I knew that this season of RHOA would be difficult to watch. While I don’t know Kenya personally, I do have a source that is very close to Kenya. That source has been concerned about her relationship with Matt for quite some time. I was aware of some, but not all of the things Kenya posted about recently on Instagram. I have an idea the source was unaware of the full extent of what was going on, and that yesterday’s Instagram post held surprising information for that person as well. What we did know was bad enough.
I knew that Kenya and Matt had spent a lot of time together during the off-season. I knew that Matt and Kenya were talking about Matt fathering a child with her via IVF, And I think that is how it came to be that Kenya put up with this asshole for as long as she has. That’s just my opinion, but Kenya really wants a baby, and I feel like she thought she could fix whatever the hell is wrong with him. Matt is someone who can be trusted around a child.
Here is what Kenya said about the situation yesterday after Matt had the audacity to say he was just playing the role of her boyfriend. Or maybe just playing the role of a thug. As I said they were together most all the time in the down season, so clearly he put in a lot of dress rehearsal time. I guess he needed to work on his lines in Mexico, and Vegas and…the other places we saw them together.
There were no cameras around in Mexico when the door was kicked in and police escorted him out. There were no cameras the now FOUR times my home was vandalized. There were no cameras filming when my neighbors called 911. There were no cameras filming when the Vegas hotel kicked him out for being violent and destroying the hotel room. There were no cameras around when I posted bail, paid for tickets, back owed rent to keep from being evicted, or never left his side when he cried in my arms to take him back countless times. And there were no cameras around when he got arrested for a felony last month (for the 4th time in a year) tazed, handcuffed and fled on foot. There were no cameras when he was banned from filming because of his violence.
The Mexico trip was the first time I heard of Matt’s violent behavior. I was told it was much worse than what was reported. When Kenya returned, she had to immediately fly to NYC and film Worst Cooks. There were rumors that Kenya caused a ruckus while filming that show. That didn’t sound like her to me. I always thought she probably asked to voted off first because of her personal problems going on at the time. Matt was in Atlanta and she was worried about her house. Even is she did have some difficult behavior, who could blame her?
Kenya went to Vegas to film Sharknado and it seems Matt was there for that causing problems for her acting career.
The four arrests this year occurred with reckless driving that alerted cops to other outstanding warrants. TMZ describes the most recent one. “In September, Jordan was driving past cops and allegedly shouted homophobic slurs at them. Things escalated and officers ended up firing a Taser into his back, which they say he ripped out and fled into the woods. Cops went to his car, found his ID and arrested him 4 days later for felony obstruction and misdemeanor disorderly conduct.”
Oh and Matt was banned from filming for his violence. That explains why he was wandering the streets of Syracuse like a homeless dude whining about not being in Maui. And remember the time Kenya was in Miami and Matt just happened to fly down there and hang around with “his fans” while she was there? Creepy.
I was worried about Kenya when she was on The Real recently talking about Matt. I was particularly disturbed by her comment that she knows that Matt loves her. Because I knew what had gone on and that is not what loves looks like.
My biggest concern for Kenya is that this is not over. For any of those who have been in these sorts of relationships, the scene where she stands inside the car door begging him to talk to her, is heartbreaking and stirs up a lot of memories of painful relationships. I really hope she stays away from this asshole, because he is using ever single manipulation device these types of assholes use. Every.Single.One.
Oh, and one more thing. Matt’s sister has to know how violent he is. So her treatment of Kenya on RHOA was despicable.
I am sincerely worried about Kenya. I think she is a woman with a lot to offer in a relationship and to see her putting up with this fool and stooping to even talk to him in her driveway while he uttered shit about how she “makes” him act that way was gut wrenching. And you are so right, his family must know his history and personality, so to have grilled Kenya like that is unforgivable. They should have been telling her to RUN.
I felt so sorry for Kenya during last Sunday’s episode. She really wanted it to work with Matt, so I wanted that for her. However, I thought from day 1 that she could do much better. (And he has the nerve to say he was just acting out a script. Uh-huh.) I kinda wondered if Matt was a bit unbalanced way back when he responded with anger to Peter joking about him being so young. However, because Peter can be brash I gave Matt the benefit of the doubt. I am now totally convinced that he is unstable. As for the future, run, Kenya, run!
Matt is an immature, violent, vindictive, manipulative prick and it breaks my heart to see Kenya in this situation. His fake boyfriend claim is clearly an attempt to punish her for not taking him back for the billionth time. I’m genuinely surprised he hasn’t tried to give her the “I’ll kill myself if you leave me” story yet.
Who says he hasn’t?
He had some really out there IG posts among other things I read that were close enough to it,
This season isn’t good at all, yes it has drama like we all love at times but the way Carlos is going about it this season is so low. Why is Kenya Moore after being on this show for several seasons only successful with an single hair care line, when we know she’s talented and capable of so much more. Why is she so desperate to stay on RHOA and not branch out and grow, that she will make up false scenarios for camera time? I feel the same way about kandi using Riley for a storyline and not caring about her daughters personal feelings about having the problems with her dad plastered across our screens. There’s no way that Kenya believed that her relationship with Matt would last when they really didn’t know each other and her not being able to realize that once the cameras stop rolling, you have to maintain a real relationship and not one just for tv. The show has run it’s course with these women and every little thing that the producers try to squeeze out of them has been seen before, I hope Kenya realizes her worth and maximizes the most out of her celebrity in a positive way.
Kenya and Matt have been together for quite some time. You assessment what her expectations were in that relationship are not founded on the facts of the situation.
I felt so sorry for Kenya during last Sunday’s episode. She really wanted it to work with Matt, so I wanted that for her. However, I thought from day 1 that she could do much better. (And he has the nerve to say he was just acting out a script. Uh-huh.) I kinda wondered if Matt was a bit unbalanced way back when he responded with anger to Peter joking about him being so young. However, because Peter can be brash I gave Matt the benefit of the doubt. I am now totally convinced that he is unstable. As for the future, run, Kenya, run!
ITA! I knew from that scene with Peter something off with him. A little bit of light teasing from the guys and he’s having a meltdown and ready to take it outside. He seems mentally unstable and IMO may possibly be on steroids which is known to increase anger/aggression.
See I didn’t feel that way about Matt during the Peter incident. I love a good dick measuring contest over who is the alpha man in the room. I suppose it is my perception of that scene that had me dating more than my fair share of men similar to Matt.
Back when I saw that scene for the first time, I thought they must have been giving Matt shit prior to that moment when they were sitting around being filmed and that’s why he finally got pissed. Now I do wonder if it was a first peek into his alleged rage issues.
I never liked Matt from the beginning and always knew something was off with him. TT’s been discussing Matt’s childish and violent tendencies here for several months so it really pisses me off when I read comments elsewhere and people are buying into the whole “fake boyfriend” thing and bashing Kenya. No one deserves to be abused, regardless how you feel about them personally. From a TV show.
Has it crossed anyone minds that those erratic, violent behavior and giant muscles may be interrelated? Anabolic steroid use in the muscle building community isn’t unheard of.
It has been discussed. I don’t care if it is from steroids, mental illness or traumatic brain injury, she needs to keep violent men away from her.
Just a damn shame all the way around. Rooting for ya Kenya!
Is Matt from Syracuse?. I live in Syracuse and thank God our paths have never crossed. I need to warn my sisters that a mad man is on the loose. Lol
Matt’s sister was way out of order. She acted like Kenya was getting a jewel of man and she knew Matt was on some Frankenstien type shit, ripping tasers out and running into woods. I’ve noticed when I got to the hospital, that part of the medical questions they ask is,”do you feel safe in your home?” Domestic violence and codependancy is real.
I was asked that question when I was checking in. I was nervous and on some medication. I answered no. I didn’t realize what they were asking. I just answered honestly. My compassionate companion had to explain to me what the purpose of the question was.
Why do women tolerate this kind of behavior? If she wants a baby, adopt one. There are young girls out here that are not able to care for them and are putting them up for adoption. You do not bring a child into the world to fix adult problems. A child should not be born with a job. This woman wanting a baby to fix what’s wrong with her is ridiculous. Especially with a BOY who has serious anger issues and numerous run ins with the law. This train wreck needs to be derailed.
Women tolerate this behavior because they have a history of abuse. I thought I would answer your question since you seem to be on a high horse about it. These type of questions are not often asked by women who have been in abusive relationships, so I am assuming you have not and are not capable of comprehending it.
Also, your uninformed pronouncements about Kenya’s reasons for wanting a child lack both knowledge of her situation or compassion.
Some of these comments are as infuriating as Whoopi Goldberg who on The View always seems to ask why when a woman comes forward making sexual assault charges years after the incident and then others also come forward, she is skeptical and condescending and defends the abuser (like Bill Cosby to list one example) WHY DIDN”T THEY COME FORWARD UNTIL NOW? Whoopi always asks.
Because of cunts like Whoopi and you who the cunts over on Kenya’s IG who are blaming her, shaming her and not believing it.
It’s sad.
I’m sure women didn’t report Cosby because he was a big star and an icon. They wouldnt have been believed and would have been crucified for pulling the curtain back on what he was REALLY like. The powers to be would have covered it up, and rape is an incrediably hard thing to prove, especially if one is disabled in some manner, so that they could neither fight it or consent to it, or fully remember events. It took alot of victims to trip Cosby up. I can totally understand women not reporting it before and it took alot of courage to do it now.
I don’t think she was dating Matt in order to have a baby but I do think things were going so well that she started to think he might be “the one” until he ruined it in Mexico. I think she put up with his shit because she really wanted to see if he could become father material – misguided on her part but also completely understandable IMO. I’m sure he talked a big game about wanting to improve for her
I don’t know what it is about Kenya but I am def on her team. She is relatable and fun and a little crazy just what you want in a friend. I feel sick to my stomach about this. I hope she isn’t falling into that trap that so many women in that situation do. She is vulnerable and feels time running out and therefore maybe a little desperate.
I hope she realizes her situation and runs for the hills. I will be saying prayers for her. I feel so very sad over this.
Kenya, and people like her need to realize you can’t fix them no matter how much you love them. Hope Kenya has security around her and a restraining order.
I have never been a Kenya fan and had doubts about whether she and Matt were in a real relationship. The scene of her trying to reason with him out in the driveway broke my heart – it was apparent to me it was a real relationship and a very unhealthy one at best. As much as I do not like her, I truly wanted to jump thru my TV and tell her to get in the house and tell him to get the fuck away and never come back or risk my wrath. It brought up horrible memories from when I was younger and there is no changing him. My ex was shot and killed this past summer and it was a case of self defense. His bullying abusive ways finally caught up to him. It takes a whole lot for men like Matt to change. Kenya may want love but she doesn’t deserve unhealthy love. I hope she has the right kind of support around her.
I find it interesting that Kenya pressed charges against Porsha and has put up with much worse from Matt. It doesn’t make sense. What is really going on with this situation. I didn’t take Kenya for the stay with an abuser girl.
No matter what Kenya says or how she seems, deep down she thinks she’s unlovable because her mother turned her back on her and then went on emotionally abusing her by being around but denying she exists. That’s got to crush you deep inside for life to a certain extent. I think she wants to have love and give love so much she is willing to put up with a lot just for the idea of it. I wish she could REALLY see herself as a person worthy of waiting for real love and respect. Not someone worthy of crumbs. She’s better than that. Every woman is.
God bless you, SLM.
It’s a mindset that is really hard to explain. I wish I could, but I can’t. I think it has something to do with the intimacy level of the relationship. There are all kinds of abuse and folks allow it for a myriad of reasons. She was not in an intimate relationship with Porsha and felt like she owed her nothing. Being in an intimate relationship with someone can cause boundary issues for someone who may be a bit broken/damaged. I see what happens with Kenya and Porsha/Sheree as something completely different than Matt.
I hope that the show uses this situation in a way that will make people like you understand the difference between a violent same sex coworker and a man you share your bed with.
Unfortunately. ..Kenya is not done. She will even go as far as to nlame herself, the show, and the public for this douchebags abusive behavior.
After what she just posted on instagram, she BETTER get a restraining order…because Master Manipulators /Users/and worthlesss men HATE being put on BLAST for having a Women BAIL THEM OUT OF ANYTHING.
This will NOT end well if she doesn’t STOP ALL COMMUNICATION.
I went through this as a kid with my Godmom….he WILL HIT HER!
**blame…not “nlame”
Oh yeah!! And shame on his sister. She knows who he is. I’m certain of it. She is an enabler and for all we know, she may be an abuser, too, based on what she had to say. UNLESS that was her way of trying to run interference the best way she knew how without him coming after her. I don’t know. I guess I’m giving her the benefit of doubt. OK. I” gonna try not to say anything else.
Matt deserves a pinball right between the eyes from a slingshot, preferably a wrist rocket. Gargoyles spewing boiling oil would suit him as well and adds architectural detail. Bear traps,Pookie and them, whatever it takes. Stop him in his tracks as he will stop at nothing.
It felt uncomfortable watching the other night. I kept thinking about the much too often results of these relationships. Goes to show no one is immune to being a victim. I pray Kenya does whatever necessary to be safe, and I pray Matt goes away and let’s her be. (And she let’s him).
I am hopeful Bravo will help in anyway they can to help with the situation, not exploit it. Guess we will see.
My heart just hurts for her–I felt like the way TT described her in an earlier blog (going to paraphrase, won’t do her words justice), but just a broken hearted girl, sad and scared, and we saw the realest real of any reality show. I hurt for her on more than one level–you can see she wants that happy ending with all of her heart, but is it possible to find an authentic Prince Charming when you are on a reality tv show? The filming part complicates what she wants–it would attract a lot of frogs who are more interested in what you can do for them or for their career. And I completely agree with the theory that she has been in abusive relationships, hoping that she will break the ties with Matt–hoping that seeing the episode made a difference. I’ll be honest–I haven’t always liked Kenya. Her early twirling and all turned me off. In more recent seasons–thru her remodel and now this season–gosh–I am rooting for her. 100%.
All of the things wrong with this relationship are Mate’s fault. Let me just say that Bravo isn’t helping in these situations: 1) asking the women to find men, 2) knowing the women are being abused and not doing anything about it and 3) exploiting these difficult relationships for the purpose of entertainment.
I am going to wish for Christmas that all women change their definition of “having it all.” Some will have husbands and some will have kids and some will have careers but whatever you have let it be satisfying and fulfilling. Merry DAYUM Christmas.
I was trying to watch this episode again for the Mama Joyce scenes; let me get back to it.
It has been my experience that girls with abandonment issues have a really tough time giving up on people. Poor Kenya’s picker is off… she chooses such awful men. I wish her the best.
The scene from Sunday seemed very contrived and put on to me. Let’s say this is actually real, why does Kenya elicit violence from so many different people on the show? What is it about her that she can’t seem to have a healthy relationship with any man? She’s a former beauty queen, she’s been around some very successful intelligent men in her day, why would she settle for Matt? Lol A man that was being potty trained in her hey day? Why is Kenya the perpetual victim? Always. Someone is always attacking her, and she’s always the victim. Could it be that she a toxic trick as Vivica says? I think so.
Why don’t you direct all those questions to the actual abusers? Why do they feel the need to get violent? Victim shaming is so low Vivica, I mean Victoria.
I’m super bummed about this entire turn of events. I was one of the few (I think it was a few) people who rooted for them as a couple. He is super handsome, had her back, and I thought a younger guy might be a good fit for Kenya’s personality. Unfortunately he turned out to be…this….and I’m feeling really sorry for Kenya. People like to point at the Walter incident as indicating that her relationship with Matt was fake, too, but it’s obvious it was genuine on both sides & he’s just a vindictive man-child.
I hope Kenya reads this and knows that she made the right decision leaving Matt behind and there are alot of people that support and understand her.
TT, love your blog (sorry you went though so much BS the last couple of weeks) Thank you for your RHOA recaps which is why I have been a reader of your blog for years. Merry Christmas 🙂
This was very difficult to watch. Kenya needs better security. She can’t help this guy. Get a TRO..
How this guy is getting his money is beyond me. I never liked him. Always thought she could have done much better.
Stopped watching this show after last season, mostly because of the violence and Porsha. I feel really bad for Kenya in this situation and hope she finds the strength to move on. If she is experiencing manipulation and psychological abuse it can make it even tougher to break free from.
I agree with previous poster that it sounds like steroid rage (further validated by ripping out of the taser – that shit is crazy). If so, I hope he gets help and I hope she runs. Ironically, I loved them together when they were first shown on the show. Who knows, maybe he will get help and they can reunite?
Until Kenya believes Matt is unworthy. until she believes she is worthy of much better, she will return to him time and again. He loves her, but his love is unhealthy. She loves him, but he is not ready for her love. I understand their dynamic. I feel her hope and her pain. Next time, next man, it’ll be right. I’ve been there and I am happier now than I ever thought possible. Kenya is very close to her happily ever after. Matt is not it.
TT your comment about Matt’s sister is exactly what I was thinking