I haven’t closed down comments on a forum in so long it took an extra twenty minutes of my life to shut down comments on that post. I will still have to figure out how to shut them down here, again if necessary.
I realize that we are all going through something very hard together. And I want to have open forums because I think we all need them. On the other hand, I’m not sure I can take many more of them.
I’d like for you to have a place to vent about WHAT IS HAPPENING WITH YOU.
What I will not tolerate is telling the rest of us what to do. I don’t want any judgmental bitches in comments talking about how you must wash shit this way or do this thing or that. Or giving medical advice, do wear a mask, don’t wear a mask, LEARN HOW TO WASH THE MASK YOU HAVE. Unless they ask for your advice.
We also don’t need to be told your opinion on smoking. As if it some new concept that has not been mentioned before. The death and dying ads are already scaring us to death. Do you really think we need your opinion on smoking. SHUT THE FUCK UP WE ARE ALREADY SCARED SHITLESS.
What I need is to for you fucks to stop PREACHING and start TALKING. We are grown folks here. We do not need advice from random people on the Internet. We are intelligent people making our own decisions, using our own coping mechanisms and WE DO NOT NEED YOUR HELP UNLESS WE ASK FOR IT.
I feel like we need these forums, or I would shut them down. But I am putting them on a time out for now. Because some people are pandemic know it alls. Some people know how things are in every region of the country. Some people totally know what smokers should do. Some people know when some of us can finally hype themselves up to try and get to the grocery store. Some people don’t get that making a post about a very hard day that seems funny is not the time to criticize or judge.
What has me up at three am STILL PISSED is the people involved were some of my favorite people. Otherwise I could have just sent them to the WLS and been done. On the one hand, I can’t take it anymore and just want to ban folks. On the other hand, They are my friends.
But they seem to be my friend who think they have some special interpretation of the news we need to hear. Or the real version of the news we need to here. Or who think they know everyone’s circumstance is the same as theirs. Or who suddenly are advocates for the underprivileged while shopping at “A Celebrity Whole Foods Store.”
Meanwhile, other commenters have a husband with the virus in the hospital. She needed support. While the rest are setting rules about what we can be doing.
I would like for these forums to be SUPPORTIVE and NOT PREACHY or there will never be another one. Don’t give your advice about ANYTHING Unless someone asks. And even then, you are not a medical doctor. OFFER SUPPORT NOT JUDGEMENT.
And if you can’t do this… I am off to do other things. Because I can’t deal with all the preachers and arm chair pandemic experts at this point whose shit I have to wade through and decide whether to publish. This is not a site for learning about the pandemic.
I literally shared a very traumatic day in my life with humor to lighten the load. And then some judgemental bitches showed up… and they were my favorite people. Otherwise I could have sent them to the WLS. DO BETTER.
I find you GUILTY AS CHARGED for an extremely entitled opinion of how people are coping. So SHUT THE FUCK UP if you can’t be supportive. I was EXTREMELY offended by a handful of people who are my friends. And even the the friend who supported gave a pompous attitude about how smokers are dying. Gee, thanks for sharing. We are so dumb and uneducated. We managed to miss all the other terrifying things we did not know. It only makes us want to smoke.
This is the last warning. I may love you. I may have a long term friendship with you. But if you are preachy here… You could be blocked. So I am going to leave this comments open.
But this will probably be the last time I share with you guys on this topic.