Here in the ghetto, Christmas lights are going up this week, the city tree lightings have begun and people are trying to get into a more festive mood. I realize that the holidays are hard for some, but I’ve always made a conscious effort to be thankful during this week, and focus on the good things in life. I’ve talked extensively here about dealing with anxiety and depression currently I am trying to pull myself out of the hole. I watch A LOT of Christmas movies on the Hallmark Channels. I try to avoid the news for a bit even though I am a news junkie. While I am consciously looking for thanks to uplift my spirit, I keep my eyes open for others who are single during the holiday season and check in with them. It is a considerable effort to push through the desire to just give in and let depression and anxiety win.Β The biggest part of the plan is avoiding as much negativity as possible.
One of the things I learned early on about writing here is that the people who I am writing about often read here. Many people on reality shows, especially during their first season, comb the internet looking for every mention of their name. Sometimes they reach out to me to let me know how they feel about the site and how they are received here. Sometimes they like what they read and thank me for that, other times they are very hurt by what they have read. So you may want to keep that in mind when you comment.
Today I was sent something from Gina Kirschenheiter’s twitter feed.
I was glad to see Gina face the trolls head on. I’ve never understood people who track down the housewives they dislike to insult them. My reaction to people I dislike is to avoid them. I certainly don’t pursue random strangers to make sure they know my super duper important feelings. It seems unnecessarily cruel.
I’ve spoken with editors of other sites about this issue because it seems to be happening everywhere. I don’t think a lot of commenters understand that we read all the comments and it has an effect on our moods. We’re at a loss of what to do about it. Trying to limit political conversations seems to have worked well, yet on topic comments tend to escalate.
I’m all for fighting amongst ourselves about things, but sadly there are some things that need to be pointed out in the commenting rules. Posting a photo of a 47-year-old woman preparing to deliver a baby after a high risk pregnancy has led to nasty arguments in comments. Perhaps a joyous occasion is not the time to spew vitriol.Β Not too long ago we had to have this conversation about mocking someone’s suicide. Every day I delete comments from people who mock children and make fun of their looks. There are a lot more comments here daily than the ones you see. The overall tone of comments is getting more and more depressing. After a recap people post comments listing all the things they hate about the people on the show. Again, I try to avoid things that I hate. I can’t stand horror shows so I do not watch them. I do not go to horror sites and talk about how much I hate them. I do not track down people on social media to tell them how much I hate the show and they will probably get divorced for being on such a violent show. I just watch my sappy little Christmas movies and let horror fans enjoy their thing.
That said, there is no commenting rule that all comments have to be nice or that you can’t get in heated arguments in comments.Β There are no commenting rules about foul language. There are no commenting rules about fighting with other commenters. We have been fighting with each other in comments since this site began. I’m less interested in what y’all are saying to each other and more interested in what you are saying about the people on the show that we watch together. There are commenting rules protecting them. Stupid nicknames are not allowed here, attacks on physical appearance are not allowed (except for cosmetic surgery, it’s open season on cosmetic surgery), children are off limits, family members that are not on the show are generally off limits.
I’m just asking for a little bit of common sense. If your comment every week on every show is a list of all the housewives and what you hate the most about all of them, please keep it to yourself or go somewhere else. I heard you the first fifty times. It’s not good for my mental health to read redundant nasty comments every week that disparage the people on the show. Talk about their ACTIONS in the episode and how you felt about what happened this week rather than just saying Tamra is a bitch and I hate Vicki.
And for the love of GOD, PLEASE READ THE COMMENTING RULES! It will save us all a lot of headache. I’m headed off to comments now to tell you how wrong your opinions are. π
And Merry Fucking Christmas.
xoxo
Perhaps you should consider being a little more kind yourself. You attract what you put out. Just because you get the sads every now and then and want to break out the violins, those of us that read daily know just how negative, hurtful and nasty you can be.
It amazes me how the tides and trolls turn with whatever mood you’re in. I read because I’m interested and for some reason I’m still amazed at the negative energy but please spare me the self righteous b.s. when you yourself are the antagonist on far too many occasions.
Absolutely pious statement. Kicking someone when they are down is cruel. Go look in the mirror & count your own flaws before commenting on someone else’s daily struggle. You need self reflection more than anyone.
Truly go fuck yourself. You miss the point, and clearly do not need to comment or teach us anything.
So again, go fuck yourself.
Agreed.
Heaven must not be a regular or careful reader here.
Thanks, TT. The nattering nabobs of negativity are contagious.
Kkbella, Exactly what I was going to post. I generally try to avoid troll posts, but this one is over the top.
Please read up about depression. It is not about violins and self-pity. It is difficult even for those who have it and treat it to understand. TT brings joy to most who read it, even if we disagree with some comments. That is more than lots of others do.
Heavn_sent, you failed to realize that this is my site that I pay for. One of the things a I pay for is the ability to block certain IPs from viewing the site. You are the first commenter I’ve ever used that with usually the WLS is enough. I’m sure there are other ways for you to get online in DC, but this IP will no longer work for you so basically I am talking to myself right now.
But if you gone around the IP ban, I wanted to ask you to kindly go fuck yourself with a splintery turkey bone.
Ohhh man!
I’m trying to catch up tonight, read heavn’s post and just wanted to make a tiny comment about TT’s site, TT’s rules, love it or leave please etc… Ya’ll beat me impressively! No point in adding anything else since she can’t even see us now. Gotta say, I kinda like it. You’re the best Tamara, thank you for all you do.
Ummm a “splintery turkey bone” LOL thank you for making my Thanksgiving Eve start with a laugh!
Damn, my turkey meal is screwed up for sure. I’ll never look at a turkey w/o thinking of a “splintery turkey bone” up my…..
Sorry. I was going for the whole season insult thing.
I appreciate a seasonally appropriate insult! π
Is that bad?
Iβm actually inclined to agree with you. This knife cuts both ways. Content sets the tone for the comments. Β―\_(γ)_/Β―
Thatβs very sweet of you, TT, to think of other singles during the holidays. Folks, please think of the older, single people too. We have a couple of neighbors who are in that situation and try to help as much as possible, particularly during hurricane season or bad storms. An invite for a meal, taking a plate or a small gift of veggies from the garden is always welcomed by them. A happy and safe Thanksgiving to all.
Beautifully stated. So important & true. I find it helps to reach out to others, not only during the holidays but year round. HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO ALL xo Marc
I am terribly sorry for your loss. May you find the strength to have peace this holiday season. God bless you and your family.
Thank you. Things will never be the same but we go on anyway.
Heartbreaking. Warmest regards to you & yours. Marc
I’m so sorry for your loss Jaded. This is my 2nd holiday without my son. It’s very hard and reading this site helps me. I skip the negative and read the amusing comments.
You get it then. I’m sorry, I wish you didn’t. Hoping your holiday is good anyway. My son left a 4 year old. We’re hoping to have him. That will help.
great post! Common decency should’t have to be a “rule”.
Hopefully the people who need to hear this message receives it.
Yes and the whole comparison of person woe has got to stop (as youβve mentioned before). There is so much grief and sadness in the world that I try to be thankful for something everyday. A peaceful and quiet and still early dawn morning. My newly adopted pup Jolly. The smell of my favorite candle burning. That I am a strong and single 48 year old who kicks serious ass in the gym.
A hearty HAPPY Thanksgiving greeting to everyone out there.
Personal woe…
Adopted pups make everything better!
…or kitties!
The reason I chose this site is because of your commenting rules. This site is real and honest yet civilized at the same time. We get to know other commentators and even though we may not agree we should always still be caring and respectful of each other and what principles you have and running this site
My son also Just passed away my heart is so broken as I am sure yours is. I make sure I go do one thing every day and thatβs it. I hope u find some serenity which I myself have not. But I hope u find yours. My tears are flowing with and for you.
I’m so sorry for you as well. It’s not a club I wish anyone to be a part of. Doing something good everyday is a great idea. Keep it up! I’m thinking of you
This will be 2nd Christmas without my brother. As much as I miss him, I know for my mom itβs much much worse. My heart breaks for all of you. No one should ever have to bury a child.
Omg I read the comments on those other sights and itβs always the same people and they are so vile and disgusting. They will take anyone they donβt likes happiness and rip it to shreds. Thanks for having standards on yours. Have a fabulous holiday. I sometimes have to comment back to those people and boy they all go into attack mode. Makes me smh. Horrible horrible people out there
Well written perspective from the blogger’s side of life. It’s easy to forget these are real people on and behind our screens.
I was saving this one for the weekend open post where you’ve often requested positivity, but I see you’ve dropped that, so here goes: A hat and a bra are hiking with their group. The bra says to the hat, “You go on ahead. I’ll see what’s holding up these two.” As told by my husband; my oldest said, “That’s the most Dad joke ever.”
Ok, if weβre going to swap bad jokes, I have a bad little kid joke. Here goes.
If youβre an American when you walk into a bathroom, and youβre an American when you walk out of a bathroom, what are you while youβre in the bathroom?
European. Ha!
(Get it? Youβre -a-peeinβ!)
Ha. You outdid me.
I love stupid kid jokes!
Thanks for these. It’s much better than the roll call of dead children posts. Because nothing lightens to tone of a board as I was requesting like talking about dead children.
Sorry. Didnβt want I do that wasnβt thinking. Have a happy thanksgiving.
Usually a joke you have to explain doesn’t make me laugh. This is the exception. That was funny. I laughed. π
I have a bad big kid joke. What do you get when you cross a rooster with a telephone pole?
A forty foot dock that will reach out and touch someone.Reaching out is highly underrated and requires a human touch.
Cock. C as in cunt.
Gina is not my cup of tea, but I certainly can stand her on the show, in fact this is the best cast in recent seasons IMO. And as far as attacking people on social media, itβs a mixed bag. Some people are just miserable and hateful while some go on the war path to take up for their favorite housewives without being asked to.
Hey! I gotta roof over my head, warm clothes in the closet, money in the bank to be able to go by a turkey, no hospitalized family members, and no bombs or guns going off outside my house. I am fortunate and damn thankful for it! Every day.
Right on, Suzy Jane.
Gina seems totally sane and self confident; that combination should be the litmus test for future HWs. I hope she stays on the show.
I try to keep it positive. Iβm on day 2 of no complaining after reading A Complaint Free World. Itβs not easy to be a freaking ray of sunshine 24/7, but it does make the hubby happy.
Sending you β€οΈβ€οΈβ€οΈ
Terry once told me if you focus on the problem, the problem gets bigger. If you focus on the solution, the solution gets bigger. Thank you for reminding me to be thankful for what we have and to also be kind. I re-read the commenting rules recently, just to refresh. Thanks T. And please forgive any former trespasses.
The four of you … I am sorry for your losses. I would like to tell you the pain goes away, that time heals all wounds, but that is true for few who I know. Losing a child must be the WORST, but losing any loved one hurts. βChasing awayβ the sad memories when they creep up and relishing the good ones is something I had to work on at first, but THAT does get easier with time. I hope you have a holiday full of remembering good times and making new good memories.
Tamara, if you donβt have it in your Christmas movie rotation, I highly recommend βWilliam Wegmanβs Fayβs 12 Days of Christmas.β Starring Wegmanβs weinaramer Fay Ray and some of her pups. Iβve watched it dozens of times and it always makes me laugh β the dogs like it too. Only available used, but right now there are a few copies through Amazonβs third-party sellers. I hope you have a happy Thanksgiving and thanks for kind words year-round.
OMG, I ADORE WILLIAM WEGMAN!
My adopted in all ways but legal brother and his wife have had 3 Weimaraners. I was still living at home (college aged) when they were newly married and got the first one. I dog sat for them a few times, even when he was only about 3 months old. I adored that nutso dog, and I think he loved me (considering he’d nap on me often) and still miss him nearly twenty years later. How WW got Fay AND the pups to do what they did? I bow down to him… we’re not worthy. Plus the pictures are always hilarious.
Love u TT. I appreciate the reminder about the power kindness.
<3 to everyone. we can all use it.
I really like Gina and Emily……I wonβt say the ones I do not like anymore!!! Great advice TT!! Happy Thanksgiving π¦π½π
You can still talk about the ones you don’t like whenever they do something on the show you don’t like. That’s what we are here for. It’s just the people who make lists like.
Tamra Retarded
Vicki old and ugly
Kelly Gross
Shannon Fat
Rather than something like
I can’t believe what a bitch Tamra was to Emily tonight, she is so self absorbed. Vicki has been on this show to long, we need a refresh, Kelly’s behavior in the restaurant tonight was her most embarrassing scene EVER! I don’t understand why Shannon is eating fatty processed foods like cream cheese when she is trying to lose weight.
Is it rally so hard to see the difference here?
Hope you’re feeling better y’all. I agree with the more positive vibes.βπ» Damn holiday spirit has gotten to me prematurely this year.
**Slightly off topic but since you mentioned the RHOC**
Personally I’d rather go down the Sonja route and have my “pooch” as she calls it lasered if I ever get as down as Shannon is about my body. A life without cream cheese on an onion bagel is not worth living lol.
Kelly’s behaviour makes me laugh. Sign me up for a “big dick daddy” too… though preferably not from Cincinatti. I don’t fancy that long of a cock commute. π
Some people simply cannot formulate a complete thought and provide supporting statements to justify that thought. They may simply write “Vicki is yucky and icky.” Adults with such limited scope make me sad too.
I resemble that remark.
Ha! Gold star post of the day. Thanks for making me laugh, Suzy Jane.
Le sigh.
Perhaps the first step to keeping this place later is not to share our many areas of sadness so that all the comments are not full of condolences and try to lighten things up around here and focus on the stupid show we are watching to FORGET out troubles for five minutes.
Just a thought.
Here’s a little gem about Gina I’m not sure anyone noticed. One dinner the OC OG’s are sipping little cups of white sauce….soup??? amuse bouche??? Nope!!! Gina yells “It’s dressing!” in that great accent!
I love Gina, and Emily.
I cannot believe the number of sad dead relative stories along with condolences I had to remove from the comments on a post about LIGHTENING UP THE FUCKING TONE OF THE BOARD.
We all have dead friends and relatives, we all have illnesses, everyone knows someone with cancer and plenty of people here have it.
THIS STUPID SITE IS SUPPOSED TO BE A PLACE TO FORGET ABOUT THAT SHIT FOR FIVE MINUTES AND SPEND A FEW MINUTES THANKING GOD THAT AT LEAST WE ARE NOT IDIOTS ON A REALITY SHOW.
TT, you know I love you. I have just dipped out of comments until I have something to say.
As the saying goes………………sometimes keep your fucking mouth shut, lol. π( took me 59 years to be able to)
Happy Thanksgiving everyone, and if we are able to comment, that means we woke up and are off to a good start!! Xo
P.s. yes, thank goodness we are not on a reality show. We’d never get past the FCA, at least my family, lol.
Sometimes sad dead relative stories are funny. Just saying.
I could never sit next to you at a funeral.
hahaha. Funerals are where I throw my best shade.
Which reminds me of the Mary Tyler Moore Chuckles the Clown episode for some reason. Best. Funeral. Evah!
Can we all just take a moment and give thanks for Hallmark. My only problem is that I’m gaining weight because of the Christmas movies. Losing the blues, but gaining the pounds.
I find myself purposely buying hot chocolate mix, pumpkin loaf bread, and holiday cookies so I can watch the movies.
Not going to stop. Just needed to share.
I love Hallmark movies! I’m a sucker for a happy ending. Their movies are just plain nice. Thanks for reminding me, I need to schedule ahead on my dvr.
I’m not much for commercials but somehow I saw “grandpa’s nose solo” I was cracking up, highly recommend viewing!
Starting Wednesday night (tomorrow) for the next five nights I think there will be a brand new movie at 8 pm set your DVRs accordingly.
It’s really nice knowing that everyone one will live happily ever after.
We are all going to live happily ever after no matter what are obstacles are. xo Marc
I was never into the Leeann Rimes gossip. Saw her new movie, It’s Christmas, Eve. What a voice. Listened to her early hit, Blue. Wow. Not preaching, but mean girls can sit down.
Love my Hallmark movies. I have been watching them nonstop since October! I enjoy seeing things magically work out everytime, le sigh. Gina has grown on me. I like her but she just doesn’t fit on the show. But if they had a transplants show, the shock of moving to OC and trying to fit into Cali life….she would be perfect! The trolling though is absolutely ridiculous and pointless. Those people need to grow up. Have a good Tgiving TT. I always open up my place to single parents who live far from family and/or don’t have their kids for the holiday due to visitation that year. We laugh, cry, hug and share the struggle for a bit.
This season was boring and thatβs just thevthe truth. I started watching RHOC during its first season when I was still in high school. What I enjoyed about it was a glimpse into how super rich and plastic women live. I enjoy seeing the desperate lengths to which they will go in order to maintain their lifestyle, and I guess that includes acting like jack***es on national television. Maybe Iβm just a player hater of the highest order. Who knows.
Ginaβs makeup is God awful though.
I donβt want to get too abstract with it, but the RH shows are built on this kind of animosity, it seems. Tension apparently garners ratings. The Kardashian empire has even built a massive cache of wealth on negative press.
That said, Iβve also notice that some of your own recaps can be negative. Youβve made snippy/borderline cruel comments about cast members before, and I donβt say that to tear you down, I say that just to illustrate how easily we get caught up in the vibe of the shows we watch.
Oh the majority of my recaps are “negative” it’s negative commentary on some of the stupidity of the behavior we see on these stupid shows. It’s peppered with foul language and often genuine disgust.
The is a difference between mocking someone’s behavior on the show and personal attacks. There is a lot of negative energy in the comments in general. I try not to really recap Gregg’s cancer too much because as soon as you mention cancer there are 50 comments about cancer in the comments. It’s not that I am not symapthetic to people going through things, it’s just that this is not a cancer support forum. There are places you can go online for that. This site is meant to be a PLEASANT DISTRACTION from all of that.
And once again, it’s the laundry list of attacks every single week by the same people saying the same attacks every week over and over that are tiresome.
I am certainly not saying that we all have to be nice to each other and sing Kumbaya and all agree on everything. It’s just that every so off I have to AT LEAST TRY to lighten the joint up a bit or it becomes NOT BUT negativity.
It’s a fine line and all I can do is ask people to stay on topic and try to keep comments to BEHAVIORS you see on the show and mock people on TV for their bodies. Mock their wardrobe, question their plastic surgery but stick to their behaviors rather than their appearance,
It’s a pipe dream that will ever happen, so I just nip it in the bud early as much as possible and send them to the WLS.
I think if y’all saw some of the comments that don’t get posted you would see the difference.
We are all smart peeps (I’m assuming here, and probably making an ass out of you and me… but still)
Can we NOT discern the difference between truly negative and a blog that is heavy on the snark and sarcasm? Because honestly, THAT is what TT is all about. It took me a moment too…. but now I completely get it.
Jesus, if the liberal snowflakes gets it… and sums it up so nicely, WTF is wrong with the rest of you,
For fucksake, I let her post here with a goddamn cat as an avatar.
P.S. She also does fantastic recaps of The Voice and hosts live conversations on those award shows. All the way from California or Oregon or wherever the fuck she lives. My point is if she gets it through her tiny liberal brain, those of you who do not must be retarded.
Ha! This comment right here is exactly why we love you TT!
Hi TT,
i don’t think my last comment posted, but is that really you in the photos they’re posting on the latest Kenya thread in AATT?
I don’t know what they are posting but there are zero photos of me on line. I’m sure whoever’s photo they are posting is highly insulted.
bahahahahha! Hilz, you crack me up! Seriously? Did you even read the original post here?
Hi, That’s ok if you laugh at me. I’m not taking the bait for a fight. Have a great weekend.
When I first came across the site, I was shocked by how mean I thought Tamara was to commenters. I thought to myself, I would never post here…I was too afraid. But for some reason I kept reading and coming back until I finally realized that I was a special snowflake that had a place where I could express myself as long as I followed the rules, and I do try cuz’ I’m still scared! :0
TT I love your site and much like a cheating’ spouse, I may roam a little here or there but I’ll always be back.
Don’t be scared! I have a big bark and no bite. π
When you make comments about a person’s looks, weight, clothes, etc. During a heated discussion. To me it shows a lack of intelligence.
You couldn’t come up with an intelligent response. So you resorted to name calling and personal insults.
I call the type of people described in TT’s post Keyboard Warriors. They say things online they’d never say in real life. FYI – If you don’t feel comfortable saying it offline. Don’t say it online
Oh clothes are totally inbounds. You can’t wear a golden turban over a long blond wig and not expect me to mock it.
I rarely comment but read you daily. You’re on my short list for several reasons: you’re sharp, you see the big picture in these shows in a way that I never could have, and you take the time to explain the why of your opinion. Because of your tutelage, I can better discern what is and is not true in gossip media and sometimes even media in general. You are intensely compassionate, honest, and introspective. You champion important causes. You also regularly scoop large publications. Oh, and the most important part:you’re funny as hell. There are also times you’ve pissed me off, even a few times I pushed back at you. You’ve made me think, often. And that’s really the highest compliment I could pay anyone. It means I have been changed by my interactions with you, passive or active. So fuck the trolls. Fuck anyone who wants to dull your shine. Life is fucking hard enough, and I’m grateful you’ve persevered and continued to post and to be your perfectly imperfect self. Because reading you is part of the positive I do for myself every day. ACK, I’ll hush now. * lopes away awkwardly *
Ah flattery will get you everywhere.
“Because of your tutelage, I can better discern what is and is not true in gossip media and sometimes even media in general.”
I am glad to know that is happening despite the oddball random homophones popping up where they don’t belong, the numerous typos and the random words where my brain decides not to include the last letter or two and the wine consumption during recaps still foster some critical reading skills somewhere.
Also I plan to call you as a character witness when I get arrested. π
I’m all aglow now, a celebrity talked to me! Not being ironic, I’m grinning from ear to ear like a loon. Love to you. I’ve read you for years now. You’re a damned good writer.
Clearly you are having a psychotic break. I’m just a fat old lady in the ghetto sitting on her couch. Dream bigger.
xo
~tt
Thank you TT for sharing your thoughts and re-stating your rules for YOUR site. That first comment got me heated, but you sent them to nevernever land where they belong. I too suffer from all the nasty mind altering crap, an older, single and have a cat. At least the cat doesn’t abandon me when I get really bad…lol.
I’m thankful for my far away family, my across town friends, my social media companions and my happy π pillsπ
Raising my glass in a toast to maybe one day not needing my happy π!
Love you girly. Hope you have a blessed Thanksgivingππ
How the hell did you survive The Great Cat Lady Purge of 2015?
And girl if your happy pills are working take them forever. I’m tried a lot of flavors and they are not helpful for MY CRAZY.
I wasn’t around for the Great Cat Lady Purge of 2015. LMAOππππ
I have to change my flavors every 6 months because my body gets used to them. I’m currently on the Purple cycle, which is what I call the combination that works the best. I’m so happy that this year it’s during the holiday season. Keeps me from ugly crying every day. FB msg me sometime, I’ll give you the combo, who knows, maybe Purple is a magic color!!πππ
I survived the cat ladies purge also and I have 5 cats. This is a good time of year. We had a glorious fall with the hills bursting with orange, rust, golden yellow and bright orange foliage. That sight alone will be worth the doldrums of a grey winter. My little brother is a (what he calls) bright sider. He always sees the bright side of things. I’m trying to follow suit and its working. Just takes a little brain reworking and an occasional relapse, but I’m getting there. Happy day tomorrow spending it with the 6 people I love most in the world and with my nephew pooch. Cant get any better than that. Happy everything to TT and all the readers here.
I WANT TO BE A BRIGHT SIDER TOO! Thank you for this post.
I know someone who must take a very low, low dose due to a genetic inability to process. The side effects outweighed the benefits anywhere near a normal dose. They can test genetics and that helps to understand the best way to use antidepressants and/or other drugs. Idk if this helps, but it certainly helped them.
Wishing a happy, thankful, giving to all. Love the crazy aunt nobody wants to sit next to.
OMG! ME TOO! lol.
I would totally sit next to you, TD. I am the crazy aunt who gets drunk before dinner is served, so it’s all kind of a blurrrrrr…..and a crapshoot!
It occurs to me that all the great purges of this site occur during the holidays when I AM TRYING TO BE A NICE FUCKING PERSON and watch stupid formulaic movies on Hallmark and get drunk and forget what a sad fucked up place the world is!
We all need to just lighten the fuck up BECAUSE IT IS CHRISTMAS!
P.S. I wish the stupid yankees would stop hoarding all the snow. We just want one brief snow shower down here from time to time.
I survived! I was pretty new to posting had been reading. But I am glad to still be here.
Happy Thanksgiving to you and to everyone here. I hope not to be purged any time soon but if I am, it has been a pleasure! xoxoxo
I may ramble here because when I got home after battling traffic I ate dinner and skipped the wine to go straight to the bourbon. I’m feeling sappy.
If a newbie is reading this, they need to know that in many blogs, Tamara lets her snark flag fly. Once you have that “aha!” moment, there is an enjoyment level to it that cannot be matched. I admit, when I first started reading here (don’t even know how I discovered her), I was bothered. But I’ve always had an “online” community starting in the college years on Prodigy. I wasn’t one of those kids who stayed in their dorm room – trust and believe, I was often found in the lounge socializing, etc. while still keeping the grades up. I do like people, but I also don’t find being alone as a lonely thing! My previous one was dying out – a bulletin board (remember those?) and I missed being able to discuss my favorite pop culture stuff. I love that the posts and comments here offer up a variety of opinions while still remaining manageable and intimate.
TT may post stuff that those without a good snark gene might question, this is really a safe space.
When TT says that she checks in on people, she fucking means it. I know this first hand. NOT ONCE has Tamara sent me a “what the actual fuck?” message re: The Voice. Instead it is “Are you ok? Hanging in there?” type of messages. I don’t think she gets how much I appreciate that as I stress over fulfilling my promises (and I will be doing a Voice blog soon) but I’ve been dealing with some real life shit that has filled my plate, and when I am home and able to just sit and watch TV… too mentally drained to actively focus on a blog. Instead, when I offer up the good things I’m doing that are the reason I’m not caught up.. she is happy for me. (Again, classes where I’m not worrying about the grade and bookclub? YAY!)
She even is still willing/encouraging me to do the Award show blog I did last year…. I think I whipped out one for the Oscars in a half hour, ON MY PHONE, I was so freaking excited for the opportunity. Where else can a community discuss such fun shit in real time? The bigger sites are full of fucking trolls and are just overwhelming. I can’t WAIT for Award season this year.
All this and we still get along even though I’m a special liberal snowflake from the Pacific Norrthwest who loves Andy Cohen and likes Heather DuBrow (and thought Shannon was annoyingly batshit from the get go – and whose only redeeming quality was that she is friends with Jeff Lewis)… I’d still buy her a cocktail even tho we differ in politics and favorite HW, because life is so much deeper and richer than that!
Oh shit.. made it about myself. Sorry Tamara. Love you. Have a fan-freaking-tastic weekend. You and everyone here needs to follow one “liberal snowflake kumbaya bullshit” thing – practice self care. Do something silly and fun for yourselves. Hallmark Christmas shows that back in the day that would be considered a “B” movie? Do it! A pedicure? Do it! (make sure they have a massage chair). Consider seeing a movie by yourself – they hide it, but many chain movie theaters have a “snack pack” option. I’m addicted to Regals – a child size drink, two handfuls of popcorn (just the right amount), and a Welsch’s fruit snack) Binge watch Below Deck (best. season. ever.) Or shit, make yourself some tea and discover the Crown. Take a walk or a drive to see who has their lights up while listening to music or your fav podcast.
Jesus Christ at the drunken snowflake. π I didn’t see this before my last post.
I hate it when I love my liberal west coast snowflakes. DO NOT GET SUCKED IN!
I’m drinking Kombucha and have never been so politically confused. Who knew Snowflakes were people too?