UPDATE: I OWN THIS SITE. I Pay thousands of dollars a year to host this site. I DECIDE if your comments are posted. I DECIDE if you can view here. I DECIDE if you can email me. I DECIDE the tenor of this website.
Apologies but I am pissed off. This does not apply to the people who post here regularly. For those of you who have been with me for a long time, you know that the number of comments on this site has gone down a good deal. That is not because there are fewer comments. It’s because I am allowing fewer through.
And before I tell you this story, I want those of you who have emailed me with issues with posting or who have accidentally used a user name they did not want to use, like their entire names, I’m always willing to fix that for you. Likewise, if you email me with some other issues, particularly issues when the site sometimes does wonky things. I want to hear from you.
But please understand that particularly on Fridays and Saturdays, I attempt to be offline for a bit. Running a site 24/7 can e a lto. But I am attempting to carve out more free time. Honestly, the misogyny channel has been weighing on me a lot the past few days and I just need a break.
Enter “Claudia” a brand new poster who emailed me at 3 am this morning. Claudia had mistakenly put her email addy into the spot for her username. First of all, your user name can be Jack Sprat for all I care, just pick one and stick to. But her larger issue seemed to be that I didn’t post one one her comments on the RHOOC post. Frankly, I had read enough horrific comments about the horrific episode and I wanted to move on.
So I emailed Claudia that I had changed her name and fixed the issue and that I didn’t want to delve back into anything regarding why her comment was not posted. In other words, I didn’t want to read it again to see why it was not posted. I simply told her that I’d like to enjoy my weekend and move on from the post.
Claudia emailed back that it was great I had gone through her posts and changed her name but, she was still dissatisfied. She wanted to know why her post was not allowed and the specific reason why. WHAT PART OF I DID NOT WANT TO REVISIT THAT ISSUE WAS UNCLEAR? Then she tells me she is 70 years old and has cancer. Really? Despite the fact that none of this lines up with what she said previously, I DO NOT GIVE A SHIT. I have no idea what she tried to post. There are A SHIT TON of post on RHOC that did not go through. I do not want to read rape stories. I do not want to read cancer stories. I think we all have enough of that in our lives.
Sure, many of us here have made a nod to those situations and this is not to mean I don’t care about you going through them. A lot of us are going through things and this site is supposed to be a FUN DIVERSION.
When I first started this site there was another site, with a hate name about a particular housewife. The person running the site on wordpress.com would post one post a day about all the things. Then comments were basically a chat room about their medical issues. That is the opposite of what I want here.
And to be honest I would make more money if I let it go there. The last episode of RHOC is an example of that. I was highly depressed when I started this site. And then it was great for a while. I especially loved the Jodi Arias trial days with my trial watching friends,
And then the “cat ladies” came with all of their ailments and their clickish behaviors in comments.
I’ve tried for years to move you guys on to things that aren’t housewives/Bravo. And yes, I still plan to recap some Bravo shows.
But, please understand that I created this site as a FUN PLACE. If your comments go through that is fine. Lord knows I talk about my own depression and anxiety A LOT. This comment is not for the regular posters. I know for all of us it was less fun here after the latest RHOC episode.
But I don’t need to read ten tons of first time commenters with detailed stories about their experiences after that RHOC episode. I’m not going to email first time commenters about why their comments didn’t go up to trigger the rest of us.
If your comments didn’t go through on that subject, and way more than I cared to read did, it’s because I don’t want the site to be about that. END OF DISCUSSION.
I am told often that I am whining about my depression and anxiety here a lot. AND I DO. It’s my site. But I am filtering A LOT of comments you don’t read. And not putting them all through saves y’all from shit I wish I had never read.
That is all. I know it might feel like I am preaching to the choir, or yelling at my favorite posters for something others do. But it has been days of this. And the emailers and commenters just keep coming. I’m not looking for support from the regulars. I am just trying to MAKE THEM STOP.