It’s a dark and stormy day in Georgia. Thunder and lightning, Tornados here and there. Banjo is stuck inside and I may lose power before Below Deck Sailing Yacht airs. I had a really great conversation with a friend yesterday and I WAY overshared. lol. On of the things I said was that my whole life I get in trouble for saying the wrong thing or being misunderstood about what I say. People tend to take things in a way that I did not intend. So I thought it would be sort of therapeutic for me if I y’all could share things that you think but would never say. I’m interested to see how things go.
So tell me something you think but you know you should never say. Tell us a secret. If it is “YOU SUCK” you will NOT be banned. lol I just got another severe thunderstorm warning as I am typing so if I am not around for a bit that is why. Trying to post quickly just in case.
I AM BEGGING YOU PLEASE DO NOT ARGUE OR SAY ANYTHING NEGATIVE ABOUT OTHERS COMMENTS IN THIS THREAD. FIND A NICE WAY TO SAY IT OR JUST OBSERVE. THIS IS NOT A THREAD ABOUT POLITICS. BUT IT COMES OUT THAT WAY. LET’S TALK KINDLY TO EACH OTHER.
Oh, wait. Do I need to get this party started?
I was just on the phone with my phone company. The phone company operator tried to scam me. I was just calling about a SIM card replacement that they are recommending. Instead, the operator was operating in a different way: She tried to upsell me on other shit!
I think I caught her in time. Still, it’s annoying as fuck. It’s even more infuriating to think that even someone like me, someone who thinks one’s prepared for tough situations, is still vulnerable to this kind of scamming.
It’s even worse that this is happening when lots of people still are freaked out over the coronavirus.
When I get the Social,Security calls or the “fill in the blank” recall calls, I love pretending to be the scared senior or the starry-eyed student and when the “expert” comes on the line, I SCREAM “D’iu ne loh moh!”
In other things I should not say. … I like to be the smartest person in the room so Nanette who is my very good friend irritates me sometimes because she knows fucking everything. I find myself irritated a lot. This is still a no judgement zone, right? I also feel like when she helps me with stuff, She doesn’t really listen to me. She’s the boss and I am the garbage collector. She does a lot of great things for me, for example she runs my IG because I have no cell phone. I am the last hold out. She is very sweet to me and sent me presents at I guess it was Christmas. It’s not her it is me. I am not the smartest person in the room when she is in it. And that makes me feel some kind of way.
Oh I should probably admit that I almost bought health insurance because “Rico Suave” tried to sell me a bag of goods. I was right up to sending money until I checked out the company. This is Jen Shah kind of criminal. So no health insurance for me. Kaiser wants about half of my income before anything is covered.
Ok I can’t resist. I don’t know your age and you can tell me to butt out, but how old are you and did you pay into social security or just school retirement plans? You might want to contact Medicare if eligible or your state department of insurance to find out what you qualify for.
I sold health insurance for over 29 years and know there is affordable health care in your future.
Don’t get me started. I just lost my health insurance and I could cry when I see the plans on the GA marketplace and how much I have to pay before anything is covered. Has anyone used sidecar health? I am thinking of trying it out.
A really helpful website for healthcare with the name “sherpa” in it was a big boon to my husband and me. We found an ACA policy with this tool that we can actually afford. Deductible is huge, but the monthly is affordable. Good luck!
Hope I am not violating commenting rules!
At the risk of being tarred and feathered…here goes…I will NEVER allow a foreign substance to be injected into my body. It’s MY body…MY choice. I AM NOT responsible for you or anyone else’s health except my own. What happened to all those actors that paraded through the streets wearing vagina hats screaming ‘My body, my choice’ not too long ago?!? You will never be sitting at my death bed holding my hand as I die nor will I be at yours. So, in the meantime…butt out and mind your own business! My body, my choice. I have a healthy immune system that God gave me that is in great working order. A coerced choice does NOT reflect virtue, only compliance. They won’t stop putting us on lockdown and mandating masks until we decide that WE WILL NO LONGER COMPLY. When the government fears the people, there is LIBERTY. When people fear the government, there is TYRANNY. Don’t get your panties in a twist. I’m NOT Anti Vax. I am PRO choice. There…said it.
Thanks for sharing Mary. This is a no judgement forum. It is your body and it is you choice and I UNDERSTAND. I understand more than you know because I have a niece that was FUCKED UP FOR LIFE by a childhood vaccine. It was the doctor’s fault she got the first DPT shot and had a really bad reaction. It was the largest out of court settlement in the country at the time and on 20/20.
It is your body and your YOUR CHOICE. Despite all of that, and I NEVER take the flu shot, they never have the right antibodies IN MY OPINON. Take them if you want to.
But No one needs to say anything negative to Mary. I am with here 1000 percent. It is her body and he choice. I would like it though Mary if you could wear a mask for me. I still think that is very important and so many people who wore masks through cold and flu season want to wear them every winter now. But, my dear Mary, as always it is your body you choice. I TOTALLY AGREE. But wearing a mask at least at the grocery store where we all have to go. Thanks for being real with us.
TT, thank you for your perfectly perfect and reasonable response. You stopped me from going into my “there’s a reason for the word “public” in the term “public health” diatribe, when it comes to diseases we can transmit to each other” lecture. Thanks again for saving me from myself, and I can often tell on this site that you’ve had lots of experience managing kids in classrooms and preventing “fights” before they start.😊
Thank you Mary. I’m just going to wait a bit and see what happens to the people that took the vaccine before I take it. I just have trust issues with everyone and everything. I will continue wearing my mask in public as I want us all to be healthy! Bonus for everyone that can’t see my awkward smiles!
StubbyG, I’ve had both shots and had zero reaction to them. But I’ve heard of people who had a bad reaction to the 2nd shot. Everyone has a different system, some people have bad experiences with the flu and pneumonia shots and once again I’ve never had a bad reaction. I don’t know if this means anything to you, but I thought I would share😁
I had a 2-1/2 day nasty reaction to the 2nd shot, but would still take it again for the protection of myself & others. Fly boy had no reaction to the same injection. We are still being very careful, even though innoculated.
here in france some people (very few, but still) that got both shots got sick and ended up in IC. my mother and her father died from trombose complications, so i would rather keep my mask on and possibly wait before getting any shot, we have not enough information on how a vaccine protects us and for how long, what side effects can appear, if it will protect enough against new variants. i am happy that a lot of people do have the shots with little or less side effects. i need some more time, hopefully i am part of a minority, we all need to be able to go back to some kind of social life. i do think we won’t go back to how we lived before the pandemic. i agree if the people are afraid of government it limits our freedom(s) considerably.
i started work again and my collegue somehow got demoted and is taking it out on me, i usually don’t do drama at work but i will get sucked in, i have nothing to do with his situation but somehow i became his scapegoat, if they fire me so be it is my attitude but with the pandemic i have less energy so i will suffer some of the drama ugh. take care all.
I felt the exact same way. I had COVID in the fall with no major issues although I temporarily lost my sense of taste and smell. But a friend had it and hasn’t regained her senses. She’s miserable and it’s been 7 months. I decided I’m getting the vaccine.
I got my first shop and get 2nd one Sat. Only doing it because my SIL worries about me and my health so much that she made me feel guilty. My husband and daughter refuse to take a vaccine developed in only one year. My daughter said, yeah Ma, get it. You’re old, so what if you develop a tail. The same brat that gave me a beautifully wrapped bottle of Centrum Silver on my 50th. Almost peed my pants I laughed so hard.
Whoever told you anyone needed to fear anyone in a governmental situation?
No judgment at all. I’m more at risk for being tarred and feathered because I traveled while I had Covid. I didn’t know it at the time. I was super safe previously and never had a fever so I passed all the checks when I went out of town. I just thought I had a seasonal cold and was going to power through it. That being said, I don’t plan on getting the vaccine which I know is an unpopular opinion. My baby daddy/ life partner had to get the vaccine for work and was out of commission for a few days. He got the j&j and looked like he had a tumor growing out of his shoulder. He got super sick after getting it. I’m all about people getting the vaccine if that will help us get back to normal but I don’t want to be forced into it
One of the things that’s such a conundrum about Covid is that our first exposure to the virus is not necessarily as children. If we got vaccinated as children and kept up with recommended boosters, then as adults we do not have to worry about deadly diseases such as tetanus, smallpox, or polio.
The public health concept behind this is that it is far better to be vaccinated than to be exposed to a serious disease or virus for the first time as a child. With Covid, we’re all first-timers, and that scares me a lot because it’s much harder on older people than children–at least from what we have seen so far. That’s one of the reasons why I could get very, very sick; permanently disabled; or die from it.
I feel safer knowing that the Covid vaccines were developed by or with regulated, private companies that share their methods and scienfically prove the efficacy of their products. The vaccines will continue to be monitored for side effects, and the evidence so far is that that some of them are even more effective than we thought. Not all vaccines for Covid have been approved, which also makes me feel safer, knowing that this is a deliberate process.
I’m grateful that so many choices of vaccines were approved for emergency use, because we are in a terrible emergency. I preferred the side effects of the Moderna vaccine than risking a serious case of Covid.
I hope we can get ahead of this disease and I hope we can learn a lot from how it progressed and how we handled it, because I hope we can be even better protected if the next one comes.
Hi, Mary. What causes you to consider this something you can *think* to yourself, but not say out loud?
I yelled at the pharmacy tech at Walgreens. I told them to get it together because things have been a mess there constantly lately. Then I called and apologized to her. It had been a day of disaster and I hit my peak. I hope she did accept my apology. She said she did. Got my 2nd Moderna vaccine today and then when I got home, I got my period so I am again a giant crab. But I feel very fortunate to have gotten both. I cry over what is going on in India.
Jesus. I do not miss PMS. But I feel like I have it lately. I do not know what is wrong with me.
And I am 50 so have peri menopause which makes me a beast. And even though I have not been happy with recent events in my state (MN), there is a 90 percent chance we will have to move to WI to take care of my MIL very soon. It is a lot!
It is sad that the United States continues to propagate the fear agenda especially when it comes to third world countries like India. I am quite sure that people are sick…who isn’t in a 3rd-world country. However, if you check the images that the media has been featuring and do a search, you will notice that some of them are pictures that were used during the Bhopal Gas Tragedy that happened in December, 1984. Just saying…not trying to dis India. It is a sad state of affairs when it comes to India. Just sick of the United States pushing fear.
I guess I disagree that the US is using India to try to push fear. Just as you have your have your reasons for not getting one, I have my reasons for getting one. I have no desire to have any conversation with you on this topic, Mary.
Dawn, thank you for being respectful THIS IS A NO JUDGEMENT ZONE!
Again thanks for sharing Mary. I am sure there are pictures on Twitter or other social media that are fear mongering.
I love Twitter but I see all the nonsense. I am sure some of the photos idiots on Twitter are wrong they always are.
I would like to propose the possibility to you that we are in a pandemic and vaccinations are the way out. You don’t have to because your body your choice and I get that. But can you at least you hope the rest of us get vacinated?
Exactly. And I felt Mary was sort of judging. I have NO time for that.
I agree Dawnmammer. I’m Indian and I can tell you right now, whatever we are seeing is STILL not representative of the real situation in India by any accounts.
It’s a sad and awful state of affairs and the country is being brought down my a horrible nationalist racist party who only want to stay in power. At the cost of people’s lives.
There is no free speech or media left, everyone is either bribed, too scared or threatened to STFU.
Yes, some images on Twitter are being recirculated from previous events but still doesn’t undermine what is happening right now.
Sorry for the long post TT, long long time lurker!
I like to assume that during any major global “catastrophe, issue”. Most if not all Goverments will fuck it up. Its just a matter of degrees at any given time. You can only truly control yourself, and nobody is promised tomorrow. I just try, n try again to not be the asshole. Shrug
I work for a very large global firm and have lots of co-workers in India, it is bad over there. That being said I do think US media (both sides of the spectrum) push an agenda of fear, but not of all of it is inaccurate.
“You are entitled to your opinion. But you are not entitled to your own facts.”
― Daniel Patrick Moynihan
But what about “Alternative Facts”? 😉
Wow, that’s outrageous! Have you seen a media report that is using photos from Bhopal and reprsenting them as current and related to Covid?
Agree. Tired of the government wanting to parent me. Lying their asses off whenever “they” think it serves their purposes. Jackasses. I was never fearful of Covid. My SIL is about 20 years younger than my brother, and she worries herself to distraction that he may get sick. Then she remembered I’m 4 years younger than he is, so she now worries about me too! I love her but she worries too much.
I don’t know which sites you’re getting your info about Inida but it is bad over there. I personally know people who are from that region and they are the affluent ones saying this.
I wish I could tell my COO that he is OBLIVIOUS to what staff need and want to hear. And that we all think he LOVES the sound of his own warbly voice. Just wanna slap him upside the head….verbally.
This is how I felt about Almost every principal I’ve ever had. I know I told this story before but I was called in to the principal’s office for a parent letter We were required to send home letters about what we were teaching each week, Mine said, “In science we are learning about the animal kingdom our favorite so for is Insects!” or some such
My Principal called me into the office and said I am an embarrassment over my parent letter and am exactly the reason that he reviews them.
So I often say the wrong thing in the wrong way so I was all read to apologize for whatever I did now. Then he screamed at me INSECTS ARE NOT ANIMALS. Your letter would EMBARRASS THE WHOLE SCHOOL. I . Am. Not. Making. This. Up.
Because he basically went home when the bell rang and I still had hours of work to do, I put th Big Book I was required to teach on his desk open to the part where it said, ” Insects are the LARGEST GROUPS OF ANIMALS ON THE PLANET”
Somehow everywhere I worked for others, I was seen as a know it all. Because you know, basic SECOND GRADER KNOWLEDGE. And because the Admins HATED ME when the precious scores came in my kids were always the highest testers. And my BFF in every job was “special ed” kids. Because I was the Time out place for all the “bad kids” until the regular class teachers wanted to stop sending kids to me because the acted up on purpose to time out in my class. I gave the journals and crayons and told them to write or draw their feelings.
This was also an issue, the school psychologist complained because I was referring too many people while she was trying to plan her daughters wedding. Again. I AM NOT MAKING THIS UP. I had one particularly abused child who was out of area, and it ended up that someone at her school had contacted CPS. So once that was determined my principal actually allowed me to hug her goodbye. I was devastated. Shortly after that he too, and he was a good principal my first year wanted me gone. So I had no choice but to go. I gave all my stuff to the SPED teachers and continue to fund them on donorschoose.org where you can find a teacher in your town who needs help.
your an empathic person TT and that’s where your intelligence is. people that have an intellectual intelligence will never fully understand the meaning of your words because you use words to express your feelings, most people don’t, hence the misunderstandings and sometimes drama. that is why you are especially great with kids they get your empathy. you shower your site with it too and it’s a beautyful thing a lot of us appreciate. i guess on twitter you might have haters lol but who doesn’t. take care.
sorry had a bad day at work and needed to write something positive if that’s ok.
And also MzBossyPantz I wish I had more of your ability to just let it go and go home and tell the husband I do not have what a shitty day I had. I can tell you that if you stand up for what is right you will either be iced out and quit or be fired. Look for another job. THEN say your piece.
Oh, HUNNY! I want to tell the next jerk who addresses his comments to someone 6 rungs below me on the food chain about a project that I developed to go get bent.
I think I will.The time before last that I saw him he was busy trying to impose Christianity on me (bless you! Bless you for bringing us in! I’d like to saw a prayer for this!). I told him know, that I am not Christian and didn’t participate. GAHHHHHH I hate NW Florida, home to Matt Gaetz.
That’s all for now, thank you 🙂
good for you! religion is not for everyone! I love religion. When I go to Paris I sit in old churches and have an overwhelming desire to cry and I do at the wonder of it all. I love the peace growing up listening to the Muslim call to prayer. I don’t listen to music much but there is a song somewhere called something like Mr Jones and me that has a line that says…. I want to be someone who believes. And I pray sometimes for others, But… perhaps the thing I need to say outloud is I don’t really believe in God. Wow. That was kind of a big one. I think we probably just die and rot.
You don’t have to believe in God or a higher power. It’s a personal choice & if people think less of you because of it they are not being very kind or compassionate. I truly believe & pray for others all the time but don’t think that makes me a better or more spiritually evolved person. The most important thing to remember is GOD BELIEVES IN YOU & eventually you may come to believe in him. Until they keep praying for others being a kind & compassionate person & try to uplift others regardless of their religious or non religious persuasions. True faith in God is an evolution not a doctrine.
xo Marc ♥️🙏😘
I think some babies and kids are just not cute. Not just strangers kids but even some in my family. Of course, I’ll never say it but thank God there are no mind readers around me.
I feel seen.
I agree with you on that. Husbands niece had a baby girl and God love her she is butt ugly. Features similar to a bulldog. But in the interest of family harmony I said she was beautiful. I don’t think she has a chance for that though.
Some babies just need some time. My son also was a funny looking thing for the first two months. He was premature, scrawny and jaundiced, had a natural huge mohawk which wouldn’t smooth down despite all my efforts and his nose was squashed during the birth. Everyone who said he was beautiful I knew was a massive fibber, but bless them for saying it. He was beautiful to me but I didn’t want to share pics until he was about 3 months and then he was gorgeous, chubby and delicious. Hopefully soon you won’t have to politely lie anymore.
I already feel guilty for making that comment because she is a precious baby. I also had a 28 week preemie and he looked kind of like Yoda but he was beautiful to me and handsome now
I usually say something like “She has such pretty eyes!” Or, “what a cute button nose.” Something. Even, “that outfit looks so cute on her. “ (The OUTFIT is cute, not the baby, but they hear it as the BABY is cute!)
But … one of these days … I may slip and say “she has such a cute BULLDOG nose …” or something like that.
It seems almost every Mother thinks their baby/child is beautiful one of a kind gorgeous even when they are not. We’re mostly “hard-wired” like that. Makes sense. Otherwise how can we still love them at age 13? Lol.
Oh, I’m going to hell. In the nursery, we called them FLKs (funny looking kids)
Every crow thinks theirs is the blackest.
My mother used to say that!
Yes! Thank you! Some children are unfortunate looking. I mean to each their own and I’m not a baby or kid fan anyway but if you show me pics of a baby I make no guarantee my face won’t give away my true thoughts! 😂
This reminds me of the first Seinfeld I ever saw. (I was in school nights and no recording device.) It was one of the best. A doctor called the ugly baby — who we never saw — “breathtaking” and George had “shrinkage.” I think Kramer poached some lobsters from someone’s trap and snuck them in a Jewish woman’s food. It was a packed episode.
Also, a friend of mine was appalled that his sister was BRAGGING to people that his niece looked “just like a Cabbage Patch doll.” He showed me her photo — she DID look like one.
YES!!! 100% agree with you. Annoying AF
Preach, you are my new favorite person
The comments are great to read.
Big Eyes- not sure why your comment didn’t have a reply button but thank you for backing me up. Like you said, I don’t even think half of what is going on in India we have heard about yet. And when we do, I hope those that spoke earlier will be very sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you!
400,000 new cases daily in India is something I can’t even comprehend. Entire villages are wiped out and lack of oxygen and supplies is horrible. Their govt downplayed the crisis and so many more died
Thank you Lisa! And i have been told on this thred it is a lie. It is even going to be worse in the next few days. Is the public burning of the bodies enough?
That isn’t a lie, I have co-workers in India and each and every one of them have been effected by this, it is humbling.
DawnMammer, totally want to back you up. The weird ability to deny facts just to fit into a weird religious version of an Ayn Rand worldview is something I don’t quite understand. You don’t want to do the basics for you health is fine, but then don’t expect the rest of society to want to interact with you. And denying surges in the UK, France and Germany and then on top of it the situation in India, all of which were highly preventable, is macabre and grotesque.
Some protestors were outside a school telling kids not wear masks – one of them told a doctor, who was with her child, that the flu and COVID are basically the same thing. The dr. replied that yes, they were, in the way their housecat is the same as a cougar.
and that is mostly information gathered in the big cities, i don’t think they are fully aware yet of the situation in the rural areas unfortunately, so sad this is happening
I’m still high as a kite and am struggling to put together sentences. Thank god for spell check. No more muscle relaxers tomorrow, I need to put my head back on.
Y’all should really Truro stay on your feet when descending stairs.
My unpopular opinion is people care too much what other people think. You see it at work, on social media, even on here. Most people kiss ass just to please others and it annoys the hell out of me. People are afraid to be their authentic self, or they lose it in the bullshit along the way.
I find it so FREEING that I just don’t give a shit what people think of me any more. The only good thing about being old.
I WOULD CARE if someone thought I were a thief, or if they thought I did something evil, that I didn’t do. If they thought something that I did do was evil and I didn’t think it was, then I wouldn’t care.
Ah, the virtues of being old…I’m looking forward to the day when I can get away with saying risque, totally inappropriate things to handsome doctors and get away with it cuz I’m a cute old lady 🙂
Amen!!! I don’t care what people think of how I’m dressed. As long as all parts are covered and I don’t look like a homeless person, I’m good to go.
You guys PLEASE understand the post. This is about people saying what they can’t say anywhere else. AND YOU CANNOT JUDGE. Just read and and either support it or STFU. It is a venting section.
Who is judging? I want names! The only person I saw judging was Mary. And you seem to be ok with that. Kick me out. I will survive.
I hate that when I dress up to go out I am in my mid-fifties and I am just not cute anymore, and never will be again. It makes me sad whenever I put on something nice. I am no longer a head turner. and I am too fat but I really love cookies.
Dressing up and looking nice will always feel good, though…and that’s worth it IMO. And I’m sure you turn some heads that you don’t even notice!
lol, thanks Jenn! At least I still have my winning personality!
I am almost 40, and the last time I weighed this much I was 8 months pregnant. None of my summer clothes fit. I tried to buy stuff one size bigger, and it was still to tight. I have to buy a bathing suit for this summer and I am dreading it. But I will still eat the cookies.
You can get one of those swim dresses. We aren’t fooling anyone, but at least the bellies don’t show.
Me too ! Completely understand feeling that way !
Okay, here’s mine. Thoughts and prayers do NOTHING to help IMO. They’re platitudes that people say when they choose to (or cannot) take any action to help in real terms. Keep your thoughts and prayers to yourself and send money!
My unpopular opinion : I’m glad I am a widow.
My husband died suddenly many years ago and I still suffer with grief. When he died, my world was destroyed. But I was secretly glad because I was free. When he was hurt he would lash out in punitive, but non-physical, ways. Except this one particular time, he was so upset at me he threatened to kill both of us. I rolled my eyes in that moment but I was scared to leave him because I do know he would ruin me financially; and as I look back he might have hurt me too. So while I cried every night in grieving pain, I rejoiced in secret bc I was freed of a man that had a very deep mean streak.
I feel guilt sometimes because he left me some money and I felt that it should go back to his family (I have enough money of my own). But then I’m like, fuck that asshole and his fucking parents for raising such an entitled man-child. I’m keeping this money and wasting it on bullshit. Then I cry some more.
Nobody in my family/friends circle know. They all think he’s a saint. Relationships are complicated. And grief is even more complicated.
Grief is a journey, & it is different for each of us. That said, I think for each of us experiencing it there is at least a part of us that feels relief in some way to be free from even a beloved spouse. I adored Rocket Man for (most) of our 45 years of marriage, & I did grieve when he died, but I also relished my freedom as a widow & made the most of it for the 7 years I was alone. No guilt necessary, trs, you earned whatever you have now.
I told my ex-husband one time, that if I had killed him when I wanted to, I’d done be out of prison. I still hate him!
Due to various circumstances I currently live with my ex-husband whom I hate. He is an narcissistic abusive asshole and am looking forward to the day I can leave. He tells me he loves me and I tell him the same (which is a lie). I say it to keep the peace. His friends, followers think he is perfect. I feel guilty and scared even writing this. He has fucked with my mind for so many years now that its difficult to know what’s real and what isnt.
And send prayers to my mother in law. Her cancer is back and we will be probably moving to take care of her. She has always been a miserable, horrible person. My mother in law is now in la la land and we get along great. I am so sorry that I say that, but she really was awful. But I do understand now how mentally ill she was.
Sending good thoughts and positivity your way!!
Oh there you are BlueEyes! Thank you so much for your post.
Thank you bigeyes! Glad I got to see your name again! Congrats on your 2nd post!!!
I am really sick of white people sharing videos on social media platforms of black people saying racism isn’t real in America. I think the black individuals in these videos are being paid to say and post that shit. I especially hate this video of a black man demonstrating how to react when getting pulled over.
I also hate people that use the words freedom fighter, liberty, and true American patriot in the same paragraph.
I’m surrounded by Trumpers and I hate them. I hate my dickless gun toting hick pig brother in laws.
I can’t stand Candace Owens. I think she’s a paid shill. My co-workers and some of my family post her videos. And “patriot” has become a trigger word for me. But I scream into the void and scroll on.
Dawn, curious if you feel like your having your worst cycle day every day, mentally I’ve been like you’ve felt since the first shot, pfizer. I got my period 11 days early, not really a period, but I’ve dealt with this for 8 days now. I get the next shot next week, not gonna lie, definitely dreading it. I’ve done the same thing, my pharmacist forgave me. You have my empathy with these weird side effects that get ignored that are very real!
Omg. So sorry Annabelle. I got my period right as expected. I am suffering more from my period than the vaccine. So far anyway. And just to be sure, I drank a bunch of wine. Hang in there!
I got it within a half hour of being home.
Wow, it waited a few days, it’s just never ending, maybe by the next shot, lol!!! The vaccine stuff was a couple of days, but just the cycle issues that i never had before are a bit concerning.
I am sorry. I thought I answered. Today was my second Moderna shot and got my period, which was due, right when I for home. My period is always awful because I am near menopause: I don’t feel awful tonight (wine) but hope tomorrow os good.
Hi Dawn,
If you are able, get an IUD. Periods are gone (for most) and it is wonderful for me. I got the IUD specifically due to unacceptable periods as I aged. The other choice is ablation but although a simple procedure, it has a little more risk than an IUD.
I’ve been hearing that many, many women have had irregular cycles after being vaccinated. No one mentioned which vaccine. It’s curious.
Interesting… I always have awful cycles so not sure I can make a comparison to getting the vaccine.
So far just a sore arm and cramps. I will update later.
Mine is that I can be pretty judgmental or
snotty. Not ever about the money or superficial things like clothes or looks but other things get to me. Especially at work when I have a person above me who’s clearly a moron. I just can’t even fake it. Which I’ve worked on (with a leadership coach) but it was more on controlling my mouth and my face. I just can’t respect morons in power who get there by kissing butts. Or as a former friend used to say kissing hands and shaking babies (joking! I would not shake a baby!).
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I personally don’t get religion, of any kind. Maybe it’s my science background but it just not for me. I’m more inclined to think aliens did it than a dude walking in the desert. That’s my big secret. I can study a fossils with no question of its age but religion is based on hersay and human record, just can’t swallow it.
I agree. I think a lot of people are going to be surprised when there’s nothing after they pass. Oh, wait. They won’t be surprised, because they won’t be.
Sometimes I want to tell people, Just because you can wear something, doesn’t mean you should.
And just because you can shoehorn your way into a pair of pants doesn’t mean they fit!
If you are old enough to have worn hiphugger bellbottoms the first time around, or the second, you are too old to wear them now — IF YOU THINK YOU LOOK STYLISH. If you want to wear them because you like them, FINE. But you will not look stylish.
I’m peeing over these comments.. here’s mine. I was married 3 times before my last one which has lasted over 25 years. I also do not care one iota what anyone thinks about me and never have. I’d save one of our 6 cats over a human any day. I do not like organized religion but believe wholeheartedly in the Bible. And I am skeeved out that it seems people aren’t as clean as they used to be. I also think everyone needs to go to therapy for a time in their life so they can just be their damn selves.
Okay I’m going to say it. Brace yourself. I do not like animals. At all. I feel like I need a new fake name to post that. There is currently no room in this world for people who don’t like animals. But I am blissfully pet free. No stink,no dander, no ticks, no arranging for care when I travel.
I love your admission! I have pets and love them but the idea to have a clean, hair and smell free house is a dream! Keep being you. Not everyone needs to have pets to be of value!!
I really want to scream at the annoying men who think that a woman has to bow down to them just because their wife does. Dude you got a woman who thinks your God, I however know you are not now get away from me I ain’t her and I ain’t gonna sit quiet. Ok actually most times I do say that out loud if there are not children around. I don’t tell others what to do with their body or in their life, do not think anybody gets a vote on mine. Also, please to the public in general I was a young Mom and that turned into being a young grandmom, so when my grand kids correct you that I’m NOT Mom do not think it’s a compliment to tell the children that I’m too young looking to be a grandmom, it’s not a compliment when you say it to the children with me, sorry it’s not. You want to tell me I look young, fine but don’t argue with my grands that I’m too young to be their grandmother. All it does is embarrass said children. Also the anti-maskers, since I don’t say anything to you about no mask, please don’t berate me for wearing one.
Okay, things I say only in my head:
To co-worker “How have you live so long and not been hit by a bus”
General: Um, do you have any mirrors in your house? (although I kind of admire the confidence…)
When someone is rambling on “And your point is…”
Men with Napoleon Syndrome, “Oh, it must be awful to have a small penis”
General: “…and you are the smart one?….”
I once yelled at a new mom who was taking what felt like forever putting her newborn in the car. I was a complete ass and I’m not sure why because that’s out of character for me. She was hurt and mortified which instantly made me regret my choice but my ego kept me from apologizing. Fast forward a few years when I became a mom myself (I have two kids now), and quite often I wish I could have the opportunity to profusely apologize to a stranger who did nothing wrong.
I’ve been reading here for years and never said a thing. But somehow this made me feel like I could. Im on the edge. The love of my life, my dog, died tragically a few months ago. I dropped her off to get her teeth cleaned and many pulled(it had to be done, they were causing much pain, and they convinced me). Something went wrong when they brought her back up. I wont bore you with those details, but no, I’m not “over it”. Not even close. People think that when your pet dies, that after a few days or maybe weeks, you should just move on. My heart is broken. Every routine I have had her in it. She isnt in the window when I come home. I had brain surgery a few years ago, and now suffer from chronic pain, and she really figured into all that, y’know? She made my life worth living. Of course I love my family, but my dog was just my touchstone. Anyway, I guess my point is, I’m basically not even allowed to grieve because popular opinion is “get over it”. So I bottle it. And I pretend.
Thank you for having this space for me to finally just say this somewhere that I wont feel judged. It was good to just say it even though I’m actually crying while I write it, and I never cry.
I cried while I read this! Your feelings are valid! My cat just had surgery on his teeth last year, I’ve had him for 12 yrs through 3 miscarriages and he is my sweet boy. If that had happened I would’ve had to take a wk off of work. I’m so sorry people tell you to get over it. They obviously don’t know what it feels like to have cared about someone or something so much. Pity them. Sending love your way.
So sorry for your loss, been there, it sucks. I’m still not ‘over it’ and to some extent never will be because this dog was as you note, a touchstone. It is just a different, special relationship and all the ‘get over its’ can eff off.
The other thing that is irksome; when I hear people tell others at a wake of a really elderly relative, ‘oh, well he/she lived a good life; was his/her time’ or some such to a person grieving the loss; like it makes it better? Really? Just say your are sorry for the loss, share a touching/good memory and STFU.
i so feel you. i had a cat when i was younger. i was not in a great place myself and my cat actually lived with my grandmother who suffered a severe depression. I went on my birthday and there were some other relatives visiting her. my cat was under the bed so i layed down on the floor to be with her but she kept blowing at me. she usually stops when i am around because she feels safe then. So i told my gran and she said the cat stopped eating a couple of days ago. of course i panicked and couldn’t blame my gran because of her depression but i felt powerless since she knew and didn’t call me right away. so i called the vet and she said my cat suffered some kind of stomachcancer. that i had 2 choices or feed her some antibiotics and keep her alive for some more weeks, my gran said no to it and if i had to take her to my place my cat would not have the energy to adjust to a new place being sick and all, so i let the vet convince me it was for the best if she gave her a shot. I had like 5′ to decide and i gave in. i tried not to show her my distress and looked her in the eye untill she passed away. that happened 25some years ago. yesterday i saw a youtube video about 2 cats, siblings, young, the female had a disorder to the heart and probably will die soon. i thought of my cat and cried my tears out; i don’t care what people think, i loved her so much and sometimes wish i handled the situation better but i was not in a good place myself and shit happens, anyways you grieve as long as you feel the pain, it’s ok. take care
Thank you to you all for your kind words today about this. I felt heard and valid, and it helped a great deal. I have so many feelings about it all, especially guilt. I never knew sadness could take over every part of your life until now, and I never knew I’d have to become an expert at hiding it.
Thanks for making me feel like I had friends to share with.
I went through grief counseling when my dad committed suicide. I learned grief cones in all sorts of forms and there is no expiration for grief, it is different for everyone. So, Snickefritz you do you. I’m sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry for your loss! Pets can be a bigger part of our lives then our families, well for me my pup Shadow was. She passed in 2005 and yes I know it’s 2021 but every time I see a black lab who is small, my Shadow at her heaviest was only 50 lbs small for a lab, I still tear up. You take the time you need, you grieve the way you can and screw those who don’t understand.
I want to say but can’t say….I want to hurt/kill my ex-hole. He stole so much money from me, married 7 days after our divorce to a woman who made my kids call her mom (I had zero idea he was having an affair because he convinced me he had PTSD and that’s why we divorced), and he immediately had his family, and wife file restraining orders against me. I won all 7 restraining orders He wrote letters to therapist and GAL’s that I am mentally ill and have bipolar. I had to have a psych exam to prove I didn’t. I have been fighting this idiot in court for years. He does it because he enjoys the chaos and he has money. He likes that I have to spend money that I don’t have. Plus, he had covid while my kids were with him and returned them to me and didn’t tell me for 24 hours he had covid. The anger is real. I also hate that he makes fun of my weight. I wish I had a magic diet pill.
Crossing my fingers that shit stain gets hit by a bus.
I relate and my ex is the same. I am sending you prayers and love. I wish my douche lord a bad case of Covid.
To cashiers: less talking, more ringing; in grocery stores: the arrows are there for a reason
Again, I only say these things in my head
I am dreading resuming family activities. I liked that pre-vaccine pandemic life gave a legitimate excuse to not attend functions. It is a big and religious family. They continued to celebrate every holiday and birthday as though it were 2019. I was ostracized for not attending, but they were smart enough to realize they’d look like jerks if they came out and said anything directly. I am sure plenty was said in my absence. Prior to all this, visits weren’t the most enjoyable. My politics clash with theirs. I bit my tongue a lot because I was raised to not rock the boat. So what’s the point? It would be one against many who have no desire to re-evaluate their stances, any way. I tried to be respectful of their beliefs, but they don’t return that respect. Problem is my tolerance for dealing with people’s BS is very low after the last year and I am afraid I might not be able to control my disdain. What makes me saddest/angriest is the things that are being passed down to another generation… racism, homophobia, xenophobia
I have family members doing the same thing on my fiancé’s side of the family. Those are people who will come out of this pandemic not growing or learning a thing. I feel sorry for people that close minded. They say ignorance is bliss. Maybe that was the theme of some of their parties?
I speak my mind. I have ZERO filter. Knowing this, I really have to think Before I speak. Even here where I feel very comfortable, I have to watch what I say. I do warn people up front that I tell the truth, that I can be brutally honest, and if you’re sensitive about things don’t put me in a religious or political discussion, because you Will get your feelings hurt. My 3 closest friends understand me and love me for who I am. ME and my male best friend went to Wal-Mart one night and these 4 women were coming out. I said to 3 of them “You all need a sammich” To the last one I said “You need a hoagie” My friend just pulled me inside saying I hope they didn’t hear you! LOL😂😂😂
I am ready to have meaningless sex with random hookups again.
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Yup
Here’s something I want to explode onto ppl at work, daily. I work in retail and I don’t give a flying fuck what you think about wearing a mask at my work means or about getting the vaccine. My opinion is that if you think this virus is no big deal and refuse to take certain precautions that are to help others to prevent them from possibly dying then you need to opt out of ALL medical care. Don’t just stop at the vaccine and masks. If you have a tooth ache, don’t go to the dentist. Your body will take care of it. Going into labor? Have childbirth at home with the help of a family member or friend. I’m sure you’ll be just fine. Broken bones or mental health issues. No medicine for pain, set the bone yourself and rub some dirt in it. Just smile more and quit being unhappy. Get covid? Sorry, no intubation for you. Just drink some water and take vitamins. I’m SO sick of the selfishness of people who want to walk into your work and just unload their ignorance like part of my job is to listen to your stupid conspiracy theories. GAH! I wish I could say ALL these things to clients.
I am cheering over this post. CHEERING.
Oh god, I thought of another one. There is a woman who lives down the street from me who was new in town and asked me when she was buying something from my work if I would be interested in hanging out. I didn’t want to and said yes. Now she wants to hang out all the damn time and is almost 20 yrs my senior and we have nothing in common. She blows her nose at the table while I’m still eating and I think that is such bad manners not to mention, disgusting. I’ll also be eating and she’ll lift her shirt, in public and give herself an insulin shot in the belly. I just don’t want to see that WHILE I’m actively eating my food. Shit. End rant. Phew.
I live in a small town and if I happen to be in the certain line at the grocery store, the clerk will analyze all of my purchases and I am just over it! I want to say it’s none of her business …..She’ll say “oh are we having wine for dinner tonight?” or “wow wish I could afford steak for dinner tonight.” Of course, I say nothing- I just laugh or smile, pay for my shit and leave!!!!
Me too!
I know I am really not supposed to say THIS out loud but, I think Scott Peterson is innocent and did not kill his wife and unborn baby. I know he had an affair and was a liar but none of that makes him a murderer.
First of all: Best stream ever TT! Thank you. You’re an amazing lady.
Ok, here it is;
I’m single, have been single for a while. I’m in my 50’s and yes…
I eat in bed! I even just leave the wrappers there. If it is messy and I don’t want my cat eating the leftovers, I put it in my bedside table drawer.
It’s gross and I don’t Care!
Love you all!
Trapped in a loveless marriage. Think about leaving daily, never do it. Nowhere to go if I did. He drank the orange kook-aid, if you know what i mean, and there’s no turning back on that it seems. The constant butthurt and whining over ALL THE THINGS is making me mental. Kneeling for anthem, BLM, baseball all star game, all muh freedoms gone, demonrats, biden has dementia, Fucker Tarlson should run for president, the Capitol attack was totes misuderstood and did you not see Portland afire which is totally equivalent in every conceiveable way? I can’t take this shit. I’m supposed to just jump on board but i just can’t do it. I can’t. Life would be so much easier if I just pretended but I would hate myself more than I do now for being a big coward. I’m old, too old to start over. I said something about only listening to talk radio and reading opinion pieces not being the greatest way to inform yourself like FIFTEEN YEARS AGO and have been living through hell ever since. like full on getting screamed at in the face about it. still here. goddam. what happened to just hearing about things, having an opinion about it, and moving on with your life? it’s like everything revolves around this now and he’s in some club along with all my neighbors that they constantly wink and nod about while I feel like I am taking crazy pills. Nobody wants to hear about this.
That’s just icing on the cake, though. Real truth, I should never have married and know I was making a mistake the day I did it. Never had the courage to run. No marriage is better than a bad one. Trust me on this.
And my dog is over 10 now, I can’t even think about it.
You are not alone.