Just pray. I don’t know what else to say. Maybe I will get back recapping stupid reality shows on TV. Maybe i will not. I am hurting for this mess we are all in. We are all hurting. I personally am hurting so much. I am not doing well. I need a moment to get my shit together. I can’t allows be the strong one. I will be fine. I just need a little down i just need a minute. I might be back tomorrow or next week. I just need a minute.
You have many people (myself included) that love you and love hearing your opinions. You are freaking amazing and tomorrow is a gonna be a good day! Tomorrow is going to be a great day. And, tomorrow is going to be a great day and a turning point in American history.
I am struggling through bleary eyes to receive this. I may need to go back to therapy to figure out why I think I am unlovable. Maybe because I am going to die alone.
Also Meg I tried to call you back please try again?
Pray for us all!
Tamara: take all of the time you need! Everyone IS hurting! We need to somehow start healing and move forward. One step at a time!
I, for one, am steam cleaning carpets and rugs today and tomorrow. Physical labor calms me down. Pray for this country and pray for PEACE!!
Gigi, so I’m not the only one who cleans when I feel stressed. I scrubbed, washed, vacuumed, and mopped .
I clean when I’m drunk. Does that count?
I hear you.
Sometimes I comment but mostly I just read through your recaps and there are several times you make me giggle. I am sorry the world is not letting you giggle back. I have kids so I am adept at pretending that things are okay even with shit is hitting the fan. I have told them all month that “things will be okay.” And “everything will blow over.” Because it will and it does. Wake up and think “what do *I* need to do today.” And…then do that. And that’s it. Don’t worry about tomorrow. It’ll be here whether you worry or not. Take it easy.
I get that. I try not to watch news around my oldest child (7), but I have to listen to the news all the time. If I do, I always tell him, you are safe, we don’t live close to where that is happening, and I will always protect you. I just always try to put it in their head that I will always keep them safe.
Take the time you need. Period.
Do not feed into that negative energy! You got this you have an unlimited supply of ppl here who got ur back! Let’s go Tamara??
Take your time. We aren’t going anywhere but we’re here if you need us. You have my phone # in your e-mail and Twitter messages. Let me know if you need them again. Call me if you ever just need to talk or need a shoulder to cry on.
TT- I don’t know you, but I do love you. This site is filled with so many special people. Please draw from us what you can and what you need. It’s a beautiful and powerful example that you don’t need to know people ‘in person” to be connected and to share. You are too special to falter. Be as strong as you can be. We’ve got the rest.
Between covid-19 and Trump we’ve all gone through so many things that we would have never imagined. We will come through this okay please don’t let the negative events of the past dictate how you feel today. We still have some hard times coming up but we have to have the mental Reserve to get through it all. All of us here love you support you and do not come here for a reality show Recaps. Take some time but don’t isolate yourself from those who offer you support
Lord, please bless Tamara and all who are struggling during this difficult time. Help them to find peace and joy in simple, everyday activities and let them know that is really ok when they can’t. Let them know they are loved and highly favored by You and so many others. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.
Amen.??
I completely and painfully understand. I am caretaking my 81 year old mom with my older sister. In my own way I understand. I was alone for 16 years, then a high school friend turned into the love of my life. I have many issues physically. For years. My sister is wonderful but SUPER bossy. And because our father was very abusive she hates men. The emotional state has been epicically just horrible. I love this site because I can just state what is real.
And you could call me anytime to talk Tamara. I will give you my number anytime!
I’m not one for prayer, but I’m sending positive thoughts and hope for improvement soon.
One positive thing about COVID is I think most of us have become better at recognising what we need for ourselves and being more understanding when others do that too.
I do mean it Tamara, I am just a shut in good listener,lol
Be encouraged everyone! It will be alright! You are not alone, I know we don’t know each other personally, but I feel like all of you are my family, thanks to TT having this site. It’s a pleasure being able to come hear and read what TT has put up. Praying for you TT! We got you and most of all God got you!!!
We are here for you TT! I’m so sorry this is hitting you hard right now. It’s all compounded and too much! But you are a survivor and a warrior and you will get through this with all of us! ❤️
You are so quick witted and intelligent. I love your recaps and personal stories. Stay strong Tamara!
TT! this should make you laugh….. The Bidens are bringing their 2 sheperds with them, Major and Champ and then are ADOPTING A CAT ALSO! I’d attach the photos but I can’t here. Now how cool is this?? The last four years there wasn’t a pet, a plant, warm family photos, no family vacations, and now?? A FAMILY WITH PETS WHO WILL BE LEADING THE COUNTRY!!! This is the best part of all of this. ANIMALS!! Back in the WH!! YAY!!!
One. More. Day.
I’ve been watching CNN. I think even the hard-core cynics believe things will be better.
One. More. Day.
It is going to be okay. Tomorrow is new new day and the start of a good time in the US. We have a new President and the vaccine is being distributed. It has been a pretty miserable time the last 4 years and I just see better and better things. We will have a caring person in the office of President who won’t sit back and let his own people die with no compassion or scientific plan to take care of it.
I just have to believe it is going to be okay because the alternative isn’t okay.
This has been a HARD 4 years! Just when I thought it couldn’t get any worse, it did! And I’m Canadian! I wept and railed at the atrocities of this president ! But, I believe, wholeheartedly , that Biden/Harris is going to be the change we all need. So, tomorrow, I will wake up with a new attitude. One that is positive. For the first time in a long while,I have HOPE! And I am HAPPY!
I am wearing my pearls in support of my sisters who are honoring the first female vice president – who also happens to be the first VP of color – and keeping my chin up and my eyes bright. I have high hopes for better days and years to come. I wish you joy and happiness, Tam, and all reading this 🙂
Hear, hear. I have some hope yet, and I’m excited to have a female VP.
I hope someone reaches out to you Tamara. I have never been closer to the last members of my family. We have been through some stuff, and we’re now reaching out to each other.
Take a break. Watch something scripted or read fiction. It’s okay to disengage and snuggle your dog. We have so little control in life—only how we choose to react. Wish you the best.
I got a break from politics and COVID yesterday. Neighbor’s kids (girls, around 8 to 10 years old) throwing rocks at my garage and front windows. One hit the window. Went outside.and said, “Go get your Mom, please.” Mom comes stomping out of the house flailing her arms and screaming, “Don’t you F-ing talk to my kids, my kids can go wherever they want, do whatever they want, keep my kids’ names out of your F-ing mouth, if you don’t like it then F-ing move, go F yourself.” Mind you I’ve never had a conversation with this woman other than welcoming her the day she moved in, she keeps to herself, so there is no back story. You don’t want to know what I said to this crazy heifer once she stopped screaming but she went right back in her house with a quickness. I’m laughing about it because it was so ridiculous but I just don’t understand a parent not caring or wanting to know what their kids were doing and to just go from 0 to 60 like that. Sad that this qualified as a highlight to my day, but it was at least an opportunity to occupy my mind with something other than did I wash my hands and where’s my mask?
LisaLisa, Thanks for the laugh! I love your much needed sense of humor always!
Lady lives on vape E-cigarettes and Red Bull. I told her to eat a sandwich, maybe she’ll be in a better mood.
I see it everyday. Mom dropped off her son wearing a bath robe barely covering her butt and yelled at me because I had the audacity to ask that she sign her son into school. She then started barking about being in an accident and that’s why he was late. The kid looked at her like she’d lost her mind. I was embarrassed for the poor boy. He looked mortified. There are more parents like this than those that give a darn I’m convinced.
Love you TT, take as much time as you need. We’ll be here patiently waiting but healing as well while you heal. So much has happened and I think we are all experiencing delayed trauma, now is the time to cry, and mourn for all things lost, all things that shall never return or forever be changed…for better days are coming. You’ve given so much of yourself to us TT, I hope you feel the love that is bestowed upon you the world over. You’re an icon QUEEN. I hope Banjo is clinging to you for dear life, giving you the hug I wish we could give you.
I’m looking forward to the inauguration tomorrow and pray that everyone stays safe. I just scheduled an appointment to get my Covid vaccine this coming Saturday. Onward and upward.
I got a notice about the vaccine, so I’m at least in the queue. I’ll be watching the inauguration.
Darling friend, I am near to you geographically and am ready to help you in any way. You are loved and will be cared for.
I am thinking of all of you in the US and praying for a peaceful transition. He who shall not be named giving up his dream of a military send off I think will be hugely helpful. You guys made it this far, you can do it! Sending love from South Australia xoxo
I saw some of the propaganda videos, got a migraine, went to bed on Saturday at 6pm and did not get out of bed until Tuesday morning. Been staying inside and working out inside instead of taking my daily walks because of all of the crazy. This is the only place that I have posted since October because of the delusional social media posts in my feed with people still humble bragging about dumb shit like new designer bags or shoes with hashtag #blessed, ugh!!!
It has been a rough 4 years, with literally this last year being extra horrific with the Pandemic (first case was in January, so I’m not kidding)
Then we literally had a coup d’état attempt on January 6th. As Americans, our most sacred halls were desecrated. Yes, SACRED. We don’t have a national religion (thank whatever supreme being or beings you believe in), but collectively, those are the most sacred places. Some of the people who are tasked to protect us and those spaces were part of that horrible day.
So, with that trauma to deal with, the images of OUR Capitol on lockdown, fears for Joe Biden and Kamala Harris, and fears of what Cheetolini might do in desperation?
I feel like we’ve all been collectively holding our breath at LEAST since the 6th. I was anxious for the 6th, and the BAD thing is I WAS RIGHT beyond my weirdest imaginings.
But here is the thing.
I’m tense. I’m not fully breathing yet. I still have my Dissent Earrings in that I bought after Notorious RBG passed, and I will take them off once Joe and Jill are in the White House, and Kamala and Doug are in the Naval Observatory with their families. (I NEVER wear earrings more than a couple of hours folks. I’m thinking of buying myself some gold or gem studs after this!)
So be gentle with yourself. My lose jeans that were even beyond my “fat pants”? They are now tight. I’m not worrying about it until next week. Fuck it. I’m having breakfast tomorrow to celebrate the inauguration (West Coast here)
Take away the REALLY LOUD extremists on both ends (I’m a believer in the horseshoe theory) – and you have a President and Vice Presidential team that the majority can get behind whether you are Dem, Republican, or apolitical. These are two people who are FULL of sympathy and truly, genuinely have servant’s hearts. Even on specific issues people disagree with them on, I think people will still feel heard.
Please remember, Lindsay Graham once said about Joe Biden, with tears in his eyes: “If you can’t admire Joe Biden as a person then probably you’ve got a problem, you need to do some self-evaluation….He is as good a man as God ever created.” It has been reported that Joe has said to Lindsay that he is disappointed in him. If you were raised like me – screaming wouldn’t have bothered you, but a “I’m disappointed” from someone you love? Crushing.
We also have Kamala Harris. Smart, tough – but also joyful and loving. She’ll be the President of the Senate, and with her experience and the FUCKING AMAZING APPOINTMENTS JOE BIDEN HAS MADE… we are in such good hands.
So again, T, be gentle with yourself. I get it. I just realized I’ve not showered in over a week. I’ve been using dry shampoo too much. It is how I’m melting down. That and the tequila and watching West Wing late into the night. Tomorrow, I’m going to get up early-ish, take a quick shower, and watch HISTORY as one of my favorite candidates since 2008 FINALLY get sworn in as President and the GROUNDBREAKING Kamala Harris – the only candidate who swayed me from Jo Biden the past 2 years – get sworn in as the most powerful woman in our country. She’s a trifecta! She is the first female VP, first Black VP, and first Asian VP. Oh, and she has a husband that CLEARLY adores her. I’m a HUGE Dougie fan.
Hugs all… sorry for the rambling. I’m drunk.
I am always a little bit shocked and confused when I come her an expect mean stuff, Where the fuck are you do your job you don’t know how lucky you are (I actually do) to have this job in pandemic, you suck. get it together.
So hot plumber was in my house today. And it was sofa king embarrassing. But he was nice to me. I am always shocked when people were nice to me and the worst thing about panic attacks is you feel like an idiot because you are literally freaking out for no reason. But he was really nice. He’s vet has PTSD so he was like don’t worry about it.
I’m sleeping all weird. I am up early and might miss the election.
I am so grateful for you guys. I am always astonished by the love. I genuinely love all of you guys. And I struggle to accept some of you love me back.And y’all know I have to spew out everything I am thinking and do it real life too when I see a real person. And when he left and after I had just been my genuine self with him he was so kind and told me how great it was to meet me, in my shit shack not looking at all cute but we talked about politics and he gave me hope. And the only reason that I am a Biden fan is because he was the other option. He is SANE. And if all of our options for president are old white men… He is my old white man.
I need to go back to bed. But I somehow managed to dox myself. lol. So you all have my number now.
Awh I’m so glad your feeling better that’s great x
Big hugs to you T! The end of some things is near, thankfully. My hope is that you and so many others find peace today. Hopefully today starts a new beginning for our country.
Girl, I feel ya.
Mike and I are on day nine of this fucking Covid 19. Went out to the Hard Rock Stadium to get drive through tested and WE ARE STILL POSITIVE.
Still. Fucking. Positive.
To make matters worse, my BFF is aggravating the FUCK out of me with antidotes from all of her MD friends about Covid.
“My dermatologist isn’t getting the vaccine” “The CDC said XYZ” “Why did you get retested”
I’m ready to hit someone.
I REALLY need a drink.
Covid is really kicking our ass.
Hang in there TT, take time away.
BTW your flowers are just stunning. Thank you!
Hi. It’s so SPLENDID to hear from you — I look forward to the day it is with news to celebrate.
In the meantime, I hope that knowing that people who have never met you are praying for you and thinking of you with the kindest thoughts will go a little way to making you feel,a little ?.