Dave and Amber
Oh this is going to be good. Dave and Amber belonged to the same gym. On this episode they go to the gym as husband and wife. It’s a really nice gym. Amber goes to dance aerobics. Dave goes to the weight room. After dance class, Amber and two of her gym friends talk to Dave about their performance. Apparently, he watched the end of the class. She literally brought them over and now she is pissed that Dave is talking to the two girls. She is freaked out because they are brunettes. You know, just like her before she decided to ruin her hair with a crap dye job.
Dr, Jessica stops by to talk about communication. Dave brings up the incident at the gym with the “tall brunette” and Amber’s jealousy. She at first denies she was upset and then says it was because she was a tall brunette and more his type than she is. Dr. Jessica says, “Because of hair color?” She tries to downplay the hair color thing but that is all she ever talks about. Dr. Jessica talks about the hair dying conversation. The really long, extremely stupid hair color conversation. Dr. Jessica says that Amber looks to things to support her insecurities. Dave sees things he could improve on. I am not sure Amber does.
These to go to a ropes course. Dave is blindfolded and Amber has to lead him through the course. Dave doesn’t trust Amber and Amber laugh at his nervousness instead of reassuring him. Somehow they completed the task and they were both proud of themselves.
Oh no. They try to put a piece of IKEA furniture together. I’ve done this before with people I liked and it is still hard.Two hours in Dave brings out the shots. They decide to hire someone to do it.
Bobby and Danielle
It’s Bobby’s mom’s birthday so they gave her a wedding album of their wedding. Is that normal? Danielle and Bobby to say everything is perfect with them. For some reason Bobby is worried about decision day. Bobby’s mom says even when friends move in together there are arguments. She finds it odd there have been no squabbles at all.
Dr. Jessica comes to talk to them about communication. Of course Danielle tells us they don’t need any help with communication. Why? Because, say it with me…everything is perfect. On their video, Bobby gives a long heartfelt expression of his feelings for Danielle and ends by telling her he loves her for the first time. She reads with a creepy smile and “ummm hmmmm.” She says her family is not emotionally expressive and she has never been in a relationship when she needed to express her feelings. She says it’s hard to verbalize and wants to just write things down. Dr. Jessica says to write him love notes and then read them to him as a start to sharing her feelings out loud.
Danielle goes out with Bobby’s mom and sister and they ask if she wants to stay home with kids or work. She wants to work, but Bobby wants her to stay home and his mom and sister both stayed home. The next day, Danielle is going on a work trip. She is leaving all the dogs with Bobby. What does she do with them when he is not there? Bobby says he is going to miss her a 10 on a scale of 1-10. She says she will miss him making her coffee and she’ll miss the dogs. She says it is just four-day and it will go by fast. Her lack of verbalizing that she will miss him is not lost on Bobby. Then Danielle gets it and goes to write him a letter to read to him. She doesn’t read it. She just leaves it for him. Baby steps I guess. 
Tristan and Mia
The two are coasting along in a good place. Dr. Jessica is coming by to talk about communication. She has footage of their conflict to discuss their communication. Tristan realizes by saying he is done he is scaring Mia into thinking the relationship is over. Mia is shocked that she wasn’t communicating at all she just stands there. She says when her parents would yell at her, she would just check out. She is doing that again with Tristan. Tristan cries and needs a break from the conversation. For the first time on this show, I feel like the little communication lesson actually gave them information and tools to approve.
I see why Tristan and Mia were matched. Unfortunately, Mia had some really big secrets and told a few lies. To be fair, I don’t think she knew about the warrant for her arrest because they didn’t serve her out of state.
Tristan talks about moving to Houston to see how Mia is feeling. Mia says it will be an adventure and a fresh start. She is all in. They are optimistic.
Next week: The start planning their long term futures. Tristan and Mia have a huge fight. Dave and Amber disagree on retirement. I suppose things with Danielle are still perfect.
I think Danielle is numb, she doesn’t know how to feel. Everything is perfect for them because Bobby does everything to please her and make sure she is comfortable. He seems to get satisfaction from making sure she is alright.
Unfortunately, she doesn’t know yet, that she should be doing the same. She’s receiving a lot but not really giving.
Marriage typically takes both people giving to the other. Being considerate and thoughtful towards your partner is important.
She’s almost taking advantage of his kindness, especially with the foster dog.
Dave, please run, don’t walk, to the nearest exit. You can’t fix Amber.
Amber needs a very good psychotherapist before she enters into another relationship.
Good luck Tristan. He is trying but I’m not optimistic. Mia seems full of it to me, something is not genuine about her. I sense instability and insecurity. There are probably more skeletons in her closet that she is afraid will come out.
She will likely do something stupid to break his trust again.
I’m starting to question Bobby’s sense of self worth. He’s literally getting nothing out of this situation other than a wife and sex partner.
Both Tristan and Mia are emotionally immature. That’s why they were paired together. Houston may be a good move for Mia. She’ll have some breathing room from her family and maybe she’ll stop behaving like a 7-year-old.
Yeah, something is up with Bobby because he’s getting nothing, nada, from Danielle. She contributes little to the household and looks to be a cold fish. Sometimes you can want something so bad, you’ll do anything to get it and keep it. Poor Bobby wants what his parents and sister have.
If the brunette thing is such a big deal for Amber she should go back to her natural hair color. She’s got huge blue eyes that would just pop against darker hair. Blonds don’t have more fun when they’re an insecure mess! She needs to run to a good psychotherapist as Rmicu stated.
Do you watch Unfiltered? Dave was on this week and he said something similar. He mentioned that going through “the process” they really hype them up about this being a forever thing and needing to work through the bad (I’m paraphrasing). But it makes sense why Tristan and Bobby are sticking by these girls and not saying much.
Next week it looks like Tristan is finally going to crack though.
Did anyone else notice the Dr talking to them was bright blonde with DARK BROWN roots? ?. That was not lost on me!! I read somewhere online that someone actually saw them in person and that she is very attractive. They said she looks like Jessica Simpson old times. She’s TINY. Much smaller than on tv, very petite, which is why she talks about it. I think she’s TINY 5 feet—110? So she wonders about him preferring tall and willowy!! They were a handsome couple. I hope they get it together. Two folks living alone for years in their 30S have a lot of adjustments to make. I hope she realizes her worth and shapes up.
It’s so strange how all of the couples just seem “off”.
Dave is being coached on how to walk on egg shells. I think Amber will always put Dave through hell. He seems like a pretty great guy to talk her down every time but I just don’t think anyone would want to do that for eternity.
I saw a montage of pictures of Amber as a brunette and a color in between the brunette and blond, a dark ash blond. That was a much nicer natural color on her and looked great with her eyes. Her fixation on this bleach blond with dark roots is crazy since her hair is so damaged. Dave must see those other pics if they are online and wonder why?
I don’t believe anything that comes out of Mia’s mouth. It seemed like she came up with “my mother raised her voice” on the fly. Those words were not accompanied by any sadness or fear. Tristan seems too down to earth and kind for her.
Danielle seems like a Stepford wife. Very emotionless. I’m not sure if she has it in her to open up. Her mother seemed odd so I think there’s a deeper story there. One that Mia would love to have knowledge of to pretend it was her truth.
I don’t really think anyone is going to make it long term. Heck, I’ve never made anything long term, LOL. But I think Danielle and Bobby might be the only ones to give it a go but if Danielle doesn’t open up I don’t think it’ll last either.
Mia is a congirl. Both David and Amber have issues and are bad for each other. He’s very critical and judgemental and she’s way too insecure. Danielle obviously has a problem relating to people which is why she has dogs. I do think she is learning. Bobby is over the moon for her. I’m not as worried about the fact that they haven’t had many problems yet. I think they are both in their honeymoon period where they are on their best behavior. They both seem to be working all the required exercises and taking in and using all the suggestions. I just think they both aren’t drama queens like most of the people they get for this show. They both feel they haven’t had anything major to fight about yet, but are sure something will come along to fight about. Wouldn’t it be weird if the other 2 couples want to stay married but Bobby and Danielle get divorced?