The is a guy at the corner beer store by my house who is from another country. It doesn’t matter what time of day I go there, he always says Good Mornting! His English is excellent. He just thinks it is funny.
So, I was up all night, because the rule in this house is, on Saturdays you can sleep as long as you want. I was up that late rewatching the Majorie Taylor Green hearing for the second time. Between, the completely incompetent defense attorney who muttered on and on about the 1700s and 1800s which was relevant to case law, he never really got around to actually defending MTG. Probably because there is no defense. Even the judge seemed to fall asleep at that point. It wasn’t until the close where he posted his strongest argument. That is a judge should not be able to choose who and who is not allowed to run for office and the voters should have that final decision. The prosecution did a fabulous job. However, MTG’s memory only worked when her attorney was asking questions. She answered nearly every single prosecution question with “I don’t remember” and “I don’t recall.” But her memory worked just fine when the defense asked questions.
So why did I watch it twice? BECAUSE SHE WAS NEVER SWORN IN! The prosecution asked the judge to swear her in a few minutes into testimony. But we never saw it happen and the cameras never went down. WTF? So I slept until 4 P.M. Ooopsey!
I’m doing well over here. Lawn kid has been very helpful lately. He takes out the trash and rolls it to the street and brings it back and has done some dishes for me. He still has his job where he makes decent money. Though he was late last night and ended up on third shift because he was looking for a ride. He may have walked to wherever he is staying now. He always has to pay his friends gas money to take him and gas is expensive now.
All in all, things are getting a bit better. After YEARS I think I have found the antidepressant that works for me. I don’t think I would have gotten through the bad thing without it. Spring has sprung and the sun is shining over here.
So now I want to hear what you guys have been up to!
You just brought tears to my eyes! That makes me so happy to hear, TT!! ❤️
Me too. So happy to hear you are feeling better despite all the things
xo Marc
We have caved but our house is divided. I want a puppy but the kiddos want a kitty too. So we have decided on one of each. Was told it’s the season so I see frequent visits to the shelters
Just discovered discovery plus has RHOMel, Cheshire and Johannesburg. And haven’t looked where to watch it but RHOLagos debuted? I am on housewives overload.
Anyone watch the latesr LAL? Kevin and not a diamond gross storyline. How does this guy have women falling over him?? Then there is Braunwin…. Momma Indie bounty hunter needs her own show.
OMG
I’m glad to see someone else watches LAL..it’s my Friday guilty pleasure show. Yeah, Indie’s Momma Yolanda needs her own show…
Yes!!
What is wrong with Indie? Harry cheated on her multiple times. Including staying at the others house for a week! Harry told her point blank he is not ready. But she still pursues him???
because he’s under 25 and has spent the time he would have been mentally maturing in prison and not mentally maturing and indie is 29. i’ve been very glad to see that despite the childish defiant actions and speech indie shows interacting with her mother, that with harry, she is clearly the adult in the relationship and the scales are falling from her eyes.
the one i keep yelling at the tv to,”run, run like the wind,” is the woman more than 10 years older, about 38, and with the momma’s boy fresh out of prison and a complete slob. there is no void in the human heart that man-child could fill on his best day.
And he keep saying “you’re a fool Yo” ..Flipping idiot. He wants to go to his mother so he can hard-core drink and do other things.
Agree on Mama Yolanda. 🙏🏻
It’s one of my Saturday shows that I tape on Fridays. If it wasn’t on Fridays I wouldn’t watch it all. This season seems boring. I don’t even know anyone’s name. I was all worried about the girl who had to go to the emergency room and it turned out that the guy had gone from the back door directly into the front door, if you know what I mean, and she just had an infection. LOL.
Some of these women just need to stop messing with their newly released convicts. And I feel sorry for the guy who married the girl straight out of prison but chose to live with another man while she was on parole.
Over all they are just not as interesting as other seasons.
I was impressed at how clean Kevin keeps his home.
This is the second time you mentioned that the correct medication is making a big difference and you sound great! You told me to do it and I haven’t yet. This is the push I needed. I always need a second “sign” (basically a reminder) because I feel so bad that the thought of trying to find a doctor and set up an appointment is overwhelming. Plus I don’t have insurance but I know there are sliding scale payment clinics and that will happen this week.
Thank you for sharing again and the update that it’s working for you! I know you understand the cycle anxiety and depression causes. You need to face it and take care of it but at the same time, it’s daunting and I’d have to shower. Lol.
I’ll get there. I’ve have inspiration and suppor !
Well, the showering thing is not happening over here quite yet but at least I think of the possibility of taking one. My legs are acting funny and I am afraid of falling. I would never be able to get up. I’m actually thinking of having LaMarcus stay inside the house in case I need help. I have a plan A and a plan B so he won’t have to see “his mom nekkid.” But I’m not quite there yet.
The next thing I need to tell you is that finding the right antidepressant for you is kind of hit and miss. Doctors basically just try you on one and if that goes poorly try you on another and another and another so I just gave up. But as y’all know, things have been pretty bad over here. So bad, I could not keep living that way. The pandemic didn’t help. So I tried a new one. I’m not Maryanne of Survivor happy but my anxiety is gone so far, and my depression has made a lot of improvement. I’m not my old self from years ago, but I am a lot more positive and not miserable. So if the first one doesn’t work for you, be open to trying a few more. What works for me may not work for you and what didn’t work for me may be a lifesaver for you. To be honest, doctors don’t know what to do but just pick one and try. I really had no faith in this one, but I was literally at the end of my rope. I know I have spent YEARS whining here. And I appreciate all of you for listening.
I really hope the first one works for you Pauline, but if it doesn’t don’t give up. They are all kind of different. Also it takes a few weeks for it to really kick in so don’t expect to feel better on the first day. Then again you might. In the MEANtime. Make sure to vent to us here whenever you need to. We are a chosen family and we are here for you.
TT have you tried a shower chair? I had to resort to that as my legs aren’t steady and I get lightheaded. Walgreens and Rite Aid have them, I’m sure Amazon and probably Walmart have them too. It gives a tremendous feeling of security.
I’ve been thinking about it… I’m not sure how you wash your hair in a shower chair… Plus it’s very old lady. 🙂 I’m hoping my legs will get better and it is the anxiety that is causing the jelly legs…
I had blood clots in my lungs 2yearscago and began using a shower chair. Just where I would stand do rest of showering as usual. My back couldn’t handle standing that long anymore. Safety first
Also, finding a shrink is HARD. A friend of mine helped me find one and he doesn’t even live in my state. He was a great help. That was when I didn’t have insurance. I am paying two arms and one leg for it because I smoke. I think smoking should be considered a preexisting condition which they not longer are allow to charge for, my premiums are TWICE the listed price. So I had a lot of financial help in the beginning. So I know how hard it is. I’m with Kaiser now and I hated them before. Before I had a GP and a GYN and this time my GP is doing it all. I’ll just say she not the best at those lady tests, but she hit the ball out of the park as my mental health meds. I just got lucky.
I think you can go to your county health center and see someone for very little. Email me tamaratattles on the gee mail. I’ll be happen to help support you on the journey. And I’ll give you my number ever though I never answer my phone. LOL. I’m hear to answer all of your questions and help however I can. You are loved, and you deserve to feel better.
Hi TT. I don’t want to invade your privacy, but is there anyway you feel comfortable sharing what worked for you? I’ve tried two, and I don’t know if I have the strength to try a third, but I’ll be forced to make a decision soon. 🤷♀️
I don’t mind sharing at all. But I want you to know that what works for one doesn’t work for the next person. I can’t remember everything I have tried, but before depression was even an issue I tried Wellbutrin to quit smoking. I was young and live in one of those Melrose Place type of apartments and the younger girl across the hall and I were very close and would enter each others apartments we would just walk in and out like we were roommates. And one day after being on Wellbutrin for a week or two, She came over and got my Wellbutrin and flushed it. I was literally in the fetal position sobbing for a couple of weeks. I didn’t make the connection.
During 9 11 I was trying Zoloft. Back then, they didn’t know much about antidepressants and still don’t. I had issues with that too. So I just stopped taking it. And the withdrawals were HIDEOUS.
I am currently on Cymbalta. 30 MG capsules and I take two each morning. Or you know whenever I wake up. They are helping.
AGAIN. If it was easy to find the right one we wouldn’t all be miserable all the time. I got sick of trying new meds. I am sure I left some out. One of my girlfriends when I was teaching was really happy with Prozac.
It’s a process. It’s frustrating because as I said not a lot was known about them at first. But I finally have good doctor and the FIVE FIGURES I am paying for PREMIUMS ALONE was worth it. Also pleases send money. LOL.
I wish you all the best. Cali Girl.
But does anyone else think it is weird that we are all depressed? I mean BEFORE the pandemic. Is it dietary? Something in the water? It just seemed odd because I’m really not the sad sack I have been on this site. Bitchy yes but crying and being anxious all the time? NOPE.
I hope this helps but you really need to talk to your doctor and see what is best for you. This is NOT MEDICAL ADVICE *LEGAL DISCLAIMER* and simply what worked for me. SO FAR.
What two did you try? Zoloft and Wellbutrin were HORRIBLE for me so I understand the fear. I felt the same way. But I was so far in the hole that I had to do something. I know how hard it is to get your hopes up and then have no success or as I did GET WORSE. But, maybe give it one more shot?
A friend of mine went the route of having her DNA tested and found that she can only take 2 different pills, the rest act AGAINST her causing all sorts of problems. It is an expensive testing process but as she is a Tribal member it was covered for her through the Tribe.
The most important part is finding a doctor who realizes not every medication works for everyone and is willing to keep trying for you (even without the testing)
TT you hit it right on the head…not all medication will work for all individuals but can actually make you worse! Finding a doctor that doesn’t think you are trying to “scam” the system by getting more and different prescriptions is SO important.
I am so happy you found something that works for YOU!
I am in Savannah Georgia right now. Went to the Bonaventure Cemetery today. Such a beautiful and peaceful place
I love old cemeteries. Bonaventure caught my eye in “Midnight in the Garden …” I like that it is in Thunderbolt, too.
I used to bring my lunch and eat in my car at a cemetery close to my job. A client asked where I took my lunch everyday (we were eating the same plan) and when I told her the cemetery, she said, “Oh, you poor thing.” Once I told her how peaceful it was and how you could sit in the sun or shade, she started doing the same thing.
I live in Savannah for a couple of years. DON’T MISS THE DRAG SHOW! Sadly Lady Chablis passed a few years back she was the Belle of Savannah. It’s a fun time. Tybee Island is a semi decent day trip but the beach is not great and the area is kind of sketch. Drive down to Saint Simons and get a hotel for the night and Don’t miss driving a tiny bit more for Jekyl Island, it more remote and less commercial sort of There are fancy golf clubs and stuff, but look for cars parked on the side of the road on the ocean side. Park there and walk to the beach. It’s the best beach in Georgia. There are huge pieces of driftwood and sometimes they have art exhibits on the driftwood.
There is a lot to see in Georgia. And most people don’t tell people about the beaches. So ssssssh! 🙂
Is no one mentioning Nenes lawsuit?
OMFG! I thought we had!
😴 💤 😴 💤 😴 💤 😴 💤 cue the sound of Gunvalson snoring.
Was waiting for TT to dish.
Okay so the filing was just very recently (after the news came out) and someone emailed me that it wasn’t in PACER (where lawyers can look up all lawsuits) It came out a few days later and it’s eleventy billion pages long.
So I’ll just cut to the chase. The lawsuit will go NOWHERE. The burden of proof is on Nene to prove that there was no other reason to fire her other than she was black. She talks about a lot of stupid shit like Kim Z being racist. That’s irrelevant, especially since SHE STILL HANGS OUT WITH HER! And the reason she didn’t include her in the suit is because her Bravo contract prohibits her from doing so.
She has no case and should not be spending what few dollars she has left on this case. It’s never going to go anywhere. The courts will probably kick it back to arbitration. She is wasting the last few dollars she has left. All of her other businesses have shut down as well except for the “lounge” which I am surprised is still a thing. She charges for “valet parking” even though the place is in a public mall. She charges to sit at the bar. On top of the charge to enter. The food sucks and the drinks are watered down. I’m surprised it is not already closed.
I am posting from the Bellagio in Vegas! My work schedule finally worked so I could come with husband for the NAB. It takes a GD day to get here from PCB FL, but I am here. AND I’m happy, since my doctors found the right meds for me a few years ago. I am happy you’ve found your, Tamara!
Bet one on 23 for me!
I was there last week! What a beautiful hotel, you must get the buffet breakfast, it goes until 3!
Catazure…I’m in PCB FL too. Sooo excited to meet you. I’m jana. ❤
TT so excited to read your better. Been praying for you friend. ❤❤❤
So happy to read that you’re feeling better, Tamara! I imagine that, after the very bad thing happened, it must be a relief of sorts not to have to worry about him on the daily anymore. I hope that doesn’t sound at all callous. I’m speaking from my own experience of dealing with loved pets who were not doing well for a long time. Sending love.
I couldn’t watch the MTG testimony. She makes me want to tear my hair out.
Thanks Deb, not callous at all. I spent several months waking up thinking IS THIS THE DAY? Every episode of American Idol I thought, ” Is this the last time we do this?” The very bad thing was very expensive but worth every penny. The vet was very kind. Even though Banjo did not like him. He hates vets. So when that happen I stupidly mentioned that no vet would see him and he said he may not be able to do it. And I freaked. But it went peacefully. It was the right thing to do. And I wipe funerals out of my head. I just pick myself up and dust myself off because my Mama and Daddy and Banjo would not want me to be sad forever. I’ll never have another dog, But I had to stop traveling after I tried it a few times. I’m not ready yet. But, I am starting to think about it.
my vet called last week for me to come see their inventory of adoptable cats so i went and i said stupid, angry stuff to the tech and then i started crying. the big guy has been gone 6 months and i can’t get over how much cleaner the house stays. he didn’t just fill the house with his presence, he filled it with fur, everywhere.
I’m not the kind of person who wants a paw print or notification when the cremation happens or any of that stuff.
Besides, I will never EVER get all the dog hair out of this house.:) I thought the empty crate would bother me. But it doesn’t. All good things come to an end. I’m at peace with it. Thank God for medication that actually works!
I am so glad to hear that you are doing well, I was worried after the very bad thing happened. I have been through the same shit with meds, except with anxiety. Thankfully I have been stable with the meds, but in the past, when they stop working the first thing I would think is, “I am dying” no, wait, my meds are not working anymore. I have not had to deal with depression, but my sister has, and I have watched her have several breakdowns. Like real breakdowns, it was terrible. Thankfully she is doing well now, has really good people working with her. It makes all the difference. My psychiatrist is amazing, I will follow him anywhere.
I have been to Georgia, and the first time was Jekyll Island. It was beautiful, and I didnt think Tybee Island beach was that great either. I have been to beaches in every state on the Eastern seaboard, and I have my favorite states, for different reasons.
Yeah. When I moved to Savannah I thought maybe I would live at Tybee. It’s not a great place to live Savannah is much better. But I lived on Saint Simon’s for a couple of years teaching at a college in Brunswick. I’m was a remedial specialist so our jobs were paid for by the government until they were not.
I didn’t want to leave so I took out a business loan to buy a florist. Back then, my bitch of a sister drove Daddy down to stay with me after she had a nice beach trip AND LEFT HIM THERE. I was coming off of my first antidepressant. At that time doctors didn’t tell you to go cold turkey so I was a mess. And while Daddy was still there. 9-11 happened. I was an admin for a very large website and LOTS of people were in NYC and I got busy trying to help people find their loved ones and Daddy was pissed I was on the Internet all day on 9-11. Again I was also very ill from abruptly quitting anti depressants.
I was so pissed at my sister. She already had been diagnose with cancer and was MEAN. She left me to drive Daddy to Atlanta and back. She also paraded around all the shops in Saint Simons announcing she had cancer. Even after I moved back to Atlanta she would give me lists of things she wanted. She also stole the family house. Let me stop. It’s not wise to speak ill of the dead.
The point was after 9-11 happened banks got very squirrely and my loan for the florist fell through. I have to say though, as upset as I was, life tends to work out the way it is supposed to.
So very happy that you are doing better! Thank goodness you found something that works for you. I’m sure the loss of handsome Banjo is a tough adjustment but now you are free to do the traveling you have been talking about for a while now. I hope you can now live your best life!
In other news for my TLC watchers, one of our favorite pillow talk couples Robety and Anny lost their SEVEN MONTH YEAR OLD SON due to heart issues. I’m watching pillow talk now and am so glad I am medicated. She’s still pregnant on Pillow Talk… 🙁
What about the Drag Race finale? I found it kinda underwhelming. I loved Lady Camden and Willow. It should have been just the two of them doing multiple lip syncs.
I thought it felt RUSHED with nothing much happening as well. But, I was over it ever since Jorgeous left. I didn’t have a pony in the race at the finale. That said it was really fun to watch but not really caring who won made it less so.
Also everything that happened (no spoilers) was very predictable for me. I didn’t have a problem with the winner and the final two were equally capable of winning. I did enjoy the season but it always makes me miss Lady Cocoqette (and I never learned to spell her name right.) I miss her.
The judges and contestants hyped it up, but I kept forgetting everyone. I am not a drag queen expect by any means, but every Friday night I could not remember anyone until the show started.
I was multitasking when I watched the finale today, so imagine having facial recognition issues and unable to recognize that male contestant and female contestant look completely different. LOL. I have enought trouble telling the housewives apart.
And quite a few of the cast have come out as transgender, so I also don’t know the correct pronouns, because everyone is still in drag. Everyone looked great, I just can’t remember their stage names.
Has anyone watched The Real World Homecoming with the first cast in New Orleans? It was soo good! I am loving the original The Real World casts reuniting and going back to those moments. I am a serious reality TV addict so it is amazing for me.
I’ve watched every single Real World since the beginning of time. I also once called Judd’s (I think that was his name) and he is/was married to Pam. I thought for sure he was my future husband. lol. Yes, I’ve always been a little bit crazy. And Yes I SOFA KING GLAD I never got married though I was asked as lot well before I was ready to settle down. and Again when I might have considered it and told the guy that he was gay. And I still insert that fact. I love gay men, but I am not going to marry an effeminate one. I need to be the female in the relationship. I actually told him that when I dumped him. We met on a large, not dating website, and he went back and told everyone I was fat and didn’t even care. True. Only he should count his lucky stars because fat then was a size 12. I am REALLY FAT NOW. He went online and married someone named Tammy like six months later. LOL. BTW She was WAY fatter than me.
Wow that was a tangent. LOL.
I am here for your tangents. If you still have Paramount + you can watch the original seasons! The background music alone is worth it.
I am now a size 12. I was super skinny until age 35. Now I just don’t care. I do pride myself on my face being wrinkle free. But I have always used sunscreen on my face. Also washing my face and moisturizing with any lotion, if my good face lotion wasn’t there.
A tangent I am on. But my Nanna always told me wash your face when you wake up and go to bed, and use double face lotion at bedtime.
I’d kill to be a size 12. I was just over 5’9′ when I was in high school and 125 pounds. My highly critical mother told me that I was too big for the 5-7-9 shop at some point. I was quite thin! I think a size 14 would be good for me at my age. And frankly I don’t care. The best thing about Covid was not shopping for clothes for years and eating whatever I wanted.
Also, I’d LOVE to be a size 14. I am not. I’ll meet y’all in the PLUS SIZED department!
I may be buying some shirts in the plus size section at Wal-mart in the next few days. See y’all there after I get my night time face lotion.
I love L’Oreal Revitalift. It is not too expensive, it smells great, it absorbs great in your skin without being too heavy.
TT I am so glad to read that you are doing better! It’s nice that Lawn Kid has been around now when you needed someone. I hope things keep looking up for you ❤️
Personal tangent here. Feel free to skip over my comment. I’m just updating from my comments that hijacked part of the OC thread. And replying to some of the responses from there. If anyone else is suffering in silence maybe I can help them feel less alone. I suffer from depression, anxiety and PTSD. I’m currently caring for my elderly batshit “mother” in my home. Her diagnoses are such that the list is long and she actually had been recommended to be institutionalized permanently, but my late father made the awful decision to ignore that advice, died and left me to take over the mess.
I had a wonderful therapist for decades who actually committed suicide a few years ago. How’s that for a kick in the pants? I have been seeing someone else since then so I do have professional help and I do take my meds. I have some pretty serious physical disabilities as well which is another story. But I had a great support system which was a group from NAMI which was other family members who have to deal with their psychotic and sometimes violent behaviors and multiple hospitalization, ECT, etc. I’d found great support with that group but it dissolved when covid hit and its members have their hands full with their own shit and the group has yet to be reinstated. I had several family members die within a short period of time so I’ve been pretty overwhelmed and isolated during covid, which exacerbated my batshit “mothers “ condition as well as my own shit. I’m at least not psychotic and I’m pretty resourceful. But….
Our system in this country is COMPLETELY FUCKED UP. I have had to hospitalize her countless times and I know how to do it and every criteria that has to be met. I have professionals involved. It still has been impossible to get her the help she needs BECAUSE THE SYSTEM IS BROKEN IN MULTIPLE PLACES. Covid made a bad situation worse in that it DOES NOT WORK ANYMORE. Regardless of money, insurance, etc. people tend to assume it’s easier for those with insurance and money. The Bitch in my house has both and it sometimes makes it harder because she can pay people to look the other way, buy people shit and act like a sweet helpless old lady when in actuality she is a horrific, vindictive, abusive, entitled trash human who has used her privilege to destroy people in her own family (has never had a job-$ came from inheritance). My last resort is to pay fortune for attorneys and I refuse to spend my life savings on this subhuman animal. sorry, TMI, but background. When I comment in open forums once in a while that I’m screaming into the void it’s because of this and my complete isolation. Sometimes Weeks pass with zero human interaction other than the psycho taking up oxygen in my home who is usually yelling obscenities at me.
I’ve not wanted to burden my kids with what I’ve been dealing with even though they’re aware that their grandma is like super duper batshit. But it’s obvious that I’ve been overwhelmed and I did tell them that I had to call the cops the other day since Bitch put hands on me and THE COPS JUST NEVER SHOWED UP, therefore allowing the opportunity for something to actually help slip through the cracks, AGAIN.
I felt so defeated and depressed. But, THE GOOD NEWS is that I finally shared here and felt less alone. I was drinking my morning coffee yesterday morning and heard what I thought were her wooly mammoth footsteps and I looked up and BOTH of my daughters were in front of my face. They each took a leave of absence from college and medical school to fly on a red eye to come help me! They are both about to graduate so it is a big deal. Their respective Deans are angels to allow them to come help. My heart is full again. The 3 of us haven’t all been in the same room since 2019. So, God is good. Hugs are heaven sent. Prayers do get answered sometimes. If you’re alone and suffering, there’s hope around a corner when you least expect it. We still might not get the Bitch where she needs to be, but we’re better as a team. And my heart and soul have much needed nourishment-I will at least be stronger and more capable when they inevitably have to go back to their respective states.
Apologies for the novel. I received such heartwarming replies after I shared that I wanted to update. And words can’t express my gratitude for Tamara and all of you here. This little community has been such a lifeline, more so during the pandemic. The blog that started with RHOA & Jodi Arias has evolved to a very special and unique community.
Have a great weekend, everyone. Hugs and gratitude to all!
Moderation? Did I surpass the word/character count, lol?
I dunno. I don’t control moderation all the time. Usually it happens when you have a typo in your email addy. I just woke up and read it and hit approve instead of reply and approve. So I had to come find the comment. I AM SO HAPPY YOU HAVE SOME HELP. Even if it is only for a short time. Since she is crazy can you try to get a conservatorship ? That way you could use her inheritance to pay for her care somewhere else with someone equipt to handle the situation. There has to be a way to have her committed. I know people who have been forced into treatment with much less mental illness than you are describing. Hang in there. Help seems to be on the way.
Does your mother like your daughters? Maybe they can get through to her?
Makes me so happy to hear that things are going well for you! You know, sometimes our lives fall apart slowly while we aren’t looking, so we need to give ourselves time and grace to build them back. At least that is what I tell myself!
Gorgeous spring weather here. Took Friday off from work and cleaned my screened in porch (where I live most of the year). Lugged everything of the porch (except the couch – and yes it is ok because as long as it is not on your front porch it is not too terribly trashy!) and scrubbed it – cushions, chairs, tables, floor, screens, etc. My sister and brother in law came in on Saturday and we grilled NY strips and drank waaayy too much. I am so sore from all that cleaning I can hardly stand up today. Headed for the indoor couch to watch the Drag Race Finale.
I really had to think all day about why good Mornting made me so happy and which housewife always says that. It’s Gizelle and she’s by far my favorite. Also this whole post made me happy to know you are doing better ❤️❤️
And Madea (Tyler Perry) always said Good MornTing 😊