You comment here at my discretion. I own and pay for this website. It’s not a blog. It is not free. It costs several thousand dollars a year to run. I am open to differences of opinion. My favorite pizza is a white pizza with artichokes. You might find that disgusting. We can argue about whether pineapple should be on pizza. I don’t care either way. I like all the pizza.I
HOWEVER, what we cannot debate is whether racist comments tolerated here. Homophobic comments are not tolerated here. Transphobic comments are not tolerated here. Posts about when people have been on the receiving end of such behaviors and saying they are just trying to get attention are not tolerated here. Shit like “all lives matter” are not fucking tolerated here at all. If all lives matter than certainly that includes black lives. BUT, black lives seem to be disposable by certain police officers to a degree that WE ALL MUST SPEAK OUT. We all unfortunately had to bear witness to a black man being murdered by four white police officers. And sadly THIS IS NOT NEW BEHAVIOR. These issues are not up for debate here. .
We have also seen a shit ton of Racism By Bravo and a whole lot of backpedaling by Andy Cohen and the like from their Ivory White Towers. Quick, someone tell me who Andy Cohen’s best black friend is? Don’t you fucking DARE come on my site and say shit like Billie Lee is looking for her 15 minutes of fame. She is telling the truth about LVP and others like her. Transgender people are killed every year for being trans gendered. So get the fuck off my site with that shit. This is just from this year via the Human Rights Campaign.
- Dustin Parker, 25, was fatally shot in McAlester, Oklahoma, early on New Year’s Day. His employers released a statement shortly after his death, remembering Parker as “a steadfast friend, an amazing husband and father and generous to a fault. He loved fiercely, worked tirelessly and took on life with so much hope and enthusiasm that his presence brightened all of our lives.”
- Neulisa Luciano Ruiz, was fatally shot in Toa Baja, Puerto Rico on February 24. According to Metro Puerto Rico, members of her community knew her as “humble” and “noble.”
- Yampi Méndez Arocho, 19, was killed in Moca, Puerto Rico, on March 5. Arocho, a transgender man, shared his love for basketball and the NBA — donning Miami Heat apparel on social media. The biography line on his Facebook reads simply, “Humility Prevails.”
- Monika Diamond, 34, a Black transgender woman, was killed in Charlotte, North Carolina on March 18. Diamond was active in the Charlotte LGBTQ and nightlife community and was the co-owner of an event promotion company. She also was the co-CEO of the International Mother of the Year Pageantry System — a pageant that honors LGBTQ mothers.
- Lexi, 33, a transgender woman, was killed in Harlem, New York on March 28. According to reports, Lexi was fatally stabbed in Harlem River Park. “I really looked up to her because of her tolerance and respect,” said Lavonia Brooks, a friend of Lexi. “Lexi had a beautiful heart, she was very gifted.” Brooks also noted that Lexi loved poetry, makeup and fashion.
- Johanna Metzger, a transgender woman, was killed in Baltimore, Maryland on April 11. According to reports, she was visiting a Baltimore recovery center from Pennsylvania at the time. Johanna was known for her love of music and taught herself to play multiple instruments.
- Serena Angelique Velázquez Ramos, 32, was killed in Puerto Rico on April 21. Ramos was killed alongside Layla Pelaez Sánchez, 21. According to reports, Ramos was visiting the island on vacation, and was set to return to her home in Queens, New York, at the end of the month. Loved ones are mourning her death, calling her “full of life,” a “happy person,” and a “sincere friend.” On May 1, two men were charged under federal hate crimes law for Ramos’s death.
- Layla Pelaez Sánchez, 21, was killed in Puerto Rico on April 21. Sánchez was killed alongside Serena Angelique Velázquez Ramos. According to reports, Sánchez had recently moved to the island, and was living in the Tejas neighborhood in Las Piedras. On May 1, two Puerto Rican men were charged under federal hate crimes law for Sánchez’s death.
- Penélope Díaz Ramírez, a transgender woman, was killed in Puerto Rico on April 13. “Penélope did not deserve to die. Transgender people do not deserve to die. Every single advocate, ally, elected official and community member must stand up in light of this horrific news and say ‘No more.’ What we are doing is not enough,” said Tori Cooper, HRC Director of Community Engagement for the Transgender Justice Initiative.
- Nina Pop, a Black transgender woman, was killed in Sikeston, Missouri, on May 3. She was deeply loved by her family, friends and community, according to her Facebook page.
- Helle Jae O’Regan, 20, a transgender woman, was killed in San Antonio, Texas, on May 6. O’Regan was proud of her trans identity and on Twitter, she often spoke out against injustice, including the LGBTQ inequality, the prison industrial complex and the need to decriminalize sex work. Damion Terrell Campbell, 42, has been charged with O’Regan’s murder.
- Tony McDade, a Black transgender man, was killed in Tallhassee, Florida, on May 27. His friends and family shared how he was an energetic, giving person with a big heart.
So when some fucknut posts that Billie Lee, a beautiful trans woman with a big heart is “making shit up for attention”, it makes me want to piss directly into her eyeball. That is all.
Being a middle age white Australian woman I can never understand the lives that others lead and the prejudices that they face daily. My lovely old mum taught from the cradle everyone should close their hearts and eyes to differences that may divide and open their souls to differences that enrich us.To this day she has never judged another on their religon,politics or colour just if they are a dickhead or not.Im sooo thankful to her for this lesson.We are all brothers and sisters in the game called life lets just respect each .Love to you all from Australia
Hey Louise, fellow Aussie here. If I see another fcktrd bleating ‘all lives matter’ I’m about ready to implode. Australia is an incredibly racist country, I’m trying to take a healing and educative stance when I respond, but it’s hard. Unfortunately, my mother sounds the polar opposite of yours, and I am seeing her this weekend. My eldest daughter marched here in Brisbane on Sunday, so it’d be nice to think we’re evolving as a family. I’m wondering what Bravo is going to look like once this movement really gathers momentum. And with the Covid interruption, who knows what we’ll be watching in 18 months, it’s a great opportunity for change. Let’s hope.
Another middle ages White Aussie Woman here – I absolutely agree with you both – Louise you have a lovely mother, unfortunately QueenJen my older relatives were more like yours, but again I am so proud of our younger generation being so inclusive and my family too has thankfully evolved and hopefully will continue to. How wonderful your daughter marched! With one Aboriginal death in custody happening every month in Australia for the past 30 years Black Lives Matter is more than relevant here and we support our North American brothers and sisters in standing up for equality.
Well said TT – people need to step out of their privilege and have empathy. I agree that BRavo’s actions look performative but its a start – I hope Jax & Brittany go when Brit’s mother is stabilised.
I guess most of that is directed at me. Im sorry you are offended.
For the record, I am not blind to what the LGBTQ community goes through. Men were attacked in my town for being gay. My son is gay. And I worry about him every day.
From my point of view of what I saw on the show. Billie was not excluded for being transgender but for other disagreements.
I don’t want to debate the social horror we’re in right now.
Im giving my own viewer’s point of view of the show and how I perceived it.
I won’t comment anymore l.
That would be just swell. You are a horrible spokesperson for the LGBTQ community, Please seek guidance.For example I know nothing about you, but your gay kid is probably just attention seeking when he is attacked. Go think long and hard about your horrible behavior.
Just wanted to say that 1 or 2 of the cop’s involved in Lloyds murder are Asian.
One Asian, one African American, two white.
Why did you feel the need to say that? George FLOYD’S murder is sadly a representation of systematic and blatant racism people of color have received for well over 200 years. When you make a statement like yours I am left to assume that you too are apart of the system I referenced.
Those cops didn’t stand up for what is right and there is reports out there that Mr. Floyd and the man who murdered him worked together at a club and the murderer had shown racism at that job plus brutality on the force.
If you actually read, the original TT post said:
“We all unfortunately had to bear witness to a black man being murdered by four white police officers.”
So it was just a factual correction. Sometimes a correction is just a correction.
When you assume, you make an “ASS” out of “U” and “ME”, for fuck’s sake.
This wasnt the original post so whenever you get through…
perhaps that comment should have been made under the original post and not this one… Common sense isnt so common with some of you
Point being????
And? Why does it matter? The police killed a black man for $20. That is only thing that should matter. Who deserves a death sentence for that? The only answer should be no one. Grow up.
Why do you want to say that? I am seriously listening.
To quote Bevy Smith, host of Bevelations on Radio Andy, not all skin folk are kin folk.
In other words, one or two black people supporting Trump or these asshole cops doesn’t mean that they aren’t racist.
So what?
Anna – I don’t think you were paying much attn if that’s the case. Bcuz what you missed was everyone losing their shit when Billie said she felt left out, that it was triggering for her to be excluded etc. If any one of those ppl had just sat & listened & explained what had happened & said that it was not their intention to exclude her, and that they understood why she was triggered by the whole situation, I’m sure everything would’ve been easily resolved. Instead their cis-white fragility got them completely butthurt, and they turned around and were bloody awful to her. Which is pretty much their MO.
Thank you. Thats all i need to say
Thank you in the strongest possible way for your very clear stand. I agree with every single word. Racism is not up for discussion. If people want to share their ignorance and evil they can find another format.
I’ve noticed something and I wonder if others have as well. I noticed it first about how women are treated if they come forward about sexual assault. Almost immediately, there is pushback about her character, how she was dressed, was she acting irresponsibly, etc. If she isn’t considered the perfect victim, she is not believed or supported and is castigated. And I see that when people come forward about their experiences about racism. Believe them. Support them. Listen to them. Otherwise, positive change will never happen.
Speak the Truth – If I Offend – Sorry- Not Sorry – I Am IRISH – Our stories are long # BAD BITCH FROM SPAIN
As a Pagan Quaker who became a Catholic to get an education in Southern Ireland and then move to Scotland after losing close family members to religious bigotry as my father was Protestant from Northern Ireland plus I was inferior due to being a female and feral…I thought my life was difficult being in that many minorities – How wrong were we… Thank God for my SIL.
In Scotland they ask you ” What foot do you kick with” ?
Translation – Are you Catholic or Protestant – It is very important that they know what tribe you belong to?
My answer ” I don’t kick” – I dance with both feet for I am an Irish Celt. – It was so much easier than trying to explain plus that story might get you seriously injured or killed especially on 12th July.
I love to dance – I want to learn the Argentina Tango.
I can look at some people and tell you what religion they are by their hair/eye/ skin colour,- I can even tell if that family “Drank the Soup” – Starving Catholics became Protestant to feed their children or die…not much of an option.
I can tell if they have Pict genes (Scottish genes ) based on their body type….neat party trick… NO – Comprehend who/what you are dealing with when at a party and people are drinking.
When I go to a bar I have to face the toilet area and if a family member or friend goes to the toilet if they are not back in 5 mins…I will go and find them…
I was taught by my Grandmother/Father education is important especially if you are a mixed religion female, life is important, religion irrelevant, color irrelevant, sexual preferences irrelevant and there will always be 3 sides to a story. ( even with a cockwombler…the jury is still out on that one)
My brother fell in love when he was in his teens with a Protestant, she lost friends over her choice of husband, he married his love and they had their first baby 2 years later. – My nephew was beautiful, masses of black curly hair and BLACK-
My SIL believed she had been given the wrong baby or he had liver problems – No shit Sherlock!!
My parents were horrified and not due to the fact their grandson was black but due to my SIL’s parents.
When she married my brother they told her ” You have made your bed, you can lie in it ”
It was easier/safer not to admit their heritage was black due to a great great great grandfather and did not think it was relevant to tell their child… My SIL family severed ties with their daughter and so did many of her close friends due to the shame she had married an Irish man and it was his fault that the hidden black gene had sprung forth….My SIL did not have any siblings.
We all hoped my nephew would have blue eyes ( vanity nothing more )
He is a gorgeous looking man with green eyes and a brown rim. He complains about his eye colour but not his skin colour.- Tough Luck you can’t have everything you want.- Casanova
His sister is Black – she looks like me – different eye/skin tone… hazel/blue – black/white – It makes people uncomfortable some times. She works in Genetics not in a medical capacity in a historical capacity.
When I was younger, people assumed I was her mother and her father was Italian or she was Black Irish.
The definition of Black Irish is used to describe Irish people with dark hair and dark eyes thought to be descendants of the Spanish Armada of the mid-1500s, or it is a term used in the United States by mixed-race descendants of Europeans and African Americans or Native Americans to hide their heritage.
The Spanish Armada story is Urban Legend proven by an Irish Country Wide Genetic data Base…No Spanish.
I have not studied if the US claim is also an Urban Legend…I think highly doubtful though.
We do have Italian heritage – 4 of my mother’s sisters married Italians….There are a lot of Italian cafes/restaurants/fish and chips shops in Glasgow – In fact Guorro in the Italian Alps has it’s own Scottish Tartan.
My beautiful nephew is fully aware of his heritage in fact in 2017 Glasgow University wanted to have an anniversary to celebrate their key role in the abolitionist campaign in the UK – he was one of the first to put his hand up to volunteer his time. He wanted to know more about his history.
Imagine the universities shock horror to discover they had actually benefited to the tune of 200 million GDP from slavery…..OMG – The Educator needed to be Re-Educated.
The Glasgow agreement was first signed in Kingston, Jamaica, on 31 2017 July. Prof Sir Hilary Beckles, the Vice-Chancellor of the University of the West Indies, said it was a “bold, moral, historic step”.
All Souls College at Oxford launched an annual scholarship for Caribbean students and paid a £100,000 grant to a college in Barbados, in recognition of its funding from Christopher Codrington, a wealthy slave owner who bequeathed £10,000 in 1710 to build a library that bears his name.
Should we applaud them…No…as it is now 2020 and no further universities in the UK have joined the programme.
So Universities World Wide – Do you need to be Re-Educated?
When I moved to Glasgow in the seventies I had PTSD it took me to my 40’s to even attempt to discuss what I witnessed in the 70’s or understand it’s affects on my life choices.
I am older and during my Lockdown, I am slowly coming to perhaps a better understanding of myself, I faced a fact – I have never actually worked and lived in the same country at the same for around 40 years. I commute.
My whole life has been about barriers/borders – I have danced back and forth between them with the wild abandonment of a feral child as I was taught early…Your Loved Ones are taken due to Ignorance.
I feel like an onion I am peeling back memories and layers of my life reviewing my path and I still have no answer’s to a solution or how/what I can do – except play Devils Advocate with Cockwomblers from many countries to allow them to open their eyes and see there are 3 sides to a story…even if the History books state NO – Winners and Losers only…
When I was 10 I joined a dance class, and I found my person…. He is my Gay Husband ( Bonus…He was a Hairdresser )…he is my family and he is my lifeline and he taught me many versions of the Dance.
He does an amazing Irish Country Dance/ Vogue number…it is a joy to behold. Michael Flatley meets Madonna. That was his party piece at my wedding.
So enough of my waffling Long Story…. Short
In 2020 especially with Social Media which Educators need to be Re-Education?
Is it from the Top Down or the Bottom Up?
Do we start with the Past or The Present?
Can the future change for all Minorities?
How can we all dance through these barriers/ borders?
All I know is I love my family, my friends and my TT Tribe… I try to do the best I can however I have faith that my LARGE Black/White/Green/Italian/Irish/Scottish/English/American/Australian/Alaskan/Gay/family will be kind to all and verbally educate by telling their stories.
2pm : Lunch: Drinks…anyone???
I sure as shit need one…
Bonnie Tuatha, that is quite a Screed!
I’m with you.
But, regarding VPR, Billie just kinda sucked!
APT choice of word “Screed” across all 3 meanings/definitions
It is amazing how such a little word can bring a smile into someones life.
I was never a fan of “Vanderpump Tools”
Bless you
Sibéal Ròs
Biodh lá lontach agot, Tuatha! ?
I agree and isn’t that the very definition of acceptance? Nothing to do with being trans. We call out everyone equally if they suck.
Would that we could flit over to Outer Mongolia for a sip of creamy whey vodka about now–
Yes please…Just as the sun is setting and the horses are at play.
I had to read your post twice and it was great both times
My Irish/English can be confusing even to myself when my emotions are running high, plus trying to explain without going via Russia is difficult.
That is why I loved the word Skreed. from Sibéal Ròs.- Perfection
It’s Nanette’s fault she gave me a voice when she said No to Bravo and I think she gave TT my photo… she knows about computers….Not that I’m paranoid I have a plaster over my webcam but don’t tell Nanette or TT
Enjoy your day, I love reading your posts, you got the CRAIC,
Bwahahahahahahaha.
You do notice I still watch Bravo. Even though I get pissed. The ORIGINAL braNo was my promise to not watch RHOA when my watching would “count.” Because of NeNe’s attack on the crew.
Then came “the train” with Tamra Judge. I am inching toward no Bravo all of the time. But I do like many of the people on the Bravo payroll. Sure, Capt. Lee will make it just fine without the Bravo check, but when I watch BD, it’s like my watching counts as a vote for Capt. Lee gets my vote. NeNe Leakes never will get my vote.
I’m of mixed heritage myself. My mother’s side: Black Irish & Cherokee Indian. My dad’s side: African American & Blackfoot Indian. I look white, hazel eyes, fair skin with freckles. My hair is kinda coarse, more towards the Irish side. I see people, not color. I see the difference between good and evil. Sexuality of another person is none of my business. I’m bisexual, and support the LGBTQ+ community. I love all animals except for bugs. My friends and music are very diverse. I love with my while heart.
I give when I can and help if I’m physically able to do so. To me That’s being a tru friend, supporter and caring person. Thank you for that interesting history lesson about my own heritage. ???
I think it is so interesting how the gene pool creates such a variety of appearances. I have friends who pass as white. Whiter than my skin. And they have HEARD BAD STUFF. Because people assume they are white. Things those people never would say in front of a splash-of-color-person. (Mostly among people at workplaces, not chosen friends.) Some shocked me coming from people I would not have expected were racist. Every one of them was an asshole, though.
Hello my Irish Soul Sister# wehate bugs –
I can imagine your beauty inside and out…it is plain to see in your story….Thank You for sharing it.
We are linked by genes and your family had their own ” Trail of Tears”
Stay of the whisky/whiskey It Fecks us up and makes us depressed.#genetics
“I was elected by the women of Ireland, who instead of rocking the cradle, rocked the system.”
Mary Robinson
Bless You – Erin Go Braugh!
Tuatha12, don’t know if you were here when I told the tale of landing on the shores of Northern Island a few years ago unaware it was 11th night. I forget the year, but it was the one when 1800 English policemen had been imported & anti-riot tanks roamed the streets of Belfast. It was a rousing night filled with the sounds of 17th century fight songs & breaking bottles & little sleep. Thoroughly enjoyed myself until I heard someone was killed.
The evening before the 12th… OMG!!
I wasn’t here for your story…petrol bombs and bonfires are the norm on the 11th.
Thank God that was a quiet 11th Night..in the West of Belfast.
Those Irish fighting songs sure do stir the blood…
I am sad that you went in the month of July when you saw us at our worse.
Every time I go to Paris there is some sort of protest about something or another. Usually it is the “shadow workers” aka illegal immigrants wanting something. I find that amusing since they are there illegally.
Hi! I know you mean well, but a lot of people of color have spoken or published that they WANT others to see color. They don’t appreciate not ‘being seen’ at this time. I realize it’s a turn of phrase and meant to be positive, but it gave me food for thought to hear that some find it insensitive if not offensive.
Thanks for this :-)…you warmed my heart with hope. ✌
This comment was for Nadia (I do indeed f up everything I touch apparently lol!). Hoping ,as ever, that people respect ,celebrate and learn from and about each other —I’m an introverted pragpessimist , and I hope that this comes out how I live it.
I love this word , and it is a new word for me – Thank You
“pragpessimist” Optimist and Pessimist, please correct me if I am wrong?
Nadia fully comprehends and opened the door for others to tell their story this allows us all some warmth in our hearts…especially me.
My soul sister light a little flame.. Bless Her
Thank you! Tuatha! Very interesting and educational read! I will have a drink with you anytime ❤️
Go bhfanfaidh aingil a sciatháin díreach in aice le do dhoras.
May angels rest their wings right beside your door.
Sláinte!
Thank you for this Tamara!!!
Feck: I forgot my husband..Long Live The Welsh – His family are linked to human Gods…
I kind of snorted my drink at Feck. Drink! Father Ted, Irish Catholic and funny as feck.
My father is not called TED.
I have been meaning to catch up with you…..WOW….Grey Gardens.
Cheers for that one…I am still processing.
♥️♥️♥️
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Thank you for this. I feel like this is a really inclusive place and I always worry I am going to say the wrong thing or state something the wrong way and possibly offend.
Not sure I have ever told the tale of the time I was a card-carrying member of a transvestite sorority in Hollywood. No time this morning for the entire telling, but it was anthropological participant-observation w-a-y back when & I was the only XX member; the rest were XY male heterosexual cross-dressers getting together once a month to socialize in feminine attire in a safe environment. My wardrobe improved immensely during that time period, as did my appreciation for the concept of femininity during that time period when many of my peers were rejecting traditional femininity. I ended up teaching university classes on gender identity & one of my research subjects gave a wowser guest lecture on her concept of femininity. Although a classic heterosexual shoe fetishist, & long-term happily married man & eventual widower, “Tessie” had evolved into a full cross-dresser in order to be able to publicly socialize, & after a number of years of this, & with her doctor’s “prophylactic treatment of estrogen against prostate cancer,” eventually decided to take the plunge & fulfill a dream to surgically alter her body, & at the age of 80 underwent sex reassignment surgery. Tessie was one of the loveliest people I ever met, & early on she crossed over from “research subject” to good friend. Funny story. Last week I got a call from my elder daughter, now 57, who told me about her recent visit to a new male gynecologist. She laughed telling me how he instructed her about her own body, ‘Now these are your labia majora, & these are the labia minora. . .’ “Does he not know who my mother IS?” she hooted! I advised her on what to say on her next visit, “Just say your mother says to tell you ‘Bless your heart. . .'”
The gyno may have compelled to tell her what her lady parts were called because LOTS OF IDIOTS — FROM THE KARDASHIANS TO OPRAH — call our OUTER parts vagina, “vajeen” and “va-jay-jay.”
You can also vajazzle the “vajeen” and “va-jay-jay.”
The Ninja Nuns named the vagina a flower and one day it would open like the petals of a rose BUT only after marriage.
The correct term is LADY GARDEN. Everybody knows this.
Ladygarden – Noun –
A place of great interest to many horticulturalists, but ironically not uphill gardeners. Coloquially used to describe an overgrown patch which has been in need of a good digging over for some while.
Did I mention my hubby has been in Gib since early March !!!
An unkempt protective layer of hair covering the pubic mound on a woman’s body. according to Terry Waite’s Allotment – WTF and Who is Terry Waite?
My bed is a calling it’s after 2am
Nighty Bless Peeps
I am seeing the scene in Fried Green Tomatoes where “Lawanda” goes to the group session with hand mirrors to look at their vagina’s…Thank you MizGrandma!!!
GREAT movie! Yes, I remember those days of group looses–think I still have a plastic speculum around here someplace. I used to have a student assistant who was always up for a class demo. Remember, it was the 70’s.
Ahh, spell check! Group “looksies” is what I wrote.
“Lawanda” “Looksies” should be compulsory.
MizGrandma—-I just need to tell you I love you! I miss my Nana, and you have me an unexpected gift (sounded like being home). Thank you!
noescapeartist1970 Loving you right back, darling girl!
Thank you for posting this group of names. Sometimes people need concrete examples to realize these victims of hate and prejudice were human beings, somebody ‘s child, sibling. I am always disgusted but, sadly, not surprised at the lack of humanity humans can have for other humans. If you don’t hope that all people are safe, healthy, and happy, then something is wromg with you and you should examine where the hole in your soul is. Hate for another community, any community, says you are insecure. Period. Be better. Do better. Treat all people with respect and kindness. Be on the right side of history. How sad we have to keep saying this. WE ALL LEARNED IN KINDERGARTEN TO BE NICE AND TREAT PEOPLE, EVERY SINGLE ONE, THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED.!!
In first grade, our wooden rulers said “The Golden Rule: Be kind unto others as you would have them be kind to you.” FIRST GRADERS got it. Didn’t always follow it, but got it.
Mary, I totally agree with you.
The word “nice” always gets me. Nice people can be racis. And judgmental also.
Hear, hear!
Billie is the cutest thing. We all watched her be treated horribly by, basically, all of VPR cast, minus the Toms and Ari. It newer looked as if Lisa had her back either, which was so sad. It was revolting to see the way Lala, Stassi, Katie, etc were absolute mean girls to her. I have never liked them and was constantly reminded why. It also showed Ariana had more character in her little finger than the rest combined. Billie was also correct when she said she was a replacement for Faith, one “different ” person at a time, ugh. We should thank both Fatih and Billie for speaking out. Without them, we would not have seen any changes, that were long overdue. The train is coming for you, Jax. He will end up living in a motel, being a handyman, having life pass him by, as it should be.
Agree!!!! There are certain things on the Bravo shows that get under my skin and irritate the hell out of me and the way Billie was treated was one that bothered me most. Lala & the WeHo witches were total cunts to her, and Jax should’ve been fired.
You know what disgusts me? Now I see on social media there is the argument of “no one alive right now has ever owned a slave or been a slave”. I can’t even type a response because it doesn’t deserve a response.
I will give a response. That is an ignorant statement that is simply not true. Slavery is rampant in various parts of the world, & has victims here in the U.S. One just has to read the news.
Human trafficking is happening yes, and has been locally in the news.
Thank you MizGrandma…I could not reply to LA_in_KY as we were both stunned to the bone.
People will say things in front of me because I’m white. It’s mostly against Mexicans where I live. I’ve said things meant to educate, but all it seemed to do was get them to not say that shit in front of me. I am listening, watching, reading, learning what I can do. Mostly vote and get the assholes out of office and get officers held responsible.
There are still slaves, unfortunately.
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Thank you TT for standing up against hate! That list is heartbreaking. Seems especially dangerous in Puerto Rico for transgender people, but even in liberal SF, there have been attacks.
Wow I was really shocked at so many murder of transgender people in Puerto Rico.
You had me at white pizza with artichokes! You and I may be the only two people I know who love that combination.
White pizza with artichokes and mushrooms, my fave. Now I want some.
I love this site and appreciate that you won’t tolerate blatant, malignant ignorance. And white pizza with artichokes sounds like a dream.
Thank you TT for taking this stand and not backing down!!!! Honestly there are times I read comments and have to leave this site because I get so angry, hurt and appalled. So thank you, thank you, thank you! Every human should be treated with dignity, respect, equality, care etc it does not matter their gender, color, religion, education, social status or sexual orientation we all bleed the same color. We need to be the change this world needs so desperately. ❤️❤️❤️
TT, I was so hoping that you were going to say something and I am very thankful you did. Some of the comments yesterday were so ridiculous. I had to put someone on blast on my Facebook page. I basically said that I would not tolerate hate and racism. And if you feel the need to write something on my thread to please unfriend me and that I do not give a damn if I am down to one friend of the site. I had so many people cheer me on. I just can’t with the people that don’t get that minorities and LGBTQ deal with hate and racism A LOT. The thought process is very one sided and cannot be seen through the eye’s of people who deal with it often. I am tired of people saying what Stassi did wasn’t racist. You can keep saying it, but from a minority standpoint it was. If you cannot see it from another side than you should just keep your thoughts to yourself.
Yea I’m struggling with people, even family. You know the saying about the difference in ignorance and stupidity….ignorance can be educated but stupid people lack the capability. I have a family member that I’ve tried to pick my battles with because I’ve tried arguing and can’t get through. She was just talking about being sick of all of it, naming off white people who have been killed too, saying all lives matter. They SHOULD, but dammit they haven’t so far! She was bitching about “how rude the blacks are in ATL.” Really??? I didn’t know rude varied w/the color of skin. She told her son one time he could not go out with a coon (because the girl was mixed). She has complained to me about mixed relationships and said to me, to my face, that she wasn’t talking about my son. His girlfriend at the time was Mexican. Sweet girl, good parents. So really??? My cousin felt some way or she would not have interjected that. I mean does she have a rating scale based on the darkness of the shade of the skin. I get mad tears when I think about it. I’m just really fed up with the hate, the racism, the outright F’n stupidity!
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Well said and appreciated Tamara
I keep,checking to see if Jax has been fired. Both Faith and BillieLee think he should be. Faith says she has DMs from ladies on other shows where he makes racist comments. I hope she saved them. I would be so ? if he gets fired.
Is it mean I want LaLa to go too? The whole ‘Michael Vick fighting dog’ comment to Raquel was the nail in the coffin for me. She “attempts” to copy the African American community to make her look cool,tough & she believes she can rap. I have such inner embarrassment for her as a white woman. She was horrendous to Billie Lee & that was on our screen. Imagine behind the scenes? How scary to be screamed at & if I remember correctly she was an inch from Billie’s face hurling disgusting things. It was like a tag team as I believe Jax then called Billie Lee gay(when called out about the lack of diversity) at the wedding. He doesn’t get it, doesn’t want to get & frankly doesn’t care about anyone but himself. Lala unfortunately has put herself on a pedestal and she believes she’s Tupac reincarnated. I would really like to know if the African American community laughs at her or if it’s completely offensive? I’ve seen white guys do it all the time & I feel like they’re trying desperately to be something they’re not. I see them as frauds trying to be who they wish they were & then acting tough to abuse others without consequences. I find it extremely offensive. I’m personally embarrassed for them. Rant over. All of this has me really fired up. Thank you for having this forum TT-I know you don’t want us to think you are nice but I think your a secret sweetheart?
AMEN !!!!
TT, thank you for saying this. Thank you for standing up for what matters. I’m in tears. Thank you. ❤️???????
I am black but look white so I am privy to people’s uncensored thoughts of racism all the time, always have been. This is probably why I throw down the gauntlet when I see, read any racism, prejudices, homophobia, or injustice. Cannot abide it and I do not suffer fools well. Sometimes it is just ignorance or lack of exposure, but often times it is just really awful, insecure maggots who cling to whiteness because they see it as some form of nonsensical superiority. When a white person says to me I am not “really black ” or that I “must not be all black”. I know they think white is better. I have definitely seen true colors and sometimes it is a kick to the tits. I remember the guy I had a huge crush on as a college freshman. He thought I was hot too. Found out I was black, never talked to me again. What a gift in retrospect!! When someone shows you who they are, believe then. And tell them to eat a dick. 🙂
My sister is like you as well. People do not know that she that she is black and they feel free to say what they feel in front of her. Her first really bad experience was in college when your “friends” started talking crap about minorities and she had to put them in check. After that they never spoke to her again. I am light so a lot of people think they can say stuff to me cause they feel like I am either watered down or that they can’t figure out what I truly am. I’m the wrong person to think that about, because I will cuss you out and check you as well.
Something similar happened to me. A Philly taxi driver started talking to me and said HORRIBLE things about Puerto Ricans…not knowing I am Puerto Rican. I just could not believe it!!! Another time, I befriended a nice lady in the airport (West Palm Beach). Our flight was delayed, and she invited me to have lunch with her brother. Her brother told me over lunch not to move to South Florida because “Caucasian migration is up North (Florida).” I was like WTF??? I mean, I DO have an accent – and I am sure he could hear it!! In both instances, I was shell shocked and in disbelief, and said nothing. (I FROZE). I mean, I really, to this day cannot believe people think like that. Backwards!
Yeah, I have heard some of the craziest shit. I had a cab driving who was saying the most racist crap about migrants, the crazy thing is that he was a minority as well. I asked him to please stop talking and than he wanted to talk about politics and religion. I told him that he should learn how to read a room and that if someone tells you to please stop talking that you should do so. I also told him that he had no clue of my ethnic background and what he was saying was extremely offensive.The stuff was so horrible that I reported him to the cab company. I am not the type of person who will sit there and let you spew crap. I am the type who will do something about it. Sometimes it gets really tiring to be on the defense. Sorry you had to go through that.
Thank you, TT! I will always be forever grateful for your (and your friends’) help and support during this pandemic. I was born and raised in Puerto Rico. Growing up, we had close family friends that were gay and transgender – and I never thought anything of it growing up. It was not a big deal (and my family is super Evangelical). I just don’t understand what causes someone to hate another human being for their sexual preference or skin color. Also, my transgender family friends were black because everyone on my Mom’s side and my Mami were/are of African descent. My Dad is Puerto Rican, of Italian and Jewish descent. I never really though anything about skin color until my people stopped my Mom at the pharmacy telling her I was lucky I was “white” – and my Mami also told me the neighbors thought she was the Nanny. I was called “Mulata” (Mulatto) sometimes by my classmates. Racism is everywhere. People are so ignorant. After moving to the mainland, I married a black man, and I have a brown daughter. Later, I married a white man, and have two blue eyed blonde kids. It doesn’t faze me because of how I was raised, but some people make all kinds of weird and inappropriate comments asking my brown daughter if she is adopted. I had to teach my daughter a script of what to say – when she was 4 or 5!! When will people learn????
I think I’ve known this for years your site just has a certain no tolerance air to it,,, it’s nice to see you speaking the truth you been living 4 years.
Thanks Robin. My site, my rules. I am on here 18 hours or so a day and I can’t with all the negative bullshit. And I am getting much less tolerant for the bullshit the older I get, I’ve been doing this for almost ten years now!
I have so many instances of racist things said to me but I don’t think this is the appropriator time. And my entire family is a bunch of racist assholes. It’s complicated.
Thank you for providing a safe space for conversation and growth, TT. After spending less than five minutes browsing comments about everything from the VPR firings to Black Lives Matter to trying to convince a dear family member that the “libs” aren’t trying to cancel Paw Patrol, I was ready to bash my head against the wall until unconsciousness enveloped me. Reading this post was a nice reminder that there are good ppl in the world and that the internet isn’t a dumpster fire. Bless you for running such an awesome site.
Welcome, Amanda. But I promise, I am my own dumpster fire. So I ask you to cut me some slack in advance. 🙂
I understand we don’t body shame or insult people for things they can not change about themselves. Respect people’s opinions and lifestyles and understand our point of view is not always right.
But can we still insult Jax?
You mean like calling him a sweaty coked up douchebag? Of course we can.
Love! Needed that ?!
Hi. New to posting but not to the site. Love the site by the way, I just read however, I may have missed it: what are your thoughts on the Kathryn Dennis posting the monkey emoji to a black woman? I hope I haven’t violated any posting rules. Thank you.
Hey Tracy! You are not breaking any commenting rules, but you can check them out here https://tamaratattles.com/commenting-rules/
Kathryn, like Thomas, is a Trump supporter and therefore racist for that alone. I don’t believe for a minute that she didn’t know the person she was texting was black, or that she “uses the monkey emoji all the time.” And she should go. However, that whole show is on shaky ground right now.
Thank you for this. I wasn’t aware of all of these terrible crimes and I needed to learn.
I AM BEYOND OUTRAGED BY THIS!
BREAKING NEWS
The Trump administration finalized a rule to erase Obama-era protections for transgender patients facing discrimination in health care.
Friday, June 12, 2020 5:44 PM EST
The Trump administration announced the move on the four-year anniversary of the massacre at a gay nightclub in Orlando and in the middle of Pride Month.
Enough is enough, devoid of compassion and exclusive of anyone not created in his image of what americans should be and blind to the fact of who americans are really. His lives as though it’s reality tv.
I can’t with this scumbag. And, I’m sick of the bs excuse making for and by him and every scumbag who co-signs (congress, judges, apointees, voters) . I’m from NJ (so I know too well about what this numbnuts is all about ),50 years old and have been losing my mind about this shithead narcissist for what feels like forever. These evil scumbags have a thing for anniversaries huh?!
Trump also announced that he will be having his first campaign rally on June 19 (Juneteenth, anniversary of abolition of slavery) in Tulsa, OK which is the site of the biggest and deadliest race riots in American history. He is also doing it inside, telling people not to wear masks, and requiring attendees to sign waivers stating that they can’t/won’t sue him if they come up positive for covid after the rally. If that isn’t another giant “fuck you” from him idk what is. So I guess he exercised a twofer of asshole decisions in the past 24 hours. One of my kids is staying in Tulsa this summer and working so this really hits me in the gut. She wouldn’t ever go to this shitshow but the community spread will be astronomical for that town. I’m Pissed about the Pride month/ transgender bullshit too. It’s like he is purposely picking shit and the timing to be the absolute worst and offensive as possible. He really needs to just GDIAFF!
I AM FURIOUS AND CRYING AND I CANNOT MAKE IT STOP! SERIOUSLY, WTF IS WRONG WITH HIM?!
Ok…I feel safe telling you I’m crying and angry -despair shaking. This is why I made the anniversary comment. Every time I think it will be stopped (this blatant horror ) , nothing happens. I feel like I’m losing my mind . Thanks IJC….please take care (you and your daughter and all) everyone.
Same. Barring covid, my daughters and I were supposed to have flown to NYC today for a girls trip and staying through the 4th of July because we specifically wanted to be there during Pride. Instead, wasted tickets and we’re all in different states (the other is in DC), wondering if/when we’ll see each other together. I understand that part is not an unusual circumstance but I am going batshit over the latest announcements and I can’t stop ugly crying and shaking with anger and fear and horror. Take care of you and yours as well. God help us all.
Virtual Hugs to both of you.
Thanks girl. God I need a real hug so badly! Sending you a virtual one back!
Fyi update is that the orange one changed the date to the next day (the 20th) due to backlash (like when has that ever stopped him?) imo it’s still too little too late and won’t change the outcome of community spread. Le sigh.
ASSSHOLE.
Curmudgeon Cockwombler…English Words Fail Me….I need a large Irish Coffee and to emotionally calm down….. FUCKER.. Someone please put that cockwombling cunt in a straight jacket…..Jesus he would sell his fucking soul to get re-elected…Fecking Orange Arsehole.
TT, I was just reading the news tonight to make sure I’m not missing anything related to covid – and I just saw another transgender lady lost her life (front page news). The young lady was 27 years old, and her name is Dominique “Rem’mie” Fells. Philly police is publicly asking for leads. Let’s pray for justice for Rem’mie. My daughter mentioned to me the other day that the life expectancy for transgender citizens is ONLY 35 years old!! Being transgendered should not be a death sentence!
The Cockwombler’s use of counterinsurgency practices to control the population has triggered the revolution he dreaded.
You are my new hero! I stopped going to Primetimer because the forums had become a bigoted shitshow. This will be my new place for reality TV takes and discussion! Thank you for writing this, much respect.