Thanks again for all the love. I receive it and appreciate it. We have a great tribe, including those who did not comment. I have a lot of reasons to be happy for the life I had with Banjo. Moving on. I have turned into GET OFF MY LAWN! Lady. On in this case, GET OFF MY NEIGHBORS LAWN lady.
So, I sit on my couch looking out my front window all day while working on the site. BTW, please share it with your friends. I’ve been kind of grumpy lately while deciding when the time was right for the bad thing. And, I don’t have many views anymore. ANYWAY, I live at sort of a T between two roads. So my across the road neighbor is on a corner. And kids walk through his front yard all the time and it drives me insane. They are always in his yard and it pisses me off. I don’t really know why. It is not my yard but seeing them walk through his driveway and in between all the cars over there is irritating.
So, what things irritate the fuck out you that is really none of your business?
My neighbor down the street has his car up on jacks in front of his house. It irks me every time I drive by because it cheapens our neighborhood. Ours is not a rich neighborhood but a blue collar neighborhood. We take pride in our property…… and this junker is taking a parking spot which is badly needed here. Thanks TT for letting me get this off my chest.
I am so ‘GET OFF MY LAWN!’ person.
I think it is because my tolerance for dumbfuckery is now a zero.
In other news, I had a really difficult week this week and Delta paid the hubs and me SIX THOUSAND DOLLARS to voluntarily numb to a flight two hours later!!
omg we have this crazy neighbor, he let his house wear down to tyvek and plywood. It was horrible, and made our whole street look bad, and people on our block take care of our little houses. His wife had moved out before it all went to shit and the story is he had no money to repair it. I would feel bad for him except he was a paranoid asshole liar. We dont have an HOA so there was nothing we could do, since he kept the lawn up okay.
Well, it seems his wife moved back in, kicked him out (the house was in her name) and had the house redone. I think FIMA helped because it also had storm damage. Whatever, he is gone, the house looks great! His ex wife is fine, we have no issues with her. We think she will put it on the market soon. The whole neighborhood gossips about them.
Our house is in between 2 rental houses. They are friends with each other and run across our yard to get to each other’s houses. Everytime they do, it turns on our motion sensor lights and annoys the “F” out of me, especially when it’s late because then I freak out and think someone is going to break into my house…LOL
Ours too! And Alexa keeps telling me that a person was detected (we have cameras). But I’m kind of used to it now.
“Sprinkle” your lawn with dog shit. Only for a few days. That’ll learn ‘em.
It irks me when people let their kids go nuts in public or let them talk shit to them. I’ve had to stop myself many times from telling a stranger’s kid not to talk to their mothers like that and calm the fk down.
I think we are all kind of in a lull right now; Drag Race has 2 episodes left, Before 90 days is done after Sunday (although I have high hopes for the new season starting next week), NJ sucks-too much yelling, OC sucks-too much yelling, and the upcoming BH was shot before the latest Erika racketeering accusations so we won’t see that go down until next season (dammit). But I come here at least 5 times a day, and read everything you post TT, even if I don’t watch the shows. Thank you for the entertainment 👏
WEBucated people
I just.. I mean.. seriously
I am fairly well experienced &/or educated in several (incompatible) fields.. (metallurgy, psychology, finance, Middle English lit, economics, international trade, illuminated manuscripts & 17th century Dutch banking)
But I’m the ‘fake news liar’ when I try to explain keystone vs keystone XL. Or why/how predictable inflation is fucking predictable.
there’s no doubt that the advent of the World Wide Web has been the greatest thing that has ever happened to advancement of mankind.
it’s also going to be our downfall
Assuming we don’t rethink eugenics, of course.
omg we have this crazy neighbor, he let his house wear down to tyvek and plywood. It was horrible, and made our whole street look bad, and people on our block take care of our little houses. His wife had moved out before it all went to shit and the story is he had no money to repair it. I would feel bad for him except he was a paranoid asshole liar. We dont have an HOA so there was nothing we could do, since he kept the lawn up okay.
Well, it seems his wife moved back in, kicked him out (the house was in her name) and had the house redone. I think FIMA helped because it also had storm damage. Whatever, he is gone, the house looks great! His ex wife is fine, we have no issues with her. We think she will put it on the market soon. The whole neighborhood gossips about them.
shit, I dont know why this posted twice, sorry
I just read a great article about the CDC’s plans to revise the fucked up GUIDELINES (that some docs treated to mean laws) for opioid prescribing.
The CDC FINALLY admits that the guidelines are unfair to those with chronic pain.
The guidelines have decreased the number of PRESCRIPTIONS, but not tge number of overdoses.
Well duh! When you cut off someone in pain, they look elsewhere for relief.
My favorite line:
Steinberg would also like to see stronger language against abandoning patients who rely on opioids for pain.
I saw a Dr. Phil episode featuring parents of kids who OD’d on street opioids (fentanyl). ONE story REALLY PISSED ME OFF and 💔.
A teen boy got a root canal. Doc would not give him pain meds. He told a friend he was in pain. Friend told him how to make an online connection. The kid took VERY LITTLE of the pill and died because it was fentanyl. The boy was not a drug user. It WAS WRONG of that ododontist to send the kid home without pain meds. He is as much to blame as the dealer. MORE to blame. Because he did not provide adequate care to his patient.
I have lupus and fibromyaglia. When first diagnosed, they even offered me oxycontin because the pain can be intense. I refused that, but would sometimes take lower level pills. My prescription would last forever because I would only take when it was bad. Nowadays, they practically refuse to give me anything, telling me to take Tylenol. I am learning to master the path of praying and crying,lol and reciting this too will pass. I am glad they are rethinking the protocol.
I work in long term care and we get judged for the amount of certain drugs are prescribed and it is like really?!? These people are either in pain or need psych meds. Most of the time we have to recommend hospice to family so they can get the adequate amount of pain relief they need.
I only had fibro. It was getting better … then I got shingles and I was on lots of pain meds. Until the cunt doctor took me off COLD TURKEY. She said I had no opioids in my urine — practically accusing me of dealing. I was taking every pill on time. Two other Kaiser docs said SHE WAS WRONG. The numbers were right. She wouldn’t budge. I left Kaiser and my new doc looked at those tests (shared database/DEA) and said the bitch was wrong. I say she LIED.
IF I DID NOT HAVE A DRUG ADDICTION PAST! I would have been on the streets looking for drugs. Because pain is bad. I wasn’t worried about the street drugs, I did not want to get swept up into that life again. But 1000s of people do. Because legit docs will not prescribe legit pain meds. The revisions the CDC plans to make are to correct this.
The war on opioids has resulted in FEWER PRESCRIPTIONS, but NOT FEWER OVERDOSES! Just as many of us predicted. People who were taking their pills correctly and got cut off — some of them are dying.
We’ve been talking a lot about overdoses at work. If you or someone you love is using any type of drug, including hallucinogens or pot, have NARCAN on hand and know how to use it. Make sure you or your loved one does not use alone and that whomever they are with has NARCAN and knows how to use it. You can get it without a prescription at the pharmacy. All types of street drugs are now laced with fentanyl, but there are now test strips to check. I’m less sure how to get those, but it is worth finding out. I hope this info help someone!!
NARCAN is fine, but you cannot solely depend on it.
People DIE while waiting for NARCAN to work. Bethenny Frankel’s ex, Dennis, asked his housekeeper to give him another dose of NARCAN. If she had done CPR in addition, he might be alive.
After giving NARCAN, start CPR immediately. Before NARCAN, we never lost a person because we used CPR. Just get them breathing and keep them breathing.
I was diagnosed at Duke with FMS in the mid-90’s & the prescription I was given was as bad in other ways as the pain from the fibromyalgia. The accompanying IBS severely limited my life, too. My background is biomedical anthropology, so I did some research on my own & determined that I should ditch the Duke pills + eliminate Aspartame (diet sodas) from my life & add DHEA (50-100 mg daily), a naturally occurring human hormone available cheap from Walmart. Within 3 days I was better & within a short time the only times I remembered I had FMS was if I bumped into something like a coffee table by accident. Nearly 30 years later I go months without remembering this was a major problem in my life. In my experience with other folks with FMS, this combo treatment works about 50% of the time.
I was addicted to opioid’s, my Dr prescribed them to me for 3 years because they could not find the reason for my shoulder pain. My Orthopedic Dr finally said since I was going to be under for having my ovarian cyst removed he would go in and see what it was. Torn meniscus, torn rotor cuff, too many bone spurs to count. I was vindicated but it was Years until I got off them. I bought them off the street.
Now when I hear someone’s story like yours, I feel badly. I definitely “Doctor Shopped” to get more. Thankfully I am no longer addicted, but I feel badly because it was people like me who now make it more difficult to obtain legal and needed pain meds. Can’t they distinguish between people who really need them? Living with pain Sucks.
You got dependent on them because the cause of your pain went undiagnosed. So you are not to blame for any of it. Doctors who over prescribed — some just to make money — and who continued to prescribe after the acute pain should have abated, along with pharma manufacturers that touted the drugs as being “non-addicting” are to blame. Not people like you.
People who have been on opioids and no longer need them for pain deserve to be assisted while they taper off the drug. No one should be cut off cold turkey.
You accomplished something extremely difficult. And that is something to be proud of.
I am very proud and I really do appreciate it Nanette! I have Narcan in my office and in my handbag. I hope I never have to use it, but if I do need it I will have it. A friend who is married to a police officer here said they use it at least once a day. The company Purdue (located in my hometown) was sued for their spread of Oxycodone, purported it was “Not addictive”. I want to watch the Hulu show “Dopesick”, I am just not ready to yet. They were sued for 6 BILLION DOLLARS.
Tell that to all the parents that lost their children. Pretty much every one of my “baseball boys” became addicted as they targeted Appalachia as being ripe for drug dependency. It came through here like a freight train. Heartbreaking.
Our crazy neighbor planted trees in her yard that block visibility from our driveway. I talked to our landlord about it. If she finds out it was me who complained, I could end up on the wrong end of a dateline special. She’s legitimately crazy. Fights, cops, the whole nine. But I have anxiety driving and I can’t anymore with it. They brush my car every time I go past. And there’s toddlers on their little tricycles. People on scooters, pedestrians etc. It’s a hazard. Nobody says anything because we’re all afraid of her. Now I did.
You have the legal right to chop off any part of the plants (limbs, usually) that are over your property line.
If they are messy trees, use a blower to blow all of the crap back on to her property — TAKE PHOTOS BEFORE AND AFTER.
I get annoyed when people pronounce the “L” in salmon, when they say “Valemtimes Day”, and when Mt neighbor parks his huge truck in front of my house (it blocks the mailbox and leaves zero room for company)… i also despise cucumbers 🥒… im sorry.. was that too much? That stuff just irritates me…
I forgot to say I hate when people put A1 sauce in the refrigerator… smh
Now that was funny!!!! lol lol
A1 does not belong in the refrigerator… there’s no place for it!! Plus who wants to use cold A1?
Ditto peanut butter.
Just…why?
Says right on the label “no refrigeration required”!
i did not know that.
True. Pb should never be in the fridge. Unless it’s Reese Cups in the freezer. Those are delicious!
Accomplished home chef, Teresa Guidice, says she keeps A-1 in the refrigerator because some of the ingrediances in it need to be refrigerated.
I almost spit out my coffee! Oh Nanette!
So with you about the L in salmon.
eXpresso 🙄🙄🙄
There is no X in Espresso.
supposeBly
There is no B in supposedly.
Nor is there a V in it.
It’s not “supposively” either!
eXpresso drives me nuts, too! Also “agreeance” – “I am in AGREEANCE with you. Ugh!
I rarely makes mistakes like that as I was taught by the nuns in grade school. Sr Molly had us diagramming sentences every day in 8th grade English!
Sr Molly would blow her wimple if she heard “I didn’t get no resolve.”
She might chase the Bravolebritues in circles after hearing “squash that rumor,” while yelling “it’s QUASH, NOT SQUASH.”
And she would make “good Catholic girl” Teresa Guidice kneel for hours on a pile of dried lentils for calling the 40-day period before Easter “Lentil Season.”
Love it! And so true.
Don’t forget supposebly. 🙄
Irregardless! And lately why do I see so many people mixing up wary and weary? They are completely different words!
I have a friend who hates when people say “smelt,” instead of “smelled.” When he hears someone do that, he always says “SMELT is a fish!” Loudly.
To all of you: thank you for making me laugh my ass off!!!
The following irritates the crap out of me: people who can’t control their kids in public, my neighbor that grills on his front lawn (I live in a cul de sac), paying student loans, and running out of vodka!
Snow. Specifically snow in mid-April in Missouri when I’m gearing my gardens up for seeds. Gardening. I hate doing it and I feel compelled to make another garden if I see a patch of dirt. I appreciate the outcomes of gardening but hate doing every second of it. Snakes. There are two kinds specifically that I hate. The ones outdoors that I find while gardening and the o es my cats bring into the house as “gifts” for me. did I mention snow?
I live in a townhome and each unit is assigned 2 parking spots which are numbered corresponding to each unit. I live alone, don’t have a lot of guests. People are always parking in my second spot. Yes, it’s usually empty, but it’s MINE!
Oh hell no!! Not without permission. A quick knock on the door or phone call would suffice I’m sure. That’s just taking advantage. And it’s super rude.
Parking spaces in a townhouse complex causes neighborhood clashes! My neighbor a few doors from me has a two car driveway but insists on using a guest parking space beside her unit. Always. And reports the rest of us to the HOA if we dare use a guest space for an actual guest!
So that’s my other issue- grouchy old people who yell at their neighbors for everything. My neighbor is well known to the HOA board because she calls them 2-3 times a week complaining and had done so for the 26 years she has lived in the complex!
Park crooked and take up both spaces. I am very petty when it comes to fair and wrong and right.
I love this!
We have a small neighborhood and the HOA disbanded but there were clearly defined rules on the design of houses. Someone built a new house that broke most of the rules AND built a super huge pole barn he can park fire trucks in (he’s a fireman). It’s been a year and they just bought a brand new Denali but can’t be bothered to pave their driveway or plant any grass/landscape even the front yard. They get super aggressive if anyone says anything on the FB page. And now more have been inspired to put in the super ugly pole barns including my neighbor now and I just can’t seem to get over it! And so sorry to hear about Banjo but I’m glad you’re doing okay so far considering.
Im on your site a few times a day
your life is very interesting
a random thought
I wonder how many times Sheree has driven by your house with sunglasses on
LURKING
First, sorry for your loss. My special boy passed a few months ago and I’m tearing up just writing that. Time may numb the pain, but nothing will heal this wound.
My neighbor two houses down has a trashy yard. He has a flagpole in his yard and rotates through a series of obscure flags, including a few from various groups in the state (Texas). I don’t know the history for most all of them, but I’m sure they are all at least vaguely racist. Near the flagpole is a dead bush. It’s been dead for over a decade. The dead branches are decorated with bottles. We actually refer to him as “Bottle Tree Guy.” We think his wife is mail-order. He does not leash his three land-shark chihuahuas. Did I mention the bottles on the bottle tree are changed seasonally? Halloween is especially festive with pumpkin-shaped Captain Morgan bottles. My other name for him is “That Asshole Who’s Lowering My Property Value.” So many bottles!
I started saving the bottles as soon as I put my dog on CBD oil. I plan to hang them on a dwarf jacaranda for a miniature bottle tree. My homage to our love. In the backyard. Using all of the colors!
The idea of bottle trees was brought from the Congo to the American south.
As a Southern tradition, bottle trees are always made from blue glass bottlesone saves over the course of several years. The bottles are placed over the branches of a dead tree or rod that stick upright out of the ground.
The hope was that by hanging the bottles in a tree, evil spirits would find their way into the wine bottles and become stuck. Since they wouldn’t be able to find their way back out again, they would remain in the bottle until morning. The morning sun would then destroy the spirits.
Bottle trees are not just in the south. A Southern California desert is home to Elmer’s Bottle Tree Ranch on Route 66. Elmer Long turned his bottle collection into a bottle tree forest.
First bottle tree I ever saw was in Clarksdale, Mississippi, at the Hopson Plantation where Pinetop Perkins (great blues piano player) grew up. All blue bottles, and very cool. I instantly loved it and wanted one, but I have no land on which to plant it.
You could make a miniature. Amazon sells small blue bottles.
I used to know a funny story about Pinetop and Hank Williams. One more thing I’ve forgotten.
We have a neighbor with a huge pick-up who likes to leave it running in his driveway, sometimes for an hour or more in park, belching out exhaust and he isn’t even in it! Like, it just sits there running with no one in it. He does it year round. Annoys the absolute holy heck out of me. I once finally got so peeved at the complete needless pollution I went and asked him why he does it. He actually told me his likes it to be “ready” when he wants to go. I can’t make any sense out of that, who runs an engine for an hour before they drive anywhere? I also have neighbors who, every year, come and ask us if we’ll go in on a fence for their yard with them….but we already have a fully fenced in yard and I’ve told them dozens of times they have my permission to connect any new fence they get to our fence on the adjoining side. The wife keeps telling me they “don’t like” our fence style and she wants us to pay to have our length of fence ripped out and replaced with what she wants so all her sides match. Which would leave us with a huge bill and unmatched fencing, right?
This reminds me of my asshole next door neighbors who told me fairly soon after I bought my house that they didn’t want “their side of the fence” to be stained because they liked the grey (old deteriorating) wood. My SO got in a big brouhaha with them and finally said “Well this happens to be her fence, completely within her property lines, so it’s NOT YOUR FENCE WHATSOEVER and she will stain it however she damn well pleases!”
They followed up with a solid row of tall thin arbor vitae along the entire fenceline. Makes me laugh out loud every time I see it!
We have trashy neighbors that moved in across the canal from us. Their yard is full of rusty mismatched chairs around a messy fire pit they dug in their backyard. When they have a crowd over the whooping and hollering goes on forever. Sometimes they pick up the trash, sometimes they don’t. One time they left the white trash bags there for 3 weeks! Finally 3 of us called the city and they are a bit better. They are pigs and we have to look at it 🤬🤬
I hate when someone tells you it’s no big deal WHEN IT IS A BIG DEAL!!!
When I worked at the Antioch paper, we had a weekly feature “What Bugs You?” It had a huge fly as it’s icon.
We usually had lots of answers from readers, but every now and then, we had to come up with a bugs you.
My WBY were dirty diapers left in parking lots. It’s disgusting.
I agree about the dirty diapers Nanette and about the pain med issue I suffer pain daily and only for pain meds I don’t know where I would be! I’m in Ireland and they don’t prescribe Oxy anything over here except in Hospitals! Tamara there were so many comments on Banjos post, look how loved he was ❤️ i am so sorry for your loss it’s the worst pain! We lost 3 dogs over the years when I lived with my parents and our whole house used to be grief stricken for so long afterwards! They really are our children my dog is my friend I don’t care how that sounds either x
I meant to say best friend 🙈😂
I live next to a lovely woman who has had her house gutted and is re-doing the whole thing. Yesterday they tore down the whole back of the house and I think she is going to put up a 2 story addition. Our houses are less than 10-15 feet apart and I have been listening to pounding for over 6 months straight and there is no end in sight! The noise is incredible….it sounds like they are working upstairs at MY house!
I also live across the street from a hoarder and the city is constantly on her about the look of her yard. (If they saw the inside I am afraid it would be condemned.)I live in a small town and they actually drive around with a ruler to measure your grass height. If it is 6 inches you get a pretty orange sign taped to your door to announce you need to cut your grass.
I am never complaining about our HOA again… like for real, after reading this thread I genuinely appreciate them and their stupid letters.
My next door neighbor is the worst. He goes in and out of his house all day and night, slamming his screen door, then slamming the door to his pick-up truck. My bedroom window is right next to his driveway and he is constantly disturbing my sleep or setting my dogs off into a barking frenzy at all hours of the night. Now whatever the heck is going on there, he’s got 30 or 40 huge contractor bags filled with God knows what sitting on the curb. They’ve been there for weeks because our garbage collection does not pick up bags! Only the one can we are allotted that the truck with the mechanical arms comes and lifts up and dumps the can in the truck. Despite this, he keeps adding more and more bags!
Now sister is staying with me for a bit. She’s a freaking ANGEL! I’ve been sick for a long, long, time and my housekeeping has not been a priority. I’ve been so embarrassed because it’s not how I’m used to living. I was so ashamed when I asked her for help, but she’s been unbelievable. She lives 4 hours away and drove right down. She already knows half the neighbors while I, living here 9 years don’t know any of them. I live in a small, manufactured home community. My sis told me that “Glen”, who I guess is a neighbor across the street, called the manager of the community and complained on my behalf that those bags were encroaching on my property. He thought I was a snowbird who wintered in Florida since I never leave the house and he hadn’t seen me. He definitely was making goo goo eyes at her. He likes her! So yeah. I left the house for the first time in over a year. I asked for help to clean my house that is so bad I haven’t been able to let people in to fix my broken dishwasher or clothes dryer. My daughter is coming down today and I am actually going to get dressed and take them to a very fancy dinner. Maybe things are things are finally looking up. Hopefully I won’t have a panic attack in the restaurant or start coughing my lungs out from my COPD. I want this dinner to be special for my sister and daughter, and yes, for me too.
PS Sorry for the novel. I have nowhere else to express these thoughts. Feel free to skip right over it.
Good for you! Shame often keeps us from reaching out when we need help. Often, friends and families ARE SO GLAD THEY CAN HELP.
It will feel so good when it is done!
People who fail to watch their kids. Pre-pandemic, I was in line at the neighborhood bakery. It was a nice summer day and I was wear a sundress. This little boy around 4 proceeded to slap my rear and just stand there and grin. His mother, who saw the entire thing said nothing. I was so shocked muttered excused me and told them to go ahead of me. My next instinct was to slap the mother.
Wow, I am speechless! That young boy will grow to be a “man” who thinks he can get away with slapping the asses of strange women. Who knows what else? That whole scenario frightens me. I’m afraid I might have slapped the kid back. I hope I would have told him that he had no right to hit anybody, let alone a stranger and a female. I’m so sorry you had that experience.
Thank you, I was so shocked I forgot to be mad. I try not to correct people’s kids as they usually don’t take it well. Also, I fault the parents, they are supposed to be the ones responsible for guiding their kids.
Last night, I got lectured about smoking weed. I am a 60 year old grown up. The guy lives locally and was shocked when he smelt weed on me. This was in our local pub. He was well on his way to getting drunk (which he does most nights). As much as I like him, he can mind his own business. Doctor Dave was in the pub and said when he worked A&E most of his weekend patients were drunk – not high on weed. Anyhow, local guy wasn’t having it and proceeded to “inform” Doctor Dave and I about the evils of weed. Then, while exiting the pub, local guy fell and hurt his knee. Doctor Dave drove him home. Honestly some people are just fucking dumb.
Sorry about Banjo.
Dumping full car ashtrays in the parking lot…
I didn’t even know they still have ashtrays in cars!
Able bodied people who park in handicap spots infuriate me. I use to leave prominent sticky notes on their windshield, but people have gotten so violent, I have to settle for angry glares.
I would not recommend leaving nasty notes on people’s cars. Most of the time your assumptions will be wrong. I had a handicapped placard when my mother lived with me. She was in her 80’s, had beginning dementia and used a walker. At times I would drop her off at a hairdressers or nail salon and leave to run errands and then return to pick her up. Often as I returned her to the car I would have a nasty note left for me. Yes, it made me very angry and if I knew who left the note they would have gotten a piece of my mind. Also many handicaps such as heart disease are not clearly visible. So please keep your nasty notes and evil stares to yourself.
I believe she is talking about people who have no handicap plate or placard. (Please forgive me if not.)
Lots of people with fancy cars and no handicap plate/placard park in the spots around here. The fine is pretty high. But they think the rules do not apply to them. I always hope they will be caught by the cops.
It’s wash not warsh or alternatively it’s Washington not Warshington 🙂
Can’t Bravo find RH who know our primary language?
Even the lawyer can’t use proper grammar.
RHOC
Gina: “I was so honery that night…”
WTF: It’s “ornery” … or was she hungry and ornery?)
Emily: “… there was sort of a running thing with Gina where she hit her breaking point with Noella because Noella didn’t know she had a skincare.
WTF: a skincare?
Emily doesn’t realize there should be a noun after “skincare”?
Emily trying to pronounce “foliage” and failing actually made me cringe. I dislike her this season so that did not help. She sounded like a very stupid, insular person. Has she no experience with fall color? Even the trees in California turn color. How gorgeous were those trees? I miss all that from growing up in New England. The colors were spectacular.
I can’t stand Emily this season, either. Some of these people with high-fallutin’ degrees are oddly ignorant.
Oh!!! When I read “honery”, I assumed it meant pissed off but still wanted to get laid😅
When I grew up and went to school with the nuns – it was “Tommy and I payed race cars in the yard” It was not “Tommy and me payed race cars in the yard”. Failure to learn that lesson would get you pages of lines if not more.
Today people lose their minds when folks say “Tommy and I” Not sure when this golden rule changed.
People who say “casted” Casted is not a word – My head explodes when I read or hear this being used.
Shit lol played not payed 😒🙁
I’m so with you! The nun Sr Molly comes to mind (see comment back a good bit) – would have rapped us on the knuckles with a ruler for poor English. One of my pet peeves is “Me and Jack went to the store.” No no no! It’s “Jack and I…”. Thank you Sr Molly!
I get very annoyed at the “Me and Jack” because it so clearly shows that IT’S ME FIRST!
ALWAYS MEMEMEMEMEMEMEME IT’S ALL ABOUT ME.
At least they don’t use I and Jack.
Another related that bugs me “Stacey and myself.” It’s me or I motherfuckers.
So true Nanette. Clearly those people were not taught by nuns. 😀
I could have gotten by with just going up to 8th grade because of being educated by Nuns. I seriously learned nothing in HS except for Art. Our art department was beyond! Now that I live down South, my grammar can be poor, maybe just trying to fit in? It drives my family up North crazy, but I’ve been here 35 years, what do they expect?
Hey – Off topic somewhat, just wanted to say first, that I am very sorry for T’s loss. Sometimes the bond between a person and their pet is almost equal to that of a close family member. The group of people commenting on this column through-out the few months I have tuned in have been fantastic and very on point. Gives me the feeling of relating to the rest of the USA from my home in south O.C. as we here are isolated from you all. Per topic – I could tell you how pissed off I used to be when someone would park in front of my house overnight. However, I could also tell you that when I was first married many years ago, my wife and I had a small apt in Burbank, Ca and did not have a garage. We would park in front of an older lady’s SFR (house). She would ask us to park closer to our apt, and, I/we did not do this all the time. I myself have been not the greatest guy and I now, being older, get pissed at “myself” but I keep trying. As mentioned before, I read all and it reminds me how great and honest people are across this country. (Dems/Reps or Indep)
I have two or three random cars a day stop in front of my house and just sit there. It’s weird. Also pretty much every special snowflake child at the elementary school, a lot of them in TAXIS so the residents of our street are blocked in for at least 30 minutes every school day. It’s ridiculous. That is what school busses are for. The ones on my side of the street are picking up “walkers” so they don’t have to wait in the even longer car for pick ups. Also, the other parents/grandparents of the walkers all walk to the school every fucking day to walk the precious snowflakes ten houses down the road and carry their book bags. I used to ATTEND that elementary school, albeit it very briefly and managed to walk home without mommy.
Ok my last one that bugs me so much! Disrespecting is NOT a word. Someone can be disrespectful. But I’m pretty sure I’ll lose this one as disrespecting is used regularly. It makes me cringe😬.
I think it depends on whether you’re using “disrespect” as a noun or a verb. “Disrespectful” goes with the noun choice, and “disrespecting” is a gerund form of the verb. “They were disrespecting me” seems like an appropriate usage to me.
Oxford
gerund or present participle: disrespecting
Also in Miriam Webster
It could be a word that has been added/changed.
Impact as a verb was verboten at newspapers in the past.
In many dictionaries now:
Although recent, the new uses are entirely standard and most likely to occur in formal speech and writing.
Ok I’m convinced! 😀
BREAKING NEWS! SOMEONE HURT MY FEELINGS!
I blame my weakened emotional state. It normally really takes a lot to hurt my feelings. I don’t give a shit when I get fifty million first time comments about how much my site sucks or whatever other shit they spout. That is a daily occurrence.
But a bit ago while I was working on the MAFS Boston recap, a second USPS van came by to deliver a package. She threw it on my porch. I think it is a book I have no ability to read right now. However, I’ve been having a problem with my mailbox, it needs to be replaced. Lawn Kid got it somewhat functional recently, but you can’t just close it by holding on to the handle. You have to kind of shift the door slightly to the right first and apparently that is too difficult for my mail carrier,
Most days it is a struggle to get my trash to the street. I check my mail maybe once or twice a month But the regular mail carrier sucks at closing it so birds are trying to nest in my mail box. So after the lady threw my package on the concrete porch, I opened the door and very kindly asked her if she could please close my mailbox because I am disabled. She aske me to repeat myself twice as she was standing next to my mailbox. It would have taken two seconds max. She said, “NO!.” Who does that?
I don’t know why that hurt my feelings so much but it did. I think I am just looking for another reason to be sad. I’m going to go watch American Idol for the first time in years without Banjo. But that will be a good memory,
Sorry for whining. Feelings just keep coming and going.
Would it have killed her to close your mailbox? What is with people? Sorry that happened. When you’re having a tough time idiots bother you much more! Take care.
What a garbage creature your mail carrier is! I wish I were there to repair or replace your mailbox, Tamara. To echo the masses, I am so very sorry for the loss of your friend. Enjoy your “stories,” as my mamaw would say. My feelings get hurt if I let someone out in traffic and they fail to acknowledge me with a wave. Grrrr. So I get it! Spoil yourself if you can. Sending healing juju from Indiana! 🙂
Oh I miss my Mamaw.
You will love the book. I don’t know when you will be ready to read it. Sometimes I like to get my major crying in at once. But there are funny parts too.
WTF??!! This REALLY pisses me off. Do Not Be Mean To Our TT!!!
delurking again.
I hope you’re feeling a little better today, Tamara! Thank you for welcoming me so warmly and encouraging me to come out of my shell.
Two things that irritate the fuck out of me:
the 1st one – My entire family refusing to use my ftm son’s chosen name. I hear every excuse in the book, it’s a fad, it’s too hard to remember, I don’t understand…It’s so frustrating that they don’t even try.
The 2nd thing is stupid. I’m agoraphobic and really overweight but, for the past year I have been quietly
losing weight. I am down almost 100 lbs. and have another 100 to go (i know! I did say very overweight LOL). My problem is I don’t know how to get out of my own way. I have been buying absolute crap the last month (peeps, pectin jellybeans, Russel Stover Maple eggs). I’m not eating huge quantities or binging but for me, buying this stuff is a slippery slope. I need to get out of my own way. So the 2nd thing irritating the fuck out of me is myself.
Losing 100 pounds! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
💗Thank you!💗
Way to go Laura!!!! You’ve got this!
Thanks amisteree!! 💗💗
Regarding Number One, your entire family sucks. The end. And the second thing?? You are a bad ass! And so am I! It has taken nearly three years, but I have lost 103 pounds. I have 55 to go, but those wee treats are indeed a slippery slope! A French Toast stick from a toddler’s plate, half of a peanut butter sandwich, a handful of FunYuns. (As I really fantasize about Italian subs, Pad Thai, fried chicken, dumplings, gumbo, and mac/cheese.) I irritate the ever living fuck out of myself too, girl, but you got this. And good the fuck for you!!🔥🔥🔥
Both you and Laura are bad asses! That’s quite an accomplishment. 😊
Thanks so much , Tam! 💗
I totally agree about my family. And I love a fellow bad ass! Congrats on the weight loss. I know how ridiculously hard it is. My problem is I stupidly feel I deserve those little treat but then it all snowballs. I know, you know. And man oh man, what I would give for some Pad Thai or mac & cheese!! Thanks for the words of encouragement, we both have this!! 💗
I have a “crazy” neighbor across the street but man did she come in handy recently. The nice neighbor next to me broke up with her boyfriend 3 years ago and the dude still cannot accept it and will show up at random intervals to profess his love! So nice neighbor has randomly been having her mail stolen, not packages just her bills…this is where the crazy neighbor helped! She pointed her home security camera at nice neighbors house and yep on video 4 days in a row ex-boyfriend is seen going through nice neighbors mail box and removing stuff….sometimes having a crazy neighbor helps! Stalking and stealing mail (fed charge) had him arrested!
I love this story, yay for the crazy lady!
All the idiots who have the signs in their yards that say “Marriage is between a man and a woman” Just go fuck off. Seriously.
That reminds me of another thing I really hate.
When people say:
God created Adam and Eve
Not Adam and Steve.
Then they get a self-satisfied smirk on their face.
Then I say, “Hardy har har. Go back and read your Bible. It says God created us ALL!”
I am so with you both on this! I hate when people use or quite the Bible to make others feel bad.
Quote the Bible I meant!
Being told to “Calm Down”……especially when i dont need calming down.
Hate it😠
O. M. G.”Calm down” or “don’t freak out” or “it’s gonna be juuust fine” in that tone that is sofa king condescending. It could be about scrambled eggs or house is currently on fire, doesn’t matter. Also, finishing my sentences. And, everything kept on some secret scorecard to be collected at any given time, so anything becomes a tit for tat, you did it, too, situation. My blood pressure is going up just thinking about it. Was this not a counseling session? Ha.
People that never put the phone down. Rude.
And I hate preparing taxes with all the fire of ten thousand suns. That’s right, I also get all the adult jobs. Please, tell me about the lawn ONE. MORE. TIME. Ah, venting. Whew.
The word “wat” instead of “what”. For some reason this irritates me. Is it really that hard to add the h. I guess in 50 years, textspeak spellings will be the norm. I may have to have a tranquilizer drip.
One good thing about being old. I will be dead by then. Or deaf.
You were damn right MicMac! ✊🏻😎🖤