I’ve been getting this question a lot today. I have to tell you, if I were in a good place I would have probably explained this to you guys much earlier. It seems like all the headlines are triggering the crazy these days. I have done the same process that Jami Zeigler has done against Porsha Williams. So I have a very personal insight into the process.
I believe what has happened at this point is that Jami has made a request to the court for an arrest warrant against Porsha Williams. I’m going to explain this process by another overshare. It seems the easiest way to do it. But basically, Jami is trying to hold Porsha accountable for an assault that happened under one of two circumstances. The process she is following occurs under one of two circumstances. First, if police are not called to the scene when someone is assaulted and they simply try to escape to safety, it is an avenue to attempt to have criminal charges filed. Or in another circumstance if someone is assaulted and the police do not arrest the attacker, the person can file as a citizen asking for an arrest warranted. In either circumstance you go to the appropriate office within the Fulton County system and file a sworn statement that you were assaulted. Then a hearing happens and the judge decides whether or not to sign an arrest warrant, or if they show up for the hearing, the assailant could be arrested on the spot.
Many sites are saying there is some sort of mediation where Porsha and Jami would sit down for a mediation process. That it utter bullshit. I don’t understand why anyone would think that a criminal charge would hinge on the assailant and the victim sitting down and hugging it out. This is not civil court. THIS IS CRIMINAL COURT. There is no part of the process that involves the victim an the criminal sitting in mediation. It’s disturbing to me that so many sites think this is a thing. It is not
Now for the oversharing. When I was a recent college graduate looking for a job that my psychology major may have been useful for, I became a Food Stamps caseworker. I was very young. I was driving to downtown Atlanta every day and did intakes and case working on tons of clients. In my office there was a young man who was funny and flirtatious who was the receptionist. I had heard rumors that he was abusing the system in some way with young women seeking assistance. I never believed them. He seemed like a nice enough guy. And I was, and remain an idiot when it comes to men. Sometimes we would have lunch at the same time and chat in the break room. It was not a romantic thing despite the flirtations. We were just coworkers who got along well. We had never had any activity outside of work and bitching in the break room.
This person needed a ride home on a Friday night. He normally took MARTA but for some reason he suggested we go out after work for drinks. I was down with it. I like drinks. So we went out for an hour or two and I offered to drive him home. I pulled into his apartment complex and he invited me in to see is apartment/have a drink/ I forget the reason. But I, idiot that I am agreed. Once inside there was a very young woman with a child who seemed to live there. He had never mentioned her but as I said, we were not that close. He began berating her about why dinner was not ready the moment we walked in. She seemed afraid of him. He invited me to stay for dinner. I immediately felt like I was in the middle of a domestic abuse situation. (FYI I HATE THAT TERM ABUSE IS ABUSE)
I just realized I have never told this story to anyone. And now I am telling it on the Internet. Not sure how I feel about that. I’m a ball of big fat feelings lately. I’d like to point out this post is not about me. I don’t need a bunch of “I’m sorry that happened to you” kind of crap. I am trying to explain the process.
In an attempt to wrap this up, I will say that his anger toward the young woman in the apartment escalated. He was abusing her physically. For some reason there have been many times in my life where I feel like I can rush into violent situations with no fear. I literally felt like my violent coworker would never hit me. We just had fun talking about work and how much it sucked. We were coworkers who liked each other. So I am SuperGIRL! I am barely 20. I am invincible. I am going to have a stern conversation with my co-worker about how he is not being nice. I am dumb. I am young. I am stupid.
So I didn’t see the violent fist to the face coming.
I still thought I could fix it. Because, inflated ego. I don’t know. But at some point I was out of the house and the beatings continued. I could hear him beating her. It was brutal. This was all pre cell phones. I somehow called the police. The police came I told them everything. I was clearly injured. They went in and interviewed the woman and the assailant. I was told I was making it up. The woman is fine and I had no business at their house. They may or may not have suggested that I needed to leave or be arrested. It was infuriating.
I had a black eye when I went I went to the county office to file my request for an arrest warrant for the coworker. I went to a hearing alone. I was living with my parents and felt a lot of shame when my mother discovered my black eye. I actually had a male visitor from Austria staying in the guest room and my parents were irritated that I basically ignored him the whole time he was there. (That’s a whole nuther talk show). I did all of the legal stuff on my own. Neither parent went with me even though my mother knew it was going to happen. The process of getting the hearing was very fast. Both the assault and the hearing happened when my guest was there.
The female judge didn’t care for him at all. Everything he said made me look better. But Fulton County is beyond flooded with assault cases. Fulton County criminal courts are beyond backlogged. The bottom line in the eyes of the court is I got a black eye from someone I will never see again. In the grand scope of things, he had no other charges and was basically just a dick. I got some satisfaction from the judge because she read him for filth and told him if she saw him again in her courtroom she would not be kind. No warrant was signed.
I feel like I act like a cunty know it all here a lot. And maybe I am. But the reason I have been avoiding covering this is that I have very personal experience with how this system works. And if I didn’t share and people started shooting off at the mouth about how Porsha is going to be arrested, I’d be even more annoyed than I currently am. So now you know.
As for what this means for Porsha, I have little hope for Jami’s warrant. HOWEVER. Porsha has at least one if not two open cases. So that makes this case for a warrant slightly more likely. That said, even if Jami wins, and I hope she does, it’s just a warrant. The charges could still be dropped or the case could just be perpetually open like Kenya’s case.
I doubt the violent little THOT will have any consequences. I have very little faith in humanity at the moment.