Danielle and Cody
Why do we bother with these two? They are trying to plan out their week. Cody has known about a wedding since before they got married and yet, he still has no idea what time the wedding is! They do seem to have some fun washing the dogs.So I guess that is their bonding experience for the week.
Later, Cody and Danielle work on an art project together. Cody feels a lot of pressure to work the power drill. He has never used on before. He’s worried that Danielle is judging him. Because we all are.
Pastor Calvin, just like Dr. Pepper, wants Danielle to not want a manly man. This irritates the pee out of me. They go grocery shopping together where the strike up conversation about their relationship to their parents. Cody shares that his father is really closed off. Cody is a mama’s boy. Shocker. Cody still hasn’t bother to find out when the wedding is. Shocker. Cody pays for the groceries because that is what husbands are supposed to do.
Cody is a people pleaser and still not being himself. Perhaps because he knows Danielle doesn’t like the real him. Cody is trying to do what he thinks good husbands do, even though his father was not particularly a good role model for that. This is the theme of every scene
Over the course of a few weeks, Danielle has asked Cody to find out the time for the wedding multiple times. Her best friend’s thirtieth birthday is the same day. Finally, Cody finds out the time and it seems to conflict with her party. A passive aggressive fight ensues. Cody wants the marriage to work and asks Danielle if part of her doesn’t want it to work. Yes, Cody. A large part of her wants to bail today. Right now, on camera.
Ashley and Anthony
These two seem almost too happy. As we saw last week, Ashley does not like to be vulnerable on camera.
Anthony has a work trip. I forget what he does. Back in Chicago, Ashley goes out with the girls. Ashley really wants to have kids sooner than Anthony does. She has some trust issues with Anthony.
These two go furniture shopping. Anthony loves dark leather chairs. Ashley wants girly stuff. There is another discussion about Ashley not taking Anthony’s last name. That really bothers Anthony.
Chicago is gorgeous. This show really makes me want to get away there for a weekend. I don’t think Banjo’s last dog sitter wants to sit with him anymore. When I was in Paris it rained the ENTIRE TIME I was gone. Banjo doesn’t do rain. So I believe there was an altercation or two with him that didn’t go well. I need to find a new dog sitter if anyone knows one. Preferably a female that can handle a cranky 80 lb dog that might bite.
Anthony cooks every night. His stuffed peppers look amazing. Most guys don’t care for green peppers in my experience. Ashley gets pissy because she talks about needing to go back to the nail salon to fix a nail and he says he didn’t really enjoy their outing to the nail salon four days ago, because he’d never been and he didn’t know what to expect. I totally understand that. I don’t like to go either, but I like the results. I’m still not sure what to do with my hands and feet half the time. It seems complicated to me and each place is kind of different. I assume he wonders how much a wife that goes to the nail salon twice a week will cost him.
He says he tries new things with a smile on his face regardless. Ashley takes that to mean that she doesn’t try things with a smile on her face. Which is not really what Anthony was saying but he admits she was reluctant to try some things. No matter what Anthony says, Ashley finds a way to take offense to it. If this marriage doesn’t work out, it is her fault.
Sheila and Nate
Pastor Calvin comes to counsel Nate and Sheila about this week’s topic, trust. Both of these two have had their trust betrayed in the past so it’s difficult for both of them. Nonetheless, these two seem to remain hopeful and in a good place.
Sheila and Nate go to do partner yoga. Nate is sort of amused at first, but then he realizes how yoga difficult is. For some of the poses, Sheila doesn’t trust Nate to support her. In the end, they both enjoyed it and Sheila was happy that Nate enjoyed an activity she likes.
Nate, ever the competitor, wants to have a pizza challenge with Nate’s brother. It seemed like a lot of fun even though the little brother didn’t like Sheila low-balling his pizza after he low-balled hers. Clearly he has Nate’s trait where he always has to win the trophy. #Insecurity
Sheila surprises Nate with her new driver’s license with his last name on it. Nate almost cries. Sheila is committed. Nate is profoundly emotional. I kind of love Nate. He’s really happy. He is now completely moving in to the new apartment and letting his old place go. So here comes his mama to be all Debbie Downer. While I get his mother being skeptical of the arranged marriage on a TV show working out, she is brutal in her delivery. I can see why he is always trying to win the competitions now. He really needs approval.
Second Chances is WAY TOO LONG. It’s really, really bad. And yet I keep watching it. Mostly because I can do it on the weekend without paying it much attention. It’s amazing how arrogant Vanessa got once she was in the driver’s seat. David is drawn to the most screwed up girls in the bunch while ignoring the ones that might possibly be there for him.
Danielle needs to GET OUT of that contract asap.
Ashley is emotionally needy and Anthony will eventually drop his guard and show how selfish he really is. Perhaps I’m just being mean lol, but it’s cos they seem to act out the marriage of my best friend and her husband.
I found it pretty amusing when Cody said he was demonstrating being a good leader by cooking and cleaning the house. He is totally his mother.
I know. He really is clueless. The convo in the grocery story made it clear why though. He would be a great match for a lot of women, but just not ones that prefer traditional gender roles in relationships.
You never know. The woman who cried because she found her husband unattractive and was mean to him for weeks ended up falling in love and they are still together.
I’m not holding my breath.
Not a great season, I’ll let it go at that.I think we all see the same thing. Problems are so obvious.
Did anyone else see on one of the After show things where Cody said he was having sex everyday until he got matched. What? It was such a weird thing to say. With who? Is there other girl out there heartbroken over him? You have to see it. It caught Jamie so far off guard.
I think maybe Cody meant he was taking care of things himself?
Cody drove me crazy with the wedding date! Danielle is a lot more patient than I because I would have eventually lost my cool and told him to either find the invite or text his friend in that moment.
I really like Sheila and Nate, I think they are doing well and growing together as well as becoming more aware of the others feelings.
A&A just need to communicate more effectively.
This show really gives me some insight, sometimes it’s like watching yourself and your own relationship flaws play out on tv.
I know. I think this show is pretty fascinating. It may be very educational for these people to watch themselves back on TV. And get the public feedback.
Then again, it doesn’t seem Ramona sees any issues with herself on RHONY, so who knows.
I was thinking Cody was a virgin until I saw the after show where he was bragging about getting laid all the time. If it’s true, I think the gals did all the initiating. Maybe they were bar hook ups at closing time. Also, I hope Sheila gets her mind blowing, toe curling and long anticipated big O. She’ll never be the same, in my opinion. Just saying.
I like Anthony so much! He always seems so good-natured. I wish Ashley wouldn’t get so paranoid, but I totally blame Rachel (the expert) for first putting the idea in Ashley’s head that Anthony had complained, when he hadn’t (unless he did, and they didn’t air it for us to see).
Danielle and Cody: She so clearly wants a macho guy, and Cody is not that. Why did they match them??
Sheila and Nate: I worry about how competitive Nate has to be. I think a huge issue in marriages is when the two people think of themselves as competing, instead of thinking of themselves as being on the same team. When you’re competing with your spouse, you don’t like it when they excel at something–but that is so foolish and destructive! You’re on the same team–you should be thrilled if your partner has skills. So what if the other one does something better than you? It just means the team has that area covered.
David: I totally agree with Tamara’s assessment of him. A few weeks ago, he asked Jordan about the drama, and she reluctantly answered him about her perspeciive on it–then he broke up with her because he said she was involved in the drama. This week he asked Misha about the drama–and I suspect he’s going to break up with her for it. In both cases, he was the one who brought it up.
The whole process of group dates on Second Chances is awful and strained and not at all conducive to getting to know someone.
D&C: They are a horrible match. If they could get out of their contact early, I’m sure both of them would jump at the chance. I think Cody is a great guy and would’ve been a better match for a different woman. I think Danielle is over Cody and at this point is counting down the weeks until she is free. I like them both, just not with each other. I don’t know how the experts could’ve thought this would’ve worked?
A&A: I kinda of see why Ashley was still single. She is unconsciously self sabotaging the marriage with her little comments about not doing anything she doesn’t want to do with a smile. She just needs to relax. Whatever seed of doubt Rachel Del Alto planted is growing quick.
S&N: They both seem all in but cautious. I think it’s smart that they are still communicating their past issues to make sure it doesn’t happen in their marriage. Sheila is a good one because no other women in MAFS history has changed her name during the experiment. As for Nate’s mother, she just took the villain crown from Ashley’s sister. TT thank you for interpreting her message because her delivery made me miss her message. Her demeanor is so nasty you can’t even engage or listen to her. The 1st thing out of her mouth was, oh Sheila isn’t here that must have been planned! This was after Nate explained she was in a wedding party and at an event for that. Then after that there was nothing but, negativity. When Nate tried to tell her his point of view, she shut him down and said she has lived longer and knows more. She sounded really bitter towards romantic relationships and marriages. There was a lot of projecting and not that much listening from Nate’s mom.
Next week looks good. Nate meets Sheila’s male best friend and tells him, his wife is off limits. Yikes
I honestly think part of the contract should be taking a few weeks off of work. How can you really get to know someone in less than 8 weeks if you’re always working (like Cody and Danielle). I know this isn’t realistic in the real world, but let’s face it, this isn’t the real world. Also, they shouldn’t get paid to be on the show.