I don’t know how much. I tried to recap RHONY last night and I just could not finish. I’m not feeling well. It’s not Covid. It’s just my mental health. I really just can’t take anymore. It’s very hard for me to function right now. Since this site began, I’ve received emails every single day from assholes. If you don’t like the site there are eleventy billion better run sites than this one. I am one person. I am living in a terrifying country. I’m doing the best I can. I realize that is not very good. But it is all I’ve got. I just need a break. I might be back in a few hours, a few days or a few weeks. I know I will miss you all too much to stay gone forever. I just need some time to try and collect myself.
Also thanks to people sending me news stories, but please stop for now.
Take care of yourself. Thank you for the notice. Sending you good vibes ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Take all the time you need! Right now is so hard and you are pretty well non stop with this site.
Get some rest and take care of yourself 💙
Thoughts, prayers and happy vibes sent your way. This is such a trying time. We all feel like hiding some days. Take your time. Xo
Breathe deep hug banjo sending you positivity
Sending love and warm healing light 🌈 🌅
I hope you guys will use this forum to talk about whatever is going on. Hopefully, I will be back soon. I just need to get myself together enough to resume telling certain people to GDIAF. 🙂 I’ll get it together eventually. I just need to take a few days. It’s no big deal. This job is sort of nonstop and I kind of need to stop for a bit.
Take care of yourself, Tamara! Love you, Sis.
***Off-topic – you should prolly install a temporary “hall monitor” to keep our asses in line while you’re gone, you know we don’t know how to act….LOLOLOLOL***
@The Other Shay and a risk administrator to deal with the bots, spam emails, moderated comments which have probably increased eleventy billion fold due to these crazy times.
TT is dealing with fronthouse (us) backhouse (admin) and every other house linked to 3rd parties.
Take care TT
We will be here when you return. Take care of yourself. Do whatever you need to do for you.
I learned what GDIAF means. Thank you♥️ Nothing wrong with taking a break. Hope the break helps. I knew a woman who had a very popular gossip blog. It can be all consuming and leave you feeling detacted and alone in a strange way. So please be kind to yourself.
Take care of yourself!
Do whatever you need Tamara. Was just thinking over the 4th how much you accomplish with so many recaps and ongoing forum discussions. On top of dealing with the pandemic and everything else. Nobody knows how much you put up with. We’ll survive AND you will be greatly missed.
I would not know what to do without you guys. So I will still be here just not recapping for a few days.
I’ll be fine. And I will still be commenting here and doing all the daily behind the scenes work with comnents and site maintenance and all the usual crap. I’m just finding it mentally difficult to recap shows. My mental capacity is … not good. I’m not trying to make a joke. I got up to go to the kitchen four times recently and could not ever remember why I went. I still want to talk to you guys… it’s just really hard to recap at the moment there is a lot that goes into it and the expectation is for it to be fast and I just can’t do everything I normally do right now Maybe it will just be slower… I don’t know.
So it sounds like you’re still going to be working while you’re taking this break try to do as little as possible binge watch TV something you really want to watch and spend time with your dog
Take care of you. We aren’t going anywhere. We love you!
I hear you! I empathize too. I did the kitchen thing four times myself the other day and there’s not enough caffeine in the world to deal with my lethargy of late. You just do whatever you need to do to feel better, it’s tough right now I get it. Btw, my dog also dictates my sleeping positions and for a medium sized guy he can sure hog the bed. Also, I had to look up GDIAF and I laughed my butt off! See you’re always educating the people even when you’re not trying to!
I didn’t know what GDIAF meant either. I’m going to use it a lot I think
Hahaha!! Me too!
I will miss you but please rest your brain and your heart. They are what make you unique.
Hopefully my brain will start functioning properly soon. 🙂
Take care of yourself. It’s not only a good thing but a necessary thing for one to do. God bless you and keep you safe, physically and emotionally, in your heart and mind. Rest. Love, 3Gatos.
stopping feels great!! it makes you all the better for the next challenge! but there you have it – stopping is it’s own challenge. if we are all going to die in some fucking catastrophe not of our doing then let’s all do so without having to tiptoe around trying not to offend anyone. or taking on anything except being the best possible you. be careful tho! this philosophy has lead me to setting up a farmstand!! *crickets* it’s not like the city markets i have done for 13 years and it’s certainly not the same $$ wise but you know? I’m alive and for the first time in years i’m loving farming again and ‘playing’ making my farmstand look cute! god, who knew it would be the shallow things that bring so much joy!!
keep hydrated, love yourself and hurry back, ya hear?
You sound delightful. I needed that.
Isn’t your pool open yet ? The Ys pool has been open for 3 wks now and I can do my laps. My library is open so all is good !
Take care, Tamara. You’ve provided so much content that’s been a welcome escape for me during times where I needed to do just what you need to do now. Thank you for that.
It has not escaped most how much you do running this site while dealing with the same things we’re running from when we come here. Everyone else can go f themselves for not recognizing you are a human being and not a machine.
Nothing – NOTHING – is more important than your health. Get well. ♥️
Do whatever you need do Merlot Queen, crazy times, I am going to take myself up to the mountains this weekend and switch off from everything and everyone.
Catch up with you next week.
Everyone that I talk with is struggling right now. Even people who seem like they have it together are doing weird things or making weird mistakes. So please give yourself some time and some grace & good will. For me, I’m taking hours on the weekends just looking at the trees or watching the birds. I’m doing some art. But mostly I’m just sitting there. I have so much cleaning and sorting I could be doing, but I just can’t be bothered to do much of anything. And I think I’m okay with that right now.
You said there are other sites that are better, but this site is amazing!! Not only are your recaps fast and funny, but you’ve created a whole community of people who connect with each other. Your commenting rules are awesome. And Iove that there is nothing at the bottom of your page that I’m afraid to click on. No cardiologists who never eat this one vegetable. Nothing about the insurance rates in my town. I’m not afraid to click in the wrong place and get a virus. So thank you for that!!
Enjoy your vacation Tamara, as best you can. WE WILL BE HERE!
So well said, Kara! Yes, TT is the ONLY site I read. T’s humor and intelligence and personal anecdotes are what make her site so different and why I come back all the time.
We’re all in a similar struggle and kindness for ourselves and each other is so necessary right now. I also could be doing so much more productive things, but I just can’t. I’ve found myself even unable to connect with people. I don’t have the energy to talk to my family. I keep conversations short or avoid them altogether. I get up with a plan for my day in mind, then just end up sitting around doing nothing.
No “Eating this is like a gut wash” ads!
🙂 I have lobster roll ads because someone sent me some. They were nice, but they aren’t THE PORK CHOPS!
Take as much time as you need!
I’m sure I speak for most of us here when I say, we’d rather have you healthy than killing yourself to recap Erika Jayne or Nene’s tomfoolery. They can wait. Your health is the number one priority.
We’ll keep the lights on for you until you can make your way back here again.
Love to Banjo,
To be clear, there are certain things I have to do on this site everyday that don’t involve posting. So I will be check in and whining or talking to you, I can’t quit you guys. I’m just not going to be on top of things and it’s a two or three day span when I don’t have to recap everything I am behind on. I STILL WANT YOU. I just need to not keep so many plates spinning. You may have noticed I was online very early today. I am having nightmares and weird shit And Georgia is having the most cases EVER. and the world seems very scary to me and I am not as strong as I thought I was.
Oh yes you are!
“I am not as strong as I thought I was”
SAME
Please take care of yourself. We all love you.
xo
I thought I was the only one having nightmares. Once again, you made me feel better. Mine was so bad I woke up crying. I never cry. A croque madame for you and a croque monsieur for me!
It dawns on me that you might be feeling something I realized about myself a while ago.
I realized that the announcement that Canada closed its borders to us, and now Europe as well, makes me feel trapped and almost claustrophobic. I’ve only been to Europe once, but I’ve travelled to Canada my entire life. It can be just a weekend getaway for me. I’ve always said if I won the lottery, I’d buy a place on Vancouver Island – Victoria, BC is one of my favorite places.
I didn’t have ANY plans on going this year, but now that I can’t? I’m surprised on how much it bothers me.
Omg, I’m feeling exactly the same. Today is my 3rd canceled weekend to Christina Lake. I miss it so much.
After I posted this? My folks and I decided to cancel our annual trip to the Oregon coast today. I don’t think we’ve missed this in 30 years.
But we started thinking about how we’d want to clean all the things upon arrival. We’d get there and not want to leave the hotel or house, depending on where we landed.
This hurts. Cannon Beach area is another of my places. But we started to think about how it wouldn’t be worth it if we couldn’t go to Bill’s Tavern, or argue again about which place has the best chowder (besides mine. Honestly, mine kicks ass)
My folks mentioned asked/mentioned if I had interest in getting a kitten (my 19 year old kitteh passed last Sept. He’s my avatar, FYI. TT knows about him). Now WOULD be a great time to acclimate one to their goofy lab so I could bring any kitty I had over. But my house isn’t necessarily ready. Simon at 19 didn’t bother anything. I would have to kitten proof my place. I also left it a mess and I don’t want to admit that to them. I thought to totally gut out my condo and sell it this year – but quarantining with them put the kibosh on that.
So I am torn. Part of me wants to continue the freedom of being pet free until after the Covid and I can move (and possibly even get a place where I can built an awesome catio for two.) Part of me wants to get some kittens now so that they can get used to their uncle, my parents’ lab, so they too can join in on family trips.
I can see how tough that decision would be on a kitten. There a pros and cons to both and I suck at making decisions lol. We had to cancel a family trip to Sedona but I’m not butt hurt about it because I don’t want to get sick!
Good luck on kitty decision. I’d likely procrastinate thinking about it and the impulsively adopt one that I happened upon.
I have a lot of free time, does it help if we go read old articles?
We love you! Take your time and chill. I know it’s a million times harder it sounds; Ive attempted it several times because 2019/2020 seem to have a vendetta against me and all that is good in the world. We will definitely be here when you return. ❤️❤️
Good luck and enjoy. Your job is one that can quite literally occupy your entire life if you allow it to. Disconnect. We will all still be here waiting.
Wishing you well!
hugs dear
Dear Tamara,
I live for your recaps and hope you don’t mind me saying I enjoy reading about your personal life too. I commiserate with you in these trying times, thanks for sharing. I actually loled reading about your sleep space struggle. Best Wishes to you.
I think, if you need to break down and cry, do it. It always feels better afterwards. That RHONY show tonight was shit. I understand how it would seem like too much. This is also the only site l read, so you can be sure l will still be here when you return. I hope you spend some time smelling the roses! Take care of you, Tamara. Hugs from NorCal!
I’m not so sure I am going anywhere. I can’t quit you guys but I can’t keep going at the rate I am. I’d love to just be a commenter on this site.. I had some really bad dream and am going back to bed now.
You can save these and use them for next week’s recaps.
On RHOBH the ladies came after Denise about mommy shaming them. Denise walked away. Brandi accused her of having a threesome. She walked away.
On RHONY the ladies got drunk and argued. Heather Thompson came in and tried to fix it. She was unable.
There ya go! All set for RH for a week! 🙂
Please take care of yourself….it’s okay to be good to yourself. I don’t post often but love reading your recaps and the commenters’ comments. We’re all here for you, TT (hope it’s okay to call you TT. Stay safe and love on yourself!
There are so many good people in your online community.
Maybe just read the comments that get through and take a break from the moderated comments?
In the meantime, if anyone here needs a fix of reality TV, the archives are CHOCK FULL of good stuff: the Sheree Whitfield lawsuit, the history of RHOBH and some Phaedra Parks posts are good places to start.
Take care, the ones who count will be here when you get back.
I just watched the David Foster doc, and had to go back and watch season 3 of RHOBH, when he was married to Yolanda. How things have changed!
Then the “real story of a Yolanda and LVP” is a MUST READ for you. It’s a reality TV masterpiece. Everything falls into place.
I can’t remember the exact title but if you search for RHOBH you can scroll down to it. Or maybe “Yolanda Foster” would give you fewer things to scroll through.
https://tamaratattles.com/2015/12/03/a-completely-hypothetical-intellectual-discussion-with-psylocke/ I guess you mean this. I miss Psylocke I think she is Brazilian and I’ve been worried about her. She doesn’t post when she is in Brazil and I honestly can’t remember the last time she was here.
Oh no! This was not the one I meant, but this is a GREAT BONUS! WOW!
The one I was talking about is the “chess match” between Yolanda and LVP.
link it?
The only thing I disagree about what you said was, I know my sites not very good. Oh so not true. Your site is wonderful, great tea and just plain entertaining. Take all the time you need, we will all be here when you feel better!! xoxo.
Thanks Margaret. I’m just kind of burned out. It will pass.
People suck!!! Take care and thanks for the candid honesty…being brave and talking about mental health struggles is admired! You rock!!
Thanks you guys. I will still be checking in often. There are lots of spinning plates on a website. ]]]
The good news is God finally came through on Trump and he can’t take the virus he (might if we are lucky) from Florida to New Hampshire. In other news, Georgia has joined the ranks of states with a worse outbreak than most third world countries.
You sound a wee bit better. The Trump news is good. And important.
You are safe in the Ghetto Shack. I wish I lived nearby. I would fill your yard with flowers and vegetables. A little patch of lawn for Banjo to roly-poly.
I am taking my dog to our little park to roly-poly on the lawn. The park is one short block away. I need to drive the dogs to it because we have no sidewalks and the street already is hot. I need bring the little stairs so my dog can climb in and out of my car. Then she is happy to run in the park.
Those dogs have an amazing mom
Thank you. I can never do enough … “Who rescued who?“
You rescued me, many, many times.
Awwww… ditto.
Tamara,
Glad you’re taking a break. Self care is very important, especially right now in this crazy world. Go work in your garden or just binge watch your favorite shows. We’ll be here when you get back.
You know that your loyal people will be here whenever you’re ready to come back full time. Take a break, get drunk, don’t shower, smoke, play with Banjo, drink some more. Whatever you need to do to get your gears aligned, go do it. Or don’t. LOL
Lilune already did a recap for you 😁! We love you and your health is most important!!! See you in the funny pages. (I really she’s myself with that joke) 😂😂
**** Aged and or Dated ****** Damned auto correct. What if I wanted to spell it wrong!!??
I sent a message to my boss about the price of a new ice machine. My phone changed ice to sex and I didn’t notice until I had already sent it. Horrifying
Well if it helps you made me LOL on a day I didn’t feel like laughing. It’s so much more fun coming here as a commenter. 🙂
LOFL
Did your boss say?
“We‘LL order a dozen to keep EVERYONR happy?”
older respectful man from India and I thought he was going to be upset but he actually took it with great humor
No need to explain. explanations can be exhausting. We know you’re taking time off to vacay with Nene. we just have to accept that you know what you are doing.
I’m sick of these online bullies. One of the reasons I like this site so much is you have cultivated an environment where commenters critique but don’t slam people in the shows. There are a lot of other sites out there but on all that I’ve seen commenters are generally very nasty and ungenerous. I’m sorry people directly attack you. I had one semi negative comment on my social media once and I cried for days. Isn’t one of the luxuries of adulthood supposed to be not getting bullied anymore?
Yes absolutely.
We love you, TT. I hope you come back refreshed! ❤️. Sending you and Banjo virtual hugs and lots of blessings!!
I woke up today just mentally and physically done. I even napped, I dunno what’s wrong with me. I’m moving back up to Norcal which I’m happy about but I had a hair lady I really liked here. It seems every 6 months, we’re somewhere new and its getting tiring after a while. I know I’m depressed, food isn’t enjoyable, TV bores me, then again seriously some of these shows, put 5 in a room with alcohol and stupid trivial fighting, we got a show, ugh sorry it’s my review of the latest RHNY. Can they bring back the Cuban lady singing, money can’t but you class!! Bleh fake drama, but I need a break from the drunks…
Where are you moving in N. Cal? If you are moving near Los Gatos or Vallejo, I have excellent hair stylists to recommend. (I have shitty fine hair, so if they can make mine look good …)
Remember to give yourself some grace. You ARE only one person and this IS a lot just on the surface, let alone with assholes emailing behind the scene. Who goes out of their way to email hateful things? We will be here when you’re ready… whether it’s days or weeks or months… take care of you ❤️
Summertime is when people take breaks and slow down, so good timing. I dont watch other boring-ass recaps , that is not the only reason I am on this site. Stay cool, we will see you on the flip side.
Lots of love….
Here’s something really good: It seems as if there are several people who don’t usually post comments here giving you encouragement Tamara! That means there likely are many more who feel the same way.
I’m doing a lot better. I just needed to go ahead and have a breakdown. Thanks for being there for me. You a a great friend I am very lucky to have. I just need to have a real weekend off. It’s been a while. And I should confess I am still talking to sources and doing backend work. It’s harder to quit working than one might think. But the urgency isn’t there. So I am watching the last two episodes of Here and Now on HBO. I really like this series but less than 300K people watched it. Sadly, it got cancelled. I love all ten episodes though. I’ve watched them all multiple times because I can’t remember anything at all anymore. And on the upside, it;’s new everytime!
Time for self care❤️
TT,
The fact that you recognized that you needed to take some things of your plate for a little bit and honestly opened your heart to articulate that to us is awesome. You are doing much better than you think you are. I’m indulging in boom boom shrimp and chocolate cheesecake from Whole Paycheck. That is making the stress of the week melt away. I hope you have some delicious indulgences that will revive your soul as well! Kisses! Be well, dear!
You deserve the time off for sure! I just found out that Padma was in my small town (7300 people) in December! Why couldn’t I have run into her??!!! I am already having Top Chef withdrawal….!
I can’t even get thru watching RHONY much less would I be able to recap it. This season is awful and just gives me a headache. I did do the free trial of HBO and binge watched Big Little Lies for this reason and loved it. I watched both seasons and now need some recommendations on other HBO shows that are really good since Bravo isn’t doing it for me anymore.
I liked Here and Now, a series on HBO. It’s really kind of weird and it takes a couple of episodes to get sucked in. However, hardly anyone watched the series and everyone but me who did, hated it. so….
Tamara, I am so sorry you are not feeling well and dealing with mental health issues. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make all of our stresses, anxieties, and health issues vanish (does Amazon carry magic wands?). If it is a bit of consolation, I am struggling badly too the last few months. The stress of isolation with the lockdown, the complete uncertainty about my job, my hours being cut in half for months, plus the passing of both my Mom last year, as well as my brother right before Christmas (his death just was so fast, I think at least – less than 8 weeks from diagnosis until his death from lung cancer that had spread to his liver, pancreas, and his brain, a very aggressive form apparently) With his death, now both my parents (Dad passed 15 years ago the end of June) and my brother, who was my only sibling, are gone. I thought I was dealing with things pretty well, but then out of the blue, I started started feeling really depressed, having frequent panic attacks, and just wishing I had a family again. I miss my daughter, son-in-law, and two granddaughters so much, but they’re all the way down in Louisiana, travel is impossible right now, my work has started back up full-time and then some, and it does not help that my daughter is an RN,BSN, working in the dialysis unit and treating covid patients who are on dialysis too. Can’t tell you how many times I’ve picked up the phone to call my brother or my mom just to have someone to talk to – literally, I called my brother on the phone more than once just to listen to his answering machine until my niece, his daughter, turned the phone off with his phone carrier. I still had a couple of his voice mails on my phone, though. How pathetic is that? Never in my wildest nightmares did I think I would be the last one left in my family! Now, I just don’t talk to anyone – I am rarely on any social media anymore, haven’t been here on your site in weeks and weeks – I just want to be a hermit. My latest thing is looking for land with a log cabin in remote areas so I can just officially become a hermit. I hope the saying is right, Tamara, and this, too, shall pass for all of us!! 2020 just plain SUX. I’ll keep you in my prayers – hey, at least I still am talking to God, when I’m not really mad at Him for wiping out my family. Get plenty of rest/relaxation if you can and I hope you and Banjo can turn this around – if you find the secret to that, please let me know – hugs and prayers!
I’m so sorry you’re having such a difficult time. I can really relate to this comment for whatever that’s worth. Sending you a virtual hug.
I wish you lots of rest and love. I know that I speak for everyone when I say your site is really lifesaving for me and keeps in contact with the outside world. Take all the time you need.
Thanks Louise. I am never able to leave the site because I love all of you. Sometimes I just need to take my foot off the gas and coast a bit…
Girl, you do whatever you need to do to get through this. We’ll still be here when you feel better! This virus has nearly broke me as well and I’m pretty strong from what life has dealt me. Buried my Mom at 22 and she only 49 from a car accident, buried my boyfriend at 24 from a plane crash, buried my sister from sepsis at 40. In between I managed to escape an abusive husband but endured a 2 1/2 year custody battle which shattered me into tiny pieces. A crazy tenant who eventually burned down my entire condo intentionally. It’s been a joy let me tell you so I thought hell not much else life could throw at me then BAM!!! The good news about this beast is we’re all experiencing the heinous side effects together. I hope you know all of your readers, not just those who comment regularly, are here for you. Hope you feel better and get loose. Have fun, be crazy, do things you’d never normally do. Get out of the mundane daily grind and go have fun. Just pure fun. If it isn’tfun for you, don’t do it. See you soon.