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Apologies but I am pissed off. This does not apply to the people who post here regularly. For those of you who have been with me for a long time, you know that the number of comments on this site has gone down a good deal. That is not because there are fewer comments. It’s because I am allowing fewer through.
And before I tell you this story, I want those of you who have emailed me with issues with posting or who have accidentally used a user name they did not want to use, like their entire names, I’m always willing to fix that for you. Likewise, if you email me with some other issues, particularly issues when the site sometimes does wonky things. I want to hear from you.
But please understand that particularly on Fridays and Saturdays, I attempt to be offline for a bit. Running a site 24/7 can e a lto. But I am attempting to carve out more free time. Honestly, the misogyny channel has been weighing on me a lot the past few days and I just need a break.
Enter “Claudia” a brand new poster who emailed me at 3 am this morning. Claudia had mistakenly put her email addy into the spot for her username. First of all, your user name can be Jack Sprat for all I care, just pick one and stick to. But her larger issue seemed to be that I didn’t post one one her comments on the RHOOC post. Frankly, I had read enough horrific comments about the horrific episode and I wanted to move on.
So I emailed Claudia that I had changed her name and fixed the issue and that I didn’t want to delve back into anything regarding why her comment was not posted. In other words, I didn’t want to read it again to see why it was not posted. I simply told her that I’d like to enjoy my weekend and move on from the post.
Claudia emailed back that it was great I had gone through her posts and changed her name but, she was still dissatisfied. She wanted to know why her post was not allowed and the specific reason why. WHAT PART OF I DID NOT WANT TO REVISIT THAT ISSUE WAS UNCLEAR? Then she tells me she is 70 years old and has cancer. Really? Despite the fact that none of this lines up with what she said previously, I DO NOT GIVE A SHIT. I have no idea what she tried to post. There are A SHIT TON of post on RHOC that did not go through. I do not want to read rape stories. I do not want to read cancer stories. I think we all have enough of that in our lives.
Sure, many of us here have made a nod to those situations and this is not to mean I don’t care about you going through them. A lot of us are going through things and this site is supposed to be a FUN DIVERSION.
When I first started this site there was another site, with a hate name about a particular housewife. The person running the site on wordpress.com would post one post a day about all the things. Then comments were basically a chat room about their medical issues. That is the opposite of what I want here.
And to be honest I would make more money if I let it go there. The last episode of RHOC is an example of that. I was highly depressed when I started this site. And then it was great for a while. I especially loved the Jodi Arias trial days with my trial watching friends,
And then the “cat ladies” came with all of their ailments and their clickish behaviors in comments.
I’ve tried for years to move you guys on to things that aren’t housewives/Bravo. And yes, I still plan to recap some Bravo shows.
But, please understand that I created this site as a FUN PLACE. If your comments go through that is fine. Lord knows I talk about my own depression and anxiety A LOT. This comment is not for the regular posters. I know for all of us it was less fun here after the latest RHOC episode.
But I don’t need to read ten tons of first time commenters with detailed stories about their experiences after that RHOC episode. I’m not going to email first time commenters about why their comments didn’t go up to trigger the rest of us.
If your comments didn’t go through on that subject, and way more than I cared to read did, it’s because I don’t want the site to be about that. END OF DISCUSSION.
I am told often that I am whining about my depression and anxiety here a lot. AND I DO. It’s my site. But I am filtering A LOT of comments you don’t read. And not putting them all through saves y’all from shit I wish I had never read.
That is all. I know it might feel like I am preaching to the choir, or yelling at my favorite posters for something others do. But it has been days of this. And the emailers and commenters just keep coming. I’m not looking for support from the regulars. I am just trying to MAKE THEM STOP.
Thank you for all your hard work! Best site for a mental break.
Thanks Maria. I am sure I will get backlash for this post but, some people who have NEVER EVEN POSTED HERE think I seem to own then some sort of “customer service.”
Tamara, I tried to pay this as a new comment, but I’ve been having a hell of a time paying here lately. I can email you about that if you want to know, I know you said that you do, so…
Anyway, what I posted, which ended up down below someone else’s comment was:
“Not that I wish anyone murdered, but I would LOVE a good trial right about now. I miss the old Jodi Arias days.” – Big time! ❤️
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*posted *posted! Dammit!
Still wrong. (Face palm). You get it!
I definitely need to email you when I get some extra time about these issues.
Same, I miss the Jodie A trial posts days…I still say “because Arizona”
Yes! That’s so funny!
This is ur business, h_ll with this whiner! Some people really think that they’re entitled to whatever! I have met some winners myself! Thanks for sharing! 👏 As for Depression & Anxiety I deal with it as well! It’s one day at a time! We are surviving!
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“Whatever happened tooo….customer service” they are going all Ms.Whitfield on ya!?! Silly people, i love YOUR site as always doll!!
I miss L.H. Was such a sweet person, offline haha, it was nice thinking of her after your post which i hadnt done in some time!
Have a fabulous Sunday!! Im off to fly down to FL this AM to get my lil beach house and my friends places ready in case the hurricane hits the East Coast again. Blah!! : )
One of the silent majority here. You just do what you do and the hell with the cry babies. There are those of us that love the witty, snarky, and funny commentary’s.
Why so silent? You seem like my kinda guy!
But will you follow me when I get the fuck out of here?
Because I am a nomad who has been trapped too long…
Amen. You do you boo.
Thanks Zarita. Welcome to the insanity. 🙂
I’ve been reading your site for a while now. I actually check in several times a day but I’m usually silent. I get upset when an update happens and I have to learn how to work my email again so I can only imagine how much work it must be to keep your site going! I appreciate that you do this and how you are also so involved and communicating with your readers! Keep doing what you do… Your way! You seem so genuine.. Regardless if you are happy or angry, it all seems real and sincere. If someone wants to control something on someone else’s website they should go and try it themselves. Or just stfu.
Please don’t change anything… I love reading what you write. Funny, smart ass, whitty, uplifting, angry, informative… You have it all.
Thank you.
Maybe “Claudia” will send you an email to say she’s never reading here again and she’s leaving!! You know that’s what is coming next, right?!? 😂😂
Claudia is block on my email. I rarely block people on email so she should feel special. I don’t think “Claudia” is a real person. She claims to be 70 years old and near death. I would think “Claudia” would have better things to do than harrass me with stories about rape and cancer.
OTOH, I am getting up there myself and plan to tell you all about it until the bitter end. But will be from Punte Del Este, or somewhere in Europe. The moment I get a terminal diagnosis, I plan to blow out my retirement fund and die somewhere interesting. It will be a good read. 🙂 I hope that Libya gets it shit together and I can go there at the end… I have some artifacts I’d like to leave there.
See how you turned her negative into a positive for you? I think you’re on the mental mend!! 😊
My sympathies, TT. Have never figured why, but I am also a person to whom people are compelled to tell their stories. I once had a fellow passenger on a jitney bus tell me her rape tale even though we weren’t even sitting next to each other. Another woman in my writer’s circle claimed to have been raped 20-something different times. That said, when the time comes, I wish I could be around long enough to read your story.
I got banned for posting one comment supporting LVP. I am not an LVP fan or crazy fan. I didn’t even watch this season of RHOBH I stopped watching OC and by the sound of it thank goodness!!! I’m trying to get off the Bravo train I think it’s jumped the shark. I think the fun ship sailed along with the rest of society’s fun ship 🚢 it’s sunk. I still like Below Deck and listen on Sirius. Housewives are over. Even SC is horrible this season.
I appreciate your site TT. You always give the who, why, what for I can count on. I don’t always post but I do check in and read. Keep up the good work! ☝
You should comment more!
Thnx TT, appreciate the nod. I try not to get too wrapped up with social media sites but I do enjoy yours, no doubt. I will drop a line or two. Have great Sunday hon!
Give ‘em hell, Tamara!
Whoops – didn’t mean to respond to that particular comment. That was just a general “give ‘em hell”. Too much bourbon this Saturday evening…
xo ~ tt
I don’t post much either but please stay strong and don’t let these people push you over the edge! You are authentic and real on here and I have been reading since even before the Jodi Arias days. I think since maybe 2013 or so? Selfishly, I am dreading the day you move out of the country away from it all.
I wanted to direct you to something funny, I hope will make you laugh. I am not sure if you are still watching Dance Moms, but if you haven’t been, the last episode S8 E16 has a great part. I can’t stand the new moms, so I usually zip through to the performances and I almost missed this part.
SPOILER ALERT: Abby Lee gets pissed off at the NY Nationals, and takes off in her wheelchair. The “Abbysitter” loses her, but thanks to a camera person, we can see her when he can’t. He’s going nuts trying to find her on the NY streets. I don’t know if it was supposed to be funny or if I just laugh inappropriately, but I found it pretty funny in a slapstick way. Except it’s real, so it’s better. I hope you feel better too.
I didn’t read past SPOILER ALERT! (thanks) it’s on my list to things to watch this weekend on my DVR. 🙂 It hasn’t been a good season. Maybe I will post about it after.
Bachelor in Paradise has also been a wonderful train wreck this season – even more train-wrecky than usual, I believe. I highly recommend that as a mindless diversion.
Married and first sight has been amazing this season! They’ve really stepped up and made some good changes to the format. The couples are all interesting.
Hang in there TT and should another OC post thing happen again, may I suggest taking the whole post down when it looks like it’s heading to crazy town? It’s your site, you don’t need the stress!
It is Labor Day weekend, a holiday designed specifically for those of us who work — which you do, TT. Kick back, enjoy your weekend, give yourself a little love <3
Thanks, cat. I’m trying.
I appreciate you more than you can imagine – this site it the first one I check after a long day of work/life in general. You are succeeding in keeping the site fun TT 🙂
Thanks Lucy. I am trying to figure out how to travel and retire. I have a shit ton of STUFF. I don’t care about most of it except my art and jewelry. Because I grew up overseas, I’m not really close with my family. I mean we all love each other but I was a young child when my parents started to travel. So.. I missed out on a lot of the bonding… I’m kind of the funny aunt at the party. But it’s a big family… so… I am facing many decisions about my stuff Should I just sell it? I dunno. I want to have an estate sale while I am still living and run off to Europe, Is that so wrong?
Sell it all and GO. I am selling off and giving away all my extra stuff. So very freeing.
Here is what my wonderful MIL did. Exactly once she asked us all what we wanted. We all wrote it down. She kept the paper. And then she gave a shit ton of whatever was left, away. She never much travelled and always regretted it.
GO. GO. GO.
Fuck No!! You won’t fly until you leap-
I recommend giving the art to your nieces and nephews. Maybe some of the jewelry you’re not attached to as well. You can always enjoy seeing it in their homes or them wearing it if you come back to visit. But you should keep most of your jewelry and wear it everyday!
TT, I really appreciate your work. I can’t imagine all the work you put in managing it all! There is not a day that goes by that I don’t stop in to catch up on your post. I don’t always post but I’m here everyday!. Xo
TT….I am in a similar position. Nobody is going to want my stuff when I die and if they do they will probably just sell it. I figure I need to enjoy the stuff or sell it and do me. My only close family is my brother and he is awesome but neither of us have kids so who is going to take all this crap and enjoy it. I am actually in the process of recording who get the family jewelry and that anything else is sold and donated to help animals. The vultures will not get a nickel…lol. Enjoy some down time…you deserve it.
Long time lurker, first time commenter. Love the site and those who don’t – can go bother other people who give a damn. On to the moving dilemma- I relocated to Scotland from Charleston, SC and sold/got rid of all my stuff. Military brat as a child with constant moves. Me, my dogs and five suitcases and two carry on’s took the Queen Mary 2 from NYC to UK. Cannot recommend it enough – both the method and the move! Getting rid of your stuff gives you a clean slate emotionally plus on a practical level most American furniture is too large/impractical for other countries. Keep on doing you!
I don’t comment alot but I do read the articles. I love when you give the know it all posters hell! I love a good bitch LOL! I started reading here when the Jodi Arias story was front & center and never left. The only time I read another site is when you provide a link that is related to the story you’re writing about. I gave them up except for this one!
Sell! I’m doing the same and it is so empowering to get rid of the “stuff”. I’m a less is more kind of person now. Less stuff but maybe a little better quality of what I do have. I’ve used the FB buy sell trade groups and meet in safe places or do porch pick up if it’s something under 20 bucks. People think I’m crazy because at 50 so many are still trying to acquire. I want freedom to lock up and go wherever I want. Sold the house and moved to a patio home where there is no maintenance. I didn’t even replace my dog once she passed although that has been the most tempting. Speaking of her today she would have been 16. Do what makes you happy!
#catladiesmademelaugh
I know you say you don’t care about the stuff, but it’s hard relinquishing something uninformed for. I had to downsize for a move, so I tried to find new homes for as much stuff as I could and put the rest in storage. I ended up not moving and was able to further edit down the stuff I was taking out of storage because I had a better perspective on what I cared about. The catharsis was great.
Sometimes its fun all of the crazy people you will meet on Craigslist who want your stuff – they usually have the same taste as you!
Advice i have never used but sounded smart: take a picture of the object you are attached to, that way you still have a way to remember it, it just takes up digital space and not actual physical space.
TT, use the KonMari approach in regards to what to do with your “stuff”. Take each item, hold it in front of you, look at it and if it does not “spark joy” get rid of it. It’s a good way to minimize your stuff. You’d be surprised at the things you get rid of!
In a female pastor in a mans world. If I could only rant like you just did I think it will all be worth it. I dont read your post to get into a medical heart pull I read it because its real, fun and funny. So as for me wanting to be you whoever dont like what and how your doing what you do they can get there own site on the way to hell. Oh my I feel so much better now. I’m not a first timer I just like to read and do the guessing and move on with life. As my grand daughter is to say let them suck it. NO I NEVER ASK HER IF SHE KNEW WHAT IT MENT. LOLOLOL
You are our Queen and this is your kingdom. You should rule as you see fit. I have been with you a few years now and I think you are the bees knees (yes, I am dating myself totally..LOL) This world is too much every single day and I am glad for this haven in this dark world, I cannot thank you enough for that. Big hugs to you whether you want it or not! wink wink
You have been here for quite some time Sunday Hare. Thanks. And I don’t think I have ever been mean to you! You should be on the New Commenters Introduction Team! 🙂 Thanks for everything.
Sending heaps of love your way. I so very much appreciate the cheerful diversion of this site. No words can express how great it is to type in the “t” and have your site pop up. All bright and snarly.
Appreciate the love. Cheerfulness is not my forte usually. lol
O.M.G. You fucking KILL ME. I’m sorry and I can feel your exasperation, but is it bad that I’m like mommy is SUPER PISSED and for once it ain’t me. You’re not a free grief counselor/therapist!! I believe people can sense your basic kindness and think THEYRE THE ONLY ONE who’s had xyz!! On a lighter note, my daughter is getting married tomorrow and I am so happy. Period. EVERYBODY LEAVE TAMARA ALONE!!!
YAY for weddings!
Thanks!-that means a lot! I moved recently and as Terry used to tell me “Nothing changes if nothing changes”. He’ll id read your posts if all you did was tell stories!! Maybe we should do a 2 truths and a lie post??!!
Thanks Y’all. I really just want to get the fuck out of this country. I don’t want to watch and recap Bravo when I do. Is there anyway some of y’all would be interested in the whole process? Because it seems overwhelming. Do I rent the ghetto shack just in case I need need to “come home?” Where do I go? i change my mind all the time… Should I have another website for that? And then still try to do some recaps here? I’ve been looking at so many possibiltiies. And for someone who can barely make it to the grocery store because of anxiety, it’s hard. But I can’t afford to be old and alone and in need of medical care in this country…. I need to figure it all out.
I can so relate to wanting to leave this country. When the time comes I’d keep the house and rent it out for a year or two. That way you’ll have rental income plus a sort of security blanket if you decide to come back.
When you do start traveling you have to blog about all your experiences, tamaratattlestravels lol
Good Lord, I have been here so long I am growing mold. And I don’t even watch Bravo anymore.
One problem is you cannot take the time off to truly think it all through. This site is a greedy beast that must always be fed. No wonder you have anxiety.
I like the idea of a continuing post(s) to weigh options and get ideas. These are some heavy duty decisions. But advice from your financial folks, and those who have done something similar is a wise, too.
We plan to make a major move in the spring, after postponing for a year. But there are so many moving parts that need to come together, not to mention the idea of selling the home we’ve lived in nearly 30 years. Being without that anchor and set adrift in the world is kind of terrifying.
But rotting in place is an even bigger nightmare.
My advice is to sell the house before the neighborhood gets worse. Best to you and your protector Banjo.
TamaraTravels is a site or series here I would follow. You, your site have always been a respite for me from many stressful work days, the depressing everyday news and life, in general. You’re not touchy feely but you are kind to your core and that has been evident from the start and probably the only thing that’s kept me a loyal follower as long as I’ve been reading.
I no longer watch much Bravo for the same reasons you are trying to stop watching/recapping, yet I continue to read here because I find your writing style and how/what/when you share with us more interesting than the bullshit Bravo shows on air.
There are many shows out there. You might lose a small part of the readership if you start recapping other shows but you might pull those that lurk in the shadows because they appreciate your writing style and personal stories more than anything. Sorry for the long post, but I’ll end with this. You’ve given us some snippets of your life and I think it’s been fascinating. Reading about a new chapter in your life that many of us probably wish WE could do ourselves, would be something I would support & follow completely. Stay strong,Tamara and don’t change your essence.
I love your writing style and enjoy when you tell about your life in your comments or actual posts. I think you should make the website what you want.
I came here for Bravo but honestly I am sick and tired of them. I tend to enjoy your other recaps more and think you should recap the shows you enjoy too.
TT, I don’t comment often. But when I do, it’s sincere and honest. Yours is the first site I go to, even before fb! I love your wit, snarkiness and overall great personality. I own a cat, somehow feel I escaped something by not being around at that time LOL. I’ll follow you whatever you decide to do. I do a lot of archive tagging r,especially Catfish. We share so much in common. Older fat ladies with depression and anxiety. You have Banjo and I have Aszia. She’s a pain in my ass but she’s also has seen me thru the worst times in my life.
Keep up the great work. Love you lady!!
Replace tagging with reading. Damn auto correct
Maybe we can all take a trip to Bass Lake
Hahaha. I was traveling last year and saw a sign for Bass Lake. And in spite of the gorgeous scenery, all I could think of was Tamra’s screeching and finger pointing. She ruined Bass Lake for life.
Love you TT! We love you and support you always!!!
Thanks. I truly wasn’t seeking support. But it sure is nice to have some. xo ~tt
I comment once in awhile but read everyday. Not just for the recaps or inside knowledge but because you and your posters are civilized, respectful and educated. Not the same old insulting profane crap you can read anywhere. I would read what ever you want to post about.
Tamara, keep on doing the great work and fuck the begrudgers. Some people just don’t belong on the internet but here we all are, dealing with dumbfuckery every day.
Take a mental break before you have a mental breakdown girl!
The Claudia’s of this world should be locked into misery page where they’re all in competition for who has it worse.
Well, I have it pretty good. I’m just a fat old maid with no idea where I am going.But what I do know is I have been HERE way too long. Not that it isn’t great, it;s just not where I want to be. It’s getting scary in the US and I already live in the ghetto. But the entire reason I am here is to save money for a move. So…
I am pretty much alone in the world.. so do I keep the shack? Sell it? I dunno. But I will not feel safe here without Banjo. I’ve always lived frugally. I remember someone who was my friend mocking me because I took home baggies and paper towels when I taught school. The principal decides what thee parents should bring. I always tried to tell my parents just to do stuff for the kids. I had stockpiles of baggies (what was I supposed to do with those?) and I never once rubbed a small child’s largest organ with hand sanitizer,, we used SOAP what a novel concept.
I am rambling sorry, A lot on my mind and a lot to think about…
It makes me sad to see you so overwhelmed. I don’t think we fully realize how this thing runs and people can be so self-centered and not see what their words can do to others. It is YOUR world; I for one would be happy to drop all the HW talk. Time to explore other topics.
As for your future perhaps consider selling your place. Landlord from a distance sounds like it could be a nightmare and maybe it is time for a real fresh start for you and Banjo. You are fortunate in that you have traveled in your past and have some interesting choices to make. I wish you the best!
It’s all going to be ok .. I can feel your head spinning as I read your posts.. you’re the one who gets us all through our day.. we will help you get through this. Take a moment to breathe and snuggle with banjo! 😘
I’ve been here for years never commenting always lurking and reading until I started to comment on the Atlanta housewives after Kenya left. But I’ve always liked your attitude (the bad and the good). I grew up with a mom who traveled all over the world while having 9 children. My advice…GO! GO! GO! Leave this shit place behind and enjoy yourself. You deserve it. We aren’t worth you even debating on. Rent the ghetto shack, don’t sell it. You may not need it, but it’s always nice to have residual income. Get a property management company to oversee it for you. As for your art and jewelry. Keep what’s most important to you and and have an estate sell with the rest. But most important please enjoy yourself and just be.
Safe travels my friend.
With love.
Hautehijabi
Hey, just my 2 cents, but renting would stress me out.
I wouldn’t want to deal with finding appropriate renters, contracts, the deposit (and arguing over how much the renter gets back), when something breaks in the house (plumbing, electric), and the big one when the renters trash the house! Maybe with a management company, but then you don’t earn much.
I love your site and visit everyday! I hope whatever you decide, you keep writing whatever interests you. I love your perspective and your commentators.
Do whatever you want whenever you want however you want
& fuck everyone else-rat bastards. BTW longtime lurker-first time out of the shadows. (Mainly because rules in general scare me)
LOL Thsnks Michelle! The rules I think are kind of easy. The main one is try not to be depressing until we get to know you! Plenty of people have shared sad things. We’ve had people that we love here die. Sometimes it gets hard. BUT LET’S not make it ALL about that. And I know I can be a total cunt. But, you are free to join us! xo ~tt
Your site and words always brings joy to my day. I love how your recap.
Your site.Your rules. The end.
Thanks Mandy. I’m going to ask for a lot more support soon.
I think I know what you are alluding to. We will be here for you. TAKE MORE PERSONAL TIME NOW, if you think you will regret it later. We will be here if you miss some stuff. Because you do what you do better than anyone else.
I appreciate all your hard work! As someone who used to have to write to a deadline, I know how hard it is to turn in consistently, regularly, quality content. I’m sorry the window lickers have got you down; just know that the other 95% of us count on you and all that you do.
Love to Banjo!
Carson
Thank you so much, Carson. Churning out a live recap can be an embarrassing mess which is why I don’t reread them. 🙂
Ouch! Been traveling for a bit and took a mini “cation”/conference break from all things TV, Bravo and internet…that said, I couldn’t wait to log back on tonight!
What the what happened? First post I read? 😤🤯😭
You are the best Tamara. XXOO
Glad you are back safe from your travels. It may seem weird, but I find myself caring about people who post here and hoping they are OK when they don’t post.
Speaking of that … where is Marc? OK, I hope.
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Hey Nanette I am ok just tons of hours at work as usual. Hope all is well & smiled when I read this post. Warmest regards , Marc
Thanks for letting me know you are OK and not kidnapped by some weirdo or gone over to the dark side of the web! I hope you got some fun and relaxation over the holiday.
Maybe Claudia wants a casserole🙄 Give Banjo a big hug for us all that appreciate the discussions on your page.
I’ve commented a few times and I was so happy when you commented back!
You do you.
I live for the shit talking.
No joke! Makes me feel like a celebrity when TT comments back!!!!
omg me too! Love you TT, always a fan.
I mean sometimes shit talking is necessary. Most times to be honest I don’t have time for that, It’s a holiday weekend though… so I SAID WHAT I SAID! 🙂
Jesus I love you!!!! You also take special care when you know a regular commentor has an issue and you kind of protect them. You rock. And fuck Claudia.
Long time reader. First time commenting. I hope I do this correctly. Your site. Your rules. Frankly I would love to read about any travel adventures you might have if you wished to change your format to that. I can barely tolerate Bravo shows anymore. Southern Charm used to be a favorite. I got through the season but didn’t bother with the reunion. SC NOLA is about the only good show left. Mostly due to the guys.
This is your home and people should have respect when they comment here. As for you receiving emails, block those people right away. Nobody’s got time or energy for this type of foolery.
This person “Claudia” is just an annoyance. If she doesn’t like it, well too bad on her, as she sits alone blocked. I can’t believe people annoy you with emails over a damn comment, just rude! They have no idea how hard you’re working 24/7 here.Then to top it off, they’re sending you depressing emails. NO!! I always wished you would take a break one day a week. But then you’re bombarded with comments, oh and of course “Claudia People” emails.
Thank you again for all you have done for us through the years. I think I can speak for many here that we will support and help you in whatever you need to do as far as moving, recapping. Whatever you need, we are here for you.
We love you and Banjo too. xoxo
“And then the ‘cat ladies’ came”… Omg I was almost triggered again lol. Waaay too much in one week. And if we can’t just watch our fucking shows without getting traumatized then it is time for a change. You have been through hell. But I also know that you have been through worse in the past and you have come back stronger and better for it in the long run. Fuck it.
This is your site. You do whatever the hell you want to do and don’t apologize. You don’t owe any of us shit. We are privileged enough to be able to come here and have a sense of community while discussing TELEVISION. It’s a free mental break that you have gifted all of us. You created this from nothing.
Thank you for all of your blood sweat and tears. And for sharing your wit and glimpses of your life. I’ll never forget the story of you standing on a chair screaming at some idiot in the pharmacy because you were just trying to get some of the REAL kind of sudafed. I laughed my ass off and were a friend in my head that day.
Years later I consider you an actual friend. You do you, boo. Block us all and take a break from the whole fucking thing because you’ve earned it. I promise we’ll all be here when you get back. Because we all love you and you are our queen!
FFS its Labor Day Weekend. You have all our email addresses so you can reach out to any of us privately for a chat if you so desire. Otherwise just have some time for yourself and Banjo.
xo
You are always my go to for all the recaps and gossip! I love your sharp wit and humor! Your page, your rules! Happy Labor Day!
I don’t post comments a lot, but I’ve been visiting your site for years. What are the odds I was going to ask you to please remove my entire name from one of my old comments? I didn’t even know others made that mistake or that it could be done. I’ll wait on that request!
Sometimes when it doesn’t remember your info and you fill in the email line, it automatically enters your name, including your last name, so you have to manually take it out. I rarely put both first and last names on social media. (I don’t remember EVER doing it.) Digital mysteries…
Thanks-I found out when I googled myself and instead of my designs coming up first, my comment here popped up. Sorry it’s so long to respond. It was such a dumb comment, too. Ugh. I don’t check responses to my posts because I’m truly a sensitive snowflake and my feelings would be hurt if TT ever ranted at me. I like reading this site!
Sweetie, If I ever rant at you it should not ruin your whole day. It’s not a big deal. It’s just my opinion in that moment. Take from it what you will.
Thanks! It wouldn’t ruin my day-don’t worry. It would just feel like a friend snapping at me. I love your site and your personal stories. Whether I agree with everything you say or not, you have added entertainment and laughs to my life, usually after a long day at work. I think you need to take care of yourself-not sure how you can do this with this blog-and make a change that brings some joy to you. And it’s going to happen soon as you seem to be moving in that direction…
Ms, Tamara, I think you run an awesome site. I have been one of those drunk idiots who posted way to much personal shit that you graciously deleted when I asked you to. I’m sorry your being bombarded by stupid new fucktards who can’t read and abide by your commenting rules. I can’t even imagine being in your shoes trying to keep track of all us idiot posters as well as reviewing all of our favorite shows for us. Just know people like me really appreciate your work and love being here too to read your tea, your beautifully written snarky posts and I know I especially enjoy reading your gardening posts and also your posts to stupid posters, it literally makes my day and makes me laugh out loud.
Your one of a kind T, thanks for giving us regulars a place to relax and enjoy, and yes I agree with you bravo is reaching it’s prime and I watch own shows way more than bravo.
I would be a huge supporter if you started reviewing own shows. Own has an incredible line up of awesome shows now and thank you for telling others about own because owns shows are way better than the misogynistic channel.
Thanks for doing what you do Ms. T., I love your site lady! You rock!
Not that I wish anyone murdered, but I would LOVE a good trial right about now. I miss the old Jodi Arias days.
No one else needs to get murdered for a good trial. Keep checking for when the trial of Golden State Killer comes up in Sacramento, Calif. It won’t be for awhile, but unless he cops a plea (doubtful, he is a beyond-textbook narcissist), it will be a doozie. Mostly for his crimes, but also for the MANY counties that are rolling all of the prosecuting into the one county of Sacramento. That is fairly unprecedented.
I’m waiting for the Durst trial, he can’t possibly get off again!
I just hope they get into how they found the Golden State Killer through the familial DNA or some stuff. I been on the fence about doing the ancestry thing as I’m adopted but with my dam luck I’d get an FBI knock on the door and be like ‘who me?” I don’t know shit! Then TT can post all about my craziness in my trial LOL!
I love the comment thread here because people post full sentences with complete thoughts. Thanks to everyone for typing out complete sentences with no weird abbreviations. TT thanks for connecting all of us together. I don’t comment on every post, but I read every post.
TT. Thanks cannot begin to say it all. Many times u have written about your struggles which many of us have. Thanks to you I feel a comrade. Also thanks again for heads up on shows I wouldn’t have thought of or tuned into . We love you with unconditional love and your spirit.
Love it here. Not here where I live, here as in your site. I’d pack and move too if I could. I love the recaps, even the stuff I don’t watch or quit watching. I’ve often thought what a stressful job you have when you’re trying to bang out multiple recaps in a night for all of us while you have crap going on in your own life. Do what you feel will bring you some happiness. Life is short. Keep us posted. I’m interested in what/where you decide. I don’t know if I would keep the place and rent it or just sell it. If you have people to call to handle inevitable repairs I’d keep it. If not, I’d probably let it go just not to have those burdens. It’s a lot to decide. I’m sorry you’re so overwhelmed.
I’ve been here for years and love you and all the frequent commenters, there are plenty who deserve to be banished to the WLS and it’s your site your prerogative. I love TT and will remain a long time reader, who hopefully comments more often
Your site, your rules! No one is forced to come here and no one has business telling you how you monitor or control your site.
I stayed away from the comments on that horrible episode for just this reason. I will also not be watch RHOOC anymore.
I’m now down to like 3 (well 4 I watch both below decks) shows. I love this site, but my life is better without Bravo. I will follow you to other shows, in fact I’m taking your recommendations on some of the shows on own, but tv has just sucked lately, for me at least. It’s driven me back to reading, which is probably a good thing.
Thanks for running an entertaining site! We appreciate you and your work!
Hi! I love cats, please don’t block me. I too am defenestrating in preparation of an eventual retirement/escape from taxes and I just turned 50 taking stock situation. Timetable may amp up depending on November 2020 happenings. It is just stuff and I don’t need it. If you want to have an estate sale, do it. You can donate everything else. I am amused people think it is up to them how you run your website. In my life when someone who does not pay my bills or know what the hell they are talking about tells me what they think I ought to be doing I thank them for letting me know and promise to give it all the thought and consideration it deserves. And, sometimes. I then tell them what I think. Usually, I just laugh.
I really hope you are not defenestrating. I hope it was autocorrect. No jumping out windows…
Thank you for all the fantastic news, insight, and hilarious comments, Tamara. I don’t say it enough, but I really appreciate all the very hard work you put into making the site so awesome and entertaining!
I would love to hear more about your moving process as you go through it.
YAAAAAAAS to everything you wrote, TT! Your site is my FUN diversion for the day. That and YOU are so appreciated for all your hard work and keeping it that way!
Follow your gut TT. Do not let the stuff hold you back. Sell it. If your gut tells you that you gots to go, then you gots to go. Just keep in mind that your Libya is no longer your Libya, just like my London is no longer my London. I’m not saying it is good or bad, it is just different. I wish you all the happiness and success in whatever new adventure you decide to pursue. In the meantime, I will keep enjoying and commenting on your blog posts.
I love your attitude and your angst. Turn off your laptop, have a glass of walk, take your dog for a walk. Come back, Tuesday!! People count on you girl!!
I come for the tea and live for the snark. I enjoy your opinions. Even if not always shared, they’re appreciated.
TT thanks for giving me a place to be distracted all these years
So much to say that has already pretty much been said, but YOLO and you’ve been mentioning moving away for some time so I would put in a plan to start getting rid of stuff. Maybe one thing a day or whatever seems manageable. What about selling your house and then if you want to come back maybe do air bnb? I stayed at one when I moved my daughter into college last year and it was very reasonable priced.
Also, I wanted to let you know that your site is much appreciated. I only look at your site and one other very general entertainment site. Sadly, I’m getting to where I don’t know most of the people they’re writing about.
Thank you tamra! I’ve been reading your site for a while now and what keeps me coming back is the honesty but also the general positivity. You don’t bash housewives or promote violence like a lot of the people on Twitter do. I can’t stand when users are hoping that housewives smash glasses or beat other housewives up. I feel like they don’t understand that these are real lives and have real implications for them and their families. Why would someone wish that harm on anyone? For entertainment? I thoroughly appreciate your site and whatever you are doing works for me! Continue doing what you do!
You are my go-to site every day! At the age of 57, my mantra is now “Fuck it!” Trust me, not a bad one to live by!
Jesus. Do you need a tamp? Or is it your parathyroid? 😉🤣
Dude why? FFS. I hope you feel better now.
He’s referencing the dreaded cat ladies chapter in TT’s history. Some crazy nutbag insisted TT had issues with her parathyroid. It was quite hilarious. In retrospect. 😉
i sincerly and respectfully hope that is the case. I find asking any woman if they need a tampon to be disrepectful.
Are u ok?? Are u for real.
If you are asking me, yep I am fine. I get that it was a joke about something that happened a long time ago. I was trying to take it back in a humble fashion. I am in a place in life where I am probably too sensitive to misogyny. It’s my bad.
Hello!! I live in the land down under and visit your site daily!! You always make me laugh and I love reading your recaps. You definitely deserve to have a weekend and you don’t have to explain why you don’t let certain comments through… It’s your site after all!! Keep doing you and go give beautiful Banjo a hug. Xo
TT you betcha I would often visit a Tamara Treks site. So much interesting stuff to read. I enjoy your intelligence and style. I only watch one series on Misogyny by Br*vo sporadically. Your recaps are what I follow.
I will be checking in here often to watch this plan turn into action.
Not to be corny, but sending good thoughts to someone I admire.
Your site, your rules. It’s been a pleasure reading your site for all these years. I pop in about 3 times a day, just to see what’s up. I read your HW recaps, but haven’t watched Bravo in years. Whatever you chose to write about, I will read.
You have a lot on your plate and it would be extra hard to do the things you want to do, without support. I would read about your ideas, processes, decisions and offer support for what you want to do in your future. I’m surprised to read Europe. I thought you were leaning toward S America (Eucador, Colombia.).
The reason people love your site so much is because of your personal stories that you interject here and there. You make a trip to the grocery store into an interesting read so I can only imagine what you could do with moving to another country! That would be much better than any Bravo recap!
And if you can, I would recommend keeping your house, at least at first. You could always rent it out for extra income..there are places that will manage the rental for you. That way you have the option to go home.
The older we get, the harder it is to make a change and moving is a big one, Overwhelming… I think about it too. Since the taxes are getting so high here that I may be forced to move. Consider making a small change at first. Maybe putting what you want in storage and hiring a property management company to manage your house and rent it out while you explore options. I do think there will be changes in the healthcare delivery system in the next few years in this country though. It would be good if you could get a pet sitter for Banjo and get away and go look at some areas like Charleston ( that you like) that are closer so you have some support. or go visit some other areas that you like. We all want the best for you Tamara.
It’s your site, so you do want you want. I adore you & your site. You made me laugh when I needed it the most. My father in law working in Giddaffi’s Libya and he loved the country & it’s people. I do hope Libya sorts herself out and you get to live there again. xx
Thanks for sparing us doom and gloom, no one has time for that. Your site, your rules.
Get rid of your stuff. I did and it’s very freeing. I used to have dinner parties and had a ton of kitchen stuff, donated 90%. Now my parties are mostly pot luck and a lot more fun. Took a really nice vacation with the money I got for my silver.
Keep the shack and get a property management company to handle it. They’re pretty cheap and save you headaches. From past posts I have an idea of where you live (ATL native here) it’s only a matter of time before developers come in.
Kiss Bravo goodbye and enjoy life!
Can’t wait for Tomato Talk, my favorite of all of your posts
TT- you are that ray sunshine of sunshine on a cloudy day. Don’t change a thing. To those that come into TT’s site and have an issue with it, go away.
I love this site and I will do everything possible to respect the commenting rules of your site. This my go-to site for the real story on everything. TT, I hope someday soon you find your dream location to live and get there as soon as possible – you deserve the very best in the very best locale of your choosing.
I normally enjoy reading the comments almost as much as I do the recaps to catch your interactions. We enjoy your writing. But although I read the RHOC recap I didn’t want to read any comments even once. Thank you for this place.
About moving … as you have posted bits and pieces of your plans and your past, I always hear Joni Mitchell’s “Carey” from the Blue album. The lighthearted melody and the vagabond lyrics combined with the wistful longing for home. I love that song; now I see YOU flying free in exotic locales when I hear it.
First: If you won’t feel safe without Banjo… Your home should be your sanctuary — where you feel safest. We all need to feel safe.
Second: IS it your HOME? Or just a place that has served as home? (If you like GOOD country music at all, listen to “Hickory Wind” by Gram Parsons. Whatever image/feeling comes up IS your home.)
You call it the shack, but we don’t know how big it is. If you can live smaller, you can more risk selling it and saving the money for a smaller place in an area where you could feel better. Are there any signs of gentrification: Are THE GAYS (how I hate that) moving in; any tearing down; buying up of blocks, etc.? If so, that could determine whether to get out now, or hold out for more money, or keep it.
Storage: Find a place that will guarantee not raising your rent for a set amount of time IN WRITING. My last place went up $160 in a year. Maybe the second floor because of rats. If your art is valuable, sell everything else and have it stored by professionals. Get your photos, videos, 8mm films, etc. digitized (most services give you a hard copy and store one in the cloud) so you can see it anywhere.
Getting rid of stuff: You don’t need to give family heirlooms (or anything) to family members. Give treasures to people you know will love them; it will make you feel good. Family is who WE make it. Blood is thicker than water, but love is thicker than blood.
There is a great book by Margareta Magnussen, “The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning: How to Free Yourself and Your Family from a Lifetime of Clutter.” It deals with many of the things you will be going through, practical AND emotional. (I wonder why a friend gave it to hoarder me…)
And, as likely you know … try not to make any life decisions when you are going through emotional upheaval. Is there a friend — perhaps a fellow passenger in transition — who you could trust staying there while you travel and sort things through?
I look forward to reading, one day, your dispatches — your Blue album — from wherever you decide to take yourself.
I don’t even watch Bravo or the Housewives, I come here for other stuff. Bottom line is…it is YOUR site and we are here because YOU allow it. Block anyone you want, anytime. Not that you need our permission.
I love your site so much. I really appreciate your fantastic sources which give us the tea behind the scenes, mainly Bravo. You must have the most amazing jewelry, go to the safe and start wearing some of it. Being out in your fabulous jewelry would be good for you. I can go ve you a great reliable store if you deceide to sell. You never get anywhere what you paid but I sold a few of my Moms good pieces. Good luck finding a place to go. Libya must have been so amazing when you were growing up there. I really pray it gets better, I am sure you must have some neat stuff to get ve them!! Xoxo.
TT enjoy your holiday! You and Banjo have earned and deserve a break. Shut it down! Love ya ❤️
Bravo used to me one of my *go to channels*. I watched everything on it. Now, I just don’t watch as much. RHOBH was a hard pass for me this season, RHOC is rapidly approaching that status, RHONJ is horrific because of Danielle. RHONY is going to be way different without Bethenny. I am looking forward to RHOD. I love Married to Medicine and both Below Deck shows. The Million Dollar Listing shows are okay, but I FF alot. So not interested in watching Shahs again. So, I can understand your frustration with recapping these trainwrecks.
I don’t post a whole lot, but I do read everything. Thanks for entertaining us!
I disagree on BH but I am a fan of Kyle, not LVP. So I enjoyed the season. But I am totally with you on the rest. Married to Medicine, Below Deck, and MDLNY are enjoyable. I am not looking forward to the new agent on NY. I hope he isn’t a pretentious DB! But I like those shows a lot.
Shahs I let go of and my tv life is better for it. My husband and I have been watching a lot of HBO shows lately. I need to wean myself off of reality tv!
TT- You make me smile. In the same boat– about to retire and sell my house. It is daunting trying to get rid of stuff. Decided to sell and rent somewhere so I don’t invest in a mistake. Same house for 30 years. I don’t like change, but definitely need to do so.
Sorry for the shitty emails and the fact that you have no chill time. I have to have some chill time or I lose my mind. So I hope you find some this weekend. Still two days left!
Also, as an aside, I am SO EXCITED Married to Medicine is coming back soon. It’s one of my favorite shows on Bravo. I love that they are all genuinely connected to each other. I have also gotten sucked into all those dumb TLC “90 days” shows and Unexpected. I am trying to let go of shows that I don’t find entertaining anymore, like RHONJ and RHOP. Your site is a bridge to doing that cause I don’t have to watch them, I can just read snarky commentary about them! So thanks for that!
And can we please put Da’vonne on more shows! Survivor? CNN? The Weather channel?I love her.
Long time lurker (like Chateau Sheree and Jodi Arias days), very infrequent poster. As life has gotten busier, your site is one I still always visit to get the real story. I credit you for my wokeness about life feed BB vs show BB, and for cluing me into how gross and misogynistic certain channels and reunion hosts are. I’ve always been amused at how you handle some of your commenters and appreciate this site is fun and snarky.
Have a great, long weekend.
I don’t post here much. What I am thinking usually doesn’t translate well when written. I am SOO glad that this was posted!! I was just thinking about this very thing the other day.
To be honest, i don’t always agree with others opinions or the way it is stated. However, it comes down to one basis concept. It is YOUR site. YOU pay for it, take the time to write. You can decide who can post here, whether to put it through or not. Readers have the right to move on, don’t post. Keep scrolling! Don’t like something…. it’s not their site! Don’t like the tone… it’s not their site! Those people can create their own site! Read another site! I’m grateful for somewhere to come about things I like to watch!!!
Thank you for all you do,TT! This is my favorite site on Al Gore’s internet.
Hey, start a Go Fund Me to give you a boost to pursue your dream. You’ve given us plenty of entertainment. It’s the least we can do.
I’m going to bite the bullet & comment ! I’ve only done this twice before, fear & reprisal are why… I, like most people need a laugh & by Christ your guaranteed one on TT’s site.
When I’m online & laugh my Husband says “who is Tamara telling to fuck off?”
In my humble opinion Tamara, I would rent your house, then you have a Plan B if & when you decide to travel you have an option to come home & re-think your options..
There’s days the only time I laugh out loud is reading your recaps & all your loyal followers comments.. I’ve been in malta twice, loved it, thank you for all the craic, love from Dublin, Ireland, Niamh x
I love this place, even though my commenting is sporadic. I lurked for a long time before chipping in. A while back in my excitement, I forgot one of the commenting rules and asked you about something irrelevant I’d read elsewhere (largely because this is the only place I really trust for that kind of info), you allowed the post and chastised me for my faux pas. Chastened I reminded myself of the rules. Your site, your way, and if they don’t like it there are plenty of poor imitations with shit recaps and comments that make me sick. Bye Claudia!
Enjoy your holiday TT.
As an afterthought, you could do with a Sonja style intern to filter the dross from the emails and comments, your time is valuable.
I’ve been lurking for a while now and never really comment but I so appreciate you being unapologetically you. You’re my reprieve from my tiny tot and hubby sometimes and I really enjoy reading your spot on recaps of the shows I no longer watch and do (Killing Eve!!!) while I lock myself in the bathroom. Seriously, thank you. This shit ain’t easy and people on the internet can be so damn mean so I appreciate you holding people accountable for being annoying little gnats.
I think I came to this site way back when I used to read another site and they made a negative comment about you. Instead of putting me off I came here and never left! I love this site because it’s fun. I enjoy your humour and your rants. I enjoy you verbally bitch-slapping fucktards. However running this site alone must be rather stressful and a weekend isn’t much of a break. Come to the UK! More specifically Scotland where you can be Bravo free! All we’ve have are Bravo reruns (unless you opt to pay for it). You can kick back and visit a whole load of castles and lochs x
Whole lot of us are more than happy to move as far away from the misogyny channel as possible.
TT, take all the time you need to rest and recoup.
<3
THIS ☝🏼.
Sweet Pea, you do what you want! I’m here for the fun and the snark and the intelligent comments! You are a blessing in my day!
Here’s my life motto: “Get as happy as you can, as fast as you can!” Pick a place and GO! Sell 95% of your stuff— you won’t miss it. Time is precious.
Praying for you and Banjo.
I love you Tamara! Stay strong, we need you!
Thanks for your website. I read it religiously because I know I am getting the truth. You reminded me of how I used to read the website about the “hated” housewife. I also remember a sort of conflicting website whose author unfortunately suddenly died. Anyway, I appreciate you being here till the bitter end; you and me both. You are a brighter light than you think. Best health to you and Banjo.
Look at all the wonderful comments here, TT. This may be a virtual hangout but you have a lot of real people here that care about you. Give your soul the rest it needs and we will be here when you are ready to come back.
Your site, your rules Tamara. I don’t often post but I am a regular reader and would happily read about any shows that you’d like to recap. I watch very few Bravo shows any more (RHONY, Top Chef,and Southern Charm are it) but I read all of your recaps anyway. And you do such a great job that you often get me to watch shows that I wouldn’t have previously even known about (Catfish, The Night Manager, Dirty John). So yes, if you’ll write about it, I’ll read it – and often watch as a result.
Hang in there, ignore (and block) the difficult people, and keep on doing you howsoever you choose. We’ll be here.
Hugs to you and Banjo.
Go my friend! As my good friend & fellow business woman says – you are running a business, not a Charity!!! We are your patrons! We want the best for you! ❤️
Well, fuck ‘em. Oh, did I say that out loud? I’m a genteel junior leaguer/soccer mom in the Deep South who doesn’t say fuck. 🎵Oops, I did it again🎵TT, I enjoy this little escape and I’d love to follow Tamara Travels if that’s your bliss! Love ya♥️
Y’all. When I finally mustered the energy to log on today, I was fully expecting the “Tamara is having another public embarrassing meltdown stuff.
Instead, I found this. My heart is full. And y’all made me laugh. Especially the defenestration auto correct and the parathyroid thing.
I blame my parathyroid. And I love you all. Thanks for the support, the advice, the understanding. I may be a total bitch about who I let post here… but I have to say I have curated a smart, funny and kind group here.
I cannot thank you enough for all of this.
xo
~tt
Oh and cat ladies are always welcome here. It was just there was a group of people who were disrupting the site when I was away for a minor surgery. I returned to a hot mess of crazy as the cat ladies decided they would be in charge of things in my absence. One of them had a cat avatar so we just called them all the cat ladies. So they were run off the site and started their own site. Instead of doing their own thing, they made a hate site or two and spread lots of oddball lies about me. It was very hurtful. Especially since I had tried many things to help one of the ringleaders. Be glad you weren’t around for that.
That is when I really clamped down on who can comment here. Sometimes I get a first time comment from someone and it’s kind of a hard call whether or not to let it go through. Now I err on the side of NOPE, Not today Satan!
Also, I too really miss the Court TV channel. 🙁
Oh and another thing, thanks for the whole GoFundMe thing. I am not good at a lot of things, but I am good with money. I don’t have to live in the ghetto. I CHOSE to. It was a family property I bought from the family estate. I was already living here because my father wanted me to come back to Atlanta. I didn’t want to. But I promised my father I would apply for a teaching job in this county. I purposely did a shit shit job on my online applications so I could tell him I had not offers in Atlanta. I didn’t even bother to put in my work history.
But Mama, who was and is in heaven at the time, had other ideas. I was offered a choice of two positions at the school one house away from the shack. I’m not a clothes horse. I hate shoes of most all kinds except the ones I all my “Lebanese shoes” which may or may not mean lesbian. Apologies to my gay sisters. I am not gay but am still hoping for some sort of Meredith Baxter Birney sort of conversion. And if it happens, I HAVE THE SHOES! I’m not trying to offend. It’s actually true. Clearly I am not made for a relationship with men. Or women either. 🙁
The point of this ramble is all I need from y’all is not to use adblocker. I make more than I spend and always have. I have a little nest egg. Not enough to live on for too long… but I want die somewhere with no money in the bank. No kids. Much older siblings. I love all my family A LOT. But I tend to isolate…
Anyway. I’m all good financially. As long as I keep having meltdowns on this site any y’all keep caring.
xo
~tt
You are very cruel to tease us about the shoes and not give us a photo. Maybe you can use them in a blind item one day.
After 33 years of dealing with wicked anxiety- I found a cocktail that works. Buspar and Paxil and for breakthrough anxiety I take a small piece of Xanax. Yes I know we aren’t supposed to talk about health issues but this literally saved my life. Sending good vibes
I should be getting paid by someone … try CBD. It is a miracle. If you have to pee in a cup — like me — use the BROAD spectrum. The FULL spectrum has trace THC. I don’t know why I took so long to try it. I think it’s like the books i won’t read if they are in The Oprah Book Club — reverse snobbery or something…
Tons of people care about you. It’s nice to read all the positive & supporting comments this evening. Be well dear friend. xo Marc
Love you, TT. You are one of a kind and I’ll follow you wherever you go.
P.S. I wonder what ever happened to those Cat Ladies?
Only read your post TT, I’ll read the comments later. I am sooo fricking behind on everything, Bravo hasn’t been a priority but I find myself drawn to you TT and your followers!
It sounds like it’s been a long week for you (so Banjo is included in my love for you). I hope you do know I love you, your site and your commenters.
Yes, I may have noticed some site grooming, but for me? It’s only made my experience here more comfortable. I sometimes share things here that I can’t say outloud when I probably should but can’t for whatever reason. You’ve made a safe place for me. I have learned a lot here and I thank you.
I am also looking to exit Bravo (sad end, found Bravo by way of “Queer Eye” umpteen years ago). I look forward to following other chapters in your TV viewing and recap escapades!
I am so glad I found this site out of desperation! I was felt so alone wondering if I had lost my mind watching these HWs, if anyone else felt as dazed, confused, befuddled and as me, always scratching my head after every new episode? (May be a run on sentence right there…sorry) I think Bethenny really sees the writing on the wall…excellent time for an exit.
Love you Tamara and Banjo.
I’m not going anywhere else unless, you know….I get sent to the WLS, God forbid (crossing myself and I’m not Catholic unless I’m in Notre Dame)! Honestly? I’d still read here, every word!
Brace yourself for the RHOC episode and TT recap and comments that occurred when you were away. It’s intense.
I not going to watch that episode. I have watched every episode of the OC but from what I’ve read? Enough. I said something along these lines after the last episode, this IS NOT nor should it ever be a “”HW storyline” set up as a rumor, fact or anything in between, it’s evil and meant to scald and burn for what, ratings? I’m stunned, hurt and ANGRY. I do have compassion for Emily, Gina and now Kelly! I’ve been rooting for Shannon’s revival too but I will not indulge this franchise unless I hear something positive come out from “this”. Is that why Tamra is seen running away again from the group screaming on the season synopses? Busted again? She’s an ugly fool.
I’m saddened by the missed opportunities and life lessons women could share across all the franchises.
Tamra Judge, she is riding her Golden Chariot, tightly guideing the reins of her immortal horses through her fateful ride to Hades, on purpose! Good luck Tamra, I’ve heard Hell sucks.
Damn bruh. Lol . I love this website.
You will be fine. Dont worry
I have horrible anxiety. And I dont have the money to see a shrink. I will tell u this try cbd. It kind of changed my life. I buy a bottle of the gummy bears and it takes the edge off me. I’m telling u. Give it a try. Not the hemp shit that’s a lie. Cbd. It works. I have agoraphobia and it’s the one thing that helps me . Well besides wine and weed. Lol. But I cant do that during the day. Try it. TT
So happy to see another CBD convert. I HATE pot (I would love it if I had the same experience all my friends have) so I resisted CBD. But I love BROAD spectrum CBD, no THC. A friend who has the same reaction to pot as I do tried the combo CBD/THC and loves it and think I would. But even though pot is legal in Calif., some insurance companies may cut off our — not even powerful — pain meds if you test positive for THC.
TT, you run a fantastic, fun site, and thanks for the work you do to keep it that way. Don’t listen to the “Claudias” of this world!
I want you to know that I read your site everyday. Your honest comments make me smile. Keep up the good work!!!
I’ve been here a long time. I don’t agree with you in some housewives. I often have slightly a little more info on Jenelle Evans (but that’s not your specialty anyway). Why do I stay?
Because I like YOU! I like Banjo. I like your crazy stories. I loved when you would report on Sheree in court looking like a babbling idiot with her tiny buns.
I appreciate what you do and I appreciate the way you do it: cut and dry.
Also, I do not even almost want to hear about everyone’s various ailments. Thanks for sparing us the rapes also.
First time poster, long long time lurker. I also remember the cat ladies and recall how you tried to help them out. I, for one, so appreciate the rules, especially not using nicknames. I think that you have fostered a site of intelligent people who can disagree, but do so with grace. There is a fine line between “snark” and cruelty. Thanks Tamara for giving us a place to chat about more than Bravo in a friendly, welcoming place. I check in on the site a few times a day, and would also follow a Tamara Treks type of site.
I have been reading this site religiously for years- only posted once on a blind item. I appreciate the escape from real life and your recommendations on other shows. The hard work you put in to each post is appreciated. I respect that you speak your mind and only post what you want. It’s your site! I sure am glad it’s here.
I love your site and read it regularly but rarely comment. Keep doing you. That’s what I come here to read.
TT I j’adore you. You are truly one of a kind and since I found your site, my life has been enriched. Fuck Claudia, we appreciate you and cherish you. I’ll follow you until the end of the line. Love to Banjo. Hopefully the ghetto has been quiet so you can rest.
I’m REALLY shitty at IRL interactions but I have always seen you as my friend. That you. I need friends.
GET IT GIRL! Draw some boundaries!
We’ve all had our ups and downs on this site but yes, I agree, a change of pace was needed and hopefully this is it. JMO but some of the over sharing stories seem like one upmanship… kind of like Dorinda a few seasons ago with the “you may have suffered, BUT I HAVE STUFFERED MORE” 🙄
And just to be my usual contrarian self. My motto with anxiety was (and still is) “Life is short, so have fun with it”. I use it as a self-affirmation before going into stressful situations to basically say “fuck my social anxiety, fear of the unknown and the fucking horse it rode in on” and not let it ruin my day. Find what helps you go about your day and don’t waste your life letting that bitch anxiety demon control it. ❤
Hello
Just wanted to say that I am sorry you have to deal with so much crap.
And any time you need a break, I will not complain….I’ll just come back later.
Please don’t feel like we would disappear if you had some deserved time off.
It would drive me nuts to work so hard to get things up all the time and then to have people be shitty….Well….HELL NO! ~ I wouldn’t put up with it either. Glad you posted this, I totally get it.
Thanks for what you do. It’s a lot. 💜💙💜
I’m a sometimes commenter, and an always reader. You’ve pissed me off before, but I’m still here. Your site TT. So fuck ’em. All these newbies have to do is read the commenting rules. Great thing about this site is the ability to have different opinions. TT will probably call you an idiot, you can call her an idiot right back, then she’ll call you a cunt and we all laugh and MOVE ON. This is my kinda place. xo
Y’all, am I still allowed to complain about my job here? Because it is not YOU. I love you all and I love my job. You know how they say find something you love and do that? Well, I like drinking wine and watching reality shows and you know what? It kind of worked out thanks to you guys,
I’ve had a lot of help along the way. Sites like @realityTea and especially Michelle aka @Atlien from Straight from the A.
But what I didn’t expect was….. not the negative shit, I don’t give a shit about that. It’s not even the asshole commenters.. SO NOT AFFECTED. But tonight I got racist and homophobic comments from an Ivy League school IP. I’ve reported it and it was kind of terrifying based on the climate.
I’m not worried for my safety I have my dog, guns, and weapons. I have at least three ways to kill you in every room. Always have. Never had a protector. I may be old and fat but I have way more ammo than you do. And at least 16 other ways to kill you if my gun jams. WHICH IT WON’T.
This is terrifying. Any way you can report it to local authorities?
I love your site. I follow closely to see what you may do and what a second to Costa Rica might be! I identify in a big way!
Thanks for creating an awesome atmosphere, and my #1 stop by place every day! Be well! ❤️
Girl, I’m an email and a plane ride away any time you need me.
Plus, don’t you want to come down here to FLL and hang out with Captain Lee and his beautiful wife?
Smooches!
Wow! I comment pretty regularly here because your site is a guilty pleasure where I can comment on my “vegging out” shows. I like your site because it is light and you have a wicked since of humor. I never realized all the work behind the scenes that goes into maintaining that vibe on your site. I’m sorry you get with hit with filtering all this negativity…selfishly I hope it doesn’t turn you off from continuing to run your fabulous site…I appreciate “vegging” out on your site as part of winding down at the end of crazy work work days!
Meh. It usually doesn’t get to me at all. But everyone has their I HATE THIS FUCKING JOB days even when they have great jobs. I just spew and whine and act a fool for a few days and get my ass back to work. Because I have the best job EVER, It’s not as easy as it looks. But it’s not rocket science. And I can come to work drunk. 🙂