Y’all. I discovered this weekend that I have ZERO social skills left. I was rude, crude and socially unacceptable when dear Nancy arrive. I’m a sloth. I treated her kind of like Ramona treats “the help.” And yet she did some Herculean tasks without complaint. I forgot my manners. There was no please and thank you. I was irritated and agitated and she just kept helping. I am so appreciative of all of you, but I don’t think many of you would go into the room that I have been afraid of for two weeks and dispose of a dead rat. That actually happened. We went in to the room together and I screamed like a banshee. She handled the problem. I hid.
I was kind of a cunt, very uncomfortable with someone in my hiding place. She was very kind to Banjo and me no matter how cunty I got. And I really appreciate all of her help. We made a lot of progress. And by we I mean Nancy made a lot of progress.

On the bright side it was so nice to see a friend in real and I made her hug me a ridiculous amount of times when she left. I haven’t been hugged in a few years. I didn’t know how much I needed it. And she likes Jeopardy! But the questions were like so bizarre we were both like, WTF with these clues. And I was what, Nancy? LOL inside joke. I blathered on for hours with her.
Meanwhile there is a huge Sex and The City marathon on E! And I need a nap after such an emotional experience. Because, me having emotions is uncomfortable.
Also, out friend JustJenn is going through some shit AGAIN. None of it her fault and could use prayers from those praying types. And I hope she is going to get through it all. I’m probably going to take a nap, I am emotionally spent too.
Everyone needs friends that understand and are there no matter what to help ( even a dead rat lol) so great job Miss Nancy giving that to TT! Also all my thoughts and prayers for Just Jenn. Hope everything turns out well for you.
I’m very happy that Nancy helped you and you had so much insight. I will pray for JustJenn as she is one of my favorite regulars. And, at the risk of being booted, can I ask that you reach out to CherylABurke since you are self reflecting? I need her here. I love this space and we need each other. I haven’t seen her comment since the Brian Laundries post. Please!! ♥️
Done. I miss her too.
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So glad that you were able to get some things taken care of. Shout out to Nancy! Prayers for JustJenn. 🙏🏻
So happy you got some progress made at your house! Rat-B-Gone! You will probably sleep well tonight and Nancy will as well knowing she helped a good person. I am sure Nancy realized that a lot of your actions were based on embarrassment and not used to having someone be helpful and kind to you. Most of us would have done the same for you if we could. We love coming here, to a safe place to chat and moan and bitch. Love to you both! “And your little dog too!”
I am semi-bouncing on the bed in excitement for you.🎉
I am very upset about Jen. She has had the worst crap NO ONE should ever endure. 💔
I need to go walk the pugs.
My iPad worked for a few minutes today. Electric problem, not iPad problem.
I will check in later.
XOXOXOX to you and Banjo and Nancy
What a great friend!
Agreed. To travel all that way for helping a friend shows a lovely trait of care and empathy. Go Nancy for being an above and beyond friend, and go Tamara for accepting help and admitting she needed it. You’re very good people! Much love from the UK, Caryll x
“those praying types” LMAO. Nancy clearly loves you. I don’t watch Jeopardy because it makes me feel like the dumbest person on the planet. Meanwhile, my stepmom gets a lot of them correct. It’s her favorite game show. She is the kind of person who looks forward to having jury duty. And even though I don’t understand why she cares about things I don’t give a rat’s ass about, she’s very sweet.
We all need 8 hugs a day. It’s a cruel joke the universe plays on us hermits and introverts.
Best Jeopardy story ever. My father would watch the east coast airing and call my sister when she lived in San Diego with ridiculous answers to obtuse questions. She did this for a couple of years without telling her husband…genius!
From someone who feels less intelligent while watching jeopardy to another.
Hugs and kisses to you TT.
We had a shaky start, but in Tamara’s defense I arrived at NOON. AS IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT FOR TAMARA! We had a grand time once we got our groove. You did not tell the mouse/rat (I say mouse, Tamara says rat)😳) story correctly.
We decided to go into the “scary room” and whilst (Dorit) we were accessing the sitch Tamara looks down and it’s laying dead between her feet!! A blood curdling screams ensues, from us both. I tell you if we were auditioning for a horror flick, we would have had the job. Especially Tamara. Just sayin’.
It was a really cool experience. We checked some shizz off Ms. T’s list. We laughed, we definitely got each other for sure. At one point Tamara said “I cant believe this is happening!” It happened. Oddly we watched no Bravo! Really didn’t talk much Bravo either! It was pretty much a hangout with a longtime friend.
My memory is, I SCREAMED MY LUNGS OUT and she was like, oh look, IT’S A HOMOGUOUS DEAD RAT! Let me get rid of it for you.
And Yes, she had the nerve to wake me up at NOON. LOL. My days and nights are twisted. So let’s just say I was less than cordial. It takes me a few hours and a beer or three to be semi-polite. Also, no one comes in my house. So I went into complete panic mode and was like, “WHY ARE YOU TALKING TO ME!” and she was like, “Um, I was an invited guest in your house?”
Also, DID I MENTION SHE TOOK A GIGANTIC DEAD RAT OUT OF MY HOUSE?
I think you are genuinely really funny! You have a good friend in Nancy. Thanks for sharing this story. Everything is so full of fluff nowadays. This blog is a really neat community.
I agree!!! It is a great community. TT keeps it real, I really appreciate that.
I put a loooong comment in last night but it never posted! Suffice to say it was a good time. Things got done. And I still love Tamara!!
@Nancy and Tamara: these are the moments that make life beautiful. Hope you get what I’m trying to say 🙂
You are an amazingly kind person Nancy!
God love you Nancy for the rat removal and the TT rejuvenation. Little steps. TT you should be proud of being able to let someone into your lair.
It’s your anxiety TT you’re not a cunt, you’re human and an amazing one at that.
Prayers to just Jenn 💕🙏🏼 Life shouldn’t be this hard
I am just grateful I have you all.. I am really struggling right now.. and need you all. Thank you for allowing me to be a part of your family!
Nancy is amazing !
Sorry you are struggling. The last year and a half have been exhausting. Glad you’re here
Thank you ..
Millie is so nice because we all know you’re a ginormous cunt. xo
I’m actually shocked that you opened up and allowed someone to help you. That’s the biggest deal of the whole thing. Nice job, Nancy.
🙏🏻 To JustJenn
👍🏻 To Nancy in the Smokies
🐭 bye to the “rat”
🤗. To you Tamara.
Exactly my feelings 🙏🙏
also to @CherylABurke ❤️🙏
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Good for you Nancy! I’m considered a good friend but I don’t think I could have touched the dead rat! That truly goes above and beyond. Prayers for JustJenn and Millie. Hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving.
I love the mouse/rat discrepancy…lol…I have the same reactions with the ginormous roaches that grow down here in FL. Screaming allays the fear TT!
Nancy you are a rock star!
My prayers for Just Jenn.
Oh wow, you two have never met? That is amazing, two worlds colliding and doing good things! How about each of us takes a turn every month and goes to wake up Tamara and clean her house! TT, you would love that, right? lol
I am the person who will trap a live mouse in a bowl and bring it outside. Also though, when I was in college a live mouse jumped on my BED and I noped it out of that room for days.
I need more details of the “scary room”. five words or less.
Nancy, you are a gift, it was wonderful for you to go.
Hugs and prayers for Just Jenn, I wish there was something we could do.
Good job, Nancy.👏🏻
Best wishes, Jenn
Praying for Jenn, also I’m only an hour away and a purger. I’ve offered to come and I meant that offer. Never hesitate.
I sent you an email on the account you use here. Mine is tamaratattles on the gmail.
Such a wonderful thing for Nancy to do. But oh-so-hard to let people into your lair. It’s weirdly exhausting having someone in your space when you are accustomed to being alone. good for both of you. thanks for hugs reminder. we introverts forget. xo
I think we all need a Nancy in our lives! About the hugging, I had a family friend drop by today. Actually they went out of there way to visit us on there way home, a 13hr drive! Anyway I’m also not one for people and it felt good to get a hug again.
HA! I WAS LIKE, I need another hug. ….When I go to Thanksgiving or Christmas at my sisters, EVERYBODY hugs me. I didn’t think a thing about it. Until it did not happen
I’m so happy Nancy is there for you. I wish I had a Nancy.
Great job Nancy! Prayers for JustJen. I would have loved being a fly on the wall when the NYC harbor puppy was eradicated from your house. (NY has rats the size of dalmatian puppies)
I’m very glad TT opened up and let one of us mere mortals into her space. I’m totally down with the idea of us taking turns. Especially since she and I live in the same state. Hoping everyone had a good Thanksgiving. Sending hugs to everyone. 🤗🤗
Three cheers for decent humans!!! There is a nice collection of reality loving folks here, and the best is seeing support.
TT your awesome. So glad Nancy was able to support and as someone said – you were able to accept the offer.
We all need support.
What a great post!!
I just selfishly wish this was filmed, Like a diy, self recorded reality show!!
I’m sure it would be a huge hit!!
I am not a great ( and getting worse) about having extra people in my home, either.
Glad you got the rat removed & gat stuff done & all the hugs that you didn’t know you needed!!
I would love to host ANYONE who can help me purge & organize!!
I am great at helping other people, But tossing out my own/ kids old stuff kinda items, Is very hard!
And When The husband tries to help, He gets yelled at.. Soooo
Anyone interested in coming to Pa.🥴
Also, Warning, I have a 1yr old 75lb pitbull who loves everyone, But thinks he is the size of Guinea Pig. He will jump to kiss & hug you & will sit on your lap! Aka; he has no manners & we are bad dog parents for not making him have better manners!
Totally random but I saw Peter Thomas post he is opening another club in Miami and some sort of vacation business. Plus he has a home renovation going on with Apollo. Why is he always opening new businesses? At some point if you have stable income wouldn’t you want to relax. Maybe I am just crazy, and he is a great business man. Am I alone?
Part of me believes that Peter is one of those people who started a lot of businesses during the pandemic to get PPP “loans.”