First of all, Thanks to all of you for your kind comments. On my latest meltdown post. In a pandemic, when nothing is happening, there is a lot of stuff that is going on with me. Just like there is all kinds of stuff with you guys. Frankly, I have it pretty easy over here in comparison to a lot of people. But my mental health is not the best and I get overwhelmed with anxiety especially when it comes to financial decisions. Today is the cut off day for health insurance and I have decided to skip yet another year. I don’t want to be trying to meet a huge deductible during Covid. So let’s hope my lungs and liver take the self abuse for another year. 🙂
Also, I realize that my Covid brain and anxiety and the political climate has taken a toll on my work. I’ve been crankier than usual. And I need to get back on track. No one needs to hear my whining when we all are dealing with a pandemic. And finally, about that post, no comments do not matter. Just coming to my site helps. That said, you comments give me the only interaction I have with people other than Twitter and my occasional drunken phone calls to you guys. Comments make no financial difference. It’s just that I was missing you guys. That is the pathetic truth. And when I post and get few comments, it is fewer interactions.
Lots of you have been here for a long time. We have had people come and go. People have surprised me in many ways. I recognize that I need to loosen up a bit on comments. I was trying to keep politics out of this place and then found it impossible. It’s literally just not possible. So I made political posts for everyone to talk. I know that I want, and you guys want a place to get away from it all. But it just doesn’t seem to be possible. Never in my lifetime, and I is OLD AS FUCK, have I ever been terrified as I am by this President. This is not democrat or republican situation I’ve been republican leaning Independent for most of my adult life. We have a mentally unstable president. It’s very hard to not mention. We are in a pandemic and there is no one at the helm of this country. You may think things are fine and you are welcome to your opinions but I am terrified. He still has the football for almost a month. I apologize to my republican friends here. I am sorry if I ran you off. When times return to normal, if they ever do, politics will go to the back burner here again. But please try to understand, we are pretty much last in the world for getting through this shit because our dear leader is telling everyone it’s nothing. It’s just like the flu and it is INFURIATING. New Zealand, Singapore, South Korea are all pretty much back to normal life because they took the steps to get there. And THE BEST COUNTRY IN THE WORLD is pretty much last.
Anyway, I am terrified about the current person in the office of POTUS. I have increased anxiety. I’m furious over health insurance being the price of a car every year. So I opted out again. I’m lonely. It is a dark cold winter in the ATL lately. I’ve been in quarantine since 3/13. I’m not doing well. So thanks for hanging with me if you can. I think of Ingrid all the time and all she has been through and so many of you have gone through real shit. And my problems are minor. Also please send up some prayer for “my fiancé” Cindy this morning as she is having surgery. And for he roomie Nanette who has a lot going on.
We all have a lot going on. So I am going to try to be kinder. I have no idea why we have such a great group of people here. And I hope we can all stick around and get through this together. And I think we should include the haters. I am letting more of them through. I suppose some of them are the cat ladies. I’d kind of love “I only have one taco a month and no cable” girl to come back. I literally tried to buy her tacos and fix her cable issues before my surgery. Le sigh.
So to recap, I’m doing the best I can. And the comments do nothing for revenue. I just want to know someone is still out there. It’s kind of lonely over here. And thanks for letting me know you are out there.
Girl, I am just waking up and reading this post. Hang in there….when this pandemic ends, plan your travel and get to blogging….we will all follow you! Maybe some of us will meet up with you on your adventures! Meantime check your email…gonna send you some pup photos to lift your spirits!
I love American spirit and it has been so hard not to have been able to experience it much this year due to the border being closed. I love your smarts, patriotism and balls – and how this uniquely manifests itself in individuals. Americans are so refreshing!
I find the thought of being fingered by my boss in the hallway at work terrifying. I find people who can lie consistently without a missing a beat, especially when it is about their children who are out of fucking control, creepy af. And I can’t stand people who sell-out and blatantly ignore shit the people they are being controlled by do: eating dogs, the persecution/torture of uighers in a modern day genocide and creating fucking diseases that shut the whole world down.
I too live a very isolated life these days and seldom leave my fenced in property. It’s hard to make goals and if you do achieve successes then it is co-mingled with the fact that so many people are failing. Did you know what helped me? My girl-crush Sidney Powell. Is she crazy? Does she have balls of steel? She absolutely refuses to be cancelled and her pursuit of getting to the bottom of things is mind-boggling. Give her Twitter a look tt (when the silicon oligarchs haven’t closed her down) and revel in thought process of someone who stopped giving a fuck long ago.
Anyway, I’ve always kept the smart girl in my crosshairs … emulate the positives and lol at the crazy. What else can you do?
We’re here. We love you. ‘Nuff said.
This winter will be a rough one but it will pass. I am keeping my mind focused on January 20th and hopes for a calming voice and Unity. Much love going your way.
Just a suggestion. Try yoga. Deep breathing exercises. CBD gummies can work wonders. I’ve been home since March too. Take a walk, clear your lungs. Anything to keep yoir mental health intact.
Sending you good vibes TT.
thanks y’all. I don’t know why I am such a hot mess. I am good with being alone usually. But now things seem so weird. I don’t see anyone driving the car, if you know what I mean, so I am freaking out. Off to bed. xo ~tt
I live alone and have been working from home since March.
I live in a rural area and my neighbors are not close.
There are no sidewalks and I live off the main road, so unless I leave the house I don’t have contact with anybody.
So, I know how you are feeling because I feel very isolated at times too.
You seem to be a very strong person. I don’t think you are a hot mess.
I think you’re being too hard on yourself.
I am a lifelong Democrat. The governor of my state is a Republican.
He has done a great job trying to keep us safe and healthy during this pandemic which can be done without making everything political.
I can’t wait until January 20 because I know things will get better.
No matter your political affiliation, we all should be honest.
How this pandemic has been handled by Trump has been an absolute failure.
I’ve never commented but I read your site daily. Big fan of your writing and your bravery in letting us all into your life.
This year does suck and honestly I don’t view the guy in the White House as a Republican, he’s just a Trump. I got wonderful news yesterday so I’d like to share…grand baby #7 was born! First boy born into the family in almost 27 years. Rulon Robert entered this world at 8 lbs 1 oz yesterday afternoon and he is a cutie!!!
Congratulations jojersey! I hope you get to spend time with him soon! ❤️
Congratulations!!!???
I feel same way, not a republican..just Trumplethinskin. He is just a vile incompetent anxiety-inducing insecure bully and con man. His failure of leadership on full display in the pandemic.
TT, no apologies…sometimes we just have to meltdown then get up again. People have posted great suggestions already…not much I can add except to say this has been my lifeline! Thank you for your site and your honesty.
Congrats, I have two nephews with the family name and one didn’t seem interested it having his own child and I THINK (strained family relationship) moved far away and married someone with lots of kids. So THERE WAS ONE GUY to keep the family name going. AND IT WAS A BOY! I was overjoyed and hope he grows up to have more boys. LOL. So I get it. His name is Robert too! Only he will go by Trace. He was named after my father. And so was his son.
I’m right next door to you wishing you a peaceful morning. The sun is coming up and will warm us. Thank you for creating this space for all of us to connect. We need it.
Howdy neighbor! xo ~tt
Right back to you darling girl. Big love!!
TT glad to hear you’re feeling better. I can relate about the current political situation. My anxiety is through the roof sometimes wondering what 45’s next coup attempt will be and how many Republicans will either actively encourage or be silently complicit. It disgusts me to see hate groups being emboldened and I fear this country will never heal from 45. I just have to walk away from the news sometimes and your site is such a great escape for me. I recently tried CBD oil too and do feel like it helps on days when my anxiety starts to get overwhelming. Hang in there TT. We’re all here for you.
Great comment Lorie, sums up my feels. I need to try CBD instead of anxiety eating.
I’m here too – you are never alone with this fan club of yours! Stay strong – I truly believe things are shortly going to take a real turn for the kind of world we all want it to be.
I sure hope so. I never imagined the mess the wrong person in the White House could make. As a former republican who voted for FUCKING CLINTON to try to avoid this… well is worse than I could ever imagine. Who would have thought we would be so unsafe?
Hey there, TT. I think one of the reasons that you have such close, loyal online friends is your willingness to be raw, to be yourself, and to share your heart and your emotions (the good, the bad and the ugly- stuff we all have inside us). Other “places” can feel impersonal, but you’ve let us into your wold in the way a best friend does. I feel like yesterday’s post was a much-needed cleansing and recalibration, for you and I think for your readers/commenters. People got their real feelings out. We LOVE you (and I think, even those who’ve expressed feeling p.o.’d – they must care at some level, otherwise, why read and respond, right ?). You are a bridge and a connector of people, TT, that’s your brilliance and your power. So please let us know how we can give back to you….
Spot on comment
Aw Kat, you just did. I just needed to know you were all still out there and I wasn’t talking into the abyss. I know you all have your own stuff going on, but some days I just need to hear from you guys too. Otherwise it feels like I am talking to myself. And I’m kinda needy these days…
We are still all here… speaking for myself, I read for the needed break but no energy to post. Had covid week before Thanksgiving & still not 100%. Silver lining is hired for an administrative position over special education program & officially out of the classroom!!! 20
Years of teaching, and remote teaching had me over the edge. Start date is the 21st & included a significant pay raise! Excited as I can be with no energy.
Oh my goodness. As a former teacher, I would have quit this year. I’m old and high risk. I am so sorry you got the Covid. Praying for your speedy recovery. That said, I miss the classroom, THE KIDS not the ADMINS and all the fucking bullshit. I know you know what I mean. 🙂 Congrats on the promotion.
I totally get your response to POTUS. I didn’t realize that he was affecting me. I can’t stand that there are people who defend this lower human being. Everyday there is something that we have to deal with. Lately, I could not believe that he liters had the names addresses of the migrant children from the border. He and his sycophants are SICK!! Actually he can do a lot of damage before Begin’s swearing in…Yes, I can’t wait until January 20th! Stay well and take care. Some relief is around the corner.
I stopped watching the news and reading the headlines right after President elect Biden won. It has done wonders for my spirits.
I’ve been home since March, survived two retrenchments, and can’t see any of my family for Christmas. See ya, 2020.
TT, I (try to read) read only cultural, social, and celebrity news, and comment nowhere else.
Thank you. I love this community. You have created something unique here.
I have. And I get so afraid when you guys aren’t commenting. I need you guys way more than you need this site. Thanks for being here.
It’s been a wretched year and we all need to vent from time to time. This is a great place to do that. Hope the weather in the ATL brightens up soon. I worry that you don’t have insurance. I don’t understand how, in this great country, we have regulations on when you can purchase insurance. Open enrollment is an idiotic system and I hope someone in power figures that out and does something about that and finds a way to reduce costs/deductibles so no one feels like they can’t afford to buy health insurance.
I just knew that I would not have the courage to go to a doctor in a pandemic and they wanted my tax info from THIS YEAR and I feel like I barely finished that trauma from 2019. I just could not do it.They want enough money to buy a new car from me every year BEFORE the fucking insurance kicks in. So once again I am rolling the dice.
Then I wish you good health for 2021.
I read here everyday but been very busy with a Xmas charity. Like you TT, I am an independent/ leaning Republican. I haven’t commented many times because I don’t need or want any political attacks of those who disagree with me. I am weaning off Bravo except for one or two Housewives shows and Southern Charm !! I really do enjoy your tea however!! I can’t get into Atlanta but thrilled NeNe is gone, hopefully for good!! Feel better, sending hugs to you and Banjo!!
Thanks Margaret. I am in the middle of sobbing over John Legend and John Holiday singing Bridge over Troubled water right now. SO VERY NEEDED. Thanks to all of you for being my bridge. It means the world.
I am so happy to hear you aren’t going anywhere Tamara! I have been coming to this site for years and have never commented, but I love to read the comments.. Even my husband knows who you are because I am always laughing about something you said. He watches Below Deck and Southern Charm with me. This site and a few podcasts are what have been getting me through since I got laid off in February. I hope that in a year’s time we will be through the worst of COVID because it really is such a dark time.
Wow, Mitch McConnell finally publicly stated that Biden won the election. I honestly don’t know Trump is going to respond to that.
Since Trump can’t fire McConnell, he’ll probably try to find some way to get him to resign. I think Trump has dirt on all of his supporters in the House & Senate and that’s one of the reasons they keep supporting him. If the dirt is bad enough McConnell may have to resign.
McConnell will never resign – either voted out or feet first is the ONLY way he’ll leave. Out of all of them he is self before country or party
I think you’re right about that, Staceychris, under normal circumstances. Trump and the underhanded things he does aren’t normal though. If he has something up his sleeve that could potentially destroy McConnell, Mitch may cut his losses and decide to retire. Probably not, but a girl can dream, lol.
Mitch McConnell is honestly the most powerful political figure in US politics. It is scary. He has rooted himself in the GOP over 40 years ago. He actually scares me. He is a soulless person.
I could not agree more. And I don’t think he would ever resign. Why would he? Seems like he has the same teflon coating as Don the Con. I was naive enough to think he might lose the last election, but no such luck. What the hell does he do for Kentucky that they keep voting for him? C’mon GEORGIA! We need Warnock and Ossoff to make the turtle take a seat.
He keeps the same message, pro-life, conservative, small government (even though he is the freaking house speaker) keep your guns. Unfortunately, the people that run against him are so far out that people that live here cannot vote against him. There has not been an actual candidate that opposes him that ever had a damn chance.
And while I’m on it, a Matt Jones was going to take on him, BUT Amy’s McGrath campaign took him (Matt Jones) to dirt financially and stomped any chance we had of someone that was born here, lived here, and paid taxes here all their life that wanted a fucking chance to represent us. Good God, I need to go to sleep. Good night y’all. I am getting myself in a damn tizzy.
I just said I don’t see you on here as much…. maybe I should read all of the comments before I comment 🙂
May your cheese soon find it’s way back home, top of the cracker. A little fresh cracker pepper might be nice. Love and hummingbird cake.
Day eleventy thousand of the pandemic…My house is basically like a cozy snow globe inside and I can’t bring myself to leave. Not great, since I need to go check on my Dad. Mom died in July, and he is on his own, giving me and my new husband (married the week before Mom died) the house, but he comes with the deal! Going to be interesting to live with not one, but two grumpy old Italian men. Life is feeling like Moonstruck, Modern Family, and The Money Pit all at once–just less funny
But–love my family and hoping for better days under this better president! So tired of Humperdink being in the White House. Be well!!!
Sorry about the loss of your mom. That’s always a tough one to deal with. I’m Italian and can completely relate to living with grumpy old Italian men.
It’s been really hard but we have been pulling together. My dad and my husband are already planning to plant a fig tree 🙂
Hi CatLady80! Just wanted to tell you how much I related to your post- the part about “old Italian men”, because I’ve got one of those too, lol. I’m your basic Celtic gal (ethnically), came from a smallish family and married my Italian (American) guy 33 years ago. Huge, very stereotypical Italian American family – lots of relatives in Queens, Jersey, etc. (although we’re from Baltimore). I’m a bit of an introvert, so the first few times I was with the family I felt like my whole nervous system went into shock from the overstimulation from loud talking, the intrusive questions, his mother trying to force me to eat all the time, all the activity, pressure to produce grandchildren, etc. It was a trip!
Of course (before someone flames me for stereotyping Italian Americans ?), I fully realize this is not representative of the entire culture in any way- but it is my husband’s family, God love em… Very, very much a scene from Moonstruck, as you said. Anyway, so very sorry for your recent loss, and just wanted you to know that I could sort of relate to the “grumpy Italian men” part- it gave me a chuckle…
I love both my grumpy old men, but oy. We are currently redecorating my dad’s house before we move in, and navigating the two of them is interesting! They are so much alike lol. A 73-year old Marine and a 48-year old lawyer talking pasta and fig trees like two peas in a pod. I am building a shed bar in the backyard. Or possibly, a tree house so I can pull the ladder up 😉
Hi, thought of something. Before pandemic, you were alone by choice. Now, you have no choice. If we live alone, we are isolated and not by choice. And that’s stressful. As for Trump? He never was a real President, he never even expected to win. It was a game to him. Now he’s an angry old man sitting in the WH, tweeting shit cuz he doesn’t get his own way. He’ll be gone soon. Plus, you cannot worry about things you cannot control. That took me years to figure out. But once I did, it relieved a lot of my anxiety (that and paxil). And we come to this site because you are you. You don’t pretend to be something you’re not, you don’t have an agenda, you don’t want anything from anyone, you are funny, street smart and extremely entertaining. I felt for you reading this posting because you don’t owe us explanations. If we had to blog everyday God only knows what would come out of our mouths. You are just saying what all of us are feeling. We are your family here and love you unconditionally.
Thanks Gigi. I am listening to “The Johns” singing Bridge over troubled water a billion times tonight. I promise I am trying to get my shit together. I REALLY need to get to the grocery store soonish… and It’s just terrifying. I know, instacart, blah blah blah but I can’t choose what produce looks good from home and most importantly I can’t get wine or beer. I’m going to buy the whole wine row out this time. So I never have to go back.
This is a super thoughtful response to the feedback you got on the other post and it doesn’t go unnoticed. That said, anxiety is a bitch — especially in these times — and I can relate to that feeling (probably on a smaller level, but still). Hang in there!
Thanks J. I can be bitchy at times. Something that people seem to miss is I do this all day everyday. Some days I have anxiety (most days) and some days I feel fine. And some days I a terrified by the world. And some days I’m just not feeling it. And some days, I just need a hug. And um, there are no 3D people anymore… I’m a work in progress.
So sorry your feeling like this it has been a horrible year but things can only get better and they will soon!! Just keep the faith xx
Dammit I started commenting, the page jumped & it disappeared. I am not necessarily Democrat or Republican. I cried in 2011 as I watched Obama inaugurated. I thought our country had come so far in my lifetime. I heard stories growing up about my grandfather & daddy working in the National Guard when MLK was shot. I laughed when Trump said he was running. Then, thought well him not being a politician might be a good thing. Someone needed to take his phone away or shut down his Twitter long ago. I thought he was going to lead/protect against Covid when he was doing the daily briefings w/Drs Fauci & Birx. We see how long that lasted. I’m scared of Covid. I know families personally who have lost loved ones to it. I know healthcare workers who are tired physically, tired of seeing coworkers catching it. I’m tired of people I have known since high school arguing with me about masks. I don’t know what’s so hard about wearing one if you go out. If there’s the slightest chance it helps then I think we should do everything we can.
Unfortunately for some people wearing the mask has become a political statement doesn’t make any sense. We wear seatbelts because it’s safer, we stop at stop lights because it’s safer, just wear the damn mask
Parler (right wing nut Twitter alternative) is going ape shit on Mitch – they were fine with him when he was living up Trump’s ass, but now that he FINALLY admitted this was a legit election process they are making horrible racist comments about his wife.
His finally stating this gave me comfort for January 6th, which will be the last moment that they can try to fuck things up.
My dad and I spend a good part of yesterday morning reading the Constitution and some of the info flyers that the Archives have online (yesterday’s certified electoral votes will actually have multiple destinations. Certified copies go to the Archives as well as the President of the Senate – Pence).We affirmed a few things we probably knew a while ago, but had forgotten. Gave us some comfort, so pardon the lengthy (ish) explanation/lesson below. But I thought that it might comfort you.
On November 8th, we weren’t exactly voting for President – but for what slate of electors we wished to appear on December 14th to cast electoral votes for president (nearly every state has it where the winner of the popular vote takes all the electoral votes, and many have laws about “faithless electors” who get to this date and vote for someone different. But not all – so I was nervous.)
I was worried that the “slate” for the Republicans would try to show up and fuck things up. They tried, but at least in one state, Michigan’s security booted their ass out! They weren’t allowed in the building! Others did a performative “vote count” just in case the “Supreme Court threw out their state’s election”. News flash – they aren’t. Also, there have been protests in my town, and someone got shot this weekend. I didn’t sleep Sunday night. Have to keep telling myself that I am physically safe, as are my family and other loved ones. They also kept them away from the small, local shops who are trying to keep up Christmas sales in a modified lockdown.
So… what is next? The certified votes are on their way to Washington DC. There are multiple copies. One goes to the President of the Senate (Pence) and one goes to the Archives. There might be another copy – I can’t remember.
Anyway, January 6th is when a joint session of the newly formed Congress (days after the newly electeds are sworn in) meets to accept those votes. Now, dummy me, I thought they were approved in one fell swoop, and I was worried about objections. If a single Representative and a single Senator make an objection, the respective houses split and each debates those objections for no more than 2 hours. However, the objections are not made in one fell swoop! The joint session goes over each state’s votes in alphabetical order!!! Each objection can take up to two hours!
So, that means they have to find one Rep and one Senator to object to each state. Also, if the objections are upheld by both houses, it isn’t that the state votes go to the other side – they are THROWN OUT. Biden needed the 270 to reach a simple majority. Throwing out the state’s votes also reduces the number of total votes – and Biden will still have the majority of what is left over.
So in essence, they would have to get each of the key states – Arizona, Georgia, Michigan, Pennsylvania, and Wisconsin. (a total of 73 electoral votes, which is how much Biden is ahead of Trump).
Then it would be a tie. In the event of an election that doesn’t determine a winner, the House of Representatives votes for President, the Senate for Vice President. The weird thing about the House is it isn’t each rep who gets a vote, but each state. The bloc of each state’s reps have to decide who they will vote for. This may mean more R states than D, frankly… some if not all swing states are R, even though voted for Biden.
So, the congressional bloc from Georgia for instance – they would have to decide to follow what the people of their state voted for, or to follow Trump and DISENFRANCHISE their entire state and face the wrath and horrible publicity of that in less than 2 years when they run again. Honestly, the same goes for the Senate. (also of note in this scenario – if we got to this point – which we aren’t – there is the possibility of the House electing Trump, and the Senate electing Harris for VP.
I used to say that the electoral college was a weird check and balance that I could maybe see some slight value to – but damn… definitely more on the lets just do popular vote and get it over with.
Tamara, it’s especially hard for us Georgians right now. We’re still knee deep in election BS. Every other commercial is a political attack ad and I received 5 pieces of political mail just today (all 5 were from the same candidates with one featuring a baby that says something along the lines of ‘my life depends on your vote’).
Sitting outside (even in the cold) to get some vitamin D has helped me lately. I sit for about 20 mins and think about why I’m blessed. Then I continue about my day. It’s hard to do some days but I just force myself to do it.
Hang in there…..it will get better. Remember; it’s always darkest before the dawn. Trite..I know…but it’s true.
I have enjoyed your recaps for years and usually check every day. But I have watched people with differing opinions get eviscerated here for their opinions and therefore don’t comment
I miss dalaimama and I noticed Nancy commented yesterday. I have noticed some of the people I used to interact with the most have kind of stopped ommenting, just Jenn LA in KY and Samuel… if I screwed up handles I’m sorry, just know I miss the banter and/or I’m thinking of y’all
Well, it could be worse. You could have Trump, covid and all your other problems….. and have 12-18 in of snow/ice coming tomorrow.
I was a bit harsh in my comments and I apologize. I’m down with Strep Throat and grumpy as hell. SO SO SORRY if I offended you which I’m almost certain I did. The bitchy side of me came out and that’s not a pretty sight.
I was here during a lot of the “I only have one taco a month and no cable girl” times and I don’t wish that back. I felt very hoodwinked by that whole group and I’d be in no hurry for a revisiting. I remember all you tried to do, TT. I also agree with most everything else you wrote. This whole year, pandemic, administration is scary and won’t just end. My husband is a doc. He’s not had more than 4 days off a month since March. My kids haven’t left the house since then except to take a drive with me through the park occasionally. The only 2 places I’ve been are the grocery store and the bank every 2 weeks. With three mask and a face shield on each time. It’s making me cranky af and my anxiety is higher than it’s ever been. I stopped watching most Bravo because it started to GRATE. However, I LIVE for all your 90 Days franchise coverage. We all just have to hang in there. It’s not fun. But I’ll be damned if I let this shitshow going on in this country break me. I want to make it to see those better days I KNOW are coming.
I am always reading your recaps and watching the shows. Truthfully it is all I have right now. However, I am struggling watching these shows who were taping just as the pandemic started. It is giving me anxiety watching it. So I will continue to read the recaps!
I was in a zoom meeting with someone from my team today and he said “I’m having a midlife crisis.” He’s all of maybe 25. I think we are all feeling that way right about now. Personally I am more of a loner and I like being home, but this pandemic shit isn’t the same as that and it’s taking a toll on everyone..especially during the holiday season. Hopefully this will all be over soon, or at least on the way to something more normal. Sending lots of love to you, TT, and everyone here.
Sometimes rather than focusing on all the negative, maybe focus on some good things. Change the tone of some of the comments. Doing good things may help you feel better. Get a dog or cat or even a small animal from the humane society for a sleep over or to foster. Good to have company. If you can’t do that and don’t want to leave the house than consider helping other ways. Rescues need people to process applications, (good way to talk to others ) record microchip numbers, do follow ups and other tasks. It’s a way to help and get involved rather than concentrating on problems. I am sure there are people related things you could do. I just am more involved with animals.
I’m so glad you’re still here for us. I look forward to your posts, I check in on you every day but hardly comment, I guess I don’t think I have much to add. You’re a good chick TT, sending you tons of love from NJ ?
Thanks, MurphsMom!
I hope you are doing better, TT. I live in Michigan and we just got snow a few days ago, that is odd for December. It’s been a shitty 2020. I am usually a positive person; but these past few weeks have gotten me into a negative attitude. (Siblings who make poor decisions and then expect family to bail them out.)
However, a bright spot is reading your recaps and comments from other folks. I rarely comment, but I am here! Hope everyone stays healthy.
Anxiously awaiting 2021!
It’s right around the corner, Yoop! And you know I love me a Yooper.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I am OAF, w/o health insurance with Stage 7 Fibromyalgia. We just escaped evil GOP Florida Kremlin govern & moved to Durham,NC IN A PANDEMIC. Massive with minimal assist required. I now have HOPE for some expert research/assistance. Our current condition is beyond INTENTIONAL MANSLAUGHTER. If GA doesn’t flip majority, change will be limited. I’m losing my marbles as yourself, with flashes of Zen savior thru OUT EVERYDAY. Epic good vs evil in play..
Keep the Bravo and ALL you need to share to cope coming lady. We need you as you need us.
GRATITUDE IS ESSENTIAL. I’ve NEVER seen food bank cars stretch for 25 BLOCKS in South Beach Miami since I arrived there in 1988…EVERY AMERICAN should be concerned & OUTRAGED!,
This health insurance is UTTER BULLSHIT. I’m just saying.
Tamara I too struggle and feel myself shutting down at times. I have great fear of what can happen in the next month and beyond. This is not normal and that half the country has bought into it scares the shit out of me. l managed not to gain covid weight but since the election I am up 17 pounds. When I am not shoveling food in my face I am burning thru a couple packs a day. I found out today the Y is open for the pool so I am going to make a reservation and get walking. I know you also use the pool and being stuck at home maybe try dancing around a bit each day. Get your heart rate up and anxiety down. Do the Hustle! Or just walk in place for a few minutes. Anything to help clear your head for a few. Love to you and Banjo!
I know. It is super scary that so many people voted for four more years of dying and constant lies. For me that is the most terrifying part. And I am trying to take a breath and hope this all blows over and we have two mostly normal political parties again that just agree to have different views. But as a former republican leaning independent. This is not what America is all about. Trump is a fascist dictator not a republican. And it scares the shit out of me because I thought we would always be a democracy. He’s rounded up all the racist and hateful people and has them all under his spell. It’s probably the most terrifying thing I have ever experienced. And I have been through some things.
Tamara
*Waves* I’m here everyday, sometimes multiple times, but rarely comment for the same reasons many others have mentioned. I just wanted to comment…I have felt for the last 4-5 years that I am in some sort of alternate reality because I CANNOT for the life of me understand how people can support Trump. It is scary and just. so. weird. And these are people i know! So, I feel ya!
TT, thank you for the heartfelt post.
I am a longtime reader and only recent commenter.
I will do better!
I read your site more than any other.
Like many on here, I prefer your recaps to most of the actual shows!
Yours is the first site that appears when I open my browser.
I need you in my life…I don’t know what I’d do without you!
Signed,
One of those Cat Ladies ?
Love this post, TT! We are all here for each other. Long story short, it’s been a rough year and a half for me. But coming here to read your posts and the comments means the world to me. It helps keep me sane (and that’s not an easy job). And it reminds me that there are always others going through way worse things, so I need to suck it up. We all need to be kinder to one another. Thanks for reminding me/us of that! This is THE ONLY site I’ve kept up with during this pandemic. Thank you for all that you put into this site.
T-
We come here for YOU! You have your own opinions and insights on situations that make this site truly unique. You also dig deep and look at all sides of the story and give us your honest take. We don’t have to agree always, but I love hearing what you have to say. You are smart as a whip and I love reading your thoughts.
Thanks, Lisa! xo ~tt
We all got some crazy. I don’t care who you – or your momma are – we all have our moments! Though I have reservations about Biden, I look forward to opening POTUS Twitter and it being normal, not incendiary! But my current crazy, along with suspecting I or my children have covid on the daily, is wondering if my cupboard is adequate if we have a civil war. See, I told you we’ve all got crazy?. Now, can you pick a show or movie and us have a watch party of sorts? Preferably something that only requires half my attention so I can read all the snarky comments.
Well, it’s obvious that a lot of people come here for an emotional pick-me-up. And, no matter what other stuff you may, or may not, have going on…that’s a huge burden to carry. I read through the comments, and it’s obvious that no matter you political stance, or your current mental state, you are valued. You are important make people’s lives better. Now, more than ever, we need an escape from reality, but not such a far escape that we can’t relate, and it’s fiction (yes, reality tv is fictional, but also not). I admire your courage, it takes a lot to “expose” yourself on the internet, because (as you well know), there is no such thing as anonymous. I had to shut down my FB page because I just couldn’t handle the negativity, so you doing this is TOP SHELF in my book. I won’t say how many kids I have (because I’ve said it in previous posts and the redundancy annoys me, and make me feel bad for anyone that might have had to read it before. But…I will tell you that with 22 year old twins that are active duty in the military, and stationed over seas, I share your worry about the current leadership. I not only fear for them, but I fear for the rest of us. However, sometimes, with storm clouds looking overhead, we need a sun-shower. When the sky turns green, and tornado sirens are telling us to take shelter, we need someone to say, “Did y’all check the expiration dates of the dog food down there? Because, I. Can’t. Even.” We’ve lost family members and pets that are like family members this year, RIP Betty White (my beloved white pit bull, and not the actress). We’ve lost jobs, homes, cars, and everything that’s seems normal. This site is the one sliver of normalcy that some of us have. I’m so sorry that this is a burden you carry…My daughter became Tik Tok famous for making up stories about me and mocking the way I talk…I literally caved in on myself and couldn’t get out of bed! But you, day after day, put yourself out there! You let your thoughts and feelings be known, regardless of what people might say. I may not always agree, but damnit…I’m always impressed and happier after I’ve read your posts! Please don’t take me for a sycophant, if I need to, I can let you know where I disagree, but my guess is that you’ve dealt with enough of that for now. I just hope you are able to take a minute and appreciate what (and who) you are in the lives of so many people right now. Without you, some of us wouldn’t have a sliver of normality in our lives. So, thank you. Thank you very much. Take whatever time you need. Take days off, shoot…take weeks off, but please don’t disappear. Not now. Not with this. You are sort of the rose that grows through the cement…when all the rest of us can see is litter.
So, a funny thing happened today! An Amazon package was stolen from our front door. The funny part of this is it was a package of dried onion bits. Can you just imagine his face ( and it was a him, cause I saw the back of him leaving) when he opens that box? Karma. Merry Christmas you thief! Have a good sleep!?
Apparently grocery deliveries are being stolen from porches in our area pretty regularly now and 4 Amazon trucks actually got HIJACKED two towns over from us. The hijackings happened when drivers left the Amazon vehicles running in front of houses while they dropped off packages. They were like 10 feet away when it happened. It’s crazy.
Sending Love toYou All. I read your posts all the time but hardly ever comment. I just love reading all of Your Posts. You really have a Gift with the way you write and you Always put a smile on my Face. I’m so sorry that you are feeling so Alone right now.
Hopefully now you have a New President soon he will give some guidance to your Country to get Covid Under Control.
It’s hard but can be done like we have done things in Australia ??
Merry Christmas to All of You
Love from Sydney Australia ???
TT it is okay to tell us that you are struggling. I appreciate it although I wish there is something to help, but sometimes it just helps to say, “Thank you for being real and I am sorry that it has sucked for you.”
One good thing that I can say about our politics right now is that I think that we are ALL going to miss Trump just a little, in the way that one misses a toothache for example? It has been scary, but it is almost over.
Your resolutions to be kinder are thoughtful, but I am always here for the bad-ass TT that you are. Your kindness has shown-through anyhow and it is meaningful when we know how cranky you can be.
There is a reason besides all of the hard work that you do here that your site has lasted for years and I think it is your unique perspective and personality.