The only surprising news about the recently announced divorce of Mike and Scheana Shay is that it lasted as long as it did. I’m not sure anyone thought this made for TV marriage would last. But before we get to that part, here is the official separation announcement as a result of Scheana filing for divorce.
“While we have made the difficult decision to move forward separately, our story will continue on through the love and mutual respect that we have cultivated throughout our 15-year friendship. Much of the recent speculation and reporting on our relationship has been misguided, and we have come to an amicable decision on all matters. We might have failed at our marriage, but we are committed to succeeding as friends and will continue to support each other’s personal happiness and professional success.”
We are supposed to believe that these two were high school sweethearts that found their way back to each other sometime in 2010. Then in 2013 they became engaged. You know what else happened in 2013? Season one of Vanderpump Rules. What a coincidence.
Let’s briefly look at the timeline…
The Shays got their free wedding by Bravo on July 27, 2014 at the Hummingbird Nest Ranch in Santa Susana, California during season three. Scheana of course made the wedding all about her and seemed not to care one way or another who the groom was. There was much discussion about her two piece crop top wedding dress, and I was one of the few people who liked it. I mean, not for me, but I thought it suited Scheana pretty well. By episode four, Scheana marriage was already on the rocks and Scheana announced to the world that Mike a had an addiction to prescription medications. Then she set into play the Scheana Shay Drug Rehabilitation Plan for her husband. This included lots of pots smoking. And by lots I mean hot boxing their marital apartment to the point that neighbors filed complaints about all the pot smoke escaping their apartments. And then there was all the drinking. I immediately think of the time the couple was at a restaurant where they both wanted to order every single specialty drink on the menu at the same time.
They managed to survive just over two years together until finally in early November Mike Shay was able to escape. This caused many things to happen. Scheana shut off the credit cards and Mike cleaned out the bank accounts. This doesn’t seem like a conscious uncoupling to me. This sounds like Mike making a clean get away.
Nonetheless, Scheana Shay tweeted, “Thank you all for the love today! It’s never easy to split with someone you still love, but we will always remain friends.”
I hope that Mike moves back to a normal town and gets a normal job far away from all of the aging cokeheads at SUR and the anorexic, adderall popping mean girls who sleep with them. Congratulations on saving yourself, Mike Shay.
Somewhere, Brandi Glanville is laughing.
Missed you TT! Can’t believe they stayed together this long, how long did Jax give this marriage? I can already see Scheana planning a bachelorette type spinoff for herself.
Didn’t sheena make a big deal about paying for her wedding w her settlement money? I thought I remember thinking how incredibly stupid it was to blow that money on a wedding rather than on a down payment on a home but I could be wrong
Yes, I remember that too. Outrageous, I thought she said something like 90k. Made me a little nauseous. Better to invest that money in a home, or a retirement account, etc than blow it on a party.
I can’t believe he ever married this twit.
I am also surprised it lasted this long. Guess we should have looked closer at the LA Times photo. His wedding ring is barely on his finger. Did he even have a job?
Sadly, common sense is not a quality that Millianials put into the equation when looking for a mate.
… mostly thanks to the dysfunctional relationships modeled to them by their “Me” Generation/Gen-X parents.
Isn’t that another millenials symptom? Blame someone else.
This is shocking news… said no one who watched this show. Good for Mike Shay. I share in well wishes for him. Here’s hoping Tom Schwartz takes a cue from Mike.
Welcome back TT, although Lady C was awesome, it is good to have you back!!!! I agree this wasn’t real. It was so “contrived” from the get go. The only thing that was truly exposed was just how immature and narcissistic Scheanna is. I was more than disgusted with her attitude towards his “addiction” problem. Then and there it said it all. Mike wasn’t really on much but he seemed like a sweet guy unlike his co-stars (termed used lightly).
I hope he finds peace, true love and help in his new journey and actually I wish the same for her.
I’m surprised they made it two years. Now Schwartz and Katy. How long?
Schwartz and Katie.! No hope…Once again what does he do? If not for Vanderpump rules do the have income ? Except for tips? He’s never been able to “man up”..She works as a waitress… How old are they ?
The show and bravo checks will not last. Get real people.
Yes. This is not a career. Reality shows will be around forever, I suppose, but longevity of any series is never promised. Time to get a real show with real people. I agree completely.
But at least they are getting a prenup to protect all those assets. LOL
Katie and Swartz are already married. The show is not on real time
She co-founded a website! Let’s not forget last season’s blog storyline with that party at Frederic Fekkai (said with much disdain because really what a downgrade for the Ff brand)! In theory, we could all buy websites for $9.99 on go
Daddy & try to make it as social media moguls but in Katie’s case, I don’t think that after seasons of bad hair and makeup anyone is visiting her site for style tips. She’s so vicious this season I can’t say anything nice.
Scheanna is all about herself, but she is not a mean bitch like Stassi and Katie. They have black souls. I never like Katie and I’m not too keen on Schwartz who sticks his steak dinner in his ass to serve to his best friends. Crass, gross, not funny, infantile are words that come to mind. Of course, this is my humble opinion. I respect others, but this happens to be my visceral feeling about the divorce.
As for Shay emptying out all the bank accounts, that’s disgusting. He didn’t have a job. During reunions, he would come on briefly, but he didn’t seem to have a full contract like his counterpart, Scheanna. It just occurred to me that CA is a community property state. Why couldn’t he take half and leave the other half for her. It seems she paid for everything. Certainly, she enabled his drinking, but the onus is on him. He is the drug addict and he is a grown man responsible for his own actions and himself. Whatever Scheanna did or didn’t do to help him, he has to ‘own’ his own drug and psychological problems. He didn’t seek help and disappeared whenever the going got tough. Not a lot of sympathy for either party frankly.
Matz.. your eloquence in your analysis is correct. I am making the leap of faith that they had a prenup.
in my humble opinion, they both had issues..as you said..
You have no idea what sort of treatment program Mike has gone through. He says he is clean and looks a million times better now that he is away from Scheana. Please stop adding “facts” to your comments that are not in evidence.
Sustained!! 🙂
What facts did I add, Tamara? I’ve had my own addiction problems. I don’t and never stated that I was aware of what his treatment program was because I clearly don’t know. What I do know is that on the show, Scheanna decided to take over his treatment plan and other times, he would disappear and go home according to what was said on the show.
“He didn’t have a job.” HE HAS A JOB.
“Why couldn’t he take half and leave the other half for her.” How do you know he didn’t do that, or that the bank accounts were not in his name?
” It seems she paid for everything”
How did it seem like that? He is a grown working man. They discussed finances on the show.
“Whatever Scheanna did or didn’t do to help him, he has to ‘own’ his own drug and psychological problems” He did that. REPEATEDLY.
“He didn’t seek help and disappeared whenever the going got tough.” He sought help and he left Scheana who you admit was enabling him.
You add in things that are not facts as if they are facts frequently. We have had these conversations repeatedly.
I don’t want to wander way off topic here, but it’s really, really hard to get sober. I was amazed by Scheana’s ignorance of addiction and lack of support for what Mike had to go through. She even managed to made his addiction all about her. The best thing he could do for himself was to leave. I don’t see how he could possibly get sober with her. She clearly didn’t want to have a partner who couldn’t party with her. That’s her choice. To me, the fact that they were married would mean one would attempt some sort of understanding and compromise but I don’t think she was up for it.
As for emptying out the bank accounts etc.. who knows what’s true and what’s not. We don’t know if Mike had a job. I’d just be happy to be free from that “Scheana Shrine” of a living room.
I love alliteration!
Slice, I couldn’t agree with you more. Shay didn’t have a chance in hell of getting sober with Scheanna. She may indeed have a similar or another drug problem. She is painfully thin now. I agree that he didn’t have a chance in hell hanging around not only his wife, but the whole crew from Sur. One has to literally divorce themselves from their old friends, in my experience, to get sober. Every day is a struggle and the end of the day is another success, but then it begins again the next morning. It takes bravado and real courage and I applaud Shay for taking a leap of faith to leave his life and wife behind and start anew. I only mentioned that he didn’t have a job because there was no discussion, no inference at all on the show. Scheanna also asked LVP if she would give him a job at Sur. At least LVP told Scheanna that Sur wasn’t the right place for someone struggling with addiction.
Slice, I have read your story and I think your ability to overcome an addiction was amazing and courageous. Actually, I think of you often, wondering how you and your wonderful son are managing and if you’ve found a new home for both of you. You have surmounted a lot of obstacles in life and my thoughts and prayers are always with you and your dear son.
Thanks Matzah, we’re hanging in there. I really appreciate your kind words. I look forward to coming here every day. It’s a bright spot in my day.
Didn’t they show him being a music producer or something having to do with recording music on the show?
The Scheana Shrine….well said. It looks like she got several groupon specials and decided to put canvas size pictures of herself in her wedding gown all over her living room. Who does that???
Kim Zolcizk comes to mind.
Good point, Lawstangel. Forgot about all the ‘art’ Kim displays of herself.
Omg Schwartz “joke” was so disgusting and shocking and weird and beyond anything resembling sanity. It FREAKED me out. Like I started thinking he could be totally psycho.
It was gross but as soon as Ariana took a bite, you can rest assured it’s some scripted foolishness. No way she’d have eaten food that had really been in Schwartzs ass.
Shay has always had a job as far as I know. It’s something in the music industry. Scheana has often said that Shay is working.
I didn’t know that. I don’t recall hearing Scheanna say that, but I certainly believe you and stand corrected. 😉
It’s really become entertaining this season because it’s so ridiculous these aged out originals, at times, look like they know how bad they look.
Only the “cast” members have never realized that they are still working in bar . Egaads. What would be their resume to actually get out of the service business? I guess too old for me to think someone might want to think about something in their future ..Show me someone that goes to get an education . Make me like them more for bettering themselves. I have never seen anyone going beyond the show and sought out a real life way to make money?
On point, TT. Wonder what Scheana will do with those huge photos on her walls?
Read Jax co-owns a restaurant.
Please stop posting about “things you read.” Some have been posted about here and other elsewhere, either way. Post about them wherever your read them.
Also please read the commenting rules.
SaShayed away or was he hauling ass when he broke free?
I’m glad he got away from her. I hope he finds a nice girl who treats him with a little respect and as an equal. Scheana is all about Scheana. There was no room for Mike and especially not his imperfections.
Shayscank redemption.
I always felt bad for Mike and never had the vibe that Scheana really cared about him. IMO from what we saw on the show, she was not supportive in a healthy way. I assumed she was either stupid or just didn’t care. And who knows who brought what to the marriage and who spent what during the marriage. For all we know Shay may have had his own money. And yeah, he looks a whole lot better and she looks like a dope fiend these days. I’m not trying to be a bitch by saying that. I truly hope she’s OK.
I think it would be really hard to have your relationship, (especially newly married) being put under the microscope on reality TV. That would be a lot of pressure for even truly stable relationships. I hope they both are able to find true happiness, and that the statement they put out is true that they are parting as friends.
I like Scheana. Not everyone is suited for marriage to an addict. I gave up substances for three years in great part to support a partner and it was frustrating to find him sneaking pills over and over again. Now I know I will never be with someone who can’t healthily enjoy a glass of wine with me. Addicts just aren’t for me and I don’t think people should have to apologize for that. If he did wipe out her bank accounts then he is a leech and a loser.
Love it.
Aging cokeheads and the girls on adderal. I think it’s a bit of both for most of them.
Stassi probably stopped which explains the weight gain.
Part of me wants to like scheana because she seems somewhat nice but she also reminds me of the chick that would adapt her personality to be with the popular girls in high school.
Ariana needs to be careful about befriending that one.
Scheana only does what get friends tell her to do. She does not think for herself. If she did then she would have never dissed Lela. In fear Katie and the other beast gang of girls would kick her out of their stupid circle of not so great friends. She is making a mistake by divorcing shay. He is the best thing that happened to her. She cheated on him with Eddie. Brandie Glanville ex husband. So she is a looser herself. Get a life Scheana and start thinking for yourself.
This week’s episode I felt like needed some commentary, the Pulse nightclub shootings, which were a horrid reminder that we have savages living amongst us..and we are never truly protected from violence. I was so happy and proud of Lisa VP to see her get on that bus at Pride was tremendous..as for those others, they all had a choice, and they made it, I cannot criticize them, but I am disappointed in them. If I were there, I would have gotten right out there with those Pride folks, but that is just me. Proud of Jax , Brittany and Arianna and Tom also.
As for the Scheana and Shay , they have done a good job on the show of keeping it under the radar, as a matter of fact, I was wondering what was going on and had no idea about the divorce until I read it here, so thanks again TT, you are the BEST. I feel like Scheana only married Shay for the big production of that TV wedding and wasn’t interested in the marriage,nor was she interested in assisting her partner when he needed her , drug and alcohol abuse. Shay , please RUN AS FAR AWAY FROM THESE JACKHOLES AS YOU CAN RUN FAR RUN FAST, YOU WILL BE A MUCH BETTER PERSON FOR IT IN THE END. That is all, and thanks TT.