I am sitting here with an embarrassment of riches. I could not possibly be any more loved. You guys are the best. We really are all friends. I feel terribly that I don’t know how to send you stuff. I am so fortunate. And I greatly appreciate all of you for sending cards. You are so kind.
I could not feel more love from you emails and kindness.
Thank you for thinking of me. Thank you for reading here. Thank you all for everything. I really appreciate you all. Especially the ones who don’t think I do. I am such a fortunate person. I want you all to be safe during this terrible time. WEAR A MASK. WASH YOUR HANDS. You can still get it from touching things. Despite what some commenters her say. Why else would be washing our hands? Wear WAa a mask PLEASE that covers your nose AND MOUTH. WASH YOUR HANDS. And do not listen to people who are misinformed about touching surfaces. Take every precaution you can take.
Merry Christmas TT stay safe and well wishing you all the best in the new year
What am I missing?
How did you get TT’s address to send her all the cards and goodies?
I know, hunh? I have no idea how to get someone’s address. (Not necessarily for a reason, but ?)
So happy that you are feeling love.
I know. I want that address too!! I wanted to send a knit scarf made while watching BRAVO!!!!
I recently checked out of a mental health rehab. I, too, am really feeling loved by lots of strangers. It’s a really refreshing feeling.
I’m also dealing with the explosion that happened in Nashville yesterday. I just want to ball up and stay that way for eternity….
Anyway, glad you’re feeling the holiday cheer. May it continue.
I haven’t gotten caught up on the Nashville news yet today. Still watching Christmas movies and trying to shut out the world. Hope you are safe and well.
I’m replying late. I was wondering whether or not to share why and here you are, a brave stranger. Thanks for sharing. I just got home from a mental health stay. The holidays are hard. It was my first time and as bad as that place was I got some much needed help, so I’m very grateful. Grateful for the emergency response team. Grateful to the staff. Grateful that God wasn’t ready for me yet. Grateful for the chats here.
Thanks.
Welcome back, Krista. I am so proud of you for getting the help you need and doing the work. We need you here to argue with us! 🙂
Finally pulled the trigger and refinanced and got cash out to renovate kitchen and 2 bathrooms. I am spending each day boxing up several boxes a day to prep for the Reno. 24 years of crappy kitchen and 1957 bathrooms….I am excited!
Speaking of reno … where the heck is MizGrandma?
And where is Shay of the second/third shift?
EnglishRose? MIA? Tuatara … oh, right, Spain is blocked by the Dutch Boy after bots invaded…
At least Kipper finally checked in. And Marc with a “C.” And ForumDude. Where is Andrew from Vegas? Taking a rest after the big election, I hope.
I worry about “our peoples” when we don’t see you and I hope everyone is doing well and EXTRA ?????????? to DalaiMama!
I thought of you twice recently. They have a Spanish ham at Costco and then today at Publix. Not sure how far you are, but if you need help getting there and I’m not too far let me know
I did mine 15yrs ago now – I swear for a mth I would sit in a dining room chair and just look at it lol Good Luck with your reno!
Hi TT. I’m doing pretty bad today. I can’t seem to quit crying and grieving for my fellow Americans. I am heartbroken.
Like you I am blessed beyond measure. We give as much as we can being on disability. When will this nightmare of political bull be over.
I haven’t been out of the house but once since March. My husband and are strict with covid rules. I just don’t get it.
I still have faith though. Thank goodness for all of you like minded friends.
Wish I could get stoned.
Sorry I’m being a debbie downer. ?
⬆️ This girl didn’t miss Christmas parties one iota. imma all for PJ Christmases! #dreamsdocometrue
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I felt that Cheryl. Thank you. XOXO
My heart goes out to you because I know that sad depressed feeling all too well. You are not alone. Please reach out here when its overwhelming. Stay strong
Jananell, your not alone, hang in there. ?
Sorry. I didn’t mean to post my last message on yr thread. Hope you are better soon. Happy Boxing Day
Dear friend,
It seems like you are overwhelmed… the crying jags hit me, too, and although it’s a way to let your body vent stress it also makes for one hell of a headache and a messy face ( at least with me). I wish you peace and send you love and strength. Hang on. You’re not alone.
Vandygirl
God will bless you for being an unselfish being
That was meant for janelle
So sorry about your bad day. Hang in there and feel free to share here anytime.
Wow people, we are a very giving bunch here. TT, you give to us all year long. I look forward to any new thing you post… so we appreciate you. We also are both immunocompromised so we don’t go anywhere other than a few trips to grocery store when we are tired of delivery. And the non-stop god damn Dr. appts and then we have the same outfits we take off before we walk in the house. Plus it’s the only time I put on my watch and wedding rings. Should probably just wear then everyday now that I think about it. But we are lucky we are quarantined here in Newport Beach so we can go sit outside with the cats who outnumber us… TT, so glad you feel the love girl! Gang! Let’s make this a fantastic 2021 with no verbal attacking each other if we have different opinions! That’s what I love about this place. So many different people. Stay safe everyone and yes TT.. wear a mask. Wash your hands. keep a distance. I LOVE PJ parties myself.
I’m very drunk right now and I will regret this tomorrow but I think I just ruined my marriage with my words and I’m so sad but it’s all my own fault I don’t know what will happen when I wake up tomorrow ?
Hopefully you two can sort this out. Words are hurtful but love can forgive
Thank you I hope your right xxx
Leave him a simple note saying your sorry. Hand written – more meaningful than a text.
It’s a rough season,
Tell him a late April fools joke? Agree with writing a handwritten note.
I hope you’re wrong. Men are usually pretty forgiving if we take responsibility for our mistakes ❤️
My husband has been ruining our marriage with words for the last 15yrs and I stll havent left. Don’t be sad. Apologize profusely, he’ll be fine.
We need an update, Sharon!
I’ve come to check too. Thinking of you, Sharon.
Please allow us outcome.
It’s rough, drunken words have meaning attached.
Hope your safe. Lulu
You’re still in my thoughts every day. I hope you’re ok.
I sent Sharon an email telling her that she is stuck with us caring about her and even if she doesn’t want us to love her she needs to come back and let us know if she is okay, and if she is not okay, we are here for her.
Thank you. I just want her to know that it was an offhand comment we made in the moment. Still thinking of her.
Oh everyone I am so sorry I only saw TT’s email there now you are all so very very kind for thinking of me!! It’s all sorted I apologised the next morning I didn’t even say anything bad as such more thinking out loud but he knew where I was coming from and all is good again thank God! He’s a really good man for putting up with me!! Thank you all so so much xxxxx
I am very pleased to hear that. Thank you for the update.
You are so sweet and I’m so sorry I worried anyone xx
Merry Christmas!! We’ve been crazy busy and Florida is full of tourists. It’s nuts but I’m grateful.
We have gotten a surprisingly large influx of California tourists along with the normal amount of Canadian, New York, and New Jersey people.
I love you Tamara, so happy to hear you have what you deserve!! xo
Literally wore cute but still PJS to visit my husbands grave.
I hate doing that but still awaiting his headstone. He’s buried next to his mom, so flowers for both…..not my normal Christmas. Hosted friends and family for 20 years at our ranch , cooked for days.
Alone during a pandemic, dying to move – rough year.
Whoever suggested the Pottery Show – thank you, at 51,…. it resonated a whole bunch, xo
God bless you Lulu, my heart goes out to you.
You’re added in my prayers.
I am sorry about your husband and that you are by yourself and feeling alone at this time.
Because you liked the pottery show … have you considered making pottery? Beating up clay releases a lot of tension. Learning to throw on a wheel is a literal lesson on centering … you can’t build until you center. Someone on here has a wheel and a kiln … (Erika?) maybe she would offer suggestions. People like to help others learn … and there’s YouTube. It might help you relieve stress and you may lose yourself in your newfound art. Just a thought.
When you’re done, you have something beautiful. If it’s not … give it away and laugh inside as people lie and tell you how much they love it! Bwahahaha!
It was me that recommended/first mentioned the pottery show! Lulu, I’m so glad that it resonated with you! I don’t have a wheel or kiln yet – I’ve been taking classes at a local non profit craft school. But community colleges, universities, parks and rec programs, and even some for profit pottery places may be other options in your area. Oh, not to mention the idea of perhaps taking one on one lessons from a local potter willing to let you use his or her wheel!
I absolutely concur with Nanette. There is something profoundly meditative about wheel throwing. Especially in the practice of continually having to find your center. (In more ways than one!!! Yes, the clay must be centered on the wheel. But also, you have to find a balance in your body and in your hands when throwing. The mental focus.
As for Youtube, YES. When taking classes initially, I watched a lot of them. Earth Nation Ceramics (watch the early stuff) and Jon the Potter.
Oh, and I’ve kept my early, weird stuff! I love seeing how much progress I’ve made! I’m sure I’ve back slided a bit in the last 10 months, but I’m hoping muscle memory will kick in.
Thank you !!!
Not really artistic, but need something desperately to channel grief & trauma.
Was lucky enough to have had a beautiful funeral for my guy before pandemic hit – I can’t imagine, how awful so many didn’t get that opportunity…
Probably spent 2 hrs today watching pottery on YouTube – tomorrow I’m going to call around where I can pick up a class – unsure as DFW is a huge covid hotspot right now.
The kindness of strangers goes a long way.
My bestie sent me a gif last night , after trying not to cry – old school, never let them see you sweat:
‘Your biggest supporter is a stranger. Your biggest hater is someone you know.’
How Fu%%%%% true.
Again, my true thanks, xo
So sorry for your lose, sending lots of hugs and well wishes. I am glad you could have a nice memorial for your late husband. I myself lost my mom at the start of April and could only have 10 people counting preachers and funeral home workers, such a sad and depressing time, then throw covid and lockdown it was almost unbearable. Stay safe and have a happy new year. Remember you can come here anytime, that’s one of the greatest things about TT and her site. She is always here to let us vent and we are here when she need to vent.
Sorry about this misspelling, using a different device and the keyboard is extra small for my unusually large hands. Lol
Shan, so very sorry for the loss of your mom & how others in pandemic time have not been able to mourn properly – it actually escalates the grief.
I believe, mental well-being is at a high risk.
I am so sorry about your mom.
I attended a Zoom memorial at the beginning of December. I think the “host” for the meeting was someone at the Temple. It was a technical marvel and felt very intimate. I don’t know exactly how to describe it – everyone did pretape the eulogy, with his husband introducing everyone. (The program divided people speaking by different aspects of his life – his activism, his family and friends, his hobbies…)
Afterwards, they moved all our connections to a “reception” where we could page through all the people who were live on camera (4 pages, of probably 40 to 50 screens each!)
I guess I’m bringing this up to say, don’t be afraid to arrange some sort of Zoom memorial where you get “together” with people who knew your mom and have some time to reminisce. It doesn’t have to be large – you and your closest.
OH! I’m so excited – wheel pottery, you don’t NEED to be artistic, etc. I must confess, I just googled and got solid hits for pottery studios in the DFW area!!!
It will give you something to look forward to when we get some COVID relief when more people get a vaccine. I heard a third one is about to come online!
Two things to consider when looking at classes.
One, see if they have open studio hours in addition to your classes where you can get some wheel time. I picked it up slower than others in my class (later found out one person had done it in high school. Muscle memory is a thing, and one I hope I have after 9 months of not slinging mud!). I did open studio time and it was at one of those that it just finally “clicked”
Two, and this is very important… are there bars or restaurants near the school or at least on the way that have good happy hour menus? I’M NOT KIDDING. My first year or so I did these classes solo. I had a couple of fav spots within walking distance, and most of the time, my classes were after work with no time to go home for dinner. So I’d hit one of these places, usually with a magazine or my latest book club book in hand. One of them I felt VERY comfortable having a meal at the bar – it got where the head bartender would see me coming, clear an area, and ask me about my latest pottery project! LOL. Even if I didn’t have a glass of wine or a cocktail, it helped me destress from the day and get into a better “find the center” mindset for pottery. Plus, since these places were within walking distance, I wasn’t scrambling to find parking (my school does not have a parking lot).
I got a fellow book club member hooked as well, and when she can, she joins me for classes and yes, happy hour beforehand. But I go anyway if she can’t. (I love a good happy hour menu. Love trying smaller plates!)
I’m so excited for you!
Happy Holidays TT, hope you had a wonderful Christmas. Sending lots of warm wishes to you and Banjo.
Thank you helping me get through some very sad moments just by sharing your thoughts and your humor. May God bless you and keep you this holiday season and always.
I hope you enjoy all of the presents that you DESERVE! You give us a place to connect with others and sometimes A LAUGH is the best medicine and the best boost that we need to get through the hard times. Never underestimate the value of what you give us and what you have created here.
There are lots of recapping sites (just nit as funny and erudite as yours). But there is only ONE Tamara Tattles family/community. Priceless.
I had a lovely wedding yesterday. Exactly what we wanted. Small, family and close friends the first night of a holiday we have every year. I am lucky where I live that there are no cases of COVID so we were able to carry out our plans. ❤️
MAZEL TOV!!!
Congratulations Sarah!!
So many thanks to all here. I may post inconsistently, but I am always here laughing, snarking, crying, empathizing, supporting, or (pretty much) lurking. I know it isn’t easy…THANK YOU, TT. And to all that contribute with respect, kindness, and support…I appreciate you. Not everyone will always agree. Having a forum that combines the openness that this site does with tea, shade, recaps, blind items, etc. has meant so much to me. Much Gratitude and Blessings to All!
I went out yesterday to a small town in TX inundated with tourists, that is usually a pretty sleepy area. So I went to a couple of shops and drove the hour back home. I think if I took a poll, these tourists would be from states shut down. Ugh i just wanted a table runner, etsy it is! Otherwise it’s been quiet just knitting, gym, eating, and TV time. Everyone try to stay safe and happy!
I don’t comment much but I read everyday. We had a very non-Christmas (I refuse to call this Christmas) and it’s sad but we made the best of it. Hubby and I made a big batch of ravioli together. I just wanted to say I love reading everyone’s comments and personal reflections on your daily struggles getting through this mess. It keeps me going on to know others out there are feeling JUST like me! And when you find you are easily brought to tears, that is a GOOD thing. It means you are a feeling, empathetic soul and heck that is just what this world needs now!!! Wish you all peace and love.
My mom keeps asking me to send my son for a sleepover at her house. She’s upset that we didn’t do Christmas together, we just dropped off/picked up gifts and stood outside (wearing masks) for a a few minutes to visit before going home. “We’re very careful, we always wear masks, we don’t go anywhere, and I clean and disinfect all the time. I always use bleach. Plus your dad and I both had the flu vaccine so that should help protect us a bit from covid,” she says. I told her that the flu vaccine doesn’t have anything to do with coronavirus—seriously, there has been a constant and concerted effort by doctors for months to make sure people understand that Covid is not the flu—and said I would think about it.
Then, over the holiday, she kept sending me pictures of all the people who came to visit her and no one was wearing masks! She just doesn’t get it. She’s sending me selfies of her and her visitors right next to each other, smiling, kissing cheeks, no masks. “Oh well your aunt just took her mask down for a little bit so I could take pictures! Your brother doesn’t have to wear a mask around us because we’re related. We don’t wear a mask around grandma and grandpa because we’re so careful otherwise and they literally don’t go anywhere so they can’t be sick.” And the stupid thing is, I don’t think she even understands that she’s sending me literal photographic evidence that contradicts all her assurances about how “careful” they’re being and why it’s safe for my son to sleep over. I don’t understand how she can not get it. How she thinks she’s being very very careful when she’s not doing the one thing that provides the most protection: wear a mask. She honestly seems to think that if you wear a mask for most of the visit but then pull it down to take photos, that’s still considered “wearing a mask the whole time,” or that she can’t catch covid from someone she’s related to, or that it’s a contradiction to say people “literally don’t go anywhere” when they’ve left their house to visit her house. She doesn’t think about the fact that my aunt sees my uncle without a mask, who sees his family without a mask, who see their church congregations without a mask. Or my brother sees his girlfriend without a mask who sees her sister without a mask who sees her boyfriend without a mask who sees his parents without a mask who see their in-laws without a mask. So while my mom claims she’s only seen 4 people over the holidays without masks, she’s actually been exposed to 50+ people who haven’t been wearing masks.
Sorry, I just definitely needed somewhere to vent. It’s the lack of intelligence that bothers me most. If she was just an anti-masker who thought it was all a conspiracy, it would bug me, but at least her behavior would make sense. But she thinks she’s being super careful and is telling me she should be allowed to see me and my family because she’s “following ALL THE RULES,” when she’s so obviously not.
I get it.
My immediate (+5 households) family, sans me, gathered indoors for Thanksgiving AND Christmas. I noped out.
Then, my mom asked me to visit yesterday bc it would just be the 2 of us. I declined. She is faux offended.
Hang in there… and I’d stop giving her hope that you are thinking about it. Nopity nope nope nope. Not until everyone takes the COVID vaccine, and at this point, I’d ask for goddamn proof that she’s taken both rounds.
Now I’m saying I think we should wait until summer when we’re hopefully all vaccinated. And the weird thing is that I’m okay with visiting if we all wear masks and don’t take them off to eat or drink. I’ve offered suggestions like we all go for a walk to see the Christmas lights. Or we get together for thanksgiving wearing masks and then everyone takes a doggy bag home. Or we can do birthday gift exchanges wearing a mask but no cake or icecream because we shouldn’t take our masks off and she doesn’t really want to do those things yet she’s constantly complaining about not seeing each other. It’s like she wants things to be 100% like they were pre-pandemic or nothing at all because it “won’t be the same.” Which I don’t get. If she misses us all so much and is truly crying all the time (as she tells me thru text) then why not just wear the masks and see each other more frequently? It’s very bizarre. But now that I’ve seen the no mask behavior from them and everyone who visited them, I’m weary of even doing a masked visit with them.
Yep, I went to see my sister with no masks for a weekend. We socially distanced, she’s mostly a hermit like me, and she had been tested. Her adult kids do pop in from time to time. Well two of her kids whole families got it. I feel like I dodged a bullet. One family went to Vegas. Because idiots. The other family has an essential worker and not sure who brought it home.
I would not visit your mama, the Pope, or Edris Elba masked or not for the next few months. California is finally paying the price for all of their traveling. OC apparently still allows indoor dining! January is going to be BAAAD. That is why I went out for one more trip to Publix today. That’s and the potential for chaos on January 6th and beyond. Stay home. Let your mama cry. Does she have other kids to guilt trip? 🙂 Talk on the phone. See if people follow Bidens 100 day mask wearing suggestions. And reassess after the 100 days.
Amy Too, this is so well written, it captures my situation as well. Not that I have kids but that the people I know around me are so clueless about Covid, or refuse to recognize how careless their behavior can be. My big fear is that people who have it are still running around because they “don’t feel that bad.” Church right now is a very scary place. I don’t care how separated you think you sit you are still exposing yourself to so many people who have been exposed to so many people just like your story. And people wonder how it spreads…..
I don’t feel so good going back to bed. I’ll try to be back to recap RHOP!
Feel better! You deserve time off …even from us. I, too, spent the last few weeks watching Holiday movies trying to shut out the world. I had been telling myself no to RHOSLC watching. Gave in and binged yesterday. Wow. Too bad I ran out of Christmas movies on Christmas Day. And I watched some really bad ones, too.
Today is my birthday.?? It hasn’t even been a month since I lost my Dad. Am missing him So much. My friends are my family now. My fur babies are keeping me going. Here’s hoping the New Year brings better days to All of us.
Feel better, TT❣Am wearing my mask ? (& gloves today) in Anaheim.
Happy birthday ? Debra!!?
Thank you Cheryl❣ It’s very kind of you to think of me??
Not good. My doggo is sick now and I’m pretty much done with the whole 2020 thing. I’m getting fucked in the ass from every aspect of my life.
Fell asleep last night shortly after the Bellow Deck recap. Work up just after 6 am. I need to vote and make a very short trip to Publix. Voting opens at 7 am. My early voting site is only open for three and a half days (the Republicans tried not to open it at all)Yesterday was the first day. The lines were between two and three hours all day. So I got up and kept refreshing the live update page for the lines. My site showed closed until 7:45. Now the lines are over 2 hours long. The other locations are all much, much shorter.
SInce voting should be quick with only two races on the ballot, hopefully it will get caught up quickly. Meanwhile two of the sites they kept open have no lines at all and are in the middle of nowhere. #VoterSuppression. They should have opened ALL the early voter locations just like for the General.
All the other voting sites show lines under 30 minutes. Mine is down to 90 minutes. Le sigh. Technically I could go to any other polling site in the county but the easier other one to get to is the main one and it can go from 15 minutes to 2 hours by the time you get there. I’m wondering if they are lying about our voting times because they clearly never wanted to reopen this site anyway. The other one they didn’t want to open is running the second highest wait time. This really should be illegal. They CLAIMED no one wanted to work in the polls again after the last Trump drama. But there were qualified people who volunteered to run the polls this time. The offer was not accepted.
I AM WEARING A BRA AND CLEAN CLOTHES THAT ARE NOT PAJAMAS! For the first time in MONTHS. I am going to vote today!
Well, we are down to an hour! There is usually a slump between the “trying to vote before work” group and the “trying to vote during lunch hour” group. I’m sitting on go! I also want to go to four places, including one drive through on this trip. I’m feeling NORMAL today. For like the first time in months.
While I am waiting for the voting lines to go down, I’m reading the Hilarious Hilaria Hillary Baldwin debacle. I’ve never paid any attention to her before but she apparently has been pretending to be Spanish and she’s really just another privileged Masshole. Also, Alec Baldwin… um… ain’t right in the head either.
I hope Alec knew the truth. It is getting embarrassing and they have so many young children. This story is making my holiday season.
Alec did this weird video on Twitter that was 8 minutes long. It was apparently his way of defending Hilaria. He talked crap about Facebook, said Twitter was like a swap meet you have to sift through, and that he highly approved of Instagram. Then he talked about…media being full of lies and that we should consider the “source.” Well, as of now Hilaria says she is actually from Boston and Page SIx is publishing her year book photos from a fancy private highschool in Boston. It is HYSTERICAL. And comedians and other celebrities and random people are mocking her on Twitter. It’s the ending we needed for this stupid year.
I am LIVING for this Hilaria Baldwin story! It’s just the right amount of scandalous and crazy and stupid and obnoxious and WTF that makes for great, fun gossip. It’s not a sexual assault scandal or a racist scandal or a political corruption scandal or anything else that leads to feeling of existential dread for the future of people and the world. It’s such a bizarre story that it will keep people engaged, talking, joking, meme-ing, and theorizing for days so I can really savor it. And I enjoy that it’s basically one of the only stories of 2020 that hasn’t torn the internet into diametrically opposed factions fighting each other with the fury of a thousand suns in order to prove that Faction A is absolutely 100% correct about everything and Faction B is either a liberal, snowflake, crybaby, performatively-woke drama queen OR a backwards, racist, xenophobic, science-denying, Nazi bigot. This is pretty much just everyone on the internet being like “wow, that’s crazy. She’s crazy. Watch this video where she pretends to not remember the English word for cucumber.”
Who knew it would be Hilaria Baldwin who reunited us all? lol
While I totally agree, Hilaria Baldwin is an idiot, all people from Massachusetts, myself included, are just everyday working stiffs. I am an essential worker and have worked every day since the pandemic began , I work in Community Action. I have my entire career, and not because of the pay , believe me, because it makes me feel good at the end of the day when I get home. My son is an essential health care worker, he too has worked every day during the pandemic, helping people and his team at his hospital fight COVID. Massachusetts is a beautiful place to visit, the beaches, the forestry, the national seashore, the Cape and the Islands. Don’t knock it and classify us all as Mass..holes… that bothers me, and I have to mention that most of us, are not Harvard, Cambridge idiots. Ok, I am out.
Didn’t mean to offend. Some of my favorite people are Massholes. I really should marry one for the health insurance. 🙂