Because I wanted to see Bachelor in Paradise and recap the three hour finale, I lost the first four minutes of Married At First Sight because BIP went until 9:03. I chose the show I actually wanted to watch over this one that I also like and was rewarded with my first ever post with ZERO comments. Looks like no one wants to admit to watching BIP with me. 🙁 Or perhaps y’all don’t share my love of Ashley I. Whatevs.
Nick and Sonia
So I am starting with Nick talking to Dr. Pepper about the dog issue. Because Nick has a hard time picking up on nonverbal cues, and because Sonia is super needy yet has trouble expressing her feelings clearly, Nick has no idea if Sonia is afraid of dogs or just doesn’t like his. I can tell you that if someone didn’t like Banjo that would be a deal breaker. Nick has agreed not to have the dogs in bed. However, we do not see Dr. Pepper encourage Sonia to tell her childhood dog attack story. Is it possible she doesn’t know about it yet?
Dr. Pepper is also concerned about their lack of physical intimacy. Again, that is a Nick issue. I don’t understand how a licensed therapist can sit with Nick and not be aware of his challenges in the social cues and physical intimacy department. There are ways to encourage growth in those areas that teachers with children on the autism spectrum use all the time.
Nick’s mom and her boyfriend come over so that she can teach Sonia how to make Italian meatballs and have some family time. The boyfriend teaches Nick how to peel garlic and help out. When Sonia talks to his mother alone she mentions that Tom’s aunt (her sister-in-law recently died in a car accident. She assumed Sonia knew but Nick shared nothing with her. Neither of thee two are very adept and sharing information with each other. The boyfriend is also talking to Nick about how important communication is. The boyfriend asks if he thinks the relationship will work. Nick has a hard time expressing himself and finally just gets to “Yes.” He says he has a hard time putting sentences together.
At dinner Nick and Sonia are very quiet. Nick can’t even express a full sentence to his mother. I do not understand why this situation was not addressed in the school system. I’m expecting to find out he was home schooled because of bullying, to be honest. His verbal communication is extremely delayed. His mother really likes Sonia for him. Sonia is right though, they are both poor communicators and both very shy and reserved.
Dr. Pepper gave them some physical touching homework. For one thing they are supposed to hug or kiss each other when the leave each other and when they return. Also, they are supposed to put their hand on each other’s heart and answer two questions. Nick announces as he attempts to put his hand on her heart that he is not going to touch her boob. She should have just taken his hand and put it on her boob so he would know he would not die if he accidentally touches a boob. The guy is mortified by physical intimacy. He basically puts his hand on her neck. Even Sonia admits this is weird but she doesn’t do anything to teach him what to do. Instead, she cracks up and moves his hands away. He apparently inadvertently grazed her breast, and says,” You’re making me touch boob!” Okay. I’d have to send this guy to a hooker or something before proceeding. Because I could not deal with this level of lack of sexual skills.
Sonia says in confessional that her patience is running thin. All of the sudden he busts out with, “I’m not in love with you!” He sort of misunderstood what being open about his feelings and just wanted to know if he loved her. He is mystified about why she is mad and is also mad at her for her reaction when he in his mind finally opened up. I cannot stress enough if this guy doesn’t get some intensive therapy to teach him basic interpersonal skills, this marriage is doomed. Nick is not emotionally prepared to date let alone be married. That’s not a judgement, it’s just a fact based on observations.
Tom and Lilly
Lilly is worried Tom doesn’t want to have kids. Tom is concerned about her use of the words “deal breaker.” Lilly is committed to the marriage and ready to plan their life including when to have kids. Tom is also committed to the marriage but feels like Lilly is rushing past things without taking the natural progression where they learn about each other more deeply.
Lilly is brings her niece Emma over for them to babysit. Wow, Tom really may not want kids. Tom says little kids are “a-holes” and he doesn’t know how to do it. Tom taught Emma how to make fart noises. Because, male. Tom seemed to really like Emma. Emma is adorable. Lillian’s sister, Rosa finds out that Tom lives in a bus. Rosa’s advice to Tom is never to wake up “the sleeping beast.” They family time goes well.
Heather and Derek
It’s time for Heather to decide if she wants to forfeit her stipend and violate or contract, or whether she is going to suck it up and do what she agreed to do. I think she will stay for the paycheck and this will cause further harm to Derek, who remains hopelessly optimistic.
Derek’s optimism continues with the therapist. Derek remains all in. Heather continues to be non-responsive toward Derek. Derek’s fear is that he will look back and think they didn’t try hard enough.
Heather’s attacks on Derek continue with the therapist. She says that Derek’s name calling is the problem. Newsflash Heather, everyone with a functioning brain is “name calling you” watching this show. Derek didn’t resort to name calling (which was wrong) until after you berated him about every little thing for a full week. The pastor suggests the possibility that she is going to lose out on a good thing.
Finally, they get together with the pastor. He seems at wit’s end with Heather. He asked when things started to break down. She said the smoking. He said he never touched it again after she brought it up. Pastor asks Heather if that was true. She said yes. And yet we heard her bitching about it the entire trip. Then it was the surfing thing. Derek did make a big deal out of her flirting with the surf instructors. However, the footage shows her off with the instructors and him alone. Just like with the bike riding. And the caving. It was the constant rejection that pissed him off. Not the 19-year-old surf instructors. Derek tells the pastor that in hindsight he “should have let that one go” but at the time he thought communicating his feelings was the best thing to do.
Once again, Derek says that he wants to focus on the things they have in common. The unspoken part of that is Heather never shuts up about what she doesn’t like about him long enough for anything positive to occur. Derek says he wants to work on the marriage and the don’t give Heather’s answer until next week. Seriously? Just let her go. I realize this has never happened before, but you picked a bad egg with Heather. We know she is contractually obligated to stay, but good grief. Just get this part over with.
Next Week: It appears that Lilly gets some bad news about her health. Or perhaps she lost her job? I think based on her thinning hair that it may be a health issue. She is scared that Tom will be obligated to take care of her. Whatever it is it was bad enough for Dr. Pepper to come to her bedside. Sonia and Nick get some tantric therapy. Dear God. It’s like sending them to the intimacy Olympics when he is afraid of boobs! And Heather finally gives an answer.