I was having anxiety dreams so I decided to just get online and go through emails to give myself a mental reset. Then, I saw this news. I knew that Chrissy has had some major pregnancy issues. I’ve been following along on the story. I was really hoping for a miracle. It’s just so sad. See her post below. Chrissy had been hospitalized recently to receive blood transfusions to try to correct her bleeding. She was late in her last trimester.
We are shocked and in the kind of deep pain you only hear about, the kind of pain we’ve never felt before. We were never able to stop the bleeding and give our baby the fluids he needed, despite bags and bags of blood transfusions. It just wasn’t enough.
We never decide on our babies’ names until the last possible moment after they’re born, just before we leave the hospital. But we, for some reason, had started to call this little guy in my belly Jack. So he will always be Jack to us. Jack worked so hard to be a part of our little family, and he will be, forever.
To our Jack – I’m so sorry that the first few moments of your life were met with so many complications, that we couldn’t give you the home you needed to survive. We will always love you.Thank you to everyone who has been sending us positive energy, thoughts and prayers. We feel all of your love and truly appreciate you. We are so grateful for the life we have, for our wonderful babies Luna and Miles, for all the amazing things we’ve been able to experience. But everyday can’t be full of sunshine. On this darkest of days, we will grieve, we will cry our eyes out. But we will hug and love each other harder and get through it.
I didn’t realize she was in her 3rd trimester. When does a miscarriage become classified as a stillbirth?
Oh and people are tweeting awful things. The worst to me are the ones saying shit like this is why people like Billie Lourd don’t announce until after the baby is born. Why, because losing a baby or pregnancy is something to be ASHAMED of?
I am so tired of misogyny. That because this relates to a uterus it should be hush hush.
If she is comforted by sharing it all, I support her in that. I think there are a lot of women who feel less than alone in their own feelings because they can see themselves in Chrissy.
This was a surprise pregnancy for them. I was hoping it would be as wonderful for them as some happy surprises have been for some friends and family of mine have had.
I hope they make it through this. They seem like a strong couple.
20 weeks is the designator between miscarriage and stillbirth.
My heart just aches for them.
I saw the news of this late last night. Just heartbreaking. Then, I got on Twitter and, like you said Erica, I saw the horrible comments. I could not believe how cruel people were being. This world has gone to hell! Chrissy has always been pretty open, and she has been sharing her pregnancy journey. If she wanted to share it as it unfolded, post pics of herself crying, then I wish people would FUCK OFF! Damn! It pisses me off. If this is how she needs or wants to grieve then let her do it people. Praying for her, John and the kids.
She was actually in her 2nd trimester. I ready she was between 20-24 weeks
Wow – what an amazingly hard thing to endure ?
I am crying for their loss of baby Jack and all of those families that have lost members this year.
There has been so much loss in 2020.
My God, I feel so terrible for them.
It doesn’t get much worse than that.
I don’t have a problem with her sharing it, but imo the pics form the hospital are way too much.
I agree and now people can yell at me. Sometimes there can be too much sharing.
I would never do it myself, and don’t identify with wanting to do that, but she seems to live her life entirely out loud on social media so it doesn’t seem out of character. People cope with loss in all sorts of different ways. It’s harmless. Choosing to cope by interact with strangers on the internet opens you up to sweet supportive comments as well as cruel comments. She definitely knows she can’t control that.
Such great parents. They were so excited about the new baby coming. I was excited to see the precious baby. This is just heartbreaking. Fuck 2020.
I agree about the pics. But sympathy for she and her family. It’s good in many ways that people can be more open than in the past.
I agree but if the MAGAs get their way, women like Chrissy will be arrested for murder after seeing it on social media.
WHY would you even post this? She was in the hospital trying to SAVE her baby…
WTF????
Wow, that’s so sad and yes, when does a miscarriage become a stillbirth? I agree tho that I could have done without the hospital pictures, but it’s her choice to post them and my choice not to look. Prayers for both of them. Beyond sad.
Before 20 weeks is a miscarriage, after is a stillbirth. I’m guessing based on her stories over the last few days that’s she was around 20 weeks.
She said she was about halfway through the pregnancy in one of her stories. They can pull the baby around 23/24 weeks and hope to keep him alive… But before that there isn’t much of a chance. I think that’s why she said “just hang on a few more weeks” in one of her last stories… I assumed she meant until he hit that viability window where they could deliver him if necessary. It’s absolutely heartbreaking. She’s been very open about it. I find pregnancy to be terrifying and full of stress- you never know how the baby is really doing and you have zero control over anything. It’s even worse during COVID. Following along with her pregnancy (I’m also just in my second trimester and this is also my third baby) has been really helpful for me and I’m sure for others. Her grief is unimaginable. ?
To me the saddest thing is that the baby appeared to be healthy but her placenta could not support it. 23-24 weeks is unlikely to survive but I know a number of 25 weekers who are doing well. To get so close and then lose it is just heartbreaking
I know a 23.6 weeker that made it. It’s possible, but it is more likely if the baby is a girl; they have better odds.
She was in her second trimester, around 4 months. Feel terrible for her but that picture is in poor taste
In poor taste? Seriously? Doesn’t seem like the time to be analyzing or judging someone’s taste or decision making capacity. If you don’t like it or it makes you uncomfortable then don’t look, but don’t judge.
Yea I agree. Let them grieve how they need to. She always seems like such a strong person, but strong people get to be vulnerable too. Maybe her supporters/fans give her strength. I’m sure she feels like the rug has been pulled from under her. Why can’t we support people who are genuinely crying for support vs bashing them????
Agree. I think it would be in poor taste if someone posted it without her permission, but she posted it herself. I think it’s beautiful in a haunting sad way. That emotion is raw and real. There is a lot of power and vulnerability in sharing that level of emotional pain with the world, especially when so many can relate to that pain directly. My prayers go out to her family .
Bite me. I can have an opinion.
You sure can. And we can also tell you ours: your opinion is crappy and judgmental.
Great comeback!
Let this wonderful couple grieve how they want, I’m sure it’s helping so many non-celebrity peeps , going through the same, cope!
God bless them all!!
Her sharing her pain will help many others who have suffered the same thing. If it makes you uncomfortable, don’t look. If it gives her any comfort to share her story, it is her story to share.
I think you’re entitled to your opinion without people trying to shame you. I’m beyond sick of this internet crew that can’t tolerate it when people have a different opinion, “how dare you criticize Christy & John!” as if they know them personally! Give me a break. You weren’t being hateful or rude. People are loosing a grip with reality. 25 million people are out of work, perspective people.
I think judging the way parents who just lost a child choose to grieve is pretty hateful and rude. We don’t need to know the parents personally to be immensely sad for them.
This is such bullshit. Neither the original commenter nor I were shaming Christy, we just don’t care for the photos – don’t think they’re in good taste. OUR opinion, we’re entitled. I wrote it here, expressly and not on HER TWITTER where I knew she would read it. I would never do that. I never argue with people here, been coming for 6-7 yrs but I’m sick of this cancel culture and that’s EXACTLY what this is. I looked at the picture and commented and on it here. Tamara Tattles not Christy’s twitter or Instagram, there is nothing inappropriate about that and I refuse to let anyone fucking shame me. I feel so awful about myself I can barely get out of my bed most days but I know that I’m a very fair person, I’m a mother who lost several babies before I had one and my opinion is important too even if it’s different from yours. THIS is one of the reasons why we’re having SO many freaken problems, everyone has to think the same or you’re supposed to shut the fuck up to make everyone else happy.
It’s not working for me.
I’m not getting why your opinion is more valuable or fair or righteous than ours? You have a right to an opinion. I have a right to an opinion about YOUR opinion. And so on!
Our opinion is shaming you? Do you see how your opinion might shame her? I’m fine with you dishing it, but you gotta take it too.
Again, lamenting that were “freaking out” because you don’t share our opinion… But this comment sure looks like you took it way more personally than anyone else who commented. I’m sorry that you’re going through a lot right now, but I think your anger and frustration may be misplaced.
Thank you. At least there’s one sane person on here. If they don’t like my comment they are free to scroll past it.
Shitty comments are in “poor taste” and generally are not received well by “sane” people.
So arrogant, rude and entitled.
I miss the old group so much.
Me too.
When you lose a child, you can do whatever the fuck you want to.
She posted this photo herself.
Chrissy and John are both so open and relatable that, hearing the news last night, I felt like I’d lost a member of my family. It’s just heartbreaking.
I agree, they are relatable. We don’t know them, but feel as though we do. I love her. She’s so open and witty. I love her Twitter arguments. She has gone a few rounds w/Trump. She’s SO funny! I love her story about John telling her he wanted to break up (back before they ever married), and she wouldn’t let him. She seems like such a strong woman, but even strong women can break. She was so excited over this baby. Praying for strength for them.
My heart goes out to her. We lost our first baby boy at 19 1/2 weeks and you go through everything the pushing, the delivery and knowing this tiny soul went straight to heaven. I also want to give her the dignity and space she needs to grieve. Grief doesn’t have a road map and however this family is finding their way through this shock and devastation please respect it. I struggled with my own grief for so long. Do I share or do I remain quiet? Will talking be healing or will my scars slowly fade on their own? I pray for peace and comfort for them and I wish I could give her a hug or squeeze her hand and say wherever you are and whatever you’re feeling it’s ok and you are not alone.
I’m sorry for your loss Lynn.
This photo broke me last night.
I could not stop crying.
Long time lurker here. Many years ago I delivered a baby girl at 24 weeks. Even though she lived for 2 days, back then it was classified as a spontaneous abortion. NO ONE should judge how parents grieve! It is very real pain and everyone handles it differently. My heart goes out to them both.
Amen, LurkLady.
I have been through six losses. I know how she feels and it will never go away. But you learn to live with it and celebrate what you have — which in my case is so, so much. God bless all the babies we will meet one day. The joy!
When I miscarried, I felt like everyone needed me to put on a happy face and get over it. Because it was “early enough” and I was “already blessed with two beautiful children.” May their family and close friends love them through and let them grieve at their own pace.
I just suffered a loss at 6 weeks and I have 2 babies and I am struggling. I couldn’t look at Chrissy’s pictures because of pain. I felt like I was ok but now I am struggling and I am sad. I can’t imagine having to deliver and go through all that. I agree people think women should just get over things. I am sorry for all of your loses. My heart goes out to you all.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Praying for you & your family. ?
Sparklycupcake, I said a prayer for you. It’s a real loss and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise♥️Take care of yourself!
For those of you who shared, I am so sorry for your losses and thank you for telling us. If you have suffered an infant loss in any way and didn’t share, that is okay too and I am also sorry for your loss.
I saw some people speculating that John took the pictures (first of all, idiots… he was in so e of them)
There are professional photographers that volunteer to do this when they know the parents aren’t going home with a living baby. The photographs, like Chrissy and John’s, are haunting but beautiful. Time after time, they are told by the grieving families that it brings them comfort.
The fact that she posted them? Good for her. It should be something openly discussed and seen.
I found out as an adult that my great aunt had a stillborn child. I don’t even know if it was a boy or a girl. Have no idea what happened, the name they gave the child, if any of us reminded her of that child, etc. I wonder if she ever wanted to even talk about her baby or even if she felt she couldn’t say “oh this helped me with my morning sickness” when her nieces and nephews started having children. If she didn’t want to talk about it, that is one thing… but wanted to and couldn’t, very much another.
Love this reply! ❤️ My paternal grandmother had a son who only lived a few days, and a stillborn daughter, both before my dad. She lived to be ninety-eight and never got to a point she could speak about them without crying. It was heartbreaking. She was torn all to pieces one day at the church cemetery when she could not see their headstones. They were small stones and the mower covered them with grass. She thought someone stole the stones. She would tell the story over & over how her Dr told her they were not going to let her go as far into her pregnancy w/my dad, and how afraid she was of losing him.
Sorry for rambling. It’s just this situation is horrible, it affects everyone differently, and I do not understand the small minded people posting negative comments. Let people fucking grieve as they need to. It especially infuriates me for men to comment negatively. They don’t understand that it’s both physical and mental torture for women…..hormones, milk coming in, having to go through labor and deliver a dead baby. This world has gone to HELL and I’m SOFA KING sick of people hurting people.
Erica, even though I would have never shared those pictures myself, The intrusion and hateful comments would have made my pain worse. But I understand that they are already so open with their lives and it may really help people plus encourage more open dialogue about women’s issues. Kind of like the instagram pictures of breastfeeding. Some get irate that they “have” to see that, but maybe more women would choose to breastfeed if it was perceived as normal. Whenever I had to breastfeed in public I was able to sit in the corner of a restaurant booth and position a covering and a diaper bag strategically so no one was subjected to it. Also, my proper Southern family never knew what type of cancer my great-grandmother had; they whispered “female” back then and it would be helpful to have that medical history. And now I’ve gone on a few different tangents! Y’all all have a good wknd.
My son was stillborn. No warning. My last week of pregnancy. To deliver an 8 pound beautiful boy is beyond me. That night the nurse snuck a pill in my hand. She probably couldn’t take the sound of my howling. She said, “Take this. You will be better.” I saw the little pill and decided that if I took it, I would go down a hole and would never get out. I passed.
The picture in the hospital brought that night back to me. 25 years ago. I don’t know how I could have shared that raw moment, or how I would have even thought to have someone photograph it all. I agree with many of you who say it opens a discussion on understanding what parents go through.
I am heartbroken for Chrissy and John. I had a very difficult pregnancy with my twins, and I know that feeling of hanging on day by day. Praying for another day. It’s the most harrowing thing. I got so lucky, and my kids are all healthy and fine. I met so many other families in the hospital and through support groups who suffered horrible losses. It is so not fair.
Many families have photographers to document the births, and find it very comforting. There are groups that donate services so that families that maybe can’t afford it can have a precious keepsake of their babies. Because they are your babies, forever, even if they are not with you. I wish we could all just feel kind and gentle towards each other right now. Always.
I’m praying for everyone who shared about their losses. It takes courage to do that. Everyone should feel supported in their loss.