90 Day Fiancé is trash TV. Much like junk food, it tastes so good in the moment. Mama’s boy Colt continually disappoints Larissa. Sweaty Eric barely tolerates spoiled Leida. Ashley experiences racism for the first time. Pretty Fernanda somehow loves aging frat boy Jonathan. Kalani’s family. Other than the Olga storyline (which gives me major anxiety), 90DF is the mindless good time I need on a Sunday night. And tonight is the episode we’ve been waiting for: “Who is against the queen will die.” It’s Larissa vs Debbie, the biggest showdown since RuPaul vs Michelle. This is prime 90DF, the filet mignon of hot dogs. Warning: This post (and comments) could contain 90DF spoilers

In tonight’s episode, Leida kicks Tasha out of the house; Jonathan’s past catches up to him; Ashley and Jay worry about their safety; Kalani confronts Asuelu about their issues; Steven and Olga’s plans get derailed; Larissa and John (the cousin?) have an explosive fight. So what do you think? Does Larissa deserve an Emmy? Is Olga actually in trouble? Will Kalani ever trust Asuelu? Should she? Share your thoughts with like-minded friends. We hate the cast but love the show.
Does anyone else think that Asuelu seems a little dull? What was Kalani thinking bringing him over here to get married? She will have to support this man-chlld and the baby and hire someone to take care of them when she is working. Am I missing something?
He is a bit sheltered. I’m not sure how much of his um… slowness…(Can we still say slowness which you know, is a synonym for retarded) is amplified for the show. I mean I was raised in Tripoli, Libya in the late seventies and it was like a HUGE time warp but everyone still knew how to hold a baby and had grocery stores (um, of sorts, it was mostly the souk) etc.
I think his age is part of it but I do think they are playing that up, just like the rich girl is playing up her vast wealth in the Philippines. And my family has a TON of Brazilians and the ones with accents are nothing like her random addition of an E on the end of every word.
When my daughter was a baby she added e to the end of every word too but she outgrew it. My Ancestry.com says we’re not Brazilian so the e is a mystery.
tamara !!! i am lying in bed with my 4 yr old trying to keep her asleep and your first line: i died giggling !
love your blunt replies ?
Asuelu definitely comes off as being “slow”, but I’m wondering if it’s more the results of his village upbringing than an actual low I.Q. Whatever, the reason, he’s not very quick on the uptake most of the time. Still, he was smart enough to set Kilini (spelling?) straight when she was trying to get him to say that Kalani’s citizenship and money were the reason he wanted her. He set her straight pretty quickly, saying it was her sweet personality (???) and true love that attracted him. Whether that was true or not remains to be seen.
Correction: “Whatever the reason,”…
I agree. I don’t think Asuelu is dumb. First of all, he is really young. Second of all, he grew up in a village on a remote island! Kalani herself said the solution to a baby being hungry in Samoa is to just go crack a coconut. Samoans have a different way of life and to Americans it probably appears very simple. To me, that does not translate to being simple-minded.
Also, Asuelu will forever have my heart after he did his airport dance!
Do I remember hearing she quit her job to spend time with him? WTF!
EXACTLY! I actually thought that she was rather dimwitted for quitting her job! It’s not as though these shows pay much. It seems like it would have been more appropriate and, ummmm… ADULT like if she KEPT her job, and took off a week or two to train Asuelo in the ways of taking care of a baby AND of the SAFETY rules and regulations. I would have written things down, a manual of sorts, for him to refer to. It’s not fair to Asuelo because she apparently expects him to somehow automatically *know* how to raise a baby, what safety precautions to take, etc and when doesn’t do what she WOULD want him to do, she (and all of her family) treat him like a child and emasculate him. Of course he’s acting out!
They should BOTH use this time not working to take parenting classes. Don’t trust him with the baby? Train him.
Maybe its just me but the cuddle talk was uncomfortableto watch.
I was bamboozled that Kalani felt after he cried about cuddles that now she feels better about marrying him. ??? Like ok that’s great wisdom and justification there lady.
hahah, I know right? Like all of a sudden she wants to marry him again because he likes to be cuddled? Hilarious. It wouldn’t work for me. I am one of those people that cannot be touched during my sleep. We’re in Florida; I am hot, please do not put parts of your body on me lol!
Lmao! My husband is kolache and within 5 minutes I’m dying so same here ?? maybe cause kalani is also a kolache club member she cannot do the cuddling ????♀️
Amanda, what is kolache? The only thing I could find on the goog is Czech pastry. I have to admit, marrying pastry is something I could get behind.
Yeah a little fat sausage in breading. I have many loving fat names for hubs. He’s bald and when he shaves his beard I say he’s the president of the chicken nugget association. All lovingly of course ??
That’s adorable!
How is this considered a recap?
It’s no a recap. It’s discussion thread for the episode because so many things come on Sundays and it is a tedious 2 hour show. It’s for the people that watch the show not for the people who just want to read to stay up to date. However, the comments will be helpful to those who don’t have two hours on a Sunday to watch.
I just noticed last night when Eric came on it said his age is 40! HAHAHAHA. That’s a joke also. Poor Colt, that is all I can say. I believe he is afraid of the crazy chick and also P*ssy whipped.
How about Colty being a good lovey in the bedroom!!! I threw up in my mouth over that one! The only using she’s done is for that fine body! ?
Leida needs to go on back home. Nothing Eric does will ever be good enough in her opinion. I look forward to seeing Eric’s first wife straighten her out next week.
Agreed. Leida is incredibly self absorbed! She should stop and think… If Eric (who’s no prize) was quick to or EVER agreed to give up his kids or stop paying child support, that would tell her EVERYTHING about his character regarding her and HER kid! She probably wishes that her ex-husband would have wanted to pay child support for their son. Leida’s constant threat of returning to Indonesia is emotional blackmail and is a surefire predictor of an extremely dysfunctional and ultimately bad ending relationship!
I would pull a Coltee….I’m looking up flights to Brazil….or Indonesia as it were.
Leida, just quit and go home. Our laws provide that the non-custodial parent provides financial support. We don’t care what the laws are in your country. I’m not a fan of any the Americans on this program; however, I give credit to Eric for standing up to her re: supporting his minor daughter.
I’m fairly new to this program but think it has to be heavily scripted. Otherwise, I am losing all faith in mankind’s cognition. It’s one thing to be young and dumb and in love and quite another to be 30+ and making these idiotic decisions.
Coltie needs to do something about Cousin John. He has come into his home, and his fiancee’s home,SCREAMED AT CURSED AT LARISSA like she is a piece of garbage. Colt should not allow that in his home. AT ALL. He should have thrown John out on his ear. John may be right about everything but he doesn’t get to verbally assault Larissa and Colt should never have allowed that to go on.
I couldn’t agree more! I just watched that part and I actually wonder how John’s wife must deal with his anger? Surely he is verbally abusive to her as well.
The point you made about John attacking people in their own home is very valid. Awful!
It was hard to watch coltee not stand up for his fiancé. That would have been a deal breaker for me. I know Larissa has her faults, but she is putting up with a lot as well.
I have to watch this show in segments because the 2 hours gets to be too long, haha!
Agree 100%! *Coltie* ? LOVES this because he feels like it’s his cousin showing him love. I don’t think Colt even enters the equation, nor does Debbie… *Cousin John* is a red neck MOUTHPIECE enjoying his 15 minutes of fame decrying people coming to America for a Green Card. He NEVER would have behaved that way if he had ANY respect for Colt or Debbie, because that’s Colt’s fiance and Debbie’s home. What about the fact that he was screaming like a crazy person in front of his own CHILDREN? And frankly, his wife didn’t act as if this were the first time she’d ever seen him act like a screaming lunatic.
Apparently, John owns a business in Las Vegas. Woman are showing him on a business, $$$ level that he spoke to Larissa inappropriately. The pig will probably be out of business soon.
John was 100% fighting Debbie’s fight. She wound him up and set him loose on Larissa. That was disgusting and no matter how badly she wants to stay in the US, Larissa should not marry a man that will let his family do that to her. In her own home.
The fact that Colt took her to the tallest building in town to propose when she says she’s terrified of heights, AND kept teasing her, shows what a weird sadistic control freak he is. He sat by quietly while the jerk berated his fiance because he’s just as emotionally abusive; I think he, not the mom controls that house.
I cannot believe the kid in Russia thinks he is going to take a newborn away from his mother and just magically take care of him all by himself. He needs to work with the Embassy to either expedite her visa or extend his. Does he even have a job? Where does he live?
I think Tasha getting thrown out is a good thing.
Who is that bitch screaming at the ditzy blonde and the Jamaican kid. Speaking of which, That Jamaican kid can’t even drink or gamble in Vegas. But he can hire hookers!
No way Russia would let him take that baby out of Russia without its mother.
Hey TT, sorry I’m late to the party. I am way behind on shows and on these blogs. Steven has been living with his grandmother because his parents kicked him out. He sleeps on her couch. He got thrown in jail before he even graduated from high school. And I’m not even sure he graduated. He spends his days skateboarding. I believe he met Olga when she was in the United States, and not the other way around like most of them meet their prospective spouses when they go to their country. I could be wrong about that part. But, on the first episode or two they went into his history quite a bit and he’s been a good for nothing. He was professing that he would turn his life around to be a good example for the baby, but I’m not sure he’s got it in him.
Leida is pretty vile. I know there is editing but some things just come right out of her mouth…are BRUTAL! And I agree…John was correct in what he was saying but out of line in Colt’s and Larissa’s home..whoa..loose canyon alert.
Also, Fernando is the youngest of the bunch but is the most mature. She’s the only one who seems to be in it for love and not the Green Card.
Ok, maybe Olga too. I think her interest is in doing the right thing for her baby.
TammyinVa, I really love how Fernanda is trying to talk sense into Jonathan about repairing and rebuilding his relationship with his Mother. As I was watching this, I couldn’t help but think that I wish Jonathan’s Mother could have see that footage then, and realize that Fernanda is actually the BEST thing for her relationship with her son! I really hope that his family supports her, because even though she’s very emotional and immature in many ways… She has a good heart and is a good woman and loves Jon.
I agree with all the positive remarks about Fernanda. I think she’s truly in love with Jonathan (wisely or not) and, if he’s at all smart, he’ll grow up, repair his relationship with his family, and thank his lucky stars that someone as beautiful and compassionate as Fernanda is giving him the time of day.
I’m not at all convinced that Olga is in love with Steven. She might have thought she was while they were enjoying their hot summer fling,but, since then, she’s seen a truly ugly, self-centered side to him and I don’t think she’s impressed. However, I’m sure she thinks that any life in the United States would be better for her son than the life she could give him in Russia, and maybe she and Steven will sort things out. I personally can’t find even one tiny thing about Steven to like, but for Olga’s and Richie’s sake I hope he can grow up and start putting others first.
What do we really know that is verifiable fact about Leida? She seems to more likely to be a maid for a wealthy family rather than member of it. Maybe her family are live in servants in the affluent household.
Something is very “off” about her and not just her ugly personality or lack of manners.
June Cleaver..I agree!! 29 and done with residency and internship? Maybe it’s different???
They’ve quit the show and don’t understand why Leida is so hated? I keep waiting on Eric to tell her child support is a law! I think Tasha should go as well, but not like that! Her name is on the lease. This is permanent damage to a parent-child relationship. She claims to be getting death threats! (Not spoilers on show). I think she may be the most evil person on the show, ever.
She put the daughters medical records on Facebook. She’s said horrible things to the little girl…go back to Indionesia! She sure isn’t here for Eric and what he provides. She wants to be a US doc.
It is obvious that Larissa, Colt, Eric, Olga, Asuelo, and Kalani were all in “special” classes when they were in school