There is really nothing interesting going on in the entertainment world you want to read about, or at least not anything extremely depressing. I would tell you what that is but then you would all focus on that and start planning your suicide missions again. And by God, part of the point of this site is we are a collective of people who are trying not to die. If you want to die, please go do a Google search for how to do that, and quit dragging it here.
In that fine Christian spirit, I’m just going to talk about whatever the fuck I want to. I watch all of these trailers of movies, and I want to go see them, and then I just don’t and I wait for them to come out on cable TV.
Oh wait, Fidel Castro has died. Well that is news. I guess it sort of goes along with the point that I am losing now about how when I was growing up, I thought doctors were special people who were… I dunno some how preordained to be smarter than us and take care of us all. Then, I went through a plethora of really dumb ones. And doctors trying to sell you the latest things in order to pay off their medical school bills.
The idiots on talk shows are dumb. Hell the talk show hosts are dumb. I SEE DUMB PEOPLE. And apparently, dumb people are the last vestiges of book buyers. Reality idiots with ghost writers translating their illiteracy into actual books which are allegedly written by people who have not idea or ability to pronounce the phrase “New York Times Best Seller.”
I’ve lost all train of thought because I happened to switch to CNN for a moment. I had planned to talk about the movie Joy at least tangentially. And the part of the movie where I wanted to hack off my hair. And still do.
So now I have to watch a bit of news about Fidel Castro. I, as you know, have strong ties to Libya. And that country has just been left to atrophy and my Twitter feed of Libyans says things were better under Qaddafi’s a dictatorship. And this news has sort of blown my mind and added to the strange changes we are all undergoing whether we want to or not.
I have some things to say but I have forgotten them all. I believe my intent was to say things like “How the hell do you have nothing to say about a baby being born?” And in general, “What the fuck is wrong with you that you don’t know the difference between who is the most unsavory housewife and people chatting in a support forum?”
So in closing. I am still working on the site and getting you the features that you want, but I have more serious issues to deal with. And the negative fucking tone of everything here, where people were literally discussion suicide methods in the HAPPY THANKSGIVING post, just make me want to block some very long time people.
I don’t understand how a happy holidays thread is the place to plot your suicide. But if you wish to kill yourself, I do not want to read about it here. Find another fucking place to make your dramatic comments. This board is sort of the OPPOSITE of that idea.
Every damn time I want to tell a story, some shit happens, like this Fidel Castro mess.
TT, is it okay if I send you hugs? BTW, my daughter is winning her battle with cancer, so it was a grateful family gathering at my house yesterday.
Yay! Wonderful news!
@WestCoasrFeed, congratulations to your Daughter. That is cause for celebration! Wishing her continued health.
Very happy news! Continued blessings on her :).
Happy Gobble Day to your daughter!
I have had a theory that he’s been dead for a while, but holy shit. I hadn’t heard. Now, I don’t want to hear any shit – but after the Kardashians visited Cuba, I now want to go too. I need to find my passport though. I can’t the safe place I put it. Damn it.
TT – I never go to movies, and I LOVE them. Like try to see all the movies nominated for an Oscar before the Award show love them. (Well, there are certain ones I knew I wouldn’t like at all, so abstained) I even enjoy going by myself, especially if it is an art house type theater.
So here is an idea…. announce a movie you are planning on seeing, give us a week to all see it, then do a post where we can discuss it.
So… now that the embargo is lifted, will Donald Trump have to go to the funeral? Hahahahahaha.
Presuming that Castro’s funeral will be within the next 2 months, the President is still Barack Obama. No need for Trump to show his face.
Agree 100%. He’s the President-Elect, not the President. Last I heard, the funeral would be December 4th – the last official day of mourning. Given the very negative comment Trump released regarding the terrible legacy that Castro leaves, I very much doubt he would want to attend his funeral. Don’t want to be any more redundant than I usually am, but still shaking my head in utter disbelief and horror that we’re even having to think about the words “President Trump”. Oh well, I’m a big girl so I’ll suck it up and hope for the best.
I love that idea…
Great idea Erica. I try to go Tuesday afternoon, 1/2 price and now I get a additional discount vringnokd or thru my auto incsurance. Under $8.00
Maybe more than a week is needed.
More than a week might be a good idea! I forgot about discount days like Tuesdays. I could do that.
I was semi-kidding people. I doubt Obama will attend the funeral, or even Biden. (But if anyone could improve our standing on international relations, it would be Joe!!! No jokes about Joe – I love him. I still mourn that he just didn’t have the heart to run for president after losing his son, and yet I understand it. The man has served us enough.)
Just had an image of Trump’s first international experience as President or President Elect and NOT the opening of an international golf club that displaced locals, or a monstrosity of a hotel that ruined an historical location being in Cuba, and for Fidel… both a location that couldn’t possibly live up to his gold leaf gaudy standards, and requiring political nuances dating back more than 50 years.
Hi TT. I’ve been a long time reader, but something has always held me back from commenting. I read every post and mostly every comment. Beacuse of my work schedule, it’s always late at night when I come here. (The time I should be tired, but often feel most alive.)
I feel compelled to tell you that I get you. I love your writings, respect your brutal honesty and understand the community you’ve fought so hard to build. I always appreciate differing viewpoints- it’s how we grow and learn. I’m far from being prudish or closed minded, but the comments about suicide bothered me to my core. I wasn’t sure if I would return. This is a safe little corner of the internet. Thank you for speaking up and thank you for holding on. What I most admire about you is your natural ability to speak your mind.
This is a special place and your words make me feel safe. Above all, this is your space that you so graciously share with us and don’t ask for much in return. I sincerely thank you for sharing your talent with us and your very real, humble self.
TT, the holidays seem to bring out the best and sometimes not so great in people. It is an emotional time of year so I’d wait on blocking long time posters if I were you, but that’s just a suggestion.
The Gaddafi video was one of the many reasons that I could never get behind Hillary. Her absolute delight talking about someone’s death was so appalling to me no matter who the person was.
And Joy was a great movie! I went with my mom and Grandma to see it at the theater. Now that you brought that up I’m going to ask them if they want to see another movie this weekend although my Grandma is 84 and not up for much lately…she’s still as smart as a whip though and sometimes can be quite hateful. Luckily working in assisted living right out of high school gave me some very helpful tools in life, such as selective hearing and loads of patience 🙃
I saw the video of Hillary on Gaddafi’s death and I saw it as she was pleased with the success of the mission which was to take out a brutal man.
We/She were successful, joyful day!
I want a leader who will not waste time feeling remorse over a man who brutally killed thousands of his people.
Isn’t that a hypocrite?
You have your opinion and I have mine. We both also had the freedom to vote how we wanted 🙂
I am going through a lot of crap at the moment. It sucks, but I will get through it. I always do. Always.
They say when Life gives you lemons, make lemonade. That’s why I drink lemonade when I’m up in my tree. Lots of damned lemonade. Always.
I had another panic attack last night. A bad one. Where I suddenly can’t breathe. I hate that. I like breathing.
Always.
I’m sorry to hear that you’re having a hard time, Cat. Do you have any anti-anxiety meds? I sometimes get panic attacks during the night where I get straight out of bed feeling like I can’t breathe and run straight outside..even in winter (luckily I don’t sleep naked 😂) but it’s scary as all hell and 1/2 of an Ativan does wonders to stop the anxiety and help me sleep when that happens.
I hope things get better for you soon! ❤️
Cat, I am so sorry to hear! When I had panic attacks I learned if I drank cold water I could not over breathe. Also breathing in to a paper bag helps. We tend to breathe faster (hyperventilate) which is imperceptible but causes numb lips, hands, etc. I hope you are better.
Thanks. No, they won’t give me meds. They just tell me to breathe. Kind if hard when you are gasping for air, ya know?
Believe it or not, my doctors approved the use of catnip for anxiety. I just have to make sure it’s for human consumption. I finally found some on Amazon. Powdered form, so you can mix it into anything: Smoothies, brownies, etc. Catnip actually works. Really, it does. 🙂
I’m OK now. The panic attack was last night. Now I just feel like I’ve been beaten up. It will pass.
Today, I don’t want to adult. I only want to cat. 🙂
Cat, I’m sorry you had a panic attack. They suck when you do have the meds can’t imagine not having it. It did make me chuckle that you are Cat and told to take catnip. 😃
Ha! The catnip was my idea. 🙂
Had the no breathing thing today after eating candy. For me, it is related to bacteria overgrowth. I drink water and do yoga breathing. Close one nostril, suck in air, open that nostril, close the other, breathe out.
Bacteria overgrowth? Wow.
Cat, so sorry you are going through that. My thoughts are w you. Catnip is a wonderful ally for anxiety, it’s soothing and gentle. I take it as a tea.
I’m sorry to hear that Cat. Anxiety attacks are the WORST. I broke up with a fairly new boyfriend after a panic attack last month. A bad, shut the lights off/close the blinds and lay in the dark midday, I’m dying right now panic attack. And he kept asking why. What was the anxiety from. He had to go after that.
What reason do they have for not giving you meds? My antidepressant works wonders, but it gives me anxiety (go figure.) I thought I didn’t need my ativan anymore, so I stopped going to my doctor. Now I’m scrambling for ways to calm down during attacks. I have found that a little benadryl helps a lot. Sometimes it can make me tired, but I’d rather feel tired than feel like I’m dying.
Hope you feel better soon, it’s a battle.
Since my anxiety is post chemo related, they want me to see the psychologist at the cancer center. I did see her 3 or 4 times, and she simply concentrated on deep breathing. I already know how to do that.
I stopped seeing her a year ago last August, when she focused on my lack of makeup. I just sat there, stunned, thinking “Are you kidding me? After all I’ve gone through, THIS us what you focus on?”
I never went back.
It’s weird, too, because after the mastectomy, they had me on a variety of things, including Ativan and Morphine. Now, nothing.
My cardiologist says I have “White Coat Syndrome”, since the worst attacks occur at the Doctor’s. I have them other times, too. But I HATE going to the doctor now.
Following on TT’s sentiment that doctors can, in fact, just be educated idiots.. I can certainly attest to my revulsion to some therapists/psychiatrists. I went off my meds for a year and a half because I just hated my last doctor. I find that many of them just do not understand, or can be ironically insensitive. Every time I had a problem with one med, he just added another. And another. I get my AD from my primary care because at some point I just couldn’t go without any longer. But the lack of anxiety meds can be TOUGH.
I would have the same “syndrome” if I was you. I can’t imagine I’d be a fan of the doctor either. I used to have a non-narcotic anti-anxiety that was basically a histamine I believe. Maybe you could look into that?
I will, thanks!
Did you ask her why she thought it was an issue? I mean, I have relatives who don’t wear any makeup – ever. I have some who wear a shit ton. If one of the shit ton ones stopped, I would question it, but not the others. Did you wear it before?
Not judging you at all – over the years (and without something as catastrophic as cancer) and the makeup coming off because of allergies, I just decided to think “fuck it” and don’t’ wear make up a lot. I know I look better with it and sometimes I DON’T put it on because I’m depressed – but if a therapist didn’t ask me nuanced questions, I’d tell them to fuck off too.
I once should have gone to a therapist, and didn’t. Ended up working through a really bad time on my own, which took probably over a year longer than it should have. I did get names of people initially from a family friend who was a therapist herself. She offered to see me if I was more comfortable with her, but understood if I wasn’t. She also cautioned me that it was ABSOLUTELY fine and normal to not find the right fit in therapist right away, and to give several a try first. Not that because they ask you something that is uncomfortable, but because they ask you shit like you describe that isn’t anything you are worried about, care about, etc.
No, I didn’t ask. I tried to control my rage, and explained to her the reasons why no makeup:
1. I didn’t wear makeup the entire time I was FIGHTING FOR MY LIFE.
2. I was BROKE from the treatments. Makeup was not in my budget when I couldn’t afford food or rent.
3. It was FUCKING AUGUST. I was driving across town with my windows down with a 105° heat index. The makeup would have melted into my shirt by the time I got there.
4. I am 61 years old. And walking around with one boob, like a circus freak. If people are offended by the way I look, they can look somewhere else. Or gouge their eyes out.
Then, I clammed up. The session was over, as far as I was concerned.
You would think a therapist working at a fucking CANCER CENTER would learn there are more important things to talk about. I don’t care about superficial crap. She obviously did. She was clueless.
Cat: whe never things get bad for me I repeat the phrase “I’m like a cat, I always land on my feet”. The screen name fits you, you will land on your feet
Yeah, that and a couple of catnip brownies works for me. 🙂
I went ahead and called roadside assistance. It was just my battery, thank God. I hadn’t driven the car in about 3 weeks, and I guess that and the sudden hard freeze made my car go belly up.
Now, I’m afraid to drive it. Such a pussy, sometimes. 🙂
I still have other issues to tackle. But at least now I have a backup plan in place. I may try the grocery delivery anyway. It really wasn’t that expensive. And now I don’t have to have the anxiety of driving in snow.
Baby steps.
Fidel dying has people dancing in the streets here in South Florida. Literally.
I’m happy to see the celebration in South Florida. The people are stuck in the 1960’s, imprisoned for wanting democracy, impoverished … and Cuba is not better off with his death, Raul Castro is just as bad. Their government hates America and Americans cannot turn a blind eye to the cold reception Obama received. In remembrance of Brothers to the Rescue.
“When someone dies you’re only supposed to say something good. Fidel Castro just died. Good.” (w/apologies to Bette Davis)
On a positive note, he led a long, fascinating life.
TT, I watch many movies before they are even in theaters and the rest, I catch the week they come out. It’s free and you don’t have to leave your house. Movie critics get early releases and they share. I think you are above board though so you probably won’t cheat. I couldn’t care less.
I’m sorry if I’ve been negative in my posts lately. I will refrain from shaing until after the holidays. I know a lot of people love this time of year and the last thing I want to do is to bring anyone down with me.
On second thought, you may want to put me in the WLS until 2017 – just to be safe.
Lol 🙂 are you feeling ok? Recovering from the tumble? Hope so 🙂 take it easy.
Mary, I’m only speaking for myself, but I don’t believe this had anything to do with you. You posted in the appropriate section about your apprehension of your first Thanksgiving alone. Your posts are always admirable. It takes guts to let out our fears and this commnuity is here to support one another.
Take a deep breath and don’t go away. You always offer kind words to others- it’s only fair to have the same grace bestowed upon you that you so freely offer to others.
I’ll leave you with this….The only constant in life is change. We survive things we don’t think we could and become better, kinder, more empathetic to others as a result.
The holidays are tough. Hang in there. Brighter days are ahead!
I agree!
Ms. Tattles,
Your stories are the best part of this site, sorry we have to miss one. On the other hand, I am glad you returned, was worried that you were going to actually close the website as others have done to their sites.
Maybe you should bring back “the beast” (can not remember the face Sybil Sheppard or something) to clear the cliques from the board. I despised it as a poster but it kept everyone on their toes!
The new site layout is coming along nicely, looking forward to the final layout.
sent my family to visit the mother in law and stayed home by myself. The neighbors brought over a plate of food for me on Thanksgiving. I was really trying to be on the lowdown so no one knew I was home. It was embarrassing but I ate the whole thing and it was delicious.
I like being by myself and is one of the reasons I like this site. Others get that it is ok. Or maybe I am just a control freak and being alone allows me complete control.
Your new site is awesome! A hundred thank you’s for the hard work you do for us,
A coworker was one of the children airlifted out of Cuba during Project Peter Pan. She is a strong lovely person that helps many of our Hispanic kids at school. I am sure it was scary for her as a child, but her story is fascinating.
Speak Tamara, speak!!! 🙂
Bring back the snark and fun!!!
Castro was a world leader for over 50 years. He went up against the US and won. Now I am American and certainly no Communist , but that indeed is a huge accomplishment. So love him or hate him, I do admire that. Having said that I hope we will still be allowed to visit and the embassy stays open. That comment about Libya being better under dictator Ghaddafi reminds me of that saying. Better the devil you know than the one you don’t. Speaking of Joy Magnanos, I love her products and her visits on HSN. I saw the movie as well. Jennifer Lawrence as usual is fantastic as Joy.
With Fidel’s death..end of an era.. Bad memories of the 50’s , as a child, being inundated with Civil Defense
pamphlets and “duck and cover” drills in school. One neighbor even built a bomb shelter.
What I have always noticed is that the blog site administrator sets the tone & like minded people gravitate to (or away from) it.
Hair grows back do what makes you happy. Just maybe let someone with sharp scissors who has some experience cut it and shape it. Hope you and Banjo are well and everyone had a great holiday.
Brilliant post, TT. Straight forward, honest and sincere. Keep following you feet and blog. We all have a sad song to sing. But it’s when we learn to dance to the song, I find I can deal with the struggles. And, yes, there are so many doctors that are idiots. They have the swag, but no true knowledge to back it up.. Case in point, when they don’t know the answers, they use the word “IDIOPATHIC” which means I don’t have a fucking clue. Lost two sibs because of their ignorance. Always remember that they work for us.
Maybe it is my state of mind, but every movie I watch lately is a reminder that “the people” we rely on for information about our health, the weather, homeland security, and what is going on in the world… those people are not as informed, intelligent and trustworthy as I once thought. I suppose it’s a very naive realization, and it pulls many threads from the fabric of the safety net I once thought was there.
I have a lot of things I need to accomplish this weekend. And I am “stuck” and overwhelmed by it all. So I am watching a movie after each minor accomplishment. I just watched Steve Jobs on HBO on Demand. It may be one of the best movies I’ve ever seen. I was mesmerized from beginning to end. And now that we all have such ready access to information… there is no turning back to those blissfully ignorant times.
Next up, The Revenant which I may or may not actually watch.
I seem to “amaze” my hubs with how many situations I can mention could happen with basically everything. I guess it’s obsessive but hey, to me, it makes total sense. A lot can happen in the simplest situation. Perhaps it’s anxiety? I think it’s common sense. The end result is wasting a lot of time worrying. But I am ready for anything. I’ll probably get struck by lightning or something 🙂
Oh lord… have you started it yet? I watched it once. ONCE. AND NEVER AGAIN. It is brutal!
Last year my friend and I, over the course of two weeks worked at seeing as many of the nominated films as we could. We didn’t really do well at it, but we did pick Revenant because we thought Leo would win and they’d get Best Pic. We had plans to go for a drink and an app afterwards, but coming out of the theater we both looked at each other and admitted we were exhausted and wanted to just go home and put the covers over our heads.
I would recommend, from last year’s nominees The Martian (funny and upbeat, surprisingly!), Brooklyn (sweet and enjoyable), and Spotlight (fantastic movie, we were delighted when it won. It shows there ARE good news services out there! We just need to be careful on what news sources we rely on)
Watched Revenant the same way, through my fingers. Leo’s dialogue was mostly grunts and moans.
Shortly after, we took a camping trip to grizzly country. I had nightmares about it, and was thrilled to find out that only hardshell campers were allowed in areas where grizzlies roamed. Never been so happy to have a crappy tent! 😉
Brooklyn and Spotlight were excellent!
I know what you mean, TT!
I SO miss the Walter Cronkite days, before smart phones, and internet, when you believed every word that was said on TV. You could believe reporters back then. I think?
Now, there are so many fake news stories, and mainstream media networks spinning stories to boost ratings, it’s hard to know what to believe. And the election, which seemed to shock and surprise everyone, has made things worse.
I get most of my news now from my friends in Europe.
May be why I can come up with so much going wrong in any situation. There’s overload and entertainment when weird things happen in normal situations. Used to be oblivious to things. Kinda justifies.
Yeah. For awhile, everything was Hillary’s fault. Now, we are back to blaming Russia for everything.
Tamara, I must know what you thought of The Revenant. That is an intense heart stopping flick.
An interesting day at the ranch.. I can see 60 miles away to the islands off Mexico. Winds kicking up. storms coming later.. Oak trees look like something from the forest from the Wizard of Oz. Moving around like they are trying to talk to me.. kidding on that one. Tons of movies on Direct TV. Free weekend.. mostly older ones.. Some new ones.. some semi soft core junk. Some semi current ones. Have slow cooker on making chili and beans..Wood stove in living room blazing away.. a cup of Earl Grey in my hand.. Happy day.
Nothing on god’s green earth would make me watch The Revenant unless it was a true story and Leo DiCaprio really got ass-raped by a bear. I’d watch that for giggles. Generally speaking I don’t like movies that are hard to watch because of violence or whatever.
I lasted for about four minutes. Did the academy just give Leo and award or did they actually watch that crap? From what I could tell it is sort of Cowboys and Indians meets deliverance. I am now watching the Age of Adeline it’s a tragic love story I will probably stop the movie before the unavoidable tragic ending.
My daughters loved Age of Adeline. It’s on my must watch list.
TT, I rarely post but read your blog every day. I’ll admit, the comment section has taken an odd turn lately.
I really, really appreciate you. Stay strong and be gentle with yourself. Hugs.
Ok. LOL. Revenant is a love it or hate it type of movie…
They watched it, but the Academy is/was made up of a bunch of old white guys over 60, who were impressed with his “method acting” throughout the entire movie (so I heard). These are the dudes who made the movies like Jeremiah Johnson, and other survival movies. They gave it to Leo because they didn’t have the balls to do something like that themselves. My friend and I did say while we disliked the movie, Leo did an amazing job.
I recommend Brooklyn as a palate cleanser.
Oh, and this post kind of made me want to kill myself, but I googled as instructed and I didn’t like the options. (See above, I don’t like violence.) I’m thinking maybe Switzerland where you can put yourself down just because you have the sadz.
We saw “Allied” today. It sucked hard. Couldn’t figure out whether it wanted to be a spy story or a love story and ended up doing both poorly. Even Brad Pitt’s still-fine ass couldn’t salvage it. That’s saying something although I do miss the Thelma & Louise days.
Separately, I have to be in Charlotte on Monday and I don’t have dinner plans. Want to hang out? It’s practically Georgia, right?
OMG, it’s only 3 1/2 hours. You should totally come. We can go out someplace fabulous for dinner.
I’m sitting in an airport waiting for my flight back to Atlanta. I just said goodbye to my mom who has dementia and my heart is breaking. She is the strongest woman I’ve ever known , a true southern lady who is losing the essence of her self. She believes she is being held hostage and cries for her mother and daddy. She recognizes me and begged me to take her with me. I’m thankful my dad is with her and gives her solace as does my sister who lives close by.
I’m rambling. There are things worse than death.
My grandma had Alzheimer’s, granddad had a form of dementia. It fucking sucks, esp. when they are in their fear mode.
A lot of interesting posts… so involved in Movies watched..Hyperbole on self professed actions as to like or or not like a movie… also known as a fictional construction of something , they meaning a writer or
studio think will make them money.
I love movies..Many times I went into a theater and walked out. Heard the hype, then nothing delivered.
I may a bad choice and believed the hype.
Pretend English is my first language. What exactly are you trying to say?
I adored the Steve Jobs movie and I loved the Jobs bio by Issacson. Michael Fassbender and Kate Winslet were fantastic. I started the Relevant but not a fan of overly violent movies so naturally could not last long.I even enjoyed Ashton Lurched as Steve Jobs. Jobs was such a fascinating, brilliant , complicated man.
Lol Ashton Kutcher.
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About those doctors. So I was going through a phase where I was homicidal.Yes, I knew I wasn’t going to do it, but the thoughts bothered me. I was angry. (notice I was not depressed, I was angry, and homicidal). I also had horrible insomnia, and what I like to remember as severe “wet” hot-flashes. (everything got soaking wet-my hair, my clothes…).
This is what I discussed with my doctor. Doctor really wanted me to take a “black box warning label” anti-depressant. I had a fit over that and angrily told my doctor that I didn’t think it was very responsible to advise someone who tells you that they are already thinking about murder way too much to take something that could possibly push me over the edge. (plus I was not depressed so wtf). He said that only happens to other people. The happy ending is everybody lived and I got through it, but I was banned from the practice. Oh well.
I grew up in the keys. Part of my adoptive family was Cuban. So many friends who were. It’s such a sensitive topic. His life and death. I can’t presume to know what my friends and family are feeling or thinking. Like you, I wonder if it will be as good a outcome we imagined without Castro or worse. I love Cuba and it’s people. I hope and pray for a bright future for the people of Cuba.
I hope you are well Tamara. This hypocritical Christian will be thinking about you. I didn’t see the threads. Now hesitant to look.
Happy holidays people. And if not happy, than maybe sensitive