When Luis D. Ortiz was on Million Dollar Listing New York, we were all rooting for him. He was a bit of a lost soul. The other realtors on the show would tease him like a little brother. Sometimes that seemed to aggravate him. He was struggling to grow his business. He always seemed to be searching for something. Romance maybe? At times I wondered if he was trying to understand his sexuality. Perhaps he missed his family? He seemed a bit depressed at times. Most of us here adored him and were really pulling for him to find some happiness.
And then, just when his real estate career was picking up, right as he was doing well, he quit. He walked away from his job and NYC and went to go “find himself.” He started looking for himself in Paris. Here is what he said before leaving:
“For the past couple of days all I can listen to is French music. All I can drink is French wine and all i can see are French films. Remember when I posted that I was in love with a dream that I haven’t live yet? Well that’s it. I am in love with a place I haven’t been to. I am in love with people I haven’t met and I am in love with a fantasy I haven’t lived yet! My business manager, who I love, tells me if I would risk what I have worked so hard for to start all over. I said that it is all a matter of perspective. Perhaps, I worked this hard to earn the ability to keep on moving forward. That’s what I mean when I say I’m a Happyholic! Its beautiful! I am the happiest man alive and the countdown begins tonight!”
“I can’t believe a month ago I decided to move to Paris and [today] it will actually happen. Always trust your gut! Don’t ignore it, or worst, convince it that is wrong. In 30 years, I can’t tell you a time when it has been. It has always been right! And you know yours has been too. Let’s go!”
Luis D. Ortiz Moves To Paris
He documented his journey on his Instagram. He did not find happiness in Paris at first. In fact, it seemed like he would not stick around there. His Instagram posts were full of depression. But, he eventually settled in. He got a really nice apartment that he wanted after having to wait for it to be available. He took acting classes, he’s was in a play, and he went to some very fancy private dinner parties in real Chateaus. He was there for a terrorist attack. He was living life. Also around this time, Fredrik went to Paris to celebrate his fortieth birthday. He and Luis got together and seemed really happy. Ryan Serhant and Steve Gold were also in Paris to celebrate Fredrik’s birthday. It seemed like a great time!
A couple of months later, Luis’s parents and other family showed up to visit with him in Paris. Then, flash forward a couple of years and Luis was back on the show! And he had a girlfriend and a baby on the way! Then, the sort of just disappeared from the show. Next we saw him on Instagram with a girlfriend and a baby girl. Again, he seemed happy, like he loved being a father.
Luis D. Ortiz Abandons His Family
But after only a few months, he walked out on his new family. He wanted to film a travel show. He just left and never came back. That was a really long time ago. Ryan Serhant mentioned that Luis’s travel show will be on Netflix. It premieres this Friday. The only post that has not been deleted from his Instagram is announcing the show. He says he gave up everything to make the show. That’s an understatement.
Which brings us to today. His baby’s mother, who moved to the UK with the baby after Luis disappeared has posted the following on Instagram. She is terrified that he is trying to kidnap the baby. The little girl appears to be about five years old now. Luis has been MIA for years.
This is HIGHLY disturbing. What is wrong with Luis?
I am reserving judgment as there may be more to the story. Perhaps the woman fled the jurisdiction of the Family Court having jurisdiction.
Until I know more, I have no reason to believe her gofundme request since she has a vested interest to present her side of whatever issue are going on.
I agree. They say there are two sides to every story. I will wait until I know all the facts are published.
Agree.
Agreed
Oh no. This isn’t good at all.
Oh no. I really liked him and was always rooting for him. He was cute as a button and very driven. Super intense. I hope the intensity isn’t being mistaken for sinister-ism. As a mom, I can see if she felt abandoned and was raising their daughter…found self-sufficiency…and then he is back in the picture all of a sudden, demanding to have his way. I hope for the best for all parties.
I agree with amarante. I’ll wait to see what happens. I hope what she’s saying isn’t true because I really like Luis.
I always thought he was facing issues about his sexuality.
I remember when he went mia which was odd, just to up and leave your child, no momentary help? Why now, to screw up his Netflix gig, I always wonder why people let stories drop just at the right time! How was she able to leave the country with the child? Is she a UK citizen and the kid is as well? Was he supporting her from afar this whole time? The guy always seemed anxious to me, so hopefully nothing bad will come to anyone and if Luis is proven to be a fit dad, he should have every right as her father. Ugh a GoFundMe, seriously!
If the child was born in the US she has US citizenship.
I believe every word. I follow her on IG and remember when he just disappeared one day to “go produce a TV show” and never looked back. That was YEARS ago. And there was no contact. He went from being an attentive, seemingly happy father for a few months to just disappearing.
As I started to read your post I was certain I’d read how Luis succeeded at suicide- was not expecting this. Still hoping he gets life together
I thought that he was admitted to a psych hospital, that was the news. He seemed particularly unstable in the past few years, and I remember being a little disturbed when he said he was having a baby. It was like he liked the IDEA but had no idea what being a parent was all about. Poor kid, is she already 5? i thought he and Ryan were expecting the babies around the same time.
The baby was born in 2019 so she’s not 5. She’s about the same age as Ryan’s baby.
Yeah I guessed at the age based on photos. But I doubt she was born in 2019. That would make her two. She looks much older than two.
Steve Gold, Ryan and Luis all had babies at around the same time. There was the episode where Luis returned with the baby and I think it was a baby related party and Steve announced the pregnancy.
If you click through to the site, the REALLY BEAUTIFUL little girl looks older than two to me. HOWEVER, Ryan’s twoish year old also looks older to me. https://www.instagram.com/p/CPyh6rOFKAq/ and I do remember them being born around the same time.
Either way, he ghosted them when she was a baby. It was just so weird to me because he seemed so happy. It sort of reminds me of how he left real estate right when his success was starting.
I hope Nikita is just sort of paranoid about the whole being followed thing. And, I don’t see how he could demand she bring the baby back to the US.
I am so glad that she shined a big, old, bright spotlight right on it now. So relieved for her that she did that.
No. That was MONTHS ago. He left in mid 2020. Not that that makes it any better but geez get your facts straight
Gee, I’m sorry I didn’t keep copious notes on some random baby mama of a little viewed Bravo show in anticipation of HIM deleting his entire account after the accusations were flying everywhere. I’m so sorry I failed you in this regard. I should have anticipated that the would eventually turn back up and make bizarre demands to the mother about where the child is allowed to live. I’ll do better next time.
Please take several seats next to Kat who is suddenly a child custody lawyer who has all sort of opinions on this situation as well. Y’all can be fast friends sitting in judgement.
And no, Kat, I do NOT need you to restate your opinion for the billionth time. We get it.
Nikita is not receiving any money from Luis, she stated that on IG. I had pegged him as a Narcissist and lived this same type of life filled with abuse for some years. He acted , said the same type of things as well as abuse as mine had done. He love bombed her, got her pregnant, promised her the world w/baby, verbally & mentally abused her, gaslighted her, then ghosted her and his baby! Classic Narc! I believe her because I saw it in him right off the bat! It’s all about him! He needs the supply, aka spotlight, on him, period. He’s a millionaire who lives a high lifestyle. So he can afford to take care of her and the baby no problem. Does not need to film a travel series which takes him away from the child he says he loves ! That’s how I see it with my intuition and facts seen and told. I maybe wrong, but I don’t think so , unfortunately. I wish her luck in keeping herself and child safe from any harm .
This just feels way too convenient for me, just as Luis’s show us about to premiere? And how do we know that he abandoned his girlfriend and child? Might he have simply been gone for periods of time due to filming the travel show?
I dunno. I’m going to reserve judgement until more information is available.
Believe women unless they are talking about a man we like? Wow! He is a wanderer, gets settled, gets happy, gets bored then leaves. That is his pattern. I am not saying donate to here GOFUNDME, but not one person is willing to give her the benefit of the doubt, sad.
Totally agree, Eve. I’ve been following this story for years. He goes somewhere, he leaves, he comes back. Now that his TV show is finally completed and sold, he suddenly remembers he has a kid. He hasn’t been in the US in years. He’s been trying out all the fanciest AirBnbs in the world with a couple of other people. She has never kept the kid from him. He has been traveling all over the world, it could have easily made a pitstop in the UK while he was there to see his kid.
This is not a mystery to be solved.
I do not think there is a single thing wrong with “reserving judgement” until there is more actual, factual information available. I think most people who are “reserving judgement” are doing just that. I think that is a basic human courtesy (and just plain common sense approach) that should be extended to any human being involved in a situation where we are only the outsiders looking in, with no real facts. It doesn’t mean that no one is “willing to give her the benefit of the doubt”; it simply means that until more facts are revealed, both people deserve the benefit of the doubt, and I’m not willing to try anyone in the court of public opinion.
What sort of other facts do you need exactly?
The same ones that many people here are stating they’d need before judging either party.
More than Instagrams and Go Fund Me pages. He took the mother and the baby to Puerto Rico to live for a time. What happened after that, and when. You say the mother also constantly traveled. Do we know for a fact that they weren’t ever together during all that travel? Do we know for a fact that he “abandoned” the child and never saw the child? Do we know for a fact really anything about his or her parenting (or lack of)? It also seems that “fitness as a parent” is already being judged based on mental health issues that he may or may not have under control- and that’s not cool.
It seems to be assumed that people who are not automatically “on her side” favor him because he’s on tv and liked. I really never liked him- I also thought something was off, and just found him to be “too much”. But I’m not going to judge a situation and assume that he’s abandoned the child for two years (making no effort to see her) based on Instagram and Go Fund Me.
If he’s made no effort to see this child, and is an unstable prick who has just come out of the woodwork looking to uproot her for his own selfish reasons, then I’ll join the chorus. I just don’t see anything posted here to warrant judgement yet (and it’s not because I’m googly-eyed over a “male tv star”- which someone else posted about those of us “reserving judgement”, and is a rather condescending position to take)
You can’t know any of these things you want to know….your asking for the woman’s lived experience. It’s unreasonable to hold her to that standard.
His televised behavior and choices are wacky and he’s constantly dropping one thing for another – past behavior predicts future
You say, “You can’t know any of these things you want to know….your asking for the woman’s lived experience. It’s unreasonable to hold her to that standard.” Really- why?
So are you saying that a judge should make a decision about a child’s future, and the rights of either parent, based on subjective online and television portrayals of an individual? Not people’s actual “lived experiences” as you say?
You are right- “past behavior predicts future behavior” (I watch Dr. Phil sometimes too, lol). That rather cliche statement is statistically true- if you KNOW a person and all the facts. Do you? Know these people well, and have all the facts? Have you done a deep forensic analysis?
I think it’s wild how you (and a few others) are judging those of us who are simply reserving judgement, and making insulting assumptions about us (one poster wrote that we are all enamored with a male tv personality, or some such nonsense). You wrote that I’m “shading” the woman- why- because I’d need more information before rendering judgement?
If you, or anyone here who has already made the decision that he’s a creep and she’s a victim (which he could well be and she could be- but for me, the operative word at this point is “could”) – if you were on trial for a murder you did not commit, but let’s say, you had some shady things in your past (like assault, or something like that). But- you did not commit the murder.
Let me ask you- would you want people like me on your jury- who truly reserved judgement until all pertinent facts are revealed (which is all I was doing, before you and others decided to make judgements and go after those of us with that opinion), or, would you want someone who has already decided to side with the victim, and who believes past behavior ALWAYS predicts future?
It’s a very interesting dynamic going on here…
But your judging her….so your not reserving any judgment – your judgement is that she’s being shady and he’s ok.
You are assuming that I am judging her. Where do you see anything written in my post that judges her? Asking questions (before judgement) is judging? These are all questions (and more) that any judge worth their salt would ask before making a decision. Instagram and Go Fund Me are not credible sources- people can portray anything they want. How are those sources in any way objective? I’m not judging her- I just don’t operate on blind faith, based on sketchy, online sources where people (him OR her) can choose to portray any image they choose.
Do you know either of them enough to know, with certainty, what really occurred? Asking reasonable questions is not judging. I actually never liked the guy that much, so I’m not sure where you see that I’m “shading” her. By asking questions that aren’t answered yet? Wow.
Unless we were in a court of law, there is no way that any of us can know the facts based on what is online. Yes, he has exhibited unstable behavior (from what was shown on tv) in the past. She is an unknown figure. IF I were a judge in the situation, all I (and the other here who are reserving judgement until more details are known) are saying is- subjective online sources would not be enough “facts” to decide the case.
The truth is, for some reason, you and the others who have already decided that she must be believed, based of what you’ve read online (cuz, you know, we all should believe what we read on the internet, right?), have already judged the situation. And you are judging those of us who are reserving judgement. Go figure.
You’re not wrong. He’s always been a bit off. Nice, but tooooo nice. Too schmoozy. People who are overtly happy and enthusiastic to the maximum are usually complete sociopaths.
Aren’t the majority of people on Bravo psychopaths?!
Couldn’t agree more! We need to give HER (the alleged victim) the benefit of the doubt. If she is lying, she will be dealt with. If she is telling the truth, then her life is possibly in danger. Luis was adorable on MDLNY, but he was prone to extreme emotion, sometime irrational.
I am With you!!! The dude sounds like he’s a mess….and she has been raising the child. Plus – he didn’t marry her so parental rights are very different. I go with believer her until otherwise noted!!
Here’s my opinion…we do not know either person personally. There are always two sides to everything. Who knows…she actually might be the unstable one who kept him from seeing his child then left the country without his consent. As outsiders, we need to tread lightly because we do not know the real truth. Just because either person posts this or that is no reason to believe either person. Who knows which is unstable. Maybe both are unstable and an outside party needs to intervene on the child’s behalf. Things aren’t always what they seem and the person screaming the loudest is usually the instigator.
My first reaction to this is bipolar disease, or some type of personality disorder. Just a personal reaction as I don’t know the man. He seems to ride high-highs and low-lows, which may explain how he walks out on a child, Most important thing is the child’s welfare. God bless her – and her parents.
I agree with you. When he was on the show, I always felt he had a possibly undiagnosed mood disorder and bipolar disorder was what it seemed like. People with bipolar disorder experiencing a manic episode will leave their families at the drop of a dime. Low-lows and high-highs is what I felt they showed with him.
Bless him if he is dealing with this undiagnosed or unmanaged illness. It is destructive to an Nth degree and hurts not only the person who is ill, but those that love them. I can understand why the child’s mother would be fearful of him. It is scary.
ITA and was going to state the same thing. I think he might be bi-polar or something similar. Noone just up and leaves their family like that. What does his family have to say about this and I thought he had an identical twin brother.
He does have a twin brother. I’m not sure if he is identical or not.
Why would he wait years then to try anything legally? It’s not like he’s poor and has no connections. If the mother is unstable and just took off with the baby and refused to let him see her, why would he wait five years to address the situation?
This sort of sounds like he decided he wanted to travel so he left his new family when the daughter was just a baby to film the travel show and then he stayed gone and continued to travel some more. Now he’s over that and decided he wants to be in NYC and try and play family man again, so he’s demanding mother and baby come to him. He has a habit of making impulsive huge life decisions. From wherever he started, to being a NYC realtor, to throwing it all away to go live in Paris suddenly, to deciding he actually wanted to go back to the show in NY and settle down and have a baby, to deciding he wanted to travel for years and film a travel show, and now that he’s done with that he’s back to wanting to be in NYC and having his family back. It’s like he just decides on something and then everyone else needs to accommodate him. He wanted to do a travel show so he just left his GFand baby to deal with it, for years. Now he wants to be back in NY and pick up where he left off so he’s summoning the gf and baby back even though she doesn’t want to be with him.
If it’s just about seeing and spending time with his daughter, why not live in the UK where the daughter and her mother are? Or at least visit in the UK? It’s not like he can’t afford to relocate or travel. And it’s not like he’s never lived outside of NY so traveling or moving would be completely foreign to him. But no, he wants to be in NY and he wants to be Dad now, so he’s trying to make the baby and her mom come to him. It just seems like such a weird way to go about it if it’s really just about wanting to spend more time with his daughter and not about wanting to control the GF and make her play family with him.
I usually like to reserve judgement also but he does have a pattern of just up and leaving. If this is true, I pray for the child and mom. The world does not need another child screwed up by an erratic parent.
So I did a deep dive on Nikita’s IG and she has traveled EXTENSIVELY for years. Like dozens of exotic trips a year. So I’m not sure why she needs a Go Fund Me asking for 100,000 pounds. She seems financially fine. She needs to get legal advice.
Because she’s broke from extensive traveling? Haha.
She doesn’t look broke on IG, she has photos of a very fancy restaurant, the little girl is immaculately dressed, they seem to live in a nice home. She says she has asked the UK government for help. I’m interested to see what they will do if anything. The fact that they could be asked at all indicates she is either a UK citizen are legal resident. I wish I would have documented the dates of when he took off. It seems like a really long time ago to me. Like before the pandemic. Because Luis has wiped his IG, it’s are to get an accurate timeline. Nikita seems to have removed all traces of Luis on her IG as well although I didn’t go back that far.
We can’t link or reference specific sources here (I think), but a major network’s webpage (which might be the one that hosts a show Luis was on 😄), had posted on 6/15/20 that Luis, Nikita and Leela had just moved back to New York, after spending the prior year with their child in Puerto Rico.
If that article is to be believed, then it would have been within the past year that he left, unless he had also left them while they were in Puerto Rico?
Yes I agree this sounds like bipolar or another personality disorder. Super focused on one thing then suddenly does a 180. Always searching, grandiose behavior. Yikes. Tamara’s context of following the story and the mom is crucial here otherwise I’d be more skeptical.
Luis was always my least favorite one the show. I found him to very harsh in his judgement of Ryan and Frederik. Yes the were sharks at work but it’s obvious they are devoted husbands and fathers. Meanwhile Luis was always sad pretending to be happy and running. He is very lost and confused. I feel bad for the mother of the child bc she is now stuck dealing with Luis and his moods and good guy persona bc of their child.
2 sides to every story. He’s claiming she kidnapped the child. This is messy. I’m not getting involved.
But she’s been with the baby in the U.K. for years. The longest the child has ever lived in one place, she says. So if she kidnapped the girl as a baby and moved to the U.K. with her years ago, why is he just now trying to get the mom and child back to NY? He spent years traveling around, filming shows and such after his GF kidnapped their daughter? He didn’t file anything earlier or settle himself in the U.K. so he could be close by to work on getting the baby back? Why wait so long to do something if she truly just took off with the baby? And I guess I don’t know how she could kidnap the baby if he was already gone and had left them?
If some unpredictable guy with a penchant for wandering off, left me in a different country with no familial support, I might try to find a more suitable place to settle down and raise a child as well. And yes, that might mean trying out different places to find the right place. Apparently, she found the UK suitable and they have stayed there. Why did he not claim she kidnapped the kid when she actually left NYC?
This is messy, but it is up to him to adjust and parent his daughter, not for her to be uprooted again while there is still a pandemic happening.
The baby is only two, she hasn’t been in the UK for years.
Exactly.
I watched Ryan Serhant last night on WWHL. When asked who he felt was his stiffest competition from among the MDL people, he said Luis.
He also brought up the show about the Air BnB. It SEEMED as though he and Luis were in touch. And it seemed as if they were in touch. Ryan did not seem to have any concern for Luis’ safety.
I agree too, and as I’m reading so many of the comments (all up until the one), I was getting very upset and hearing her words “no one wants to get involved”. Fuck him. I don’t care what HE wants. It is documented what he has done. Who does he think he think he is that the fucking works revolves around him? Who deserves to have to live at the whim of someone like this? This woman (and the child) can never have a stable life because of a proven unstable man (physically in the very least, but who does what he has without being unstable in other areas)?
This makes me really angry, him with his money.
What does she want the public to do though? Has she posted a GoFundMe to help with legal bills?
Sorry for the typos. I was feeling some sort of way and swyping too fast apparently.
This comment was *supposed* to go under Eve’s comment.
I can see that I’m going to be having posting issues again on this site, because that’s definitely where I typed it. (This happened to me all the time for a while there but I thought it was behind me).
Thank you for vocalizing my thoughts. I was so disappointed with the “reserving judgment” while judging her comments.
OK, so I just googled all this (wanted to see if there was anything beyond Instagram, where there were claims from some fans that he had abandoned his daughter). It seems that as of one year ago (June 2020), he had moved back to New York with Leela and Nikita, after they had lived in Puerto Rico for the previous year.
Also, Linked In shows Nikita Singh (the picture on the Linked In is her) as being connected to a production company based in New York, from 2008-present ( although she was educated in England and may have family there).
So I guess part of the questions I have are- exactly when did Luis abandon his daughter and her mother? It had to be within the last year, since they had just moved back to New York this time last year.
Did he literally abandon them, or go off to make the Netflix thing (as many people in those industries, even those with families, do for periods of time), but did he still see the child and go back and forth (or were the mother and child with him at any of the locations filmed for Netflix for any of the last year?). Or, did he just up and leave for the last year with zero attempts to contact them (as Nikita states)?
When did Nikita move to England within the past year (after this time last year, when she was living in New York)?
There seems to be an assumption on the part of some Insta followers that, because he stopped posting pictures of the child on Instagram, that he had abandoned her. Which may be true, but there may have been things we don’t know.
All I’m saying is that while Nikita’s claims may be 1000% valid about Luis, if I were a judge, I’d need a heck of a lot more facts, details, and to know exactly “who was where when and for how long”, because in any child custody situation, both sides can get real ugly, real fast, and people will use whatever ammunition they have.
Very well said! I completely agree. When a child custody issue is at stake everyone comes out with their claws bared. I think that on the reverse, it speaks volumes that Luis has been silent on social media about this…perhaps even more about HIS mental stability. Usually the one who ‘smelt it, dealt it’. The public will never know the truth because no one really knows what goes on behind closed doors…maybe she’s the one attempting to extort money from him. There are two sides to every story…and Luis is radio silent. Maybe that speaks to his stability instead of instability…who knows?
Agreed!!
I didn’t think anything of it until around Christmas there had been notice on Nikitas Instagram that Luis hadn’t been in contact and ghosted them for months. There was also another woman who commented the same thing happened. Now wouldn’t Luis maybe comment that he face timed is little girl? Nikita didn’t post as much as Luis but there was maybe one comment he made early on about one of Leelas pictures and then nothing. His Instagram was filled with pictures of him traveling for his dumbass Netflix show and playing guitar like he was John Lennon. Then he scrubbed it until his lame ass show was coming out. Luis would have made a comment here and there about his little girl over the months even if he was busy. You make time. I know there’s two sides but I believe Nikita. Luis is trying to blame victim. He must have money for him to take off and leave for Paris. Shame on Fredrick and Ryan if they support his nonsense.
Unpopular opinion: This doesn’t surprise me. I mean the abuse, yes but the fleeing and abandoning their child, no. How many times did Luis run way or disappear on MDLNY?’ He seems as if he gets bored or in a position where he is unfulfilled.
She has no reason to lie in my opinion.
THIS.
There are 2 sides to the story. If Luis has to travel for work does that mean he abandoned his family? I don’t think so. His baby mom left the US and moved to the UK. To me, that sounds like she abandoned him. He has 2 options, 1 he can travel to the UK every weekend to see his daughter or he can take her to court. What if your spouse just left the US with your child. What would you? The only way he can force her to move back is to claim she kidnap his child. The Netflix show is completed, so I don’t see why she doesn’t move back to the US so that they can co-parent their baby. That seems fair to me. 50/50 time. Her reaction to his lawsuit sounds like a defense tactic that lawyers recommend to protect herself from moving back. I recommend that she move to the same state where Luis lives as he properly has many business deals on the table. He cant fly every weekend to the UK. He deals with million-dollar deals he needs to be present. Luis is also a very loving person. That is his nature based on watching how he acts on million-dollar listings. He wears his emotions on his sleeve. I seriously doubt he would abandon his child. That is not in his nature. He exemplifies love. He must be crazy in love with his daughter. She makes claims that Luis has ghosted them. I find that hard to believe. I think she has ghosted him so that she doesn’t have to move back to the US. It makes more sense to me, considering she moved to the UK. He is just doing his due diligence to make her move back. That does not sound like he is ghosting them. That sounds like he is fighting to get her daughter back. Good luck, Luis.
LOL. You have no idea what you are talking about.
None of us do, really. Since some of us put ourselves in the position of a judge in a court of law when we’re discussing topics on this site, does anybody really have enough facts to decide what is right and wrong in this case?
Strong opinions based on what’s shown on the internet and tv- yes, we have those. And if I suddenly was forced to bet my life on this issue, my “opinion” at this point, based on internet “facts”- which are rarely the whole story, I’d have to say that based on his past portrayal on tv- that, yes, he is probably “guilty as charged”, That said, if I were a judge in court (which some people pretend to be here on certain topics), I would never decide a family’s future based on tv and internet portrayals of people.
I think most of the “reserving judgement” people here are coming from that point of view (putting ourselves in the shoes of a judge, even though of course we’re only pretending, lol).
Why is only one opinion the “right” one here- and those reserving judgement are being judged? Hypothetical question not requiring an answer- this is just a very interesting dynamic.
Because some of us have been following the girlfriend since they had the baby. So we believed her back then when he ghosted her and the baby. That’s not just something you say on the Internet for no reason.
Just like pregnant Dani says the father wants nothing to do with her baby. You believe her, right?
I’ve simply been trying to make the distinction between verifiable facts and opinion. People say things on the internet all the time, for many different reasons. People accepting what somebody says on the internet and forming opinions based on what somebody says is still opinion, not proven fact (until verified through a forensic process, which is at least what is attempted in court cases involving children, although even forensic interviews can be imperfect).
Nobody is saying that people should not have opinions because they have followed somebody on the internet. I am simply saying that it is opinion. Even those who have said they have been following this person have been incorrect about the child’s age and some other details.
My “opinion” at this time is that Nikita is likely telling the truth. But it would be incorrect for me to say that my “opinion” is an indisputable fact, unless it was much more objectively verified.
“Reserving judgement”, to me, means that even though I have an opinion on the matter, based on internet and tv and what the woman says, it would be inaccurate and grandiose for me to claim my opinion as fact, unless there was forensic evidence to back it up.
Having had direct experience for many years with several good friends going through custody battles, I can tell you that even people that I love and respect have been willing to lie and severely twist the truth in order to win, because nothing brings out deeper, more passionate feelings in a mother than a child. Having been very, very close to these situations, and seeing what even my dear friends were transformed into during the period when they were engaged in the custody battle, and knowing how they outright lied about the other parent (which they actually admitted to later and were very remorseful, because ultimately, it’s the child who is damaged), I know better than to ever claim that one person’s perspective stated on social media (or anywhere) can ever be labeled “fact”.
My “opinion” at this time is actually the same as yours, and others here about Luis and the situation. But it’s just that, an opinion. I’m not going to ever claim that my opinions are facts, and I stand by the position that final judgement in serious situations like this involving children (or anything where the stakes are high) should always be based upon objectively verifiable facts.
If we’re trying to think like a judge. I would think it would be hard to force the mother to move back to the U.S. with the child since it seems the child has never been established in one place. If Luis has been traveling extensively for the past year and was living with mother and child in a completely different country prior to that, what reason would a judge have to say the child has to reside in the U.S. simply because that is where the father is currently choosing to live? I have seen judges rule that a child can’t be moved on a parents whim because of the child’s life being uprooted, but in this case, the child doesn’t seem to have lived in one place long enough to be rooted, so I don’t see why the mother should be the one forced to move. I may be completely wrong here, but what happens if the mother is forced to move to the U.S. with the child and then dad decides to go “work” out of the country again? The mom just has to stay in a place she didn’t want to live? It’s not as though that is the job the father HAS to have, that is his choice, so if that’s the lifestyle he want then so be it, but in that case he should understand he has to work around his daughter’s life, not the other way around. Seems selfish.
Very interesting. The man does seem to be a manic depressive or something. Too happy, and then depressed and suicidal? These seem to be established facts. Therefore, he deserves some sympathy, because he is going through stuff, and is not alright. On the other hand, his being very wealthy can indeed enable him to pursue the lady with lawyers, so that part of her complaint may be true. And the whole shtick of smiling, polished, wealthy, upbeat success is certainly offensive, but it seems to be something he is trapped in: filmmaking, high-priced real estate, high-priced rentals, high-priced boats, etc. Sometimes the pressure to show that you are a big success and keep that smile on your face may become too much.
I don’t know that he has much money at all. It seems to me like he goes on large spending sprees during his manic periods. Also, the child’s mother state he physically and emotionally abused her. She says he spit on her, bruised her and verbally abused her.
Certainly anyone suffering from an illness or disorder (as it seems from footage shown on the show he participated in) deserves empathy and compassion. No illness or disorder, however, gives anyone the right to be abusive to anyone else.
I believe her and I have compassion for her experience, too. It does seem like he suffers from a mood disorder – bipolar quickly comes to mind, but I’m not a medical expert.
I do recognize the ups and downs he’s exhibited openly and though both the deep depressive episodes and manic episodes can be destructive in a person with bipolar, an episode of mania and psychosis can turn a person into a ruthless abuser. I believe her 100%. I hope they both get help.
Well said.