First of all, if you are not following me on Twitter, you should do that now for the epic meltdowns alone. I mean, in the land of crazy we currently live in it’s always great to find someone more depressed, more mentally unstable and in the middle of legal proceedings against hate sites and social media accounts spouting defamation against your business. It’s been a long day but things are progressing nicely on that front. It’s amazing how fast an attorney can get court orders for your “anonymous Twitter accounts” stay tuned. It’s not fun. It won’t be lucrative (because deplorables are poor). And I’ll be using my Skymiles to appear in courtrooms in yankee states, but it’s necessary. It’s one thing to make a hate site. It’s another to make a hate site against a business that can show defamation, financial loss, and emotional distress. It’s weird to include “old friends” but after laborious discussions on THE PHONE today. It’s clear that it must be done. But enough about me. I just wanted to point out why things are slow to be reported today. Which is even more evidence of financial consequences to me based on the basket of deplorables whose hate site has gone on for nearly three months now. I will put down my iphone where I show you the makeup I am wearing now, and move on. For a moment. But when this is all over? I’ll recount every courtroom experience. I really do love me a courtroom. I’d prefer not to be one of the litigants. But at this point. It must be done. I’ll be wearing a red lip.
So while the usual harassment was going on last night as I was recapping RHOBH last night, I received some Southern Charm information.

I really like Kathryn Dennis. This site has been notorious for being one of her only support sites. I want nothing but the best for Kathryn Calhoun Dennis. I did not post about her drug tests in court in detail even thought I knew about them. I’ve ignored or downplayed a lot of information that I have received about Kathryn because Thomas Ravenel is a dick. He seems like the kind of dick who would set HER up to fail a drug test that he, himself would fail. He allegedly refused to give body hair samples and some sites claimed he shaved his head before court.
The fact is, pretty people get a lot of breaks in this world. Kathryn is a beautiful young lady. We want to love her. We want to commiserate with her that the dick got custody of the kids. The dick posts shit on social media late at night after drinking and then removes it. (Shut up, I just leave my crazy right out there on the front porch. You can go read it at any time. Um, I might shoulda pointed that out to my lawyers. LOL. Or not. Being a bat shit crazy old cunt is not actionable. Harassment and Defamation is. So um, Yay me?) Anyway, my point is I have ALWAYS supported Kathryn in her crazy. I like crazy people. We have a lot in common.
That said, my sources are saying that last night Thomas Ravenel posted on social media last night that Kathryn has lost custody of her kids.
I did not find this particularly newsworthy at the time, because I was dealing with screenshoting things in my own batshit crazy world. Kathryn has, as far as I have been told been told only allowed to see the kids on supervised only visitation status with her children.
I did send out a few questions to sources. The news was not good. I cannot verify via court documents that something has happened. I am merely reporting what sources close to the issue are reporting. That is that a legal decision was made this week. And that is why Thomas and the kids are in California for safety reasons. I was told that Kathryn has “failed every drug test she has been given” and the judge is concerned for the safety of the children. Since my info is that she is already on supervised visits only, and considering that just the other week Thomas wrestled with how Kathryn could not manage to pass a drug test if she loved her kids so much, that some even more restrictive measure is in place. She may have lost all visitation.
Another source tells me that Kathryn is off to try rehab once again. I hope this is true. And my thoughts are with her. I don’t think Kathryn is a bad person. I think she needs some help. And I think Thomas was very smart to get the kids out of town before all of this went down. #ThoughtsAndPrayers
Oh shit on a biscuit! I was hoping all that was behind you.
There is a special place in hell for dicks like Tommy.
I read over there occasionally. They are definitely not lovelies…and I really wanna gag at that word.
I was rooting for her. It is heartbreaking when someone So young, with every advantage in life and two beautiful babies can’t shake the disease of addiction. Hopefully, this time she can get back on track and, stay out of the limelight and raise her two little ones.
In another note, sorry for all if your woes! Sending prayers, positive thoughts and good vibes that it gets better for you soon, TT!
I sincerely wish the best for her and he truly is a dick. Nothing seems to have worked out the way she wanted and he got EVERYTHING he wanted and that pisses me the fuck off. I sense tremendous pressure on her that she’s expected to handle and she just can’t. And that’s OK. I pray she makes peace with herself and comes back a fiery lioness. Her cubs are well protected even though their dad is a dick. But they’re gonna figure it out for themselves when they grow up. She’s young and beautiful and I’m going to envision her as a Phoenix rising from the flames…
Oh, wow. I am with you, TT, I would like nothing better than to see all of this turnaround and become happy and healthy for all concerned. I really do think Kathryn has some deep-seated personal demons (for lack of a better word) that she needs to vanquish for good so she can be her best and everyone (including her) can lead a happy and healthy life. If you read these comments, Kathryn, I’m a mom, too, and my heart breaks for you. Love yourself. You are WORTH getting healthy. Stay healthy. Acknowledge what brings out the worst in you and go beyond it. Thomas may have been a dick about all this (ok, he WAS one), but I think inside he’s lived to regret the selfish ways he handled everything. There doesn’t have to be a bad guy anymore, there just has to be a healthy, happy you as the loving mom you are and the even stronger mom you can be. I’m rooting for you Kathryn! Enough said.
TT, I’m so sorry you are still dealing with these nutters (aka disgruntled former commenters). I know I’ve said it before here and I will say it again, that I will never understand the motivation of them. None of it makes sense. If you hate a site, stop going to it. If someone asks you to leave their site, then take some introspection to wonder why and move on. It wasn’t their site to begin with, they were guests. Three months of spewing hate at you for telling them not to come back? Do they have nothing else going on?
I wish it were April Fools. I will continue to hope she can get over this addiction and get back to being with her kids. I can’t even imagine. Heartbreaking.
PS. TT – sorry you have had this to deal with on top of grief. Hugs and hope you have better and brighter days ahead.
When I got attacked for tweeting to you, I knew they were awful people.
I’m so sorry that happened to you Melody. One of my writers was attacked as well and was fearful. I have them all blocked and don’t see their vitriol anymore. I’m sorry that the hate site is effecting so many people. I thought they would just STOP at some point. Unfortunately, legal action has to be taken. Not just against the hate site starter who began a site that was an brand infringement on my site made clear by the name of the site and the initial post and comments which show intent to defame and harm, which have all been documented today, but also some of the commenters themselves. As I continue to tell you all here, you can be held legally responsible for things you post here. Some claim it is not true. But it is in fact actionable. You cannot make false and inflammatory statements about business without repercussions. There was PROLONGED discussion about this today. I was asked who I wanted to prosecute. There were difficult choices made.
If only they had just talked about makeup.
OMG I want to know EVERYTHING ABOUT THIS because I have no life to speak of, but I am also too lazy to look through previous posts and such. CONUNDRUM.
*sigh*
Life is hard.
Wait… are WE the child molesters??? *clutches pearls*
I have struggled with the combination of addiction and separation from a child, and it is sheer hell. The more grief you experience at being separated from your child the more you use and the more it creeps into that 50% of the custody pie you get thrown, which is unbelievably cruel when Mother Nature sets us up to be parents 100% of the time. If Thomas could put his kids before his ego he would see Kathryn’s well being is absolutely vital to his kid’s well being, but unfortunately, I think he just likes having 100% of his pies. My ex is a next level douchenozzle, but the bastard drove me to rehab with a new suitcase full of pyjamas and books, my last box of codeine and paid my co-pay and brought my son to see me every single visiting day. That is how much he loves his son.
As it should be, and I hope you and your son are happy and well. I love every commenters comments (real thoughtfulness and feeling) as well as Tamara’ s thoughts about this painful situation.
That really touched me, Emily. I am in recovery too, and we see so much awful, it’s good to hear that even asshole exes are still good enough people to do right by their children and by a suffering/sick human being. People can be so cruel to each other, it’s hopeful when they’re the opposite.
As far as Kathryn, I would not have pegged her for an addict. She just struck me as impulsive and immature, I attributed it to her youth, but clearly there was much going on we did not see. I wish for her what i wish for everyone battling this disease, that she gets help and gets well. She does not have to be estranged from her children forever. It is a long road, but it can be done. Her babies are young and she can get this right 🙂
Beautifully said, Shae, and each of you. I too would not have expected Kathryn to go this route, but many turn for help with pain to different directions , and the don’t know how to trust that something else can work better, on an emotional or psychological level.
It is heartbreaking but you are right, s is so young and she and the children have along life ahead.
It almost feels, in retrospect, like she turned to Ravenel as a start to find a new life- but he is capable of doing nothing for anyone, wit his problems- just has money and connections to provide care for the kids and access to info, so that he always looks good, whether or not he is any kind of a father to them. We know he has not been to date, and the pictures seem to tell a made for TV movie story., to me. He is all show and no substance from what I have seen.
TT, I am so very sorry this continues. My hope is that t can go away well before you end up in court. Noone has the right to hurt another’s business deliberately, or to target individuals.
This process evolved form our efforts to provide an interesting, well written blog-. It led to personal relationships where people sought each other and their support out. Ad then evolved to a pace where some hurt each other and shared their pain publicly, with an effort to hurt others. How something that starts form a desire tot be interesting about entertainment, evolves topeople tryignt o hurt each other, is a very sad story to me.
Sabrina, I just wanted to let you know that your comments about Kim on another post really inspired me to keep fighting the depression and not give into it. You made a difference. That is all.
Sometimes the pressure is all- consuming and you cave in to familiar habits because after all you are your own worst enemy
Sending blessings of strength and hope for our minds can wreak havoc on ourselves too often
The deplorables are still at it? Bloody hell! They need to all chip in and buy a life. I have my fingers crossed that you will shut them down once and for all.
It’s so sad about Kathryn. Now I understand her erratic and frequently hateful behavior. I had thought she was just a spoiled young woman who had no regard for others. Best of luck to her in finding and living recovery.
(Formerly I.Just.Can’t.)
This is very sad to hear about Kathryn. She is young so I hope she gets it together soon. Thomas is a Dick.
TT, I’m more sad to hear that the deplorable situation has not been resolved. They really do think their shit doesn’t stink. They aren’t lovely. The irony of it all! They proclaim they’re so much better because in their minds you are worse. I said before, two wrongs don’t make a right. And I don’t think it registers with them that this blog is your livelihood. They got their feelings hurt and wanted revenge. So yeah, if all they did was talk about makeup then there wouldn’t be an issue, right?
Once I realized that I can view twitter without having an account my jaw dropped. It also seems like a lot of roads lead back to the sister. In my opinion. #ShadyAF
I honestly don’t know how you’ve managed to keep the blog afloat while all that shit being thrown at you! Glad you are taking legal action but sad it had to come to that. It’s time for some peace however you can get it.
Long time reader, don’t comment much, and I love your blog. Love. You could kick a kitten and I would not care. Not because I am a sycophant, but because it’s none of my business. I’m here for the witty recaps and delightful snark. I wish you much success in your legal battles.
I loved following you on twitter but for whatever reason, you have blocked me recently? I’m a huge supporter of yours ,always have been, always will be and I have told people who tried to defame you to fuck off! I had no idea I was blocked until I hadn’t seen any posts from you for a couple a days, so I typed your handle to make sure you were okay and Surprise I’m Blocked??? I now check this site daily for the recaps that I still continue to enjoy and I hope maybe you will unblock me someday? More important I hope all ends well for you as I had no idea what was happening. I’m so sorry you are going through this shit You don’t deserve it! xo
As for Kathryn, she seemed fine the other day when she answered my tweet congratulating her on S4. So this makes me sad for her and those beautiful babies. I really thought she had got it together after last season and she does look good in her recent Instagram pics. Now I’m confused, anxious but still excited about S4 Southern Charm
It seems her focus on looking rail thin in her pics is the problem….she doesn’t think she can attain the life she deserves (wealthy man) without daily pharmaceutical weight loss assistance and she has zero interest in being self supporting.
It may be a tough road ahead for Katherine but I know she will prevail.
Fuck the deplorables..I’m glad you are doing something about it. You gave them more than enough time to move on with their little lives, but it’s clear at this point that will never happen. I’m another person who has been bombarded with hateful tweets on Twitter just by mentioning you. They actually seek people out just to slander you all day long, but you know they are sweet and innocent little victims ?
They really came at me too bashing TT just because I would re-tweet her blogs and say nice things about her. I told them to fuck off after they kept on and on #Idiots get a life and leave me alone (they finally did). I’m retired and just want to sit back and watch Bravo shows and then look forward to TT’s and Lady C’s hilarious blogs each week. Karma will visit them I’m sure as they are so hateful.
That’s sickening and malicious intent on their behalf. Actively seeking out people who retweet a blog to attack and slander the site’s owner is beyond reprehensible.
I read your above comment and TT may have blocked you by accident? With all of the deplorable nonsense it’s hard to tell who is who. Plus they keep making tons of fake accounts to harass.
Thank-you JustJenn I hope that is the issue because I was shocked and sad when I realized I was blocked. I will however continue to support and re-tweet her blogs from here instead of on twitter.
If you have to come to Yankee Land for court/depositions etc. I am available for hand-holding/support. I can be anywhere on the East Coast region within about two hours at the most.
Aw, thanks Housewifehater. I tend to be overly dramatic (you know, in case you haven’t noticed) lol. I don’t think this is something that will actually go down in a courtroom. It will most likely happen via my attorney and social media and blogging legal teams. It’s just going to be somewhat of a PITA.
Your kind offer means a lot. Thanks so much. You do kinda suck at being a hater though. xo ~tt
Ha ha—whew, well to confess I wanted to protect us pitiful Yankees from the likes of YOU! JK–you are a winner TT and I cannot believe those you-know-whats are still messing with you I hope they have very deep-pockets for when you prevail.
Likewise. Im filled with ice cold Yankee blood and could introduce you to some Coastal Elites then some Swamp Yankees, and find a good lobster roll for lunch. Bettah bring a sweatah. It’s chilly down east. Hope you like your cold brew iced.
Kathryn is my favorite. I hope she gets the help she needs. Tommy needs to shove off.
Who is Tommy?
Oh no, I really like Kathryn. I’m sure it’s gut-wrenching to be away from her little ones under any circumstances. No doubt the substances help numb her feelings about what she’s going through. And I have no doubt that with Thomas Ravenel’s connections & resources, he can stack the deck against her if he wishes. And I bet he does stack that deck, especially if he’s out and about, carrying on in downtown Chas and he wants to keep that under wraps.
It does make me think of Adela from Ladies of London. I hope Kathryn knows she can do this. There are people out here that wish her the best & it’s possible to pull herself out of the tailspin & straighten things out, hopefully while the kids are still little. I wish her the best.
I hope Katherine gets it together. She is missing out on so much. Kids grow so quickly.
Hang in there TT, I’m rooting for you even though we might not always agree. We all have bad days and sorry about “those others.”
A “bat shit crazy old cunt” – LOL, LOL, LOL. So good to see you so feisty – very best of luck in court – as my late, wonderful father used to say, “Don’t let the bastards get you down”. Looking forward to hearing what happens. I’m really sad to read that Kathryn isn’t doing well – as much as she loves her children, I would expect her to make sure she stays clean and sober, but sometimes that type of problem is very hard to overcome. Hugs and best wishes to her and all the other brave commenters on this site who are struggling in their recovery, and throw a hug in for yourself at the same time. Go get ’em, Tamara!.
Those morons are indeed deplorable. I’ve never seen anything like this, for this long. Don’t any of those people have lives??
I really hope Kathryn gets her shit together. Sad news about the kids. Thomas seems like such an awful person. Too bad she tried to hitch her wagon to that turd.
Really sorry to hear about Kathryn. My best wishes are with her and especially for the kids. Just so sad.
Geez Sam, me either. I can’t get a handle on it. For someone to spend hours and hours on a non monetized blog and just keeps riling everyone up while proclaiming how “nice” they all are.. it’s insanity. Made even more breathtakingly.. God I don’t even know what.. stupid? She uses her real name and has it attached to deplorable garbage. Gotta hand it to the cat ladies.. almost none of them were that dim. Maybe she never hopes to work in the world again. Surely that’s her only option now. Thank you Tamara for clearing the site. I’ve always appreciated your wit, writing style and snark. Take good care and know you have a lot of people in your corner. Even if they don’t want to tangle in the public cesspool the deplorables have created.
I have a horrible feeling that if the truth were known, we would find out that Thomas is very likely the person who got Kathryn addicted in the first place. He’s your typical rich douche bag, he’s never had to taken responsibility for anything.
As one who has attempted to make myself feel better using alcohol, sex, food, I can’t help but feel compassion and empathy for Kathryn. Can we think for a minute that maybe she’s not so different than us? The coping mechanism may be different, but the void/depression may be the same.
Bingo.
AMEN!
When Kathryn was trying “with all her might” to make a family with the dickhead, she did not appear to be using. Getting T’s favorite recipes to help make him happy and she stayed stuck out in the country. She cooked and cleaned etc seeming so desperately to want him to propose. My gosh, she was set up for failure. So young and stuck out in the damn sticks. I’m sure people thought such a nice home but a lonely home. She has gotten herself in such a bad fix. I remember in season one when Ts ‘father asked about grandchildren. No doubt he loves those babies to the moon and back but I wonder if he wishes T would have tried harder with K? I wish you the very best K! As for T, I truly feel you will get all you deserve and then some!