Sonia and Nick
I read a little bit about Sonia and Nick the other day. There were no spoilers but it talked about how Sonia spends a lot of her off time helping the local homeless community. On one of the confessional shows Nick talked about how one day they brought home a young girl who was having some problems and kept her at their house for twelve hours and fed her and let her get herself together for a bit. Nick was super impressed by how Sonia is so caring towards others. This gives me hope for these two. Today they are making sandwiches for the homeless. Sonia went to the store and bought all the stuff to make a bunch of peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. This is the kind of reality I like to watch.
One of the things that a good therapist could tell Sonia, that I am observing immediately is that when you need to talk to young boys, or introverted men about feelings and serious issues, the best way to get them to talk is to work on a task side by side. There is no eye contact or examining of each others faces for clues about how messages are being received. You are both focused on the same task, and have a conversation side by side. There is some therapeutic name for this that escapes me and will bug me now for a week. I used to use it with all my boys and special needs kids. Girls were a lot easier to talk to and I only used this method if they were shy. We would usually do a simple sorting task. It was great for organizing my leveled library while learning more about my students. Anyway, back to see how this works with Sonia and Nick.
Right away or so the editing seems, Nick is comfortable relating the sandwich making to his college days eating PB & J. See? This is going splendidly. Sonia tells Nick about why she started doing this. She says she likes to write little notes on the bags. Nick asks Sonia for advice of what to write. She says, “Don’t Lose Faith.” Then he approves of her advice. This is amazing. They play stupid sappy music that make me teary. Because, Lymeopause. And because I told you guys not to lose faith in Nick a few episodes ago.
On the way to feed the homeless, Nick is trying to ask Sonia to move back in. Sonia thinks Nick just wants to sweep everything under the carpet and she needs reassurance before she is willing to move back into the house. Nick feels like there are only a couple weeks left, they need to give it their best shot while they still have some time. This side by side conversation goes well also. They have not agreed on the situation yet, but they were both way better at expressing themselves. Nick really enjoyed feeding the homeless. I think they fell in love with each other a little bit during that scene. Sonia says that the experience humanized Nick to her again. Nick said he’s going to do whatever it take to get her to move back in and try again. Then their confessionals show they are both still afraid to trust.
Sonia and Nick have a couple over for a fiesta and some margaritas. Sonia has an awkward situation with the lady because her young boy is sitting between them during the scene. The entire thing was awkward. Ah! It is a Cinco de Mayo. Nick was very social at the party and danced by himself for everyone and was acting silly. Later, Nick showed the wedding album to the other couple. When the hot guy from the other couple asks what the next chapter in the book is, neither of them have an answer. The kid did, but I couldn’t understand what he was saying. Later, the guy gives Nick some advice about how important it is to….wait for it…open up and communicate. And he gives him some very concrete advice on what to say and when to say it. He gives very guy examples. He says all the right things. But Nick still seems resistant.
Nick shows his affection through gifts and gestures and I think Sonia wants words of reassurance. At the end of the episode she decides she doesn’t want to drive home. She asks if they can just hang out. Perhaps they will end up choosing to Netflix and chill?
Lilly and Tom
We see Lilly setting up for an open house on a condo and then we get a clip of Tom out surfing. This perfectly encompasses their relationship. She is go getter and highly motivated to succeed, and to her that means make a lot of money, and plan for the future. He is way more laid back and is interested in living life and having experiences and living in the moment. They will have to do a lot of compromising for this to work.
It’s their one month anniversary and they go out for dinner. Wow, Lilly is great at gifts. She got Tom an original piece of art based on a still of him in one of his surfing videos. He’s impressed. I looks sort of like Big Foot On a hilltop, but that’s okay. It’s very cool and modern. She honestly is fine that he didn’t get her a gift. She feels bad because they were going to write vows and she got tied up at work and didn’t have time. He’s disappointed but takes it well. He pledges his vows to her.
These two go to run errands and she is on the laptop and the phone ignoring him. I feel like this was a super staged scene set up to once again point out their differences. Otherwise, things are just too perfect. And that make people angry.
Tom wants to take Lilly to the beach so she can learn to slow down and enjoy life a little bit along the way. Surfing is not really Lilly’s thing.
Later, these two go out with another couple and give them feedback on their marriage. They give each other positive to their same gender friends.
This couple seems like a done deal. However, Tom feels like Lilly is not being open enough with him emotionally. They can do playful, their intimacy is great, but their emotional communication isn’t where Tom needs it to be. He needs her to open up emotionally. I think Tom wants her to say that she loves him more than anything. Including her job. And she is definitely not there yet. Both of these two are terrified the other will leave when they get to know them.
Heather And Derek
Why do they keep forcing these stupid scenes? I’m going to hunt for a snack.
Next week: Derek goes on a date with a girl with a soul. Heather’s friend tells her like it is. Sonia considers moving back in. Tom and Lilly have their mother’s over to visit for mother’s day and Tom deals with the language barrier. Sonia says thing can go south at any moment.