I feel like every relationship in my life comes to an end. So maybe it is time for this one to come to an end too. I still have the best sources on all thing Bravo but.. I feel like it’s not enough to be bothered with anymore.
I am falling apart a bit during Covid. It’s A LOT. I am not sure how I will live without you guys. But it is not he same here anymore. I will miss talking to you all. Eventually I will make this a travel blog when the world opens up.
But I am getting tired or always giving you the Bravo tea and getting no feedback. Is anyone still out there? Should I just shut the site down? Or make it a travel site? When an RHOA post gets less than 20 comments.. I think I am done..I’ll miss all the commenters. So just let me know… did I jump the shark?
Maybe it is my time to go. I’ve always planned to have a travel site but I can’t do that right now. But this doesn’t seem to be working either. Maybe I need a few days off. In the meantime, I’ll put a disscusion post up eventually.
I’m still here TT! I’m here everyday just not commenting as much – not that I ever did a lot of anyway. This is a busy time of year you know that – people are busy, people are tired from being busy. The only thing that doesn’t slow down are the retailers and that, for this year, scares the FUCK outta me. I’m sick of covid too but I am NOT going into a store where it is mobbed. I don’t care if everyone is in a mask or not. I will not be in a crowd. I’m also dealing with a few personal issues. From Thanksgiving until it gets warm again I do not do much of anything, even type! Many not so happy things have happened to me in the winter months and I’d rather just forget they exist so I am in hibernation mode.
I agree we all COVID tired, its not you TT but our overloadof drama on all fronts. I think we would all like to speak but it feels like a vacuum right now.
I love your recaps. And comments and open forums. Please stay. I read all the time, follow you on everything, but don’t comment a lot. I didn’t under the importance of commenting. Some of us are lurking, reading, loving the site quietly ❤️❤️❤️❤️
That’s when I started reading this site too Beth. Then I was just blown away with the “cat” and her deplorable minions. I sometimes go back and read that story TT put out there just to remind myself that a lot of people suck and keep your circle small lol.
I’m sorry to hear this.
Many months ago you’d received some honest feedback. You censured and became defensive, but that feedback came from your fans. Gone are witty recaps. Now, we have tons of excuses as to why you won’t really be giving a great recap… and summaries of personal sadness, half hearted attempts to recall names and events, etc. Many times, you’ve thrown your hands up in the air and have asked us to just talk among ourselves. We want YOUR thoughts and observations.
Andy Cohen recently relayed in an interview that, a few years into his hosting gig on WWHL, he lost his passion. That loss of passion was evident. When this was pointed out to him, he had the realization that he was screwing up his dream job and needed to pull it together. I think you have an amazing gig- especially one that should be thriving during a pandemic. There are 4 housewife shows on now, and most of us are stuck at home begging for content. But, your loss of passion is evident in your writing. We want to stick with you, but it’s too depressing to serve as escapism.
If you’re not able to do it, take the break. But, I hope we see you come back with that fire you once had. Remember, this is a shit time for us all, but some of us lucky to be able to work from home and spread joy. I hope you learn to, once again, derive joy from your work.
I agree with this fully. I used to check daily, but now I might check twice a week. Quality of recaps has gone downhill. Its a hard time for everyone ,but if you get paid for this and consider this your job and beg for us to interact and promote this site you should also put some effort into it.
Totally agree with above. I only check in but don’t do much commenting. It’s not worth the hassle you get. God forbid you have a different opinion. And why would someone comment when they are called names ? or insulted ? If you get paid by traffic coming to the site, why would you insult them ? There isn’t alot of discussion and you never know what the reaction will be. I think many are tired of the Bravo shows. Maybe do some shows that you are more interested in.
Yes all of this.
This! I have always loved bad followed TT. Lately, the comments have turned dark but I still read every day. I’ve tried to post as well and it didn’t work. If you are here, TT, I will read.
Thanks Sari. I need to get the passion back for sure. It’s there somewhere under the depression and anxiety. I’ll try to find it.
Ok…here goes: Don’t quit! Not that quitting was what you were saying you would do (rather transitioning)…but either way. The truth, you are GREAT at this, like, better than most and your wit, sarcasm, and brutal transparency are so refreshing to those of us who suffer silently from anxiety or depression, hell, or just a bad dang day! It is always nice when a person knows that they are not alone. You are so very relatable and funny. I for one applaud your ability to have created something (from the ground up) from nothing. But…yes, there is a but the above comments are not wrong. Lately it reads like you just don’t give a shit about this site and as an unfortunate byproduct it reads that you don’t give a bleep about us. That hurts. Clearly, this is an online forum and not “real life,” but when we come to your site to get the juice and be entertained by your clever thoughts and antics and instead feel like we (your loyal followers) are an after thought and then those who do engage comment and basically get told they are POS…it is off putting.
I am a loooooong time follower and first time contributor. Your quirky commentary has helped me through a miscarriage, subsequent pregnancy, failed marriage, job loss, and many subsequent wins. I’ve found inspiration in the most mundane of moments. I enjoy your writing style and can appreciate your commitment to watch and retell with accuracy what is shown on the various shows. So, I say, don’t quit, but please, hear us (which it seems like you do) and take a break. Come back ready to give us what only you can.
I too work in television and am always startled by the accuracy and validity of your sources. The fact that you have created those bonds with sources and maintained them is admirable. We need you. I know I am sounding sappy AF, but seriously, dude, you rock…you just need to love yourself (and us) enough to give to the situation what is needed.
Hope this helps. Long time reader, first time commenter, and a little scared that my message won’t be received well. I mean it with the best intention. Happy Holidays TT
I also feel like I’m a bit scared to comment, especially if I have a different opinion because I don’t want to be sent to the WLS or called out. I had a slightly traumatic experience before where I thought I was contributing something nuanced and conversation-starting, and then I got yelled at and it took me a long time to get my courage back up to comment again. I don’t comment very often at all anymore.
And I know that you’re always asking us to recommend the site to people, Tamara, but I would feel really badly if one of my friends commented and got yelled at or called names.
I’m nervous to post this comment.
Don’t be nervous! A lot of people feel that way. I can be a lot. But I’m mostly all bark. And overly dramatic. Don’t be afraid to comment. I’m just a cranky old lady sitting on the couch rambling about stupid TV show and my whiney little problems. I find myself getting much more easily frustrated during this shitty year.
You’re very talented and very much adored, Tamara. ‘Tis all.
And, for the record, I’ve never been sent to the WLS for disagreeing.
It’s been a tough year no matter how we slice it. I have always enjoyed your blog and I find you entertaining. I know you’ll bounce back, we are all rooting for you.
Merry Christmas ? ?❤
i found this site from a post on another site. I used to check each recap but not so much anymore. I don’t want to hear political opnions since I go somewhere else for that. I want to hear the gossip on things like Real housewives of Salt Lake. Did you know cosmetic surgery is done more in Salt Lake than Los Angeles.?I want to read gossip on bravo shows etc. I wish this site would go back to that and some tomato stories. I love those 🙂 . Soemtimes you need to go back to where it began…
I’ve been following this blog for about 8 years. I really enjoy the content but i can understand why some people may have stopped commenting or even reading. anyone who has a different opinion on a topic gets publicly ashamed and sent to the WLS. it discourages people from commenting or coming back.
I also think that Bravo shows are on a slow decline. However, I think you should keep reviewing bravo, but also review popular Netflix movies. Netflix original content has become very popular and this could bring a fresh audience to the site
I 1000% agree with Sari’s opinion and insightful remarks. I love you Tamara, and I have followed this blog from the day Joe Gorga’s “hair” ended up on Juicy’s hands 😀 I was living in Kuwait and Saudi Arabia at the time, and your blogs kept me connected to home. It saddens me to witness the slow decline on the comments and the loss of passion for what you created. If I have never commented before is because I am afraid of becoming the target of your acerbic wit and purple pen, or even worse, to be denied access to the website or to comment. On the other hand, I get it that we all lose the enthusiasm on projects we once began as a hobby and then turn into something else. I created a company and for a while it was my baby, and I nurtured it, but then it became a job I did not want to continue doing and I realized I was the biggest obstacle to our success. I took a couple of steps back and delegated the things I no longer enjoyed doing. I writing the recaps is too much for you, try to delegate your least favorite ones to some of your most faithful and insightful readers. We miss your wit, your purple pen and your exclusive tea. Last but not least, just because we cannot/should not travel, does not mean we cannot enjoy a well written travelblog written by you with you. Your audience is your biggest access right now and as supportive as most of us are, I am confident you will have plenty of followers/sponsors once your content is up and running. This is the time to pivot in whichever direction you think will take you to your happiness and the fulfillment of your goals. You still have some of the best sources in the bravo world and one of the most faithful audience in the “business” and right now, when everybody is shut down at home, there is not a price tag you can put to those two things.
Do what you’ve go to do and be happy. I read your blog almost every day. Even if I’m not here daily, I read every article about Bravo although I seldom comment. You’re funny and clever. I have no advice but I want you to know that you’ll be missed.
Me too! I’ve commented only a few times, but love your humor and insight. But if you need to take a break, you should. But come back! 🙂
I’ll start commenting more. I am home every day like most others- lost my job due to COVID. But trying to maintain. I’ve done updating to my house – repainting rooms and organizing my stuff to give items I don’t need to Goodwill. But it’s hard at times. I am a cancer survivor with a compromised immune system, so I don’t go out much. Even my 89 year old neighbor across the street goes out more than me! 🙂
But, and I don’t mean to sound Pollyanna- I am grateful I am still here 10 years after a cancer diagnosis and treatment! 🙂
I thought you could tell that we read your site and that was more important than commenting. To be honest, I’ve started comments on all your recaps for bravo shows but haven’t posted. Probably because I’m in a bad place myself and, quite honestly, sometimes my opinion is exactly the same as what others have posted or it’s so different and I can’t take an argument or can’t handle hearing a reply that is nasty or negative. Snarky and funny, I can deal with. That’s my anxiety talking (and my issue – no one else’s fault) that I’ve felt throughout this pandemic. Like I said, I figured by reading the recaps, you could tell your site was getting traffic. If commenting is a required part of this community, I will do my part. This site, the recaps and the comments have helped me during this pandemic and quarantine. I’ve appreciated everyone’s opinion and, when I’ve commented, it has been thrilling to get a reply.
I’m on the anxiety couch with you Pauline. See TT? We’re all having issues. This pandemic needs to go away. So STOP threatening us with shutting the site down. Don’t make me bring my yankee marrying southern boys ass down there. Suck it up buttercup and get tapping on those keys!!! **hiding now*** 🙂
This!! ⬆️ I’m a Yankee too! Don’t make me travel with the boys during Covid, TT!!
Me too! I am here every day and start comments but don’t end up posting them. Social anxiety gets the best of me at times but I’m definitely here ?
Same here. I always start many different comments and then I back out.
I’m on that couch too and feel like commenting is just..idk what to say.. I have a lot of feelings especially right now and I feel like I also have nothing to say….but reading the recaps and bravo are the only “fun” I have lately. I’m here I’m just lurking and pouting in the corner. Keep going!
I could have written this comment, Pauline! I feel the same about everything you wrote.
I love your site! You are wonderful and witty and hilarious and I truly enjoy reading your show recaps! Mostly for 90 day fiancé and below deck and southern charm (the housewives have jumped the shark so I can’t watch those shows anymore).
I can relate to losing your spark sometimes especially in such a crazy time like this but please hang in there and know that we love what you do even if not all of us comment! I would also love to read a travel blog by you in the future but please keep the show recaps they make me laugh in a time when we all really need a good laugh!
Ps – This is my first comment 🙂
I feel exactly the same. I often start to comment but then think I’m only repeating what someone else has said. I do enjoy the recaps and the comments though! Covid has finally sort of beat me down a bit as far as my enthusiasm level for pretty much everything, but it’s nice to have this as a go to site for the shows I still watch.
Omg! Please don’t leave me! Everybody leaves ?
I started following you during Jodi Arias. I confess I don’t watch much Bravo but I follow so many of your other recaps! We have the same taste in TV and I love your opinion! Plus you always have all the good tea on anyone! I would surely miss you if you go….
I also found TT during Jodi Arias, while I still read daily I don’t comment much, if at all, because most of the time what I think has already been said.
TT, you have every right to do what’s best for you ? If you decide to shut down I support you and if you decide to come back, I’ll be here waiting….
Oh nooooooo!!!!
I thought you had something that measured how many clicks or visitors you got to the site?
I read every day but as I mentioned previously, I’m usually at the tail end of the comments and so figured that no one will read or notice if I’m the 47th commenter. Or even the 27th. I’m here for you whenever you need any research or anything else I can do for you.
Sorry you’re feeling down. Corona isolation depression is a real thing. Lots of folks are feeling it. For better or for worse, mine is a solitary life anyway so this pandemic thing hasn’t actually changed my day to day all that much. Others I see aren’t so lucky and are really feeling the pain of being so isolated. I’m sorry you’re in that group. Know that you have a loyal band of followers here who will follow you no matter where or what you end up posting.
Hugs to Banjo,
Oh nooooooo!!!!
I thought you had something that measured how many clicks or visitors you got to the site?
I read every day but as I mentioned previously, I’m usually at the tail end of the comments and so figured that no one will read or notice if I’m the 47th commenter. Or even the 27th. I’m here for you whenever you need any research or anything else I can do for you.
Sorry you’re feeling down. Corona isolation depression is a real thing. Lots of folks are feeling it. For better or for worse, mine is a solitary life anyway so this pandemic thing hasn’t actually changed my day to day all that much. Others I see aren’t so lucky and are really feeling the pain of being so isolated. I’m sorry you’re in that group. Know that you have a loyal band of followers here who will follow you no matter where or what you end up posting.
Hugs to Banjo,
Trying to post this and it says “duplicate post” and won’t let me!
Argh!!!!
Please don’t go !!!
I am here and reading every day. I am an Iphone user and the site jumps around as I scroll and ads and videos play over the comment section, especially the section where you type in your comment, but I am definitely battling on through it. I didn’t email you about it because I thought you were aware of the issues and I am not great with laptops because of my vision impairment.
I understand if you are over it. I don’t watch Bravo at all anymore and just read your recaps. I have been here since you first reported on Chateau Sheree and will certainly be all in on a travel blog. I also love your recommendations for other shows, you have great taste.
I was not aware of this Blondsense. Thanks for the info. Remember, I’m a luddite without a phone! 🙂
Mine does the same thing! I start commenting, it jumps & disappears, or I close one ad and another pops up over the comment box where I can’t see. Sometimes I tap to close over & over & over and can’t close the ad.
Same thing happens to me. The site jumps around and takes forever to load sometimes. It’s really hard to comment because the site reloads when I’m in the middle of the typing or it lags so that when I type a word, it takes like 10 seconds for it to show up. I’m also accessing the site from my phone.
Though it did seem to get a bit better when you switched servers (I think?) Or hosts? The thing with the Netherlands…
Did this just start with the videos in comments? If so I can ask my ad agency to axe the videos. I’m having issues on my laptop with the sound autostarting if I am on a page too long. I’ll speak to my reps. Thanks for letting me know.
It’s been about a month that it has been acting up on my phone. It’s also a huge PITA on the desktop. Ads pop up that cover the entire site and you have to wait for the X to pop up to close it. A video will start that is placed at the bottom of the page but covering the story. It’s somewhat of a mess!
I’m so sorry. I do not have a phone so if this happens I need you guys to tell me. I have told my reps to get rid of the ads in comments completely. Never hesitate to tell me these things because I only see things from my laptop. I never want ads to disrupt our conversations. THAT IS MY FAVORITE PART and why I have been whining lately. I have been like…. where are all of my friends?
Happens on iPhone and iPad and has been doing this for several months. I go to the reading view but this blocks the comments and commenting.
You have a little video that plays in the bottom right hand corner all the time. And then there’s a banner ad at the bottom of the site that covers up the video ad. They’re at the bottom of the site no matter where you are on the page. They follow you, so they’re there when I’m reading an article and they follow me into the comments. I think the video is what makes typing so slow, as well. I’m typing this comment in my notes ap on my phone and then pasting it into your comments because the site can’t keep up with my typing. I have to pause after each word and wait for the site to load what I’ve just typed. And then after a long time of that, I’ll be halfway through making my comment and the site reloads.
It’s been going on about 2 months. It also switches to reader view repeatedly. Comments, tho, are super annoying because of all the stuff jumping around under them and on them.
I’m still here, TT. I just don’t do Bravo or the RHOxx franchises anymore. But I am all about reality to to Love and Put a Ring On It–both on OWN. And the messy WEtv Love After Lock Up. And always TLC 90 Day Fiance shows along with I love a Mama’s Boy. I also don’t post a lot, I read every day unless it involves politics as my beliefs don’t align with most of the commenters.
Well that would be a damn shame and one more huge loss in 2020 if you quit. I would really miss this site.
I know, I will miss your site,Tamara, I LUV this site. I do comment once in a while.
You are my go to site for any show. I come here everyday several times a day. I look first I thing in the morning, in meetings for work when I should be listening, when my husband is driving and especially at night in bed before I go to bed. Your site is my wind down treat for the night I actually save some articles I see earlier in the day to read at night before I go to bed.
I love your humor and snakiness ;you are spot on with your comments (purple pen)!!!
I respect what you need to do for yourself.
Side note: I made a comment or rather asked a question and it was not to you directly, but YOU answered it.
I was so damn excited; I called my sister and said ….OMG, Tamera answered my question on her site!!!!!!!!! I was so dawg on excited. ? you made my day!!!!!
This whole pathetic post of mine was a plea for you all to please talk to me. 🙂 I need you guys way more than you need me. The only human interaction I have is with the Publix cashiers and I am pretty sure they all pray I pick another line. Sometimes I am in pure anxiety mode and sweaty and freaking out. That is the days they can tolerate me. On other days, I just can’t STFU because HUMANS!!! HUMANS TALKING TO ME! I’m just a hot mess, basically.
Awe Tamara. I hope things get better for you after the pandemic. God bless you. I will comment more even though I do not watch the shows anymore.
Thanks Joyce!
I may have commented once or twice but I come to your site every day! You are a giant ray of sunshine in this Covid darkness. I’m so sorry you’re having a tough time but please know that you are so entertaining even if you don’t feel that way, and I, being a Northeast girl, enjoy the snark immensely 🙂
I know I don’t comment often and if it will help improve your spirit I definitely will do it more often. You just need to remember to a lot of us you’d at things in a way that we just agree with and don’t feel like we can add anything special. That being said, it’s a hard time of year with the holidays and the election still not over and the pandemic and subsequent vaccine…I think a lot of people may just be hiding under the covers until things brighten up.
I guess my point is we all love you and we are here and we keep coming back. You need to do what is best for you but I think as with all things this bump in the road will pass.
I read your site everyday and have been following you for a long time. The way you write is refreshing. I have never been one to comment. I appreciate all the hard work you put into your site. You ARE appreciated, foremost you must take care of yourself. If you chose to take a sabbatical, I hope you return..I’ll be waiting.
I read much more than comment and enjoy your pov. I think you have been struggling for awhile. You don’t need our permission to free yourself. You’ve worked long and hard and deserve a break. I just hope you can use this experience to hurl yourself into some new wonderful money-making position where you can live in the Bahamas. As a Atlanta native it’s time to move out. Get out before you catch the covid mess.
You have my blessing. Kiss Banjo for me.
I’m here every morning. I don’t watch Bravo anymore ( it’s been a few years actually.) I also don’t watch reality TV as I don’t think any of it is real. I come here for you, gossip, the comments and suggestions for what to watch. I have commented, but only once or twice. I get it if you want to stop -that’s ok if you really want to. I’d love for you to stay in whatever form you choose. Pivot if you need to, leave if you need to, but I’ll be here if you decide to stay. I love your pov and your snark.
No, please don’t shut down TT! I’ll comment more, I promise! We all love and need you!
Oh no TT Please hang in there I need to comment more I live for your recaps. It’s such a challenging time still for everyone but sending a hug. Oh and potomac never disappoints. Deep breaths ..have a safe and happy holiday big virtual hug.
TT I read every day, just don’t comment much. I love your blog, it is a bright spot in my day. I feel like we are friends even though we’ve never met. In my mind, you’re my friend anyway. I love hearing about Banjo and commiserate with everything you’re going through. I suffer from anxiety and depression myself and this blog is a nice escape from the daily pressures of life and work. I would miss you terribly. Much love and hugs.
Me too…please don’t go…??
I’m still here and you are still my favorite, the site I check first. It’s been a shitty year just like it’s been for everyone. My husband’s been having serious, non-covid related health issues since March and I’m managing everything. It’s exhausting and TT is a life line, a welcome distraction. This community is awesome as are you. Please hang in there.
I too come to your site every day. I have been an avid follower of yours since you brought Banjo home.
Sometimes I will not post, fearing backlash of others who do not agree.
Just being honest. Hope you stay.
I, too, am here most days. Many commenters will express my exact same feelings so I won’t duplicate. I am not watching the HWs so much anymore. It’s all too vapid for the most part. Take your time TT. We’re still around and reading every post.
I wonder if that might be part of it? People just aren’t watching as many Bravo shows anymore since they’ve all pretty much jumped the shark and seem extra vapid and tone deaf (and not in a fun way), with everything that’s going on in the world. They were escapism for awhile, then guilty pleasures, but now I almost feel complicit when I watch them, if that makes sense. I still read the recaps of the shows I don’t watch anymore, but since I didn’t watch the show, I don’t feel like I know enough about the episode to really comment. TT recaps are less of a summary of what happened in the show and more of a “random thoughts going through TT’s head while she watched”/snarky comments about the cast and production. Which is great! And funny! I love your voice and sense of humor, TT, but if I didn’t watch the show, it’s sometimes hard to follow along closely enough with what happened on the show to comment about it.
Plus, TT, you’ve kind of been telling us to stop watching Bravo for a year or more now. Maybe people took your advice to heart!
Ha no one ever listens to me. LOL.
It’s just been frustrating to me for selfish reasons, that people don’t chat as much in comments anymore. Some of that appears to be an issue with one of my ads. So I’ll get on fixing that.
And I can tell how many people come here, but if no one is chatting then I feel like I am recapping into the abyss… ya know what I mean? It’s you guys who keep me enjoying the site, especially in the pandemic. If there weren’t comments I would feel even more alone during this pandemic.
FYI Below Deck was REALLY GOOD TONIGHT!
I, too, read you every day but don’t usually comment. I no longer watch the Housewives but thoroughly enjoy your comments. I do watch the other shows you recap and always read you the next day for the snark. LOVE it! This has been a dumpster fire of a year for all of us and the hits just keep on coming. Would really miss you but if you need a break, by all means take the time you need.
Please don’t leave. Take a break, but please don’t give this up. You are in the first position on my “bookmarks” bar and I visit your site almost daily. If you want more comments, say so. I’ll do my best. Love this site. Love you. Stay.
I don’t like this idea at all!!! Who will break down Killing Eve for me? I would’ve never known about the smelling thing if it wasn’t for you! Who will I discuss my theories with? It would be sooooo in keeping with 2020 to lose you and your site. Oh and who would I get drunk with on NYE?! I found you when I was getting ready for spinal surgery and I’ve been here ever since. I’m not ready to lose you and all the wonderful commenters….
Y’all are all making me cry. In a good way I guess. Fun fact for you Fizz. Kate Chastain said on Bravo Chat the other night that she has no sense of smell. Interesting….
And now I’m just sitting here with my jaw on the floor! I guess I just have an affinity for psychopaths, on my TV at least. Maybe it’s time for me to do a little soul searching!
On a totally different note, I’m glad you’re back!! Xx
Don’t go… you have the best tea and comments out there! Your site is my first go to when I wake up every morning.
I read most every day and occasionally comment, but last Wednesday night, I ended up in the ICU and was told that I was in septic shock. I had 8-10 inches of my colon removed and have a temporary colostomy. As you can imagine I didn’t watch my bravo shows or comment this week. I will miss your website if you go. Best of luck!
Sorry to hear about your illness! Get well soon.
Tamara, long time reader first time poster. I read this site everyday and absolutely enjoy reading your posts and all of the comments from the “regulars”. This site has made me smile through many tough times. Please take any time you need for yourself but don’t go forever! You’ve created a great little dysfunctional online family here and closing this blog would leave a gaping hole in my tiny cold heart lol. Xoxo
I’m here TT, you have been and are the most reliable on all things Bravo related! I enjoy the community here, I would miss u and this community.
Take a few days to reset, this pandemic has affected us all in different ways, but we are here for you!! XOXO
I was off for a few days, had a bit of a ptsd episode, am better now, what the hell happened here? You missed me that much? (lol)
YES.
I know nothing about Blogs but I would think it’s more about how many people visit your site then the comments? I come here most days but rarely comment. I bet you get a lot of traffic on this site. Most of the time I don’t comment because someone has already wrote what I was going to say.
I too read every day but seldom comment. I can’t watch the HW shows, too awful. I enjoy reading the recaps however. After hearing about them here, I have started watching several of the suggested shows that I can on regular TV. I enjoy the back and forth of the commenters. I feel a sense of friendship with many of them here that I have read for a couple of years now. I feel a kinship with you because I am a retired teacher and live alone with my 2 dogs. Perhaps we have just evolved to another type of site…I love the open forum ones! I get excited when I see that in the headline because I know I could read about ANYTHING happening out there. Not sure how your financials work, is it clicking in or actually commenting that helps you out? Best to you and Banjo!
I’ve been here a long time and comment occasionally we all love you and want what’s best for you I can see the Bravo shows don’t get as many comments as other shows or open forums did not what they used to be anymore and I don’t think as many of us are still watching them. But that doesn’t mean we’re not here everyday
I have been following your site for quite some time now and commented maybe once. However, I look forward to your blogs and the comments made by others. I can watch an episode and still read recaps just to see what other people think about what I just saw. Not every reality blog site has the same insightful wit. I couldn’t care less if you get the story first, I come here for your and your followers opinion snark and wit. Please don’t give up on us just yet
your website is the first site I log onto every morning! I love it!!
Ive been on it for years
Im new to commenting, I always send u emails instead.
Your bravo sources are the BEST and u always have the best tea.
turning it into a travel blog would take away from what the site is in my opinion
your blog is so funnn!!!
I hate that you are feeling this way, TT, Yours is the only blog I read and I usually look at it first thing with my morning coffee.
I think the fact is that the HW franchises have jumped the shark. I don’t watch many at all any more, so I don’t read the posts about, e..g., Atlanta.
I am trying hard not to let Covid occupy all my waking thoughts. It is especially hard during the winter/holiday season. I miss my family dinners and my granddaughters’s visits. They live a mile away and haven’t been in my house since March. It was easier in the warmer months because I could spend time outside, with my flowers etc. Now, it’s cold and supposed to snow. I am trying to keep my eye on the spring and the vaccines. Try to hang on.
I will mention that one of the things that kept me returning throughout the day were the email notices about responses to posts. No matter what I do, I can’t get them to work.
Without you, there will be no place for accurate, timely tea and intelligent discussion.
It’s been too dark, which isn’t your fault, TT. I don’t know if anyone wants to watch a bunch of negativity and fighting right now. But we love updates on chateau sheree!
I always check your site for something that isn’t depressing news. It’s very hard to come by these days.
Maybe take a break? You could probably pick RHOA back up in three weeks and not miss much.
I’m still here and read site every day. Please don’t shut your site down.
I am another person who is here everyday – I’d rather read your recaps than watch most shows! I’d miss you awfully if you decided to stop.
I actually read your recaps instead of watching the real housewives shows . I love all the tea that you have. I am more like a long time lurker . I have been visiting you page for a few years now. If you did stop posting I be really sad because I only visit a few people site and prefer this one over a lot of others out there .
I read most of your recaps, even if it a show I don’t watch. Side note, did you see that Zankie from BB was a REAL thing? Zach said he fell in love with he who shall not be named. A perfect match in my opinion.
WAIT WHAT???? Zach and HE WHO SHALL NOT BE NAMED ARE A COUPLE NOW? What a strange year this is.
Actually I just read the commenting rules and I should have emailed this instead of saying it here. My bad.
Please don’t feel that we don’t read these. I read everyone but rarely comment. You are amazing in what you do and if you would end this, I would be the loser. You are truly appreciated and loved by everyone here. There are just some that will comment all the time (and I love reading the comments, too) and others, like me who rarely will comment. Please take a deep breathe and know that you are love. Merry Christmas and a very Happy New Year (if I don’t comment again, lol)
I love this site and visit it daily, but think I have posted maybe twice in several years. Speaking for myself, I know that the posting rules are a big reason why I never comment. I’m sensitive as well, and don’t want to get yelled at:)
TT, I really like reading your recaps but I just can’t stomach the shows right now. So because of that, I don’t have much opinion to give. But that doesn’t mean we’re not here! It’s really difficult to relive the beginning of COVID and the Black Lives Matter movement because we’re still all very much waist deep in it.
Well, you do what’s best for you. I, for one, read this every single day and comment but not on the shows I don’t watch. If you need a break, take one. If you want to quit, do it. If you change your mind, come back. But you have to make sure you are okay first and foremost. Between this fucked up year and now the holiday season, a lot of people are struggling. You can only do what makes you feel good Tamara, not what you think we, the readers, want. Honestly, your recaps have made me laugh a lot and for that I thank you…
no no no please dont stop the site!!!! this is where i come for the tea…and not just RHOA…i love reading recaps and tea and blind items for ALL SHOWS. please dont stop. your site is enjoyment for so many people!!!! hang in there TT. sorry you are going through a tough time.
your site really is the only site i look at that doesnt drag politics into anything for the post part so i really enjoy it!!!
I read your site EVERY DAY RELIGIOUSY. I not only appreciate the tea, but I love your insight and commentary. You deep diving into something GIVES ME LIFE. Please don’t leave us, I will make a comment every day I promise!
NOOOOO! I LIVE for anything TT!!! I’ll be better about commenting, I promise!! I think this site is just as relevant as ever, if not more so now!!!! Please don’t quit. If you need a little break of course we would understand! But PLEASE don’t quit unless it’s what you want. You’re irreplaceable!! XOXO
Avid daily reader here. You’re my go to source for is this story on another site real? Let my check with my girl Tamara, has she reported on this?
I get it totally 2020 has been beyond a lot. You take care of you, you’re mental health is more important then supplying us readers with the tea. If this helps your mindset and doesn’t put too much pressure on you I think I speak for many of your fans when I say you and your site has been a beautiful fun distraction throughout this horrible year.
Stay well
Xoxo
I love your recaps but only commented for the first time last weekend. I’m always lurking but I will definitely comment more!
It seems like readers were commenting more on COVID, current social issues and the election than the Recaps. For me personally, there’s so much on those subjects in the news, newspapers, television and the internet, that I’ve had my fill. I understand some people appreciate a place to vent and relieve anxiety they may be feeling, but it’s everywhere you turn 24/7. I watch these shows to get a break from all of it. I enjoy your Recaps very much. You’re informative and entertaining. Even when I miss an episode, I can check your Recap and there it is, all laid out, not a scene missed. We (your readers) can and should do better. Doesn’t have to be an essay or a novel, but post a comment when you can, even if it is just a Thank You for watching and recapping these shows for all of us.
Same here. I watch those shows to get away. I don’t need to talk about Covid or social issues.
You come down pretty hard on those who post things about bravo celebs that you like. Maybe ease up a bit. Unless they’re paying your bills, and we don’t get out of hand, who cares if we don’t like someone who could care less about you?
I’m not a frequent commenter but am here everyday. I’ve posted occasionally but am not a regular poster – more just a regular reader. I rarely have much more to say than what everyone else has said so I don’t post – the whole ‘less is more’ approach
Having said that, I would hate to see this site go away. If you ever need a caring chat, you’re welcome to reach out to me at anytime. My heart breaks for all of your struggles but I am too far away to help you with most of them outside of a direct chat – although I had considered inviting you to come join me and live in PA. Then again, I’m not sure how fun PA would be because I have all these damn fools carrying
Also, I guess it’s because I rarely post but I’m always moderated so by the time my rare comment goes through, I’ve signed out for the day or am into something new. It’s not you, it’s me
I’m here and love reading your site! Personally, I just don’t have the need to discuss it, so I don’t comment. But I read your site religiously and daily! Please stay!!
I don’t think it’s you or the site. I think it’s Bravo and the pandemic. I generally don’t watch much Bravo anymore. I pretty much only watch Below Deck. Unless RHOBH or NY are on, I am not watching. It’s just not a fun channel of escapism anymore. Especially during the pandemic. I don’t want to watch people being vile toward each other because it happens all day, every day in real life. I am more excited to watch 90 Day Fiancé, Netflix, and YouTube.
First time commenting, years of lurking…
I visit this site over and over, day after day, year after year to help escape the pressures of life and enjoy a bit of snark on the regular. I pray you continue. But whether you stay or leave (temporarily I hope), please know you are a delight in my life.
We were sleeping…
I guess I’ll put in my 2 cents, I read TT alot, comment some and have been castigated by you. It’s not a good look. We all know when your off (and that’s putting it nicely), and lashing out is pot calling kettle.
Oh, I would hate to lose you! I check into your site a few times a day because I don’t want to miss anything. Like alot of others I rarely comment. As I have commented earlier this year I have lost my husband and I just live with 3 dogs. I am usually late to the game because you are working while I am sleeping. Things have to get better. I would hate to think this is how my life stays.
I hope we can all get back to our regular selves soon Diane. Or at least just get off the struggle bus. Hang in there.
I read most days. But my iPad makes it very difficult to comment regularly.
Like many above, I read everything that you post but rarely comment as I don’t actually watch the shows (other than Below Deck of course) so I had nothing to add to the conversation.
I do click the Twitter icon above the comments and post there (I’m allergic to Facebook) but didn’t realize that commenting was so important.
How about I just say hi!
I hear you. Its Bravo. I have stopped watching shows with increasing frequency. Started several years ago when I stopped with the Andy self flagellation fest. Stopped with Atlanta. New Jersey. Three weeks ago I heard Shannon Bedor’s screeching voice and thought, “I can’t. I can’t do this show anymore.” Potomac is dull. Wont watch Salt Lake City. Beverly Hills was boring and mean and nasty and no thanks. no more. Its no longer entertaining. New York City? No thanks.
Pat Altschul is entertaining. But they took a hard right at vulgarity and hit the gas. Remember when Bravo was the culture tv network?
the first great seasons of Project Runway, the original queer eye, the IT factor. Those were great shows at the beginning of Bravo and then it just went downhill after the housewife started
I don’t comment, but I read regularly! I love this site and hope I can enjoy enjoying it for years to come!!! Wishing you all the best, TT.
I’m here. Everyday. I dont watch any BRAVO shows, but I do read the recaps. Hang in there.
I’m still reading almost everything you post but rarely commenting. I am unpacking my new home, learning my new area, trying to get my kids and hubby settled in GA and just kind of adjusting. I will miss you and some of the people I interact with on your site too but if you’re ready I will support your decision. I am also eating my way through buford highway….
Ha! Welcome back!
oh, it’s fatigue, we all feel it, yes a new challenge will boost u, but u can start by combining this site with a travel one, do u air ur house enough? go on ur porsche everyday for some fresh air, do stretching if too cold, eat some kefir, lay back on fat and sugar, eat fresh food, after a few weeks u will sleep better and wake up in a positive way, go for a walk if the weather permits, have some exercise somehow, ur body will respond in a good way and you will restart having happy feelings and thoughts, it needs some commitment, but you will feel so much better, you’ll realize you were in a bad kinda place now, that brought u down and u will smile and move on to ur happy place again.
I tried commenting once, didnt go through was disappointed, but i still visit ur site daily, only read below deck, open sites, killing eve, i’d love to see u recap mtv’s challenge, take care
I hope you stay! I am one of the dumb people that actually uses my real name because I am so tech challenged. You are so funny and smart! This has been a refuge for me (I am a nurse).
With that said I wouldn’t want you to do something that you aren’t enjoying. It is really hard right now. I have estranged family member (siblings). I didn’t have the childhood you had (seemed amazing). I would email you privately too even if you didn’t have this type of website – you are cool!
Head up my friend!
Yr delusional. Get some sleep. Take drugs. Drink champagne. But do Not leave. I visit very, very few sites on the infernal internet. Just these:
Instagram
Twitter
Reddit
NYT
FB (grudgingly)
And YEW. The *only* “blog” I read.
I consider myself a tech junkie. I’ve been on FB for 11 years. Twitter and IG came shortly after. I started my obsession on the Undernet (mIRC) in 1992. I know my way around the good stuff.
Don’t dare leave. I’ll even beg.
Hi TT! I have been reading for years. Check your page multiple times a day. But just like a shy child in school, I find myself too shy to comment but I love reading it all. I didn’t know you enjoyed the comments so much. do they help with ads on your site? If so I will make sure to comment more because of that too. I would love to write recaps as I feel like I spend so much of my life watching these shows but have no clue how to get started like you did. I admire your work.
You are so great at what you do and so fast!! For me, I’m typically behind on watching these shows, so it takes a bit. Plus sometimes I’m multitasking, and so need to watch the show again to fully absorb. Your work is so very timely so I wouldn’t be able comment for a while. I’m typically reading your perspective in advance of watching the show.
I read every day, I love your site, but have stopped my comments for the most part.
My only issue had been one comment I made a long time ago
.As a LVP supporter, I got a reply from you, and it was something caught me off-guard, so I have not commented frequently since.
But, I hope you are okay take a break, yes; all need it every so often. A long break —I don’t think I have had one my career .(other than a week vacation). Now that I am thinking of it; since I am an essential employee, I am and have worked since mid March every day except Saturdays and Sundays, thank goodness. A blessing I still have work to go to everyday, without it , I would be lost.
Anyway; take care TT; and love to Banjo. You bring us great enjoyment, tea, and a down to earth approach to blogging that is unprecedented. I hope you get some rest, relaxation, and blessings this holiday season.
I am here also. I’m usually at work !nd it takes me all day to read one of your post because people keep coming i. My office for stupid stuff. Yes I’m guilty I usually never respond because if it about Candace or nene it will be cuss words. Lololol. Most of the Real housewives shoes I’m not interested in so I’ve never watched them.
I like reading. never commented before.
WE NEED YOU TAMARA! Especially now! we are all patient and are so thankful for anything and everything you do
TT: I read you everyday and have since 2015.. But I don’t always comment. You do you, but know we love you!! ?. Good times ahead! ?? Lucretia
Hey, girl. I got a promotion, so I’m busier during the day and helping my kiddos with virtual school at night. So not commenting as much but I read something here daily. I’ve stopped watching all Bravo but I still like to read about RHOBH and RHOA. You could blog about anything and I’d read. I love your stories of college and misspent youth, lololol. And you introduced us to the economical bras you own. I bought a couple and they’re in my regular rotation! You do what you need to do. xoxo
YAY! For good news! Congrats on your promotion!
I feel like Housewives and reality tv in general jumped the shark. Housewives and reality tv were part of pop culture 2008-2014. We eagerly awaited the trailer, we followed social media for hints about who was feuding or the seasons drama, we tuned in Live every night etc… but more and more people are cord cutting and watching shows on Amazon and Netflix.
Plus, I feel like people are also consuming podcasts and YouTube videos to get the scoop and less blogs.
You my dear could never jump the shark. These shows, RHOA in particular, have.
Don’t go…we need ya to get through this.
I, like many others have said, read this site daily but rarely post a comment. You and I have very different opinions on many things and many people. I have read your responses to those that differ from your opinion and many times your comments are extremely harsh and uncalled for. For this reason I choose not to make comments. I’d be willing to bet I am not the only one that feels this way.
I would be very sad if you stopped your blog. It really is the best one out there. Do what you have to do for your peace of mind but don’t think we aren’t reading it. We really really are. Stay safe and feel better people are here to support
I read every post & always check in at least twice a day. I will never leave ! Working alot but always make time to check in & see everyone in the comments. Feel better dear friend. xo Marc
Long time lurker, daily reader, but, like many, fearful of getting on your bad side! Push through! Your readers are always sending you love and support – this is a tough time to walk away from all that.
No, please keep posting. Your site is amazing and I love your tea and commentary. I also admire how you push through your struggles and how open you are with your readers. Not many other bloggers open up about themselves in this way. It makes you more likeable, relatable, and real. I love your work/site!
Honestly..I have followed you since your Bravo blog beginnings. The 1st comment I made on a RHONJ post of yours years ago, you attacked me thinking I was referring to YOU personally when I was commenting on Teresa Guidice, your topic. I FAITHFULLY follow you DAILY & YEARS now; also on FB & IG. Never say a word nor comment since unprovoked rude response from you. However, you remain the best Bravo blogger w/o any doubts. We are all on the struggle bus in some form for months now..seems GRATITUDE IS KEY. For me anyway..Sending strength & best wishes to you TT. KINDNESS MATTERS, GRATITUDE IS THE ANSWER..
I said the same thing above. Why comment when you get insulted. This is a podcast so I don’t think it’s competition. Check out Watch What Crappens podcast with Ronnie and Ben. There are no comments but they are hilarious. They do alot of Bravo and imitate their voices. I love their sense of humor.
Hey auntie. How about you just take a week off and reevaluate your goals and motivations. That’s what I do when I’m in a slump. You need to indulge in some self-care more often. Even the little things. Like, how about you just paint your nails for shits and giggles? lol Do silly things like that to remind yourself that you are human, and not a robot.
I’ll support you no matter what! LOVE YOU! <3
I’m still here. Love you TT!!!! I read your RHOA recap. I’m just not invested in that show. I’ve commented on other recaps.
So basically you are saying “Comment on my site or I may quit you”. I have had enough extortion threats from our IMPOTUS in 2020 to last me a lifetime. I came here for relief. Now I get extortion from you. I am done. I quit. And I won’t let your door hit me on the way out because I won’t be coming back to read the visceral comments from your followers.
I personally had enough of Bravo and Andy Cohen and stopped watching it at all so that is the reason I’m not here much anymore though do still pop in from time to time to see if there is anything interesting that I’ve missed. If I’m honest, prior to that I stopped coming here very often because of your nasty politics. I enjoyed your perspective and writing on other things so have tried to set that aside. Unfortunately it’s not as easy to do as I would like.
I read almost daily at lunch; I’m fortunate that the pandemic has not affected by job (nurse). At night, I totally disconnect from all things tech. I don’t even watch these shows anymore (not for lack of interest but time and need to share TV viewing) but love reading the recaps to I can sort of keep up with the shows. Rarely comment as many others have noted, by the time I get there, it’s already been said. Same here but wanted to comment in this case to let you know I read and appreciate this site and all you’ve done to maintain and entertain. Obviously you need to do what is right and best for you, but this mostly lurker will miss you if you go. Best of luck either way.
HA and of course I’m running into problems actually posting this. Grr 🙂
It isn’t you, it’s me, Tamara. Or rather it is me not enjoying the trash on Bravo anymore. The ‘plots’ are so formulaic, the premise of watching rich woman is a farce, even the clothes are ordinary. Below Deck is hanging on by a thread. I enjoyed the Indian family in Miami for its run. I never did the Survivor shows or relly anything off Bravo. You and I both know that as soon as COVID affects filming it will be all over. Then those fame whores will be living just like the rest of us and who needs to see that? I still have Netflix. I rarely posted but always read. Do what works for you but keep observing and writing soe where.
If we don’t comment on a particular show, it’s the show, not your site. People have complained about Bravo keeping Cynthia. No one knows whether to believe anything Kenya says, she’s lied so much, and she’s so nasty at times and it’s just not entertaining. The only draw to RHOA for me is Porsha’s fight for justice.
I don’t think it’s you it’s just the shows quite frankly suck right now. I watched the most recent episode of RHOA and I mean it was just boring AF I think I’ve just lost interest in it. The idea of ratchet ignorant af Porsha as the lead storyline for the show just doesn’t interest me in any way. I think the BLM movement for justice and equality is a righteous and just cause I just think she’s one of the worst possible spokespeople for it.
Salt Lake isn’t much better.
I like Beverly Hills and New York but they aren’t on right now. Neither is top chef for that matter.
The Potomac reunions are looking to be worth watching though. One of the things Peter got right about the housewives franchises in that podcast interview was that Potomac is the best one running right now, and though he didn’t say it bravo is ruining it with the addition of candiace and Wendy they suck and whenever they’re on it ruins the show for me.
I mentioned it before but I think it’s worth mentioning again I do believe housewives fatigue is a thing that exists people are just getting tired of all the bullshit boring story lines that never ever ever end and clog up an entire season and they’re running out in drives. What covid made a lot of people realize is that there are a metric ton of streaming options for entertainment and they’re being distracted by them with all of their free time. Those options may seem more compelling to them right now. I suppose that might change after covid but who knows really.
In the end the decision is yours. If you’re no longer getting more from it than the effort you’re putting in then I would completely understand the decision to shutter the site up.
I’ve been following you since that Chicago gal. I am a lousy typist and not as witty or quick as most of your commenters. I do read you every day.
New reader and new poster! Keep it up – great site and lovely insight. Screw the nasties ….. I like that you have a POV and some snark. As always – so what is best for you – but I will miss not reading.
For what it’s worth – when I was in Mexico recently – when I googled celebrity gossip – your site was high – in US google return it lower …. oh analytics
Can we consider that it is RHOA and the boredom that it brings?
Not you?? ?
You never lashed out at me but I kind of yearn for it. I do rarely comment because I usually watch the shows late. I am excited to get caught up on Amazing Race but I am 3 episodes behind.
I also agree with the posters that the Bravo shows are so boring. Over the past few years, I have weaned myself off all of the shows except Summer House, RHNY, RHBH.
I haven’t been able to get into the OWN shows.
I tried to come up with a reason to lash out at you! But, maybe next time? 🙂
Well you got a lot of traffic on this blog post, and consensus seems Bravo is no longer enjoyable.
I just logged on to read about Potomac- only show I’m currently watching….
The pandemic is crushing many’s mental/physical health & if your in it alone, the walls close in every day.
Take a break, he’ll Court TV is back!!!!
Please don’t shut down.
For me personally, my tastes have changed a bit. I’m now watching back seasons of 90DF, Killing Eve, Dead to Me, and others. I’m watching OC, but stopped Salt Lake City because I’m so sick of awful plastic surgery and petty arguments that never die. I will keep up with New York, but I’m kind d of sick of Bravo overall. I still read your stuff but don’t comment if I don’t watch the episode.
Personally, I look at this site on my phone mostly. It’s annoying to comment from your phone. I for sure check this site every day….multiple times a day. I only watch RHOA and RHOP…I don’t even watch married to medicine anymore. I’m tired of these tired ass shows and women. But I love TT.
I vist daily but seldom cmment, I have social anxiety in real life (and sadly online too).
I gave up on Bavo watching except for Top Chef but I still like reading tyour recaps and of course, all the open forums.
I mistakenly thought it was enough that I vsit your site once a day. It would be super helpful if you explained exactly what you need from us. We’re all here to support you be it through commenting more, clicking or whatever else Please let us know how to help. And as always thanks for your site and all that you do. You have built a fabulous community, TT!
Just showing up to the site is all that you have to do for me to make a living. However, comments let me know what shows you are interested in. So I know if I should try other things to blog about than the shows. Hope that makes sense.
Sorry, I don’t watch the Bravo shows. I stick with MAFS, Project Runway (neither of which is on right now) and 90 Day. I do love your write ups because you don’t just summarize, you comment.
That being said, if you need a break, you should do what is best for you, but you will be missed. I check your site everyday for my lunchtime diversion.
Love you T
Please stayxx
I’d love if people suggested different shows to watch, and for you to possibly recap.
My latest guilty pleasures are 90 day fiance (in any iteration), spinoffs like The Family Chantel, and, lately, I Married A Momma’s Boy. Now there are some screwed up people, but entertaining when you don’t want to think too much.
Tamara,
I hope you don’t quit. I love your site and have visited religiously for the past several years! Being at home working it has been such a source of respite to go to your page. I’ve seen that you are going through a lot and hope that you can find a way to make this work for you in a way that will give you inspiration again.
I miss your personal stories and all the humor you find in these ridiculous bitches of various shows that I just can’t give up! We all need you more than ever.
I know there are imitators- I don’t follow them at all. Your voice is UNMATCHED in this space!
I personally agree that the other sites don’t compare. I’m glad you enforce you’re commenting rules. I hate going to other sites where posters are making up vulgar names for people and I hardly know who they’re talking about. I know some people don’t like your commenting rules but that’s who those other sites are made for
Hi,
this is my third time trying to post a comment, maybe this time it will be posted.
I log on to your site daily, i do not always read the posts, i am interested in below deck med, because this show is shown where i live. I also read the recaps of killing eve, i am european so my view and interpretation of the show is a little different but i like yours. I read the comments on those recaps because they are interesting. Your site gives some relieve, especially in the situation we are now in with the pandemic. I hope you continue this blog, i wish you well. PS : sorry for my broken english, i am french.
You English is perfect and thanks for the kind words.
You are my morning coffee go to ! I’ve really enjoyed your site ! I would like for you to keep serving the hot tea but always put yourself first !
All my aloha
No comment on a site that the owner that is mentally disturbed threatens to quit if they do not get enough praise. Seriously???? Enough PROBLEMS in this world without a lot of drivel that does not mean anything or is of no importance.
Eazzzy … you say that with so much anger. Why are you taking your time to read this site never the less comment if you think in that direction
God I wish we could like comments here!
we used to be able to.
#hinenebot or #hiAshley – either way this reminds me of some of the old vitriol that used to come when TT wrote about certain people….
I don’t know if you will post this because you don’t post much of what I tried to write. Apparently I have offended you, and I am sorry. I am just trying to be my true self, just as you do for yourself.
I really have liked many of the things that you have written; however, you seem to have lost your joy in doing it lately, and your writing is showing it. I pray that you can find your joy in something. No one should feel forced to do anything that doesn’t make them happy.
NDN97 I have the memory of a gnat and limited brain function at this point. So I have no memory of being offended. Pretty much every day is a clean slate with me. 🙂
My opinion: I knew without Nene these blogging sites wouldn’t get a lot of comments. I couldn’t understand why you wanted her gone so bad when she had folks commenting and visiting just to see what she was up too. None of these other recaps are interesting, well RHOP is good.
Hello Tamara and all. Tamara I literally come to your site everyday. I do not believe information any other blog puts out until I verify with you. I do not comment much because all of the shows have taken such negative turns and I do not wish to speak ill of people. However, please do not leave us, we need your take on everything Bravo, you ROCK my dear. You will be fine, we need you and may God bless you.
Oh no TT, don’t quit, let’s stay strong and relentless. This pandemic has affected some of us in more ways than I can imagine. I got into this site 7 years ago for the laughter and mindless entertainment. Bravo/ Porsha’s storyline is a serious issue that Porsha’s presentation makes it look like a performance, not authentic and insulting to those deep in the cause .
I’ve been here for many many years only to have commented a handful of times. But you are brilliant. And I love how real and raw you have always been. Its like you’re an old friend. I still watch Bravo and Love After Lockup etc. I think you’ve just got to accept there will be turnover in commenters. But new people always come and others return. If you still enjoy doing it please don’t stop now. I know the creep that made you have to switch servers was a big blow but you persevered like you always do. You create content like no one else has or can. If you’re just “done” please at least keep us posted on how you’re doing. ❤️❤️❤️
Maybe it is time. It’s apparent how much it drains you and you don’t seem to enjoy it. The complaints and amount of times you just put up an open forum for discussion without a recap has steadily increased.
Hey TT, I’m here daily but I don’t always comment. I do watch all the shows and enjoy reading your take on them. As for RHOA, it’s doesn’t seem the same. Maybe it’s because the current shows are dealing with COVID which isn’t so enjoyable to witness through their eyes. We all have our own problems with it.
Stay strong, we are here for you!
We are here but now that we work at home its harder for me to comment. i feel like we are on even more of a lockdown. But we are here and dont want you to go anywhere. Love your site.
I hope that you change your mind about this. However you you need a break, take one and take care of yourself. Like many other I read often and seldom comment. There are often so many strong opinions and I really don’t want to argue over an opinion that is different from mine about a silly tv show. Lol
Your Instagram is gaining more followers every day. Maybe people are tired. Not of you, of spoiled, entitled Bravolebrities.
You’ve been getting to the recaps pretty quickly lately. I think that indicates you are doing better than you give yourself credit for. I woukd miss you terribly. I haven’t been commenting as much because 10 months of a cardboard floor and no bathroom sink — both illegal to rent that way— have got me down. My virtual home tour for the bird rescue process was supposed to be today. But the tour guide couldn’t get the Zoom to work. It is postponed until Wednesday because the fiancé goes in for wrist surgery tomorrow. Her surgeon says it is a really, really bad break. She will need a lot of PT and will have a metal plate for the rest of her life. Traveling should be FUN!
I’m glad you are here. I am finding that my tastes have changed. Or my tolerance level. I don’t care about NeNe, won’t read anything about her. I’d never even heard of Wendy Williams until I visited this site so I’m not up on anything about her and don’t read about her. Not interested in another celebrity on drugs or alcohol. Watched RHOA for years and now just like Kandi but that’s not enough for me to watch the show. I still like LVP but her droll comments are no longer funny and she is boring and holds grudges for far too long. I liked Kyle but hate how she lies and lashes out when she’s hurt by someone’s comment. Dorit’s fashion is just forced, the clothes wear her, it’s very distracting.
I am turned off by the vitriol and name calling by the housewives. It’s always been petty but in this age of Covid, it is so childish. The more I learn that these storylines are fabricated, the less interested I am in them. I’ve turned to PBS.
Full disclosure – I am a lurker not a commenter (much)
I think what the problem is, is that it’s like a Broadway actor playing to an empty house. No idea if the lines are hitting their mark, sad things are sad and funny things are funny – the lack of feedback makes it hard to gauge how things are being rec’d.
I am here every day (or almost) but commenting is often more interaction than I am ready for.
I come to your site at least 3/4 times a week! For like 8 years!! Sometimes I’ll try to comment and it tells me it’s a duplicate comment. We don’t just come here for Bravo shit. We come because we’re invested and like you and want to see what’s up. Don’t leave us!!
Banjos momma I visit this site several times a say. I don’t watch half the bravo bullshit anymore. All of the housewive shows suck and I’m embarrassed for those stupid bitches. I love your website, I just don’t watch most of the Bravo shit anymore. Love me some 90 day fiancé and such now. I can’t watch southern charm any longer either. Shep is disgusting and Madison is a winy little cunt. I think Craig needs his own show with Banjo as his sidekick ..
Tamara don’t you dare! We need you! You have all the good stuff we need and we love you!
I have been following your site all the time… I am here for RHOP and RHOA…
You are appreciated don’t leave…
Do you think Wendy or Candiace will be fired?
I think one or the other has to.
TT stay! We need you more than ever!
I very rarely comment anymore, for reasons, mainly because of bravo boredom. And the last few years of collective insanity in the u.s. leaves me little appetite for tv anyway. IOW, it’s me not you TT! I hope you keep it going because,selfishly, I love your wit and relate to your ups and downs.
I read your site every day. It is my must read at night. I hope you continue to post especially with everything going on with Erika at the moment.
Please stay. I do not comment simply because I am exhausted with work, no money, stress and blah blah blah covid blah blah.
But im here and im reading every day.
Noooooo! I love your site. I may not comment much, but I check for updates religiously. Please don’t go!
I hope things start brightening up for you. The past few years have been so difficult and stressful for us all, and then fucking Covid. I don’t often comment, but I read your posts and check out your website several times a day. Going thru the archives was heaven. Many a night I was bleary eyed at 3am, reading about The follies of Sheree.
It feels like your an old friend I’ve never met, and if you just want to whine and bitch , I am sure it’s fine for most of us.
We are not going anywhere.
Take care of you. Take care of Banjo.
Oh Toni, you have been around forever. And Sheree’s Court dates (mostly with ME!) are some good reads!
https://tamaratattles.com/?s=Sheree+Court
Found your site during the cat lady phase and from that point on I was hooked. I typically dont post much but do visit your site every day. This has become home and I would miss it tremendously if you were to disappear. Please reconsider.
I would miss Banjo updates as well
Hey Lucy Loo! You know I can’t quit you guys! Banjo says hey! He’s not getting enough attention these days. I should go get him a treat from you.
I came here originally for Southern Charm recaps and then stayed for all the tea. I notice that you don’t post as much anymore about Kathryn and whatever is happening with her and Thomas and their custody battles. I keep reading things on other sites: So and So claims Kathryn is partying, Person X claim this in court filing, Whats His Face says this is what’s happening when the kids are at Thomas’s house, etc, and then I rush over here to see what’s *really* going on and what you’ve heard from your sources…. but you haven’t posted much behind the scenes, real time Southern Charm/Kathryn stuff in awhile.
I read the southern charm recaps religiously, though, hoping for little tidbits about what’s going on with them, but you don’t say much anymore besides she looks off or something is going on with her. I’m wondering if it’s because you were one of the only sites that was really rooting for Kathryn (that’s why I originally kept reading and started commenting—I was rooting for her, too) and she keeps seeming to blow it? Is she blowing it, though, or is it all gossip and rumors put out by Thomas? See? I need you for this!
As a teacher with a Master’s degree in Education/Psychology (mostly child development) I have been well aware of some things with Saint. I’ve specifically tried to keep that information off the site, thought several other teachers and I have discussed it offline. There are specific facial markers as well as developmental milestones that made it clear what was going on. I didn’t want to discuss that on the site. It’s not good for the kids. And for Thomas to make that information public in his latest grab for custody is despicable.
Today I was sent a photo of Kathryn that is supposed to be her at the reunion. But I’m not sure it is time for that just yet, so I opted not to report on that either. But you are right, I have sort of stopped posting about Southern Charm behind the scenes stuff. It was expected that this would be the last season. Yet suddenly the suits are happy with the feedback so far. So I better get on it. I’ve been slacking.
I’m a silent reader… please stay!
Please don’t go. I have been following you for @ 5 years. Never comment. But I will if you stay. Plus love hearing about Banjo.
You should shut down. Your an asshole to your so called commenters. That’s why you have none.
And yet, you still comment. So that is nice. lol.
In English the proper diction is you are an asshole or the contraction you’re an asshole. Either way is acceptable. T’s asshole is the place from which we may one day we may see flying monkeys take to the skies. Have a nice day.
You can always leave, with your rude and disrespectful azzz.
I’m intrigued by your travel blog concept. Could you do both?
You could segue into travel via Below Deck and The Other Way and blog about the locations the show is featuring. That is one of the reasons I like those two shows specifically, but the locations are very minimal as a character in the episodes. Maybe you include a blog about India during Jenny & Summit episodes, Mexico during Armado & Kenny, Jordan during asshat Brittany & Azan, etc.
It may re-energize you a bit, and I would love to read what you have to say about locations, as well as out favorite madly in love characters.
Well the plan has always been to leave the country and travel the world and eventually move somewhere with good health care. And I will still be alone… so I was hoping that while I do that the site could become Tamara’a Excellent Adventures! lol. But then COVID and also, I can’t take my 80 pound dog with me and he is getting old. So once he leaves me, and we are able to fly, I PLAN TO FLY.
I read your site every day but I don’t comment. I try to let the ads go for a bit, thinking that was supporting the site, but I can see how commenting would be of value too.
I’ve always enjoyed your snark. I’ve noticed your more recent posts are tending more towards anger and despair, which is absolutely understandable, but less fun to read.
Please think about what it will take for this to feel like a positive use of your time and talent. And you do have a real talent for it. Still, it has to bring you joy or it isn’t worth doing. Take a break. Recap new shows. Bravo really is a cesspool these days so just do news (you always seem to have the inside track!) for the shows you don’t want to watch.
And if finding your happy place means shutting down the site, do it. I hope that isn’t what happens, but you’ve seemed pretty miserable lately so take care of yourself. Stay safe and give Banjo a good scritch.
As so many have said before me, I love your site and I don’t think it’s jumped the shark. My heart hurts for you when you say you aren’t doing well lately … I hope we are helpful in some way. I have to admit, even in your worst times, you are so funny when you post about it. I appreciate so much your random thoughts about your dog and your shopping and your neighborhood in the midst of your television commentary. I didn’t get to comment, as I must crawl out of bed and crawl over to my PC for work each morning, but you were cracking me up the other day about lesbian shoes. I was like, what are lesbian shoes??? And then I pictured women in Cambridge and my lesbian friends, and I was like, oh…. yes… lesbian shoes. Kind of like flat clogs, right? Anyway… YOU haven’t jumped the shark, but Bravo has! The Housewives are too screechy and dramatic. And I really cannot watch any of them as they deal with the start of the pandemic. We lived it. We’ve stabilized around it as much as possible — I cannot go back to that place. I love, love your 90 day recaps and MAFS recaps. Below Deck is great. I’m looking forward to Project Runway. I’ll watch MMDL. I’ll probably watch Dallas when it starts because I”m in love with Stephanie. And I’ll watch NY when it comes back, but that’s about it for Housewives. Whatever happened to those crazy Oklahoma ladies?
So TT, I hope you stick with us and are patient when we don’t comment as much. Take care of yourself however you need to. If you need a break, would it work financially for you to have guest bloggers so you can have a break, but keep the site going for when you’re ready? Either way, be safe & well!!!
Thanks JD. Writing the blogs is the fun part. So when I have had guest bloggers before, I still have to do all the time consuming stuff but don’t get to do the fun part! I’ve learned over the years to do all the tech stuff well in advance of the show and that is how I get things up faster. Then I can just focus on typing up the actual blog and hit post as close as possible to the end of the show. Some nights like tonight have way too many things to recap.
I love your site and the comments. Although I am mostly a lurker and have only commented once. I guess now twice. For now….I only follow RHOBH,
Vanderpump, and southern charm. I’m a lot less into southern charm this year, but still watch…
I only discovered your site a couple of years ago (i stumbled upon it while googling Ashley (southern charm) related dirt. Now I love it and have read many of your archives about the shows. That Yolanda foster investigating was next level!
Take care! And don’t go away!! <3
Thanks Debbie. That Yolanda “Lyme disease” stuff was quite the journey. And it all played out just how I suspected. She’s divorced and perfectly healthy now. Imagine that.
https://tamaratattles.com/?s=Yolanda+Lyme
You can’t scream get off my lawn at passersby and then lament that no one comes by your place anymore. You always thought you were too cool and now that things have turned cold you have the nerve to seek sympathy. Pathetic.
Thanks for stopping by to check on me!
I’m just really puzzled by the negative comments with suggestions as to why nobody is commenting when all one needs to do is look at the comments in this thread. (Out of almost 200 comments in this thread, I think there are only 6 or 7 kind of telling you it is you and all the rest are positive, essentially begging you to stay for our good while acknowledging you need to do you for your good, too). Am I the only one puzzled by this? And how many of us would walk up to someone that we DO think is an asshole and say, ‘hey, you’re an asshole’? Lord knows if I did that every time I thought it, I would not be employed (for the most part, my friends are not assholes :-)). Just random thoughts while I should be working (might make me an asshole). And while I’m here being random, is anyone else pissed that coca-cola is discontinuing TAB?
Hey, I stopped commenting a while ago, not because I’ve settled reading. I was never a hugely regular commenter mainly because of the time difference, watching on hayu etc, so couldn’t really be part of the ‘live’ conversations (live in London).
You might remember that I had Covid back in march and so did my son who was 16 months at the time, I reported that we were all on the road to recovery, but then he took a turn for the worse and was blue lighted to hospital. I checked out of most things, he did get better eventually and other than now being very susceptible to coughs he’s ok. I’m also a frontline keyworker and so is my husband (criminal justice not NHS) and it has been HARD. I’ve been back here the last few months not commenting, but reading and enjoying the comments.
Don’t want to bring a downer, because things are looking up now, our restrictions are still harsh but we have our health and our jobs are stable which is more than many can say.
You need to do what’s right for you, but there are probably plenty like me who’ve taken a lot of comfort from here over the last nine months but just haven’t had the energy to chip in.
DAMN JasperCarrot! I literally stopped breathing for a bit reading about your son. I am so glad he is okay and you as well. I’m so happy this site gives you a bit of respite. xoxoxoxoxoxooxox ~tt
The pandemic has had kind of the opposite effect on me than a lot of you. I’m super into BRAVO. Even Andy. It’s embarrassing.
Live ya TT. Do whatever feels right though.
Kinda hard to get to the shade tree while smothered with spam. These ads gotta go.
Working on it. I put in a request. I appreciate y’all telling me. My ad reps are trying to help me out I think because revenue is down (ad rates are down in Covid) so they are overcompensating. It’s too much. I don’t think the problem is the plain ads. I think it is one newish video that they added. I’m on it. It may take a couple of days. I’d rather have comments than revenue. Just because I like hearing from you guys. Well most of you…lol. It’s what keeps me sane. Um sanish. Errr less batshit crazy.
I’ve been coming here for years and visit a few times a day. I rarely comment because it’s a little intimidating. But you are at the top of my bookmarks. If you need to take a break, I get it. Just please don’t be gone for too long. I’ll start going through withdrawals.
I feel your pain .If you need break take one.Please know that over here in England you are a window into America for me I love the Tea and the shade and the occasional can of whoop ass that gets opened when people get out of line.Due to covid I’m stuck in a minimum wage job and I read this blog as a little light relief. I have had a dire time but I have lost nearly all the lockdown luggage I gained during our first lockdown ( I just could not get motivated).I feel better and I pray you will feel better as well.Know that there is a community here that cares and loves you.
I hope you stay for you but if you leave let that be in the knowledge that so many peoples lives have been touched by you(ihave come over all’Its a wonderful life’ yikes) .
Thanks?
Been creeping on this site for years but this is my first comment. Heck, I even look forward to reading the comments and your reaction to the dumb and obnoxious ones. It started with one of the housewives shows and morphed into looking for other shows you recap. Always love to see your perspective although I will say, I too am over Bravo. Anyway, I’ll still be here as long as you are ..please don’t leave us. Looks to me like you are loved by many.
Thanks LisaPizza! I tried to order a Pizza just now but it is too late… lol
I personally enjoy Nene’s antics and was never a Kenya fan. But it seemed that this site was team Kenya. If I tried to make a pro-Nene post you wouldn’t allow it. I mean reality tv isn’t really reality and it’s mostly for entertainment purposes so why not allow fans to add commentary on their favorite reality star/character. Kenya is not my cup of tea and I stopped checking the site when you didn’t post my simple comment about Nene.
Tra-vel Blog. Tra-vel Blog. Trav-el Blog.
Don’t mind me I will show myself to the WLS.
The lady at the health food store was one-hundred percent correct about the CBD oil when she said that “You will still have the same problems but they won’t bother you.”
This journey of trying to help someone get help has been really good for me. I saw therapist Natasha today and she said that I will have stress until the person gets help, but it is okay. I also have to go outside every day, well we will see about that.
TT I am looking-forward to anything you have to say about The Real Housewives of Atlanta upcoming, or anything really. Has anyone seen Joe Giudice’s “Rome for the Holidays” on his Youtube channel? It was really wholesome and cute, and culturally satisfying too.
Sorry for blogging here TT but you are a peach for opening-up discussions during this unsettling time. If you do take a break please try to carefully get outside once in awhile, apparently it is good for the soul. Even a blog about your travels to the grocery store enchant me, or your front yard.
I keep TRYING to get out of the house. I guess I should try harder. It was cloudy, rainy and cold today. I got up to go to the grocery store and just went back to bed. Maybe tomorrow…
I am always a bit behind on my viewing and by the time I’m ready to post, you guys have moved on.
I’m also worried about saying the wrong thing. I am a rule follower and do my best, and I hate to be yelled at. I’m not sure if I fully understand the rules. For example… if we are talking about 90DF and I read gossip on another site, am I allowed to say so here?
That’s kind of a grey area, Sarah especially for 90 day because for some reason I see that show as one we can talk about in real time more. I really like when people email me news on things that they read elsewhere though. That way I can sort of vet and and perhaps it’s enough for a new post. I[/m TamaraTattles on the gee mail.
Thanks, I’ll be bugging you then…. it’s by far my favourite show and I can’t tell anyone I know in real life I’m addicted to such trash.
Tell them. Everyone is secretly addicted to it. I have recruited so many of my coworkers into the 90 day cult.
I had a hard time leaving comments. The WordPress app just stopped letting me publish my comments. I read this blog at work but whenever I click a link it tells me the website cannot be reached. I thought it was shut down. Then I just was 90 fiancé hopping on the internet as saw your recap and now I can read your stuff again.
I just tried to access your site from my work computer now and it says this site cannot be reached. The webpage might be temporarily down or may have moved to a new address. Err_tunnel_connection_failed
Previously you spoke about stopping so I assumed you did. Maybe lots of people are having the same problem.
It seems like your work may have the site blocked.
Well it’s not very complicated. This site went from being a place that was a nice escape from the daily grind, a fun place to gossip and a guilty pleasure to one where you became unpleasant, absolutely awful to the very people allowing you to make a living and a pretty lazy generator of content. Not as bad but also not helpful is the never ending amount of drama that you focus on yourself. It could be a way to relate to your own audience but instead is incredibly, insufferably self centered and devoid of empathy for the very people that cheer you on. I feel for you when you share that you are suffering from your anxieties but squirm when you abuse a poor soul that opens up, which is exactly what you find therapeutic. This is more than a two way street. Traffic to tour site allow you to make a living. Be kind to the people that allow you to live off this. Have a minimum of commitment to posting content that is enameling to your audience, and lastly, please understand that the privilege you have in making a living this way is one that most of your readers don’t have. I really hope you turn it around. There are people here that are extremely vulnerable and share quite a bit of their lives here. Treasure them. And for Pete’s sake, understand that if you want to stay in business you need to work at your craft.