I am really going to need for this baby to get better. I cannot take listening to the murderous screams. Jeff lets us know that the pediatrician said that Jeff was the glue that holds the family together. That irritated Gage, so of course Jeff can’t seem to stop reminding him about it.
Jeff is working with Lea Black again, helping her with the interior design of her new house. He is also buying furniture for New Hollywood where he is planning to move in. I do not understand this move. It surely seems like there is just as much construction going on there, than they have happening at Valley Vista. The tension between Gage and Jeff is worsening. Jeff doesn’t seem to be nearly as bonded with the baby as Gage is. I suppose that should not surprise me. But Jeff’s disdain for Gage for being more focused on a newborn than his job is disturbing. The solution is quite simple, Gage needs eight weeks or more of paternity leave. Paid paternity leave.
How is there always a new Chaz Dean project? OMG, because the two-year project that they just got finished with burned down! Wow. That’s terrible news. Chaz wants to cover one of his little fountains in pennies. But only from years he approves of. When Jeff tells the contractor he laughs until he realizes it is not a joke.
I never have been a Gage fan but Jeff is treating him just horribly. It’s painful to watch.
Lea’s house is mostly empty so they have a lot of work to do. Lea only lives there three months of the year. I was wondering how that worked since her husband lives in Miami. Lea never stops talking. Ever. It’s almost as bad as the screaming baby. She also brings her dog with her in a giant handbag. At the very, very high-end furniture store, she fed the dog on a very expensive sofa. A bowl of dogfood was places on the very expensive furniture! I just can’t believe what I am seeing.
It’s Valentine’s Day and everyone is having takeout lunch. These people eat take out for lunch every single day. That must be so expensive! Jeff continues to poke at Gage. It’s awful.
Jeff goes to his therapist. The therapist asks if they are married. He says, “Fuck no.” He talks to her about going to see an attorney to she what his options are for separating. Jeff says that he builds a pillow wall between them in bed. Just when things are taking a terrible turn, Jeff admits he is lonely. He regrets the things he says and does that make things worse and acknowledges that he is part of the problem. Wow, how did he get to that point? Jeff and Gage went to dinner for Valentine’s Day after meeting with the therapist and Jeff says he just vomited out all his feelings. It was the worst Valentine’s Day ever. It seems to have helped. So yay?
Next week: Jeff and Gage move into New Hollywood.
The constant screaming of the baby gives me a headache, as does Jeff. Jeff is a over reactive, selfish man. I feel sorry for that baby girl, she obviously hurting in some way and she can not sleep, eat or be comforted most times. Why were these two guys allowed to adopt if they were not legally Committed? Oh yeah, the wealthy amongst us can arrange to obtain children at any cost…
Um they didn’t adopt. They used a surrogate. And why wouldn’t they be allowed to adopt? It’s not 1947.
Ridiculous to have the volume for the baby monitor on in a work environment.
Why have a Nanny if you are going up there all the time? Gage is over doing it and Jeff is right on this. Needs a real Grandma or Grandpa in there to tell these guys a few things.
She is a well loved little girl, hope she gets breathing room someday, more milk in her bottles and a softer bed.
If I had some whiny ass kid like that I’d throw it out in a heartbeat! There is something wrong with that irritating screaming banshee Jesus! This is one of the many reasons I don’t have children because I would never deal with that whiny brat! What a nightmare!
I think for once this entire group of commenters can agree on one thing. You need to NEVER breed.
Amen!
Poor Gage, Jeff has treated him terribly, and I wasn’t much of a Gage fan either. When the therapist finally got through to him I was so happy.
I knew that baby wasn’t just crying. The baby is screaming because she’s in pain. I caught that she needs Zantac, so evidently she has GERD which can be painful and quite serious for a newborn. So why do they always show her flat on her back? She needs her upper body elevated -especially after meals and at sleep- to decrease symptoms or she’ll never feel better. Seems the baby nurse would know this. I’m not a baby nurse, (I’m an RN for adults) and even I know this.
I’ve a baby in the house since it’s birth. The new rules have parents sleeping babies in their backs and the hardest mattress with nothing g else in the crib.
They have recommended ounces to be fed not allowing for a babies genetically internal growth spurt. Remember how your baby would begin wanting more milk before the growth spurt? I also wasn’t a fan of having her propped up on the feeding pillow, where’s the soft snuggle?
Will any of this harm the baby, NO.
Only make parents miserable.
Honest, new rules are for the babies safety but so harsh.
My Grandson now chooses the softest pillow he can find and curls up with it now.
My baby rarely ever cried because I rocked him and carried him around all the time. Happiest baby and toddler ever
Maybe it’s the editing but why is she not up and playing a little ? They are always trying to get her down but she is obviously growing and alert and needs lots of stimulation .
I think it is because the only time they are all working (and ready to be on camera) is when she is sleeping. Also I think an old timey nanny rather than the newfangled kind might be needed here. A grandma type with lots of experience.
That said, here we are making all sorts of suggestions without knowing the facts.
My daughter had colic (I thought I heard Monroe had colic at some point) when she was a newborn and screamed all the time. It was a nightmare but she grew out of it.
TT you are correct. I don’t know anything.
My DIL waited awhile for this baby and was completely on point with all the new rules. Since around about 8-10 months she has toned a lot of new rules down. He baby never slept until it was around 14 months old. He is not a sleeper but I think it’s because he is growing so fast, 97% on growth chart , hungry and his parents are the same way. Both work constantly even when home. They don’t sleep much either.
I don’t have kids (nieces and nephews) but it seems that baby is always in her crib. I never see her being taken for walks, someone holding her or playing. I’m sure it’s the editing but it makes me uneasy. I don’t really care for Gage but I feel bad for him. It’s painful to watch.
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Jesus. Get a life, “Puffin”. I type this way just for people like you. Did you niotice the triple space?
I feel terrible for Gage. Last night was so hard to watch and the baby crying got on my last nerve so bad that I almost started surfing the net. Jeff is a BULLY and I’ve always really cared for him but last night made me re-think that he is not a nice man at all. I agree with the Nanny situation. If you engage a Nanny then you should shut off the monitor at work and let her earn her keep. If they would do this that should help the situation and I agree that Gage needs to be absent from work in the office for at least another month to collect his feelings. Why did Jeff want a child if he was going to be so detached? Loving Gage agitated with Jeff right now. The opposite of how I use to feel. But when Gage said all he wanted for Valentines was “love” my heart broke for him. Jeff needs to see a different doctor if that woman does not see that he is a selfish human being that has ZERO feelings.
My brother and I use to work out of his home and he had a nanny watching his newborn/baby. She was their nanny for 15 years. I was amazed how he NEVER interfered with the nanny, even when my niece would scream (!), he would put his head down and continue working or carry on our conversation. My brother is incredibly easy going but he also said he trusted the nanny knew what she was doing and that’s why he hired her. I think about this a lot when Gage is having a hard time and I’m flabbergasted they’ve gone through 5 nannies in as many months. I’m empathetic to the pain and frustration he must feel hearing her cry in pain and feeling hopeless to fix it. Most men want to, “fix it now!”
Jeff is a narcissistic bully. It’s not like it’s a revelation but it’s become horrible to watch. It’s like standing in between a couple having a fight-you want to crawl out of the room. I wish Gage would get a backbone and stand up to him. The worst word for a narcissist is, “No”. They crumble lin a tantrum like a 5 year old-they can’t handle it. I feel so bad for Gage but I think he needs to start standing up for himself more. This is a horrible dynamic in which to bring a child. I had a very dominant father and very passive mother and it messed with my head. You’re always walking on egg-shells and the one parent who could say something, elects not to. It’s not good.
You expressed my feelings exactly. These two men went to great effort to be parents. Jeff is a bully, very difficult to watch the way he treats others. Sage has about as much warmth as a rock. This child deserves to be loved by both her parents, and really, neither is engaging much with their daughter. The fact that she is obviously in distress while they argue makes my heart break.
I think Gage would be quite a bit warmer if Jeff showed him the least bit of affection/consideration. I think Gage is as cold/turned off as he is now because he is continuously hurt and prodded by Jeff with little to no affection.
I could be wrong, but Gage seems profoundly sad.
I thought I’d come and read your recap before watching this, glad I did so that I don’t waste my time. I used to love this show, but now that the baby is here all I keep thinking is, what a shit show and I feel sorry for Gage and the baby. Haven’t people learned yet that a baby won’t mend your relationship? Hope they work it out and learn how to parent a little better. What I really hope is that all this is fake, for the child’s sake.
Jeff said early on in filming he learned Bravo would pay for lunches so that’s why we always see them eat take out on the show.
Ahhhhh that makes total sense, Lawnjart. It also explains why the maid and everyone all eat together from the same place. I didn’t see Jeff as the type of guy that would feed everyone like that. At least not EVERY SINGLE DAY. He wouldn’t even pull through a drive thru to get Lea a sweet tea. Sweet tea is hard to find on the west coast anywhere. McDonalds has it but they don’t seem to know how to make it.
Why TT, you don’t lunch with your maid? Quelle horror!
I adore sweet tea. It’s the only kind I drink in the summer.
If I can ever lure in another maid, there is no way in hell she would eat in this shithole. #Truth
One thing to remember is that it takes MOST men awhile to really bond with their kids. Men bond when kids can walk and talk and really play a little bit. Until then, not so much. I have hope for Jeff and Gage– I think they do really love each other, and they are motivated to create a happy family life for Monroe. They just have to figure it all out, how it will work for them.
That said, pick up that baby! Walk her and hold her and hand her back and forth! It forces you to speak in nice tones to each other! At the very least put her in a swing where she can see you!
Yes, I completely agree. Walking him was the only thing that consoled him at times.
I think the screaming we’re hearing is somewhat edit driven. They’re trying to emphasize the tension it brings to Jeff and Gage’s relationship. I would expect that there are lots of better moments that show them interacting with Monroe. All I had to do was watch the scenes where she’s smiling and cooing as they both lean over and talk to her. As Jenny pointed out, she’s Jeff’s daughter and we know how high-strung and demanding HE is! Monro is certainly a beautiful baby and I’m sure will be very happy and greatly loved. Those first months, especially with a colicky baby, are no fun.
A baby swing was a life saver for me and with all the stuff Jeff bought I didn’t see one. This way Monroe is propped up and would help with the colic and stimulation. I would think they have gotten a pediatrician second opinion. Poor baby sounds like she is being stuck by a pin. I give Jeff and Gage a break due to being new at this, filming, and all the silly moves.
I’m not a parent so I really would not know, but I haven’t seen a kid in a swing in years. Perhaps baby swings are now on the no longer safe for today’s fragile children list? I think it would definitely help with the GERD. Now that I unfortunately do know about.
There are still swings, but they now have baby jumpers. They are like swings, but can attach to either the jumper hardware or to a door jamb, etc. The child’s legs touch the ground, but they can just up and bounce as well. It is supposed to get little legs ready for toddling. Same thing for play pens, they are now called pac and play
Kandi Burress had one of those fancy devices that is a cross between a swing and a rocker it’s called a “Rockaroo” by 4moms. They are expensive (around $200) but they work. It mimics the motion of being rocked and/or swung. Babies love them. I am kind of surprised Jeff didn’t have one….
I thought last time this show aired that things between them were bad. This year they are just awful. Do you remember last season one of Jeff’s clients were getting a divorce. They had been talking about having a baby (the clients). Jeff made the comment where something to the effect that couples on the edge were always desperate to have a baby. This was when him and Gage were talking about it. I had commented that it was odd he would say that when he and Gage were arguing so much and trying to have a baby. Also Gage alluded last episode to stuffing everything in and if he said what he thought it would be the end. These are not good signs of a healthy lasting relationship.
Makes me sad. I hope they make it back to wherever it is they need to be.
I’m wondering how much of this is down to them listening to Jenny too much as well. Jeff seems to rely on her as a fountain of baby knowledge but her comments about induction for the sake of convenience not being risky definitely raised my eyebrow.
Dunno, looks like he is still hawking it though…
But newborn has tons of hair.
The baby’s screams are at least partially enhanced. Real colic is much worse. Lea Black’s laughter is much worse, as well!
Lea was just intolerable, period. Like, seriously, STOP TALKING and feeding your dog on the expensive furniture! How does she not know any better? Would she appreciate it if someone came into her home and fed their dog on her new couch? Probably not.
I don’t remember her being this insufferable on RHOM.
Poor Gage and Monroe. But if anyone deserved a baby with a scream like a velociraptor it is Jeff Lewis.
I think Jeff pays for the team’s lunch every day, if I remember correctly. Probably as a way of keeping everyone there and getting them back to work faster lol
I had a boss who also owned a deli/bagel shop and he also paid for our lunches every day, but you literally ate at your desk for 15 minutes and then began working again. It was totally a control move on his part.
I agree, it is painful to watch the tension between Jeff and Gage, and honestly, Jeff is treating Gage very poorly. You have a reached a whole new level of bad when your partner isn’t even getting angry at your mistreatment anymore, they’re just resigned to it and barely reacting. That is not good. I think paid paternity leave for Gage would be an excellent idea, not sure why Jeff hasn’t thought of it yet.
“It was totally a control move on his part.”
Agree 100%
I agree about keeping baby propped up a lot more. Flat on her back all of the time is not good for her colic issues and also causes flat back of head. One of my friends is a doctor and her son has the flattest head because of this. Sure, I get that babies are now supposed to lay on their backs because of SIDS, but really need to be turned onto their sides and such so they don’t get a flat head forever.
On top of that, leaving them flat on their back may cause ear infections because their eustacion (sp) tubes can’t drain very well yet and get backed up with bacteria. At least that was the reasoning back awhile ago, which changes all of the time. Watch. Next they’ll throw out the baby must lay flat on back because of SIDS theories out the window and we’ll have a new position.
Whose biological baby is Monroe? She has blue eyes and so does Gage. Jeff’s dad has blue eyes, so he carries a blue gene. I hope she’s Gage’s baby, he’s calmer by a long shot.
I remember a much earlier episode where Jeff showed his heart when a homeless woman died. He has also been very generous with certain staff in his life. He loves his animals. He loves Zoila and I believe he loves Jenni who has been the most patient and stuck with him in an epically unconditionally way that I’m not sure anyone ever has before. And I believe that he loves Gage & Montoe.
He is always going to be the Alpha in every relationship or st least try to be.
Perhaps his grandmother may give us a better glimpse into his childhood than any other person we have been privy to. (Pretty sad, really.)
His Therapist seems to GET him and is perfect for him. Jeff’s sessions with her are productive and show him having many aha moments. I feel that the reason that this show is a success is that though he is portrayed as an obsessive, controlling, brutally honest, rude narcissist, he is actually a talented, intelligent, softy, just trying to find love. And THAT is why we watch.
*Monroe