This week, Kenya once again discusses Matt on her Bravo blog. As usual she seems to be minimizing his unstable, violent behavior. Sadly, this on again, off again relationship continues through the entire season, even after he was allegedly banned from filming for a while. She still chose to bring him to the finale filming at Chateau Charade.
Let me pull out the purple pen.
Bravotv.com: What went through your mind when Matt slapped the driver?
KM: I was shocked, because it happened so fast. I have never seen him strike anyone. I knew he was angry because he drove hours to get there when his ticket was cancelled. After reading his texts, I didn’t know his state of mind, so I didn’t want any altercation.
He has kicked the door down in two different hotels in two different countries, made threatening texts toward you and vandalized your property. You can’t seriously mean you didn’t think he would hit anyone. You literally told the driver not to let him in the car when he approached because he is dangerous!
When Matt approached the car, I didn’t think it would end well. He looked inside the car and then the driver rolled the window up on him while his head was still inside. It happened so fast. I was relieved that he walked away and it didn’t escalate.
It makes more sense to me that the driver was attempting to secure the car from a raging asshole by rolling up the window. If Matt is dumb enough to stick his head in a car that does not belong him in an attempt to get at a female passenger, he deserves what he gets. Why does Kenya act like Matt didn’t hit the driver. It didn’t escalate? Yes, yes it did.
It’s hard to watch these scenes and was even harder for me to live through them as this was a man I was in love with. Even though I have not spoken to Matt in a while, he came to my house when he heard I was possibly hurt by trespassers last week. I wasn’t home, but his mother reached out to me for him to make sure I was not hurt.
Even though I would never make any excuses for violent or verbally abusive behavior, this show of genuine care has made me see he is not a monster.
He is still showing up at your house? Why isn’t he back in Syracuse or wherever he lives? Who is paying his rent? Why is his mother reaching out to you? There should be no contact between you. He sees that you are in a vulnerable situation and tries to capitalize on it. That is not a “show of genuine care.”
But be clear, no woman should accept any person who makes them feel threatened or nervous in any way. I feel justified in my decision to leave the relationship. With that said, I know that he has been getting help. I pray that he continues his path of healing.
Until you stop talking to him, or his mother, or engaging in his social media tirades, you have not left the crappy relationship.