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I made it into a recap! Woohooooooo! ?
Don’t get a big head and shit. 🙂
My notification button is broken! I click all three every time I post, but never get an email notification about new comments or postings. I really would appreciate it if anyone has a solution for this issue. Thanks in advance ????
I just got an email advertising the VMAs tonight. DOES ANYONE REALLY CARE ABOUT CELEBRATING RICH FOLKS AND THEIR AWARDS FOR SINGING A SONG RIGHT NOW?
Sorry. I’m kind of on a roll. I need a fucking vacation.
I’m just going to google Gaga’s performance. I need Gaga.
My thoughts exactly.
I just saw pics of her incredible masks from last night. This is what I’ve been hoping for. That it will be cool to wear them and continue to evolve into forms of self-expression with the side effect of everyone becoming safer.
Hard pass. Unless they add yacht rock as a category I have no interest. ?
See? You can be funny! 🙂
Ha! I love the yacht rock mixes on Spotify. Give me some Christopher Cross any day.
hahahaha. I would watch that only because it would be HILARIOUS to see Toto’s “Africa” win an award since they won best song or something a million years ago. Not that they wouldn’t deserve it, but it would still be funny. Cause I have a very unexciting life.
I.E. Yesterday went walking in the pouring rain with my grandchildren (7 & 5) and played in puddles and on the swings. That’s how I rock these days. NO complaints! Cause later we wrote a story together and they did the illustrations.
Also, yeah, hard pass. Prefer to watch “Avatar, the Last Airbender” cartoons. So much prefer to do that.
Toddy, OMG his live album is one of my top ten!!! I can listen to that album over and over and over ? Benny Mardones passed away in June and I can not get his one hit “into the night” out of my head. I seriously need a yacht ⛵️
3Gatos, “Africa” was played to death that year, but it has seen a comeback in the last two/three years and I must admit I’m rediggin’ it. Now to entice you into my yacht rock world keeping your world in mind… Jimmy Buffett has a great song called “Barefoot Children in the Rain”, give it a listen ?
Skip TT! Have some wine instead Cheers to you!!
you mean so go they can come over from all over the world and contaminate NY with their potential covid germs and go back on the plane to home to spread potential covid germs because they are somehow immune to the rules the rest of us have to follow? So they can talk about how bad things are and it is our fault? Hard pass
Sorry I have only posted a few times so I dont know how to start a new comment. I just wanted to say I had a shitty weekend but what got me through was binge watching Cobra Kai, it is so good. So if you are bored watch it on netflix. If you loved Karate kid you will love this.
Vacation? What’s that? Been home since March and don’t intend to travel until a vaccine is running through my veins. Sorry if I sound bitter. Just passed at folks who aren’t taking shit seriously. So selfish.
Pissed, angry, and upset
Don’t be
Some people believe it’s far worse to ruin 40 million Americans livelihood and everyone’s mental health rather than accept that 95% would rather “get it and deal” for a week or two and add to the herd immunity so the 5% who CAN be truly hurt almost exclusively due to being at the natural end of life (70’s 80’s) and/ or 2-3 serious chronic illnesses due to poor lifestyle choices can quarantine themselves without shutting down the lives of all 330 million of us
I think Deidre needs to go make out with someone with COVID and come back and report to us how she “deals” if she survives. It is particularly appalling to make this comment here where one of our commenter’s husbands nearly died and was in the hospital on a ventilator for weeks.
Diedre you run you happy ass right on out of here you disgusting cunt. And try really hard to get it and die before you have the chance to vote for Kemp again you abject moron.
Here’s a jarring thought experiment: If the United States had done merely an average job of fighting the coronavirus — if the U.S. accounted for the same share of virus deaths as it did global population — how many fewer Americans would have died?
The answer: about 145,000.
That’s a large majority of the country’s 183,000 confirmed coronavirus-related deaths.
No other country looks as bad by this measure. The U.S. accounts for 4 percent of the world’s population, and for 22 percent of confirmed Covid-19 deaths. It is one of the many signs that the Trump administration has done a poorer job of controlling the virus than dozens of other governments around the world.
By The New York Times | Sources: World Bank and Johns Hopkins University
The specific numbers are only estimates, of course. They are based on virus statistics that are unavoidably incomplete. Most scientists believe the real U.S. death toll is higher than the official numbers indicate, and undercounting of deaths may be even greater in some other countries.
After the U.S., Brazil and Mexico have the next largest gaps between population share and official death share. They are also countries with less advanced medical systems, where some experts think the actual death toll is vastly higher than the official one. If that’s right, the true gaps in Brazil and Mexico may be as large as the U.S. gap.
But no other affluent country has nearly so big a gap. Canada and several European countries each account for a greater percentage of deaths than population, yet the differences aren’t nearly as severe as in the U.S.
And some countries, like Australia and South Korea, have a positive version of the gap. Japan is home to 1.7 percent of the global population but less than 0.2 percent of deaths. An additional 12,000 Japanese residents would not be alive if the country had merely an average death rate.
As I was putting together these numbers, I started thinking about how Americans should have expected their country to fare — above average, below average or maybe right near the average. The U.S. certainly has had some disadvantages in fighting the virus: It’s an international travel hub, which makes transmission more likely, and it had some of the affluent world’s worst health outcomes even before the virus arrived.
On other hand, the U.S. remains the world’s richest country, with vast medical capabilities, and the virus started on a faraway continent. All of which suggests that there was nothing inevitable about the U.S. performance. It is instead a tragic reflection of the country’s failed response.
In other news, if Fucktards like Diedre had worn a mask, washed their shitty hands, practiceds social distancing and self quarantined for the first couple of months, 145,000 people would still be alive today. BUT THAT’S JUST TOO MUCH TROUBLE for fucktards like Diedre.
Nope!
How did you KNOW I needed an open forum today?
I’m kinda blue this Sunday. A little anxious too, probably because I have been on Twitter following both the news (the shit in Portland is a bit too close to home) and the tragic passing of Chadwick Boseman. His death got to me – not only do I know someone who passed from colon cancer after living with it for years like he did, but I follow a lot of ‘Black Twitter’. It really hit the community hard. Representation matters. I felt it with Wonder Woman a couple of years ago… the 6 or 7 year old me who had WW Under Roos cried a little in that movie.
I probably already talked about this when Black Panther came out. It was nominated for an Oscar, and I’m sure I discussed it. It deserved that nomination. If you haven’t watched it, I think that Disney+ made it free for nonsubscribers in honor of Chadwick.
Also having a hard time getting motivated to work (and I have some deadlines looming) or even putting on a bra.
But I lost over a pound this week!
The Portland situation is tragic, I am a Washingtonian. I don’t see many movies but I will make a point to see Black Panther, as I have seen the positive effects it has had on children these past days. That gives me hope for the future. And YAY YOU! Losing weight is hard and every pound gone is a success! Keep it up, you are worth the work!
Fellow Washingtonian here. Grew up going to Portland as we have close family there. Where the Trumper nutsos gathered? Clackmas Town Center? Literally where I learned to ice skate. (Also, fyi, where Tanya Harding would practice back in the day – I’m pretty sure I saw her skate) I could vomit.
I hope you like Black Panther – I’m a DC person, unfamiliar with Marvel beyond the Spiderman and Hulk because they were TV shows in the 70s, but you don’t need that background to enjoy Black Panther (I think we just miss a few subtle references)
He was amazing in 42 and Marshall. Very sad news.
My mom actually texted me today that she thinks she’s developed an allergy to her bra… so it’s not just you ?
LOL!
I want to say to the anti-maskers I see that if I have to wear a bra when in public, they have to wear a mask!
In going to use that
I wear a bra to get groceries, but to get the mail they swing. And yes about the masks, not that difficult.
Yea Chadwick Boseman’s death left me in a funk. He always seemed to be a really good guy. Black Panther and Jackie Robinson movies were both on last night. We opted to watch BP. I mean Drs don’t really advise colonoscopies until age 50. He was only 43.
I’m not really in the mood for the VMA’s. I think I will watch RHOP. I want to see Monique’s lake house. I like watching what she and Chris actually own getting under the skin of those trying to fake it til they make it.
Sadly drs. probably concur to have a colonoscopy earlier than 50 but it is the insurance companies that will not pay for it then. They kinda rule the roost of things like that ???. Was a nurse for 40 yrs and the number of people with this disease under 50 fortunately is very low but still. Maybe someone like Chadwick sadly will have the world looking at this and prompt some change. RIP to him ❤️❤️
There is also the fear for some men. They think it will be some horrible experience. I’ve had them routinely thanks to a bowel intussusception as a child. You go in, they give you the happy juice, you wake up and that’s it. No pain at all.
Yeah… but you are leaving out the bad part…
Oh crap, looks like I legit blocked that out ? Maybe that’s why I’m overdue?
I feel the same way about Chadwick’s passing. I was surprised at the depth of my sadness. It was unexpected. I think it was because he was so ill and you never read anything about it. He handled it privately in terms of his stardom. I don’t know if that is why. I just know I feel sad. So young to die from that. It broke my heart. I’m glad to read there are others who felt the same way.
ABC is running Black Panther at 7:00 PST commercial free with a tribute to Chadwick after the movie about 10:20 ??
I’ve never seen it so I taped it. Will try and watch it over a weekend.
It really is a good movie. And I’m with Ingrid, MTV can go fuck itself. It has sucked since the 90s.
Amen.
Hear! Hear!
Yes!
This!
You get my meaning.
I am still waiting for the foreclosure in Buford, but my realtor drove to three more that the hubs and I really like and may have found our back up. It’s nicer than the first and has a whole kitchen in the basement apartment :). I really just am trying to pray and be patient that I can pack and drag my family to GA and get the hell out of California. Thinking about selling my rental properties too just to make it final. Other than that just trying to donate to all of the LNU fire victims and not kill my children. When this pandemic is over I’m going to start giving teachers $500 gift cards at the start of each school year with an open ended offer if they need more, I don’t have the patience for this.
A) Hurry up and move to a house with a basement with for an old lady who drinks like a sailor and smokes like a freight train BECAUSE I AM MOVING IN.
And secondly, the best place to help teachers is a site called https://www.donorschoose.org/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIxdqjtfLD6wIVjoVaBR3aVwUsEAAYASAAEgLU5fD_BwE Donors Choose and my mysterious benefactor who does all sort of nice things for me did it through there as it is tax deductible. And you get nice letters from the kids if the teacher does it right.
So about our new house… I’m going to need a fenced yard for Banjo.
I JUST REREAD THE PART WHERE I HAVE MY OWN KITCHEN! I LIKE THAT ONE!
I want the damn commune, with a big yard for pets and a tomato garden. No judgments on smoking, drinking, wearing pajamas all day or saying words like twunt.
I love twunt. Stealing ?
Is that when the person is worse than a twat but not quite a cunt? I like this. Now we just need a word for the person who is actually worse than a cunt…
A : Trump? ?
Sorry I couldn’t resist and ya left it wide open there. Lol!
xx
IJC: How about Nancy Trump as a compromise ?? or Pelump? Bidump? ?
Me too!!! New favorite word!
I’m in!!!
@belladonna – Can I bring goat’s – and make Irish poteen, if so then count me in!!
I don’t want to ruin the Villanelle Villa Vibe but it’s only a 2 bedroom apartment and there are stairs…don’t tell them though….
I want the goats and now you made me look up Irish poteen.
Belladonna…and you’re not gonna share the info and make me look it up too? ???
@belladonna – Homemade Vodka ( tastes like toffee ) plus the whey and we can make our own whey vodka – Miz Grandma inspired me.
I looked it up hoping it was an Irish version of Canadian poutine, never thought I’d be disappointed to learn about a new booze ?
You don’t want to be a landlord across the country. I did it for a couple of months and that was enough
I would be a wreck if my kids were younger and I had to deal with them all day AND teach them!!!
What nightmare’s are made of. Lol. Your a rock star.
I’ve been agonizing over paint colors for many hours over the past few. There is hardly anything of less consequence to the world than the color of the trim on my house and it’s a nice vacation from thinking about the world being so broken. Also, it seems like I don’t like any colors. I also don’t like any neutrals when it comes to my own house. If it were a client’s home, I’m sure I would have found the winning colors by now. I had a session with a color consultant and don’t like what we wound up with.
House should be a light color, trim should be forrest green. porch should be painted forest green and have a porch swing, This is not hard.
I feel like the house is the wrong color, not the trim.
It is complicated in this case. The house is masonry with historically significant multicolored pattern (it’s nominated for register listing) and it’s important to me that I make an effort to highlight that. The foundation is multicolored fieldstone. The roof is multicolored slate. The gutters are exposed and copper with various levels of patina. The colors currently on the trim make sense, but somehow aren’t that great. There is an accessibility challenge to some of the mill work that I want to have repaired and that plus painting requires that a lift be rented, not to mention that my dogs will be irate the entire time the work is being done, so it’s going to be as permanent a color choice as possible.
Bucky, I don’t know what state you are in, but if your house is nominated, are you working with the state agency that works on those nominations? I know our state agency people – they will give advice on colors, etc. on buildings! You should find out if yours state has one (If you are in WA state, let me know…). They might be more useful than a color consultant. If it is what I imagine though – pure white or darkest black. But that usually requires maintenance. Brown family of colors?
It is with the state. That’s a good idea. They’re 50% furloughed so, I’ll ask but continue to test colors. It really is helping my brain to focus on something so non-political. I’m enjoying that. Most of the trim is currently bright white (which is my favorite) and the shutters are slate blue which is the color that makes the most sense. It just doesn’t work as well as it should in real life..which is good because I can rule those two out. I’m closest to accepting a white with a tiny bit of blue for the cornice, and a black with a tiny bit of green for the street facing door. Anyway, it’s fun but maddening.
I follow a guy, Scott Sidler, on IG. He has a blog too.
The Craftsman Blog dot com and on IG. He is funny and has lots of other people in historical restorationare cited on his IG. I spend HOURS sometimes going from one to the next. Lots of photos for inspiration and practical info. (We share a disdain for shitty shutters!)
Thank you! I will follow. I think I’m going to lose the shutters, but I have to choose between them and the storm windows. Realistically, will I close all of my shutters during a storm? No…
I’m already following him, apparently! I / my house (she is the one with the IG account, not me) had almost commented on the most recent post because I noticed the shutters to the left of the red circle wouldn’t actually cover the glass. Then I thought “why do we even have these things if they’re not operable or practically used?” I ordered interior storm windows but they obviously don’t protect the exterior of the window.
Oh Nanette I love old house porn. Thanks for the suggestion.
Friday was a really heavy day for me. Bad work day. An acquaintance passed from colon cancer. Then Chadwick Boseman passed from the same disease. And I found out a family member is getting a divorce. It was a lot. Thank goodness the weather is beautiful and I can go outside to breathe!
But, I have a question for people. Do you think it is normal to develop romantic feelings or a crush on someone who saved your life? I am trying to figure out if there is a psychological reason for that. Like similar to Stockholm syndrome or the Nightingale effect but for rescuer/rescuee.
well if they literally saved you life, from like dying in a fire or something else that was THEIR JOB then yes, there is a psychological term for that. And you should get a grip.
But if they saved your life because you were alone and terrified (ahem) and they showed up and you have a normal relationship, then that is love.
That is a very normal reaction — until it becomes an obsession. There is a name , similar to transference, but I can’t remember. Forest fire smoke brain …
That is like how women fall in love with their lawyer, because he is protecting you.Hot, someone saving your life.
Could be a limerance. Unrequited romantic notions
That’s a form of transference. As long as it isn’t destroying your life in some way, it’s natural and fine. Especially now, the idea of someone rescuing us is attractive in every way.
I think so. I have a crush on my next door neighbor Martin. He saved me from drowning.
Glad your neighbor was there to help you! Maybe it’s some form of hero worship. Seem plausible.
I developed a crush on a guy who robbed me at a fast food joint when I was a teen, so I must suffer from the opposite condition. I had to identify him in his boxers because he stripped when he fled and wow, what a body.
I’m doing okay. I’ve got a new release coming Saturday and I’m midway through the next book but it should’ve been completed two weeks ago. It’s just so hot here in Texas it’s hard to work. I love in an older house and my ACs struggle to cool when the heat index is 115. I adulted well this week. And I’m going to the doctor and eye doctor next week. The doctor is concerned about my anxiety so trying some meds. Did y’all know certain meds aren’t okay for people with grief-anxiety vs just regular anxiety. I did not. So she wants to see me not just telemedicine. So I’m here just trucking along hoping covid ends soon.
I’ve been watching a lot of botched. White noise random tv shows are good while I write and two observations. Wow, Paul has had a ton of work done and two I’m never getting a boob job. They seem to always mess up. Lol. That’s it for my randomness! Hope you’re doing ok TT! And thanks as always for this site. It’s my escape.
I think both doctors got a lot of work done and look almost creepy. I don’t like it.
So true, even Terry is looking plasticy but Paul is moving into full feline frozen face look.
It amazes me all these women that want really gigantic boobs. 1,300 ccs is the limit the implants go and one girl found a doctor that implanted two to give her 1,600 ccs and then was shocked when it messed up and hurt her. As someone with naturally big boobs, if I could give them my routine backaches they wouldn’t want big boobs.. Lol
I’ve been “too small” and “too big” in the boob department. I prefer “too small” any damned day. I am often screaming at Brittany (Jax) and other woman who want GIANT boobs, “you”ll be sorry when your back aches and they get droopy.” I understand why some women want to fill out a dress, but HUGE BOOBS… WHY? (That should be in the Nancy Kerrigan voice.)
I’ve had large one since I was in my teens and honestly I wouldn’t mind if I could take one and just split it down the middle and get rid of the other one clothes never look right and the back aches get worse as you get older I’ve seen some of those women on botched and what some other doctors do is so unethical
I was a small body with DD natural breasts right after college. Couldn’t wear blouses that buttoned due to gapage, shoulders had big red strap marks from trying to hold all that up. Put up with it for 20 years of pain and headaches until I found out my health insurance would pay for 90% of reduction surgery costs due to the stress it put on my body. I wanted a large C but the doctor said NO because he would be seeing me again in 5-10 yrs for the new sagging. Boy am I glad I listened to him!
I’ve been saying that for years! Take off one boon and use half of the other one to replace what gets removed. As a 48H, yes you read that correctly, I just want them gone! I have to keep reminding myself to schedule a mamagraphy. Breast cancer runs in my family on both sides. These days, since covid, I haven’t been wearing a bra, but now I’m on line searching for an athletic bra. But they are sooooo expensive in my size. I’m going to have to set up a go find me page just for a bra dammit!!!!
Here are some 48H sized bras, the pink one in the top right corner looks comfy and is reasonably priced…
https://www.barenecessities.com/48H-Bras_catalog_nxs,31,size,1093.htm
I think, or can imagine, that the type of person who goes for that type of cartoon breast surgery isn’t totally realistic about their expectations after surgery and their only levers are surgery to go smaller or larger. Gosh, I hate when people look at my body in public. I find it really hard to imagine paying for invasive surgery to make a spectacle of myself.
tell me about it, the bounce, the boob sweat, the sagging, the bra shopping, what I wouldnt give for pretty little B cups again.
Ladies, I hate to tell you this, but apparently boobs will keep growing on some women like me! I was a great C for years until I hit menopause and now am into DD territory and they fell down. I rarely wear any bra but a sports bra and that’s for work. Other than that, as soon as I am home, the nightgown goes on and I am free swinging. The hubs thinks if he stands too close and I spin suddenly, I might knock him out. My daughter laughs because she has been cursed with DD bullet tits since she hit puberty.
Terry has veeerrrry dark hair.
I’d never want those boobs. I was born an A and will die an A. I’ve never worn a bra with underwire and most of the time it’s one that I just pull over my head; if I even bother with one. My mom’s the same way.
Interesting about the grief anxiety vs. regular anxiety. Sounds like your doc is on top of it. Good luck with the writing during this shitty time.
I think I need a combo. My Mom died in June and I just found out I may have to work on-site at my school with the special-ed kiddos. We’re supposed to be remote but we’ll see. They are so sweet and loving but I have a feeling masks and social distancing will be a challenge.
You know I am exhausted when I just want to go to bed and not recap my favorite show of all time Big Brother. I am sure I will wake up and do it later but I am worn the fuck out.
Thanks for asking TT, doing well! Had a good crop of heirloom tomatoes this summer. Many herbs doing well, which I am researching how to dry soon. Hoping for a cooler week to “roast “ them all in the oven. My oldest daughter is expecting my first grand child in December…all the new baby products are crazy! My daughter keeps reminding me my kids were born over a quarter of a century ago…makes me feel old. Still teleworking and it’s ok, hoping they tell me I can do this forever! The round trip commute in DC area sucked, so hoping and praying for telework forever! Love ya!
Congratulations on your upcoming grandbaby I’m totally ready for one but my kids who just graduated college or not
I’m watching a bunch of old Dateline and 20/20 shows that have been on my DVR forever. (Scraping bottom of barrel of recordings and DVR is almost EMPTY!) I was just watching the old 20/20 episode about Diane Downs who killed her kids and that book Small Sacrifices by Ann Rule was about. Watching the old interviews of Diane Downs it was bugging me because she reminded me of someone else that I couldn’t pinpoint. It just clicked. Janelle Evans from Teen Mom is a dead ringer (pardon use of this phrase) for Diane— like her voice, mannerisms and facial features. It’s super creepy. Random, I know. But if you’re bored, it’s season 41, episode 30 of ABC’s 20/20. I’m also 99.9% sure I have already seen this episode before but I cannot remember shit these days.
I’ve decided to watch Love Island and am finishing last season while getting caught up on the current. Weeks of housewives and MDLLA stacking up and it looks like I’m going to continue ignoring them and only read your blogs. Pretty much SSDD for me.
I have been watching Love Island too because I am desperate for new episodes. I should be drunk while watching it instead of sober. It might be more entertaining.
I can’t tape tonight’s Love Island because of everything else. Why does everything come on Sunday and Monday nights?
That sucks. Last week my Tuesday and Thursday one’s were cut off I guess because BB ran long? No clue but yesterday I was able to get them on demand so I’m caught up now. JUST figured out that this is in real time.
Right? I thought it would be more boozy than it is but maybe it’s the UK version that has endless flowing alcohol. I’ll add a bottle of red wine to tonight’s viewing ?
I have tried three different times to watch Love Island and I can’t get through an episode. They are stacked up on my DVR so I might try again but I don’t remember it being so annoying. Is this the one where the last couple decides to share the money or take it for themself?
There’s money at the end? Lol. I’ve never made it to the end but I’m working my way through last season. So far it’s not filled with screaming so it’s more appealing than anything housewives!
That’s a really cute puppy, Hiho! ?
I went for an interview at my old place of employment last week and I’m starting back tomorrow. It’s a huge company so I have a whole new team and a new boss so we shall see. I did have to commit to 50 hour work weeks, but I do get to work from home so that is a blessing right now.
Looking forward to 90 Day Fiance tonight and some wine. Hope everyone is doing well.
GREAT NEWS! I hope everything goes really well at your new job for your old company. They wanted you back; I hope that makes you feel special!
Thank you! I busted my butt for that company so I am really glad someone finally sees it. How are things with you?
Congratulations!!
Thank you!
Congrats!!! ?
Thank you!
Nice to get a fresh start after all of the crap this year!
Congratulations! And you get to work from home! I’m clapping for you. ????
I’m very involved in a serial killer Todd Kohlepp.. Ends at 6:00 like six episodes. It’s Serial killer week on ID and I am an IDAddict.
I would really like to talk to people more. I literally can go days with zero communication besides hi, how are you.
I’m trying harder, I just don’t like people and can’t fake it. That is why here is so nice, I really like people here. 🙂
P.s. as many times I try, I can’t get emails regarding new comments. Hmmm.
I was watching that now we’re onto the golden state killer
The GSK was my fear and obsession for DECADES! It’s so weird (actually, it is almost surreal, but that word is so overused that I hate to use it) seeing this old man in court, considering the terror he caused. I have a few/several of those six degrees things going on with GSK. If you haven’t seen it yet, I highly recommend “I’ll Be Gone In the Dark.” It’s more about writer Michell McNamara’s obsession over finding the GSK than about him. But SOOO well done. (And my three “boyfriends” — Paul Holes, Billy Jensen and Paul Haynes — are on it. To think, Jensen and Haynes were about 15 minutes from my house and I didn’t know!)
I found that very interesting how they made it about Michelle McNamara. I was so sad when she passed. I feel like I know these people. Paul Holes just makes me smile ?
For YEARS that man was just a few miles away in Contra Costa County and I had no idea… Le sigh…
People investigate? Then Dahmer. I am waiting for Evil lives here and Signs of a Psychopath.
Dahmer, naw I think I will watch Debra Newell on evil lives here. I must have fallen asleep last week.
Great shows on Sunday!. (And Monday morning from Sunday night)
I’m watching the Dahmer episode now. I kind of felt sorry for Dahmer. He wanted to be normal. He wanted to help psychiatrists and profilers with their research. Of all of the killers killed in prison, I wish it hadn’t been him. There was so much to learn.
Fellow ID addict. See No Evil and the Paul Holes ones are good.
“I just don’t like people and can’t fake it.” I have resting bitch face so I have to work at looking interested. I had a neighbor who would do a monologue and I’d be backing away towards my house and she’d follow. In forums you can just stop reading if you want. 🙂
belladonna, that is more accurate, thank you, I felt like I wasn’t saying it quite right.
I think it is a control thing. Lol. That is exactly what I want.
I fell asleep during the new ID shows last night.
Me either, about the comments. And people, I don’t like too many people. But here is comphy cozy.
So.. my parents doorbell just started ringing. That is not a sound we’re used to in normal times, let alone the pandemic.
It is the new neighbors there to introduce themselves, RIGHT AT THE DOOR WITH NO MASKS.
Seriously people? I said hi through the window and told them we were quarantining. I realized that they think we’ve been exposed. Told them we’d met after all this is over.
Idiots. Hoping they aren’t followers of the Cheetolini because they probably won’t be thrilled with my parents’ awesome other neighbors – they are Muslim, originally from Southeast Asia.
Seems weird never come over just to introduce themselves who does that she’s more polite to wait for the neighbors to come to you kind of creepy the other way around specially during a pandemic
Hope that makes sense my auto-correct changed a lot of words
I don’t even go to the door unless I know someone is coming or know who it is. Is that awful? A few years back in the county I live in and a neighboring county people would ring/knock and when the homeowner answered they pushed their way in and robbed people.
When I am home and feel like answering, I always have my glass storm door locked. They can talk to me through the glass.
Had some Mormon missionary kids stop by once. Now, I was trying to be polite – HS classmates of mine had kids on missions that I was following on FB, so wanted to be nice to these boys like I would hope people would be nice to the classmates’ kids.
They didn’t take my polite “no” that I didn’t need help with anything – I pay out the ass for HOA, so no yard work needed to be done. Then when they asked to come inside to help me with anything like cleaning out my garage, I went slightly off on them.
Told them firmly that you don’t ever do that to a woman. No means no, and not just with sex. (Shock face 1.) That I didn’t know them at all, and I don’t invite random strangers who came to my door uninvited into my home only to be attacked or robbed. (Shock face 2, and exclamations that they were here on their MISSION). When one kid literally pointed to his name badge proclaiming him an “Elder”, I said “I could go and have one of those made and it would look exactly like that, but with MY name on it. For all I know, you are rejects from a local production of the musical Book of Mormon!” (Final and best shock faces).
Said I didn’t want to be unkind but they forced me to be blunt, and they needed to leave my property immediately.
They did.
And then I listened to my Book of Mormon soundtrack. 🙂
I don’t know if it was weird per se for them to want to meet the neighbors – we’re far apart and didn’t even know the house had been sold, let alone moved into. But PANDEMIC.
I live around the corner from a Jehovah’s Witness building and while I’m sure they’re lovely ladies they are very persistent and always want to come in and I’ve never let them now they’ve started writing me letters at least weekly and somehow find out my first and last name I’ve told them politely but I have my own religion but I guess because I gave them about 5 minutes of conversation now they want to communicate
I am a Unitarian, so I have the more conservative religious folks praying for my soul often, I keep some UU literature near the front door and when I am “blessed” with a visit from a Holy Roller I am very polite and nice (often they have a child with them) and then I explain a little about MY religion, hand them some literature and send them on their way.
These religious groups that go door to door need to come up with a different plan. One of my daughters answered the door unsuspectingly to six young men and they absolutely would not leave her alone and she was home alone and felt extremely uncomfortable and unsafe. This was when she was a bit younger and lived at home. I had a giant NO SOLICITING sign out front and always have. They came back of course, wanting to speak to me and they were ones that ended up getting a lecture about how they could be arrested for trespassing and to take heed of my giant sign.
I’m sorry but the world is not safe and there’s a reason MLMs and encyclopedia/vacuum sales have moved to Facebook. Someone should give these people a strong lesson on personal space, boundaries and trespassing laws. It’s especially frightening for females who live alone. Take your mission to social media like the rest of the world where it’s much easier for me to ignore you, lol!
I go to sleep with Beat Bobby Flay on a timer TT.
My news is, we found out yesterday that my husband doesnt need dialysis anymore! The covid was hell on his kidneys but they are coming back! Thrilled, especially since he tended to faint after dialysis. Today he also walked 1 1/2 miles on the track, and had to take a huge nap afterwards, but still….
He used to work 80 hours a week so now we hang out and watch tv, and take walks and pick up food. He is retiring. I am going back to work after labor day so I have to treasure the time now.
Also walmart sells tank tops for like 4 bucks and if you get them a size smaller they work as a big of boob support and under a dark tee shirt you cant really tell, They are very comfortable too!
Hooray for Hubby! And you! He did 1.5 miles ALREADY! Wow. Maybe he will find something he really loves to do with those 80 hours a week he’s getting back. I hope so.
That is awesome! Is your husband watching anything he normally wouldn’t of?
hmm, he went through every episode of American Pickers when he was in rehab and still watches the history channel. He (and we) watched Greyhound, the apple tv series about the news, (so great), the space series about what would happen if the Russians were the first people on the moon (also amazing), a movie about race car drivers competing for the formula 1 race…. I am the worst with names and titles, but I can find them out.
Thanks for the kind wishes, he gets exhausted after he works out, takes frequent naps and his leg muscles always feel stiff and sore to him, but hopefully that will get better. He does not get out of breath with the walking so that is great. He used to be a runner so he is frequently making goals for himself.
That’s great news! I’m so glad he’s recovering!
Wow – that’s fantastic! I’ve followed your story here and am so happy to hear about your husband’s improvement!!!
Thanks for the tank top tip. I too have given up on bras during covid and I feel bad for my teenaged son. I feel like it must be awkward for him but I haven’t said or done anything about it because everything is so whatever right now.
Yay!!! So happy about the news on your hubby! It’s nice to hear happy news for a change. Someone we know is on dialysis and also faints. Her doctors say her kidneys won’t come back. She is fixing to start the procedure to try and get on transplant list. Someone else we know has been on the transplant list a couple of years now. He’s getting discouraged.
they thought if it didnt get better by mid-fall they would have to talk about transplant. His sister seriously offered her kidney, which was great, and thankfully he doesnt need it for now. It makes me sad when people cannot get the kidneys they need. I had a friend who had three kidney transplants and was waiting for a 4th before she died (polycystic kidney disease), and it was just terrible. I dont know how people on dialysis just walk in and walk out, but I saw it frequently.
Love hearing this kind of news! He sounds like a determined, dedicated kind of guy. Continued speedy recovery!
So happy to hear this news about your husband, Ingrid. I have been wondering how he has been faring since such a very long hospitalization. The scary thing is now they are saying you can be reinfected. UGH.
That’s such great news! My father had renal disease so they placed a fistula in his wrist to prepare the vein for dialysis. He would get the biggest kick out of watching me jump back screaming any time I touched it… it buzzed like crazy and scared the hell out of me ? Glad your husband is on the mend!
I have had a challenging year. I moved too many times this year. I sold my home, transferring/moving out of state to live close to family. I put my stuff in storage and bounced from Airbnb to Airbnb to apartment while I waited for the real estate market to move down. I’m an idiot, it didn’t happen but unexpectedly I got to build the home of my dreams minutes from my family so it all worked out. I suppose, I am still unpacking and I think my cats hate me because of all the moves.
I won’t be watching RHOP tonight because ABC is playing Black Panther in honor of Chadwick Boseman commercial free and then they will have a special tribute to Chadwick Boseman after the movie. It is just so sad when someone so young leaves this earth early.
Moving is hard, but I’m glad you finally have the home of your dreams! I’m sure your cats will be happy once everything settles down.
Dammit! I wish I would have know about Black Panther. I’ve been dying to see it.
I set up my DVR to record it but it didn’t record…..maybe it wasn’t allowed.
Same here! That pisses me off.
In another comment section I read someone who wasn’t happy that a housewife cut her food with the side of her fork. Is this a bad manners? Everyone I know uses their fork, unless it’s steak or grilled chicken….pieces of meat. Do share if you’re a fork cutter, I’d love to know!!
Not something I’ve ever paid attention to bit I use the side of my fork as well when possible. Didn’t realize it was considered Bad Manners but think I can live with that
I noticed that comment too and wondered about it. I use my fork when it works for what I’m eating. I can see it would be impolite if you misjudged and the food doesn’t cut and goes flying off your plate or if you are having to use force so that it becomes a distraction, but I never heard of this as a rule. I heard once that you are supposed to spoon soup away from you rather than scooping it toward you, but that was news to me too and not something I’ve followed. Guess it’s back to finishing school for me.
I had a big ass rock thrown through my window this week because I had a big ass BLM sign in the window. I live in a very conservative suburb and I have always felt safe here. That is no longer true. I keep wondering which of my asshole neighbors decided to take matters into their own hands. It is going to take two weeks to replace the glass so now I have to look at it every day and be reminded of what some racist neighbor did to my home. I did not mind the threatening notes, but invading my personal space really pisses me off. The police aren’t even trying to catch the person who did it, despite the fact there was a witness and the perp left a note. Sorry for the random vent, I am just so mad!
WTF? That has to be so scary, Becky. I know what it is like to feel unsafe in your own home. It is infuriating. Maybe check with another glass company? I had a rock fly through my window from a lawnmower once and I remember it did seem like forever to get the window replaced. I’m so sorry this happened to you.
So sorry you are having to deal with racist neighbors. The outrage over BLM is infuriating. I’m so sick of of it, of hearing “all lives matter” as an argument…Yea they do but there’s no need to fight for it dumbasses! It’s black people who keep getting shot in the back, in their bed, suffocated with a knee. The video Marlo did had me bawling. No person should have to even state “my life matters,” but to see the kids on the video stating it, HAVING to state it because there are still people who don’t feel they matter…no kid, no one, should have to feel that they don’t matter, that they have to fight to matter.
It’s screwed up and a bit scary that you can’t even get help from police. Right now it’s a rock, but with cops turning a blind eye it gives the racist neighbors a free pass and secure in feeling they can mess with you without repercussions. Prayers for your safety Becky!
So sorry that happened to you, Becky. I’ve been a bit afraid to say things or put signs up for that exact reason. These racist idiots are violent and scary.
OMG. That’s awful. I’m so sorry that happened to you! I’ve learned that I hate all of my neighbors and their conservative asses and the stupid HOA is ridiculous. But THIS IS SCARY AF! Vent away. I’m just glad no one got hurt. Wtf is wrong with people?
How am I? Seems not great. I am fairly drunk from grapefruit vodka, and feeling a bit sorry for myself. Lost my mom in April to colon cancer, couldn’t be with her due to Covid, and my mother in law one month and one day later. This week I find out if I lose my job. 2020 sucks. Bright side I am addicted to reality tv, so that’s something. Love the site, been reading here for years.
Hang in there Amsie. Things have to improve at some point, right? RIGHT!
So sorry for your losses, hang in there. Each day is one step closer to feeling better.
Hey, Everyone!
If you would kindly lift up my Dad in prayers, I’d be very grateful. He’s in the ICU, as he vomited blood clots last night in the skilled nursing facility. He has Stage 4 cancer and fractured his femur bc of it during the pandemic, and has been bedbound since. Any prayers for him to be stable and for me to be able to transfer him to a facility where I can visit, hug and kiss him safely until God calls him home, would be appreciated! I visited today and he asked me to kiss him, but I was afraid to take off my masks. I looked like a terrified astronaut with googles and three masks, but I can’t take any chances as my kiddos and I are high risk. I’d like to visit him everyday, and give him lots of kisses and hugs.
I’m on it! May I have his name or nickname please?
Prayers going up!!! ???
I am so sorry about your father. It would be my honor to pray for him for healing and comfort. And I will pray for you, also. For peace and comfort and time to spend with your dad!
Prayers for you and your father, Lyn. ❤️
Prayer sent, Lyn.
Candles lit. Prayers on the way. ❤???
@Lyn –
May God give you:
For every storm, a rainbow,
For every tear, a smile,
And or every care, a promise,
And a blessing in each trial.
For every problem life sends,
A faithful friend to share,
For every sigh, a sweet song,
And an answer for each prayer.
I’m so sorry , Lyn.
I will pray for him.
I usually ask the person’s first name, but I think God can figure it out!
One more day and this month will be over, Thank Feck!!
I’m betwixt and between – I have another funeral tomorrow and it’s going to be a hard one and I am angry on so many levels and for so many reasons.
Tomorrow is a new month and it is the month I will start to make major changes in my life as we move into the “new normal”
Hope everyone has a good day and brings a little joy into someone’s life and vice versa.
Thanks Ingrid for giving me a positive start to my day, so happy for you and yours.
Work was super busy the past two weeks and for some reason I haven’t been getting my TT emails to remind me to take a break and read recaps. So this weekend I spent catching up on posts.
I am also exhausted and feel like sleeping but of course here I am up middle of the night…
Thank you, TT, for this site. I have been coming here regularly for a couple years, but never commenting. I can identify with so many on this site. Everyone has a story and I am working on my listening skills and figuring out my destiny.
I’m glad you started commenting keep it up
I’m in Australia…. our media and politicians talk about plans for a road out of COVID restrictions. I haven’t heard anything about how they’ll help me out of my drinking and eating during this time. I have a kid in another state with a closed border and a fiancĂ© in another country. Australia has closed their borders and I haven’t seen either of them since January. Thank goodness I have a cat and a kid at home.
I have to go…
Time to open a new bottle of Prosecco… because I should be in Italy this week!!!
Sarah, since Australia has basically eliminated Covid, are there restrictions on plane travel for you guys? Or can you fly inside the country without masks and restrictions?
Our numbers per capita are a lot lower than yours, but we are in what we would call a second wave in Victoria. I think it was a wake up call, we were complacent thinking we had gotten away with it. Most borders are closed between states, you need a permit to cross them whether by road, sea or air. I think masks are requested on all flights but mandatory when flying to or from Victoria (where Melbourne is). I am grateful to be in a rural town of about 5000 people between Sydney and Melbourne. The closest cases have been an hour away and I still don’t even know anyone who knows anyone who has had it.
Did you hear from your friend that you got the frightening message from who was very sick? I have been keeping an eye out and have been wondering.
Lyn, there are many prayers and much love being sent for your dad. May God show His mercy and goodness to you both. I hope you can feel all the love here.
So, TT, back at the end of May of this year several sites posted that Villanelle’s Spanish villa was available to rent. Gorgeous! I debated sending you an email or commenting, but I didn’t want to bother you. Nice fantasy, especially during these times.
Lee it is always fine to email. It just takes me a while to respond sometimes especially in the middle of the week. I think we should get Tuatha to rent the villa for us and have TT party there if this COVID mess ever goes away and if Europe is ever stupid enough to let us come back to visit.
When/if you have the time, check out the villa pics. So pretty. I haven’t traveled in Europe much. Just the US and the Caribbean. I live in the Florida Space Coast area.
I better get an invitation, cot dammit.
Two weeks ago today while walking home in a rainstorm of EPIC PROPORTIONS I feel face down while walking home with two huge bags of heavy groceries & landed upon my right hand face down on the sidewalk. After getting up with finger spasms and tears rolling down my face I walked home. As soon as I got in I went into the freezer to ice & elevate hand. Less than half an hour later the power went out. Did not go back on until 6 hours later. Nightmare. I the work aholic with two jobs had to work both of them for the entire 2 weeks after. Fortunately fate intervened & I left my night job serving & have no desire whatsoever to return in any capacity. God works in mysterious ways. Forcing me to practice self care upon myself. It was the best thing thats happened to me in 2020. Thank you God for your divine intervention. I am home I am happy I am feeling so much better. Thank GOD.
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So glad things have gotten better!!!!
Thanks ?
I had a breakfast of leftovers, started day drinking (it’s wine-o-clock somewhere) and wondering if I should shower.
I’ll send prayers for those who need them.
I’m a very frugal person. That’s why I live in my ghetto shack with very few creature comforts. I have fear of being a bag lady. So I don’t spend much.
BUT LATELY, I’m just ordering whatever I want from takeout places. I ordered an obscene amount of food from the pizza place the other day and it took three days but I ate ever bit. lol. Takeout is not something I allow myself very often, I just ordered from the Pho place (but oddly didn’t order any pho. I got egg rolls and dumplings and a salad or and maybe I did order pho because I got four things. I’ve only eaten at this place once despite it being within walking distance (but you have to cross a major four lane. But everything comes with half the produce section of a grocery store. Even the eggrolls come with these unusual salads. So um, it’s like grocery shopping only not. And it’s healthy! #Justification.
I figure since I may never get to use the money I’ve been stacking for years for a luxurious vacation. I might as well at least eat well at home.
Indeed. Spend it on creature comforts that make your life run smoother. I AM FRUGAL too & it’s why be both have so many blessings, abundance and financial stability.
I love to cook & bake but there is nothing more luxurious or more satisfying than calling for a meal a cake & a respite from mere life. KEEP BEING FRUGAL yet INDULGE YOURSELF when feasible. You saw my bedroom wallpaper from Milan. Worth every penny. Not because it was outrageously expensive but because it was EXTRAORDINARILY BEAUTIFUL & a wise investment in my abode.
Well now I want to see Marc’s fancy expensive Italian wallpaper.
Google wallpaper direct Versace white with charcoal grey fleur d lis repeating pattern fabric wallpaper. Hope I haven’t broken commenting rules if so please remove from post. Obscenely GORGEOUS!
Random comment… Watching “Cash Cab” the other night and Cameron and Shep (Southern Charm) were the contestants. Cameron rolled and got every question right and “Mr. Fucking Literary Genius” Shep.. only got ONE! A beautiful moment!
**Ramdom** I’ve been binge watching “Karen” videos on FB. I have already established that I’m weird, but something about these bids have me busting a bit laughing. Please don’t spoil my fun by getting political on me, I just happen to like watch The Karen’s go nutsy.
My favorite director left for good yesterday, I’m really going to miss het. Now I got to train the new chick to do things my way. LOL
Love you guys!!!
I watch them too. People who refuse to wear masks seem to feel VERY ENTITLED to go wherever they want with out one. And Stores are well within THEIR RIGHTS to tell them they are not allowed in their stores. For some reason this makes them all go batshit.
Oh the other hand, some mask wearers are also attacking people eating outside with no masks as they walk by. Why get up in the face of someone not wearing a mask? Just move quickly down the sidewalk away from them. Plus THEY ARE ALLOWED TO EAT OUTSIDE.
It’s insane.
Holy shit y’all! I just found awesome new show on showtime! I recorded it on Sunday night bc it was the first episode and just now watching it. It’s called Love Fraud and it’s about how all these older women all got conned by same guy online and married them and they unite to fuck him over and get revenge on his ass. It’s so good! They found each other on a blog! It’s a real life true women. Just thought I’d share. It’s honestly the best new show I’ve found in a while and waaay better than the Bravo crap! Even though it’s on Sunday nights I think you can get the already aired episode (s) on demand if you have showtime. ?
I took a look at that the other night and couldn’t make it through the first 15 minutes. I was hoping it was more of a drama based on the events. Instead it was just all the women sitting there talking about the stupid shit they did, cut to the other women doing similar shit. I found myself wanting to punch all the idiots in the face,… “So I put the car in my name” “So I put him on my bank accounts” “So I put his name on the deed to my house…”
I watched the other night and got through maybe 20 minutes before I deleted it. Such stupidity!
I googled the chain smoking lady bounty hunter and unfortunately she has a go fund me to cover the costs of her stage 4 lung cancer treatment.
Well that sucks. Admittedly it was a slow start but I started to really get into it after the women decided to get revenge and started to turn the tables on the guy. I am a catfish fan, so I suppose that’s why I like it as it’s a similar premise. It’s the only thing that has held my attention lately and I’ve been really thirsty for a new show.
Teen mom 2 starts tonight, lol. And a new show 16 and recovering.
Ooh yay! Thanks for teen mom heads up. I don’t see it on my DVR so I guess I’ll have to catch it on demand and reset DVR! ?
Maybe I just was not in the mood, IJC. Since you like it so much, maybe I will try again. I didn’t like Perry Mason for the first few episodes and then it got really good.
Watching Love Island and everyone is acting like this new girl is the second coming. She has a decent body but so do all the other girls in the house, and she is not attractive at all in the face. Pretty much everyone in the house is prettier than she is. And she seems to be a bit mentally off.
Am I wrong? Because I do not see the attractions. All the dark haired girls are way prettier than she is.
Nope. Not wrong. But I’m all in on her stirring shit up. I LIVE for superficial!
In other news, as you all know Banjo is getting old. And I have been really bad about taking him for walks. Today I took him for a short one and he was so excited he pooped in the driveway before we even made it to the sidewalk. which was fine, It was kind of off to the side.
So when he didn’t ask to go out again, I didn’t even think about it. Well he just pooped on the kitchen floor. Didn’t give me any indication he needed to go out. It’s happened a few times lately, and I don’t hold it against him. It’s just he doesn’t even let me know he needs to go. And he is losing weight.
In OTHER OTHER NEWS. The site has been wonky all damn day and I have been online with tech people all day. And I no longer have the mental bandwidth to figure this shit out. Suddenly, my site host and my plugins, and my security and Jetpack and all the other plates that have been spinning for years have stopped cooperating. And tomorrow I get to do it all over again with my security team. Um, YAY?
So it has been a shitty day, both literally and metaphorically.
I’m sorry about Banjo. My crabby ass old lady puppy has been dropping weight like crazy the last 6 months. Never a good sign.
As for your site – I actually got an email notification from a new post again. Probably not relevant but I love the email. It’s the only way I remember to self care.
My heart hurts hearing about Banjo. You hurt for them despite knowing you’ve given them a good long happy life filled with love. Hugs and love to y’all.
Any ideas for how to fatten him up a bit?
When my dog was not doing well he still was happy to eat fresh chicken. Just boil and shred. I hope he does better.
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Why are two people testing comment? Can you write anything else?
Seriously asking lots of site issues.
Emailed you late last night. I was just testing after you rebooted or whatever. It’s working fine now on this end; the layout is just different and I was testing to see if it showed up because it looked different. Hoping today is a better day! ?
The layout is different below Leave A Reply – Bigger & Bolder, when I type it is a light grey so I wanted to check if I could post.
The Name, Email and Website fields are automatically populating and everything is Ticketty Boo.
I have not ticked the Notify boxes as I don’t use them.
Enjoy your day peeps.
I tried to watch a movie to get over the site woes. THE UPSIDE. Highly recommend. Watched on Showtime. I’ll work on fixing the site tomorrow.
I have started watching lifetime movies since i am bored with bravo.
The lawn guy is here. He lives down the block and has a normal lawn mower. However, he pulled up in his truck with a trailer with this riding contraption on it. IT IS LOUD AS FUCK. My lawn is the size of a postage stamp, AND IT JUST KEEPS GOING.
Thanks! She’s my crabby old lady puppy ?
Eeek. I was trying to reply to Elizabeth Rose!