I debated whether to post this information or not. After many of you sent my copies of Sidney’s Facebook post, and wanted to discuss it, and after several major sites carried the story, I decided it was already out there and if you guys want to talk about it we can.
When all of this drama started two years ago, I gave Tamra Judge the benefit of the doubt. If we all think back to the horrible teenaged years, I think we will all have some regrets about our conversations with our own mothers. I certainly would not want mine replayed on the Internet. Teenaged girls can be awful in their rebellion stage and I assumed that was pretty much what was going on.
I have since changed my mind. The cause of my loss of sympathy for Tamra came when she engaged in a very public Twitter war with her daughter and he daughter was clearly the mature party in the situation constantly begging her mother to get off the Internet and discuss the situation in their regular counseling session. Tamra was not having it and sort of went in on Simon blaming him.
After the last reunion episode where Tamra went on and on about missing Sidney and wanting to spend time with her daughter, Sidney decided she need to add some truth to Tamra’s version of events.
Sidney, who has been silent on the issue for two years began,”At this point I think it is necessary to tell the truth since she does not know how to tell the truth. Obviously, I am just another storyline that feeds her fame and her wallet.” How sad for a child to feel used by her mother to further her storyline on a reality TV show.
Sidney continued, “The reason I do not live with my mother is not because of my dad, it is because she is mentally/verbally abusive and not a mother to me. When I told my mother that I didn’t want to live with her anymore I asked only a few things from her. For the past two years I’ve been asking her to stop treating me badly, to stop doing embarrassing and talking about me on the show, and to not use my siblings and I as storylines.” Tamra clearly continues to embarrass herself as well as all of her children on TV, the Internet, periscopes with Shannon and on any other venue she can possibly receive national exposure from. She seem to not comprehend the damage she is doing.
Sidney seems to realize that the likelihood of reconciliation is slim, “Clearly she hasn’t followed through with anything that would have made me go back to her house. After telling her this for two years in consoling, she still hasn’t recognized that these problems are between her and I and continues to make this about my father and her. If she really wanted me back in her life she would have taken responsibility and changed two years ago when I told the first time what was causing our relationship to suffer.” When Tamra said that Simon was against Sidney getting counseling, I knew that was false. Tamra and Sidney had counseling over the course of two years and eventually Sidney realized that there was no progress being made with regard to Tamra owning her part in their estrangement. Simon argued in court that Sidney should not be forced back into counseling that had not reaped any benefit to Sidney in two years. Also Sidney was nearly an adult, she was doing well in school and thriving with Simon so the judge let the decision up to Sidney.
Tamra loves to cry parental alienation with regard to Simon. While Simon did not appear to be the perfect husband or father on the show, he has proven in the past two years raising Sidney that he is the better parent. At least for her. It seems however that Tamra is alienating Simon’s son who now refuses to see his father. Their youngest daughter continues to go on visits and vacations with Simon and his big sister.
Sadly, this is another family that is a causality of being on Bravo. The Beador girls seem to be headed for a similar destiny unless some major changes are implemented and boundaries established on what that family is willing to put on public display. While we all love to blame Bravo for this, the root of the issue is the desire certain people have for fame and notoriety above everything else. It’s becoming more and more depressing to watch.
Do you think Simon despite his faults is the better parent? Or do you think Tamra is doing a good job raising the two kids still left in her care?