sending hugs ❤️
Tamara you’re in my prayers and well wishes! I enjoy your site and it should be a safe place to share.
TT just take care of yourself and don’t worry about us.
Hugs, Tamara.
Take care of you.
Kick the asses to the window-licker area and consider giving some “ban” privileges to trusted readers so they can help clean house of the jerks. I’d be glad to do this for you but you don’t know me well enough to know if I’d do the right thing.
This is YOUR house, T, and the roaches do not deserve free reign in it. Please take some time out to breathe, enjoy a little summer, nap when it storms and know people love you.
This fucking sucks but is par for the course for the way things are going for me mentally and the way the whole fucking country is going to boot. Truly hope you get to feeling better. I mean that.
I’m sorry this is happening TT. The world so totally sucks these days
I hope your absence is temporary and know that most if not all of us will be here when & if you return
Yes to this!
I rarely post.
THINGS WORK OUT THE WAY THINGS WORK
I hope you find the answers/solutions/direction you seek.
I’m a loyal reader……………..
I will miss you and your wit. Please take the time you need and take charge of your home. I will certainly be waiting for you to come back. I will be thinking about you everyday. I like animals better than most people.
Sending you positive vibes and all good wishes. Will be here when you return.
We all love you and I’m sorry you don’t feel safe anymore. It’s been evident for many months that you are not well or entirely happy either. Don’t want to anger you but it seems like it’s time for a break for your health. Also to fully grieve your beloved Banjo.
This is your site so it should be your safe place! F the negativity. Sending you healing vibes!
Well said.
sorry your own space doesn’t feel safe. sorry to hear that lightning struck (a fear i empathize with). do whatever you need to do to take care of you.
I am very sorry THAT, not IF, I said things that hurt you. That was not my intention.
I am not going to say more BUT BUT BUT because RH apology.
TT I completely agree with your need to protect yourself and your feelings & emotions. Just know that I think the people who are here regularly (me included, although I don’t comment all that much) are here BECAUSE of how much you share & your endearing vulnerability which makes us feel like fast friends with you. Don’t change. The few don’t speak for the many. Eff them.
I completely agree with you Coondog!
Take care of yourself TT, we are here for you!
I hope in time you heal. While I usually try to watch myself if I pissed you off please accept my sincerest apology as it was never my intentions. Of course your in my thoughts that you are ok. I’ve shared with this group as well and it felt good to get it off my chest, but yes people can be jerks. Take care as always.
GA thunderstorms are no joke. My house was hit by lightening a number of years ago when I was home alone and it was the loudest, scariest BOOM I’d ever heard. Lost a lot of appliances, tvs, etc. I’ve been frightened of storms ever since and resort to lighting candles and praying for protection during storms to ease my mind (it helps!!!).
Hope you’re feeling better soon.
You are Bango’s beloved Mom, take all the time you need to rest and get well. Sorry about your fall. Hoping you heal and feel better soon.
Love you & wishing you all the best, always!
We have been having bad storms the last couple of nights. I am always acquire of falling when the power goes off. I got light bulb with batteries that can be put into lamps that you use. If you lose power, they will filled and go back on. I make sure to have them on when it storms.
Sending you gentle hugs and loving, healing thoughts Tamara. ❤️
I’m so sorry. We love you. You have brought so many of us together and given us a place we feel heard. I just hate that you are hurt (physically & emotionally). Sending virtual ((HUGS))!!!
The internet is not an excuse for therapy. No matter how much you love a community.
People here are not excuses for psychatric help, grief counsleors, medical advice nurses, family or friends, really
I have seen a lot of “regulars” cycle through here in the last decade. As commenters and as contributors. Where did they go?
Its incredibly shitty to expect people on the internet to keep track of the fact that you haven’t commented in 24 hrs. Especially when you’ve been ranting and railing and pissing on all advice for days.
And when you don’t have a normal schedule at the best of times – which is accepted behavior.
I hope your pause/reflection brings you mental clarity. You don’t need this. You don’t need to overshare. You also don’t need to treat your followers like shit.
Aren’t you a ray of fuckin sunshine? Seriously. If you have all those resources at your disposal then you live a charmed life and are in complete denial about what many others have to deal with daily. I speak for myself when I say that kicking another human being for having different circumstances or having to make different choices for reasons you clearly couldn’t understand is not helpful. I hope you can pause and reflect and perhaps re-read your comment as it is hurtful. Judge much? I certainly won’t be over sharing here anymore either. Wow.
Thank you my friend!!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
👏👏
Your comment is not helpful. It is unkind and unnecessary. There is not reason to perpetuate any negativity with chastising and criticism.
I hope you find some peace .
Speecless. This type of rant is unwanted insensitive & lacking good taste & manners. If any of these blog posts are so upsetting to you then stop reading here. Such hurtful opinions which I find gross. Keep you low oponions to yourself NOBODY HERE CARES what you think or how yoi feel.
Keep your head up twin. So sorry this happenend.
WLS, table for one please!
Took the words out of my mouth!! We don’t want you here!
God bless. This is a community of love, hope and faith in humankind. As the creator has stated, toxicity is not welcome. TT has shown so much courage, grace and vulnerability. Not asking for help nor suggestions. She is a strong woman and whether or not TT comes back, I will always wish her well.
I also wish you well and hope that you will be able to see that your words hurt.
Take care of yourself. You are the only one who will put you first. We’ll be here if/when you decide to return.
I know it hasn’t always been easy for you, but you’ve provided a lot of us with positive vibes over the years. I’ve enjoyed being a part of your site. Thank you.
I’m so sorry for what you are feeling, and going through.
I’m going to be around when/if you return. 💛
Tamara,
I have so much empathy for you because I’ve truly feel your pain. In the past, I was a bit of a public personality. I dissolved my foundation, stop answering media and speaking requests, moved to a 3 acre farm in the country, raise chickens, don’t do social media anymore, and have a peaceful life. It’s not for everyone, but I love it!
Find your peace wherever it is. I wish you luck!
Karen
I will miss you! But taking time for yourself is so important. It sounds terrifying to be in those storms. Stupid question….. do you have basements in GA? Whenever storms hit in WI you can find me in my dingy basement hiding. Take care and I will be here for your return.
I’m so sorry you are feeling so bad, Tamara. We will miss you and will be here when you are feeling better. I hope you were not badly injured from your fall.
so apparently I missed a few posts. last I read Tamara was waiting for her pizza. did that pizza ever arrive?
Take care Tamara.
I think it finally did arrive….plus a hella lot more.
My Mom and my sister are “fix-it” ppl. I used to be one too. ..always trying to solve ppls problems for them in the guise of trying to be helpful (or controlling) or fear of them failing, falling down, getting hurt either physically or emotionally, making poor decisions, etc.
It’s one of the hardest things to do in life. Watch in silence loved ones in pain and suffering. Just listening doesn’t seem enough or actionable . It just seems to take too long when we deem it’s a “rightnow” situation.
One day about 20 years ago my daughter made a statement when I was trying to #fixit with her….she says when I do that it sends the message that I don’t trust her decision making process which translated to her I don’t believe in her. That made me very sad because it was the exact opposite of what I wanted or believed. I’ve never forgotten that piece of wisdom from a 16 yr old.
I believe in Tamara. She’s Raw. She’s Real. She has a big ❣️I’ve missed her.
Good grief! My emails don’t download daily at the moment, so I have no idea what has transpired here, but TT, I’ve been a reader here for something like over 7 years? I’ve been through the saga of the cat people, I don’t participate much, but I read everything pretty much. This is awful! I can’t believe anyone comes to your site to give you grief! It’s your site! You and I are of a similar age, background and alone in the world as far as living situation. I get the concerns. I too worry about a fall, and being alone when it happens. I’m also a smoker and therefore cop that particular judgment. All I can do is wish you the absolute very best and hope that you can rise above the bullshit and keep going with this wonderful space that I know I need and look forward to every day from Australia!
I WISH I had the bloody answers, but once you get to this age, you realise most things are very complicated and there’s not necessarily a cut and dried solution. Learning to STFU and listen instead of forcing a solution on another person comes with age and wisdom. So I’m offering to STFU and listen on your site! And just let you know I’m probably by far not the only one here who sits back and reads regularly without trying to solve you or anything else. I continue to love and appreciate your work. Please take whatever care you need and time and we’ll be waiting for you. I don’t know where I’d be without this site. I rely on it as part of my day! Get well, TT. Love from down under.
Ditto.
Yes Queenjen, all of this. I look forward to this Blog everyday. Don’t often comment, but love your writing Tamara. Hope you feel better soon. I know you need to take care and step back, I’ll be waiting for your return.
I’ve stopped reading here daily and other places. I’ve stopped watching new tv shows. I just watch old tv shows where I know what’s going to happen. The world is a very fecking scary place right now and old tv shows bring me numbing comfort. And then I scroll on Instagram and Facebook and undo all the comforting numbness. Sorry you are doing so badly. There are many in the same place but unfortunately all our places seem to be on a lonely island in the middle of a black sea. It’s sad that we can’t all be together but apparently anxiety and depression mean we have to cope alone. And people who give advice often feel so much better about themselves when someone takes their advice. And if you don’t then they get pretty shitty about it. As soon as I hear myself saying ‘should’ I try to shut the hell up. Sometimes people just need to be listened to. Sometimes I just need to be listened to. I usually know what I need to do but I want to vent and be told it’ll be ok and I’m a good person and I’m doing my best. So to you I can only say, I hope it’ll be ok, you’re a good person and you’re doing your best
Tamara, you’ve helped me, and I want the best for you. Take care! 🙏🏻
TT, we love you and your venting is needed, welcomed and supported by your longtime followers. This is YOUR safe place and please don’t let the few ass-hats deter you any further. I have more words that I would usually say to those people but today it will be, “If you can’t support TT and this site, move on.” Sending hugs and support to you always T. 💯
Please take care of yourself.
Tamara, I care about what happens to you outside of this site. I want you to be (my mantra for my daughter😊) Healthy, Happy, Safe, and Strong. I can only speak for myself but I know good and well I am not alone when i say that you are loved and needed. You are one person sharing with all of us and we in turn bombard you with our thoughts and sometimes suggestions. It can’t be easy getting so much feedback and having to sort through it all. I hope you can feel the love and care that the majority of your readers feel toward you. Big hug💙
Hello. I have never commented on your personal issues- because it is personal. I will just say that you will sometimes talk about your situation in a somewhat humorous way and that may result in people responding in that manner. Not meaning anything mean or unkind. I am a casual reader but it does seem like you have been searching for a new direction , something for a while now. Maybe this will be the impetus needed to start that new journey. All the best to you.
Sorry you’re going through this. It sucks to just not be heard. Oversharing is way too easy when you’re just sitting behind a screen. Take it from somebody who never even made any online friends for this very reason. It’s also super easy to be an asshole, like old Rayann the veteran up there. Or a know it all over-advicer. It’s just too much all the way around. I don’t do FB or whatever but I do know it’s much worse there so I just avoid it all. This was my last little corner of the old school internet. Sorry to see it go. Sorry people suck so damn much. Where am I going to complain about my shitty marriage now?? I kid. Ain’t nobody got time for that, either. Hope things get better for you soon. I’m glad a neighbor checked on you. The only reason anyone would find me is if the smell was bad enough.
It DOES feel like the last little corner of the old school internet, you nailed it! That’s exactly how I feel coming here. I’m not doing TikTok and Insta, or online dating or even Ubereats. I know I’m a dinosaur to ‘the kids’ but coming here always feels familiar to me. I was going to say ‘safe’ and ‘congenial’ but apparently I missed a bunch of stuff. Again. I’m still blocked (TT!) on Twitter because I missed the cat lady saga of 2015 (?) and was trying to work out what in the actual happened. I think I had to join Twitter to try and investigate! Anyhow, I still don’t really know what exactly went down, but TT was serious enough about fixing it that she got someone to research into who was contributing to or was behind that particular mess. And because I had been doing some research of my own, I got blocked. I think I’m probably STILL blocked, but as I said, I think I only joined Twitter to try and get the tea on the drama. This is what happens to Nosy Nellies! And I don’t hold it against TT. I’d hope that after all this time, I’ve proved I’m not a threat or a bizarre cat nutter (except I AM!! I live alone now with two of them but I’m well aware I’m not up a tree being one!)
Anyway, your post to TT really chimed with me. We are similar people, by the sounds of it. I’m a huge reader and lately, I can’t settle with a book because I can’t deal with anything, even fiction, that ups the anxiety and dread that’s in plentiful supply around us at the moment. It’s bad enough in Australia, I really feel for my friends – you all – in the States right now. Keep cool while I’m trying to keep warm, and let’s hope our beloved TT can find whatever she needs to find in order to continue to ‘overshare’ with us all. We love her for it, I wouldn’t be here daily for over seven years – and nowhere else, I must add – if we didn’t relate to and love the way TT runs her site. But there’s a human and a woman behind the website who’s had a pretty bloody rough trot. I just hope this little corner continues. Please shout out TT if there’s anything any of us can do, I hope you read the positive comments here, they far outweigh those of the dimwits who drop in for 5 minutes from Insta and their tomfoolery.
QueenJen, you’ve said everything better than I could have hoped to say.
Take care, and you do you TT💟
You have provided joy to many. For that I wish you health, happiness, and above all peace.
No offense but I came to this site for escapism. To read timely witty recaps of my favorite shows and interesting comments. I skipped over the rare personal comment. Now the personal is more than the recaps so I skip over a lot now. —Calling someone a name for saying something you don’t like is wrong and adds nothing to the discussion.
Most of us came here in the beginning for the recaps but not really why we stay. The personal issues have helped all of us. There are other sites that just stick to recaps and questionable gossip.
Couldn’t have said it better!
But, my brother’s wives cousins step father had blah blah blah. Yeah, I totally get that! You know how you feel and what you need.
I guess we don’t get those storms hitting here because the mountains make a “shield” and break up the storms before they can really hit here. I usually leave my windows down during the night because I smoke in my car and want to air it out, but last night the wind was really kicking up so I ran down when I went out on the balcony to smoke and rolled them up. I actually like thunderstorms, but I’m weird.
We are here for you whenever and whatever. Share or don’t, we are not going to judge you. Thank you for providing us with a safe space. You are loved and appreciated.
Appreciate & miss you 💕
Good Morning TT, Please just take care of yourself. We are here for you when you are ready. Just know that we are sending prayers and good thoughts your way. No judgement from me, I have my own issues and you have always provided me (on your site) a welcome respite from the craziness of life. Take care, feel better.
Come for a visit! Live in the upper Midwest and this time of year is thee best! Stay as long, as you like.
Oh Lawd! This is awful! I live for TT, you have gotten me through many rough times. Take care of yourself ❣️❣️
Well that sucks
Last but not least. As a former clinician it’s still in my dna to offer medical opinions. In hindsight I can see how off putting that is. And lesson learned. I don’t even have a license anymore ffs! It’s not my job anymore. I guess it’s something I do out of habit and I should stop. My sincerest apologies for any contribution I made as I understand you’re a grown ass woman with ample capabilities. clearly I am not able to even help myself these days. Sometimes it’s difficult for me to read the room and that’s my own shit. As they say, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. I will try to be just a better listener going forward. I’ve been grateful for this space and can’t imagine being responsible for the site especially with all the shit you’re been dealt lately. This feels like a bit of deja vu from the last time you were really sick and shitty comments came. I’m ashamed to have unintentionally contributed in any way. I’m slow to get it sometimes but I do try to self reflect and take ownership when I fuck up. I’m just praying that you heal very soon even if it’s the end of the site I wholeheartedly support you in anything you do to protect yourself, including tapping out here. I will now stfu. xxoo 💕
I wanted to send this privately but my email is fucked up. Oh well better here than nothing.
You know I’m very sporadic on this site the last few years, so I don’t know almost any of the things you refer to here, but I just wanted to say… whether this be of comfort or not…. Always remember that 90+% of people are crazy (We’re also probably not the 10%, but that’s irrelevant) and can’t even deal with their own lives. I’ve said it before, less is more when it comes to sharing personal things online. You know what they say about opinions and assholes. In a world where people actually bleach their anuses, it’s clear that people think very highly of their opinions and assholes. Best bet is to stick to talking about those fools who are crazy enough to put all of their business on our TV screens for our never ending asshole opinions.
I’m sorry you’re struggling. Hugs and kisses.
Disclaimer: (90%+ statistic was pulled out of my own ass, but I’m pretty sure that I’m not far off).
I wish you happy singing birds, only the good ones, in your front yard. As said here By so many, you do you. sent with great love, respect and ktindness. Not knowing how to help, i clicked on a bunch of your posts. Hope you get more than a nickel. If everyone does it, maybe you will get a dollar. Now heres my unsolicited advice dont spend it all in one place! Never understood this saying. Always makes me ponder. Lol
TT, so sorry to ear that.. you should be safe on your site.. I wish you well..
Come live here in Portugal, we don’t have that kind of bad weather.. and abortion is an option! Our government it’s OK.. and it’s cheaper to live here.. you would have some peace and quiet..
I can hook you up with a shelter if you want a pet to make you company..
Sending you love and good energy!
The more I think about this the more it pisses me off. You built this site from the ground up. You got me through my husband’s death. Please know 99% of us completely support you and I LOVE your humility in sharing your troubles with us. We love you!!
I agree…her site, her rules! I love her humility too. I don’t get why unsupportive folks or folks who want something else (talking to you Rayanne Graff) just don’t leave without the need to share their reason. Sigh, I love the TT group.
Been down with COVID and other chronic issues. No idea what transpired to cause this, but respect your decision. I found your raw commentary on your issues gave me strength to face my own and in some cases you expressed exactly what I was feeling. I try to avoid offering solutions, especially when not asked!
This is your site, if folks don’t like your delivery or content…they can go! Maybe I am wrong, but this should be your safe space.
Sending positive vibes and hope a break helps you.
Praying for you TT.
Sending love TT.
Tamara,
I am sorry this is happening.
Just so you know, I thoroughly enjoy your site, especially during the Depp Trial. I would wake each morning jumping on here first!
Shame that others have to ruin it. But you gotta do you!
Please take care of you and Banjo.
May I suggest that we all do a deep dive into Jodi Arias trial? Or the Sheree Whitfield saga? It will help TT’s site. The more clicks, the more Tamara can take a well-deserved break. Signed, The Over Sharer
YES!!! Great idea Nancy!
Yes!
Yes! Great idea!
Thanks for the Sheree Whitfield reminder. I hadn’t found Tamara yet for all that drama, so I read some of those old posts just now.
Small suggestion. I’m at risk of falling, I live alone and like it like that. My daughters gave me an Apple watch. Thought I would hate being “low-jacked’ to the thing but absolutely love it. Set up to send alarm to family if it detects a fall and I don’t respond. It then contacts 911 my location. Full of lots of neat features that I use all the time but the security of having assistance if ever needed has really helped me to determine how I can protect myself on my own terms.
tamara doesn’t want advice or suggestions. that’s what this post is about.
I, however, am open to anything that makes my life easier and I like your suggestion. I’m in the same boat, old, live alone, smoke, drink too much, etc. I’m going to look into it so I thank you.
I don’t often post but felt this one warranted a comment.
May God’s blessings flow to you TT. I hope you find whatever it is you need and desire.
TT, you are so very loved, respected and valued. You assemble many wonderful people who care about you. You are in my thoughts.
I’m sorry you’re hurting it’s not okay that this happened to you. I’m glad you are taking time to heal!
It’s no wonder people are unkind to you. Look at the names they call the people on tv and what they say- not necessarily here but on similar sites too. It’s vile, over the top, disproportionate in many instances, and just downright mean. Do that often enough and people get inoculated to the hateful language. And everyone is someone on the internet so they don’t have to look you in the eyes. It’s just awful and I’m sorry this has happened to you on this site.
Not just “this site”, but HER site! Hang in there Tamara, we are all lifting you up in spirit. Take the time you need and we will be here for you.
Take care and feel better.
People suck.
ATL storms are SCARY!! I lived there for 2 years recently and love thunderstorms…but wowza – big difference from the Northeast thunder boomers.
You’ve got this little buckeroo, keep the faith!
TT: Do take your break. But I know you will be back. Stronger, smarter and sassier. xx
I echo the many positive and supportive statements above and like many, will be here if/when you return. In case you choose to take a permanent break, please accept my humble thanks for your site. I’ve struggled with depression and anxiety for most of my life and the past 6 months have been particularly rough. Both of my dogs died 9 weeks apart, I had a major fuck you rant/meltdown at work in front of dozens, and my anxiety kept me from accepting two great job offers because I felt I would fail. This is just scratching the surface! Throughout it all, I have literally visited your site daily, comforted by your words, wit and sharing of the challenges you’ve faced, as well as those who share their struggles freely in the comments. You and the “regulars” have made me feel not so alone during my difficulties and have made me smile when I desperately needed it. So again, thank you. Thank you for all that you’ve done for me and others who may be in a similar boat. ♡
Thanks guys. I’ll back eventually. I just need some time. There is a lot happening over here. I feel like there is no going back for me when JustJenn FINALLY felt comfortable enough to share and someone tried to tell her she didn’t know when her horse was murdered. I’ve been with her the entire time. She FINALLY gives a glimpse of what she is going through and the response to question the owner of a horse on when it was shot? I should have shut down the whole site then.
Sadly it took the whole really shitty few days constant lecturing instead of kindness to realize this is a toxic person in my life. I was at an impasse I thought she was my friend. I’ve apologized to her in the past for telling her she needs to stop constantly berating her roommate. In retrospect I should have know then.
Another huge flag was questioning Jenn on when her horse died. Apparently, she took notes or something. Again, she know more and better with the people with the actual issues, dead horse, UTIs, you name it, she had incessant advice. She recently actually explained how Google works to me. i just can’t.
I’m fine with people giving advice here. But not shoving it down our throats. We are all grown ass women here. I’m 58 fucking years old. I’ve had a UTI before. I don’t need it explained to me.
There are few things that I need to be explained to me. Like the Internet, or UTIs anything else I mention here. If you want to offer that cranberry juice might help until you get to the doctor. ONCE. Again, this is not my first rodeo. There is advice and then there is constant condescending bullshit..
So this is supposed to be my friend. ANYONE ELSE WOULD HAVE GONE TO WLS IMMEDIATELY. We have fought before because I feel like she belittles her roommate. It’s just a disruption.
Y’all can disagree with me about whatever we talk about here. That is not the issue. But you can’t disagree with me about what is happening in MY LIFE THAT YOU DON’T KNOW SHIT ABOUT.
Sorry still furious. If I ever get my blood pressure down I’m going to watch Big Brother and fall back to sleep. I’m not really supposed to be hunched over my computer. I sprained a few things in the silly “cast iron fall” that “finally took me to the doctor.
It was another excruciating day where it took me five hours to be seen then another hour to get my script filled, All while sitting on a hard chair. I am living a nightmare. I just need some time to heal.I’ll be back eventually. Probably.
I appreciate your kindness.
I was thinking about you while watching BB. Seems like a interesting group again this year. Sometimes you just have to disconnect, and that’s OK. Enjoy some quiet.
Oh, and 60 Days In comes back in August and all the participants have served time in prison before.
Yeah! I was wondering if it would ever return.
I hope you do come back, Tamara. I know who you are referring to and if shes causing you too much stress, let her go. (that’s not advice tho.)
I missed the cast iron injury posts, so I’m not sure what went on, other than what I can ascertain from comments on this post.
you have way more people on here that care about you than you do the other. dont let a few take away joy from you (again, not advice.)
you are the one in control. boot those that are toxic to you and carry on , warrior woman.
I’ve offered before to drive to Atlanta and do what I can to help out. We could just go out of the house and walk to a park to feed the swans, and dinner in a low key dive restaurant. I like road trips and I could use a few days vacation. I would get my own lodging, of course, so we could still isolate from the world. say the word and I’m there. your girl from MO.
My heart breaks for Just Jenn. It took a year to start sharing about the murder of her horse and then she is interrogated about it. Disgusting
Tamara, I have extra bedroom that your welcome to come up for a visit.have you ever been to MN? Brutus and Jade would love a snuggle. My dogs Re sometimes my best therpy
Take your time. Your true friends will all be here when you choose to come back. Just know that you will be sorely missed.
Love, prayers and positive vibes being sent your way T.❤️❤️❤️
I have never commented but you have been a favorite of mine for years. I am commenting now just so you know, on behalf of what I am sure are a lot of us non-commenters, we really enjoy and appreciate your site. I bet there are a lot more of us than there are the negative nellys. I hope you take the time you need and come back when you are good and ready.
Thanks Mary.
I was so looking forward to Big Brother tonight. WHAT FRESH HELL IS THIS. I was out after thirty minutes.
I hate my life.
Perhaps you are experiencing delayed mourning. It happened to me. I was prepared and for weeks I was fine. Then I wasn’t. I promise it will pass. ❤️
Sorry I didn’t see your recent comment. It’s EVERYTHING AT ONCE. Everyone else gets a vacation, I don’t recall you EVER taking one. Take it. And let me know if you need me. I can be there in 3 1/2 hours.
I’m sorry Tamara – like so many others that have been readers for a long, long time, I don’t comment often. But I hate to hear when things are not going well. You can overcome! You have been through a lot lately. Do what you need to do for yourself, one small step at a time.
Sending you good wishes, Tamara. I will click on some old posts to give you some extra clicks.
Here’s to brighter days!
It does feel like the joy of the internet is gone, but I will say it again, so is TTs. Been this way for a long time, so I’m hoping she takes a break. She has been stating her hatred for it, her personal issues have taken over each and every post (how many recent posts over two years don’t preface that she CANT for some reason or another recap), it goes on and on that our TT isn’t happy. I hate that. I also hate that she feels the need to give us content when clearly she is so unhappy. She owes nothing to us. She needs to find her peace, and very unfortunately to a lot of us, that may mean sacrificing this site. If that is what she needs to do, then I’m all for it. I am not all for constant posts of dread which tells me this friend doesn’t actually want this life anymore. You can tell it in her voice, and while sad, I understand. Enough is enough.
All the best to you TT. You are appreciated. Please take care of yourself, no need to explain.
This is my first time commenting. I have enjoyed your recaps- especially of RHOA. Now its time to focus on you and your well being. If this is your last post, just know JOB WELL DONE !
We will miss you, but you must take this time for yourself. Take care and heal.♥️
I can’t get any sleep. Someone who isn’t a commenter here who is adjacent to someone who is calls me every five seconds. I finally had to tell them to STOP CALLING ME EVERY FIVE MINUTES. I am TRYING to get some rest. Apparently that is not going to happen. That someone said something like, “I saw something I didn’t like on ‘your thing'”.
I screamed like a bansee to LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE. I feel like crap I WAS TRYING TO SLEEP. I’m just pissed I didn’t include GDIAF. Now I am fucking awake.
I hate people.
Also, thanks to everyone who has offered to come take care of me. Or inviting me into their homes. Trust me when I tell you, you don’t want to do either option. I smoke like a freight train and drink like a fish. I think it best that I don’t break the illusion and we all stay online friends..
I’m sorry this has happened to you to the point of actually impacting your health and livelihood. I’ve seen a whole lot of bullying and vitriol on social media so I imagine it’s been horrendous for you. I’m sorry for you. I’m sorry about your sweet Banjo. I’m sorry for this community that has become family.
Take care of yourself TT. I’ll be praying for your health and peace of mind.
PS I feel so bad for Just Jenn and her beloved horse.
and the terrible comments JJ had to contend with. Evil assholes.
What in the hell is happening to people anymore?
I’ll miss everyone. The nice and good people in this lovely community.
I am fairy new to this site. As another commenter mentioned this site is the last of its kind. I go “I hate Jill Zarin” blog way back this site reminds me of it. I don’t do Facebook, tictok, gram any of that social media bullshit. I used to follow and comment on the reddit one till that got way too toxic and hive minded never looked back.
To that when I don’t feel well or my husband is having a ptsd episode that I am the brundt end of. My comments or state of mind refects that everywhere. I completely understand why you post your personal struggle. On some level its comforting knowing I am not alone others suffer too. With that you do you take a break lurk whatever floats your boat.
With negative comments which are everywhere. I can appreciate the fact that someone has a different opinion then me. Leave it at that.
Thank you so much. I will forever think of you as a fairy. And I love love from a fairy. 🙂 So thank you.
Love it!
Holy 💩
I missed a few days and have no idea what happened. I am so sorry Tamara & JustJenn — sorry that you’ve both been hurt. Sorry people have behaved badly. Sorry you’ve both been bitten (that’s what I call unnecessary verbal meanness).
I remember when you asked us to help JustJenn. I PayPaled right away. My first thought is why don’t we do that for Tamara. I know you don’t want to visit us, well, cause then — you’d be stuck with us.
😉
BUT, would you like to get away for a couple of days — even to a nice local hotel? I’m happy to chip in to put a smile on your face, and I’m certain many would. I know this is a suggestion technically, and I apologize. I’m usually a mind my own business/suggestions-free type, but reading every post on this page broke my heart.
You bring so many of us a respite from our lives. I love your over sharing and honesty. I love your snark and wit. This site means so much, and I THANK YOU.
If you want a few days escape to something luxe, I will make it happen with or without the help of other commenters/fans.
xoxox
Sunshine
Thanks Sunshine. I’m really feeling like being a homebody/hermit for a bit. My shack is just the safe place I need right now. Luxury can wait. 🙂 Thanks so much for your kind offer though.