Sorry for the delay in putting this up. I often think of things I want to write about during the week and then when the weekend comes, I have nothing. I’ve been on a weird emotional roller coaster where everything seems worthy of a huge emotional response. Take today for example. I had bad dreams again last night. Not scary dreams, just all kinds of dreams where I was in profoundly sad situations or frustrating situations. Yesterday my face felt like I had been sobbing for hours, I had not, but you know how your face feels weird after a long cry? It felt like that.
Last night I got the Project Runway recap and decided to do it first thing this morning. It’s the hardest post of the week every week. For the best possible post, we need at least the six photos of the top and bottom three. Every year it is hard as hell to even find the photos. This year, CJ Bomb finds the photos and writes the blog so that is fantastice. But the photos are all different sizes and the stupid Project Runway backdrop for the runway is horrific and they have to be scaled and the cropped and then sometimes scaled again. Then it is so fucking hard to post photos on WordPress because what you see in the editor is not what you see when the piece is published. Anyway, I was having problems. I had problems a couple a weeks ago, and I solved them and I felt accomplished. I’d learned some new tricks. I was proud of myself. Today, when faced with the same struggle I was highly irritable, and frustrated and just wanted to say fuck it all. I was madder than a wet hen. But I finally got it up, it looks great and I’m still bitching about it hours later. Even though, I learned even more about irregularly shaped photos and I’m getting really good at them, my attitude was completely different.
Then, I sat down and watched some Hotel Impossible. This is a great show on The Travel Channel that just started a new season. Anthony basically makes over small hotels. I guess that doesn’t sound great but it is. You learn about new cities and their tourism, and Anthony is probably the man on reality TV with the biggest heart. He’s also very no nonsense. I love when it is in season, and it is the show I watch on Saturday because it puts me in a good mood. I cried over a hotel. Cried. Because the hotel was so clean and cute and the hotel owner was so nice and dedicated. Um. Okay. I even Googled the hotel in Deadwood, Arizona to check on the guy. He’s getting rave reviews and doing much better. Um what is wrong with me?
Anyway, I’m just all in my feelings FOR NO FUCKING REASON. I think I need to go get my hormones checked again. In the scope of life, I have things pretty good. I just wish my emotions matched my thoughts.
Moving on. I met a great surgeon this week. I feel great about that. Again, when I left the office I was super happy. Because nothing is just good or bad anymore everything is horrendous or fantastic. If I could have picked one thing to be fantastic it would have been finding a great surgeon. So, um YAY! I don’t know when my surgery will be, but it will be soon and I will tell you about it after I am fully recovered.
The weather has been fantastic at least from what I see looking out the window. I was supposed to go to the bank on Friday and forgot and I meant to get out into the world today but every little thing has been a PITA today and I missed my daylight window. I really do need to at least get to Whole Foods tomorrow. I’ve been out of my sanity water for a while. Which is probably my whole problem. I generally go to Whole Foods once a month and because of some other issues, I’m way far behind and have been eating some crap.
Sorry I am rambling. One of my dreams last night was that I was talking to people and they could not understand what I was saying. I noticed that I am struggling more with my writing and the use of the wrong word is becoming more frequent.
Getting old ain’t for pussies.
Now a lot of you have some updates you need to tell us about! I’ve been thinking about so many of you all week! And remember this is an OPEN FORUM to talk about anything. Just don’t spoil any TV shows, movies or books!
Feel better, boo. You got this.
Tamara. I was wondering. How long did you live in Savannah? Did you teach downtown? I’m from HHI and we used to have to drive into the ” City” to get shopping done. Have you been back post- Midnight in the Garden/Forrest Gump/Paula Deen renaissance? It really is a gorgeous city.
I lived through my one and only year of teaching middle school there. I had the best principal of my career but middle schoolers were just HELL. Worse than highschool by a country mile.
Sorry. I have nothing to report. Guess that means things here are OK?
No news is good news?
I guess so!
I just returned from my week long honeymoon trip, though we were married in January. I had the best time of my life and now know I’m with the person who’ll bury me. It only took 43 years. Well worth the wait?
Congratulations!!!
Totes congrats Valour! You just gave me some hope. Mazel!!
I am happy for you. I have been married a little over 48 years to my one and only. Best wishes for the rest of your life together.
My best wishes for a long and happy marriage.
Congrats. You should totally do a honeymoon trip every year.
Congratulations! Good things come to those who wait!!
Congrats, Valour!!!
Congrats!
I’m super pissed off that after an eight day elk hunting trip to Colorado my husband is now hunting in Louisiana and I haven’t had a moment of peace to myself this entire month. I want him to do what he loves but damn, I would like to do something away from the house every once in awhile. I grew up in Houston, which is a large city, now I’m stuck in the woods of Arkansas. I always thought it would get a little easier with time but this time of the year makes me miss home even more.
It doesn’t help that I have a 18 month old that I never seem to get a break from and don’t really feel I have any help.
I’m all in my feelings right now also. I don’t post on here much but tonight I guess I needed to bitch about it. I guess I really need to find a new hobby.
I hope everyone else is having a good one, I always enjoy reading everyone’s comments.
Rant over…….
Kellie, have a trip planned so you can leave when he gets back. That will give you something to look forward to while he’s in Arkansas. I hope you get a support system in place for your 18-month old. Hang in there!
Not a bad idea. Take the same amount of time away as he did, and let him do the child rearing while she’s gone.
Oops! When he gets back from Louisiana.
Hope you get the break you need soon, Kellie. And bitching about whatever you want is what the Daily Tea is for. Vent all you want.
That’s for the encouragement everyone, I absolutely adore my little family but some days I get in the mood where I could definitely leave em instead of take em…… For a few hours at least….
There is a light at the end of the tunnel. 18 months is crazy, you get no rest, but soon enough you’ll be best friends.
Kellie, I know how you feel. I too went from larger city area to more desolate desert when I had my first who was a VERY gassy baby. Having the baby is a full time job, especially your first one. My husband pretended to work but actually played golf EVERY DAY.
I don’t have good advice except you are NOT alone! 😉 If you can even get an hour free and there for a break, it helps. You need you time.
My husband does a really dangerous job in the oilfield, he works with explosives and I know its stressful. He is an awesome provider and I love him dearly, his one and only vice is hunting so I try to not bitch and complain. That being said this is the first time in my entire life I haven’t had to work, I’m just not accustomed to having to do literally nothing except take care of baby. I get why my Mom always said having kids is a young persons game, I waited and had her when I was 35, wish I would have taken time sooner in life for kids. I adore both of them but I don’t do well with the being stagnant part.
I love where we live but because I wasn’t raised in this type of environment I don’t always feel like I fit in with the people around here. I dont do well with the closemind mentaliy that’s fairly common around these parts. I do well as a loner but I do miss my family.
Truly compared to most people I don’t have a lot to complain about, we are all healthy and stable. I know a lot of people are not, I’m thankful for that.
Just get in my feeling sometimes…..
Kellie, I have teenagers now, but when they were little a local church had Mother’s Morning Out, which gave me a break once a week. Some preschools have half day programs twice a week. It is rewarding to be a stay at home mom, especially once their personalities start developing, but it can be isolating. Especially if you don’t have local grandparents. Take care and try to take a little time for you.
My husband hunting and fished. The amazing thing his mother and father taught him, you kill it, you clean it, you cook it! Turned out to be a wonderful cook! That doesn’t help you now, but get that habit going now!
I actually don’t mind the cooking part of all of it. I have learned skills since I’ve been stuck in the woods that I wouldn’t have learned otherwise, I have learned how to preserve meat and canning just about everything we get out of the garden. In a lot of ways it’s a lovely lifestyle.
I never imagined my rant would have garnered so many encouraging responses from so many wonderful people, I definitely feel a little less alone in the struggle. It’s nice to know I’m not alone!
Many thanks to you all!
I’m so sorry for the bad dreams and feelings, TT. I wish you the best for your upcoming surgery and am glad you found a doctor you are comfortable with and like.
I’ve had an okay week. With this stupid election in another week, work has been crazy and I got yelled at by a blogger who thinks his blog is the end all be all for election information. I don’t get paid enough to get yelled at by people who don’t understand that the information is out of my control.
I also didn’t get the job I had two interviews for. I was told me they went with someone who had more Web design experience. Which is a bs excuse because the job ain’t even for Web design. It was for editing the content. So, with that excuse, I know it was because they hired someone they wanted to begin with, but since they are required to post the job and conduct interviews, they did. It’s such a waste of time and it’s what sucks about about working for the state. You can’t just hire who you want or apply for a job.
On the good news front, my BFF who has been in the hospital in a medically induced coma for the past month is awake and on the mend. He was critically injured while base jumping and the doctors thought it best to keep him under so there was no movement and his broken bones could start to heal. Needless to say, we’ve all be very worried about him. Especially me. Like Christina and Meredith from Grey’s Anatomy, he is my person. So, I haven’t been sleeping or eating well for a while. Thankfully, he is awake and the doctors say he’ll be okay.
It was supposed to rain all day today, but we haven’t had a drop. I have the doors and windows open and it’s 70 degrees here. A nice fall day in Sacramento and I haven’t left the couch. Been binging on Netflix all day. Hoping to finish Luke Cage and finally start Stranger Things. Maybe tomorrow after I get home from visiting BFF at the hospital.
Hope you’re all having a good Saturday.
Sorry to hear about the job opportunity. I’ve seen that situation often enough in the past. Glad your friend is doing better as well.
Sorry about the job. I know how frustrating applying for state positions can be when there are internal candidates. Glad to hear your person is on the mend.
Although I’m sorry to read of your job, I’m more ecstatic about your friend! Best wishes, Whyowhy!!!
Thanks, all. It’s going to be a long road to recovery, but we are hopeful he will have all movement and will be back up and around in no time. Good sign is that he’s already cracking jokes and driving the nurses crazy.
So sorry about your job, it’s a frustrating situation. I’m happy your BFF is on the mend, that at least is very good news.
TT, I love reading your posts. I swear you writing about my life. It is really still almost 100 here in Phoenix and the heat is giving me terrible headaches. I will leave the house tomorrow, too, maybe…
Me too, HotinPhx. It normally breaks by now. I had a migraine yesterday and spent the past 24 hrs trying to keep water down. I hope you feel better!
I’ve been having a blah week too. I got a good evaluation at work, and I’m optimistic about my employment prospects, but nothing is chiseled into stone yet.
Doctor’s appointment next Tuesday. I’m anxious about it. Le sigh.
The best thing that happened to Minky this week? I baked some gluten-free, sugar-free, chocolate chip cookies that were so bomb. Deeelishus!!! And because they have no sugar or gluten I don’t feel guilty about eating them. These cookies is right with the lordt!!! Hallaluuuuuujah!!!
Hahahaha!!! ??????? Cookies for e’rbody!!!
I want, no, need some of those cookies right now. I had a my 6 month checkup scheduled with the new doc, and had to cancel it due to the new job so that kind of stinks, but on the bright side turns out the new doc is a woman, and I’ve had really good luck with female docs at the VA. I prefer them. They don’t BS, if they don’t know they don’t guess, they’re open, honest, non-pretentious, and they freakin listen to you, and answer your questions. They scheduled blood tests so I figure I’ll get in to see the vampires sometime early next week.
Hopefully the nerves about your upcoming doctor’s appointment even out before Tuesday. Nobody needs that kind of stress in their lives.
Pleeeeeeez post the recipe!
Oh hey I almost forgot to share the most important part. One of my friends has celiac disease, and his wife learned to bake gluten free, and she got really good at it. He really believed in her, and pushed her to start selling her baked goods, and now she sells them to a few coffee shops in town. At the time, about three years ago there were slim to no options to buy for him.
So if the cookies are that good girl start supplementing your income. If you bake them they will come.
FOUND IT!!! I had to search for a while, but I got it. I’ll write in where I altered the original recipe.
2 1/4 cups Gluten-Free Flour Blend
1 teaspoon gluten-free baking powder
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon xanthan gum
3/4 cup butter, softened
3/4 cup firmly packed brown sugar
1/2 cup sugar
2 large eggs
2 teaspoons gluten-free vanilla
1 (12-ounce) package gluten-free semi-sweet chocolate chunks or chips
This is a GOOD recipe. The only place where I did it Minky style is by substituting Swerve for the white sugar, and Splenda brown blend for the brown sugar (that’s all I could find at the Mercado).
I also used 2-8oz bags of Hershey’s sugar-free chocolate chips, which makes it the total chocolate chip count 4oz more than the recipe calls for. But that’s okay because I like A LOT of chocolate in my chocolate chip cookies. So I was very happy.
If you like you can substitute 4oz chopped nuts in the place where I put 4oz extra chocolate. I suggest walnuts or pecans.
Also, I used Bob’s Red Mill gluten-free all-purpose flour blend. The one with the red label.
Preparation:
Preheat oven to 375 degrees.
Stir together the dry ingredients in a bowl (flour, baking power, baking soda, salt, and xanthan gum) and set aside. Cream the butter and both types of “sugar” in the mixer. Add the eggs and vanilla, and mix well. Then add the dry ingredients, and finally the chocolate chips.
Using a small ice cream scoop I plopped these onto 2 ungreased baking sheets. I ended up making exactly 40 good sized cookies. Bake in a preheated 375 degree oven for about 15 minutes depending on the level of crispiness you prefer. For softer cookies, about 11-12 minutes. Let them set on the baking sheets for about 2-5 minutes after you take them out of the oven so they won’t crumble when you try to lift them with your spatula.
They’re amazing warm. But also very good straight out of the refrigerator with a glass of milk. They DO NOT taste sugar-free or gluten-free. They taste real and right! Enjoy!!!
Minky, thanks!
Thanks Minky. I’ve got like next to none of the ingredients in the house so it’s another shopping trip for me. The gluten free vanilla, and baking powder were eyeopeners. And honestly who doesn’t like more bacon, I mean chocolate. Let’s face it they both really score pretty same same on the life happiness enrichment meter.
You know what? Don’t even fool with the gf vanilla or baking powder and soda. I don’t think it makes much difference. I happen to buy Bob’s Red Mill aluminum-free baking soda (because I use it as an antacid on occasion when me tummy acts up), and I used Clabber Girl powder. Calumet is also fine.
The only definitive things here, for me, are the Swerve (or Truvia), Sugar-free brown sugar, sugar free chocolate chips, and the gf flour.
While I mostly ignore all of this gluten free crap, I kinda paid attention to the part where BAKING SODA HAS ALUMINUM? I don’t use it much at all but do sometimes splash some baking soda as a talc free powder. I do not use deodorant that is not aluminum free. Now Baking soda has aluminum? Le sigh.
Yeah, I’ve heard that store brand baking soda contains aluminum. I have not checked. To be absolutely sure I buy the stuff that says “aluminum free”.
I got a box of Jean Nate body poof, and then I heard that there might be aluminum in it. Now I’m scared to use it. I’ll have to check the ingredients for myself. Their after bath splash is incredible though. Is talc bad for you? Now you’ve got me worried about it.
I use fluoride free toothpaste too. Dr. Bronner’s brand, specifically. I also want to try the mouth wash that has baking soda in it. Tom’s, I think. I need to get to Sprouts soon. Am I paranoid? Yes. Do I care? No. Haha!
Baking soda DOES NOT CONTAIN ALUMINUM.
Minky is punished by this link because I think this is exactly what happened.
http://crunchybetty.com/the-great-baking-soda-anti-hoax
Also This GLUTEN FREE shit is actually harmful to society. I’m not kidding. Unless you have celiac’s disease, there is ZERO point in you avoiding gluten,
So many of us are wiping out sterile kids who have never been exposed to anything that the human race will be wiped out soon.
It’s all fucking ridiculous. Eat actual food. Food does not have more than five ingredienceies;slesssees.
If your great grandparents never ate it, it’s probably GMO shit you should not be eating.
Don’t rub aluminum on your underarms or use it to cook.
Or do whatever. I’m the end of my family tree. Thank god.
TT,
I just read the link you attached. It says that baking POWDER does sometimes contain aluminum. Just went to my cupboard & checked label of ingredienceseses of ClabberGirl brand baking powder… there it was. “Sodium Aluminum Sulfate”!
I can now attribute all of my fucked up misinterepreted comments to early-onset. (In addition to lymenomause)
PS Minky, IDGAF so I’m still gonna make those cookies. Sound delish! Thanks for posting recipe!
Thank you TT. I understand what you mean. It can be viewed as a fad, or used as a way of being haughty, or to mask an eating disorder. At the same time we live in a world where we’re made to feel afraid of every damn thing. Everything causes cancer! Or diabetes! Or heart disease! Or some other awful illness!
I eat GF so my skin won’t act up again and so my stomach won’t bloat. It’s the only thing that has successfully relieved the itching and the blemishes and the gastric disturbances. It would get so bad that I would start crying. I was at the end of my rope and this worked by accident because I was doing low carb and then noticed my skin and stomach were getting better. It works for me, so I’m sticking with it.
Our grandparents wheat is probably not the same as ours. Especially if they lived in the country and grew and milled their own grains. Same goes for dairy, meat, fish, veg, etc.
Glad you are feeling better on a gluten Free diet, Minky. I think most of our wheat is kinda the old wheat but ALMOST NONE of our corn is.
Good luck with the appointment, Minks & try not to worry!!! Think happy thoughts, like those of your cookies 🙂
I hope everything goes well with your doctor’s appointment, Minky. I also made cookies this weekend, but they were all full of gluten ?
Gimme some cookies!!! And good luck with the job, Minky!
Thanks you guys. I’m hopeful about the job and about the Dr. appt. I think I have a touch of the hypochondria. And I’ve been periodically feeling like doo-doo lately and EXTREMELY anxious. I never feel quite like I’m on solid ground.
My approach so far has been to suck it up and just try to power through my day so I can tick all the stuff off of my to-do list, no matter how scared or frazzled I may feel. But I can’t seem to figure out how to feel at ease anymore. Maybe I have chronic anxiety and I just refuse to admit it to myself? Can internists prescribe Xanax, or do I have to go to a shrink?
When my dentist told me I have TMJ, and told me that it comes from extreme stress, I poo-pooed it. Than he started poking at my shoulder and neck muscles and made me do it too. He says: “Do you feel that?” I said: “No, feel what?” He says: “Your muscles here. They’re as hard as a rock! You’ve got stress lady!”
His suggestion: Take up drinking. And weed smoking. Haha! He’s totes adorbs.
You are my spirit twin. I often get in a horrible funk because of some moody, sad dreams. Sometimes I just can’t shake the feelings for a full day.
Really happy to hear you found a good surgeon. You have to be relieved that is one less worry on the list. Sending you good juju.
Are the bad dreams and not sleeping well part of perimenopause or menopause? I’m asking because I have some crazy dreams that are so real sometimes I wake up angry at my husband. He just looks at me like I’m bat shit crazy. In August, we celebrated 25 years together so he’s used to me. Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated!
Coco, I have always had vivid dreams. I still remember one from the time I live in Libya. I don’t think I had ever seen snow much at the time. I dreamt about snow in Libya and something about being mad that someone messed up the snow in the yard by walking on it.
Lots of things effect dreams and can cause vivid dreams, medications, hormones, stress, and even what you eat for dinner. 🙂 But I have found that mine are often sadder due to perimenopause. I do think I am now IN menopause, but it’s too early to call. That’s why I need to retest my hormones. Then Again I am not going to take any sort of HRT, so it would just be to confirm what is going on.
Thanks, TT! I keep hoping it’s menopause, but every month Aunt Flo visits and reminds me it’s still peri-menopause. UUGGHH!! Damn birth control pills I took for PCOS all those years. It will never be over.
Thanks Matisse. Sorry you have the same issues sometimes. Hopefully it helps to know you aren’t the only one!
My husband/baby daddy/ex-;husband/baby daddy/husband/ex-husband AND35year partner (all same man), love of my life, told me, that “No, I don’t think those are normal dreams”, when I run down to tell him before I forget. Guess good old menopause is a world in itself. I thought my dreams were a bit way weird. Sometimes though, I love the world I live in there.
(Families always forced the marriages)
I like Anthony & his show though they do need to change it up smidge. Doing the multiples helped. Distant relatives were once on a while back here in Atl area. Don’t know if their business improved but it should have especially given location after investment. I would like to see more revisiting on each one rather than only a few.
Hope you get the health care you need. I’ve been hacking & sneezing for a week with our crazy temps & no rain to wash things down.
I did not like the three motels in one episode. Leave my old format alone. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. He has a new show now which is basically ads for five start hotels. I thought I would hate it but I loved it. It’s very behind the scenes and he give one employee a $5K tip at the end making it kind of UnderCoverBosslike.
I really enjoy Hotel Impossible and I like the new show too. I like seeing those five star resorts and imagining what it would be like if I could afford to vacation in one of them! I did notice that the one Anthony stayed in in Mexico The One and Only had in his preferance sheet that she likes peanut butter and jelly . For that alone I love anothony
Does Banjo get concerned when you feel out of sorts? My little dog stays close by when I am sad or feel bad. I have a lovely story to share with you that I hope you like. When mankind was banished from the Garden of Eden ,God created a growing chasm between man and the animals. At the last moment the dog jumped the chasm and stood by man.
Stay strong and be brave, you can do this . If you get overwhelmed remember you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.
I watched Earth vs flying saucers today. It brought back memories of the innocence of my childhood. I did have a wonderful childhood and I know how lucky I am to be able to say that.
My last dog, without fail, would push himself on me whenever I was in a funk. Just walk over, plop himself all over me, push his head into my face, under my arms, just all manner of lovably annoying.
Today I finally got the courage to leave. Not sure where I am going to go, but I know I can’t stay here.. I am old, so leaving is a big deal. I’m afraid that someone I know will find out and judge me for the decision. But it has been 23 years in the making and I just can’t wake up unhappy anymore.
Mariane, good for you for being so brave! I pray things work out for the better for you.
Congrats, Mariane. You should be very proud of yourself. Go forth and find your happiness!
Mariane, I’m so sorry you’re going thru this. Try not to worry what others might say, they have not walked in your shoes. You have to do what’s right for you. It’s sound like you’ve taken your first step. Give yourself credit for the courage it took to make that decision!
Good for you!!!
Do what is best for you. It doesn’t matter what others feel or their idea of what your life is. It is what you feel & how you want your life to be. There will always be negative people & there will be positive ones who will help you if you ask. Don’t be afraid to ask for help!!
My thoughts & prayers are with you, Marianne! Continue to be fearless & don’t be too concerned with what others say/think. For here, you will find clarity. This is your time, so do your best & leave the rest (per my grandfather)!!!
Well, after a loooooooonnnnnnnnnnngggggggg time of being unemployed I finished my first week of employment with a new pretty fantastic company yesterday. I was going to post about it last week but someone else posted they were also starting a new job last Monday, and I didn’t want to take away from her post.
It was a week of training out of town. It was a lot of hours drive there, and about an hour and half more drive back last night thanks to a 30 mile traffic jam on entering the metro area, but hey I ain’t complaining I’m just glad I got the job, and right in the nick of time since financially I was down to, well, let’s just say I was approaching homeless territory pretty quickly. I mean I would have had a place to stay, but it wouldn’t have been mine, and I would have had to get rid of most of my personal things.
So I took the job thinking I could take this one, or wait for the higher paying one (like thousands more) with a contingent offer. Given the financial situation I took this one, and the thing is it was supposed to be working out of a central location about a fifteen minute drive away three days a week, and two days at an offsite location about a fifty minute drive away, but it ended up becoming a work from home job midway through the week, because I think they had good feelers about me.
I dreaded the higher priced offer because I know I wouldn’t have liked the work. I would have loved the pay but hated/loathed the work. In this case I really like the work, the people are just an easy fit compared to so many other jobs I’ve had, and come on man, It’s work from home so that’s well over a grand in gas and car maintenance savings, they do a decent 401k match, and they pay for medical and dental insurance, PLUS WORK FROM HOME Y’ALL!!!!
Seriously though, I didn’t realize how much pressure I was feeling until half way through this week.
That’s FANTASTIC news Wonky! YAY!
Thanks TT. You just don’t know how much your work was a stress reliever over the last couple of years.
Check with your car insurance. Since you work from home your car is just pleasure use now. Depending on the state you live in it could lower the cost there.
Woooohoooo! I like the way you think SaraK!
What great news! So happy for you, Wonky!
Go Wonky!!! I’m so happy for you. It is such a good feeling to finally be working after a long time not working. Trust me, I know about being unemployed.
Before I started up in my current job(s), I watched a lot of Judge Judy in the afternoon. When you’re at home, rueing the wrong turns you’ve made in life, and Judge Judy is scolding some idiot on the show, you feel like she’s yelling directly at YOU!!! In short, you feel like a window licker. Aaaaargh!!!
Knock ’em dead baby! You got this shit!!!
Thanks Cat! Thanks Minky!
They just installed a new oven in my apartment while I was off training so I’m thinking a certain cookie recipe might come in handy for the first bake. Just sayin Minky.
Honey, I’m working on it. Give me a minute. I found it online and I looked at my phone the whole time I was mixing, so I’m trying to relocate the recipe.
That’s great news! Congrats on the job!
Thanks Whyowhy.
So happy for you, Wonky Tonk!!!
Thanks Miguel.
Congrats on the new job! I’m glad you like it..that’s better than higher pay IMO! 🙂
Thanks JustJenn.
Wonky, sincere CONGRATS!!! You have given me some much needed hope! Xo
I.Just.Can’t thanks! I hope it works out for you and quickly!
Yay Wonky!!!! So happy for you!
Thanks Dandy Lion!
I am so glad that you are enjoying Anthony Melchiori! He is so dapper, but so NY, I love him! As to your sleep issues, try new laundry detergent on your sheets and open your windows as much as you can. Change those sheets, think about having wonderful comfort to sink into and plan your dreams. I mean, really PLAN them. Read about where you’d like to be, with lots of pictures. No emotional connections/love etc, that snarls things up. Just places you want to be that are peaceful. For me, that’s the windy beaches of Aruba.
I hope happy comes to kiss your forehead and rock your softly-lined hammock.
I had lows too after the affair.. they put me on something to keep me level, you know, so I don’t murder the ex. I think it’s working. I never had this problem in my life but the shrink says it’s normal in times of stress and in MENOPAUSE! That may be the cause for your lows TT, falling estrogen levels. There was something I wanted to gossip about in Open Forum and Fudge if i didn’t forget ! It should come to me.
Voted today. Met a couple of first time voters. Early voting has been busy. We have a leak and the plumber will be here on Monday. The Whole foods opened last week. It was packed. I noticed it does not carry super gigantic sizes of anything. Some stuff is really expensive, but the produce is competitive. I’ll buy my produce there. I could go broke in the cheese section and the deli. It is packed at lunch with high school students. Kids were pulling out 20s to buy lunch. Lucky kids.
I am looking at baby clothes patterns. When the DIL hits the 2nd trimester, I’ll start sewing. Would be great to sew for a little girl, but I sewed for my boy.
Yeah whole foods ain’t cheap. I don’t think I’ve ever seen them in anything but areas frequented by the upwardly mobile. There’s quality there, but it comes at a steep price, but then again if you consider your body is what you put in it spending the cash becomes a lot easier.
Yep, all that goodness don’t come cheap. Try $9 for a itty bitty bag of Paleo-nola. Whole Foods is totally for rich folks. I try to temper my WF spending by going to the mercado. The butcher section in “da hood” is dirt cheap. No organic, grass fed anything. But you can get enough pork chops or carne asada to feed the whole block for about 79 cents a pound. Beat that!
Why feed the whole block pesticidey pork when you can buy one nice Berkshire pork chop?
I can’t pass up a good deal. God help me!
I was raised by stingy, penny-pinching, Eastern European immigrants. It’s in my blood. There are some things you just don’t skimp on, like good shrimp or a good steak. But for stuff like pork and chicken, I tend to turn a blind eye. Though, I’m starting to do the organic chicken too.
Do you have Sprouts nearby? It’s exactly like Whole Foods, not quite as foo foo design but mostly same organic etc. it’s a fraction of even the average store.
redscorpiio there’s a local supermarket uptown that vibes like Whole Foods and carries a lot of organic stuff, and it’s generally less expensive, but still pretty expensive. The one thing I love about that place is they put out a seaweed salad with raw salmon cubes in it that is absolutely fantastic. At first I thought it was chunks of fruit until I bit into it and fell in love. When I go there I’m going there for that salad alone anything else I pickup is a bonus.
We do have a Sprouts in my neck of the woods Red. It’s nice, but not nearly as comprehensive as WF. When I go to WF I feel like it’s a trip to the museum. So many things to look at. And all so expensive. And I love the smell in there.
There’s also Trader Joe’s. Everybody loves it there too. I recommend their Thai chili lime cashews. So good!
I buy some meat at the commissary, and also go to the local Mercado for things like dried chiles and fresh corn tortillas. They also sell ready made Carnitas and Carne Guisada. We have a Sprouts, but It is poorly designed. It originally was a Sun Harvest with great produce and bulk section. Sprouts took it over and took away the majority of the bulk stuff except for the candy. Their produce is about the same as Albertsons organic and the same price. The store feels over crowded like an upscale Walmart.I do miss Trader Joe’s When we would go to Tucson on a regular basis to see my Tia, we would hit the Trader Joe’s and stock up.
We got Sprouts here recently, I don’t live close to it but went anyway once. I was not impressed. I just didn’t seem to be able to find things. It would take me a while to get used to the layout if it were closer. It doesn’t seem to be much less expensive than Whole Foods. Although I should write a book on how to eat cheaply from Whole Foods. I love Trader Joes. It’s a fair piece away as well, but it used to be on the way home from my fancy Buckhead shrink.
In other news, I didn’t make it to Whole Foods or the bank today. Got busy blogging.
Whole Foods is great and terrible. I feel like I need to take out a loan, sell one of my organs, or bring the exact amount of cash so that I don’t go over my budget. The house brand and buying items by the case (10% discount) helps. The prepared foods section will wreck your budget.
I actually find I spend less per month when I shop at Whole Foods. I think it is because at Publix or Kroger there is always a bunch of stuff on sale BOGO and so I think I am being smart buying sale items. But I would not have bought the items if they were not on sale. In Whole Foods, things are not really that much more than anywhere else when it comes to basics. They just have a lot more expensive cheeses and the meats are more expensive because they are not shot up with all kinds of chemicals. There are not HFCS co colas in Giant bottle or 12 packs. Just good food that makes me feel better. So I choose wisely and only buy things I have an immediate use for. I do much better when I shop there but it is a bit farther away than I wish it was. And when I started just going once a month, I found I bought more things. It’s best for me to pick two days a month to go and then perhaps a 3rd or 4th trip just to refresh produce.
It’s been YEARS since I’ve been in there when they had whole salmon. You can get a small one for around $40 bucks that they will fillet for you and there will be around 12 fillets to freeze. A GOOD QUALITY fillet for about three bucks, fifty cents for some rice and a green salad of whatever you have handy makes a great meal and it’s cheaper than fast food.
You know what, I hadn’t considered that about whole foods. I like salmon, but would never have thought to buy a whole fish. I buy for myself so I tend to think in terms of one meal, maybe two, and I shop frequently like maybe five times a week.
Don’t get me started on fast food prices. I mean when the hell did fast food start pricing its lunches at dine-in prices? I live in a huge food city, and fast food makes no sense given the price, and what you can get for that same price in a lot of restaurants during lunch.
Well, I have to admit that I had a guy picking up the bill (this was a long time ago) and the whole fish were on sale and I had picked up prepacked fillets.He suggested getting the whole fish. I about fell over at the price.
I.Felt.Like.A.Queen. eating my healthy salmon dinners.And the were lots of filets.. may 8 instead of 12 i don’t remember you tell them what size you want the filet and they butcher accordingly. Anyway,at that time I was eating a lot of salmon fillets that were “cheap” and probably farmed in gross conditions and fed bad stuff. When I looked at how much I was paying per fillet v. the whole ones, I realized that it really was not that much more. It was way better fish, healthier for me nutritionally and emotionally, living in the ghetto makes you really feel like crap after a while. So having that expensive fish was a better mental boost than any therapy session.
That said, you’ll crap your pants paying that much up front but you freeze it and it lasts for a month or so depending how many times you eat fish a week.
I am kind of sucked in to the Whole Foods thing. It’s more of an “event” for me than grocery shopping. I honestly think not going for the last six or seven weeks has been what caused this current ride on the crazy train. The thing is, once you are on the crazy train, it’s like, man, fuck Whole Foods I haven’t even had the energy to clean the kitchen let alone go buy all the crap and cut up veggies for salads and cook crap. Must get back in WF mindset…:)
Oooh! If you like salmon, and you go to Costco, try their Wild Alaskan salmon burger patties. So good!!! And you can dress it just the same way you do any burger (lettuce, tomato, onion, pickles, cheese, dressing, etc.), and use whatever kind of bread you like. They’re divine! And they also have some crazy good organic, grass fed hamburger patties. About $18 for 10. Perfectly seasoned, precooked, and delicious!
And I so feel you about the real sugar Cokes. When I used to drink soda I LOVED those. Again, everything is cheaper at the mercado. Those good Cokes are “hecho en Mexico” anyway. I think they’re about $1 per bottle down here.
See now y’all brought taste into this thing, and is it me or has the mass produced produce, which I’m pretty sure is GMO garbage, just taken over everything? I haven’t had a decent tomato, or orange in years. Last year when TT sponsored the Tomato grow-off I damn near went looking for heirloom seeds, but then I realized I’m way too lazy for that, plus I don’t have a green thumb so they would end up dead, and I would end up with a BL instead of a BLT.
When I was a kid just about every orange coming out of Florida was fantastic, now they all taste like shit, and half the time the fruit is hard too boot. And the tomatoes at most grocery stores are the same GMO varieties that have absolutely no flavor worthy of speaking of, and have the added misfortune of being mushy as all hell.
Our food sucks. I wish we would ban GMOs here.
Tell me about it. Nothing tastes like itself anymore. They’ve engineered all of the flavor out of everything; beef, pork, chicken, all the vegetables, fruits, dairy/eggs, etc. The food is no longer food. Just stomach filling material.
The tomatoes taste like styrofoam. Oranges taste like wet paper. It’s ridiculous. And you’re right about the rock hard fruit. Just try to find a decent peach, plum or nectarine at any grocery store, including WF! It’s impossible. Peaches used to smell and taste divine! Now…blech!
And don’t get me started about the bread. I think a lot of people have celiac and gluten allergies because the powers that be are fucking with the wheat. When I’d go to Europe my skin inflammation/infection would clear right up and my energy would come back.
And I ate all of their marvelous bread and cakes and pastries. After I’d come back home to SoCal, and start eating our bread, my skin would flare back up with a vengeance. Nobody can convince me that our wheat here isn’t fucked. I wonder if they’re doing GMO in Europe now. I haven’t been overseas in a long time.
After I went low carb my skin healed again. When I say this to a doctor I’m met with a blank stare. Fucking pill pushers.
In my neighborhood, the Whole Foods is a block down from the Market District Giant Eagle , and GE prices have actually risen higher than WF! Then right across from those is the Aldi’s which is the cheapest of the cheap – bring your own bags. I don’t know what you ladies have down south. I know in Ft. Worth, my MIL and all of them shop at .. an Emerson’s or Alderson’s or something like that. I always hear you ladies talk about Sea’s candy and other things I’ve never heard of before so I’m glad I can relate to a Whole Foods conversation.
Yay!! I’m so excited!
I’m counting down the days until the Stevie Nicks 24K Gold tour, with Chrissie Hynde &
The Pretenders opening for her. It’s getting very good reviews. Last time I saw her (solo) was in 2012 at a very intimate theater. This time it will be in a huge arena. I’ll take whatever I can get!
I got really pissed earlier this week when I took my child to a children’s Halloween event and there were two asshole adults dressed up as Trump and then Hillary in a prison jumpsuit. It was a freaking event for kids. They were literally strutting around the cotton candy booth and then hanging by the freaking petting zoo taking pictures. While the middle school band is playing a concert in the background. Have people really lost all common deceny? I mean, am I the only one that thinks it is tacky to do that at event that is totally focused to children? Can people enjoy a corny family moment without having to explain to their kids why those buttholes were creating a scene? I wouldn’t care if it was at a bar or even an office party. It just got me so heated because they wanted a reaction from other people, and it was in a space where 400 children were present.
Wow. Well, here’s something to chew on: Pay attention to the costumes people choose on Halloween. That’s who they really want to be, or who they really are, deep down inside. So these two assholes just told on themselves. Now you know to stay away from them the rest of the year. Haha!
This is really funny that u say this to me because I just dressed my dogs up as Nemo and Flounder and I went as Ariel to a party it was so much fun . I cannot swim and always dream of being able to !
That is tooooo cute!!! It must make for great pictures.
Don’t feel bad about not being the aquatic type. I only learned how to swim in my late 20s. I’ll never be an Esther Williams, but I feel much more confident getting into water now. It’s NEVER TOO LATE!!!
It also helps if a gorgeous man is teaching and encouraging you. Just saying. ?
I really enjoy reading all of the daily tea comments. Thanks, TT for providing the forum & thanks to all commenters on these threads.
That is all. ?
I.Just.Can’t., was gonna say the same thing, I think we both had a rough week, and needed a bit of a break. Just my thoughts 🙂
WORD! Lol! ?
You might need a little D to fix your problems girl! I know whenever Im down , it’s the D missing lol
Today is my Friday (it’s Sunday for the rest of y’all) and I’m so tired and glad the week is OVAH!
Season has started here in South Florida and the Fort Lauderdale International Boat Show is this weekend so all of the Below Deck crews are in town and have been in the hubs restaurant. No scoop, just acting like regular people.
I’m ready for date night with my hubs. I haven’t seen him since yesterday evening because he was asleep when I got home from my part time hostessing job.
I LOVE this time of year when it gets darker earlier! My favorite pool time when the humidity is low, the pool water is chilly, and the sun is hot on your skin!
Cheers all!
You’re making me super jealous with your pool talk! I’m already sick of the cool weather and we’re only a little more than a month into fall. Have fun with your hubs!
Thank you! I’m so tired that for lunch today I had leftover chocolate chip cookies and pigs in blankets that are left over from the office drop in.
I have got to get to Whole foods or whole paycheck as a friend of mine calls it. On a unrelated note I had a stomach bug for almost two weeks and lost 8 pds. I read that cranberry juice inhibits stomach bacteria. Long story short, drank some and no joke, my bug cleared up. I keep it on hand now and use it for any stomach upset. Thanks for telling us about that hotel show TT, bravo is rotting my brain. I am so glad you found a surgeon you like.
Nice to read to good news comments; vibes to the folks struggling. I wish I could blast the Trump/Clinton costume idiots into the sun. And good luck, Marianne. Be strong.
My vent? My Humana premium nearly doubled for 2017. I live in a state that didn’t expand Medicare. I don’t understand why providing low cost healthcare for the lowest earners trumps (no pun intended) providing affordable healthcare to everybody. What the fuck is my family supposed to do now? Every reputable insurance company has dropped out of the exchange in this state. Not that it matters if you don’t qualify for subsidies, of course, because doesn’t that just solve everything?
All that’s left that’s even remotely “affordable” is a crappy company that provides what I assume passes for healthcare at sliding scale clinics. Isn’t this what people that needed low cost healthcare used to do anyway? But I have to do it with a $14,000 deductible? Here’s a tip, everybody: don’t be self-employed and make “too much money” to qualify for subsidies. If you do these things, you are fucked.
I’ve gotten yelled at by people for saying this stuff before. I am super happy this system works for a very small percentage of the population. But we’re fucked for making not much more than $50K a year? How is this possible? Who is going to fix it? I’ll be going without insurance next year. I refuse to pay over a thousand dollars a month for what amounts to catastrophic coverage only. I lose my doctors, that I’ve had for over 20 years, when I lose my current policy anyway. Wish me luck. Or spit in my face about how great it is for you and the other 2% of the population it’s helping. Whatever.
Sam, I really don’t have the emotional strength to get beat up in comments today. So, I will just say that you are not alone in your frustration nor situation. xo
Sam, I am terrified to find out what our premiums will look like next year. If ours double, then I guess we will be going without insurance and paying out of pocket and hoping no one gets cancer or needs surgery. You’re not alone.
I just realized that Humana is back in GA after initially pulling out entirely. But they were granted a rate increase of 67.5% on premiums in order to agree to coverage in 2017. I hated Kaiser and they don’t know how to process payments. So that leave BCBS but there is a kind of that called Pathway that no hospitals will take.
I am going to try to talk to a broker and see what if any kind of insurance I can get in 2017 or else roll the dice on one more year without and pay the 2,000 dollar fine or whatever.
I’m on disability, and just got my medicare part B. $122 a month. $50 to just SEE a specialist (I have 3 that I am still supposed to see every 3 months.)
If they do any tests, that will be $250 per test. Yes, some tests (mammograms) are covered. Most are not.
Between this insurance, that I have to have, but can’t afford to use, the car insurance ($80 a month for a car that I drive less than 10 miles a MONTH), I only have $20 a week for groceries.
To top it off, my rent will probably go up again this year.
This is why people my age eat cat food and shoplift cans of tuna.
Cat, my husband has to shell out $1750 to see his cardiologist at his office annually if it makes you feel any better. He doesn’t accept insurance unless he is in the hospital.
Cat, I am on SSD and I had to respond to your post because some states will pay the Medicare Part B premium. It is figured strictly by income, so if you haven’t already applied to see if you qualify, then please do. Also,see if there are any Section 8 housing voucher openings where you live. You can apply online if there are any. The waiting list can be very, very long, but at least you will be on one and sometimes you can even stay where you are currently living if it is pre-qualified for Section 8.
We are not at the point of sharing the Fancy Feast with our cat family or shoplifting tuna because then we would have to share that with them :), but the pitiful COL that social security recipients will be getting in 2017 will necessitate us cutting back on something else to try and make ends meet. I don’t know what program is used to figure the cost of living, but it’s a joke in the real world where we live.
Best of luck to you and please check out those options and see what others might be available to you in your area.
These stories are horrifying! Healthcare should be a right, not a privilege for the wealthy few, in my opinion. Any way your policy makers would consider single payer? Yes, wait lists are longer because everyone has equal access, but almost everything is covered.
Yeah, I need to see my Cardiologist, too. I don’t see anything either in the Medicare book or the info from my advantage plan that covers pacemakers.
Maybe they just expect the battery to eventually run out?
Anyway, yes, I do need to check to see if I qualify for financial help. I hope I don’t have to move. I live in a very nice apartment, and really like it here. It’s my one luxury expense. I can’t afford to move, and wouldn’t physically be able to handle it.
Cat, so sorry, I feel your pain and see we are heading that way as well. Food or prescriptions?
Sam, I’m sorry for the cost. I agree, for most people it’s catastrophic ins. So much for it being affordable.
Since this is an open forum, does anyone here have any tips on a DIY hysterectomy?
Omgosh!!! What??????
Kidding! Can’t afford one, think it would solve a lot of my probs.
I actually googled and it came up (hee hee) Guess I am, know I am VERY on edge today!! Xo
OMG! I just googled it after your comment! Sadly, I guess I’m not the only one with this problem but the answers were awful! And a youtube video! I am laughing & crying at the same time! Just.Nevermind. ?
Extremely bad joke!
Oh dear, I didn’t want you to cry. Ya gotta admit it’s kinda funny, crying may help, hope so. Xo
The laughing/crying thing is not a new thing for me, nor is bleeding like a stuck pig, and the crazy. Thus, my predicament. But, no worries about me please. I am more LMAO at the absurdity of what I googled. I actually feel better that I’m not THAT desperate! Feel bad that my type of humor was insensitive. Jeez, can you imagine? To think there are women who probably actually tried it. My humor gets me in trouble often so apologies to you & anyone else offended. But, my humor is one thing that keeps me going through some really rough times-coping mechanism, if you will.
Again, it was an extremely bad joke!
But, hey, learned something new today, so there is that. ?
*the answer that included “kills the ovaries in 3-5 business days” was the one that made me LMAO ?
I thought it was great you weren’t offended I googled it and told you. Afraid my sense of humor was not quite understood. Make you a deal, stop apologizing for how your doing, and I will keep reminding you 🙂 Xo
Deal! Lol! ?
Ado it yourself hysterectomy?
I went through years of wishing one of these was possible. It gets better. Eventually. Or just overtaken by more old people problems.
Thanks, TT.
Glad to hear you found a surgeon. Here’s hoping you can get it done before end of year when deductible will start over. ?? xoxo
Oh I don’t have insurance. Despite what you see on the TV many of us in red states can’t afford insurance.
Me either & also in red state. Thus my considering the DIY hysterectomy for a brief moment! Don’t even get me started on that topic!!!
Siggy Flicker had one. Omg, She is nuts, maybe not the best solution on hysterectomy. Yikes.
She had a DIY hysterectomy or a regular one???!!!
Pease disregard ^^above stupid question. She obviously has enough money to have a regular one. Although, she is nuts! Lol
Decision.
Wow, just saw a commercial for a new medicine at Wal-Mart for menopause. We are supposed to be swinging in circles on the beach with our man! Skinny, and well dressed, hair done. Who knew? 🙂
Oh, and laughing!
LOL I just can’t , maybe it was DIY which contributed to her nuttiness.
Now if she can get that lobotomy she so dearly needs!
What is “sanity water”? I don’t live by a Whole Foods, but I have had some unresolved medical issues for the last several months. This has brought on secondary anxiety and I feel like I’m going insane. I want help and to be better. Trying any holistic thing possible at this point. Sorry for the rambling.
Only “sanity water” I know of is the tap water I use to wash down my antidepressant & xanax. If there indeed is an actual “sanity water” on the market, please share with the group where to purchase!
I things water with electrolytes…at least I got a couple instead of regular bottle water cause I think that’s what TT said. Good one with the tap water and meds 🙂
Smart Water is my go-to brand that’s supposed to have elctrolytes. There’s also Penta, which I don’t believe has electrolytes, but is ultra pure and has no fluoride. It tastes amazing.
Also, if electrolytes are your goal, you can drink chicken broth or make some lemonade and sprinkle some lite salt or pink Himalayan salt into it. Coconut water is another option, and its supposed to be so good for you.
I have an RX for Xanax – the lowest dose. But I have yet to take any. I have chronic sinusitis, bad headaches, racing heart and numbness in face and leg. Thyroid and hormone labs this week. I’m only 42 but I guess it’s possible that it’s early menopause. I just don’t want to be going insane and I’m feeling so caught up in myself and problems. I cannot stand it, which explains my desperation in airing all this to you strangers. And I just can’t look on medical boards or the anxiety gets worse. Sorry guys.
Shellie,
Sorry for my flippant comment above. I have terrible anxiety & have experienced panic attacks. First ones where very frightening and almost paralyzing with fear. I am not a doctor, but agree that what you’re describing sounds like panic attacks. If you have an Rx for xanax, my advice is to take it as that is what it prescribed for. It is important to take as directed and avoid grapefruit juice while it is in your system. Staying hydrated is important as well as calming breathing techniques. Hope you are feeling better soon. (Hugs)
Shellie, it is actually Whole Foods 365 brand Smartwater, It’s just water with electrolytes. I try to drink two 1,5 liter bottles a day when I am eating and drinking properly. It’s cheaper than the name brand SmartWater. This usually causes a wave of suggestions and comments about electrolytes. Staying hydrated with this water is extremely beneficial to me. Your mileage may vary.
Take the Xanax. It will stop the racing heart and your body from being all nervous.
Hi Shellie. I had the exact same things happen to me around this exact time last year. I went to the ER the first time (I thought it was a stroke) and the doctor on duty told me that “I must have inhaled a chemical while cleaning or something.” She did an EKG and drug test and sent me on my way with that answer. About a week later it happened again while I was at work and super stressed. I had to leave immediately and went to our other hospital’s walk in clinic freaking out that I wouldn’t breathe. This doctor comes in and tells me I am having a panic attack and he will give me something for it. At that point I was in tears because I was so afraid I was dying and no one would help me. Sure enough he gave me 2mg of Ativan and about 15 minutes later I felt back to normal. It sounds like you are experiencing bad anxiety and taking a Xanax will really help you to calm down and feel better. It’s a scary experience and probably not helped by the fact that you are waiting on lab results, but really try the med. After you know if it helps you or not it will help to relieve some of your anxiety. I hope you feel better!
i am just home from my second-to-last outdoor farmers market for the season. it was frigging freezing and raining all day but now i have pulled into my farm and i am still cozy in my van getting caught up with tt. i love to hear everyone’s news and perspective but never have much time to participate.
reading about gmo …. big ag and testorone control everything! small scale farming is fine and you can bump along financially but you do so in relative isolation and can only scale up if you do so by yourself. the second you seek information/help/direction from your farming organization, you are fucked because big ag is a completely different world and they will not engage with you.
the whole supply chain is infected … research, schools, seeds, equipment software, copyrights … they have their dirty, greedy fingers in everything.
i am a middle aged white woman who owns her own farm, developed a large and loyal customer base as well as being courted by commercial interests to help develop their products for them. i am overwhelmed and there is no support whatsoever! i am literally a freak!
it’s so sad and so scary. less than 1.9 percent of the population farms in canada …. that would put me at like .00000000000001 percent!! it is really great to hear how many of you seek out foods from a known source. don’t.ever.stop!!!! #knowthyfarmer
in other news …. final season of mob wives is finalliy airing here. god i love me some big ang … rip ?
Congratulations on your success, Adele. Sorry to hear about lacknof support. Sounds like you need take the lead for others in the same boat. You can do it!
thanks so much katherine!! #girlpower
This site helped me through some rough times, so hope you folks who are suffering or going through some major changes will navigate with grace and confidence. I am rooting for you all.
For a good, insightful and lyrical read about the vagaries of depression from a creative mind, I recommend Journals of Solitude by poet May Sarton. Am reading it now, savoring in small bites. ❤️
Happy Halloween, everyone!
Happy Halloween! Anyone with a black cat be sure they stay indoors tonight and tomorrow night (every night would be a good thing) because nut cases/total idiots seem to think torturing and killing them is fun and Halloween gives them more of a purpose to do it 🙁
Happy Halloween, Cat!
Happy Halloween Cat!!! Hope it’s a good one. I’m gonna try to enjoy the spookiness of it all.
You need to be extra careful, Cat.
For some reason I couldn’t comment on the post about Theresa’s comments about Trump and sexual abuse victims.
Clearly Theresa is as dumb as a sock. Nothing she says is based on intellect or empathy. She lacks both, so her comments don’t offend me personally. They are offensive comments but the source makes me give no credence to any thoughts she has… if that makes sense.
But the part I wanted to address is how sad it makes me TT that you said you would regret speaking up. I may have interpreted it wrong, but many women are embarrassed or shamed to admit this happened to them. That saddens, and infuriates me even. Not at all at the women, but at a male-centered , powercentric society we live that shames the victim. It is the abuser that should feel embarassed or ashamed TT and others, not any victim. I hope that post makes you feel good to look back and read knowing you shared. It helps you to take back the power and destigmatize an assault.
Thanks. I have spoken about it here before and there is always that dread the next day feeling.
And I closed comments because it was becoming a wasteland of political talking points from both sides and that was not the point of the post.
You’re welcome. You are brave for sharing and I hope stronger for it.
That’s a shame that the comments turned into that. Your post was clearly not political, but about something so much deeper. On a silver lining note, it’s nice to see people care about politics.. right? That is right, yes? ?
Hope your spirits are up today.
Happy Halloween everyone!
Tamara, I just want to thank you fgor the phrase ” cunt satchel “. I find my self using it aloialoit when I’m watching TV.
*for. *a lot damn tablet is possessed.?
I can’t, I just can’t. With my husband very ill and in the hospital my beloved brother-in-law passed away. Mike, a dear friend is responding well to chemo but is very ill. My BIL’s funeral is tomorrow and I can’t go. It’s 200 miles away and I simply don’t have the money for gas and/or a hotel. Medical bills are coming in daily and it’s killing me. We have insurance but I guess nothing covers it all. The hubs and I are still married so these are marital debts. I have no one to reach out to and I probably wouldn’t if I did. I’m screwing up at work because my thoughts are so scattered and the political mail I have to deal with is completely out of hand. I just can’t. I’ve had a blinding headache for days and can’t seem to get any relief. I just can’t.