Shannon Beador’s “self-medicating” with alcohol as she calls it, or her “drinking problem,” as her cast mates have referred to it. has been a major focus on the last season of Real Housewives of Orange County.
If you recall, on the finale episode of this year’s reunion, Gina said basically that Shannon ripped her a new one for talking about her mental health and her self-medicating to treat her depression and anxiety because it could cause her to lose custody of her children. Apparently, the new girlfriend and David were snugged up on the couch watching the reunion because the new woman, who may or may not be pregnant with David’s baby, went on an Instagram rant after the last episode. She said a lot of things about Shannon and then made it clear that David is the best boyfriend and father anyone could ever have. She also pointed out that she loved Shannon’s girls and they love being with her and their father.
Today, The Blast is exclusively reporting several interesting things. First of all, during the contentious divorce proceedings that David asked the judge to forbid Shannon from drinking within 8 hours before being with the kids and during any time she has the girls with her. At the time of the divorce, that was denied by the judge. Shannon appears to have denied drinking when the girls are with her despite there being a clip from the show on the Bravo site with her talking about her drinking every night at the time of the divorce.
I agree with the judge. I imagine a lot of women drink more than usual when going through a divorce. Plus these are not infant girls that need close supervision.
Then after the reunion aired, David filed another motion where he refers to his first request, ““I requested Mrs. Beador agree to not drinking or being drunk in front of the children and the request was denied and in fact disputed that she even stated she ‘self-medicates’ even though the television clip of her stating it is currently on the Bravo (NBCU) website and was included and quoted on several media articles.”
Shannon has not responded to David’s newest motion. The judge has set a hearing date for January.
David has consistently refused to hire counsel for the ongoing divorce proceedings.
It is clear that Gina was telling the truth and Shannon was lying when she was on the reunion claiming she never told Gina that discussions of her drinking and mental health could cause her to lose her children.
I am not sure how I feel about this latest development. I tend to think the judge will not agree to this. David may be inadvertently causing the girls to have to testify in court about their mother’s drinking which would be very awkward. I really don’t think there is enough evidence to indicate that Shannon’s drinking has an impact on the girls. Again, if they were very young, I might have a different opinion. David seems to enjoy drinking as well. How would this even be monitored? Would David be questioning the girls? On the other hand, it is possible that the girls have expressed concerns to their father.
What do you think should or will happen with this motion to the court? I guess we will find out next month.
Well I’m assuming he agrees to the same stipulation upon himself, and his possibly pregnant gf. Because otherwise, I call BS.
She never said that she didn’t discuss it with David. She said she wasn’t concerned and Andy asked Gina if it was a valid argument and she said it’s not.
Didn’t discuss it with Gina***
I don’t think the judge is going to do anything about it and if Shannon’s lawyer was smart enough he should bring up David living with another woman.Judges don’t look kindly on people staying or living together unless married.That goes both ways,so he needs to be careful.
What are you talking about? This isn’t the 50’s. Judges only are concerned with a spouse living with someone if that someone is detrimental to the children’s well being. That doesn’t seem to be the case here as even Shannon said the woman is good to their girls. One doesn’t have anything to do with the other. I don’t know why David is making the request to have her not drink around the girls. Either Shannon acts like a nut when she drinks even in front of the children. Or the children have expressed concerns. We don’t know. It very well could be frivolous. But defending the motion would not be to raise the issue that David is living with someone. It’s irrelevant.
My divorce was 10 years ago, and both of us were forbidden from cohabitation, or having overnight guests when the children were present. My ex would pick up randoms on a regular basis, I insisted on that language in my final decree. It’s not controlling when you want your children safe.
Was it a personal decision not to have any co-habitation by either party or over-night guests? I’m currently getting a divorce in NJ and they told us in a mandatory meeting we had to attend about children & divorce that we’re all separated, on our way to divorce and have no say over how the other person lives their life. We also have no say in how children are introduced to a new partner or date. It was very clear. The lady was patronizing she said, “That’s why they call it divorce people!”with a smile. I think there should definitely be a discussion about when and how a new partner is introduced.
WAIT! YOU STILL ARE NOT DIVORCED? My Lord, I am so sorry you are still going through this I remember when it started and it seems so long ago!
Yeah I know. We’re getting there, it’s been a 27 month long rollercoaster.. You were incredibly supportive when I came on here to vent soon after he left. I always appreciated it. I was naive and trusting. I was unaware that he was doing a lot of creative accounting. It’s been a big lesson in my mid-fifties. I recently decided to pack it in and not go to trial and take a shitty settlement. The stress has done on a job on me and worse my teenage son. We need to move on. (btw, It’s amazing how fast men move on-especially to younger women!) As painful as it is, I keep reminding myself there are women who have it much, much worse than me.
It absolutely was a personal decision, I would have contested every minute detail if it wasn’t in there. He introduced my kids to an addict stripper with a mile long rap sheet. He’s over his mid life crisis, and is dating a nice woman now, plus my kids are all over 18 so I could care less what he drags in, but at the time I would have been arrested over his antics with my children.
Slice o pie I remember when this happened to you. Sorry to hear it’s still not resolved. Stay strong & keep the faith. I truly hope you are doing well. Take care of yourself. Love seeing you in the comments. Happy Holidays to you & yours Marc
Where I live, not sure if it is a state or county guideline, divorcing parents with children under 18 must take a mandatory class before being granted a divorce. The class strongly suggest not introducing your children to anyone you are dating unless you are in a committed relationship. Also, not to talk badly about the other parent to your children. A guideline of good advice but that is pretty much it.
Mississippi being one of those. Friends have gone through ten years of hell just to get a damn divorce. I believe California is a fairly easy state in regards to divorce law. Easy isn’t the right word but it surely can’t be as backwards as MS.
In CA an uncontested divorce can be done in as easy as 6 months. That’s the fastest you can get a final judgment. There are intricacies to it, but I think in any state circumstances can make the process difficult.
David seems to be vendictive and a control freak and this is yet another way for him to control Shannon’s behavior. To my lay person eyes it’s very emotionally abusive and if he was like this even a little bit in their marriage, she should’ve divorced him a long time ago.
I totally agree. I would have said the same thing had you not beat me to it.
David is a douche and has hooked up with one.
I may be wrong, but why is Shannon’s behavior on a tv show admissable as some sort of confession – yet when Jason did the same to Bethenny – referring to Bethenny taking drugs and drinking – that notion was “no way in hell will the judge etc.”
but with Shannon, suddenly Gina is a truth teller? ha . all season Gina bitched about Shannon never spending any time with her and the time they spent – Gina later slammed and bitched about Shannon behind Shannon’s back.
Remember it was David that told Vicki that Shannon sleeps all day and then drinks – Gina wasn’t there, nor was Tamra or Vicki when both decided Shannon is drinking her problems away. Job well done. – yet at the reunion both said they don’t believe Shannon has a drinking problem.
obviously, David is copying Jason and seeing what will stick. He knows what will annoy and poke Shannon, and this would be it. I don’t think Shannon has a drinking problem, Shannon shares EVERYTHING with us, she would have alluded to it by now, or we would have seen it in her IG stories/facebook etc.
Put on the spot how many would say their friend didn’t have a problem? Most would say their friend is just fine. Ivory likes to rock the boat. Any time anyone brings up Shannon’s drinking I go back to her first season and when she and David went away and she had to guzzle vodka just to try and be intimate with him. She’s got issues and alcohol is one of them, in my opinion.
Not to mention she doesn’t really share everything with us. The other women said Shannon had a boyfriend who we never saw or heard anything about until the reunion.
Plus, Shannon doesn’t really share everything with us. The other women said Shannon had a boyfriend who we never saw or heard anything about until the reunion.
Agree .Everything you just said. David is just awful. Always played innocent ! Remember Fancy pants bbq when he practically mounted Meghan at the outdoor bar ( who had not even been cast as a housewife yet she was a friend of the Dubrows) ? He is ghastly. Team Shannon all the way.
I think Shannon knows she uses alcohol as a way to cope with her problems but doesn’t want to admit it. She’s in denial about so many other things just like needing medication. Her ridiculous claim that only weak people take antidepressants. She couldn’t be farther from the truth.
The judge will probably throw this motion out. David just wants to make this divorce as messy as possible. Why does his gf have to post something on social media? Just adding fuel to the fire.
Shannon needs to get off this damn show and focus on her health and more importantly, her children. That will be the day since Shannon’s whole life revolves around Shannon. It’s really sad how delusional she is. The show and her “image” have become her number 1 priority.
It’s completely bizarre that a person in a contested divorce, with custody issues & complicated finances would decide to try & go thru a divorce without a lawyer.
Especially a person who easily afford one! It’s mind boggling.
It’s another manifestation of his ego, whereby he thinks he knows it all and is going to do a better job than any lawyer could.
Shannon and her girls seem to have a really open dialogue. I think they would have approached her about not drinking if they had an issue with it.
I hope we’re going to see Shannon blossom in the next year or two. It would be great to see her find some stability and calm in her life. I think things would be so much easier for her if she would just chill out! That’s a story I’d love to watch.
I agree. Her girls seem level headed and straight forward. The only way this has any legs is if they were actually concerned enough to speak with their father about Shannon’s alcohol consumption. I’d love to see Shannon prosper and truly be happy.
There is absolutely nothing about Shannon I like. She is an emotional bully. That being said, this motion seems frivolous and more like control on David’s part than anything else.
Shannon can be nutty and is self absorbed, but I think, being the armchair psychologist that I am, that David is a covert passive aggressive narcissist. This new lady better watch her ass. Once he’s done with Shannon, he’ll start doing the same to her – they always do.
I feel torn about this one. I think the girls hate Shannons drinking, but are afraid to set her off by telling her so. I remember one of them making a crack about her only idea of fun is drinking. I think its why they are happier in Davids care. I dont think you have to be an alcoholic to effect your kids negativly with drinking
I feel bad for Shannon though as she will probably struggle with losing her control of the girls
I think she is the controlling one, and doesnt want to let go and let them have their own opinions. She wants them to take her side, without question, and not have them look at her behaviours. It doesnt work like that when kids get older and youre going thru custody battles.
I agree completely
Are Trav and David friends?
If David is nasty enough to give his wedding ring to his daughter, then I wouldn’t put it past him to have the girls testify on Shannon’s drinking. What is said on the show is hearsay IMO. Shannon has lost more weight and looks great, so doubt she’s drinking.
Now, there’s a mean statement! I knew a man once who actually put ALL of his children’s family photos on the table and said . . I am leaving ALL of you!
Does Shannon have a drinking problem? Who are we to diagnose her? However it’s obvious her drinking causes problems so I’m thinking the judge may issue a temporary order which is in line with what David is requesting. He should be ordered to follow the same stipulations. I think it would do Shannon a lot of good just take a step back from alcohol and really deal with her feelings in a more productive way.
David’s girlfriend should only ever talk about Shannon with her closest family and friends behind closed doors when the daughters are not in the same building. It doesn’t speak well to her character that she had a hissy fit on social media, especially considering Shannon never said anything bad about her.
Well said !
I think the way this woman has behaved is absolutely disgusting. She’s just a nasty human being. They both intentionally flaunted their relationship weeks after he was separated including pic’s of them kissing. It was obvious they both wanted to hurt Shannon and didn’t give a toss about the children’s feelings. I don’t understand why this woman was so nasty to Shannon straight away. I’d want to give her a slap (or two)
This whole scenario is pathetic. The older chubby wife is cast aside by the cheating hubby after a dozen years of marriage and cheating. He has a brand new younger/prettier skinny girl now. The old girl/wife is struggling with her self esteem. Is she desirable/fuckable? Can she find a new man? Does she even want one? David’s biggest fear is supporting Shannon for the rest of his/her life! I hope she gets her fair share! Shannon is a beautiful woman and I hope she will eventually realize her worth!
I agree 100%. I can’t imagine having a woman go on social media talking about how much she loves my kids. The same woman I got dumped for. What a loser. I feel for Shannon. I really do
David’s behavior is pretty text book for controlling and abusive men. They come in different forms and David is the passive aggressive, poor me, covert type. He also strikes me as a narcissist. Why is he representing himself instead of hiring a lawyer? Well, he knows all and can do a better job than any lawyer in his mind. This also is typical behavior from abusive men and narcissists. We saw with our own eyes his passive aggressive put downs of Shannon. Over the years that she was on the show I saw behavior from both of them that was typical of an abusive relationship where David was the abuser. The other thing that abusers and narcissists do? Move on quickly and love bomb their new girl friends to win them over while still trying to control their former spouse or partner. They often pick “winners” that themselves are somewhat narcissistic or immature who will bad mouth the ex on social media or to anyone in ear shot all based on what their boyfriend tells them about their ex. It is immature, petty, and mean spirited. Having helped many people get out of these types of relationships I have seen the pattern. David doesn’t want to live with Shannon but he also still wants to control her, their children, and everything else in their lives. I hope that the judge assigned to this case recognizes David’s personality type and that Shannon’s lawyer does as well.
Lesley Cook beginning to sound like #hiashley.
My ex tried to continuously infer that I had a drinking problem throughout our divorce. He tried to put it in the custody agreement that I couldn’t drink when I had the kids with me. Of course, he had moved out of state with his new girlfriend so I had them the majority of the time. Luckily the mediator got him to back down, but it shook me that this person who was my safe space could try that. He is also one of those “nice guys” whom everyone loves but people don’t ever truly get to know who he is. So I am the “crazy ex-wife” who is “unreasonable” about demands, but I feel that for men like that it isn’t about doing what’s right, it’s about winning. And by winning I mean controlling the outcome of every situation, especially when it relates to their public image and money. They can’t be happy just living their lives. They have to make sure that you aren’t living yours. It’s a very subtle form of control and abuse, and most people don’t realize that it’s happening. It took me 14 years to discover that I shouldn’t be treated this way, and honestly, I’d still be married to him if he hadn’t left. Like Shannon, my focus was on keeping the family together. It was more important to have my kids happy and safe. I hope that she gets the support she has earned throughout the marriage. And I hope she earns enough to make sure he cannot control her life forever.
Oh boy, are you correct on all counts, ‘i have been in the same relationship and it totally sucks when the male is the denominator of the relationship.I think I said that right, but may not have. Anyways, I have been there done that, not doing it any longer, broke free of him after 17 yrs. on my own now , much better off, and Shannon will be too, but the drinking is a no no for me and kids no matter what the age, alcohol is not going to improve any situation when they are so impressionable, she should not be self medicating in front of them EVER. That is my opinion and I am entitled to it. The end.
Tragic. But we all watched her cope with alcohol since she first started on this show. I note he is asking her not to drink WHEN SHE HAS THE KIDS. So clearly the kids are telling him things and/or it’s become a problem when the kids are alone with Shannon. I am sure they are worried about their Mom and her coping “skills.” My best guess is Shannon will agree to this request since it’s a no-brainer and the Court will order it anyway. The kids have suffered enough. Shannon needs serious help and it’s not going to come from “Dr. Moon” or some guy selling crystal amulets.
Considering the daughter’s ages this is silly. By the time they finish fighting over custody the girls grown and they both wasted a whole bunch of money just to prove who’s more right. I
I would suggest that David and his new GF look up Betty Broderick and watch the movies that were made for TV. Not saying that Shannon would kill them while they are sleeping, but very similar situations.
I took a peak at the new girlfriend’s IG and I’m team David. He looks happy and relaxed, far from what he was on the show. When Shannon came on the show, she was such a wanna be herbal Heather Dubrow. David just wanted to drink his Pabst and didnt give a rip about Lemons and fueng shei. Shannon does not seem fun ever. And look how mean she’s been and apologetic to everyone on the show. That doesnt change because of cameras. I think everything David does is out of spite in this divorce but Im sure it’s because Shannon was ..Shannon. Love or hate Kelly, she called it when she said it. And I hate Tamra but I’ll defend that Simon was probably the jerk in that marriage.
David is a shit heel. Making the girls testify to their mother ( a mother an adult & grown woman ) is horrendous. David is playing dirty. Reading here that Shannon agreed to take less in support makes me believe in the quality of her character. If she wants to drink in her own home it should not be questioned. Loads of people drink at home to relax. I dont drink but I dont think any less of people who do. David is really petty. Yes she emasculated him constantly but I also seem to remember him flirting with every woman with a pulse on screen as well. I like Shannon & her girls very much. David needs to find another whipping post. Alledgedly.
Aren’t the girls in high school with cars? I have the same questions regarding the notion that her drinking can be monitored. I just don’t want the girls to have to get wrapped up in this mess of a divorce, because it appears that they enjoy both of their parents and haven’t taken sides…
Why in holy hell has this dumbass not hired a lawyer?
That fact right there tells me something is seriously wrong with that guy. As nutty and as annoying as Shannon is, David is the crazy one.
I don’t believe or trust him one bit.
Wow what a bastard, to try and keep his children in a safe and healthy enviroment! ?? People just hate David because he cheated on perpetual victim Shannon, so they hate anything he does. I had this stipulation in my divorce paperwork, and it sure as hell wasn’t because I wanted to control my Ex
I donr hate David. I think cheating is more often a symptom of marital problems, rather than that the person who cheated, is a bad person. Ive known many good people men and women, who have cheated. Some worked it out and some didnt. I thought Shannon wasnt that good of a wife. Cheating is only one bad behaviour in a marriage, and theres many shitty behaviours. I think he has a legitimate concern, and thats not control. I dont think David gives a rats ass what Shannon does or is up to, unless it effects his girls. To me, the more time goes on, and David is in a happy stable relationship, thats proof he wasnt some abusive monster, and maybe Shannon carries some fault. Who cares though? Ita done and over. Time to move forward and get on with life. Some couples just dont work. Men love their kids too, and I dont understand why its only the women who are assumed to be in the right. Women screw up plenty when it comes to their kids. They are not perfect.
Shannon , hes a jerk.The judge will see right thru his Bullshit..Remember your a great Mom.Hes just evil..Someday that youngen.will get tired of him that old man and dump him.Karma works.