I get a lot of advice from you guys. ALOT. And it is only fair I suppose because I have a lot of opinions on a lot of things. I’ve been told to check this and that from a gene mutation to the garden variety old lady stuff. I know you all mean well and I am flattered that you care. In addition to my malfunctioning brain, I have some health issues and one in particular that requires surgery I have been putting of for a long time. In the past couple of days it has become more urgent. It’s a minor thing when it is happening to someone else but I’ve never had surgery at all.
Who knows how many years ago,(Because, Lymeopause) I walked off the front porch of a neighbor’s house. I was expecting stairs where there were no stairs. Yes there was drinking involved. A neighbor kid’s friend had offered to walk Banjo. I had just been rescued by him and read all the books on raising a dog and I as feeling bad because the dog whisperer guy said that he needed an hour of exercise beyond running around in the back yard. I was pretty wasted and the adult neighbors at the time may or may not have been out of town. I would tell you more, but I was insured at the time and kept getting letters from my insurance company wanting to blame someone else. So I’ll stop that story here to say that, I kinda broke my face. or at least my nose. And for a bit I thought I was going to get a nose job from my insurance out of it. I realized, sober that I didn’t really want a new nose. Mostly because my nose didn’t change at all. It’s my nose, it looks just the same and even though it would be covered, I didn’t want another nose on my face. It healed just fine. I don’t want to look like someone else. And I don’t want any unnecessary surgery. And I am terrified of general anesthesia.
At any rate, something I have been needing surgery for has become a lot worse in the past couple days. It’s painful. It is no longer something I can push off. I knew it was going down hill when I asked to go to a friend’s cabin a couple of months ago and then decided I could not be that far from medical care.
Let this be a cautionary tale. My friend TOLD ME, don’t put off medical care. I sort of thought I could handle it whenever. I don’t have a primary doctor and his morning I tried to get in with a surgeon who I trust, but have never had any contact with. I’m hoping I can get her and get in next week.
I am a bit stressed and having a bit of pain. I know it is a simple procedure, but I’m just nervous. I’ve never had surgery before and it’s kinda scary.
I’m avoiding telling you what it is because last time I did, I got a lot of dramatic advice that just scared me off of doing anything. At this point, I just hope something happens next week. All it takes is some discomfort to push me to do it I’ve waited until things got worse. Things are worse.
So I just want you to know. The plan I have is to have surgery sometime next week. In the meantime, I’m feeling a bit uncomfortable. I called a surgeon today who was in surgery all day. I really like the surgeon and their office has been very supportive. I am HOPEFUL I can get in. Usually a regular doctor refers you to a surgeon. Since my issue happened during THE GREAT DEBACLE OF KAISER PERMANANTE…it’s just a long story,
Anyway, it’s not a big deal, I just eschew meds let along general anesthesia. PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD don’t start with the advice, the stories, the emails, etc. I’m fine and your horror stories about surgery are not helpful. I do not need stories about bad surgeries you have had or people you know have had and information on the specific surgery you think I may be having. Cut me some slack. I’ve picked someone I believe in.
However, things could go south as the situation has escalated. I am sharing this, because I may go missing for a bit but I promise to keep you updated. I feel like it is hard to tell you guys this without being all dramatic. I AM FINE. I am just being a baby about a surgery. And it might even be out patient (or so I tell myself) but either way, I am fine. I just might post less for a few days. That’s all. PLEASE this is not a good time to swap surgery stories. I know I am going to regret this post.
What I would like instead of advice is telling me how you guys are and letting me know what’s new…. The weather dropped today. I finally got my supplementary air conditioning out of the window.
I love fall!
Surgery is great! Coming out of anesthesia stories are even better. You will do great. Apparently when I come out of the anesthesia I want to make phone calls, and the fools have given me a phone… according to my sister and coworkers. I called and laughed and said something like “I’m high bitches”. Started to cackle and they took the phone. This is what they have told me. Sounds about right to me.
Hahahaha. I have a friend who is an anesthesiologist and the stories about what people say under the influence is hilarious. Women in particular get really raunchy, lol!
I always want to go shopping.
Since nobody will take me to the mall (assuming it’s outpatient), I go home, and before I slip into my 10 hour coma — I buy weird stuff online. It’s always fun to get the mail, or find the UPS package on the porch, and have that WTH moment.
Ha! Having had more than a few surgeries I became an anesthesia nazi. before I would go in there were three things I requested/demanded from whoever was with me. An almost frozen Pepsi, a bottle of apple juice and a large pan pizza from Pizza Hut, none of that personal pan pizza shit. God help the nurse in recovery would tried to get between me and my three things. they insisted on trying to give me ice chips insisting I would throw up the other stuff. WRONG! I’m a pro. One time after I got home and went to sleep I woke up later and saw the empty pizza box and insisted someone ate my pizza, I had no recollection of eating the whole damn thing!
LMAO
NO SURGERY STORIES, she said.
1st comment?? A SURGERY STORY.
Hugs, you’ll be great. I should send you my phone number so I can get a drug call about Lil Kyle. 🙂 Okay, that’s a little scary…
Things are much better here. Joe’s been doing much better since he cut back on his medication. I was able to go to work all last week. Now I have six days off–woot! And CRAZY EX GIRLFRIEND is back on!!!
I love fall too. I need some candy corn right now.
Hi Tamara, no surgery horror stories from me. I’ve avoided it and put off my whole life as well. It is my goal in life to never have surgery so I get how you feel. Just best of everything to you always. So I’m up watching Chaz Dean on Periscope at a Halloween Party. I think he’s great on Flipping Out and I’ve met him a few times and he is the sweetest guy I know. Fall is my favorite season and I live near Salem MA so it’s pretty big around here. Looking forward to Vanderpump Rules returning. I really miss Ray Donovan. Do you watch it?
I love fall, too. Our air conditioner was off for hours today! In Houston that’s major. I’m hoping I can actually open windows this weekend.
Cool weather makes me want to cook. Tomorrow I plan to make Swiss steak for dinner and a strawberry cake for dessert. Well, that’s assuming I get to sleep so I’ll be awake in time for dinner.
Another Houston poster here who is delighted with our beautiful cooler weather. It is so nice to open the windows and let the fresh air in.
I have no advice for you, TT, as I have also never had real surgery (only periodontal, which doesn’t really count). So, I will only wish you well with finding a surgeon that you are happy with and a speedy recovery.
I hear you! I put off my back surgery for as long as I could. Before during and after the last thing I wanted to talk about was my f’n back. I did some yoga tonight, then my dog convinced me that there was either a prowler or a ghost under my bed. We’ve had him about four years and he’s never acted this weird. He stood in the hall growling, fur standing up on his back, slinking away from the bedroom. Only to come back and repeat. He did this for over ten minutes. He’s the sweetest, most cuddly rescue mutt and he really freaked me out! We’re both in bed now and he’s asleep, I’m clutching my pepper spray! I’m wondering if the ghost of my dead cat is messing with him. He was kind of a dick when he was alive. Constantly amusing but, a badass. Maybe it’s just too close to Halloween or maybe I’m just watching too much American Horror. I’m going to try Westworld now, my husband loves it and really wants me to watch. I figure I may as well as I have to stay awake to protect the house from intruders, ghosts, ghost cats, etc. till he gets home from work. I know I sound like a nutbar but, I hope I made you laugh 🙂 Anyway, feel better! I’ll keep my fingers crossed you get in with the surgeon next week.
Lantana still in full bloom, autumn leaves in fall glory
Just a short note to say the best sleep I’ve ever had was with general. Don’t fear it! Think of it as the most relaxing couple of hours you’ll ever have, that you won’t remember but will wake up to all the benefits of such a deep sleep and relaxing experience.
On another note, I’ve started making designs for my Christmas wrapping paper. (Every year I have a theme and hand make stamps that I print on butches paper) I thought perhaps mentioning something so annoying as Christmas prep in October would funnel some of your stress away from the upcoming operation. You’re amazing Tamara! Hope it goes well for you!! Xx
@Kate Gates. I agree, it was so relaxing and best sleep in ages. Tamara, glad you are putting yourself first and suggest start taking Vitamin C beforehand for faster healing. It worked well for me and can hardly see the scar too.
So glad summer is over. In SE Virginia it’s windy and cool. Love having my fireplace on this morning and AC OFF. Wishing you a speedy recovery. Take care.
I’m sorry you’re not feeling well and I wish you a good and speedy recovery!
I’m starting a new job on Monday that I’ve really wanted for a few months now. I’m excited, but equally nervous.
that sounds exciting JustJenn, good luck!
@JustJenn. Congrats. This is what I always told myself before starting a new job: 1) I never had a problem learning past jobs so why will this be any different; and 2) in six months this new job will feel like I’ve been here forever. Good luck and let us know how next week goes.
I’m so stoked for you, YOU made one of your dreams come true ?
It’s normal to be nervous!.
Good luck (not that you’ll need it ?
Good luck JustJenn!!
So happy for you getting the job, JustJenn! You are going to rock it!
Thank you everyone! I’ll let you know how it’s going it the next Daily Tea!
Congratulations on the new job!
Cheers! Glad for you.
Being a good Southern girl, all I want to know is how to take you a casserole.
Didn’t Vicki say that was a Midwestern thing?
@Mamamea, Fellow southerner here…I was thinking the same thing!
Former Leaguer myself. My Aunt threw herself a 40th birthday party when she was 37 so she could Sustain from the League. Back in the day ???
I have a huge collection of JL cookbooks. Augusta is my favorite
@mamamea Do you have a copy of Charleston Receipts? It is by far my favorite JL cookbook. I also collect them!
Now, I’d have surgery once a month if there were casseroles involved. Plus, I’m getting so much attention for such a little thing. My biggest issue right now is with getting something scheduled. I’ve been putting this off for a very long time and that was a mistake.
@TT, As you can tell by my name, I am a long time Junior League member. I have also chaired the cookbook committe of two leagues. Needless to say, I can rock the $h!t out of a casserole.
Sending good thoughts as you sort out your health.
*committee*…stinking auto correct!
We are in the same boat TT! Having surgery on 11/3 and like you, never had a surgery in my life. I have managed to walk this Earth for 48 years and never had any surgery. I have all my original parts.
Mine cannot be put off either. I HAVE to have it and I was cleared yesterday by the surgeon so, it’s on. And I’m petrified.
No words of wisdom from me because I have none. I can only say that I can completely empathize with you because mine is a week after yours and I am BEYOND scared.
Good luck ! I’ll see ya back here when I’m home recovering. Hopefully with some really good painkillers 🙂
Good luck, and I am still begging for a surgeon. It’s sort of a race at this point.
Best of luck to both of you! You’re gonna rock it and then afterward you’ll have a ton of cheerleaders waiting for you right here. 🙂
Thanks everybody ! I absolutely adore TT and this blog. All y’all are the best <3
TT all is going to work out just fine (as I sit here nauseated with anxiety lol). It can't be avoided and can't be put off any longer.
As I was teary-eyed at my surgery clearance appointment, he patted me on the head and said "Don't worry, I've never lost anyone yet"….. #nothelping lol <3
Love ya TT! It's all gonna be good ((hugs))
The hubby had surgery on his nose and it was outpatient and no problems. His Dr. Was fabulous and so good looking. I will be happy to give you his name– I think he is single!
I’m loving the fall weather. Now is the time for football instead of August and September when I’ve been sweating my ass off! I may even take the little to the pumpkin patch today.
Wishing you thoughts for a speedy recovery. I’ve had multiple surgeries over the last couple of years and the best advice I can give is to listen to your body. Rest when you need it, don’t overdo it by trying to come back too soon. Whenever and whatever you post we will be here to support you.
I am currently laying on the couch watching a marathon of Manzo’d and I remembered how much I really like this show. Whatever you think of Carolyn, she really loves her family.
I marathoned Manzos recently too. And last night it was Don’t Be Tardy. Both shows about close families who love and have fun with each other.
I was deeply sad that the Biermann’s went to Montana and Kroy’s parents didn’t get to see those beautiful grankids.
What exactly happened there? They attended the wedding – it is clear it is painful for Kroy.
I managed to make it to the age of 50 before requiring surgery. Since then I have had three, under general. I agree with Kate Gates, it is some of the best sleep you will have. It’s normal to be nervous and a little afraid. I know I was, especially for the first one. All 5 of my surgeries were successful and uneventful. I am sure that you will have the same experience. You said you trust your doctor, I did too, and that is everything.
Best wishes for a quick recovery ♡
I’m having a GREAT Autumn since a few days ago when I set up an intro call with a psychotherapist in Savannah to see if I should finally get anti-depressants to lift the heavy weighted feeling I’ve been carrying around on my heart for the last 40+ years (I’m 57) and she said I was a receptive empath and I’d been overly intent on using my personal energies to ease the pain I so easily sensed in others instead of allowing them to figure their own stuff out and set up way better emotional boundaries so any energy I do manage to rustle up isn’t immediately used up externally. It stems from a childhood with a schizophrenic father and the type of depressed, highly sensitive, isolated Mother I saw myself turning into permanently. Giving away all of your firewood rather than stacking it up to allow others to benefit from your own bright warm light is has little benefit.
Deirdre, that is a fascinating diagnosis! Do you remember the movie, Powder? The character in the movie absorbed everyone else’s pain and it was killing him. It reminds me what a therapist told me 30 years ago. I’m a bee buzzing around everyone else’s problems trying to fix them at detriment to myself. When I’m finished, I’m lying on the ground exhausted and dying.
I have a hernia that I am ignoring. I had my sigmoid colon removed last year and now this stupid hernia mocks me. The surgeon who did the original surgery said this one will be easier, but I feel all whiny and I just don’t want to. So everyday this thing sticks out weirdly in a lump, ugh! I hate it ! I hope your surgery goes well, sending healing vibes.
One day that ugly annoying lump will start to hurt quite intensely. Or it could strangulate. It won’t just stay a mocking annoying lump that is annoying. It will continue to grow and be more and more problematic.
You know that annoying little nag in the back of your mind that keeps reminding you that you are putting something off that really has to be done? Come on, you know the one. It pops up just before you fall asleep or whenever there a little twinge of pain. Well, that will be removed with this surgery and that alone can be worth millions. Take care of yourself. You are, as always, in my prayers.
I’ve had several surgeries – and have never had a problem. The nurses are great at calming pre-op nerves – don’t hesitate to let them know if you’re feeling jittery!
And don’t be a hero – let people help you before and after. Even if it’s just to make you a cup of tea!
Best advice I can give – if you’ll be on painkillers after the surgery start taking a stool softener before the surgery. Trust me on this one 🙂
Best wishes for a speedy recovery!
Peri collage s a good one.
Tamara,
I don’t believe you’re going in for any type of surgery whatsoever… I instead think that you are being whisked away by some handsome surgeon for a lovers getaway! Further, you haven’t shared that you’re in a wonderful relationship with a wealthy, handsome, incredibly virile surgeon for fear we’d behave like rabid animals and bombard you with questions about his identity. Lol! Seriously, enjoy the cooler weather & take good care.
I also fell at a friend’s house in a drunken stupor and broke my nose. I didn’t see a doctor and it set just fine but just a bit crooked. I have always known we were a lot alike Tamara! Wishing you peace and healing?
I’m usually a little melancholy when summer ends but I love Fall and I am really looking forward to the season and all the beautiful foliage, hikes, hot apple cider, fireplaces and yummy comfort foods!
Take care of yourself!
So, Tamara, I am going to have to have a yearly blood test this week. I am so terrified of them I actually got through last year and the doctor never noticed I didn’t get it. What happens is I have baby veins and the nurse gets frustrated, calls the doctor who gets frustrated and eventually I cry. Anything you are afraid of, your afraid of, no bigee 🙂
Also, since I live in Las Vegas, can’t wait for whatever is fall. Have a great weekend and good week. Xo
Oh I’m so sorry about your baby veins! I have toddler veins in very big fat arms ? I know you already know this, but PLEASE drink TONS of water, day before and day of.
Good luck ??
Misery chick, thank you and NOOO, I didn’t know about the water, I thought I had to not eat or drink?
If it’s a BLOOD test (and not a colonoscopy or something like that), plain water should be fine, but PLEASE check with your doc. I try to drink room temp water the day of as cold water makes the veins smaller (not scientific, jmho).
Also, the techs have found the veins on the top of my hand easier than the ones in my big fat arms ? Get some good sleep, breathe deeply, and do NOT look at what they’re doing ?
I know they sent me on my way to come back, since they couldn’t do it, maybe it was to make me go away. That’s what made me able to get away with not having it.
Roger!! Misery chick, I’m feeling better (a lot)….thanks and I’m gonna kill it!! 🙂
@Cheryl B. If you haven’t already heard these, here are a couple of suggestions to help ease your blood-work experience: 1) for plumping up baby veins beforehand, drink an 8oz glass of water approximately 20 minutes before the blood draw; 2) ask the lab technician/nurse to use a “butterfly needle” or “wing incision kit,” (a smaller gage needle) for your blood work
~ My most recent surgery was in May. My doc also had trouble w/anesthetic needle, so I ended up with a local and some relaxing med. (Tamara, I too, have surgery fear.) However, the local allowed me to be awake to watch the surgical team do their jobs seriously and professionally (while Prince was blasting through operating room speakers.)
Best wishes TT for an easy procedure and speedy recovery!
Thank you Sosueme, I think I will take misery chick and your advice and think about the support. It will make it easier, thanks guys 🙂
Just want to second asking the person drawing the blood for a smaller needle…it also works for me. Last time o had blood drawn the phlebotomist got annoyed and I said fine, just use the regular one, and she did a shit job that left me walking around looking like a total junkie (track mark, large bruise)…
Yes Lindsay, I come home quite bruised. I appreciate the comment, I am going as far as having it done first thing in the morning on my birthday, thinking maybe that will somehow make it better 🙂
It was dead of summer, too, there was no covering it up. I got lots of long stares and concerned looks in public. I think it’s important to let the draw-er know that the draw-ee is the sensitive type ?
I always go into this long spiel about how hard it is to draw my blood, don’t take it personally, it’s not you (all before they start), just preparing them. They always end up having exactly what I told them ( also, for some reason they get 15 drops and it just stops), which freaks them out. They start talking to themselves, and I always want to say, “told you”, maybe this time I will go in with my TT supporters and knock it out! 🙂
❣️My hospital stay had the most handsome group of men Doctors and aides I have ever had the pleasure of being surrounded by ❣️
I love this cooler weather. I put the big comforter on the bed last night. Bring on the smell of burning leaves, and candles. Got a cool pumpkin that looks like it has leprosy lol. You will be fine TT, been under twice . You are told to count to 10, I think I got to 3 before that blessed sleep. When you wake up its as though nothing happened. You WILL be fine and glad you got it done and over with.
I love it when I walk out of the house and can smell someone’s fireplace chimney.
At my elementary school we aren’t allowed to do Halloween so we get the bumpiest pumpkins we can find to put around the room.
I LOVE fall too. It is finally bearable for this menopausal lady stuck in the horrid heat of Florida.
Hope all how’s well and you can finally be free from pain. There is no fall here in southern California. For the past couple days we’ve been in the 90’s with strong dry wind. It’s miserable, I wish we had seasons like fall and winter. Lol
Tamara, you’re not alone. I have had two knee replacements and the fear was the same for each one. I think it’s a natural response.General anesthesia is so much safer today than decades ago. The anesthetics used are fast-acting, the safety standards for the equipment used to administer the drugs are at such a high level that the chances of complications are very low. Your breathing, heart rate, BP and even your brain activity are monitored throughout the surgery. There are crash carts in every surgical room in the event there is a problem, so even if there is a hiccup, you will be just fine.
I don’t have a primary doctor either. I am too impatient to sit in a waiting room and have no interest in going in for bi-annual visits, etc. Urgent Care is my friend. They have younger, qualified family docs who moonlight for extra money.
Wishing you well TT! You will be in and out, bada boom! I’ve had so much plastic surgery, I’ve been under general anesthesia more than Michael Jackson. They give you great drugs and if you are in any pain, you tell them to INCREASE THEM! I know it’s hard when anyone has a fear of something, so I’m not making light, but you will be just fine. We will be here when you get back, love!
I’m having a c section in a week and a half. I’ve started to get some anxiety about it. I think it’s really going to be fine, but I’ve never really had surgery before. I had my wisdom teeth out 2 years ago and got put under. I was shaking and crying from fear as they had me count backwards but it was absolutely fine when I woke up! As others said, the most relaxing snooze of my life 🙂
Congratulations Yoya! The best thing about your type of surgery is that when it’s all over, you end up with the love of your life placed in your arms. My son is the best thing that ever happened to me. I tell him, “My boyo is my joyo”. (Boyo is an old Irish term).
Best wishes to you.
Thanks slice! At least I have something great to look forward to at the end, you’re right 🙂
Congrats on the baby!
2 c sections and one tummy tuck. You will be fine and so will Tamara.
No advice but I had to ‘go under’ for the first time this year- no problems at all but when I woke up, I started babbling to the nurse about Real Housewives 🙂
That is too funny. My sister came out from under, after a brain tumor surgery, talking about the Young & the Restless 🙂
A procedure I had I woke up talking about Love and Hip Hop. The nurse was trying not to laugh, so who knows what else 🙂
When I was a teenager, I went into my mom’s hospital room and the doctor was laughing and my father looked embarrassed. My mom woke up telling dirty jokes.
That’s hysterical ! This blog is really helping to calm my jitters about general anesthesia.
Thanks for the giggle !
Put on your lady britches. Stop being so damn whiney. Who do you think you are, Scarlett O’Hara? Geez us, what next, a report on your toilet habits?
You asked for it, wink wink, tee hee 😉
(Personally I’m more worried for Banjo and the person who takes him on while you recuperate. You’ll do GREAT. Wishing you a speedy appointment and that the Dr turns out to be what you expect.)
Fall is my favorite season. The leaves on the ground, the cozy food, the wood smoke. I’m changing over my eating habit to more fats so this should be fun fun fun! Bring on the ketones.
Well, my toilet habits have become kind of an important thing to note lately. Perhaps that will be the next Daily Tea! I’m hoping I won’t have to have anyone watch Banjo. His mysterious neck/back defects are back. I think he is just trying to when the who deserves the most sympathy at this house war.
He must be winning because he had steak for dinner because he was almost out of dog food and I wasn’t going to be able to eat it anyway.
In my life I have found that usually the stuff that I dread the most turns out to be not worth my fear. The longer I put it off, the more built up it becomes.Then when I finally have no choice and have to deal with it head on, it’s so much easier than I imagined. I’m not saying surgery is nothing by any means just that most people have the same reservations about doing it especially when it’s the first time. Hope you have lots of cute residents and interns for eye candy during your procedure.
I’ve allowed a lot of my life and decisions to be ruled by fear. At 52, I’m just coming to grips with this.
I think I shared this story here. This summer my 12 year old son and I were travelling together. I kept complaining about a situation and my fear that it would be stressful, wouldn’t work out, yada yada. Poor kid, I kept going on about what was, in hindsight, a real luxury problem.
He looked at me and said, “What if everything turns out okay?”
I had never considered that as an option.
It’s my new motto. Life has been very stressful lately but I hear him in the back of mind…
“What if everything turns out okay?”
If you think about it Sliceo’pie, your son is right. Most of the time things turns out okay and we’ve spent minutes, hours or even days worrying about it and we can’t get that time back. I have gotten to the point where I don’t worry about stuff much anymore because I can’t change it if it’s going to be bad and if it turns out good I’ve wasted all that time worrying about nothing. It’s just easier for me to deal with the situation when it occurs than stress my life away.
I’be been putting off some surgery for myself & finally forced myself to deal with it. I can be such a big baby over the stupidest things. Anyway, in my life I pretty face everything looking at options and outcomes. Then I make peace with the worst possible outcome. Once I’ve done that I shoot for the best possible and very rarely does the worst actually happen and if it does, I’m prepared. That seems to help me get through things easier and less “babyfied”. Not that I don’t ever blubber behind closed doors but I try to look at everything as a way of “testing” my “muscles” in life. (I hope this is making sense.)
Thanks for sharing this, I need to remind myself of it
You’re welcome, Lindsay! ❤️️ We all need reminding from time to time and then to remember. We’ll get there eventually, sure enough.
Here’s what happening in Colorado Springs Co. We got hit with a horrible hail storm in July, consequently there is a ton of construction going on in my neighborhood. We waited over 2 months to get our new roof and builders/ housepainters etc are pick and choosing their jobs. So, imagine my surprise when I get come from work on Thursday and see two construction type ladders in my backyard. So, I’m walking around my house and realize that someone has power washed my house. Then I find allot of primer… someone is preparing to paint my house and I have no idea who this person/company is. The only thing I can think to do is to put the ladders in my garage and hold that and the primer stuff hostage. Thankfully I don’t work on fridays so I was home when a irate painter rang my doorbell. It’s a good thing he cooled his jets really quick when I informed him that his company had no contract with me. Come to find out it was my neighbor (who moved to Virginia last week) that contracted to have his house painted. That’s life in Colorado Springs Co.
My first two thoughts were: I hope you like the pressure wash and than I hope you don’t have to pay for it!
Type of surgery recommended by your surgeon will dictate whether you have local or general anesthesia. You’ll be fine. If you’re lucky, you might score some good pain meds post procedure. 😉
Could I have the bangles?
Too soon?
Dibs!
You can, naa! But I need you to hold them while sitting outside the waiting room worried about the love of your life and all. I wonder if I have to take my wedding ring off? 🙂
I want to adopt a new puppy, but I have a few fur babies already and don’t want to be a hoarder. I have so much love to give though! TT, I ❤️ U and hope you feel much, much better after your surgery.
Iloveearlgrey, we have 2 Rottweilers (100 lbs & 125 lbs.), a Great Dane (200 lbs.), 2 cats, and a 5 month old kitten we rescued. I call it our animal hoarder starter kit. We did have another Rottie until we had to put him down because of cancer. If you can feed them, pay for vet bills, have a fenced yard or are willing to give them plenty of exercise (for dogs), and have lots of love to give them, I say go for it.
Sending good thoughts and wishing you a speedy recovery!
One thing that seems always important to them, is to help you if your anxious. When having my procedures (injections for pain), if they make me wait longer than 5 minutes, I start getting panicky. Once I say something, they always immediately give me medicine to help. Be sure to let them know how you are doing, nurses are usually so caring. Just my thoughts. 🙂
It’s not that bad..you fall asleep wake up and its done with. They ask you simple questions aND THEN MAYBE A DAY IN HOSPITAL AND THEN HOME WITH MAYBE SOME OXY OR PERCOSET.
WIsh you the best.
TT, prayers and positive thoughts on your surgery and a speedy recovery!
With the crisp air finally coming to the South, I put on the fleece sheets!
I went to the craft store, bought some yarn to crochet and this River Chick is ready to hibernate for the winter.
I, also planted pansies!!!
Be right here when you return my dear friend, hugs
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I haven’t had the chance to read all of the comments, so forgive me for any repeated info. I wanted to give a heads up to all my fellow commenters that loves The Walking Dead. We’ve waited and waited…tomorrow is the season premiere. Hope to come here and read the recap. Was that you Lady C. that took such good care of last season? Hope you can do us the honors again this year. Many, many thanks in advance. Hugs!
I’ve already got Lady C chained to the radiator. She is such a great recapper. She puts in her own byline (because I always forget), pulls and resizes the photos, adds links… and turns in amazing reviews. We are very lucky to have her for another season.
Mon Dieu! I forgot! Sometimes I like to get behind by a month and save for a binge but there’s no way! Thanks for the reminder Riley.
Good luck on your surgery!
I think you will find that when it’s over, a lot of the issues you have been having (not sleeping, depression, etc.) may suddenly resolve themselves.
YOU ARE GOING TO FEEL SO MUCH BETTER!
I understand how everyone feels, though. Especially if you already have anxiety issues, fear of the unknown creeps in. That is normal. But, you need to buckle down, and do it. Waiting too long is silly. Trust me, I know. Once you wake up, you will realize that you worried for nothing.
You already have my phone number. Feel free to call me anytime.
Good luck to all who are about to have surgery. You will be just fine.
The best part about my surgery was the hospital food! It was SO GOOD! I had been sick for so long, and not eating, that when Is woke up after surgery, I was starving! I couldn’t get enough!
I hope they have great food where you have your surgery. Breakfast, in particular, was the BEST!
Sadly, I have had to have a couple surgeries, cancer @ 35 six weeks after my baby was born…cured woohoo……anyways..I always walked out of the hospital feeling like, yea fuck this all gangster and empowered! Is that weird??? Good Luck TT!
Well now, who says pity parties are not fun! Thanks for all the support you guys. I feel like most of my anxiety is over no knowing if I will be able to get this surgeon that I want. I spoke to the receptionist yestery twice and she was SO NICE and SO SMART. I just have a good feeling about this particular surgeon. But she is not taking new patients, or she only takes referrals or something. She was in surgery all day Friday. BACK TO BACK TO BACK TO BACK.
I fired my idiot dumbfuck physician from Kaiser back in September of 2015 and it’s extremely obvious the surgery I need. I haven’t had much pain until this week and now it seems a bit more urgent.
Once everything is set up, I will probably be fine. As odd as this sounds, I’m pretty good when it comes to being the calm one in a crisis. I tend to be the one calming everyone else down most of the time.
On the other hand, when I am sick I am a huge whiner and get all weepy and feel sorry for myself. Mostly because there is no one to be of any comfort except Banjo. LOL.
I think I’ll be just fine. Your comments helped a lot. The plan was to sleep until Monday, but now I am kind of irritated I missed such a great fall day.
My sister is kind of Mother Teresa at the moment as there are multiple family (and ex family) crises going on and she is everyone’s go to person as the NICE person in the family…lol. So it was sweet of her to call to check on me the past few days.
I slept most of the day and expected to feel really stupid for being such a wuss at four am. I’m forever grateful for all of your support. I’m really fortunate to have that.
xo
~tt
You can go to the ER at her hospital and have them call her
Now back to watching Anthony Bourdain and Eric Ripert in Sichuan.
I wish we could trade phobias.. I’m cool as a cucumber going into surgery, but I can’t get on a plane without being semi-conscious or intoxicated, and you fly everywhere!!
Flying used to be fun. But the bigger I get the smaller the seats are. lol. Last time I flew I had an eight year old french girl cuddled up next to me in full bear hug. It was cute and odd. lol.
Tamara
I had a wonderful general surgeon in Atlanta (Northside) who did my thyroidectomy just a few years ago. Nice person, did an incredible job and you can’t see a scar. If you need an additional name for your search email me and I’d be happy to share.
Sending good juju your way for a successful and easy surgery.
I’ve watching/listening to Leonard Cohen on YouTube off and on today. In my youth, I always thought Neil Diamond’s Suzanne was quite apart from Diamond’s usual work and now I know Cohen wrote it as well as Halleluja.
I am finally wearing a hoodie! Love hoodie weather!
We adoped a dog today at animal control. We get to pick her up from the vet Monday after she gets spayed.
I also find out Monday if my youngest, who has a severe speech delay, will qualify to be in a special pre-school program. Wish me luck!
Good luck!
When I had my wrist done, I just got a heavy duty twilight sleep and woke up to a really sweet nurse with warm blankets and pain killers. She even found me a soft, pretty hospital gown. I had surgery in the late morning and went home around 11 pm. The hospital even had a room service menu and brought dinner to us both. Glad you found a surgeon you trust
I have great news! Just found out I am going to be a grandma. I am so happy. Will be making baby clothes!
Congratulations!
What wonderful news, fivecatsownme! The circle of life continues. Mankind can feel hopeful.
That’s the cat’s meow. Can feel you purring with happiness all the way over here.
There’s 109 post ahead of mine but if gay marriage ang polygamy is legal in your state I’ll propose to you take care of things, no worries! You’re going to be just fine, I know it! I say a prayer for you daily but will amp it up. Much love my maybe future sister wife ?
You might want to plan some entertainment for while you recover. I just found a great new Netflix Original series called Luke Cage(13 episodes). Just started tonight and am already on episode 4! I’m also reading Karin Slaughter’s latest book. I have loved her books for years!
Best of luck with your surgery, hope it turns out far easier than you’re thinking! Take care and don’t push yourself after, give yourself time to heal.
Best of luck to you. There’s an awesome super addictive Netflix Australian series called OFFSPRING that is great and super addictive in a good way and it’s a great break from HW. Highly recommend.
TT, I’m so glad your stress is lessening! I also have a weird phobia about going under and my doctor told me it was a control freak thing.
Now for the really important question, what brand of rose is that on Fredrik Eklund’s shabby chic outdoor table?
Hope you can get your surgery scheduled and over with very soon…
Good luck TT. I hope you get in to see her this week, get your surgery scheduled for this week, and recover completely this week.
In other news, I have finally received the diagnosis I have been both fearing and expecting.
Oh well, my life continues. If I didn’t love my job so much, I’d let myself be as sick as I feel…..
Sounds like you need good thoughts sent. Whatever is going on in your life, hope all is well,and better fast.
Thank you Cheryl. I appreciate all good thoughts.
I didn’t post for sympathy, I posted it just to vent. Spilling some tea about myself 🙂
lavidaLinda, didn’t assume that at all. Just have a little extra good thoughts today and thought I’d share 🙂
Well then I thank you with ***smooches***
This is such a crazy coincidence!
I’m in the midst of recovering from a septoplasy due to my deviated septum – I just had the surgery on Friday – my nose is in a cast, with a “mustache” bandaige to catch leakage that needs to be changed every day or so. This is my first surgery as well.
I have ZERO pain tolerance – even taking the mustache bandage off and feeling the dry blood pull from my face makes me feel like my nose is about to fall off Michael Jackson style. I cringe at the alcohol dipped Q-tip before it even touches my nose.
Nothing has been truly “painful” although I’m dreading getting the stitches removed. I get random bursts of pressure/scratching feeling, having to drink out of a fucking sippee cup, my throat is dry from having to breathe through it, all the little things that just add up to an uncomfortable experience. The meds help a lot, although I’m rather disorientated with what day it is, etc.
I’m just glad I was prepared – having everything I need organized on one table with a clean bed waiting for me is what truly saved me.
Hopefully tomorrow you will know if you get the surgeon you want, and really dont worry about the general, it is awesome, nothing like going to sleep with a problem and waking up with the problem solved. They make you high before they put you under anyway, so it is really not scary. Dont get a nose like Nene!
I have to say, the nurses are amazing. When they say, ” Can you tell us about..” and you begin to fall asleep, I start to giggle like like we are gossiping. “Oh yeah!” ZONK! Then you wake up in recovery.
My best advice would be to take a pillow from home no matter how short/long your stay. It has always made me feel more comfortable.
What a beautiful fall picture!
No words of advice or anything, as I’ve only been put under for dental work. I don’t think that is the same)
However, did everyone hear – Jinger Duggar didn’t escape. She’s engaged. I had hopes she’d break free some day. I refuse to watch the show anymore (and give those pervs ratings) but I sometimes track them.
I guess she is being a bit of a rebel… she front hugged him. She also snagged a handsome one, with a college degree.
I spent my weekend trying to help out the family of a dear friend who dying. I was kinda relieved to be back at work because I am emotionally drained. I’m not there 5 minutes and I get a call from the local clinic. The man who dumped me just days before our 30th anniversary is sick – really sick. I’m still his emergency contact. I wanted to blurt out all the things I was thinking about him at the time but instead I found myself at the hospital agreeing to bring him home and take care of him. The hospital didn’t have any available beds and the doc has known us for years so he felt it would be ok for me to bring him home tonight and back to the clinic tomorrow. REALYY!?! I know God will not hand me more than I can handle but I think He has an exaggerated opinion of me right now. UGH!!! He’s fed, tucked in and snoring (Did he do that when we slept together?) and I took the day off from work tomorrow to tend to him. UGH!!!
OMFG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am so sorry you are going through all of this Mary. I would NOT have been so kind. Doesn’t he have adult kids? OR SOMEONE? I was in a sort of similar situation this week and I REFUSED to acknowledge the situation. The rest of the family is free to do what you want, but if you walk out on me, we’re done.
The boys all have to work so I really was the logical choice – UGH
You should get a sainthood medal. I think of my ex, and there is no way, I would do it.
I certainly don’t feel like a saint. I feel like an idiot. To top it off, the one friend I have in this life who could drink me through this is in Arizona attending an intervention for her drug-addicted granddaughter. It’s just too much.
Wow, you are a remarkable woman.
I just listed to Gloria Gaynor do “I Will Survive” about 5 times in a row – it seems to have helped.
They found him a bed this morning so he’s in a hospital and probably a nursing home from there for at least 6 weeks. What a relief.
Oh Mary, bravo!! Xo
I am so glad, Mary. You have plenty on your plate right now. I am so impressed by your strength and kindness. I feel it’s an honor to just kind of know you.
Thank goodness. I was afraid you’d be stuck with him for months. Hang in there. Sorry your friend is out of town, but we are always here!
You will be fine! Just remind yourself it’s the anxiety talking.
Speaking of anxiety, I’m still adjusting to this new med and my brain is nowhere to be found. I have more energy, i feel happier, but sometimes I can’t find words or I forget what I’m saying mid-sentence. No benefits without paying in some way, I suppose.
Everytime I see Lymeopause, it reminds me of Yolanda. Haven’t seen much from her lately, have we?
The artist formally known as Yoya be the babe a girla or boya?
It’s kind of early in the day for the rapid fire Suessian comments. New meds? Day drinking?
Rainy day blue collar brunch. Miller lite’s up my life.