I have tiny tidbits of news about three different Bravo shows that I’ve been holding on to waiting for more info. Since I was out of pocket most of the day today replacing my DVR box, I thought I’d just put them up.
When it comes to Southern Charm, I feel the same way about Kathryn Calhoun Dennis as I do about Kim Richards. In fact, I don’t think I have ever actually posted that KCD was in rehab shortly after the reunion. If I have not, the short version is that both Thomas and Kathryn were given drug tests by the Charleston Court System when they were determining custody. Thomas somehow miraculously passed. Kathryn did not. Thomas was granted primary custody and it still appears that he has the kids the majority of the time.
I did post about the gang filming in Key West in what will probably be the second to the last episode. I heard from people at Aqua that Kathryn was drunk just like everyone else. I’ve also been hearing that she went off the rails not too long after returning from rehab. Kathryn has told me that is not truthful information. So I will include that Kathryn has denied having issues since returning to Charleston.
The reason I bring this up today, is that I was up very, very late last night. To be honest, I am really struggling with my depression and anxiety. the last two and a half months or so have been quite difficult. As is his practice, Thomas posted on Instagram in the wee hours and took it down shortly thereafter. The gist of his comment was that he didn’t understand why a mother who says that her kids mean so much to her and that her all she wants is to spend time with them “can’t manage to pass a drug test.”
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I have sort of softened my opinion of Thomas lately. His post didn’t seem angry or blaming. It seemed like a post written by a guy who might have had a drink or two and was sad. I’ve heard from sources that I trust for months that Kathryn has not been passing her drug tests. I know there are sites that like to list what she is failing for specifically. I am not wanting to get in to all of that. So please leave info you may have on the subject out of comments. The situation appears to be that Kathryn is struggling with addiction. I believe, and it felt to me last night that Thomas believes that Kathryn loves her kids a lot; however, her addiction is still controlling her. I am never going to judge Kathryn for her struggles or condemn her. I really want her to beat this. She is very young. I am profoundly sad for her and her children and for Thomas. I would probably not have even posted about this, but it will all be discussed in the upcoming season. I heard it was a very rough season for her and she alienated many of her allies who were only trying to help.
As it stands today, I asked if Kathryn was still able to see the kids. She posted a photo today of her with Kensie but you never know when the photo was taken. I was told by more than one source that she does have supervised visitation. I am deeply hopeful, that those visits will motivate her to fight her way out of her current situation. I wish her the strength to get herself back to a healthy place. I hope she fights her demons and wins. I’m sending her love and light tonight.
This news makes me very sad for Kathryn and especially the children. Not sad for Thomas. I think he’s guilty of some underhanded back room dealings to keep full custody when he’s probably equally “unfit” but more capable of providing nannies and the like to keep the little ones clean and fed and cared for.
I don’t doubt that they both completely love the children, and I hope they both get the help they need.
That was very well said.
I wish Kathryn and Thomas the best of love and respect for both of them and the Precious baby’s.
I’m Sorry its been so rough lately. I appreciate your keeping on but please take care of u.
I really want Thomas and Kathryn to be such happy, healthy, whole people who can have a great co-parenting relationship and a respectful, supportive friendship. I think they BOTH love their kids, but as a romantic couple they were just toxic to each other. I don’t know what demons specifically Kathryn is fighting, but I think she can and will beat them. She’s a good person. Believe in yourself, Kathryn. You are worthy of loving yourself.
I am rooting for Katherine. We have all been young, foolish & made the wrong choices and no one on that cast has her back. She is fragile & needs support, not derision from her cast mates. None of them are above reproach although they are so much older nor wiser.
Yes Marc, you said it so well!
My wish is for Katherine and Thomas to go to counseling together, realize that they truly love and respect each other, get cleaned up and live happily every after.
On another note, I shelled out over $500 today to get a bio-identical hormone pellet popped into my butt and a regimen of progesterone and supplements in hopes of feeling way better. Doc thinks I can work off of my happy meds; I have my doubts. Will let you know. Hope you are feeling better, Tamara, even without pellet-butt 🙂
I got my pellet in December and it has changed my life! No more mood swings, headaches, my hair is coming in thicker! I highly recommend the pellet.
That’s the same, “Pallet” Yolanda has!!
I hope it words quickly and you feel better soon. I’m not far behind you, I’m in peri-menopause. ;(
I wish her well but kids are better off and safer with Thomas. I can see this is the reason why no one wanted to film with her last season. She probably needs more than a quick month long rehab.
This is totally not good for the kids until the parents screw their heads on right and fight for these 2 little ones. It is the most important job they have.
Hi Tamara just wanted to say I sure hope you feel better soon!??
Oh Grief here I go. I recall some of this story from before. I know Kathryn has not helped herself but I can’t stand the idea of Thomas with those children.
I like Kathryn, believe her to be a good person and mother.
Thomas I am certain, allegedly, manipulated the court into asking for a drug test and possibly supplying the pot to Kathryn.
I want Kathryn to succeed in having her kids back and away from Thomas. He is horrid little man in my simple opinion.
I don’t know as much as TT, don’t keep up it all but I don’t see Kim and Kathryn in a similar light at all. I could be biased.
I agree with every word.
And add a few- TT, please do what you can to take care of yourself, and treat the anxiety and depression with medical help, please, or whatever works for you. And thanks very much for sharing with us. You do so much every day to lighten/brighten/challenge our thinking each day; we’d like to do the same for you. Please let us know where/how we can be of support back, since you provide so much to us. I think, given all that has gone on in recent months, you are handling al of it like a real class act,
I am very sorry to hear this about Kathryn, but not surprised. And think he has had everything to do with it, including setting her up for the tests. He is the one who need rehab- and a new life. Not the one she provided, in the form of the children she carried-when he clearly was only interested n how they would help his legacy- nothing about them.
I hear in your message a thoughtful kind approach to each person suffering form addiction, which I echo, and feel for Kathryn, but I have to say , not so for the permanent victim/actor, Kim. Originally and at times over the seasons, I’ve had a lot of empathy for Kim, but she has proven herself unworthy of it, and unwilling to do the hard work, or care enough about others to take responsibility and make her life right. She’s at the point where her children have become her caretakers. while she defies court orders right and left, thinking she is better than all that. Meanwhile, after begging to be back ,she has her sister again complaining what a victim she is when others question what is going on with her. While Eden has gone too far too fast with her probes, truth is when Kim signed up again for RH, she signed up for everything that goes with it. Period.
I totally respect your opinion, Sabrina, but I think regarding Kim that some people are truly broken in a way that may never be completely recoverable. The symptoms of the damage aren’t always truly volitional, even though they may appear that way. I don’t think this excuses Kim or any other grown person from their actions, but I think they must be held accountable with a certain measure of compassion and an eye to what is really going on. I don’t think the “true Kim” wants to live her life this way, alienating her family, embarrassing herself and taking actions that are clearly destructively defensive or self defeating. I think there’s been a lot of things in Kim’s past that beat her down in different ways. I dont envy Kyle or anyone else in the family who obviously both love Kim and are FRUSTRATED by her behavior, actions or choices, to say the least. I speak from experience – I had a very close family member I loved very much who had a LOT of emotional instability and self destructive tendencies, it is incredibly difficult to deal with them, because so often you want them to just pull their shit together like everyone else, even if they aren’t capable of it. That being said, I also don’t want Kim back on BH just because I think it is too much of a stressor on her and if she is, at all, in a place to keep going on a road to being as well as she can be, this isn’t what she needs.
Sorry for veering off the Southern Charm topic.
You know what? I am an old lady and I don’t think they were toxic — neither of them really stepped up to the responsibility of having two children. And here everyone will disagree, but Thomas needed to marry Kathryn and they both needed to give up the partying, drinkin’ and druggin’. People around town don’t have any good to say about Mr. Ravenal and his wild ways either. They should just have grown up and taken responsibility. There are now two little lives that could benefit from that.
We had an early 20’s relative just die of an overdose & it is just so hard. Addiction seems so had to beat and I am blessing Kathryn for finding inner strength to beat this. She is young & talented & beautiful w those precious children to live for. I pray she finds her way
As for you, Tamara, I hope you’ll remember what an amazing thing you’ve built w this site and how many care for you. You are now famous & respected & have loads to look forward to. Very few could have done what you’ve done! Hope you’ll bounce back and parlay what you’ve accomplished into the life you want. You deserve that. X o x o x
I almost always read your blog though I don’t always comment but the way you have reported the struggle of these women I just wanted to say. Well Done!
When many others would go for the jugular until a head rolls off to expose An addict or someones struggles to make a few bucks, I believe you feel more inclined to tackle these subjects for the greater good which brings me to ask you if you ever considered starting a site focusing on the struggles of depression, addiction and mental illness? There are so many people who are struggling out there and feel very isolated. Your personality and your own admitted struggle with depression as well as the fact that you have managed to start a very successful site with limited resources could motivate others as well as shedding some light for others in such a dark place.
I never cared much for Katherine. But I do del for her. I think she is battling a form of depression and self medicating. My kids chose to live with their dad when they were little. I took the high road and let them in order to keep them healthy. I haven’t been the same since. I suspect her loss of Thomas and the kids destroyed her.
My heart goes out to you; what a difficult choice. I hope you can find some peace from that pain.
She didn’t complete her rehab program. She left it early.
Rooting for Kathryn
Addiction is a real bitch. My father had problems for years but lived his last 25 yrs alcohol free. A close family member is an addict, recovering but will always be one . She is young and part of recovery is usually a relapse or 2 or 3. I would not wish this struggle on anyone. So glad Thomas has stepped up and been a responsible parent while Katherine tries to get her demons under control. The kids are precious, but not sure filming this show would be good for anyone trying to recover. Too much partying going on which is fine if you know your limits and do not have issues with drugs or alcohol. I wish her the best regardless.
Wow. I totally agree with this post. I almost stopped coming here after your negative post about Jenelle. Who is also had her own struggles with mental issues and addiction. Which are issues that are diseases like any other disease. However, Jenelle started her journey at 16 and not 20. She is currently doing the best out of the three off Barbs offspring. Which I believe was not a healthy home Jenelle or her sibling were brought up in even though it may have been Barbs best effort. Barb scared her if she did not sign her rights off to her she would turn her in and she will loose Jace forever. However, if Jenelle would volunteer to sign her rights over Barb would give Jace back when she got her stuff together. She has raised a healthy and safe child for over 2 years giving him a stable and safe environment in a home she pays the bills. That court will rip Jace away because there is no reason the natural mother not be giving the chance. That is North Carolinas stance as I am from there and have seen lots of case from friends and family. Including friends getting kids back for the state. Barb is making this ugly and hurting everyone by not transitioning her back into the mother role. The lengths Jenelle has come from where she started is a miracle ecspecially for the type of drugs she was on? So why so much compassion for Kathryn and contempt for Jenelle or as you would say Janelle???
Kathyn seems like a good person. She is young and was not treated well by those she filmed with.
Hoping she can turn things around for herself and her kids.
Southern Charm wont be worth watching without her.
Doesn’t matter what my personal opinion of Kathryn or the “character” she plays on this show is, she is a mother and a woman (presumably) struggling with addiction, and for that, I have immense sympathy and hope things get better for her.
Nobody deserves to have to fight this battle and for their children to suffer for it. Whatever her flaws, I always felt it was obvious she adored her babies, she’s just in over her head.
Praying she finds a helping hand somewhere and beats this.
Tamara I have never respected you more. I love reading your recaps. I don’t know you but I care about you and wish you the best in your struggles. That is coming from one gal with plenty of struggles to another gal. Anyway I love Katherine. I believe she loves her children. I pray she gets it together soon. In the meantime my thoughts and prayers are with her. And with you doll!!
Once again, I appreciate the non-judgment attitude towards addiction and mental illness.
I first came into AA at 19. It’s hard to get sober at any age but particularly difficult in one’s 20’s. It took me nine years of horrible pain and loss to finally hit my knees and cry, “Uncle”. I hope it doesn’t take Kathryn this long, she needs to be with her kids. I had to isolate myself from anybody who wasn’t sober; I didn’t attend parties, concerts etc for years. I worked, attends meetings, exercised and hung out with my dog. I can’t imagine trying to get sober in a group that basically is paid to get drunk and rile each other up. It’s the exact opposite of what she needs. I can’t imagine the pain she’s feelings being separated from her children; I miss my son terribly when his father takes him just for the day and he’s almost 13. I don’t doubt she’s also feeling pain from her failed relationship with Thomas. Unfortunately, she will probably need to hit bottom before she comes into AA-it sucks and it’s not pretty. I wish her well.
I”m sorry to hear about your reoccurring anxiety and depression. I’ve lived it with it most of my life and it’s lonely, isolating and scary. Even when I’m doing pretty well, it’s like there’s this sword over my head, waiting to fall at any moment. People always tell me, “This too shall pass!” ‘Tis true but I always want to ask, “When? Can you please tell me exactly what day and time please?”
Just curious as to whether Kathryn had such addiction issues prior to her being bullied and savaged by the crypt-keeper carpetbagger and her minions who managed to convince feckless Thomas not to marry Kathryn. They took away her happy ever after and the happy ever after for her children.