I haven’t closed down comments on a forum in so long it took an extra twenty minutes of my life to shut down comments on that post. I will still have to figure out how to shut them down here, again if necessary.
I realize that we are all going through something very hard together. And I want to have open forums because I think we all need them. On the other hand, I’m not sure I can take many more of them.
I’d like for you to have a place to vent about WHAT IS HAPPENING WITH YOU.
What I will not tolerate is telling the rest of us what to do. I don’t want any judgmental bitches in comments talking about how you must wash shit this way or do this thing or that. Or giving medical advice, do wear a mask, don’t wear a mask, LEARN HOW TO WASH THE MASK YOU HAVE. Unless they ask for your advice.
We also don’t need to be told your opinion on smoking. As if it some new concept that has not been mentioned before. The death and dying ads are already scaring us to death. Do you really think we need your opinion on smoking. SHUT THE FUCK UP WE ARE ALREADY SCARED SHITLESS.
What I need is to for you fucks to stop PREACHING and start TALKING. We are grown folks here. We do not need advice from random people on the Internet. We are intelligent people making our own decisions, using our own coping mechanisms and WE DO NOT NEED YOUR HELP UNLESS WE ASK FOR IT.
I feel like we need these forums, or I would shut them down. But I am putting them on a time out for now. Because some people are pandemic know it alls. Some people know how things are in every region of the country. Some people totally know what smokers should do. Some people know when some of us can finally hype themselves up to try and get to the grocery store. Some people don’t get that making a post about a very hard day that seems funny is not the time to criticize or judge.
What has me up at three am STILL PISSED is the people involved were some of my favorite people. Otherwise I could have just sent them to the WLS and been done. On the one hand, I can’t take it anymore and just want to ban folks. On the other hand, They are my friends.
But they seem to be my friend who think they have some special interpretation of the news we need to hear. Or the real version of the news we need to here. Or who think they know everyone’s circumstance is the same as theirs. Or who suddenly are advocates for the underprivileged while shopping at “A Celebrity Whole Foods Store.”
Meanwhile, other commenters have a husband with the virus in the hospital. She needed support. While the rest are setting rules about what we can be doing.
I would like for these forums to be SUPPORTIVE and NOT PREACHY or there will never be another one. Don’t give your advice about ANYTHING Unless someone asks. And even then, you are not a medical doctor. OFFER SUPPORT NOT JUDGEMENT.
And if you can’t do this… I am off to do other things. Because I can’t deal with all the preachers and arm chair pandemic experts at this point whose shit I have to wade through and decide whether to publish. This is not a site for learning about the pandemic.
I literally shared a very traumatic day in my life with humor to lighten the load. And then some judgemental bitches showed up… and they were my favorite people. Otherwise I could have sent them to the WLS. DO BETTER.
I find you GUILTY AS CHARGED for an extremely entitled opinion of how people are coping. So SHUT THE FUCK UP if you can’t be supportive. I was EXTREMELY offended by a handful of people who are my friends. And even the the friend who supported gave a pompous attitude about how smokers are dying. Gee, thanks for sharing. We are so dumb and uneducated. We managed to miss all the other terrifying things we did not know. It only makes us want to smoke.
This is the last warning. I may love you. I may have a long term friendship with you. But if you are preachy here… You could be blocked. So I am going to leave this comments open.
But this will probably be the last time I share with you guys on this topic.
PREACH!
I’m really so done with some of the preachy attitudes. WHO THE FUCK TELLS YOU YOU GET TO DECIDE HOW WE DEAL WITH THIS SHIT? I literally worried I may have an aneurysm over this and I KNOW WHAT THE WORD LITERALLY MEANS.
I agree. I felt so overwhelmed with updates and the news, I have stepped away and just wait for people to fill me in. I can’t take too much sadness with the world as it is as it’s causing such a great panic within that I have to do anything else or I’ll become fixated. While everyone is barking at one another about what to do, people are dying and others are still not taking it seriously and it breaks my heart. Ugh I hate being an empath. Right now my family’s biggest job is keeping my seven year old nephew away from everyone, myself included as my company is still open and I’m expected to work. He has severe asthma and lung issues and anything can set it off and he’ll have to be rushed to the hospital. Keeping him quarantined is the only way to save his life. He’s been housebound for three weeks. It breaks my heart not being able to see him, especially when he says all he wants is a hug 🙁 but I would rather go two more months or however long of FaceTime calls and no face to face visits than lose him. Instead of people coming on here to tell others like it is, raise people up! I have friends who are working tirelessly in hospitals and I worry for them and their psyches as they are choosing to not go home and see their families and stay elsewhere. That’s sacrifice and that’s what we should be talking about! TT, your recaps always make me laugh. Now they are a great crutch and distraction during such a horrific time. Thank you.
God be with your nephew. Hard for a 7 year old to worry about that but sounds like he has a great family
I completely get what you are saying! I didn’t want to comment and stopped reading after awhile. It was too much.
Trying to stay positive and productive and take advantage of this time at home. My shed has never looked better. Next I need to tackle the garage!
A story I wanted to add yesterday was I discovered my mortgage came out on the first of the month even though I had called a week ago and deferred payments for three months and stop automatic withdrawal. It took me over two And a half hours, (first hour and a half the call dropped and I had to start again) to finally reach a very nice young man who was able to reverse the payment and make sure I was enrolled in the deferment. I got a reference number this time and his name too.
I was surprised by how much the experience affected me. My nerves were shot. So I took a nap, regrouped and got back to work!
Thank you TT for these open forums. Really appreciate your recaps too! Can’t wait to hear your take on the last 60 Days In! ❤️
To tamara and banjo know that your reviews on the shows bring loads of humor like a gift everyday..I was so giddy yesterday about the return of RHONY. Interesting vibe we have to let it evolve to see what the season is like without bethanny.
Stay safe stay well be grateful clean the house hug a pet drink tequila and love one another. I dont mean to sound preachy trying to focus on the positive. My prayers go out to all working on the front lines and to those who are affected by the virus
Glad u got it sorted out…but yeah thats a really horrible few hours 4 sure..prayers
Thank you Rob S! ❤️
Glad I skipped the last few weeks of reading here…my head is already swirling around enough.
I also just had to end a real person 25 year friendship because of this exact thing ~ preaching AT me!
I have an anxiety, I smoke. I relate to you every day although, I rarely comment. Screw the judgemental peopl . Love you TT.
Hi Tamara, not sure if anyone else has raised it, but we just finished watching the Tiger King last night, and then watched a few YouTube videos about him. They said that Joe Exotic worked at The Round Up in Texas. THE Round Up! My husband couldn’t understand why I was so excited about it
Omg!!!! Craziest fact ever!!!!
Haven’t watched it yet, but this made my morning!
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I am so grateful to have a pet. Alice is a 13 year old Oriental cat and she loves me being near her more. My teenage son came home today after a week at his dads, the whole world changes so much in that time.
I haven’t been brave enough to watch Tiger King yet, the first 3 minutes was full of snakes and I turned it off. Watch How to Fix a Drug Scandal!!!
When I’m stressed, my short term memory disappears. My 19 year old who is 10 hours away… I’ve told him twice to get a flu shot (we are going into Winter in Australia) and twice he’s patiently told me he’s going Monday.
I need to drink less. But I feel like it’s all I have.
Sarah, Thank you for saying that about short term memory. I have been repeating myself and asking my son the same things over and over too! Yesterday, I kept saying, I’m sorry, I have no idea what you just said. I’m I’m in a fairly safe situation working from home, but the work is more challenging this way, and I’m training in a new job with some drama at my old job. A huge part of my brain is stuck on work while another part is running a constant food tally in my head. For me, it’s like having a newborn again. It’s completely overwhelming, you can’t go anywhere, you are having to learn all this new stuff, and you focus a lot on whether you have supplies in the house. My short term memory was shot then too. You are so right about it being stress.
It’s like the words from others are on the surface, but they don’t always sink in. I feel like the whole world is in a mild depression (at best).
You have a lot on your plate. Self care is difficult, but essential now more than ever. I love making quilts and am taking some time every day for that.
Eek, I am sorry if I offended or triggered anyone in any way. That was certainly not my intention. I just woke up after going to bed after RHONY and missed that one of the posters husband is in the hospital. I am lighting a candle and putting good energy and prayers into the universe for you and your family. Stay safe and well everybody. Mentally and physically.
I like this quote “OFFER SUPPORT NOT JUDGEMENT” – it rings true.
P.S. I still read here.
Hope you’re safe and well.
Project much? We are all doing the best we can. Never called it a “celebrity Whole Foods”… it’s just big. And even though I rarely shop there, didn’t realize it was a crime to do so should I choose. Since when is it okay to take my personal inventory and judge me for where I shopped? I didn’t just all of a sudden start advocating for underprivileged either. You assume a LOT sometimes. And I apologized for my timing not jiving with yours—TWICE. I’m getting really tired of feeling judged here, too for stupid petty shit. I care about you and everyone here. And FWIW, you have no idea who actually has a medical degree here so that’s another assumption on your part. I understand that these are stressful times for everyone but all the personal attacks are not helpful either. If you want to be pissed off about how you misinterpret things, get in line and take a number.
To Ingrid, you’re not alone in having a loved one diagnosed with the virus. It’s very scary and my prayers go out to you and your husband. Being separated during this time is heartbreaking. I know.
I’m having deja vu from the 80’s AIDS pandemic and the personal judgement that occurred then as everyone hated and treated us providers as the enemy in the Bible Belt because of their own fears. And I haven’t given medical advice to anyone here. I have made a point to only repeat guidelines which are in the public domain.
I can’t control if anyone misinterprets the written word here. (I’ve misinterpreted things myself in the past) I assure you, TT, and everyone else that I would never intentionally write something hurtful or judgmental. Before this nightmare, snarky-yes. I have tried to be supportive here but for some reason it is clear that I have really annoyed someone. I don’t feel safe sharing here anymore (at least during this stressful time for all), so I wish everyone good health and safety here, and that includes Tamara and Banjo. I’m just going to take a break. I feel that its been made personal now and its like you never really knew me at all.
Again, I do appreciate the service and recaps provided here and the space to have been able to vent. The stress of running this site must be a ton of work and I have major respect and appreciation for the work that goes into all of it.
Stay safe and well everyone! I will continue to keep you all in my thoughts and prayers! xo
thank you everyone for the kind words, we are taking it day by day
Stay safe. It’s extra stressful being a caregiver. You don’t get to hibernate. It is easy to forget to take care of yourself when you are busy taking care of others. At least there are a shiteton of really good and really cheesy new TV shows. I hope you have a wonderful weekend, even if not in the traditional sense of weekend.
Well said IJC.
From what I can ascertain (without reading your original post(s))…it seems you might have come across as ‘preachy’? condescending perhaps? to her. It doesn’t seem like you were some ‘main antagonist’. It seems more like maybe you were just ‘part of a bigger whole’ perhaps?
Which is why I can understand BOTH.. you & TT’s point of view. :/
Supporting your OVERALL message…I think A LOT gets missed when we are not speaking face to face and in person. Tone/attitude/sarcasm & overall meaning can be very often misinterpreted when we only communicate by ‘words on a page’. By reading your post I can totally tell you really only meant to be helpful and meant no harm. :/
I ,also, really feel that MANY of us are looking to these ‘types’ of sites to be a GREAT source of comfort, laughter, distraction, unity, support, etc…while we each INDIVIDUALLY figure out not only ‘how to survive’…but also what helps us ‘cope’ with the day to day..WHATEVER that is!!! whether that is smoking, drinking, taking a pill, exercising, reading books, watching t.v., porn etc…WHO CARES???
Unfortunately!…when the ‘status quo’ of people continue to make comments of their ‘opinions’, ‘rules’, ‘judgments’, ‘values’, ‘know-it-all attitudes’, etc.( that we usually reserve for ‘reality tv’ people)….. It’s like throwing a napalm bomb on a gas field!
I really understand your explanation. I, myself, have also noticed a lot of very ‘testy’ attitudes, lately, on other (usually) ‘fun’ sites as well. I also take ‘breaks’ when needed. I think we ALL should if it ever feels ‘negative’ in any way. :/
I hope you find a ‘safe place’ to share. If you do?…LET ME KNOW! LOL 😀 xoxoxo
IJC I apologized to you without mentioning names in the most recent thread before reading this. I sent you a personal apology. It really wasn’t even about you, but your encouragement of someone else who was “sorry not sorry” about us having to actually GO TO A GROCERY STORE. There are a lot of communities where people have no other option. And there are communities with old people like me who don’t want or have cell phones. It was a very difficult day.
And again. I apologize and hope to see you back here. We are all doing the best we can. Most of us are reasonably intelligent and capable of making our own decisions. We need support, not being talked down to. That is all. Once more with feeling, I hope you will stay. And this was not really about you exactly.
Dont let the turkeys get you down TT. It’s a stressful time for everyone and people have very little to do so they start going off on others. Ignore or block the idiots. Keep entertaining us as you see fit and stay well. Xoxo
Damn, I miss everything. Guess that was a good thing. Note to self: must look back for anything reminiscent of cat lady drama. Anyway, yesterday I worked for a few hours and then made a meat run at a small grocery store while I was already out. Undressed at my back door where laundry is, since I’d been in public. Then I realized there wasn’t much hanging there to change into. So put on just a jacket belonging to one of my younger sons to get through the kitchen to my room. Then I decided I should’ve unpacked the meat outside. Threw bags in trash can in garage. Came back in, washed hands. Decided bags had touched floor so I mopped it. At some point put up meat. At some point shagged the husband because apparently he liked my jacket get up, which I’d forgotten I was still wearing. Folded laundry – completely clothed at this point – while watching the 3rd Bridget Jones movie on Hulu. The one where she doesn’t know if Colin Firth’s character or Patrick Dempsey’s is the father? I’ve always loved Mark Darcy, but I felt sorry for the other guy throughout because you know going in that it was ALWAYS Mark Darcy for Bridge. If anybody made it through my diatribe, does anybody have other chick flick suggestions? We have Hulu, Amazon Prime, Netflix, and Disney Plus; also YouTubeTV because we don’t have cable.
♥️INGRID♥️— I can’t imagine the fear and helplessness you must be experiencing. I’m praying you and your husband have strength right now, and that you have plenty of support, even if just by phone or message.
♥️TAMARA and EVERYONE ELSE♥️— Thoughts and prayers with you all. Just taking it one day at a time. Wait, no I’m not, because I’ve got to wake up early to get a spot on that damned grocery pickup! Hugs to all.
How did I forget the word “shagged”? I loved that word. The other I laugh at now was “ball.” I met a guy in a bar (not attracted) he was nice but kind of a dick. As I was getting into my car, he asked if I wanted to go to his house and DO A LITTLE BALLING. I quickly closed my Are door, unrolled my window and asked, “Why a LITTLE balling? Because you have a LITTLE dick?” I never went to the bar again.
Your username just made me laugh out loud. ThenI said it’s Britney bitch then I said it’s mom bitch and laughed some more. I love your username.
now NY is calling for universal masking. I was a good citizen and left the PPE for the front lines: now what?
Sincerely looking for a way to home-make a mask.
Today is my only grand baby’s first birthday. It sucked getting all the calendars reminders for a monumental trip I couldn’t take. I miss her so much. Hang on to your family. You are so lucky to have them close. I’d give anything to erase the thousands of miles between us.
Stay well.
All you really need is any material and some sunglasses. I’ve been using one of those loop around scarves you scared of your nose with your glasses. A long sleeve shirt will work too just tie your shirt sleeves together and again secure it with your glasses.
Thank you ??
Lord Rob, I would love to see a picture. Shirt sleeves and glasses, I can not picture how to concoct that getup. Please advise.
I’m picturing cut off long sleeves wrapped around the mouth and nose with sunglasses on top. ?
To bad turtlenecks went out of style they were perfect for an impromptu face covering.
My husband offered me a used sweat buff which actually is not a bad idea.
Oh crap — Turtlenecks are out of style????
lol no. I was just trying to let that one go. I seem to be very disruptive here lately and was trying to be good. 🙂
Google no sew face mask pattern and face mask pattern. Lots come up.
You tell them!! Seriously we get enough news reports, state mandates, and city restrictions we don’t need their help to find a way to survive this. We do need a sense of humor and levity to keep our spirits up.
I haven’t had a chance to catch up on recaps but i do read your forum posts while drinking my coffe before work
I am not a prepper so i enjoy the little tidbits you share. I live in a an area they are saying is 2 weeks behind the peak right now. I kind of want to break some social distancing and punch a few of the Washington fools T and Kushner are at the top of my list.
Well i 4 don’t come here for violence either. Wanting to punch someone is seriously hurtful and reflects poorly on u as a person.
I am perfectly fine that you think that. Your assumption makes zero difference in my life.
I don’t come here for text speak.
Punching Kushner isn’t violence, it is justice.
TT I understand your frustration, but we are all in this together. Everyone is under immense stress. Everyone is scared, worried, and not living their normal lives. I think people are trying to offer support and advice and may accidentally coming off as preachy. We are in uncharted waters and all deal with it in different ways. There are people like my Mom who consume everything about the pandemic and think they are helping others by sharing the information. Then there are people like me who are convinced everyone and everything has the virus and just freak out all day. I really don’t think anyone was being purposely judgmental…we are all just being pushed beyond our limits right now. Love and hugs to you, Banjo, and everyone here.
This reminds me of a poem by Pam Ayers: This may also explain british humour to LVP
You know, this world is complicated and imperfect and oppressed,
And it’s not hard to feel timid, apprehensive and depressed,
It seems that all around us, tides of questions ebb and flow,
And people want solutions, but they don’t know where to go.
Opinions abound but who is wrong and who is right?
People need a prophet, a diffuser of the light,
Someone they can turn to as the crises rage and swirl,
Someone with the remedy, the wisdom, the pearl…
* Well they should have asked my husband, he’s a man who likes his say,
With his thoughts on immigration, teenage mums, Theresa May,
The future of the monarchy, the latest Brexit shocks,
The wait for hip replacements, and the rubbish on the box.
Yes, they should have asked my husband, he can sort out any mess,
He can rejuvenate the railways, he can cure the NHS,
So any little niggle, anything you want to know,
Just run it past my husband, wind him up and let him go.
Congestion on the motorways, free holidays for thugs,
The damage to the ozone layer, refugees, drugs,
These may defeat the brain of any politician bloke,
But present it to my husband, he will solve it at a stroke.
He’ll clarify the situation, he will make it crystal clear,
You’ll feel the glazing of your eyeballs and the bending of your ear,
You may lose the will to live, you may feel your shoulders slump,
When he talks about the President, Mr. Donald Trump. *
Upon these areas he brings his intellect to shine,
In a great compelling voice that’s twice as loud as yours or mine,
I often wonder what it must be like to be so strong,
Infallible, articulate, self-confident and wrong.
When it comes to tolerance, he hasn’t got a lot,
Joy riders should be guillotined, and muggers should be shot,
The sound of his own voice becomes like music to his ears,
And he hasn’t got an inkling that he’s boring us to tears.
My friends don’t call so often, they have busy lives I know,
But it’s not every day you want to hear a windbag suck and blow,
Google? Safari? On them we never call,
Why bother with computers…when my husband knows it all.
Love this.
Thanks for the laugh!
So good. Sounds like my old boss. And the Queen if the PooPoo PeePee Palace (Triple P, 3P) before it burned.
TT, your comment about all of us being scared shitless made me cry. It is exactly how I feel. I have asthma and every time I feel a little twinge, I am fearful. Anxiety only exacerbates it, so the fear mounts. I am so worried about me, and my family, I can’t stand myself. I am praying for everyone — especially those who are sick or whose loved ones are sick, and the people on the front line. xoxoox
Y’all behave!
I’m sitting here giggling to myself because there is a popup ad on this page for a baseball cap with a plastic face shield attached to it. Someone’s always going to find a way to make a buck, aren’t they? This actually isn’t a bad idea…
Things I’m thankful for today…
The sun is shining!
My kid is laughing and working hard everyday on his homework from google classroom that his teacher put together. I have found a huge new appreciation for all the teacher out there!
Last night I made two delicious, icy dirty martinis for my mom and I to share while we played a dominoes game called Mexican train (terrible name, but fun game) lol.
RHONY has started up again and Leah seems like she’s going to add quite a lot of new snark!
Love Mexican Train! We play it all the time, it is so much fun.
My mother-in-law is in a nursing home and they just sent an email that one of the employees is now showing symptoms. I guess it’s inevitable since you can have the virus and not even show symptoms. I’m so worried about her. And from what I understand if you are taken to the hospital with the virus you aren’t allowed visitors, does anyone know if that’s true? I dreamt my kids were in the hospital crying out for me and I couldn’t get to them. Woke up crying. I think I need to take a walk and clear my head, my anxiety has the best of me today.
Visitor policy is not unilateral.
Yikes. Glad I missed the worst of the drama. (Hope I didn’t help feed any of it.)
Here’s to hoping this all blows over because we all do need each other here online and it doesn’t look like that need is going to lessen any time soon.
Love and good health to everyone.
Thank you for posting everyday TT. I look forward to it more than you can imagine. Since my husband passed this has been the first week I have stayed sober. I have actually gotten some laundry and paper shredding done. I don’t mind staying home because I don’t want to be around people anyway. We will all help each other through this.
Sending hugs and prayers. Being newly widowed must be so hard right now. I hope you remain strong. ❤️
It really has been difficult. I just picked up a scrip from the drugstore and the young man asked how my husband was. I ended up going down the block to the liquor store for my box wine. And here I was, bragging on being sober. Lol.
❤️ you do what you have to do. My heart breaks for all who are going through a difficult time through this unprecedented event in our lifetime. Virtual hugs to all.
I have no words to express your pain Diane, love and hugs
Yes. No one needs to be a hero all the damned time. I believe a good box of wine makes for a civilized weekend. Enjoy.
I can’t imagine how difficult it must be — especially now. I (we) support you. Box wine or not. No guilt.
THIS IS PERFECTION. PREACH!
thank you TT, love you
This is the one way I come to not read about covid-19 ? thank you TT. PREACH girl
Meant **one place ***
I am not about to preach to anyone when I am scared shitless myself. I usually get Margaritas and Mexican with my bestie 2 or 3 Saturday’s a month. She is too paranoid now for us to go get take out and make drinks at her place. She thinks the virus police are going to get us. This pisses me off, I need that outlet!! She can’t seem to get it in her head that that is okay. I think she is worried about any germs getting to her 85 year old, really healthy Mom. I have never even been to Whole Foods, fresh market is close by and somewhat similiar I think, only a lot smaller. I started drinking Smartwater after you mentioned it. I heard you mention the water at Whole Foods, now I wanna try that. Is it better, worth the trip etc? Well you and Banjo hang in there. I hope he is doing well. xoxo.
we all react to and deal with stress differently some of us don’t want to talk about it and some of us that’s all we want to talk about I do think it’s telling that the number of comments on a TV show post versus the open Forum where we all come together is so different seems like we all really need this so hopefully we don’t abuse it
Praying for the health and safety for everyone who reads this forum as well as their families. Just reflecting on what I have to be thankful for every morning in the midst of this shitshow has made it easier to do my job from home everyday (I’m a teacher). Having to actually put on makeup and a clean blouse to look presentable for weekly video conferencing meetings has helped bring some normalcy to my week. Watching Shah’s and reading these recaps here have been a welcome distraction! Take care everybody and stay safe! ????
I so excited that my husband just found TP and chicken breasts at Walmart. He said it was a long wait to get in, but worth it because the limitations actually allow the store to be stocked.
Gosh, I love chicken. I’m ordering more for next week. So glad you got what you needed!
I haven’t had a chance to comment for the past few months. I didn’t have coronavirus 19 but developed bronchitis then pneumonia after getting the regular flu. Still recovering but much better. I was co-caregiving my Mom at the time, which I had to give up for now. I began to self quarantine at the direction of my doctor a month before CA issued self distancing.
Reading other’s situations and comments I would have been in there offering my unnecessary advice but I haven’t had the energy to participate until now. Seeing all this I am realizing my own need to be relevant and feel a sliver of control over these times has turned me into a ridiculous know-it-all within my own family. Not an easy thing to realize.
My mom is getting weaker (2 hip implants in a year and the loss of my Dad) and I am really scared I will not be able to protect her from any other issues while all of this is happening. I don’t mind days of aloneness as much as I worry I will be too late to be of much help to her.
Love and prayers for you and your mom. There are more of us Californians on here than I realized. I love Gavin Newsom!
On the bright side FREE HBO ? watching McMillions first, you?
Prayers and support to everyone here. I value all of you. I could use some support myself. I was pulling weeds on my very steep band yesterday and slipped on a slippery weed and rolled down half of the hill. It was so steep i couldn’t catch my footing. When i looked up my dog was next to me up there licking my face. What a treasure it is to have such a fine dog. Goldens are the best!. I found a tree to pull myself up but my back and neck are really sore so I got up this morning and drove to Walgreens to buy a heating pad. On the way ho Shane’s parents were crossing the street near Trader Joe’s She sure is a tiny one little woman but very pretty for her age. Speaking of Trader Joe’s I need to go back there and get Beau some peanut butter dog cookies that he just loves to reward him for being such a loving and caring guy. Also, have so many favorite things at Trader Joe’s. Hugs to you Tamara and Banjo. I hope you both are loving on each other.
At my facility, we’ve reached the stage of “Stay in your room no matter what” . Thank God I have a patio. All activities are cancelled, even indoor one’s. We can’t go get out own ice, go to the vending machines, go to the business offices (which means I can’t pay my rent). No visitation even from other residents! All staff must wear masks and change gloves each time they deal with a different resident. I’m able to order from Wal-Mart and Publix , but they have to be delivered to the main entrance and the bags are thrown away before my items are given to me. A friend snuck over a small amount of Tequila last night, so I’ll be drink later. I praise the staff here for helping us while the outside world falls apart. One CNA even brought my fur baby her cat treats cause both stores were sold out. I’m praying for Everybody!
I am always thinking of you Nadia. Email me at TamaraTattles on the gmail and tell me how to get things to you.
Anyone else read about Teresa Giudice’s dad passing away?
I know he was in poor health. That’s awful.
My heart break for them. It’s an awful experience to go through, made worst by our current state of the world.
Yeah, I just read about it on Twitter.
Very sad for them especially given our current situation. I was surprised to see he was only 76, he seemed much older to me.
Yes, I also thought he was older.
Did you EVER think you’d see the day when you said “ONLY 76?” I never did! LOFL.
Yesterday was a tough one for me. The alarm in my apartment building went off and it rattled me to my core. The jarring noise and having to rush outside almost took me over the edge. I took an anxiety pill and laid down for a few hours. I was on information overload with the world news and hearing about people I know who’ve been affected.
I’m doing better today. I got dressed bc I had a zoom meeting for work so that helped.
I’m not looking for judgement or advice right now so thanks TT. I’m just doing the best I can for now.
Take care everyone!
Hello Everyone, from Queens, N.Y., the epicenter of the epicenter. I’m enjoying reading how people are coping. I’m usually the kind of person who’s centered and strong in a crisis, but I’m finding that this pandemic is affecting me very differently. There is sadness and loss and anxiety everywhere. My heart goes out to Ingrid–I hope your husband is improving–and to people like Nadia, who are making the best of a very difficult living situation.
Things that keep me sane–FaceTiming with my daughter and little grand-daughter in L.A.; calling my 90-year old Mom to confirm that she’s o.k.; talking to friends on the phone, some of whom I haven’t talked to for months; taking walks in an little-known park nearby where there are very few people. (All our other parks are overrun with people and unleashed dogs. Many of us live in apartment buildings with no backyards, and I am very jealous of those of you who have them. And your own washing machine.) So happy that NY Housewives has started, though it’s strange to see their pre-Coronavirus behavior.
People are going to grocery stores here because it is very difficult to get delivery. We don’t have big supermarkets. I loved your post, Tamara, because I find it just as crazy juggling everything. The stores have marked off where people should stand when on line for the cashier, but then someone forgets an item and runs past you so close their arm brushes against your mask. Arrrggghhh! The restaurants offering takeout are starting to close, including the two I relied on. I yearn for comfort food like ice cream, but make do at night with my stock of chardonnay and sauvignon blanc. Still, I’ll be surprised if my clothes still fit when we are on the other side of the curve.
I’m curious how people are going to handle the upcoming holidays? We always have a big family seder for Passover, with family coming in from Los Angeles and Florida, but of course we can’t do that this year. We hope to do something over FaceTime or Zoom, the main problem being how to teach my mom how to do this. Interested in ideas for digital family gatherings.
Love you TT! ❤️ That’s all I have for now. Just trying to deal. My husband is an essential worker coming in and out daily. My anxiety is off the charts. I’m a miserable bitch to live with right now.
I’m just praying we all make it. If not here, then to heaven?
I hope you continue these open forums because they mean alot to me. I’ve never had anxiety/panic attacks before and now I’m having them daily. This site has been the best in helping me get my mind in another direction. I’m responsible for other people and it’s really tough on me. Thanks to everyone for making me feel like I’m not alone.
I for one cannot judge anyone as I sit here sucking on a medical cannabis lollipop. I had quit getting high in November and that is now out the door. I started back up 2 weeks ago. Oh well.
I tried to support my local bbq spot and the woman on the phone was being extremely rude. She told me that they are not taking phone orders. Which doesn’t make sense. When I asked if they were crowded she said we have the area marked. Okay so I still tried to support them and when I drove by. Nothing was marked and everybody was lumped together. I kept driving, I was not going to be in a cluster of people and was freaked out by how close everyone was standing next to each other. Instead I tried Popeye’s Chicken Sandwich. It was good but I don’t understand all the hype.
I just took my temperature, convinced I had a fever and the Rona. Normal. I’m usually a little below normal FYI, but still ok.
Then found out my mom was also cold (I had on an extra layer), and she turned the heat up!
I felt flushed at work today and started thinking I had the Rona or menopause then. I think that was more that work was really hectic today. This SBA loan/grant and the Payroll Protection Plan thing is confusing and they keep changing the documents with NO INDICATION that they have done so (seriously… no page numbers, NO VERSION NUMBERS, not even a date it was created. I have started downloading copies on the computer and renaming them adding the date and time I downloaded them. I’ll probably subscribe to a service that lets me convert pdfs to Word so I can do a Word doc comparison. (I work in commercial property management among other things, and we’re trying to help our tenants navigate all this)
Gained half a pound this week, and I don’t care. Not too bad when there are potato chips in the house! I’ve been chugging the water today in case it was too much salt (I had popcorn on Wednesday, microwave cooker bowl so no oil, and I can’t believe it is not butter.) I’ve made a new Lentil decision. If I have wine or hard liquor, I am going to also have a big tall glass of water. I can’t have another until I finish that water.
Catching up on Below Deck SY now… I’m full of opinions on this one!
This. SO much this. ?. I appreciate you and everything you do to keep us happy, especially during all this crazy shit. Keep it coming!
Everyone make up now. I love you all and you all know who you are. Not the time for broken relationships here with people who love each other.
Think of Ingrid, Nadia, Diane, thill, rabicate and many, many other people here who are going through so much, scared and need us all to be together.
We’re all anxiety ridden and need to lean on each other. This is a time when we need to pull together, not apart.
I keep thinking of Kipper’s quote here from her job, “We made it through another day.” Can her quote be us here? Please, pretty please with a pound of chocolate on top, screw the cherry, let’s go for the chocolate.
Tamara, thank you for the site. I know it is stressful, especially during this time to recap and to deal with us all. Hugs to you, Banjo and everyone here.
My friends are very forgiving. It will be okay.
Tamara, I’m finally breaking. I’m in NY, my son was laid off and I am thankfully still employed so I can help him, my other son is 8 hours away in Buffalo and I worry for him, my daughter is living in the City in an apartment complex, my best friend was battling breast cancer and lost her battle because of covid. I’m working from home for somone who expcts me to be available 7 days a week from 7 am to bedtime. I’m tough and have been coming here for a long time just to hear you talk. I want to thank you for being you.
I am totally not worthy of praise.
You will be if you take my last name off the last post. My fault entirely – First name, last name I should just have gone all out and given my address. Thanks ever so much
got you covered my friend.