My Internet friends are the large majority of my friends and I love you all. I am going through a very hard time in my life just trying to keep Banjo alive as long as possible. I talk to several of you on the phone from time to time. If you nearly died in a tornado, or need help with dealing with Covid, or other serious issues, I will be there for you. That said, unless I am drunk and it is the middle of the night, I’m not going to call you (waves at atdLeft) or be able to take your calls.
I am always here to support you guys. But, I have my own shit going on. I have never spoken with the person who is my major support support system for the past couple of decades on the phone, despite having his phone number. He’s got his own shit going on. We are email only. The same is true for my “twin.” We keep in contact via email. Same for my sister. IT’S NOTHING PERSONAL!
I’m dealing with A LOT right now. I can barely keep my site running. Perhaps I should have made that more clear. I need to handle my business and can’t always be your sounding board. I know that sounds mean, clearly if I gave you my phone number I care about you and want to talk to you when I can. I just can’t right now. Unless you are in a personal crisis and we have discussed it already in emails. I can answer emails. And that seems to work for the people in a much bigger crisis situation. I’m an email person. I do not have a cell phone and I only drunk dial people, (sorry Atdleft and Nannette). But there is a LOT going on with me. And I need to prioritize tasks. Sorry if that makes me sound like a bitch. But you all have my email and that is where we can talk when I have a few minutes.
Sorry for the rant, but some people feel like I should be available at every moment and do not understand my schedule. Again, if I am working for you on a very serious situation that needs help, call if you need to. But, if you are just calling to chat, please stop. It’s a really bad time for that. Send an email.
I am really not trying to be a bitch but I have a shit ton of things to deal with at the moment.
Sorry you’re going through all of this and I completely understand!! Got your email thanks!!
Love to you and Banjo.
Lucretia
We get it TT! I’ve been dealing with a lot for the last couple months. I haven’t commented as much as I normally do but just know I am here reading every day. You can email me anytime you like. I’m a good listener. Take care of yourself and Banjo. Sending lots of hugs! ❤️
This blog has brought me so much peace over the last few years. I just wanted you to know how much it meant to me. I don’t comment often, but I check the site everyday and I’m great full that you take time out of your stressful day to connect with us. I left New Orleans a few months ago after Ida because after living through Katrina and my rental roof collapsing during the last hurricane I couldn’t take being there anymore. It’s just my dumb luck that I moved to Mayfield to teach at Graves. I spent all night on a greyhound with my two daughters to get to atlanta to stay with a cousin because our apartment is completely gone. The first time I had a bit of laughter today was when I read the vandurpump recap. So thank you for that. I hope you and banjo feel better soon.
So sorry to hear that Jasmine. It must have been a terrifying experience.
I think there’s some planetary shenanigans or a blue/red/ super wolf moon or something, because a lot is going on. I feel bad when I make an excuse to people in my life. But. We get some wisdom miles going and learn we need to first protect ourselves. I’ve just been out to dinner with my daughter. Lovely restaurant, but now I need a cool dark room and my cats to recover from just being out and ‘on’. I get it. I think most of us here understand. Just know I’m waving at your ‘ghetto shack’ from mine, just saying I’m case you can’t see me because I’m in Australia. You regularly touch a lot of people, so take a ton of care.
It sounds like you are an empath, and when you are going through a very difficult time it is even harder to absorb anyone elses energy. It is exhausting, and it makes the shoulders feel so heavy! This is one of the reasons why I am not sharing the shit that is going on in my life. It is manageable, and mild by comparison with everyone else’s. Christmas makes it harder too, it makes everyone melancholy with the additional anticipation that something bad might happen at “the most wonderful time of the year” and taint it forever.
I am only guessing, but I am sure some of us feel that way sometimes, and TT you do what is best for you right now, and we appreciate you checking in. hugs
It’s not wrong to need to take care of yourself. Even if you have nothing else going on at all, sometimes people just need a moment. A moment to me means anything from 5 minutes to a couple of weeks. It is also not wrong to reach out if you need too, although that can be difficult to do. I hope for the best for you and for peace.
Your a boundary setting role model! I want to take that attitude into my life. If we can’t take care of ourself – there is no way possible to help others.
We understand TT. Sending you love from Houston. ❤❤❤
Love to you and Banjo. This is a difficult time. I know you are going through a LOT with Banjo and life in general right now. We got you. Let us know if there is anything we can do. Prayers for you and Banjo.
I hate to hear that you are struggling. Take care of yourself and Banjo. xoxo
Sorry to hear you are going through a difficult time, Hope things get better for you and Banjo.
pick your battles. atta girl!
I get it… when you get into that low energy mode you can only do the bare minimum and don’t have emotional space for much of anything.
I’ve had times where I’ve just shut down or gone full tantrum and didn’t understand why it was happening. I wasn’t protecting my energy.
Take care of yourself TT.
Take your time.. business and mental health are top priorities (among others of course).. your site is one of my distractions.. you should have your own and not be judged by it.. and if you’re not ok at the moment, you cannot be helpful for someone else.. you’re friends (even internet friends) will understand.. sending you and Banjo love
My heart hurts for you girl. I totally get it. I’m hovering over a mental shutdown myself. Everything is a lot. I’m sending you a virtual hug and saying extra prayers for you and Banjo. 💕
I’m with you on the phone call thing. Unless someone really, really needs to talk to me about something I hate being on the phone. Unfortunately, I have a sister and a few friends who love to talk so I spend more time on the phone than I would like. I’d much rather deal with e-mails. Hope you’re feeling less stressed soon and that Banjo will be OK.
One of the beauties of email is that you can communicate WHEN YOU CAN, on your schedule. That is important for people like us who have weird sleeping schedules/disorders. Plus, you have a JOB TO DO when are are awake — in addition to taking care of Banjo AND yourself.
I think everyone here might agree that you have a very keen sense of when someone might really NEED more.
Please let us know what we can do to help.
XOXOX
Shit, watching recorded local news. California masked mandates indoors THROUGHOUT the state. Fine, we wear ours everywhere already.
Awe, I hope You feel better and that Banjo gets the care he needs. We love you Tamara. God bless you.
queenjen .. you are right .. there is something weird going on …. my life the month of
December has been a complete shit show ….wtf …..
Sending prayers and ❤️for you and Banjo.
Tamara, I have been following you for @ 7 years. I rarely post. However, we are a village. If you need me to come help you with anything, I am @ 3.5 hours away (Charlotte). In these disastrous times, we truly need to be there for each other. My ex-husband’s two nieces live n ATL, one is a judge, the other an atty and I could stay with them. I am at your service, truly. 🙏🙏😘😘
Thanks Lynne. I am a hot mess and not the kindest person to be around at the moment. I really think things here are too far gone to every get back to a semi sanitary place. 🙁
Hugs TT, and prayers for Banjo. Always here for you.
I get the pain your feeling. I have dog things going on as well, but let me tell you, this site can have me rolling in laughter when I need it the most. Much love to you all and prayers to give you both the strength to fight another day💜
Between pandemics & polarizing opinions over any number of topics, it’s no wonder that almost everyone is feeling a heightened sense of anxiety. You have provided a unique place for so many people to find comfort. It’s good for you to give updates as to where you are in your life so that others can be a support to you as you are to them. Many responders on this site are definitely ride or die for you so I hope that gives you comfort when you may perhaps feel a little overwhelmed by your circumstances. All the best to you and Banjo. Merry Christmas! 🎄 and here’s hoping for some relief in 2022!
It took me awhile to become selfish with my time, found it hard to say no. Now I realize how important it is and rarely concede. It took my family and friends a long time to understand this so it wasn’t always easy to do. With the continued shit show that has been all of our lives lately, this has absolutely been necessary for me.
I’m not a huge phone person either and prefer texts/emails, mostly because of the convenience to respond.
I love how you are so open, a tell-it-like-it-is kind of person, it’s what keeps me coming back. Love this site and everyone on here.
Please take care of yourself and that beloved pup of yours! ❤🐶