First of all, the fires out west have been on my mind all week. The photos and videos on Twitter were so horrific they seemed like something out of a horror movie. The people on social media offering beds in their homes to those evacuating, and the people with horse trailers offering to evacuate horses reminded me that even in all the crazy that is going on, there are good people in the world.
Please let us know how you are doing if you are among those that evacuated. Many of the Beverly Hills housewives, LVP, Kyle, Adrienne to name a few evacuated during the fire. Adrienne posted photos of her with her boys back in the house. It looks like she spared no expense on the holiday decorations this year. How are your decorations coming a long?
Speaking of crazy things happening, the weatherman says we got ten inches of snow in Atlanta today. As it was melting today many people are without power. My sister and her tribe are among them. My driveway is still covered in snow and there are some fairly large limbs down in the yard.
I’ve never seen so much snow in Atlanta and he was really beautiful. In fact I stayed up all night looking at it. Banjo and I have been in and out playing in it for the last 24 hours. I even managed to lock us out of the house once!
So what is going on in your neck of the woods?
I live about 70 miles north of the Ventura fires, and know the areas that have been devastated. My heart grieves for all those who lost their homes, and for the animals who perished. It’s far from over, they say the wind is going to pick up again this weekend, which makes it impossible for air support to leave the ground. Wish there was something I could do to help – all that we’ve seen up here is poor air quality. The photos definitely look like something out of a film about nuclear firestorms – people just don’t have time to do much more than flee with the clothes on their backs. Also, the main North-South freeway between central CA and the LA area has been closed off and on, which is always a problem here when there’s any calamity that impacts that part of the coastline. Everyone, please keep those fighting the fires and those affected in your thoughts and prayers.
When I was a little girl in the 50’s I spent summers with my great aunts in Santa Paula and we always went to Ventura to visit another aunt and to see the ocean. I remember all those gorgeous orchards all over the area.
I have seen the pictures and read the horror stories, especially of the horses perished and just sat here and cried. So many people helping, but just no time.
Those first responders…words just aren’t enough for what they do and are doing.
Stay safe..those winds change in a heartbeat.
EnglishRose, the Salinas valley had haze from the fires last Friday.
NASA has some amazing photos of the smoke banks growing from their inception to what they are now. If you “friend NASA on Facebook, absolutely amazing photos daily from the astronauts or the space station.
Put a small tree up today and made a small wreath by hot glueing cheap Christmas tree toy decorations to a smal woven wood/bamboo wreath.
I clustered them tightly together in the curve at the bottom and up the sides with a big wired bow. It tuned out so well. For the Grandsons teepee.
Banjo’s tummy was making noise and he kept want to go outside ten minutes after he came in. So I started watching him and he is just sitting straight up in the snow looking around. He loves the snow.
I also just made an interesting discovery. I suddenly remember to let the faucet drip. When the tub and the bathroom sink and the kitchen sink are on at the same time there is ZERO water pressure in the kitchen. Who knew?
Don’t forget to drip your faucets.
You don’t need to drip your faucets if you have heat.
We had probably 4-6 inches but nothing stuck. Just too warm. Instead today we had Santacon which was gross.
Happy Weekend.
Santacon, I’m uneducated. Off to look it up.
regret looking it up, don’t you? 🙂
I regret missing out on one!
LOL, no comment
Sorry, but it IS necessary to drip faucets, especially if iiving in a mobile home. Sewer pipes can also freeze. One of my tenants forgot to drip one night (in spite f my text reminding him) & froze his pipes. MY SIL went over & put a hair dryer on the pipe & unfroze it before pipe burst. I text every tenant with a reminder every day a freeze is forecast. Another problem is exposed outside faucets. Just yesterday I gave every tenant a styrofoam cover for those, along with a detailed memo of preventative action. If an exterior faucet has an exposed pipe, that needs to be wrapped with fabric or foam. A frozen pipe can cost thousands if it bursts. Other than fire, this is my greatest landlording nightmare, even though a broken septic pump, like I had last week in a rental, is also a horror story.
I have no experience with mobile homes, so I will defer to your knowledge. People who live in actual houses with heat have nothing to worry about.
That’s not true. If temps don’t rise above 32 degrees during day and night you have to drip all pipes. Heat doesn’t reach pipes in walls or crawl spaces. Also shut off and drain outside faucets during the winter.
WHAT KIND OF ABSOLUTELY LOW RENT HOUSING DO YOU PEOPLE LIVE IN THAT IS UNINSULATED AND LIABLE TO FREEZING. JESUS. MOVE.
NAA, their housing has exposed piping usually with a faucet but not always. Or their pipes are exposed under the moble home. You are rught the insulation could be better. I’ve a small guest house and on its north side the water pipe comes away from the house about 5”-6” and it burst one year. Shit happens.
I ASKED SANTA FOR A BEACH HOUSE!
I live in a ghetto shack built in the fifties. It has a super scary crawl space all under the house. It’s imperative I drip my faucets if I don’t want my pipes to burst. Other nicer houses in the ghetto, in the south have these things called basements. Some of them are unfinished, they too need to drip their faucets. Also our pipes are metal not PVC. Especially if you live in a POS clapboard house built in the 1950s.
Why must we explain EVERYTHING TO THE YANKEES? Cheeze wiz, Underwood Deviled hams, the difference between ice storms and snow storms, country music, and now how water pipes freeze in winter!
IS IT MY FAULT YOU PEOPLE LIVE IN HOUSES THAT WOULDN’T PASS CODE IN THE NORTHEAST? NO.
Oh this shack probably won’t pass code if I ever get my shit together to sell it. That is another reason us poors don’t “just move.” WE IS POOR, YOU COCKSUCKING ELITIST!
I mean, yeah, but it doesn’t sound nearly as fun the way you say it.
I hope that Santa brings you cheeze whiz, vienna sausages, underwood deviled hams, chesse spray, and Krisy Kreme donuts for your Christmas. You need to broaden your horizons, sir.
Gosh. I’m not sure I’d even feel right giving all that to the homeless. lol
Idiot
Barbarians. Ew.
I lived in a beach house in Garden City Beach, SC and had to drip my sinks when the temps got below freezing because it was an old beach shack.
I woke up every day to the sunrise over the Atlantic for twelve years.
I’d rather do that than have good plumbing.
See if that house is for sale for me would you? 🙂
No, you really don’t. But your closet doors should be left open, pipes and faucets should be insulated and/or drained outside, and especially if you have a sprinkler system you should be sure that none of your heat registers are covered in your house. If your attic access is in a cooler part of the house, as mine once was (although I didn’t have pipes up there in that house) it might be advisable to somehow push heat there either through a space heater or a small fan that helps circulate heat into that area.
Me, in the winter when and if I leave the house for a longer period of time and because my heat system is old or I am afraid the power goes out, I either drain all the pipes by shutting the water off (and opening the lowest faucet) or I leave the tub dripping slightly in what I think is the coolest bathroom in my house. Of course, the drip method doesn’t do you any good if the power goes out and you are on a well.
I should say that this is true for houses in my area – but I’m not living in the South where snow is very rare.
That comment sounds just a little bit snotty. I’m sure you didn’t mean it that way.
This reply was meant for NAA regarding mobile homes. FYI – an awful lot of people live in mobile homes, and they do have heat. They are just as much homes for their residents as for those of us who live in “actual houses”. As I said before, I’m almost positive you meant no insult.
No, you’re incorrect. It was meant to be snotty.
Rose, judt enjoy NAA, there’s a good heart in there.
OK, I’m a pretty easy-going old broad, so I’ll take your word for it LOL.
It’s definitely on a case by case basis, depending upon the construction of the home and location of the pipes relative to heat and insulation. I grew up in Montana and don’t recall ever having to trickle the faucets. However, when living in homes that aren’t built as well to handle the cold weather (poorly insulated pipes running along outside walls) I’m more careful during freezing weather.
We certainly enjoyed Thursday’s snow here in Houston, but I’m glad that it’s already melted and the sun is out today.
Loved the snow in Houston. We woke up at 2am and played!
It was awesome! But my poor son was so devastated that it was all gone when he came home from school 🙁
Your title made me remember a poem ” Some say the world will end in fire; some say in ice. From what I’ve tasted of desire I hold with those who favor fire. But from what I know of hate I hold with ice, and it would suffice.” Here in the Smokies we had fire last year and it was terrifying. My ex is a firefighter and told me he thought they were going to have to let Gatlinburg burn to the ground. Yesterday the most beautiful snowfall. I’m happy you and Banjo are enjoying the snow!
ok…my disclaimer – I observe from Canada, in a province with 151 and over forest fires in our province (like a state)
This fire in California went for 5 days (and counting), usually by this time (or before) Celebrities across U.S.A. would have put together a campaign to raise money to help the victims/survivors. Why isn’t this happening for Cali?
Many celebs did have to evacuate, I looked at pics of their trailer’s of belongings…but 10K and over, citizens that are 9-5’ers evacuated and had pets die or run away…so where is the fundraiser?
The Napa -Santa Rosa fires were as devastating with over 20 people dying just a few weeks ago. Local fundraisers but nothing from the other states, nothing I’ve heard of.
California pays huge amount of dollars to the Federal government.
I’m not a fan of all California but we don’t deserve the contempt from other states.
Over 25 race horse’s were killed, that count will go up. Two local girls have loaded up two trucks hauling trailers full of hay and horse feed headed out today for one of the race tracks taking in horses. People in the state will come through but no one expects much from anywhere else.
CALIPATTI!
you are in our prayers, your safety is top priority! so disheartening that all we can do is donate to Red Cross.
Please do as much as you can to stay safe – you are the priority!
Thanks Samael. I’m about 1 1/2 – 2 hours above English Rose. I’ve mowed property and a cement type roof. I’ve only old oaks nearby, took Pine trees out because the pine beetles are them.
Pine trees are what … you know.
Perhaps those who would participate/organize the fundraiser you mention are, I don’t know… busy evacuating?
The Katrina fundraiser for instance, happened a couple of weeks afterward.
That Chef guy – Jose? That has spent weeks in Puerto Rico feeding people is now in California feeding the firefighters.
Erica
slow your roll..chill out and unprovoked attack not appreciated!
wow!
apply common sense the next time you choose to attack me..k?
I certainly didn’t mean to comment in a way that could be read as an attack. I think what I meant to be more dry sense of humor was mistranslated – because of my writing, not you.
I sincerely apologize.
I accept your apology and I apologize for leaping to the wrong conclusion.
thank you Erica
I respect someone who apologizes so eloquently. Good job, Erica.
samael – I live in AZ and I wondered about the celebrity fundraising in and for Texas and for Las Vegas and other places. All were certainly justified, but when Napa CA and the Pacific NW were burning in October I didn’t see anyone running to start a fundraiser. The same now. Maybe it’s too soon.
Many, many people were left homeless by the hurricanes, etc., but the fires have and are, doing the same and lots probably didn’t have insurance to rebuild or even move and start over. What do they do? Wait for a check from FEMA? What if their car was in their burned down garage? If they just got away with the clothes on their backs and lost their wallets, etc., how do they even get on a bus or in a cab? Why not a local fundraiser check for groceries and hotels and veterinarians and doctors, whatever?
I don’t get it. It shouldn’t matter if it is CA or TX. People need help and a telethon would work for CA as well as TX.
People all over the world love horses. That alone should be enough to start something for their care and vet bills for people who have lost everything.
Time will tell if anyone steps up.
Thanks MINNIEMEOW13
I usually watch for a “celeb” or entertainment tonite on twitter to announce where fundraiser will be so I can program my dvr…so far zero…I thought Bethenny’s fundraiser on TV was for everywhere, not just Puerto Rico..hmm..
you guys are all right..I may just be too early to think about this, glad there is still Red Cross that takes the donations.
thanks everyone for all this info an input!
Samuel and Minnimeow, if the house isn’t paid for it has to have fire insurance. If people have done renovations or have expansive out buildings, landscaping often they do not update their fire policy.
Policy will not cover rebuilding.
I’ve friends who lost a magnificent home, paid for but way undervalued fire policy in the Bid Sur Fire about 2 years ago. They’ve good incomes and will rebuild but working with Monterey county in Big Sur it will cost them maybe $300,000 more because of delays. New building codes will out price some homeowners from rebuilding.
Everything is s ness. I donated to the horse feed and will continue.
My sister in law and her family live in Simi Valley, fire all around them. They are safe but Ventura Co. will be changed for many years. I live in Northern Az. We struggle with fires every year. The movie “Only the Brave” is about firefighters fighting and dying in my neck of the woods, still can’t bring myself to watch the movie, horrible time when this happened locally. Since my family at this time is ok, reached out to see if they know how to help sponsor a family or just a good organization…
We need snow/moisture here! Very dry! Send it our way!
Glad you and Banjo enjoyed the night and day together in such an unusual weather! Hope the fresh air helped your cold! You sound better!
Kipper,
I doubt if I will ever be able to watch that movie 🙁 I have wondered how the families watched it or if they did. It would be so real and they would re-live that horror again.
TT when it is freezing you can let one faucet drip and that should keep the pipes from freezing. Here it doesn’t happen often, freezing, but we wrap a blanket or heavy piece of fabric around the outside faucet.
The big fires are to the NW, N, NE, W, SE of me, smaller fires in 3 of 4 neighboring cities.
My heart is sad for so many people and the helpless horses.
I have not decorated, except for my attire when singing at assisted living facities. That will have to suffice.
I seem to be hooked on a 19 hour marathon of M*A*S*H episodes.
Loved the snow in Houston. We woke up at 2am and played!
I drove 11 hours today in the snow to go to my daughter’s college field hockey dinner in upstate NY. I must be insane. The snow was steady, but the drive was very peaceful. Like a scene from the walking dead, most of the back roads were deserted. Nice to see all the over the top xmas decorations and lights on the drive back.
Another daughter has been parading around NYC all day at that Santacon. Missed the last train back to Jersey. Ugh. She is on my sh__ list.
I feel terrible about the events in CA. So sad.
I guess my mom is in a hotel. (My sister, thanks TT) is keeping me posted.
I guess my mom and her boyfriend had “The Lilac” fire. My sister and her partner who have horses and lots of animals are dealing with “The Liberty” fire.
Everyone is fine, just glad I emailed my sister to ask. (Family baby steps, I’m not giving up).
To be fair, I think I am probably not being told how scary it is. My mom’s street was on fire, but they are saying that their house is still there. All that counts is she is okay.
My sister and her partner the weekend before last at 2:15a.m. heard a rumble (thought earthquake) then a explosion, then another explosion. The neighbors who have horses also had the corral explode from propane. Horse was panicked, finally got the horse out and in their corral. Family was freaking out. My sister and animals were freaking out, just awful. So here, two weeks later, wildfires that are really scary. I can tell by my sister’s tone, no one seems to truly be “okay”. My news is just saying almost nothing now, making it seem like all is under control. So actually, guess I have to be patient until I hear directly from my mom. Until then, “everyone and everything okay” is enough.
Thoughts to everyone affected. Stay safe.
Cheryl, good luck to your mom and family. Her street is actually on fire? Dear God, how terrifying. Please keep us posted as to how they’re doing.
Thank you English Rose. I grew up in southern California and remember the colors and smells and just how strange it all was.
You stay safe also, these are no joke. Thoughts are definitely with you.
So odd how it’s snowing in unusual places. Things seem certainly upside down. Keep us posted as well.
Cheryl, I don’t know about your family’s area but go to Cal-Fire sites, there are several for updates.
There are two large race tracks (1 in SDiego area) taking in large animals and the people that go with them if your sister can get to one at least until the smoke clears.
Fire Chiefs are saying they are expecting fires to burn until Christmas and some are are going to burn to the freeway or coastline.
Good thoughts for your family.
Thank you. I guess I will put on my big girl panties (I’m 58), and call my mom tomorrow. (Complicated but I have issues, lol).
My sister has been through so much, and she is getting stuck with updates, so maybe I can help.
I saw where DelMar fairgrounds are taking animals (yay).
Calipatti, thanks, like my sister and I said, we so badly want things to calm down. As I’m sure we all do. My anxiety has anxiety, lol.
Your call could be the beginning of a new story. One of the hardest things I’ve had to do in life was forgive my mother, have no expectations if her and accept who she was. Once I did that I was able to have a relationship with her. On my terms.
Daintyfeets, thank you. I email her and actually thinking about her replies make me laugh. But it’s a reply.
My realtor I think likes me more. Lol.
But, I’m going to REALLY REALLY try to call her today.
And she hasn’t liked me my whole life, so it’s not anything new.
Maybe I can gain something. Your right. Thank you.
You sound great Daintyfeets. I’m so happy for you.
I will take your advice. Uuuggghh. ???
The de Lesseps family got a shout out in an episode of The Crown during the Suez crisis. If you aren’t watching this Netflix series, consider it! So good.
Shhhh….. I am saving it for “Winter Break” (I head to my parents for Christmas a few days early so I can help them prepare for company, and usually out of sheer laziness I don’t leave for a couple of days afterward). The Crown will be PERFECT when the parental units say “Damn, there is nothing on”
Otherwise my ass would be marathoning it right now. I LOOOOOVE that show!
So, so good.
The sky here on the CA central coast is bizarre this morning – an unearthly orange glow everywhere – must be all the gunk in the air. They sent out an emergency mandatory evacuation order for north of Carpinteria in the night, which is just inside the southern part of the Santa Barbara County line, so it has spread one county further north. Still over an hour south of us. Can’t believe what’s happening in Ventura County – absolute devastation. I read that horses in two highly prestigious stables were killed – almost 30 in each one. Also one poor lady killed after she got in an accident while evacuating. Horrible. It seems as though each part of the country is getting hit, one after the other, and now it’s CA’s turn. Strange to think that so much of the country is being impacted by snow while SoCal is burning – hope you’re all OK. Please keep praying for the fireman and other first responders, as well as those who have lost their homes, or are in danger..
Must admit, TT and Banjo seems to have a fun couple days.
I’d love to have a dog, and a bunch of snow.
(Skip the being locked out, but it was only once, lol)
It seems minor in comparison to freezing weather and fires, but I kind of got blindsided by a FB post by someone I thought was a “male ally” on FB. He was defending Franken, basically saying in so many words that a “squeeze in for a photo op” couldn’t possibly be assault or inappropriate.
It is difficult to civilly debate it with him – in part because my defense is my “me too” and when I comment, all my FB friends (including family members) can read it. I can’t put this particular mee too out there because it isn’t just my story and if I tell it, people will be able to guess the other girls (we were girls at the time). It has to do with one of our teachers. It wasn’t blatant, but he often made comments, or looked down our shirts – and while I don’t advocate for a teacher NEVER touching a student and you certainly have to brush by a student in a tight aisle sometimes, there was something inappropriate about him the few times he “accidentally” touched our backs.
Sure, there was something a little stinky about the initial accusers story – but my friend is dismissing the other seven women. They include democrats. I agree, Franken is a loss to “our” side as he is very smart and is one asking questions that need to be asked, but he isn’t the only one in existence. The women senators that called for his resignation last week are also smart and can ask those questions. He’s actually being dismissive of the fact that DEMOCRATIC WOMEN called for his resignation openly and publically, and there is a STRONG possibility that they personally know some of those accusers who were identified only as women who worked in Congress and are still in DC.
Sorry for the word vomit.
I think I just wrote to you all what I really wanted to express to him but can’t.
I would totally say it to his face, but he lives across the country.
Frankens “assault” is different but that does not equal he gets a pass either. I think the Democrats want a clean Senate, Congress and a clean party.
Agreed, and I hope so.
Now, if the Dems don’t understand that the extremist Bernie Bros can be just as damaging to the party as the Tea Party extremists have been to the Republican party, I’ll probably wash my hands of them.
Had a good face to face discussion with a friend last night. He really identified with a recent op ed piece where a traditionally conservative (fiscal type) said that moderate former Republicans are “homeless” politically speaking.
Anyone know if some cheesy romance or comedy type Christmas movies are on?
Tamara, I know you don’t have an Instagram, but you should look up Bruno from below deck if you haven’t already. Also I’ve been thinking of you as I’ve been going through old family China and serving pieces. Hope you’re feeling better!
My heart goes out to those affected by the California wildfires. Prayers to those who have lost homes and animals. The huge amount of snow we got in Atlanta is so odd for this time of year. Luckily mostly soft snow and little to no ice. Loving watching The Crown as well. I do hate the Michael C. Hall version of JFK however. He is really boorish and not attractive in the role at all. I always loved him in Dexter. I also thought he was great looking in that as well. The actress who plays Jackie is quite good though. Claire Foy is simply amazing as Queen Elizabeth.
My sister had no electricity for 8 houses yesterday. About a million people live with her. That must have been fun. Plus my niece had a seizure.
I went to bed early last night, aka about 1 am woke up at nine and let the dog out. Ate some chicken soup flipped over to the news to see if we’d bombed anyone over night and fell back to sleep. Woke up at some point mid afternoon, turned on Marriage Boot Camp and don’t remember much of it because I fell back to sleep and didn’t wake up until almost 6 pm. If I didn’t have to get up to recap RHOA, I’d still be sleeping.
I am currently running water through all my pipes.
I don’t use enough water to sometimes even be charged. I have a shower and two sinks. Absolutely nothing else that uses water in this house. When I don’t bath or do dishes, I really need to flush the water lines sometimes.
So most days, amirite?
I think snark is Tamara’s preogative here, not yours. Amirite?
MizGrandma, say the word as it sounds out.
It’s funny.
Thanks, Calipatti, but I know what it sounds like & what it means–which is why I used it.
We All have the freedom to snark. Just make it worth it.
Days? More like weeks. I’m a water conservationist, you jerk.
Thank god there’s wine so you don’t have to waste tap water.
OK, NAA, you’re growing on me…
I HAD half way down my back hair which I put on top of my head. 2 weeks went by and didn’t wash it, conserving water myself. It locked up. Took a scissor to the bum and my hair looks hideous. Sometimes water conservation by not washing hair, is a sacrifice.
I do the top knot thing too. It’s actually good for your hair to wash it as little as possible. Mine is very dry and naturally curly. I do undo the bun once or twice a day and brush it out. It’s AMAZING how tangled it can get while in a top Knot!
Sorry about your hair, I expected the ending to be “and I love it short!” I hear of lot of those stories lately.
Does your current treatment plan include chemo, Daintyfeets? Try using a bit of KMS Curl Up on the hair you still have, if you have any natural curl at all, it will enhance it. xo
My hair is naturally curly. I didn’t take it out of the bun, that’s why it locked up. My hair is a bad situation right now. I truly butchered it. I have to wait till wednesday, pay day, to get it cut by a pro.
My cancer is gone. They found it early and it didn’t grow into my lymph nodes. No chemo, no radiation. One hormone pill a day for the next 10 years. I’m getting used to being breastless.
Thanks for asking. Remember ladies, 3d mammograms, not 2d.
Thats great news, Daintyfeets!
Daintyfeets, what great, wonderful, the best news in quite a while. Just a huge YAY!!!!
Your a strong brave woman, woman, lol. Xo
We got our Christmas tree today. It’s pretty. About 8 1/2 feet. It’s a balsam fir which smells amazing. Bought it from this adorable couple who drove down from Vermont in a pickup truck on Friday night. They couldn’t figure out why they weren’t selling a lot of trees on Saturday. Turns out that they’d set up in a Hasidic neighborhood in Brooklyn. hahaha.
LOL NAA!! So sorry about your sister losing power and your niece TT. Direct TV went out 24 hours and thought I would lose my mind. Perspective! First world problems.
Stay safe, California commenters. I cannot imagine the terror and heartbreak of such a destructive force.
Our first snow came and went in a day, so doesn’t count. Still gave me an excuse to binge watch a series on Netflix that I am now quite in love with. Intelligent bad-ass women, and incredible scenery in Australia, Thailand and New Zealand. The women are the true stars, unlike Godless, which SHOULD have been a woman-focused movie.
Wanted is an Australian show about two women strangers who get caught up in a murder, and go on the lam. Unfortunately, S2 ends on a cliffhanger and we will have to wait until October 2018 to see S3. Ugh.
If you don’t have Netflix, you can watch a month free – winter’s a good time to catch up on the good stuff Netflix has to offer.
TT, Banjo’s telling you to move north and he will be your sled dog. 😉
Ca Fire update ? Fires have grown larger than New York City and Boston combined. Check out their site for breath taking photos.
Heart breaking.
Geez. I thought Saturday the wind was going to stop and they were going to be able to control. That’s why these are so scary, uncontrollable and can change in a second. Just ugh.
From Facebook, I guess 35 of my mom’s friends lost their homes, but here is still okay.
I am going to call her soon. I hate these disasters!!
So I just called my mom. She got on her street yesterday (her boyfriend has COPD and ended up in ER), but 65 of the homes on her street are gone. She has smoke damage, her car is still there. She kind of broke up talking about the homes/friends. She then said the phone was breaking up, but I got an “I love you” in there, so happy. She did say that there are no words to describe. They are safe in a home miles from the fires (at this time).
Glad your Mom is safe and sound. Youre a brave, strong woman, Cheryl. I’m glad, for you, that you made that call.
Daintyfeets thank you. I think my comment is up above with the fantastic news you have. Compared to you, I can’t justify being a wimp, lol. One call may lead to two, who knows.
My last challenge is my brother who lives near me, don’t know where, and haven’t seen or talked to in 15 years. My mom visits him, so we’ll see.
So glad your mom’s house is safe and that she didn’t get hurt, but it must be so hard for her to see that so many of her neighbors’ homes were destroyed. I can’t imagine how horrible that would be – not just the shock and terror of the fire, but losing everything you own. I know everyone says, well, you still have your life, and that’s true, but to lose a lifetime of memories would be devastating. Thanks for the updates.
Thank you EnglishRose. I can’t imagine. She was affected by the neighbors loss I could tell. But when I asked about the safety of the people, she sounded better.
Guess it’s going to be day by day and good thoughts and extra prayers.
Thank you again for your comment.
First time out of the house today in 4 days! We had 9 inches of snow in my north metro Atlanta neighborhood. In my 65 years I can’t remember ever having this much snow and it’s still not gone.
I probably lost the azalea and gardenia plants I put in a couple of months ago. I know that in no way compares to the devastation of the California fires. I’m praying for everyone effected.
TT, please revise your wish to Santa for NAA and remove Krispy Kreme. Once he tastes that southern deliciousness that is the best doughnut in the world he’ll want to move to the South and live in our inferior housing.
AAL, I didn’t make it out today, slept through most of the daylight. I am not even sure I feel like rolling the trash can out tonight. #Lazy
I’m REALLY worrried about my bamboo. I have been cultivating it for years to sheild against my creepy neighbor. If it is dead, I don’t know what I will do. I’m just grateful that I didn’t lose power like so many did.
Your bamboo should be fine. There is a house somewhere between Cleveland and Helen that has a bamboo grove on the side of the house. They’ve probably had a lot of bad weather over the years. Bamboo is hardy, it looks like my azalea and gardenia plants are going to make it after just a few months so your bamboo should be fine. Just in case have you thought about about Leyland Cypress? They grow about 3-5 feet a year. They are not expensive and great at blocking creepy neighbors, speaking from experience.
On another note. Andy Cohen proved again himself to be a big douche by airing the Below Deck reunion on WWH. I think he did it for ratings for his shit show which I would have never watched otherwise.
On another, another note. To all posting about unhealthy relationships with your mother, my heart goes out to you. As Jill Zarin said “I don’t know from that” because I miss my mother every day so I can’t imagine the pain you’re feeling. From my psychology degree earned by watching many years of watching Dr Phil, air your grievances now. Not for your mother, father or anyone else in your life but for yourself.
Yes, I’m on my 5th glass of wine. Don’t judge.
Daintyfeet!!!! Excellent news!!!!
I have managed to get 3D mammograms the last 3 times. I have to be kind of pushy but if something develops I want to know sooner, not later!
When I did have cancer (uterine/endometrial) I found it super early.. As in, if you are lost menopausal, and see even a drop of blood, you need a trans vaginal ultrasound!
I was stage I A and they just removed cervix, uterus, tubes, ovaries and a ligament, plus 7 lymph nodes.
I have driven women with the same cancer, more advanced and it makes me cry.
So, your news, Daintyfeets, makes me smile and dance around the room!
Thanks, Lynn Duncan, for your kind words. You are some kind of special warrior for what you survived.
Cheryl B, good for you.. Baby steps, but keep reaching out.
I wish I had made more effort with my parents.. Too late for me.
The fires are terrifying.
Thank you Lynn Duncan.
I think I just have to accept the fact that my mom is 80, I probably will never know why she said she doesn’t like me.
Unless she leaves a note, I think I am okay never knowing.(For years I worried about never knowing)
I worried a lot knowing that I won’t be able to find out, but I’m okay with that.
Probably just made me the way I crazy love my kids and they certainly know it.
Sorry you were unable to accomplish what you needed with your parents. I think probably everyone but very few have a story involving the parents. I lost my dad almost 30 years ago, he was 57. So he was probably who had the info I needed, but that’s not how life worked out.
I’m still going to venture on, and be thankful for everyone being safe from the wildfires. Right now that’s priority.
Wait, your mom is 80? When did she tell you she hated you? Because at lot of old people get mean and say stupid shit when they get older. I wouldn’t take it too seriously. Also she is 80 and lives independently???
No, from probably age 5. It was well known my sister and brother were treated totally different. She just said sorry, can’t help it. I’d wake up daily and she could go all day being/acting mad at me but not ever give me a clue as to what or why. That’s why I sometimes obsess over if I think I made someone upset and must find out.
She’s lived a great life, husbands, boyfriends, just how it is. She’s very active independent, very lucky and fortunate.
I do think it’s perhaps how her mom treated her, who knows.
Cheryl, just remember – whatever the reason for the way she treated you, it’s her failure, not yours, and it’s a crime that a mother would actually tell her daughter that she doesn’t like her. Also, there is no way you could have done anything to anyone at age 5 that would excuse her cruel behavior. I know it has to hurt, and it’s easy for people to say that you should try to ignore it, but it’s not that easy. Still, you are obviously an awesome woman, so her lack of being the kind of mother she should have been is her loss. She’s missed out on a lot of wonderful interactions with you, but all you can do is to make sure you’re the kind of mother she wasn’t, which you’ve done. We’re none of us perfect moms, but I think that, as long as we know we always tried our best given our circumstances at the time, we can consider ourselves huge successes. Try to turn your hurt feelings into pity for her, and be proud of who you are.
Thank you EnglishRose. It’s really a good feeling to say these things because I don’t. Your kind words mean a lot.
My mother was the same with me, Cheryl. Despised me from my time in the womb. Has we both aged, we had many discussions about it. We did our discussing through emails, which is the only way that would have been safe for her to be honest. She explained it, I accepted it and forgave her. It was never about me. I stopped loathing myself once I realized every negative thing she did and said to me over a lifetime was not true. Result of that honesty = freedom.
Thanks Daintyfeets. I’m on year 6 trying to have a personal conversation by email. She answers, but it just won’t ever be acknowledged.
When I was an adult, my daughter was 2, on Thursday nights was dinner at my parents. But I had to wait outside at the door until they all were done, then I could come in and sit down and eat. I was 29 years old. By then, I just assumed (now being a parent), it was me. I’m too scared to bring that up, but would love to know that reason. I can’t even ask why because it’s so ridiculous how I stood there, and I had to, that it is I believe just is, and fortunately I can finally tell my story. By telling it though, it could be it was me. I’m just not able to figure out why, if that’s the answer. I’m embarrassed and don’t know if I should even say all this, but it does feel good.Deep down, I know what is right. The best thing is having to finally say it once, and put away forever. And stop trying to figure out those occasions when it pops up.
Thank you so much for sharing your situation. That’s what it is, a situation.
Another new show from TLC that’s looks like a real doozy. “LOVE AFTER LOCKUP.” Am I the only one that will be watching this train wreck?
That’s the free criminals? Can’t wait. Also the undercover high, may be good. lol it will be like 21jump street!!
Yes, “Life after lockup” will be on We tv.
Oh, I wanted to mention that I think MAFS last season was moved from TLC to A&E.
I will keep an eye out. Can’t wait or miss that gem, lol.
TT and all of you that I think know who you are. Thank you for just making a place exist that can just make the hardest things easier.
I just wanted to say that before shutting down for the night.
Everyone be safe, and until we chat again. Goodnight. ???
Tamara, did you get that 3 second shout out that you wrote about a few weeks ago? You wrote it was a possibility, and I’m curious.
Hi Daintyfeets. Didn’t want to answer for TT, but in case your watching the episodes, her site was on a different episode. I think it’s the one about Cynthia and her man.(I don’t know what number)
Personally, I thought TT’s was even better and longer than the other ones, lol.
What show was it on? How was her name/site presented? thanks for answering Cheryl.
RHOA. Originally thought it was going to be the Kenya wedding episode (episode one). But it ended up I think possibly episode two (Cynthia and her man) let me see what On Demand says, umm. It seems like episode two is the only one that pertains to Cynthia and her man according to the guide. Try that. Fingers crossed, but it was shown. Yay!!
Great news for Tamara. Thanks Cheryl. Hope all is well with you today.
I’m doing really good today. Thanks in part to you:).
Hope you are having a good day.
I was kind of bummed that TT’s RHOA debut was late, but still so exciting!!
You take care and enjoy your day. ??