Cynthia was on Steve Harvey today and talked openly about her divorce. Steve started out playing a clip from her last visit on the show almost a year ago.
Steve Harvey: What changed?
Cynthia Bailey: I think I just reached a breaking point. I just felt like, you know what, since I’ve been in this marriage, I’ve been working on this marriage, and it just got to a point where I just got tired of working on my marriage. And I felt like, you know what, I’ve given all I can give.
Steve Harvey: Is the divorce mutual?
Cynthia Bailey: Well, I actually initiated it, um, I think in Peter’s heart, he knows that we’ve just kind of come to the end of the road. I think he’s just the type of person that would just kind of hang in there and just keep roughing it out. But you know, I’m reaching a huge milestone. Next year I’m going to be turning 50 and …. when I wake up on my 50th birthday, you know, I really want to open my eyes and just love everything that I see, and love the person that I’m with and just have peace. And um, this marriage …. it was supposed to happen. I’ve been engaged a couple of times, but Peter is the only man that I married, and I have absolutely no regrets. But I just want peace and I just wasn’t getting peace and that’s what I want for my next chapter.
Steve asked about how being on a reality show effected their marriage. She said they lost a lot of their privacy. She never mentions all of the videos of Peter cheating while he lived in Charlotte. Something they both deny.
Cynthia Bailey: You know, there’s just a lot of things that you go through as a couple …. Peter and I were friends before we were you know, husband and wife, and I felt like we just started to lose focus on that friendship and …. that was the beginning of it …. At this point, you know Steve, I just feel like …. well I knowthat I can just be a better friend to Peter than his wife.
Steve Harvey then shows a post that Peter made on his social media, which read: “RULE FOR A RELATIONSHIP – A man must take care of his woman and a woman must take care of her man. No one is before the other. It’s about teamwork.”
Cynthia Bailey: When I’m in, I’m all in. But when I’m out, I’m out …. I really know that I gave this all that I can give. I don’t need to keep um, giving and giving and giving …. I sleep very well at night, knowing that I did the best that I could do. This is my first marriage. I’m not saying, you know, I was the best wife in the world. I completely accept my accountability for my short comings. However, I tried my best and that just has to be good enough.
Cynthia wants to seek some advice from Steve friend to friend as if the cameras are not there. She is really hopeful that she and Peter can remain friends after the divorce. She wants to know if Steve thinks that is possible. Steve says it is a difficult thing to pull off. Cynthia says she is not interested in being married but she doesn’t want to lose her friend. Cynthia doesn’t think she is wife material. She is not sure it is possible for her to maintain an identity within a marriage. Cynthia seems very emotional about the divorce. She’s struggling.
In other Cynthia news, there is a rumor that she is dating a professional boxer circulating the ATL. If so, good for her.
The speaking tag, “you know,” is very California, very teenage. I think Cynthia must be influenced by her daughter or something. It bothers me.
Cynthia is gorgeous and kind–hoping she’ll find her peace and happiness. Gah, she’s 50?! That’s crazy. She looks 35.
I thinks it’s just her verbal crutch, she says it a lot on the show.
Drinking word of the night “you know”
Kandi’s repeatedly says, “at the end of the day….”
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It’s the Libyan souk and it is not my photo. The photo that came with this design was a New York cityscape. I wanted something more personal, however you can’t really see it. lol.
UNLESS you are on an iPad. None of my iPad readers have been able to see the site since the changeover. the white page we are all typing on doesn’t show up so they have black words on the souk picture that they can’t read.
I’ve tried a bit to fix it but have been on lots of drugs mostly so I have been staying away from any coding.
It’s the Libyan souk and it is not my photo. The photo that came with this design was a New York cityscape. I wanted something more personal, however you can’t really see it. lol.
UNLESS you are on an iPad. None of my iPad readers have been able to see the site since the changeover. the white page we are all typing on doesn’t show up so they have black words on the souk picture that they can’t read.
I’ve tried a bit to fix it but have been on lots of drugs mostly so I have been staying away from any coding.
I’ve heard Cynthia take responsibility if she’s screwed up, but I don’t ever recall hearing Peter admit to doing anything wrong – ever.
Cynthia, don’t let him put you on a guilt trip.
I don’t think she will – she knows what she was dealing with and finally made a wise decision for herself.
Peter seems emotionally abusive to me.
Strikes me as more of the emotionally obliterative type. It must take some nerve to block feelings.
I wonder if the pressure of her first season on the show made her rush into marriage for a storyline.
Or maybe not even for the storyline but just felt pressure in general all the way around. It can be hard to think clearly when family and friends are at odds with one’s decision. Throw a reality show into the mix and that just adds more stress.
Let it go!
Cynthia really is the most down to earth on that show. She’s beautiful and I would never guess she was approaching 50. Cynthia is class. She could spill everything about Peter, but doesn’t. That takes a big person. I really wish that the show had more women of character like her.
I type this as respectfully as I can…marriage is not for Cynthia. Why? For all the reasons she listed herself. It takes constant work day in and day out, and that is not meant to sound like it isn’t fun because for the most part marriage should be fun…scratch that…rewarding. But, if you aren’t willing to work and make it an us vs a me thing…you’re not marriage material. And that’s ok too.
Wish Cynthia bailed out sooner but a lady knows when to leave.
I love Cynthia. That is all. She is so elegant and beautiful. I think she maybe married for the wrong reasons and she’s getting out because it’s the right thing to do. But she’s handling herself and this divorce very well.
Now, is Steve Harvey the right person to get relationship advice from? Probably not.
So glad to hear Cynthia made the decision to divorce Peter. Huge albatross off her shoulders & the right move on her part !
I’m so glad she’s finally excising that wart from her ass.
She deserves a gold star for classy if there is a shred of truth to the cheating rumors. Couldn’t respect her more for how she is handling a difficult situation.
Steve is a sexist and very much into the physicality of love. His advice to woman has demonstrated that over the years. He would be the last person a woman should seek advice! I’m sure they travel in some of the same social circles in ATL so his show was an opportunity for her to promote a storyline for her role on RHOA.
I wish her happiness and joy. Good for you Cynthia!
A little Chablis helps a lady come to her senses. Then all she needs is a bucket.
I never liked Peter – he always seemed shady. I am glad Cynthia finally left, and glad she did it with the grace and delicacy I associated with her character. I don’t know why sweet women get tangled up with shady bastards like Peter and waste YEARS on them.