Jephte & Shawniece
When we left off with these two, Jephte had left the house in a hissy fit after receiving and exercise that required them to swap phones for an hour. It looked like he called someone to come pick him up. But now we see him in his car calling his friend who gives the good relationship advice. That was a good call and he encouraged Jephte to talk to Shawniece about how he is feeling rather than just taking off into the night. We do not see him going back in the house.
The next morning Jephte left two roses out for her the next morning as an unspoken apology. Shawniece cries a lot in her confessional, but makes up with Jephte pretty quick. Later they work on their marriage goals. They are making a five-year goal. Jephte really wants kids. Both of them are already nervous for their future children. She wants to wait two years to start having kids so they can travel first.
Jon & Molly
The two get a visit from Pastor Calvin. He tries to help Molly get to a point where she can be more affectionate with Jon. We didn’t see much from these two this week. But in the final scene, Molly takes Jon out to celebrate his birthday. They seem very happy and into each other. Lots of smiles. She gives him a quick peck on the lips! Progress!
The Three Husbands Meet With Pastor Calvin
Pastor Calvin says each of the guys need to talk with their wives and set some goals for their marriage. Thankfully, they ask for examples because I am not sure what sort of goals Pastor Calvin is talking about either. Ryan is freaking out because Jackie has dreams to live in another country, or even another city and Ryan has his life and all of his roots in Boston and never wants to leave. Ryan is using foul language while talking to Pastor Calvin. He seems drunk. He says that Jackie says she has a gypsy soul which to him means she will up and leave when she feels like it. He says”that’s fucking not okay with me!” Ryan seems a bit unhinged lately. Pastor Calvin says Ryan is self-sabotaging the relationship. He tells Ryan he needs to start being more submissive to Jackie and allowing her to take the lead at times. Ryan is not keen on that advice.
Ryan & Jaclyn
Ryan returns home from the meeting with Pastor Calvin drunk and angry. Jackie is sick. She wanted Ryan to stay with her but he ran off drinking with his friend.
The next night, they talk about their issues over dinner. In his confessional, Ryan makes it clear that he will not be told he can’t go out with the boys. Yeah, Ryan, you know what? This is not going to work. You are not anywhere near ready to be married. Telling Jackie that she needs to cut him more slack is utterly ridiculous. He doesn’t want to change a single thing about his life. He just wants a wife on stand-by when he feels the need to have a wife. Jackie points out that his “gypsy soul” issue is ridiculous. She also says that if every time he has an issue he is going to go out with the boys and avoid her and talking to the boys about it is a huge red flag. Jackie let Ryan off way to easy.
All Three Couples Go Out
The three couples go out to play on a trapeze outside in the dark. The guys all seem very nervous the trapeze. Jephte is very afraid of heights but is doing it to avoid losing face. Everyone goes for a swing and then break up into a wives group and a husbands group to talk. The girls all think they will probably end up wanting to stay together. Molly says she is not fully prepared to make a decision now. Jackie sort of underplays the problems with Ryan. Shawniece seems a bit worried that Jephte might bail.
Ryan tells the guys it is too early to know what he will decide but, “things are fun for now.” Wow. He is so clueless. Ryan tells the guys that he wanted to stay out late with his friends and she “gave him an attitude” so he decided to stay out later to prove a point.#douchebag Jon points out how stupid Ryan’s games are because they only have eight weeks to make a decision and need to be spending that time together getting to know each other better. Jephte says if this is supposed to be forever so why do they have to rush and decide in eight weeks? He doesn’t want to be pushed.
Why did Ryan even sign up for the show? Did he think being a husband would be the same as being a bachelor, and that his life with his drinking buddies would be the same? It makes me wonder what kind of background he came from where he wouldn’t have seen a couple spending the majority of their time together, and the guy still going out on the town every night. He’s a very self-centered, clueless person, and I think Jaclyn is wasting her time.
I didn’t give Jon much credit in the beginning,m but he was way more mature than Ryan when the guys were talking. He actually got it – you can’t tell whether you”re compatible if you’re out by yourself every night, dude! I also like the way he looks at Molly – I see genuine affection there. Molly seems to be thawing a little bit and that kiss was a first. Wishing them well.
Jephte has me confused. I thought he was fairly happy with Shawniece, especially when they were talking about their future, but when he was talking with the other men he seemed much more hesitant. I can’t read him at all.
Looking forward to the final decision, we could be in for some surprises.,
Absolutely love your blog. After reading your comments about EJ (RHOBH) and now these about Married at First Sight, I am so in sync with you. Your analysis is even better than watching the show. Thank you!
You saved me a lot of writing EnglishRose. I agree with your take on Ryan. He deserves to be a bachelor and Jaclyn deserves much better.
Jim is a catch. Molly is so self-conscious I don’t feel like I’ve seen a genuine moment from her.
Jepthe has the emotional intelligence of a 17 year old and Shawniece is too caught up in giddiness to see the real. She deserves a grown adult man since she basically seems to have it together.
My opinion is all six of them need to unleash themselves.
Ryan’s the type of guy to get jealous when his friends get married and spend less time with him. He needs a friend who happens to be a woman he can see when the urge strikes him. Not a wife.
Yes, EnglishRose and Daintyfeets hit the nail on the head!
Ryan is a d*ck – plain and simple. Jacklyn deserves better. Ryan wants a wife but he doesn’t want to be married. If that makes sense.
Sadly, I don’t think Molly will ever become physically attracted to Jon. I could name a 1,000 why she should be but something about him just doesn’t do it for her. I hope she doesn’t fool herself and decide to stay in the marriage if there is no attraction. It’s not fair to either of them.
@Daintyfeets – YES, Jepthe is very immature. I say it every time he’s on screen. Shawnice needs a grown man. And YES, they should all unleash themselves.
love this show…just raw and unscripted. always hoping for a fairy tale ending for all couples. especially admire this season’s couples and their desire for commitment however flawed they all are.
I think that Ryan’s idea is to have all domains of his life on a shelf, including his wife.(Or maybe like selections on a jukebox: paintball, firehouse, construction, wife…) He was so over the top in the beginning, re-reciting his vows, and seeming earnest and sincere and committed. He thinks he IS his activities, and fears that taking on the lifestyle of a good married man is equal to changing who he IS. I loved when Pastor Cal asked him the Dr. Phil question about his attitude in all his past relationships: Pastor Cal asked: “How’s that working for you?” That made him think.
Jon is amazing to put up with such a frigid-cold fish as Molly. Molly is PARALYZED by CONJURING UP all kinds of pressure from EVERYONE, even the wedding friends and family: “I feel like I don’t want to let them down.” And after securing a redhead wig from Shawniece(sp?), flirting, and being carried off to the bedroom, I CAN NOT UNDERSTAND how they didn’t have sex that night! She’s a NEUROTIC PILL!
Re: Molly, the red wig, & no sex. I saw on an aftershow that she was deathly sick that night, shortly after from his cooking. Not that they shouldn’t/couldn’t have had sex by now! This show is also shown way outta order. The editing is crazy!
That’s something I didn’t know. I would like to be wrong about Molly, and have her transform into a warm, loving, giving, more considerate partner. I never thought that Jephte and Shawniece would transform the way they have. Even though this is so radically different than a more normal path to marriage, it is a big plus to be given homework, and have a third party whenever you need one to referee and give advice. I hope for happy endings for all the couples. If only Ryan and Jephte and Molly would honor the process, and stop resisting and start embracing the faster pace. I am sure the problem is FEAR.
I think the friend Jephte called needs to replace the experts in giving advice to the couples. The friend was spot-on, whereas the “experts” came up with the ridiculous and pot-stirring idea of having them exchange phones (way different scenario for these people who were totally single a month ago vs people who marry the usual way). And Pastor Cal’s advice to Ryan was not that good: he told Ryan all sorts of psychobabble instead of telling him he was acting totally selfishly. Your wife is sick and asks you to be home, and instead you go out drinking with your buddy–and even stay out extra late to punish her?!
I am encouraged about Jon and Molly. I think they actually kissed two or three times in this episode, and they certainly look at each other in a loving way and with smiles on their faces. They laugh together a lot, a good sign.
It’s funny because when this season started I really thought that there was hope for Jaclyn and Ryan. At times he seemed a bit over the top with his gestures but I figured we wait and see. Jaclyn needs to run far and fast from Ryan. He is a very self-centered and immature man. He is definitely not ready to be married. Seems like he felt he had a few minutes to spare in his schedule so he wanted a wife to fill it. She gets put on a shelf and only taken out when he needs it. If I were her I would be gone once that week was up. To me it’s a big red flag that he thought it was ok to go out when his wife was home sick. That whole bs about not wanting to change is really pathetic. When you get married you become a team, it’s not I or me, it’s we. You make changes and grow together. You can’t think your life will stay the same and that you and your own needs come first.
Jon and Molly have potential. This accelerated process is hard and even harder being under the watchful eyes of strangers. Jon is very patient and I do hope that it works out for them because he seems to really want to put in the work and give her time. Every story is unique but they definitely give me the same vibes as Doug and Jamie. I am hoping they make it.
Shawniece and Jepthe are adorable. I really hope it works for them. They too seem very vested in the whole process. The buddy that he called is really a good friend and definitely gives him very sound advice. I am hoping that they go the distance and grow old together.
I rarely post but am an avid follower, Tamara. Love all of your recaps
I’m have to say I think Jacqueline got such a raw deal being paired with Ryan. He was using the gypsy comment as an excuse. He has zero redeeming qualities and I hope Jacqueline kicks him to the curb before she is hurt a minute more.
Yuck, Ryan sure is a piece of poop! What in the world does he think marriage is? Poor Jaclyn! I hope she’s not going to be scarred for life !
At times I understand Jephte then he throws a wrench in my thoughts. He was paired well, Shawneice is all in and that gives him some safety. Anyone up and down, in and out he’d have run by now. The advice given by his friend was very telling!!! Fire the experts!
I really like Molly and Jon. Hopefully Molly can let down her walls. She seems to be loosening up? Time will tell. Do we need to worry that Jon doesn’t have a job yet?
I think it’s odd they don’t discuss Jon’s job search, but it’s been only 4 or 5 weeks (one of which they were away on the honeymoon), so I don’t think it’s terribly worrying he hasn’t found something new yet. It feels like a lot longer because the show has been airing for a couple months, but in real-life time, it hasn’t been that long.
True. He also was pretty clear with the men how important it is to use this time to focus on their marriages.
I don’t think Jon is actively looking. He quit his job because they would not give him the time off to be on the show. So it makes no sense that he would be job hunting or working somewhere else during the show.
Jaclyn, Run! You’re in danger, girl!
Jon, Get out! Molly is living in fantasy world.
‘The book says we are to become attractive to each other on this date.’
J & S. He’s not there for this. At times when she leans into him where another person would hug or touch, he keeps his hands away from her. S will be heartbroken, but I hope she doesn’t give up on marriage. She will make someone a great wife and partner.
Jaclyn, Run! You’re in danger, girl!
Jon, Get out! Molly is living in fantasy world.
‘The book says we are to become attractive to each other by this date.’ She is living by what others think.
J & S. He’s not there for this. At times when she leans into him where another person would hug or touch, he keeps his hands away from her. S will be heartbroken, but I hope she doesn’t give up on marriage. She will make someone a great wife and partner.
What about connecting Jon and Jaclyn!? They could be a GREAT couple.
I think that would be a little odd since they’ve all met & hung out. Besides, Jon is way too hot for Jaclyn. Lol
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TT, thanks for keeping this blog up and running. It’s the best. I LOVE your sense of humor, sarcasm and comments. That being said… Who signs up for getting married to strangers? Ryan needs therapy, he’s such a cad. I really like Jon. Molly is an idiot. Jephte is like a little kid. And he’s a teacher? Just no.
I think Ryan is an alcoholic.
Potential alcoholic, borderline personality traits, narcissistic, insecure, gaslights, lot of potential for emotional/mental abuse with this guy. I could see him even being violent towards her if he were drunk. I was married to a guy like this…RUN GIRL RUN
Ryan wants a wife at home when he’s done hanging out with the boys, and he has nothing else to do. I think Molly would find Jon more attractive if he brushed up on the grooming and show more ambition about his career. Jephte is just like a child, and I don’t think he is mature enough for marriage yet.
Molly is a mean person.Jon should leave her.