Merriam-Webster defines the word ‘comment’ as, “an observation or remark expressing an opinion or attitude.” The same source defines the term ‘topic’ as, “the subject of a discourse or of a section of a discourse.” Thus, on-topic comments are remarks related to the post above the comment section.
If, hypothetically, the post was about changing a tire, and how inconvenient it may be to have to use a “donut” tire instead of a full-sized tire, a relevant comment would be, “I agree, those donut tires are rather frightening when you are on an interstate because you can’t drive your car at a safe speed to keep up with traffic.” Or perhaps even, ” It’s a good idea to keep of WD-40 in the trunk to help loosen the lugnuts.” Both of these are on-topic comments.
Sometimes even on topic comments will be met with someone who points out that your on topic comment that is longer than the post is a long-winded blow hard waste of space. That person might tell you to shut the fuck up. If you can’t handle that sort of response, then the Internet in general is probably not the best place for you. If your feelings are hurt, and you decide that this is not the place for you, I do not need an email notifying me of this fact. I will not attempt to keep anyone here against their will. I moderate the comments as I see fit.
If you recall, I mentioned a couple of days ago that I would not be around to moderate comments so you might have to be exposed to comments that upset you in my absence. I am still not fully back to run interference between you and other commenters. As we all learned in kindergarten, ignoring people who say things you do not like will stop them from speaking to you more quickly than having a protracted debate with them. There is nothing in my commenting rules that says that the commenters have to be nice to each other. AND WHILE WE DO GENERALLY EXPECT COMMENTERS TO BE KIND IN THE DAILY TEA POSTS, PEOPLE WHO DO NOT COMMENT HERE EVERY DAY DO NOT KNOW THIS UNSPOKEN RULE. And sometimes, even the ones who do post here daily don’t follow it. In that instance you have to be prepared to deal with hurt feelings and then adjust YOUR reactions accordingly. I have done it, so can you.
Within the regular posts here, ON TOPIC comments are expected. OFF TOPIC COMMENTS may be deleted. Using the above example, regarding tire changing, examples of off topic comments would be “Did someone say donuts? There is a really good recipe for donuts on another site. I really wish I could link it here. What is your favorite kind of donut? Maybe I could just cut and paste the donut recipe here. Let me just do that.”
There are other comments that could be seen as on topic, but are simply devoid of any contribution to the discussion. Examples of this are things like, “word.” which has no meaning at all despite some people thinking it is some form of global agreement. Similarly, “Agreed.” “Ditto.” “Like.” and other one word responses are not valuable comments. Particularly because the Administrator of the site gets an email for each comment.
Which brings up to another off topic comment, the clueless. These are comments from people who have no idea what they are talking about. They announce this up front in a comment like this. “I have no idea what to do in this situation. Maybe try a sip of Drano? Maybe someone will come along who knows what to do. So, um, Good luck!”
Which brings us to “the complimenters.” Sometimes someone says something particularly funny, or helpful, or smart or profound. In those cases it is fine to say, “OMG, you are so funny/smart/helpful!” HOWEVER. If every comment you make is “OMG, you are so funny/smart/helpful!” your comment has no value at all and is simply annoying as fuck. These obsessive complimenters are often the recipients of “mean responses” begging them to SHUT THE FUCK UP. I find those reactions totally understandable. As the admin, I often reach out to the constantly complimenting commenter and calmly suggest they stop making 97 comments a day that are essentially, “that was a good comment!” Why? Because once again, I get an email for each one. This usually hurts their feelings and they stop posting for a while and then revert back to posting 99 random compliments a day.
Just as annoying as the complimenters are the doomsday responders. Their comments go like this, ” I knew someone once who got into a nasty accident on one of those donut tires. He was decapitated and his head just rolled around the highway until a vulture flew down and pecked out his eyes. His whole family was so distraught they held a mass suicide where they even tried to kill the baby but it miraculously lived and is now just a deformed blob with no eyes and only patches of hair that is being kept alive on life support because there is no one to give consent to unhook life support.”
This brings out the one uppers. ” Well, I used to live with Jim Jones when everyone drank the Kool-aid and I was the only one who lived.” Which will be followed by someone else saying, “Jim Jones? Really? That is nothing. I am currently incarcerated at Gitmo and just endured a 48 hour waterboarding session where I did NOT crack.”
This of course brings in the apologizers. They are usually the same people as the complimenters. They will respond to each and every doomsday responder and one upper with heartfelt condolences and of course share a similar story that has happened to them.
Around this time, people will start asking about the donut recipe again. Is there a gluten free version? Might I substitute soy milk?
On the sidelines, stand a few on-topic people who want to talk about which truck they could purchase that has a full sized spare. But they are likely to go to another site at this point because a third of the site is fully of people blowing random sunshine up the asses of as many people as possible, another third describing the most horrific and depressing topic they can conjure up, and the final third discussing gluten free baking. They don’t want to interrupt all of that with actual on topic conversation. It would seem, well…rude at that point.
Then a complimenter will show up and say, “Oh wow! Look at all these comments! Congratulations!”
At some point, I attempted to create a solution to this issue. I thought I would add a spot where you guys could chat about off-topic things. That was when The Daily Tea began. I started it off talking about gardening. Sometimes we were talking about cooking. We had a successful thread about books once. We’ve talked about holiday plans and coping with the holidays. Things were going along pretty well.
Then it became a place of doom and gloom. I get a lot of people who email me that this place is an escape from the unpleasant things going on in their life. This is why most people claim to watch reality shows. A guilty pleasure, or an escape. The Daily Tea is fine for things like finding yourself going through an unexpected divorce. Supporting each other through difficult times is great. I have been struggling to explain where the line is between sharing life’s problems and making everyone want to drink cyanide. I recently had to point out that The Daily Tea is not a place to contemplate suicide. I actually think the line is somewhere way, way, way before that.
We don’t need to hear every gnarly detail about your illness in order to be supportive. If you post that every member of your family has just died in a massive car accident, then the person who wants to share their donut recipe feels like a douche for talking about donuts. So does the person who just read a great book they wanted to share. Or the person who got their first new car. Or the first time grandmother. Or the person on vacation who wants to talk about Paris or Aspen. Or the one who just had their first child. Instead what we get is more people whose entire families were killed in a major automobile accident and all of the apologizers and consolers. It’s no longer a fun escape but a major downer. And again. The administrator (or administrators) get emails for each and every post.
For the most part here, we discuss celebrity news, we talk about TV shows, simple topics. I’m not sure why I have to give you all excruciatingly detailed guidance on how to comment here. What I am not going to attempt is to keep people away from you that you don’t like. Just because someone says something mean to you, doesn’t make them an idiot. There are still enough idiots here to keep this place interesting. There may be fewer idiots soon.
And now to address the elephant in the room. Prior to this post, I sent Cat a private email. In that email I explained that there was at least one comment that I removed from the last Daily Tea post because that person decided to speculate on my absence with information I have decided I no longer wish to share here. I deliberately chose NOT to share because I did not want to read any further commentary on it. That was sort of when holy hell broke loose. In essence a diversion was created by two or more of my friends to squash the subject. And it worked.
In summary, please try to keep comments ON TOPIC. Stop being so fucking depressing at every turn. Try having a little fun. If you become triggered, scared, annoyed, sad, disgruntled, offended or some other way mentally incapacitated, feel free to retreat to your safe space, consult your psychiatrist, find a friendlier environment, take a xanax or sign up for Oprah’s next free 28 day online meditation seminar until you have built up the necessary coping skills to participate.
Perhaps this entire post could have been summed up with a Plato quote, “Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something.”
This is why this site rocks! honesty and straight forward, thanks TT, I am bookmarking this as well
Explains the reason for the belled hat upon my head. Know thyself.
TT. Great Post
Very informative post TT. I still am trying to figure out what and why the hell of the world of commenting. I will read the post more than once, due to a lot of information. What stood out the most is to be in control of how you receive sometimes pretty crazy stuff. Best diss is to ignore.
I find this confusing. I guess I need to go read the other thread. Frankly, I forgot that I posted there. I was..you know…having a life? By the way: Kate Gosselin? I’m watching because my dvr forgot what a twatstain she is and recorded her. She sent a kid a way. Of course a MALE. She hates men so much. She’s horrid. I kinda blame TLC for giving her a platform to be awful.
I blame TLC. Bravo has felons but TLC finds people you absolutely cannot stand and/or have some sort of personality deformations and gives those people a show. It’s like they got the idea from Dinner with Shmucks. Kate has got to be one of the biggest cunts out there.
Well written TT! I appreciate honesty you share!
So far that is three complimenters,
One Suessian like twinge of possible comprehension,
One Off topic,
And one complimenter and cluelessness admitter at the same time.
This is going just swell.
I was thinking the same thing. Couldn’t help but laugh while reading them. AND shaking my head at the same time. 🙂
LOL it’s as if people thought”she can’t mean me” and then validated the fact she meant them😂
Rita, it’s actually worked out well. It’s like gathering all the offending fish in one barrel and shooting them.
I sincerely do not understand why you have a comment section since it is a constant annoyance to you.
You make an excellent, on topic, point, DejaBlue. I have closed the comment section several times recently. I actually have it so that people can comment on the subject matter under discussion. My constant annoyance is due to the fact that doesn’t seem possible. This is the same reason several sites close comments altogether. Trying to keep the commenters from emailing me about why I allow this or that commenter to comment, keeping comments on topic, and keeping people from posting libelous comments is one of the most time consuming parts of this job. It keeps me from working on things like trying to figure out why we can’t navigate from one comment to the next. Deleting comments entirely is a solution that has been under consideration for quite some time. I shall note your suggestion.
Do comments generate revenue for you? Or is it based on clicking continue reading? Honest question as I am not sure how it all works. If comments don’t add revenue or don’t balance the work it takes to moderate, I say close them.
Comments have nothing to do with revenue other than they can make the site more interesting which would increase page views since people may want to open the page again to read the comments if they were interesting and not depressing as all fuck. 🙂
Got it. I enjoy the recaps and will always follow your site for that, as I appreciate your take. Just wanted to know how much the comments matter. They sound like a handful to address.
I like to see the comments to see who I think is delusional…
Tamara, don’t listen to everyone saying do away with comments!! You’ll lose a lot of followers if you do. People love your recaps and get involved enough with the different characters that they need to vent. Whatever you’re doing, you’re doing well – ignore the doofuses who email you with douchy questions, or tell them it’s your website and you’ll do what the fuck you want. Best case scenario? Don’t waste a second of your brilliance on them!
OR you could let it be a free for all and make people deal with the consequences of their actions. Things tend to sort themselves out. People get ticked off and leave, or modify their behavior from learning experiences; you know, like on the playground 😀 I don’t know nothin bout legal issues though so nevermind.
Like herding cats; it ain’t easy.
I love that expression. I use it all the time!
I think I get it now TT. It takes you hours upon hours to pilfer through the volume of emails you receive related to the site every day. I hate processing work emails which often take time away from me completing other important tasks related to my work. You want to generate comments for your site, but you want the comments to be of a quality that warrants the time it takes for you to review the emails/comments and still have time to generate content for the site. Straight up, I am better educated about commenting today than I was yesterday.
Kiyoshi: Takes Tamara long time to read through not only our comments but also great recaps.
Pilfer?
Yeah, TC you bring a smile seeing you here.
Just wrote a comment here when I saw the M’clown/TC comment/pic.
Moderating sounds like hell. Think twice before commenting.
As I read through this, I was desperately trying to figure out where I land on the commentary spectrum. Complimenting apologizer? Word.
I will say that even at its oddest, this blog and community is the best! Oops. There I go again. Sorry. 😉
I have been doing the same thing Lovie. I tend to take everything to heart even when it has absolutely nothing to do with me. Then, the people who really need to learn from something, ignore it completely. Knowing this, however, does not change it.
Tamara Many thanks for your expansive text. I understand all.. If I ever overstep .. send me to WLS.
I come here multiple times a day as an escape, and to see whats up in reality world, I comment on occasion but not always. as TT says there are often downers and we don’t need no downers!! I consider this mt place to ignore the real world of kids, husband out of work and just life in general and I am happy we have this place.
What the fuck?
This is so confusing.
I hope you like living alone and being alone because you are driving people away in droves… Go back and read old items and see that most of the regular people are gone. I wonder why! Now you are trying to include Cat in your lies and deception.
We all know that YOU are also TEECEE! When you “send her here” to be mean to Cat (Cat! of all people), we can clearly see there is something wrong with your soul! Do you even have one?
I’m going to request to PayPal that I get the money back I have sent you over the years on the basis of FRAUD. Why? Because you are one. You are a despicable human being. Most of the comments here are made by you acting like you are someone else! (I love the way you compliment yourself though – that’s rich!)
There will be readers here who jump on the train to call me names for attacking you but let me say clearly “They have not saw the real TT yet. You are a mean, bitter hag and you will turn on them in a New York minute..”
It’s really sad that you don’t know how to treat people because you have a real talent at writing. My guess is that you will continue to be alone, stuck inside your own living hell having guilt for things you did in your life to others… And maybe you will feel badly that you treated the ones here who were nice and wanted to help you the awful way you did. I offered to pay for medical tests and tried to help. But you treated me awfully too. You made fun of my comments and accused me of making up multiple names. Then you said that I would send you a bunch of whiny emails.
You are an awful person.
Btw.. feel free to post my real name and contact information. I will make sure to contact my lawyers too.
How many dramatic exits does this make for you, now? I have placed you in WLS so I don’t have to see any further ones. How clever you are to figure out that TeeCee and I are the same person. This site is all a big fraud built to take your milk money. You are a genius. Can’t slip a thing by you. I await your multitudes of whiney emails.
I’d like to recommend copious amounts of Xanax for you, that but would be a waste of good Xanax that those around you sorely need.
😴
I find it ironic your, “username.” is, “Every1becalm.
I was just gonna say…”someone’s not being vet calm” in a singsong kinda voice.
For the love of God, I forgot about the grammar nazis. And the spell checkers. Jesus Christ.
Sorry TT – it had to be done because I didn’t have time to point out all the vast pile of steaming manure that were spread through that comment. I will refrain in the future.
Sorry TT, I just have to address this!
OMG, “calm”, have you lost your mind? TT just gave us all a rundown of the constant shit she has to put up with in her e-mail. Just how “calm” would YOU would be if you had to deal with that every hour of every day? My guess is, not very!
She could take the easy way out and just hit delete, but she doesn’t. Instead, she still puts up with the bullshit of people like you who come to HER SITE and call her “a FRAUD and despicable human being” then you pour more salt in the wound by calling her “a mean, bitter hag who will turn on (them) in a New York minute…”
If she did hit delete, we’d never get to see the idiocy of people like you!
TT, has gotten angry at me and called me out too, but guess what?! She’s entitled! It’s HER site! I’m just a visitor in her home, and if I don’t like it – then I can leave and not come back! Clearly your choice too!!!
Okay, I’m getting down off my soapbox now.
Get a life.
As a lurker here for a while before I posted, I just want to say a heartfelt welcome back to TT. It’s nice to see the smack down back in play. Nice to see teecee back more too. The 2 of you will handle the riff-raff that’s accumulated. Thanks TT, I truly appreciate all you do for my entertainment. But, you know, in a totally not complimentary way and all. :p
Woohoo well said TT
I don’t know how you sent me that email. I had BLOCKED you. What did you do, open a new account?
Your email explanation is a bunch of bullshit.
Stop contacting me, or I will report you for harassment.
I will NOT be your pawn in deceiving these people.
Wow. Not sure how to respond to that other than to say I’ve always been supportive of you an wish you the best.
You have that backwards. I have done nothing but defend and support you. And you sic “TeeCee” on me. Yeah. Supportive.
I haven’t sicced TeeCee on anyone. If you knew TeeCee you would know that she doesn’t listen to anyone. You might have noticed, I’ve been gone for a couple of days. When I returned I found numerous emails from people attacking me because of the interchange between you and TeeCee. I sent you an apology and told you that I think that at least one of the comments I deleted was the target of TeeCee’s initial wrath.
I am not sure why this didn’t warrant a conversation between the two of us, which I began with you on email rather than you jumping to multiple inaccurate conclusions. But you are free to think whatever you would like. I do not have a lot of energy to exert on this entire situation at the moment. Feel free to disregard our friendship and leave in a sanctimonious huff if you would like. I can already portend that TeeCee will blow back in here at any moment as I told her that someone has accused us of being the same person, an allegation she will likely find appalling. And since I have always refused to ban her, and you don’t seem to tolerate her well, and I am not going to say anymore than I said in this post about dealing with other commenters that annoy you. I’m completely exhausted by the entire ordeal.
As someone who has known TeeCee and TT for a very long time – 15 years, good grief – the idea that they are the same person is pretty funny. If only you knew the history!
OH. We are actually TC, TT AND NaA, so don’t believe that post.
I wish I was NAA. Except I had a better Thanksgiving dinner than he did this year. So, WINNING!
Yes, poor pitiful Cat. I have been told that my attempts to try and help you have been portrayed as some sort of malicious attempt on my behalf to gain ratings, despite all of my assistance being offered privately. And that you have taken it upon yourself to scour the Internet looking for thing to use maliciously against me and that your current talking point is a photo from my dead sister’s obituary where that calm one and a few others have gathered round to console your poor kind soul as you trash my dead family members. Please keep you and your good Christian followers away from this site as you all go on about your tombstone desecration and such.
Holy fucking shit. I don’t know how you do it. I really don’t. I can’t believe anybody thinks running a blog is easy money. I can’t count how many I’ve seen devolve into shit like this. My heart goes out to you over this one, though. Fucking pathetic, what these ghouls are doing.
Don’t know if this is going to post but, I am blown away first why, people are asking how to send people money? Then, the investment for some to be as awful as possible, thinking somehow, they won. Tamara, you don’t deserve this. It sucks.
You think you have a handle on what type of people these posters are, and then the truth comes out and it is pathetic and scary. There’s a ton more crazy out there than I ever imagined.
Katherine you’ve been a target of the super crazy these last few weeks.
That’s too bad. I always read Cat’s posts with heavy sighs intermixed and the occasional sad trombone going through my head.
She just seemed like a total sad sack. Didn’t realize she was nuts too.
@NAA, I did. I couldn’t stand her! I think I once stupidly said some kind words of support to her ( I am guilty of being a complimenter at times) but only once! I hated when she became somewhat popular on this site, because I always thought of her as a crazy, bitter, unlikeable cat lady. Always complaining how her fb friends “done her wrong”, lol. Once she became accepted by TT ( probably the first time she’s ever been popular in her life!) she thought her cat shit didn’t stink! Well it did and it does, so I say, “Good riddance Cat!”
I feel so badly that you are all having this rift as I enjoy all of your comments. I hope I don’t regret inserting myself as I wish all the best truly.
Please don’t send me to WLS TT but admittlinlgy I thought you were Teecee and to the point I thought her name was a wink at that and that you expected it to be known to regulars. If you say you are not her, I absolutely accept that as true but I wanted to speak up to say it doesn’t seem a leap Cat thought that. Though seems she thought that you were using this names to take her to task..l and I completed understand that could be hurtful or offensive putting myself in your shoes.
Hope you all can breath, take a step back and work it all out in time
TeeCee’s back! Yay! Will anybody be recapping Top Chef this season?
I will be Judith. But not sure if I will be doing it tonight. I saw the preview though and it looks good. It appears they eliminate one new chef and one returning chef tonight and I really like ALL the new ones except maybe the girl from Charleston who I expected to be my favorite.
I’ll be watching Top Chef. I hope they make it more about the food and less “reality tv” but so far from the previews it looks to be scripted nonsense per usual.
Oh, and can I tell you about Uncle Ed who got bit in the nutsack by a tarantula, and all of his kids have at least one extra eye and very hairy legs? 😛
Oh why the fuck not? Did Uncle Ed kill himself in a spectacularly gruesome fashion? Please include photos of the nutsack if at all possible. This reminds me to include my recipe for gluten free possum scrotum.
If gluten free possum scrotum is wrong I don’t wanna be right.
Is this the secret to your awesome Thanksgiving dinner? I really enjoyed reading about TeeCee’s dinner plans last year, but even she did not have possum scrotum.
I’m so confused.
I missed it all.
I was going to compliment TT on that post — even in fear of being labeled a “complimenter” because it made me laugh out loud. But then I read the thread and got a little scared? Disgusted? Confused? Then I came back and saw you clarify you’re *not* TeeCee. Whew. Hmmmm… I tend to believe you. At least I want to. Then there were comments about you being in various unappealing places I won’t rename that I think you have to defend because this whole thing in just 5 minutes of reading makes me question coming back to the site. 🙁 just sayin’ I kinda feel like some “regulars” get attached and forget it’s not their site. That said, TeeCee was vile those comments to Cat? We’re really over the top bad, even for the Internets. So bad even an apology can’t fix it. But then TeeCee was probably drunk. Like naked wasted bombed drunk mean drunk drunk so therefore Cat doesn’t have to take it to heart. Can we please get back to heated debates about Kentucky and Jax and how Schwartz has gone off the reservation!!? WTF??? Katie is like a mob boss? He needs to grow a pair? Okay. Anyway I discovered the secret to getting off Bravo and am really glad. Hope everyone has a good weekend I had a shit day. Ciao!!!
Are you KIDDING??? I was not remotely vile. That was 1 on a 1-10 scale. I usually do 11. But in fact, it’s funny to talk regulars. I’ve been commenting here longer than any of y’all.
That alone should garner you a gluten free cookie! Nevermind the fact that you are mean as fuck! Lol
I.Just.Can’t, did you read the very last sentence of this post? Because you keep jumping into deep water, which is your prerogative, but I am not going to be doing any more email consoling of folks around here who get their feelers hurt in comments. I’ve given all the words of advice I care to give in the initial post. If you choose to ignore that, the consequences are yours to deal with alone. And please don’t email me and ask me what I mean about that.
Tee Cee, I actually reached out to the LC who was moderating in my absence to see if perhaps she deleted vile things that you said. I have not heard back. If that was all you said, it was practically polite.
Well here is the reality: I barely said boo to the crazy cat lady and she came backbone VERY FUCKING RUDE. This was calculated. She was not getting your attention so she created this WHOLE thing to become a martyr and get attention. She’s liedand said things were deleted — completely false. I have no horse in this race. I’ve no reason to lie. I am just telling y’all that this whole thing started with one needy fucking psycho who decided to completely shit on TT. At a very vulnerable time, I might add. And TT has not even defended herself. She did nothing, folks. And she’s been laid low here by a bunch of you skanks who she has coddled for a long time.
Teecee66, my comment below was not written in response to your comment, just fell from space in that order.
Cats always been treated with kindness and support in here. Why she accused TT of attacking her or having you attack her is beyond my mental capabilities, I also don’t give a hoot why. This place is touchy feely enough.
TC- Last I read you had spent a beautiful week in NOLA, I was so jealous, one of my favorite cities. Hope you and your family are doing well.
For F**^s sake, I thought years ago the TT -TC were two different people was settled.
They do not have the same writing style.
I’ve thought, probably incorrectly we lose TC out of boredom of our twaddle in here.
Cat — WTH, your loyality went where? You’ve been cared for in here by TT & the room.
TT has corrected us or deleted a comment from most of us, sent some of her so-called favorites to the WLS. We accept – no fits.
TC is special to us in here. I appreciate her wit and comments. Does not make me safe from her words either.
Suck it up!
What just happened? It’s a hilarious tutorial. Even though I had a few dooms-dayers in my head and a few apologists and a few smart-asses (me), TT was just being her normal, brutally honest self. I’m SURE you have been called worse things in life people. If not, you need to get out more. I’m an asshat yankee and my hubby should’ve inbred instead of marrying me. So what? Tell her off and you will feel better, but don’t run away! Come back, you pussies! Cat? Get back here. I’m not climbing that tree.
Actually, the pussies need to go. I have to many things going on to continue to coddle them. Plus I am out of gold stars and trophies.
Welcome back TT.
Sad to see that there are problems concerning Cat. I enjoyed her posts and have always been jealous of her Avatar.
Hopefully you both will work it out soon and wishing you both the best.
Will definitely follow the rules and stay on topic… which sometimes is not easy if you sympathize or want to console other posters.
long time reader and very infrequent commenter, but this will be my last time on this site. All the fighting and back & forth makes my anxiety and stress level go through the roof. I used to come here as a nice escape to read about shows that I do not always have time to watch but like to follow. I wish TT and all the commenters health and happiness in the new year to come.
Well don’t let the door hit you in the ass. Families fight. Like Clemenza said in the Godfather, “You have to go to war every few years, it’s good for you, gets out all the bad blood.”
If you are a long time reader, then you have obviously enjoyed the site. Why punish yourself? Read what Tamara writes and end it there. You are not obligated to read the comment section. Easy.
O em Gee. Teecee is not TT. Teecee is a southern bell with more money than God who can out-decorate and out-cook Martha Stewart.
You’re kind of an idiot, aren’t you?
An ACCURATE idiot, who doesn’t offend easily. My Mother-in-law is a cantankerous old dustbag from the south too. Love your cooking though!
Dear god. I’m not from the fucking south. Jesus fuck you’re dumb.
You do have a certain way with words…Although it’s obvious you do have favorites.
TeeCee is not from the south. Yet, she plops her fat ass on our beaches all the time taking up perfectly good sand from the rest of us.
Well well well. I just have one question: what the fuck happened around here? Somebody needs to let me know when there’s drama going down. I live for the snark on this site and in the comments. Lots of great writers here besides TT.
WADDA MEAN, “Besides TT???!!!!” Are you talking about the ones that can spell? Look at you and your snotty standards of literacy.
And nothing happened around here really, just doing a little housekeeping. The cake will not be disturbed. Everyone loves cake.
@LisaPat I personally am not a fan of the expression “don’t let the door hit you on the a– on your way out.” That person was just making a relevant and honest comment.
Not nice comments at all and seems totally different compared to just a few months ago. Ciao again!
You really don’t have a shred of insight, do you? Not the smallest, slightest clue that someone was trying to infect humor into a dark situation? I don’t know how some of you survive in the world.
Yes Lisa calling commentators an idiot or told good riddance is the height of hilarity in all comedians How To Be Funny Manuals.
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I haven’t read the comments with regularity since this summer but they’ve definitely taken a turn — like spoiled and rotting and need to be tossed and avoided… you know… like trash.
#shade
Your name calling is not appreciated. What that? .you acknowledge that you are a hypocrite because you just began your post by expressing great distain for name calling and then ended your post with name calling? And you realize that it’s not the concept you don’t like, it’s the fact that others are much better at it than you? Well ok then. I’ll accept that. I feel we’ve made some real progress here today, ladies. Let’s sing a rousing verse or CuntByeAh.
CuntByeAh should be your screen name.
Omg read my response as calling her an “idiot” instead of the other way around . It’s okay. It has been since summertime. Reading is not like riding a bike. Just keep it regulated to the seasons. Comprehension will come.
OMGOMG, I don’t know know many dramatic exits you have taken in this comment section alone, but they don’t seem to be working. Let me slam the door on your ass on the way to the window licking section and lock the door since you keep forgetting the actual EXITING part of your dramatic exits.
Ciao!
Yikes. I missed all the drama and was going to back to read it, but thought I’d be better off not knowing. I’m an apologist, complimenter and an antagonist. I’m the worst kind of commenter. I’m incredibly moody. I should never type while drinking wine. I’m feistier. I randomly call people stupid when annoyed. I like reading here though, even on bad days because the people are real. Even the annoying ones are pretty ok. This will all pass. You’ll all be friends again. I’ve read more , commented less. Teecee does not seem like TT. TT does not need a mouth piece. She seems to have very little trouble speaking her mind.
Since I am not real certain how to read twitter I am not going to say that my interpretation is correct, but I do think TT alluded to needing help cleaning up the board and requested TeeCee’s assistance. TT felt at the time the site was being taken over by cunts. Read the twitter messages around Nov. 22nd. TeeCee66 has been absent for quite some time.
Do you remember which post, luv?
Um…what makes you think this is the only place we are in contact?
Why are we talking anywhere at all if we are the same person?
The Three Faces of Skeeve. Duh.
Okay. Well, I’m not so invested in sluething this out that I would stalk TT’s Twitter feed. We have no idea what the context of that was. The concept of her seeking help on Twitter proves to me that they are separate people. Look, TT is right. I went back and read the Thanksgiving thread. It does get strange in the comments here sometimes. People go a tad too deep. I would have jumped in and talked about our big family Thanksgiving of 36 people. There was comedy in my story. Drunk relatives. My niece making a love match and texting the guy from across the room all night etc. But seems wrong to add comedy when I was reading such sad stuff. I think there is some codependency Going on here and people lashed out at TT for doing what she does to everyone. I guess it was all fun and games when the rest of us get the wrath but not the regulars? Just seems like a strong over reaction to being criticized is all. I don’t see the good in trying to ruin TT’s site over it. Time to make peace and move on
The fact that you didn’t feel comfortable telling your amusing Thanksgiving story in the Thanksgiving post because people were talking about things I won’t even go into is the reason for all of this this drama.
And the codependency thing is hitting the nail smack on the head. This post is not my first attempt to get people to realize that every open forum didn’t have to be the plot to a Stephen King movie. Those attempts did not work.
Now, it’s time to do some housecleaning. I understand there are forums already in place about what a psychotic bitch I am who is mean to her commenters. I’d be glad to share the link(s) is anyone would like to send them so the doomsdayers can find a new home.
link please.
This entire post has been reported. Just now. By me.
Same. Sometimes I just want to share stupid shit but it seems to insensitive when I read all these horrible stiries in daily tea so I back off out of respect.
We ALL have stuff. Trust that. I have stuff, I’m sure you do. But we seek out reality TV blogs for entertainment. Along the way we find personalities we like and connect with. I can see the need to share loneliness at times. Thsts what it is , really.I always use one email to log in. I try to be my best me online, sometimes I fail. But when you’re known as the “nice one” when online, there’s a motive. I’m Sorry dear snowflakes. But everybody has a bad day. And if your bad day happens because “daddy” or TT rejects your approach; chances are, you have a problem you are working out online. I haven’t always liked TT, but I get her. I am her in many ways.
Good grief now there are 4 in 1.
TT, TC, NAA, & Crywolf = TT
Sticks and stones, y’all although words can indeed hurt. Let them be a cause for reflection and own it or not. Personally, I think Tee Cee is a bitch but that’s one of the things I like about her. I wish she’d comment more. Am I sticking to the topic at hand? I don’t even know, now. Oh well.
Ok so it has been a tough year for everyone. Let’s have a do over. When the going gets tough…. Cat and TT this all works because we work. All the quirks and blemishes , imperfections and jabs it’s ok. Please just don’t give up. I feel like this is how all Sheena’s picks mute feel with the divorce…don’t get divorced. Attempting humor here.
*pix not picks and must not mute
I don’t want this place to be like it was in the recent past, dreary with to many of the same constantly sick people.
Sickly sweet, not enough snark and wit.
I did not mind the sharing of bad news, event or new major illness but some people were constantly sick and suffering.
If you can’t take a attitude adjustment call from a stranger, yes it’s embarrassing, then just quietly go away.
No one knows who you are. So you get embarrassed in a online room, learn from it. We don’t know you.
If TeeCee calls you a cunt, look at your comments, decide if you were or were not a cunt then deal with TC and not TT or just go away.
If I disagree with you, I am not attacking you or your comment, simply sharing a different point of view.
My above opinion is why I stopped commenting here very often, to many sickly sweet people who were easily offended.
Agreed, I was never a big comemter but shied away recently because the comments were so insufferable. I understand people felt it was a community and wanted to share as such, but it was too much for me personally. relatable stories to the topic at hand seem understandable (like the time you did Coke in a bathroom & went home with same sex partner when you were straight like Jax —allegedly) 😬. Diatribes of death, suicide, I’m laying with tubes in my face and this is my fifth round of chemo on a happy holiday post seem inappropriate. Just my opinion. I signed off for awhile when I read a comment saying this is off topic but someone died she had a child and soemthing about a grave… clearly I’m paraphrasing from a poor memory, but that really was the post. I left. I have a happy life and like reading things I enjoy. I felt I didn’t belong or care to belong here to be honest.
….off to go back into reader only mode for a bit 🤗
I get it RealE. I’ve been struggling trying to get back to the original intent of the Daily Tea for a long time. For now I think it best we just don’t have the Daily Tea for a bit. TT is undergoing a much needed purge of “the insufferable.” While I certainly have compassion for those who are struggling with their health and other issues, it was effecting the entire tone of the board. I accept the blame for the shift from a fun place to talk about reality TV a place where people gathered to discuss the intimate details of their health crises. I certainly opened the door with my oversharing about my struggles with depression and anxiety. I promise to get back to posts where we stick to the topics we all originally gathered to discuss. I’ve had some on topic posts to address for quite some time, but was spending way to much time trying to corral the depressing crap in some way that would not hurt a lot of feelings. As it turns out out, feelings were hurt, and the situation seems to be taking care of itself with the sick and wounded creating a safe place for them to gather and I can go back to my usual programming of bitchy rude (and usually drunken) posts about ridiculous reality show folks.
Let me get to work on this Nene situation.
It seemed you created that daily tea post so people could talk about thier lives and connect about things happy and hard AWAY from the reality posts. You also asked (in vain) for them to keep it happy and positive. But it just became about dreary sadness. Seems like you are smart to end it for now, but I hope it can return in 2017 with people contributing stories that are normal life stories. Sure it’s okay to say negative things, but not all the fucking time. And I think if you do bring it back, you will need to bring out the Bitch in you and the heavy WLS to keep it happy for the first few times.
And on a personal note: I know nothing of you or your life really, but from what you have shared in this thread, it seems these commenters/ friends were sucking life from you. I have had people like that in my life. Thier life is hard and I feel empathy, so I help. It is one thing after another that goes wrong in thier life and I help through every struggle. I am a nurturer and overly loyal. I bet you are also.
True friends stay with you through ups and downs, but a life sucker will always just need you through the downs because there are almost only downs. With a recent friend like this I began spending my evenings not focusing on my YOUNG kids, but helping her get through yet another life struggle. Every situation was always about her. When my baby had surgery and I was scared, she somehow made it about her and I was . done. I ended the friendship with the life sucker and I can not even tell you how much lighter I instantly felt. My life is easier, happier and I focus more on what matters and those that matter. You are describing that EXACT same feeling in some of your posts in responses to commenters in this thread. I am in no way vilifying these commenters. They surely have struggles and issues. I wish them all the best. But if this was all they were bringing to you and this site, then I think you will find your life and site so much better without life suckers. You will have time to focus on so much more and have room for so much more positivity now. I hope you don’t close yourself off and feel you have to go back to”bitchy rude”. I like you how you are NOW. I think everyone here does or they would not be here. Without lifesuckers, you will find you like yourself a lot more too.
And I hope they found a place they can go and talk about their issues. They need that. Hopefully they can be a good support to each other. It’s hard when everyone is negative and takers to find that.
And I apologize for a diatribe. Hope it’s ok this once.
I am so fucking confused.
Signed, Special Snowflake.
Wait is someone gonna to post that donut recipe? O I’m just kidding yes I agree that people just share tooo much shit about themselves. I’m here to read funny stuff and reviews on stupid shows I watch. If I want depressing I can hop on over to DM or the morons at CB. I’m so glad you posted this TT because it is so true and funny. And that’s what I come for witty reparte, oh and smack.
Sometimes you just have to pop a pill and drink a glass of wine.
Or put on your foil beanie and hide under the bed.
This isn’t the first site I’ve been on that is going through a “sock-puppets & multiple personalities” phase in the comments. Anyone who is offended by the comments, just read the posts and bypass the comments. Things usually sort themselves out when the ones looking for attention stop getting it.
I think the comments section should eliminated due to how much work it is for a moderator
who alludes to physical complaints in addition to this recent post seeming to connote a certain
weariness with what reading material provides her in terms of quality and volume.
Some of the commenters appear to have a more in depth experience with Tamara (for better or
worse). Maybe that will work better off site as well.
Really? I’m everso glad this is a democracy. Wait. It’s not. Shove your dumb opinion up your dumb dunghole.
I posted something about Thanksgiving and guess I fell into the category of a one upper (?). Guess it got moderated because it never showed up and I do apologize for that. I rarely ever, ever comment, but love your site for recaps and read your posts every night before bed. I don’t always read comments and I don’t like other sites. You are tried and true. I will always be a reader of your posts TT.
A deformed blob of a baby with no eyes and patches of hair on life support?!! That whole paragraph was hysterical. Wouldn’t normally laugh at jokes about visually- and follicIy-challenged infants, but that was priceless. Somehow reminded me of the old MAD magazine. I guess I’m my normally clueless self because all of the drama everyone’s alluding to went way over my aged head. Tamara reminds me of a teacher I had growing up in England – strict as hell and always ready to rap you on the knuckles with a ruler, but entertaining beyond belief.
That was the paragraph that stood out to my sick sense of humor too! Minus the crazy lady with ridiculous FBI threats and some other ones not worth mentioning there are some well thought out comments that would be worthy of TT Tokens. I haven’t seen any of those handed out in a long time. I had some great news I wanted to share last month and refrained so I see why the post was well overdue. What a mess that TT has to moderate. I’ll always read hear comments or not.
I’m afraid to ask for fear of being vilified… but what happened? can anyone explain it to me? I’m assuming the mentioned comments have been deleted by now.
Tc never gave two shits about cat. Cat got all SWF and TC finally had to block it because it was creepy stalkery disgusting. Fin. Oh and shut the fuck up you fetid cunt. Your dumb story was not remotely funny.
Clearly she’s incapable of swallowing. A messy spitter.
Christ, just stop.
I miss a lot of the old regulars for my comment reading pleasure. They injected humor and snark into some already pretty damned entertaining writing. The new ones cry and moan and describe medical procedures and mental problems in excruciatingly gory detail. Bummer.
Sure, we will all give you a detailed recap of everything you missed. Where shall we start? 2011? Fine. You just sit there and wait to be spoonfed the details.
The other day at work, a small toddler was actually licking the window, I immediately thought of you!
In a good way
I think we all probably licked windows as a kid. I remember it tasted kind of dirty, and really cold. But it was much better than the screen.
Ok, terrified now to dare comment. Thanks for vent!
I really have benefit from these past weeks. I’m able to care less and find the whole situation hilarious. Realized it when I was one of the first six commenters above. I cared too much at first, but really don’t give any shits now. I think it’s pure entertainment and am going to continue with that. I feel like a super special snowflake!!
Cheryl, I am hopeful now that you care less, you will comment less. I’m probably being overly optimistic.
I have a complaint. Why the f*ck haven’t you released a book? You could include some of the emails and posts to make it even more entertaining. I wish you were hooked up with Anthony Bourdain, oh what a blog that would be.
Trust me, you don’t want to see the emails. I could do a full chapter on “TeeCee Called Someone A Retard And I’m Offended.”
Okay, I will share the latest email from you exactly as sent to me.
“Tamara,
I was going to ask you for Cats email because I wanted to send her some money but it looks like You may be Cat,TEECEE and NAA.
My hubby works in the cyber crimes unit of the FBI and I am having a check run on your site. I have reached out to several people to have your cunty site shut down so we will see!!!!!! Have you lost your damned mind??? Just shut it down already .Your From Libya,Right??? HUMMMMMM Mayhaps there is more to know about you but I’ll take care that my hubby knows that. You know
we can’t be to careful with you Libyans,BHAAAAAAAWAAA.Now get off your Fat ASS and WORRY BITCH WORRY! Worry about all that you have done to others because Karma is a bitch!!!!I am Not on any social media due to my hubbys job but just wanted to help Cat.Now you have ruined that too.Get a life Snowflake!! I have captured a lot about you.Just stop you old fat pig with NO life!!Warm Regards,STAR!!!!”
Well the warm regards part was nice. I get lots of people wanting to send Cat money. Now it seems that Star has realized that I am Cat! And of course TEECEE and NAA.
If you will excuse me I have to prepare for the impending FBI raid. 🙂
Oh my word. Wow. What is wrong with people? I am hearing the words to Funny Farm play in my head. What could you even say to this? It’s clearly a crazy person.
Someone took the time to type that. That is scary.
How the fuckity fuck am I getting caught up in this?
I would like to point out, for the record, that I am the most special snowflake of all. You fuckers don’t even come close.
Bwahahaha!!! Please tell me that is real and not made up????
Tots real. Where is your compassion for me, bitch. The FBI is coming to drag me back to Libya!
The “old” part is what would piss me off. Screw the other stuff. Old is relative
Wow, that’s insane. Sure FBI husband is looking into this site. This person is bat shit crazy. I once almost emailed you a tip about a show you write on but since clauses are signed, I held myself back. I assumed THAT would be the type of emails people would send. Helpful stuff for your site, not shot like this.
Good god, I hope your real name is not know in this realm. I’d have a lot of locks on my door cuz some of these bitches are crazy.
Always locked and loaded, with attack dog if they make it down into the ghetto without a drive by.
Jesus Christ, Tamara!! I had no idea whatsoever that you have to deal with sick crap like that. Stay locked and loaded! Best Wishes.
I can’t stop laughing! This is the funniest dumbass ever! I feel like I should ask if we can keep her?!!:)
Now that is funny, kerping the loony fake FBI wife for entertainment.
Delish.
NAA, you’ve been witty, catty and ROTF funny on this post. 👏
i know there are a lot of special snowflakes but she is just a dumb twat waffle. With her hubby being in “cyber crimes” wouldn’t the dumb bitch know the first thing you never do in the cyber world is send money to strangers? No because she is an assault idiot! Oh And tell her to get her husband to find cats email! I will never understand people who get so sensitive over a complete strangers opinions. Thank you for putting up with the crazy so that I have this wonderful place to visit!
Holy fucking shitballs, that is some crazy shit… FBI… bwahahaha
Let’s hope they at least send the hot FBI dudes.
Wow, what a loser! And I hate when people refer to their spouse as their “hubby” in EVERY situation. Sometimes the occasion requires you to say husband or spouse, not a cutesy nickname.
I would so love to read the TeeCee chapter!!
Mission accomplished. The OG mean girls are back. Yay! IMO this is the original tone of the comment section. Other mean girls have come & gone, just blindly emulating the older posters. The hypocrisy is radiating. I am simultaneously amused and sickened. I just hope the baby wasn’t thrown out with the bathwater during this housecleaning effort. Lots of great snowflakes here, both old & new. xo
Shut up.
Another solution might be just to FOLLOW THE FUCKING COMMENTING RULES.
Oh my God, TeeCee is back!!!
It’s a Christmas miracle!
God bless us everyone!
I need money and I’ve been raided already by the atf and FBI and they didn’t find shit so Im good right? Yes some cunt did that to me fun and entertainment. What’s with all these fucking special sowflakes ( see what I did there) who are all up in everyone’s grill fuck you in advance. TT I feel you with this shit. And just in case someone wants to tell me how sorry that happened to me, yeah keep that shit to yourselves.
second verse same as the first
AT LEAST 100 new window lickers have been incarcerated. This should help. Is waterboarding legal on the interwebs?
That was fun.
Your site your rules!
Most of the time I comment with no response. I’ve had people be downright rude and tried to respond like a decent human being. I love TT and Cat and surprisingly teecee was very kind to me during a little health scare last year. I’m not sure what or why the problem is, but I really like this site and look forward to getting my recaps here and reading all of the comments, even if I don’t interact a lot.
OMG
Love the drama !
I have been a lurker for several months now I dont comment often but I do look forward to the always great recaps and the snark…. not someone’s medical history.
I just got a message from an egg. I’m being “sued in court” because I’m TT. Oy vey.
OOOH I hope it is Judge Judy. I love Judge Judy. Will I be calling me as a witness?
Only the good lawyers and/or serious litigants warn you about forthcoming litigation via egg account on Twitter.
I’m sure you are petrified.
Just think of the possibilities though. If I could sue people that I met on the internet, that pretended to be someone or something that they actually were not, I’d be a wealthy woman.
BTW — I have been accused of being various people online before. I think it’s hilarious. It’s actually a compliment LisaPat.
Wow. That’s some crazy right there. I bet if TT posted what she sees, there would be alot if embarrassment. Maybe you silly angries should cool it.
I’m disappointed in what I’m reading in the comments. I remember the post when Tamara disclosed some negative thoughts she was experiencing. The commenters expressed their caring and sincere feelings towards TT. It turned into such a lovely page. I read it often and will continue my positive thoughts for her, regardless of the mean girls’ postings. I believe in Tamara.
It’s just scary there are so many fucked up people in the world. I’m kinda out of commission right now and keep coming back to this post and I heard about the “safe space” thing and thought it was a joke. I’m just kind of tripping over it all, the emails you’ve received and I’m like “what the fuck kind of world are we living in?” Anyway, I’ve got you covered if you and Banjo want to hide out from your impending arrest and deportation back to Libya.
Alright, at the risk of sounding all kinds of stupid, I’m just going to say it: if people aren’t happy in comments, why are they here commenting? If I see a discussion going on I don’t want to be a part of, I walk away and don’t particpate. Whether online or in person. Imagine if you were at a party and you heard some conversation going on that sounded, well, not your cup of tea, do you run over, thrust yourself in the middle and start bitching about how dare they have a conversation you don’t like? I don’t. I get another drink and then go hang out elsewhere, usually the kitchen because that’s where all the good gossip happens. Also, I certainly don’t go harass the hostess about her guests saying bitchy things. Further, if someone says shit to me that I decide warrants a clapback, I clapback. I’m not Shannon Beador running to get David because someone said mean things. I will also openly agree with someone I agree with even if we’re the only two people who feel that way. You don’t like a party, leave, it’s ok. You can still be friends with the people who stayed and you can even think it was a shit party. Just don’t stand out in the driveway screeching insults like a loon. There, I’ve said my peace. I welcome the end if that’s what TT chooses for me.
It’s cause some folks are too tightly wound and others aren’t wound tightly enough.
Great post. If you compare this to real life it shows how completely ridiculous people are being. I almost never participate in open posts because I don’t come here for that. I come here for gossip and recaps. But I certainly don’t begrudge and bitch about the posts and the comments. I don’t even click on it. Imagine that!
I’m still waiting for donuts? The initial post talked about donuts and I wants them.
Hehehe!
Holy Crap, last two times I popped back in here I missed something.
BTW Great Post TT, I skimmed the last few paragraphs I missed the topic. 🙂
I read “all of this” b/c of the McClown calling the cops on TC.
Kill the clown!
So I missed TC’s return also, well damn!
So someone got offended at our sweetheart TC, bless their hearts.
TC, is the sunshine and bubbles (cough) in here after your winning writing of course TT,
TC you may take aim at the bubbles but not me. Holy Monkey, the olden days I’d get ripped a new one for suggesting TC needed my permission.
I’m off to read this post & comments.
The hemorrhaging poster that did not know what they were writing was the most over the top yet. The creepiest are the posters that say “I get TT” or “TT is just like me” or ” we are sole mates”, totally sucks the fun out of a fun site.
Can we get back to discussing Nene Leakes holiday sweater collection!
OMG NATALIE! WE ARE SOULMATES! LOLOLOLOL.
I was working on the Nene post when you were making this comment, sort of. It’s a retro 2014 sweater. I shall now dash off to find the new collection. I live for these. We are finally getting back on track to what Christmas is all about!
@Nat, that-there-one is TT’s fault. When she’s drunk or in a good mood and reads a comment she likes, she will say something to the effect “I’m making you captain of the ship!!” Some snowflakes aren’t very social and the last response they got was from their refrigerator, AND it was an INSULT. So they get overly-enthusiastic at the notion of pleasing her. They want to keep pleasing her and hearing more compliments which is music to their ears!! and that’s how Dr. Franken-Tattles creates the most special snowflakes!!
Yeah, I did do that. But at the time, I was thinking that if Donald Trump could randomly make people Secretary of State (NOT CAPTAIN OF THE SHIP, THAT WOULD HAVE BEEN RIDICULOUS) then I could do it too! And if the government could print random money, I could pass out tokens. I was misguided by my national politicians and education instructors. No more cronism titles or token economies. Back to the original fascist dictatorship that was serving us all so well. No more government programs or freedom of religious practice. It’s my way, or EAT SHIT AND DIE.
Ah….. finally all is right in the world again. I promise to revert to my original fuck you all self completely once I run out of narcotics and get to get back on the booze.
To all my dearest friends. Please remember this. When I die, put on my tombstone “It’s my way, or EAT SHIT AND DIE”
Better yet spell it out in my ashes. Bonus points if you do it on my mother-in-law’s front yard. Mwah.
I’ve only been on this plan a few days now and it’s much less horrifying than the whole having compassion for your fellow man, or even feeling like you know them at all way of going through life. Clearly there are plenty of people harbouring resentments just waiting to air them at the first opportunity. It’s quite satisfying not to bother with other’s emotional well being anymore and focus on my own. Lord knows that is time consuming in itself. 🙂
I Wanna Talk About Me
Toby Keith
Yeah yeah
That’s right
We talk about your work how your boss is a jerk
We talk about your church and your head when it hurts
We talk about the troubles you’ve been having with your brother
About your daddy and your mother and your crazy ex-lover
We talk about your friends and the places that you’ve been
We talk about your skin and the dimples on your chin
The polish on your toes and the run in your hose
And God knows we’re gonna talk about your clothes
You know talking about you makes me smile
But every once in awhile
I want to talk about me
Want to talk about I
Want to talk about number one
Oh my me my
What I think, what I like, what I know, what I want, what I see
I like talking about you, you, you, you usually, but occasionally
I want to talk about me
I want to talk about me
Well you won’t be doing it here, bitch. Want I should try to grab you an invite to the basket of Insufferables site? I’m sure they can’t spend much longer thumbing through my family obituaries before they start talking about their magnesium counts and insisting everyone go get their parathyroids checked and such. You are a few weeks too early for the insightful stories on how many morsels of beans one has to left make it until welfare day.
They sound like a bunch of Michelle Mackies. who will show up at my Mom’s unannounced in her Mercedes SUV with the TV sets in the back of all the headrests and wobble to the kitchen with shopping bags. Five minutes won’t elapse before she starts crying poor, and asking if she can “please smoke in the house” as she pulls the cigarette case out of her Louis Vuitton bag with a few $100 bills stuck to it and LAYS IN . She doesn’t know how she’ll make it this year.. this may be the year that really does her in.. there’s NOTHING LEFT and before she leaves, she will ask my Mom if she wants any of those boxed candies from Italy because she’s leaving for 2 months on the 1st.
I instantly assumed the hemorrhaging hate poster was Bethenny;). If you’re going to say a bunch of cocky bullshit, just own it, don’t blame it on your vagina. I have run a naming/parenting message board since 2000, many times cliques start and gain momentum, someone gets offended & when moderators don’t back them up, they leave in a huff & start a new board. The board usually consists of them bitching & complaining about our site. Eventually they all come back one by one, why? I’m guessing because they run out of things to say to one another when the only thing they have in common is being miserable! Disgusting to think your posters are digging up obituaries & crap. That is your personal life and you don’t owe anyone here an explanation for anything. Have you ever thought of converting your site to a member fee? A small membership fee might keep the crazy to a minimal.
I assure you the basket of insufferables will not be coming back here. And I disagree. I think they will enjoy discussing who is the most gravely ill and miserable ad infinitum and it is totally for the best. I know I no longer get the daily, even more details emails anymore from them or other emails begging me to moderate them. I’m also not responding to any more emails at all other people’s problems. As it turns out it gives me much more time to deal with my own.It’s all quite peaceful now.
Whooda thunk it could be so easy? And it only took…5 years and 59,000 comments and 259,000 emails about those comments to accomplish this awesome shift.
Now I feel like I, too, can do anything!!
Except for today, I need more notice. And it’s snowing at our place in PDX! I’ve got to sit in my chair and watch flakes fall!! Looking for some special ones…….
Thanks for the view behind the curtain. I was encouraging a friend to start a blog based on her interests and used your site as an example. She doesn’t have the patience for all of this.
Congrats on carving out some peace.
Also are you watching Westworld? My apologies for being off topic.
Nope. I have too many things to watch already. 🙂
If your friend just wants to start a blog for fun, it can be a lot of fun. Once it becomes a certain size and is a business, then all of the “running a business” crap and dealing with advertisers and lawyers and tax attorneys and PR agents, and such tends to make it so that the whole “writing about your interest” becomes something that just needs to get done ASAP so all the other crap can be attended to. I’ve spent a lot of time lately trying to get my Ad Agency to comply with our payment schedule outlined in the contract. Unfortunately it is a monthly week long battle. Whic reminds me. It is time to send another threatening email.
I have referred people to this post as a point of interest. It has become a reference material for some people.