If you follow me on Twitter, you would know that I am a huge Anthony Bourdain fan. HUGE. When I moved off of my last television provider to a new one, I was devastated that I lost all of my saved No Reservations episodes. (Yes, I know this is the part where you all rush in to solve the problem, I know all about DVDs and Hulu and Zulu and NetFlix and all of those other things. It’s not the same.) Sometimes I have to tape two things at once that I have to recap but for whatever reason am not recapping live, and I click over to my DVR and have Anthony on in the background in some exotic location that I can listen to while I finishing up a post. Plus, when he moved to CNN he went to Tripoli. I still have that one on my new DVR.
There are a handful of us on Twitter that keep each other up to date on Bourdain’s tours (I actually upset with him at the moment because the current one has not a single stop below the Mason Dixon line.) We all playfully let each other know when “our husband” is going to be on TV or is working with a new website.
But we all know he has a wife, Ottavia Busia, and they have a child and that she is a beautiful much younger Italian woman who is an MMA fighter who could kick our asses all at the same time. We were impressed by his lifestyle changes when his daughter came along.
And now, in one of those, “well we should have guessed this” moments, it turns out that Anthony and Ottavia have been living separate lives for a long time and that the separation has now become more official.
Well of course they have. We’ve seen him traveling the globe pretty much full time with his TV show. He just announced yet another US tour to sell his books and bring in the ticket sales. I don’t think we ever considered his home life because he seemed so available for all the things we wanted to share with him.
So as it turns out, Page Six is reporting that basically they have been separated for years and that Anthony was really only ever home for the holidays. And it seems that Ottavia is ready to move on with her life.
And this is not a new thing. Here is an excerpt from an interview she did for a Valentine’s Day piece in 2012 on Married to A Chef.
How do you handle the holidays knowing he is going to be busy at work?
A. For me it’s actually the opposite, the holidays are the only times when he’s home. Which is strange to deal with when you are used to be alone. True story, I remember once waking up in the middle of the night terrified because someone was in my bed. That someone was my husband, I had just forgotten that he was home. Good thing I didn’t beat him up. This past holidays he actually cooked, which was great, but yeah, it took 5 years of marriage to find out my husband can cook a mean holiday meal.
Here is her quote to Page Six
A rep for Bourdain, 60, had no comment when asked about the separation. Busia, 38, told us via e-mail, “Because of professional decisions we both have made, my husband and I have been for years in an unconventional relationship. Nothing has changed. We love each other. We respect the decisions the other has made. And we’ll always consider ourselves a family.”
I sort of thought this kind of announcement would give me sort of a “Yay! More Anthony for Me!” type feeling. But frankly, I have always had all the Anthony I wanted. And I sort of feel disappointed in him. I don’t think it is going to be too long before his health will slow him down and he will need someone to take care of him, He can’t maintain his current lifestyle forever. He’s already missed a lot of time with his daughter.
It’s like pulling back the curtain on The Wizard of Oz, or finding out there is no Santa Claus. This just doesn’t seem like good news to me.