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This Site Needs A Spring Cleaning (Of Commenters)

March 23, 2019 by tamaratattles 50 Comments

It’s well past time for me to make a post to remind the old school commenters, and inform the new commenters of the commenting rules. Look, I never read the commenting rules on sites before posting either. But these rules are how you maintain the privilege of commenting here.

SO PLEASE READ THE COMMENTING RULES NOW BEFORE READING ON

I am thrilled to have an influx of new readers and commenters. I am not thrilled with the direction that the comments have taken lately. The current political landscape of this country has everyone feeling angry and argumentative. Please take that mess to the political sites or to the occasional political thread here. We do have them on occasion. Feel free to ignore them. They can get heated. You are not required to read them or participate. Otherwise, we don’t need you announcing that someone on a competition show is related to a politician you don like.

In fact, you can blame the commenters in the non-housewives posts for this post. A lot of Bravo viewers are assholes. A lot of Bravo Housewives are cunts of the highest order. So are some of the commenters, including me at times. I don’t care about those comments. AS LONG AS THEY ARE WITHIN the commenting rules.

The Difference Between Competition Shows And Reality Shows

Then there are are competition shows, where up and coming chefs and designers AND MODELS,

are trying to get recognition for their skills. There are shows where people are going to jail, or marrying someone they met is prison, or marrying a stranger or marrying someone from another country or surviving 39 days on an island. Those people are generally on one season of a show and don’t always fully understand what they are signing up for. They all read this site. TRY NOT TO BE A TOTAL CUNT when talking about these people.

In the past, Top Chef and Project Runway have attracted a smaller subset of the general commenter population here. In general, their interests and intellect expand beyond the brawling, drunken housewives. They are watching Top Chef for the cooking, the recipes, the new foods and the personalities of all the chefs and how they work together.

We Have Come To The Point Where Even Models Are Fat Shamed

Project Runway currently has two seasons airing at once. It used to be lots of fun to talk about the clothes, the designers, the time constraints and the ridiculous unconventional materials challenge. We are very fortunate to have CJ Bomb writing the recaps. She is extremely knowledgeable in the area of fashion. She also has a job that is very demanding. And yet she gives of her time to write recaps that take several hours out of her work week, and away from her family. Because she enjoys it. Or she used to. Just like I used to enjoy participating in the comments.

Lately, rather than discussing fashion, we have been invaded by commenters who just want to write rude things about the designers, and rude things about the use of plus-sized models. Others spend their comments disparaging the names of one or two of the designers. One comment, since removed, went so far as to post a comment that rhymed a designers name with a violent sexual act on children. It’s become so vile, that I have stopped reading the comments and asked a couple of people to let me know if anything needs to be removed.

I’ve also spoken with CJ about this and she wasn’t sure how to address it. It’s an embarrassment and not something that has happened in previous seasons. I blame the show being back on Bravo. CJ isn’t really accustomed to these sorts of comments. It is to the point where we may decide not to cover Project Runway on this site anymore.

The Future of Project Runway Posts

But before that happens, I’m going to ask that comments on Project Runway focus on the designs. I am going to be reading the comments again. If your sole purpose for commenting is to mock designers in high pressure situations for crying, don’t comment. If you are posting to mock someone’s name. Don’t comment.

If you are posting to complain that there are plus-sized models, or have anything to say about them at all. Don’t post. I also don’t want to hear that you weren’t fat-shaming because it is unfair that the designers need more material. I don’t  will not post comments that say things like, “if one designer has to have a plus-sized model then they all should.” I’m not interested in debating this issue with you.Talk about the models without shaming them or don’t comment at all. Or, you could TALK ABOUT THE DESIGNS as we are there to do.

If you cannot post in a way that is not insulting to the designers or the models then DON’T COMMENT. There will be no further warnings. If you have been here for eight years or eight minutes you will be permanently sent to the WLS.

We used to have Open Forums on the weekends on this site. They ended for very similar reasons. If we can have open forums that are not about death, dying, disease, famine, politics or any other depressing topic, then by all means knock yourself out.

I may have a funny story or two to share myself. We shall see how this goes. It your feelings are hurt, please find the nearest exit and leave quietly.

~xo

tt

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  1. Lisa Waier says

    March 23, 2019 at 7:44 pm

    I’m so glad you are sending put this reminder. This site has always been different because of the commenting rules. It just feels “safer” to read and comment here

    Reply
    • The Other Shay says

      March 24, 2019 at 4:25 pm

      I loved Uretha!!!

      Reply
  2. loriflack says

    March 23, 2019 at 7:52 pm

    I miss the days when Urethra was chained to your radiator.

    Reply
    • ZenTrying says

      March 24, 2019 at 11:42 am

      Me too.

      Reply
      • ZenTrying says

        March 24, 2019 at 11:09 pm

        RIP Urethra.

        Reply
  3. JoJoFLL says

    March 23, 2019 at 8:15 pm

    You’re correct, we can’t have nice things.

    I’ve reread the commenting rules.

    That said, I’m going to Disney tomorrow to drink my way around the world at Epcot.

    Reply
    • kete05 says

      March 24, 2019 at 1:05 am

      Yesssss! My husband and I did that before we had kids. It was so fun. We started i Mexico and ended in London. We were so drunk we did not even realize there was a Canada section. Japan was what did us in. We both ordered hot sake, not realizing it came in a little teapot. After drinking a teapot of hot sake each, we were past the point of no return. Have fun with that! Maybe you are more responsible than we were at 24.

      Reply
      • tamaratattles says

        March 24, 2019 at 2:47 am

        Epcot is one of my favorite places on earth. I had a really great date there once when the Macerena was thing. That was EONS ago. And when I lived in Florida I went a couple time by myself for the weekend. I love that Morracan restaurant.

        Reply
      • Nanette says

        March 25, 2019 at 12:23 am

        Maybe for your next drink around the world, you could go to Disneyland and sneak tiny liquor bottles on the It’s a Small World ride. You’d have to drink them really quickly and then you would have to get that song out of your head. But it could be fun.

        Reply
  4. Chandler says

    March 23, 2019 at 8:25 pm

    I’m relatively new commenting here and I admit I’ve never read the rules, until now! Thank you TT for all you do, I don’t ever want to be in WLS. ❤

    Reply
  5. EnglishRose says

    March 23, 2019 at 8:26 pm

    I understand the need for you to do this and it will keep us all on our toes; however, I hope people don’t get so anxious about what they can or can’t write that they don’t leave any comment at all. I guess your reaction would probably be that you don’t want wishy-washy commenters on this site anyway. Your site, your right to decide what you want on it.

    Reply
  6. Raenie :-) says

    March 23, 2019 at 8:35 pm

    I don’t comment often, but I am glad that we are having this conversation. I really like the Project Runway recaps and I am sad that it has come to this. I hope that others are more mindful of the commenting rules in the future.

    Reply
  7. UNCTousme says

    March 23, 2019 at 8:40 pm

    “Some of you grew up eating Miracle Whip instead of Duke’s…” made me guffaw. I am a long-time lurker and LOVE your site and now have nothing but the upmost respect for you. It’s sad that so many people use the internet for hate-filled and poorly structured sentences, so your rules regarding both makes my day. Good for you. I read most recaps, even shows I will NEVER watch, just for the entertaining verbiage. Kudos. #bigfan #notsuckingup

    Reply
    • tamaratattles says

      March 23, 2019 at 9:58 pm

      Welcome! I try to use proper sentence structure during my hate-filled rants. And my posts are riddled with all sorts of errors. So I’m not exactly on the high horse over here. But we seem to be devolving into an illiterate shit stew of nastiness here and there. It happens every few years. I like to keep things moderately illiterate and borderline hateful here. For the most part. 🙂

      Also, I have the memory of a gnat. So if I bitch you out one day, I will have forgotten who you are the next day. I’m just like Bill Murray in Groundhog Day.

      Reply
      • UNCTousme says

        March 23, 2019 at 10:36 pm

        #metoo. Listen, if you can get a forum that is moderately literate and minimal bitchiness, you have won. You got me hooked with Southern Charm gossip and I can’t get enough. That is all. I don’t know why that cast fascinates me so…mystery. While I have your “ear”, I am seriously a Real World Challenge junkie…GAWD, just saying that made me feel dirty…but I noticed it’s not on here. The hook-ups, the craziness. Just watch it. It’s everything.

        Reply
        • tamaratattles says

          March 24, 2019 at 2:38 am

          I’ve watched every episode of every challenge. I am a few episodes behind though. There aren’t enough hours in the day for me to watch everything I want to and all the stuff I “have to.”

          Reply
          • UNCTousme says

            March 24, 2019 at 3:35 pm

            I hate myself for loving that show and now with the Brits, it is even more over the top. I should have known….

            Reply
          • Marsha Marsha Marsha says

            March 25, 2019 at 5:59 pm

            I am a challenge junkie too, I go all the way back to Real World and Road Rules .

            Reply
  8. JillyAnne says

    March 23, 2019 at 9:29 pm

    It is privilege to even be able to comment on this site, besides reading all the breakdowns of each show. I promise to abide by the rules set forth. Thank you for your wonderful site and the content it provides. it is by far the best one on the internet! Thanks to you and your team for the hard (and discouraging work) you all do!

    Reply
  9. Kipper says

    March 23, 2019 at 9:39 pm

    Good update, reread the rules and appreciate them. Spring has sprung here, the trees are starting to pop! Thank you for all you do Tamara.

    Reply
  10. Heathbutts says

    March 23, 2019 at 9:45 pm

    I’m sad that a reminder like this has to be sent out. I love it here. It’s my getaway during the day and night! I hate to read the ugly comments. I must admit i take them personal at times. I guess i take them personal because i am by far a perfect person. It never ever hurts to take the opportunity to shut the fuck up and listen and learn. Too many want to just talk, talk, talk, preach, preach, preach, instead of listen and learn.

    Reply
  11. KSfromKS says

    March 23, 2019 at 9:47 pm

    I realllllllly hope you guys keep covering Project Runway (& Top Chef). I have really enjoyed the first couple of challenges, and I always look forward to CJ Bomb’s recap. I have my own opinions, but I love hearing her take on it. I hope a few aholes don’t ruin it for the rest of us.

    Reply
  12. Janabanana says

    March 23, 2019 at 10:36 pm

    I love to sit down in the evenings and watch my Bravo after a long day at work. And then I like to come to this site and read the tea and the recaps, laughing over things I agree with and so on. But people get so worked up and nasty sometimes. Sometimes I read a comment and wonder if they realize it is a television show with produced storylines and editing.

    Reply
  13. Aud says

    March 23, 2019 at 11:14 pm

    I love CJ and Cho too. I just have been getting too far behind viewing lately, then feel it’s too late to comment. I’m not sure if I’ve ever read the rules before but think I did, because I know to use real names. 🙂

    Reply
    • tamaratattles says

      March 24, 2019 at 2:42 am

      It’s never too late to comment! I have tons of Catfish recaps and the run reruns all the time and I get people commenting from shows from years ago. I like that! That’s part of why I recap Catfish shows. They get views FOREVER.

      Reply
  14. Kerry says

    March 23, 2019 at 11:40 pm

    TT- just want to thank you for your amazing site. It has brought me laughter on those tear filled days. Hopefully your readers will remember opinions are ok but just be kind .

    Reply
    • tamaratattles says

      March 24, 2019 at 2:44 am

      I don’t want the comments to all be kind. Mine sure aren’t. I just don’t want them to be attacks on people who are only trying to win a competition show. The housewives are open season expect for attacks on personal appearance. It’s fine to hate on them for being lying liars who lie. 🙂

      Reply
      • Fynn says

        March 24, 2019 at 3:13 pm

        What? You’ve certainly let my comments on personal appearance shine through. You liked that I said something. Or you would not have post it.

        Reply
        • Fynn says

          March 24, 2019 at 3:24 pm

          So be aware of your righteousness boundaries Tam.

          Reply
        • tamaratattles says

          March 25, 2019 at 2:30 am

          So I went through you greatest hits and I don’t see where I ever referred to you at all other than to say you seemed to be having an off day after apparently bullying Dilly Dilly for several posts. I don’t usually see anything commenting sections in total but rather via email where it is not always clear who people are referring too.

          Now that I have seen your comments in total, you are correct. that you do talk about people’s personal appearances, Not only that you hate every single show you comment on.

          You’re a total cunt and I apologize for not noticing this earlier. I also noticed when I sent you to the WLS that you were already sitting there and there was a notation by your name that simply said “cunt”. Perhaps an IP banning would also be in order since you keep crawling back like a cockroach. .

          Again, thanks for calling this to my attention.

          Reply
  15. Kerry says

    March 23, 2019 at 11:41 pm

    Thank you to CJ , Cho and Lady C!

    Reply
  16. tamaratattles says

    March 24, 2019 at 3:39 am

    Oh and BTW, my IG finally got a makeover and is all grown up now. Come check it out and give me a follow! https://www.instagram.com/tamara_tattles/?hl=en

    Reply
  17. JasperCarrot says

    March 24, 2019 at 6:58 am

    Hey TT, is your email still the one in the commenting rules? I clicked the email me link but it didn’t work, just wanted to let you know about something I think you’d enjoy knowing you’ve watched the bachelor in the past, not for recapping just watching, if you get time to watch other stuff!

    Reply
  18. TammyinVA says

    March 24, 2019 at 10:18 am

    I don’t understand why people get so worked up. YOU DON’T KNOW THESE PEOPLE. It’s an edited tv show.

    On another note, Spring has sprung and it is going to be sunny and in the 70s today. My camellia is absolutely beautiful this year – it is covered in blooms. I am going to spend the day outside.

    Plus my NCAA tournament bracket is relatively intact and my team in still in there. How is everyone else’s bracket looking?

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  19. 865ac says

    March 24, 2019 at 10:40 am

    Thank you for this great site. I come here for a break from politics and all of my life problems. Can’t say enough how much I appreciate you and all the great commenters!

    Reply
  20. Stenbeck says

    March 24, 2019 at 11:37 am

    I miss the Drag Race recaps. *tear*

    Reply
    • T D says

      March 24, 2019 at 12:26 pm

      Come sit by meme, pass the tissues. Thanks to all who have taken time recapping for our enjoyment, past and present.

      Reply
  21. shiny says

    March 24, 2019 at 6:01 pm

    I reread the rules and the updates. I appreciate your website and the way you run it. I love the recaps commenting on things I saw, things I missed and the humor in all of it. I don’t always have time for Project Runway recaps when they are current, but I’d really miss them if you stopped covering them. Some of my favorite shows (90-day Fiance, Southern Charm, Love after Lockup, etc.) I discovered here.

    Thanks for all that you do and hope you continue for many more years, and thanks especially for your sense of humor. You make me laugh every day!

    Reply
  22. Betsey LaFoy says

    March 24, 2019 at 6:43 pm

    Great point about watching our words/comments in regards to some of the competition shows and the more “innocent” reality stars. I respect the fact that you have these rules. It’s one of the best aspects of this site. Sometimes I even skip your recaps (my bad!) and go straight to the comments because I enjoy reading the thoughts of intelligent viewers.

    Reply
    • Betsey LaFoy says

      March 24, 2019 at 6:45 pm

      Also, I’m obsessed with Barney Fife and I about squealed when I saw you used his photo for this post. 🙂

      Reply
  23. RenInOz says

    March 25, 2019 at 12:36 am

    Thank you for addressing the (understandably) slightly cryptic post re: no recap for last week’s PR – I am horrified that people are such UTTER dicks and can’t behave like decent humans.

    I hope you guys keep recapping the eps, because I genuinely enjoy them and they’re hard to find elsewhere unlike HW recaps – I’d rather see a post with a locked comments section than no post at all. More power to you both – and a year’s worth of side eye for the assholes.

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  24. belladonna says

    March 25, 2019 at 2:19 am

    I grew up eating Miracle Whip instead of proper mayonnaise. I consider this abuse. I probably haven’t lived until I’ve tasted Dukes.

    It’s spring, so time for planting tomatoes.

    Reply
  25. belladonna says

    March 25, 2019 at 3:14 am

    I may have hurt myself laughing at righteousness boundaries.

    Reply
  26. ALP says

    March 25, 2019 at 11:30 am

    Thank you for this post. Like many others, I just reread the Commenting Rules and as always, they made me smile.

    I now understand your saying in the PR All Stars post that you would not be blogging about the new PR season — I do hope you and CJ reconsider and are willing to post. Project Runway is how I found your site and while I don’t watch the other shows, I do enjoy the recaps. I have loved the PR recaps, and learn a great deal from you, CJ and Les.

    Thank you again for all of your hard work.

    Reply
    • tamaratattles says

      March 25, 2019 at 11:47 am

      I’m sure CJ will be blogging again. We just had to figure out how to move forward and get back to the fun comments we usually have. PR is a happy place about clothes and people trying to break into the industry. It’s just a different vibe from most of the other shows we cover here. The screaming and yell in the housewives thread will also live on. 🙂

      Reply
  27. Green eyed grams says

    March 25, 2019 at 6:25 pm

    As a long time PR fan – from beginning n watching both shows. I really need CJ. Her summaries are spot on n hilarious that I laugh myself to the floor. As time goes quickly by for all of us; I really depend on TT to keep me updated or trying a new show I would have dismissed. My only comment which is picky. W the new PR show. After leaving Mood. No Thank You Mood. I understand wanting to put one’s mark on show but manners never go out of style n frankly part of Pr process singing Thank u Mood n seeing Swatch

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    • tamaratattles says

      March 25, 2019 at 8:16 pm

      Please read THE COMMENTING RULES https://tamaratattles.com/commenting-rules/

      Especially number 5

      Reply
  28. Jayhawks97 says

    March 26, 2019 at 3:50 am

    Relatively new here and do not comment much. However, I do not want to be kicked off so I reread the rules. This page was a great accidental find! I love checking in.

    Reply
  29. Mari6625 says

    March 28, 2019 at 5:39 pm

    I haven’t commented in a while because you pissed me off a couple months ago on twitter, TT. But I’ve still been lurking like the stage 5 clinger that I am to this site. ? But you’re right, some of the comments are out of control. Please don’t take the PR recaps away from us. I LIVE for them. Btw. I’m not mad at you anymore. ?

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    • tamaratattles says

      March 29, 2019 at 2:41 am

      YAY! Let us cling to this happy memory for the next time you get mad at me. 🙂

      Reply

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