I’ve been trying to take a couple of mental health days because I am super stressed about everything. I know that people think Twitter is a mean place, and we can tussle here and there but actually everyone decides who to follow and what is in their timelines.
Cheryl B left the site after I admonished her for something or another and was probably not very kind. So as I am taking a break I had a bit more time for Twitter and just came across this Tweet of hers.
Cheryl A Burke (cherylannburke1)@cherylannburke1.
I am so lost, sad, confused. How could a trip to pick up a prescription, end in the death of my husband yesterday? But it did. Minutes, just minutes. I’m sad for the person who hit him and sadly caused his death.I pray for you as well. I thank those who came to care for him.
Please send her all of your prayers. This is just horrible. I have no words. It’s a gut punch. Hopefully, she will come back and talk to us.
Such sad news. My heart goes out to Cheryl and her family. It freaks me out how life can change in an instant. I hope she knows we care about her and lets us know if there’s anything we can do to help ease her pain.
So sorry to hear this horrible news. And during the holidays for an additional emotional gut punch. Cheryl B & family is in my prayers 🙏
How horrible! Definitely will be praying for her.
My heart is just breaking for her.
I lost my sons father, I feel her pain. I’m more of a reader than a poster, but Cheryl B, sending love from the UK X
Lisa Jayne, while I would love it if you would comment more, you don’t have to comment to be a member of the TT family.
I am very for your loss as well. Prayers to you and your family.
I hope we can come out of this dark time soon and get back to time when arguing about reality shows or court cases was the darkest thing we had going on. Please let us know how we can help.
Tamara – if you ever doubted the value in this forum that you provide, this is your feedback. Look at the compassion and kindness you unlocked for so many. Thank you.
I was widowed too and know the value of outreach. You have provided that here.
Oh no. Cheryl, I don’t know you but know that I’m sending you all the strength I can muster. I can’t imagine this kind of sudden loss. Please reach out here or elsewhere if you need to. Hug your loved ones tonight. TT, thanks for sharing. We’re all meanies from time to time. We’re only human.
In the scheme of things, I think it’s time to put the past in the past. (TT) amazing how that I thought was devastating……..ummmmm, not even close.
Banned from commenting I would give anything to get rather than the words from the coroner.
(hugs Cheryl) Welcome home. I’m sorry for being a bitch. I hope you will forgive me. Please tell us what happened if you feel comfortable. And what we can do to help.
Yesterday was a normal day, he goes to Wal-Mart and picks up a couple things and his prescription. Planned to go from there down Rainbow to Walgreen and pick up my prescription. So no bigee.
He never came back. I kept checking the computer for my script and it was not picked up. Hours passed, didn’t know what, if he went to a store or ? But knew that I was waiting for him.
Finally, I called Wal-Mart. He picked it up at 9:06am.
My son and his friend drive the route. I called the non emergency 311 and started the report.
I had been calling hospitals EXCEPT the most obvious, (Sun-conscious?) but a circle of hospitals around the obvious UMC.
Spring valley hospital is really close to us.
The police said try other hospitals and coroner.
NEVER EVER EVER thought about the coroner?
So my son did while I finished the report with the police. It was maybe 5:00pm
My son yelled, and it is what it is from there.
My son held me as I screamed, and animal howls escaped my insides.
I’m okay today, I am the leader now, though my son wants to take care of me.
I find him crying, his hero is gone. A piece of him is gone.
Tomorrow will be either better or worse, we will see.
I’m so sad. 40 years of good, and ugly but he was here.
I will try to check in soon.
I’m beyond touched by the care you have given me. I think it’s probably the thing that will keep me standing today.
Oh, Cheryl, I’m crying as I’m reading this. What a horrible thing to go through. I’m glad your son is there with you.
What a horrific thing you are going through. We are all here for you.
What a horrible thing to have happened. I’m sorry for your loss. Xoxo
Cheryl B, I am so incredibly sorry to hear this very heartbreaking news. Please know I am thinking of you and praying for you and yours, especially your son. Please let us know through TT if there’s anything you need.
Cheryl, this is beyond horrible, I am so so sorry for you and your son and your whole family. It’s awful how they can be right there and then instantly so far away that you can never reach them again. You have my deepest sympathy
Oh Cheryl. Whatever we can do, please let us know. Thank you TT for posting this. Through tears I’m sending you so much love and support.
I’m so sorry for you and your son. Even just typing that feels somehow hollow… it’s not enough. If ever the time comes that you want/need a chat or an email or anything please get my email from TT I’ll call you, FaceTime you, write you an email, send you a card whatever you want. Tonight, tomorrow, a year from now literally whenever. You are loved and supported. ❤️
Oh my, I’m so sorry for your loss. We are here for you. Much love to you and your family.
Cheryl my heart breaks for your loss, your sons loss.
Prayers and condolences 😢❤
I have no words, but I am so sorry for your loss. I pray you and your son strength and peace.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Oh Cheryl, I am so sorry for the heartache you are going through. This is my first time commenting on TT’s site, but when I read your story I felt compelled to reach out. I too, have recently suffered a significant loss and I just want you to know that you’re not alone in your grief. I know at times it can feel that way, lonely. I am so sorry for your loss. I just hope you have a strong support system by your side. It means everything.
My heart breaks for you reading this. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I am heartbroken for you – I really do not have words to tell you how much. If you do indeed feel the love and sympathy and the big hug this community has wrapped around you, please know I am part of that and will send you some every day.
I’m so sorry. My prayers and thoughts are with you.
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Soooo very sorry. Such a whole body wrenching. There are no words….
Cheryl, I hope you see this.
My husband’s death was sudden too. It was a normal day like yours. I arrived on the scene to watch them attempt resuscitation without success. I thought he would live. I wasn’t expecting to be widowed in my 30’s.
THIS WILL BE THE HARDEST THING IN YOUR LIFE TO LIVE THROUGH
Yes, be “strong” to push through. You have a funeral to plan, obituaries to write, and Aunt Mary needs a room and she doesn’t know how to use the internet to book hotels.. It will be blissfully busy.
But when the dust settles, and the flowers from the funeral are wilted, do not be “strong.” Weep. Grieve. Let people take care of you. If somebody asks you how you are doing, do not lie. Tell the truth! “Had a bad day today, but I’m glad you called…”
Do not be strong. Be weak. Let people lift you up. Let people take care of you. Do not wait for them to reach out bc you “don’t want to be a bother.” Reach out and express your needs!! I wish I had. I suffered bc I didn’t want “to bother people with my problems.” People are generally happy to help, they just don’t know how and YOU HAVE TO DIRECT THEM.
I hate that this happened to you. Im so sorry. Although it may feel like it at times, you are not alone. You may not see the light at the end of this long tunnel, you will eventually emerge as a wiser, stronger, and more compassionate woman.
I wish I could give you the most sincere hug in solidarity.
I am very sorry for your loss too. I don’t know how long it’s been, but does the pain ever go away, no matter how much time passes? (Rhetorical question.)
I think words from another person who hard gone through this are unmeasurably helpful. I don’t recognize your name (have been too busy to check in as often), but grateful that you posted here today. Thank you for sharing.
Bless you and your family. 💙❤️💙❤️💙
Nanette, I’m a lurker 99% of the time, so I’m not recognizable.
But to answer your question…it takes years for the grief to subside. I’m 8 years out. There are no five steps of grieving, but periods of time you spend rebuilding and then grieving, rebuilding and then grieving, and so on. The time between those actions can be hours, or years. Certain times of the year used to trigger grief more, but now I just randomly cry by myself for a couple minutes and then go about my day. Its unpredictable but I just go with the flow now. The wound will always be there but I can now be happy, look forward to the future, and be in the present to enjoy my life.
Great advice & so very sorry for your tragic loss – sending love and light
I’m praying for you. I wish there were words that would bring you peace and comfort. (((HUGS!!!)))
🙏❤️🕊
This is so incredibly sad to hear. My heart aches for you and your family. I lost my husband 20 years ago to cancer. I thought it was the hardest thing I ever had to go through but I had over a year to prepare. You, my Dear, had no time to prepare for such a loss. You truly are in my thoughts. This I do know for sure, the jagged edges of grief will smooth out. Never disappear, but will smooth out and become manageable.
Cheryl, my condolences to you and your family for your loss. Your husband is still with you all. Everything in the universe is energy and energy never dies, just converts into something else. Looks for the subtle signs, you will know.
Until then. Hugs, and take care of yourself. XOXO
Cheryl, this is horribly sad. I lost my husband 5 years ago, but I had 3 years warning (cancer), and he was not the father of my children. My heart is breaking for you. Much love and prayers. ❤️🙏❤️
There is nothing anyone can say to make this better. Lean on your son and he will lean back for support. We’ve all missed you and send you love and prayers
Cheryl this is tragic! I’m so very sorry for your family’s loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. May God comfort you.
Cheryl
I am so so sorry for your loss.
Cheryl, So, so sorry. Sending you deepest sympathy.
Cheryl,
My love, thoughts, prayers are with you tonight and going forward. None of us know what day could be the last we have with a loved one and unfortunately your story is a good reminder to share kindness and loving energy towards all we come in contact with, especially our family members. On that note, having the courage to apologize and admit to a bad act is healing for all. There is so much stress and anger and division and whataboutism and blame that we have lost sight of our inner humanity. Be the person, every damn day, you would want your child or former child self to model behavior of.
Again, Cheryl, my deepest sympathy for you and yours.
I am so sorry for you and your son Cheryl! My heart breaks for you both.. Hold on tight to all the good memories.
Chery, I am so very sorry for your loss. I can honestly say I feel your pain having just lost my 27 year old son to suicide 6 weeks ago today. Please know I am praying for you and your son. This will be a very difficult holiday season for you but please take time for yourself. Sending hugs from Texas.
Sally, I am so very sorry for your loss as well. That must be the absolute worst nightmare kind of pain and my heart breaks for you. Be kind to yourself please. 💜
Sally, I am heartbroken for you and your loss.
The things that we are using (“at least it wasn’t , didn’t etc. etc”.) falls within the reason of your loss.
I’m touched you reached out and many prayers your way for a loss in its own “I am so sorry for your loss”
Sending you heartfelt hugs from Nevada.💛
I am so very sorry, Cheryl.
Please let us know if there is anything we can do. I don’t know what that could be, maybe just be kind. Always. As one of the kind people who care about you posted on Twitter. Because we never know … ❤️💔❤️💔❤️
I’ve missed you, I love you, I want to do anything I can for you. I’m sorry I didn’t check this post yesterday. ♥️
You are so sweet Pauline.💛
Sorry for your loss. How awful why were you not notified earlier. Instead of having to call around. Just awful.
Longtime lurker. Cheryl B nothing but love and prayers to you and your family from your TT family. Praying for you and yours. Love and prayers.
Well that just fucking sucks. All my love and prayers.
That made me laugh. Says it all. Thank you Jean.
Ms. Cheryl, please accept my most sincere condolences on this horrific loss. My prayers are with you and yours. You were always a bright spot on this site, and I hope you will allow those of us who care about you to be here for you going forward.
Prayers always! I’m so sorry and we rally behind you! We are all here for you! ALWAYS ALWAYS!!!
Thankyou for sharing.
Sending hugs and love.
I am so very sorry for your loss and the heartbreaking pain you and your son must be in.
Thank you for sharing. I am so sorry for you and your families loss. My 8year old daughter lost her dad last year. I don’t comment much but read everyday. Sending you love and prayers. Glad u have the support u so dearly need x
Saying prayers for you and your family ❤️
No words. Heartbreaking.
Cheryl, my heart goes out to you. Take care of yourself and take it one day at a time. We are all here for you. Come here anytime as I am sure you will find at least one person available at any hour if you want or need to talk. Sending you hugs and prayers. ❤️
My deepest, heartfelt condolences to you and your family. I am so, so sorry for your loss.
I’m sorry for your loss. How terribly sad. I’m praying for you and your family.
TAMARA!!!!!! I just saw this. Thank you for telling me. I feel horrible for her and I wish I could reach out. You know I’ve been hoping she would come back and I’ll be praying she will so we can support her. I am so sad for her and I hope you, TT, are doing ok. ♥️
Cheryl .. there are no words
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss and pain.
Please take care of yourself and know we all love and support you .. always. 🙏🏼❤️
I am so very sorry for your loss, Cheryl. 🙏🏻😘
Cheryl, I have no words that will ease your pain or that of your son’s. I wish I could take that day back for you and restart it. I’m so sorry you have had to experience this and that your wonderful husband lost his life. I’m sitting here tearing up just thinking about it. I could not imagine being in your situation but want you to know that we are all thinking of you and sending our hearts your direction. Please accept my condolences for your loss
So sorry cheryl b. 🙏
TT so glad you reached out to your friend our family.
Love you and everybody here ♥️
Cheryl, I am so very sorry to hear about your husband. My heart breaks for you and I can’t imagine what you and your son and loved ones are going through. I hope it’s ok if I pray for you and your son
Your comments on TT’s site on Big Brother and Bravo shows have lifted my spirits many times
Cheryl, prayers to you and your son. I’m so very sad for you and this tragedy you are going through.
Oh Cheryl,
I am so sorry to read this. It’s heartbreaking, heart wrenching – all my condolences to you and your son for such a huge loss. You have so many friends here and I hope you know that we all are here for you and those of us who pray are praying for you and your son, and the rest of the family. I’m sure you must be still in shock. Words seem like not enough at times like these. Please take it one day at a time, one hour at a time-and lean into the grief as it’s so important to get through all of the stages so your heart & brain can heal over time. Also, please let us all know if there’s anything we can do support you, our dear sweet friend. It takes a village- you are a valued member of this village. We are not able to mind read, so again Please let us or Tamara know how/what we can do to help you, lift you up, support you. If you want my info just get it from TT and I’m available to just listen or whatever you need. I’m very fond of you and I am sincere about my offers of individual help. Even if it’s a year or more from now & something just hits seemingly out of the blue. Please reach out and communicate going forward from this life changing tragic event . I understand what you mean about being the “leader” now. I’m so grateful your son is there and wants to take care of you and your need to take care of him. But, you can’t do that effectively without self-care; and you don’t have to do it alone. Believe it or not, laughter and humor are healing too so it’s also important to laugh occasionally. Just release ALL the feelings instead of holding them all in. In the meantime, I’m sending you giant hugs. 💔🙏❤️
Cheryl, my heartfelt condolences to you and your son. You will get through this, but it’s going to be hard. Treat yourself with love and reach out for help, when you need it.
Dear Cheryl,
I’m so sorry for loss. No one wants to learn first-hand how fragile life can be but you and your son have. It’s especially telling that during your time of grief, you have compassion for the other impacted individual. You are very gracious.
My car condolences to you and your son.
How heartbreaking for her! Poor woman. I’m truly sorry for her loss. What dreadful news. Thank you for letting us know.
My condolences. So sorry for your unimaginable loss.
My sympathies Cheryl B. Sending love and prayers during this difficult time.
Cheryl – I am truly sorry for your loss. Having lots of experience myself, I know after the initial shock and then all the demands on you slow down, all the helpful with casseroles, cards, extra friendship whatever the customs are there to support the bereaved, it all dies down, or completely ends. You and your son, then will be needing the most support and the real missing him begins. That can mean you pick up the pieces or begin a new adventure, or both. The community here can help as a fallback support. That is, if Tamara doesn’t get her panties in a wad again. She is the gatekeeper or the window curtain puller. You are strong within yourself. You can come out stronger in many ways.
Cheryl B, I am so terribly sorry for your loss and the unexpected way it happened. You have been in my thoughts and in my heart all day. I will continue to hold you and your son in prayer over the coming days and weeks.
Cheryl, so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband 3 months ago and there is suddenly such a gaping hole in your life. I’m still trying to find my way without him. Prayers of comfort for you and your family. Lean on each other.
I have exchanged emails with Cheryl and she wanted to let you guys know that she appreciates all of the support. She isn’t up to responding to everyone right now, but wants you all to know she appreciates the love and is reading. Her husband’s wish was for cremation and no funeral. I’m hoping she has lots of love and support with her at this very difficult time.
Cheryl is the person I’ve become closest to on your site. We live in the same area, and I’ve let her know I’m only a phone call away.
Thanks Terri. I don’t have here number but if you do she could probably use a friend right now.
I don’t have her number, Tamara, but I gave her my home & cell #’s so she can reach me if she needs to.
Cheryl I am so very sorry for your loss. I am praying for you and your son. Sending you so much love and know that you are in good hands here with TT and family 🙏
So thrilled to see you commenting here. I’ve been praying for you as well. You have been on my mind, too. I hope you & your mom are feeling somewhat better and I’m so sorry that you’ve had a difficult time of things, too. Murphy’s Law seems to be in full effect everywhere these days. I don’t know the specifics but I know that you are strong. I really hope that 2022 is a better year for you. Sending good vibes only, Jenn, along with thoughts and prayers. 🙏
Thank you so much. TT and this site have helped me so much and am I am so grateful and appreciate for everything…it’s truly humbling how amazing people can be.
Jenn, I think I was a bit out of it and it didn’t register that you are going through something.
Thoughts and prayers and hugs and love to whatever, for whatever help it can be. 💛💕
Cheryl, I am so very sorry for your and your son’s loss. How absolutely heartbreaking! Sending love and prayers.
Cheryl is a class act. Her loss is devastating.
Tamara does not get a pass because she was a complete blank and now feels bad????
TT comes for the long time posters with regularity. I guess that is why most of us don’t post here anymore.
BTW for most of you who have not been the target of TT’s wrath, it sucks. Cheryl was mistreated. Let’s not forget that.
TT is allowed to have feelings and emotions like everyone else. You shouldn’t bring negativity to a post where someone is clearly grieving and in distress but also expressed that she is okay with this post. There are a lot of good people here who will absolutely be there, care, and pray for someone in their time of need and it’s not up to you to minimize that:
Not minimizing anything. She needs to be accountable.
I am glad she helped you and your mom out.
So am I and I am grateful for every single person here. But Cheryl absolutely deserves support now and you are trying to carry out some personal vendetta instead of being a decent human being.
Not really. TT saw a tweet and felt bad. Not before.
Things happen if life. If TT didn’t care, she wouldn’t have responded. And Cheryl is a beloved person here and people care about her and want to support her..not sure what your problem is?
Beloved and banned from commenting.
By the sheer number of comments I would say Cheryl is beloved and cared about.
Mostly true . I gave Cheryl like twenty warnings about posting in the trial posts. She made no sense,……/ She seeming had no idea what was happening. I still don’t feel bad. Sorry, not sorry.
Okay, ENOUGH.I’m out.
Thank you for your support.
Cheryl I am so sorry for your loss.
Kdwagz I’m not sure why you are here in such a serious post whining about how awful I am. This is not a post about how Kdwagz feels about this site. ONCE MORE WITH FEELING, no one forces you to come here. If I felt the way you appear to feel about me, I’d just find a new place to post. Reality Tea is a good choice, or just watch Kempire on Youtube. But if you would like to stay here, you need to stop making Cheryl’s loss about you, and understand that a commenting infraction is not the same as the sudden loss of a husband. This is a support thread for Cheryl, not you airing of grievances. If you would like to keep your commenting privileges I suggest you keep your personal feelings about yourself to yourself.
Cheryl B my most sincere condolences. I am very sorry for your loss.
Cheryl, I am so sorry to hear of your husband’s passing. Please know that you and your son and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I know saying sorry seems like nothing, but we are here for you. Sending love your way.
Cheryl, I have been thinking about you. Please take care of yourself. How the police didn’t make an attempt to contact family at the time of the accident is a mystery.
Mary, that’s exactly what I’ve been thinking. There were any number of people (police, paramedics, hospital emergency room staff, coroner) who should have found some way to contact Cheryl. Her husband obviously had identification on him so even if there wasn’t emergency contact information in his wallet they did have his address. I’m furious that no one contacted her.
Thank you so much everyone.
Today is a anger day.
Believe me, why wasn’t I contacted. No police officers ever called, showed up, where is a report?r
All in good time.
I’m not a punk, not is my son. (I also have my daughter, 35, who is dealing with her boyfriend who’s time is not long) she’s here, but at the hospital with her boyfriend.
Yeah, it’s a lot.
I have kept you on my mind since reading the news. I would be angry too. I could not understand why between his driver’s license and car tags that you were not notified. It’s horrible enough, but for you to wonder and worry for hours, and you and your son having to make all those calls – it’s so infuriating. I’m so sorry. Praying for you and your children.
You have every right to be angry, Cheryl. I’m angry for you. I had no idea your daughter’s boyfriend was in the hospital. I’m so sorry for all of you. Please know that you are constantly in my prayers.
My heart breaks for you. So terribly sorry for your loss. ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
Yep, I am haunted by him not being pronounced at the scene.
Many ways of reaching us.
That fact will be what my nightmares will consist of.
Again,ENOUGH.
To those who have been kind, thank you. I appreciate all the condolences.
I’m not going to go through the allowed (in fairness) comments that don’t help, AT ALL.
Cheryl, if there anything I can do to help, please let me know. we can chat through dm or email. especially late at night, I’m always up and still part of the night crew.
it was about 4 years ago, at 2-3 a.m., when I came on here, not expecting any response, and wrote about my cancer diagnoses I received that day. you were up and you responded. you showed me such kindness that early morning during a lonely and scary day for me. I have never forgotten your kindness. I’m here for you, if you need me. take care. dana
A night, I will never forget and be thankful that I was there for you.
Your fear was tremendous, and here you are paying it forward. I thank you Dana. 💛
I will not forget your kindness.😊
Hugs and prayers to you and your son.
We are all here to lend an ear for you and a to lean on.
Thank you TT for relaying my email wishes.
Just to let everyone know again (and I really hope that you all truly know) how much each and every one of you had helped beyond what could be imagined. It changed the strength, love, loneliness I thought I had.
I was able to find out a mere 7 minutes was the time between the accident and being pronounced.
I’m still waiting on the report but with the holiday, it is fine a few more days.
I’m probably going to be quiet for a while, but I can not, not come back.😊see you soon.💛
Happy holidays to all. Your truly a gift.💛
best wishes to you, your heroic son, your caring daughter and her man. Happy Holidays. I cant wait till their over. ha!
So I wanted to say thank you again, and my gosh, Just Jenn!!!! 💛💕 what to say except I will absolutely find help for you ASAP.
I’m here to let you know that today we received the police report. Oh dear. 😥
It was not Chris’ fault. The investigation continues but I am still 😢 sad for the husband and wife and the trauma. There is video as well.
Let’s hang tight to each other and get through this upcoming week.
(My mom who really has just day/days left refuses to pass until 2022!💛)
I found out Chris ‘ best friend on Fathers day was on life support. Another kick in the ass!!!!.
Love to all.💛
It must be comforting to know it wasn’t Chris’ fault. You’re such a good person to be concerned for the person who hit him. I’ll keep my fingers crossed that your mom gets her wish.
night crew checking in, Cheryl. How are you doing? how’s your mom and daughter doing?