Raising kids in this day and age has got to be a very daunting task. Deciding when to get detailed about the birds and the bees is a major decision, especially for a woman who is the primary caregiver of two young boys. Such is the quandary Brandi Glanville finds herself in as her son Mason prepared for his first date. Mason is 12 which places him in middle school, most likely in the seventh grade.
I don’t pretend to have the answers for how a parent should approach this, but I do wonder if 12 is a bit young for actual dating. Brandi seems okay with whatever the actual plan is, perhaps it’s a group of kids going out together? Or two kids meeting up at sporting event. He plan for the occasion was to give Mason a written homework assignment. Click through for the questionnaire. 
As you can imagine, the question about whether or not her 12 year old son’s “date” is a virgin or not is what sparked the outrage. Is this something she expects him to ask her prior to their date? On the date? Ascertain through asking around on the middle school playground? I’m not sure. Why not just ask if she has a period yet, or if she is on birth control and other extremely person questions that are none of his business?
For me, I found the numerous grammatical and spelling errors the most egregious thing about this little quiz. I mean after all she is a New York Times Best Selling author. Seriously, this whole ghost writing thing should be illegal. Doesn’t she have spell check? Grammar check? I get I can be loosey goosey with my own spelling and grammar, but I assure you that everything was triple checked and edited before anything went to a student. Not to mention all of Brandi’s clapping back on the Internet to those outraged by the virginity question included numerous usage errors regarding your/you’re.
I’m also a bit concerned about the question about what scares her and “religious or not?” What is the correct answer to the religion question in L.A.?
So what is your verdict on this latest Brandi blunder? Is it common practice to ask 12 year olds about their virginity these days? Do you see anything wrong with this questionnaire that Brandi was so proud of she posted it to the Internet?
I can’t believe these are important things for a boyfriend of any age to know. So superficial for an adult. And for 12 year olds, a boyfriend should be someone you talk ok the phone with everyday but are too shy to talk to or touch in real life. Dating?? Is she nuts? I’m sorry, but I think dating needs a lot more maturity and definitely more talks — and a lot of supervision and communication between parents. (I had friends in middle school who would make out and some had sex. None of the girls made it out of high school without a pregnancy/abortion. The dudes, of course, came out unscathed.)
Wanting your boyfriend at any age to ask about and know your fave movie, color, flower, hobby, do you have family, etc. is superficial? If you don’t want that it’s not a ‘boyfriend,’ it’s a one-night stand.
Erika: I do think those questions are superficial and dont have anything to do with being a good boyfriend. A checklist should encompass all of that with:
1) get to know her. what she likes, what she likes to do, ask about her family and where she likes to go, etc.
That’s ONE thing.
She also needs to teach him about:
2) respect women.
3) don’t pressure her/ get pressured into doing x, y, z
4) no drugs or alcohol
5) if you end up not liking her or she cheats on you, etc you do not have the right to bully or shame her
6) be a gentleman by x, y, z
7) this is how you act in public. This is how you treat waitstaff and pay bills, split the check, etc
8) if she wants to do x and you y, you should compromise by….
9) when you’re with this person and your friends try and balance your attention…
One night stand? Hardly. Dating and being a boyfriend is more than a list of things he must know about her and everything to do with how you treat another human. Please don’t make assumptions about me or my ideas– just as I’m not with you or based on your agreement with brandi’s endall list
Those questions are ‘first date’ related not…this is how you need to be the ultimate boyfriend at any age …that’s another conversation. Personally..those ‘superficial’ things about knowing about my likes and dislikes, personality, are a huge part of being a boyfriend but..hey.. That’s just me.
This is a forum that has conflicting points of view and discussion. I made no, nor stated any assumptions, as to you or your ideas and none of it was a personal attack on you as it appears you have taken it
I am embarrassed for her boys. What kind of parent does that? Giving the kid a list of things to find out is ridiculous. I guarantee that if he whips out this paper and starts asking questions, he’s never going to get a date again. Poor kid.
What kind of mother puts her “sex talk with son paper” on blast on twitter? That’s what I want to know. Her research is actually wrong, kids are waiting longer to have sex. I think an open dialogue is a good thing, but asking a girl if she is a virgin, to what end? Is he trying to find out if she is easy? Is he trying to find out if she has experience? Does she want him to get belted in the mouth and humiliated by his classmates? Let’s face it, the mothers in that class have been having a field day with this Brandi Glanville from day one. Don’t think for one second they didn’t all go out for coffee this morning to discuss her latest idiotic tweet. I am sure they have pity on mason. At least I hope they do. Being brought up by somebody with such a filthy mouth and demeanor must be really hard. having your mother say you feel up chicks in first grade (Jake) or need to know if girls are virgins (Mason) must be horrifying. A dumb drunk for a mother is a sad thing indeed.
I’m convinced she has BPD. She’s hyper focused on sex and of course that funnels down onto her children. The virginity question is totally inappropriate and disrespectful of the girl.
Hopefully the kid won’t be “whipping” anything out (but he does have Brandi’s genetics, so the odds aren’t good). 😉
She said it was for a one on one date. I wouldn’t let my kids be doing one on one dates that young. And if a kid asks my 12 year old if she is a virgin they will no longer be “dating”. And that is definitely no a question I would be encouraging my 12 year old son to ask another child.
There is a difference between being open and honest with your child about sex and encouraging sexual conversations between children to take place. I wonder what the girl’s parents think of this questionnaire?
IKR? I was thinking (not that its ok with boys) thank goodness she’s not directly influencing girls. She didn’t add a tampon string to that? They DO wear them younger and younger.
Such an inappropriate conversation. I have a boy and a girl. The boy is so busy with year round sports that he doesn’t have time. My advice to my son would be, don’t ever ask a girl a very personal question like does she have her period yet, or is she a virgin. Because her parents are going to demand a conference. However, I know he would never say such a thing at twelve. Nor would he be on a date at twelve. Not in a million years. He has the rest of his life to let females mess with his head. enjoy life while you can. If it was my daughter, I would call the parents and demand a meeting. I would strongly discourage the friendship without suggesting that he is a bad person, just a misguided one. And as for problems on the internet, Brandi, you ARE the problem.
People like you. This woman is absolutely incapable of looking in the mirror and saying I have to make some changes.
If I had a daughter I would probably not approve of her dating Brandi’s sons due to her reputation. Its unfair to the sons and makes me appear close minded because the boy down the street could be just a devious but so be it. She has a bad rep attached to her and now for some twisted reason is fucking with her son’s personal life before they can even grow into the individual person they want to be. She is such a fucked up person.
jen – I agree that’s it’s unfair to her sons, however, it’s precisely because of antics like this that I also would have serious reservations about my daughter (if I had one) date either of Brandi’s sons. So yes, while it IS unfair, it’s Brandi who’s being unfair to her sons, not any parents who may disapprove of their daughter getting involved with either of Brandi’s sons. It’s truly sad.
Also another time I take a deep breath and say thank goodness even though I haven’t slept in years….and they are pure choas…I only have boys!
WOAH! My daughter just turned 15 and isn’t really dating yet. I do allow her to go out with friends both boys and girls in a group and I did allow that at 12 but no one on one dating. The few friends my daughter had at 12 that were allowed to go on solo dates, were also having sex before they turned 13.
Minus the virgin question, that list isn’t horrible. Not necessary or appropriate at 12 IMO, but not horrible.
That poor boy. Why did she post this, again? To NOT embarrass her son? Or to prove she’s a great mom? Ridiculous. How many 12-year-olds are not virgins? None of these stupid questions make any sense, by the way. You can’t teach your children how to be good boyfriends or girlfriends. Not like this anyway. Like everything else you lead or teach by example.
Brandi is so lost. She is desperate for attention and has nothing the press is speaking about. so she turns to her sons and tries to force them to grow up too fast, so she can get media coverage.
And she announces it in ways that (she thinks) appear to put down others while showing what a terrific parent she is. Just pitiful. We should not give her a minute’s attention, yet here we are.
My son is 9, I am very close to my cousins kids, some in their early teens. I was actually talking to one of them about this yesterday. -she is 14. She said that question would freak her out and she would never talk to him again. BG is setting her boys up to be picked on as it is, does she not get it? It would be like a guy asking me on the first date how many ppl I have had sex with. Umm anyway…its inappropriate. BG has no clue when to stop. Maybe I am living in a bubble, it’s hard for me to believe that is a good question to ask a 12 girl.
What she’s doing is setting him up to violate another’s boundaries. She’s grooming him to be abusive IMO. I don’t think she knows any better or sees what’s wrong with it. Same with her comments about the younger one “feeling up” girls in his class – that’s violating boundaries and abusive, and she thinks it’s ok and funny. They are just kids and I’m certainly not blaming them at all. But Lisa V’s comment to Brandi’s mom, “I blame the parents”, though said in a joking manner, it is so true.
12 is too young for a one-on-one date. I don’t think kids should have one on one dates until they are in high school. What was she thinking about the virgin question? She never ceases to amaze.
She’s such an idiot.
She posted it because as always, attention whore. Her sons are very good looking little boys I have no doubt the girls go crazy to date them or get their attention but I hope she tones down her approach or she will embarrass them often.
I say set him up with Gia and see how that frosts his little cupcakes. She’d tell him to go scratch, lololol.
Librarygirl, I misconstrued your comment, and I apologize.
I see Brandi’s boys and the Beador girls authoring a book on how BravoTV the Real housewives franchise ducked up our lives.
Damon you auto correct. Fucked up.
LOLOLOL! Who’s Damon?! Is that the new guy Brandi’s “dating”? :0)
He’s the guy that works the autocorrect. I keep calling him damn but he only answers to damon
That was uncalled for, Librarygirl. Gia is a little girl. Would you like anyone talking about your daughter, niece, or little sister in that way?
I’m thinking it’s the exact point of this entire blog posting. You think they won’t be screwed up by their parents being made ‘stahs’ for a minute?
What did she say that was uncalled for? I think that Gia IS a tough enough little girl that if a boy asked her such a personal question she would definitely tell him off. I don’t think that is a bad thing at all. It certainly isn’t an insult to Gia.
IT IS TIME FOR EDDIE TO TAKE OVER!
seriously, don’t you think he is just as flawed as Brandi?
I’m sure he is, we just don’t see as much of him. He married Brandi after all, there has to be something wrong with him.
I went on one on one dates at that age. I wasn’t allowed to car date until I was 16.
All mama Brandi’s first dates should replace the sixth question with known STD’s and/ or the number of known partners. No hall pass for blackout sex.
I guess Brandi’s tweet accomplished her goal. No one was talking about her and now they are. So, now she has her next podcast topic at her son’s expense. What I don’t understand though, is how she posts these things designed to get a reaction and then gets upset with the reaction that she actively pursued.
As for the question about whether or not the girl is a virgin… When I was in high school there were certain boys who would ask girls that. The only reason was to somehow shame the girl in question. If they girl said yes they were teased for being a prude. If the girl said no, they were teased for being sluts. So no Brandi it is never ok for a kid to ask another kid that question, mainly because it is not anyone’s business, but also because it all goes back to somehow shaming the girl for either being sexual or not being sexual enough.
^^^^^ I love this comment so much.
Truth, pagangirl. though it wasn’t about sex in my case, I was just being pressured at 12 to go with this group of kids and “make out” with whomever. I didn’t feel comfy, I didn’t like it and I didn’t want to go- therefore I was harassed and called a prude daily for the last 2 years of elementary school. Literaly followed when I was outside and taunted. You better believe, though, that the girls who did go and did do more than make out, were getting talked about too. You can’t win, kids are evil little shits, honestly. I can’t imagine if I had a filthy mouthed mother like this for a role model.
One-on-one dating at that age isn’t anything I’ve heard of in L.A. I’m sure there are exceptions but it’s not wide-spread, that’s for sure. My daughter was allowed to date at the end of her junior year in high school. She was too busy in ballet to do much of anything else, so it didn’t matter too much. Her son may be very sweet, but I think I would worry about my daughter dating him. God only knows what he has been exposed to.
That list has some pretty appalling entries. Who would even think to ask a 12-year-old if she (or he) is a virgin??
The spelling speaks for itself. Or should I say “speeks?:
I hope the mothers of the girls read the list and forbid their daughters to go anywhere near him.
Well she blocked me on twitter, and I’m so upset about it (not), so I didn’t see this. My opinion is a 12 year old has no business going on a date, much less discussing whether or not they have had sex. But look who the poor kids mom is. Smh
And she complains about the stepmom. Wonder what Eddie thinks about this?
Only the virgin question bothers me … And in a big way.
I have to believe that Brandi had a highly sexualized childhood and some kind of trauma that stopped her maturity at a young age.
She’s so troubled and lacks the introspection to see herself as others do.
It isn’t surprising that Brandi hasn’t got healthy boundaries regarding her sons, since she rarely displayed self-control with her Bravo colleagues, either. She is not only an embarrassment but chooses to be a public embarrassment. At twelve, who can trust a parent who broadcasts a list like this? I would guess that her son is mortified and confused by his mother, and certainly this isn’t the first time. I feel that her behavior violates her son’s privacy and humiliates him. Chances are that someone did similar things to her when she was a kid, and the pattern is replicating itself. It is sad.
Bouji great comment, I totally agree. Brandi has some kind of trauma in her past for sure, even though she tries to make her parents sound great it is NOT NORMAL the way her dad shut her out when he was mad at her.
Wallace … interesting observation. She does seem to be stuck at the maturity level of a 13 year old.
Let me preface this by saying I’m not a Branditard nor do despise her either. I actually kind of feel for her and at the same time believe she does not do herself any favors with a lot of the things she does. I also think she’s got the haters here like Teresa has her huggers and people just jump on it with their existing filters; they’re both pretty polarizing that way.
That said….. Just looking at the list, the virginity question aside, I don’t think anything there is terribly out of line for a 12 yr old starting to ‘date’ group or otherwise either boy or girl and this is CA..12 yr old having a “boyfriend/girlfriend” is not unheard of. I see it as about getting to know the other person vs just talking all the time about yourself. I have no doubt Brandi has dated (or married) guys who have only talked about themselves (haven’t we all?) and wants her boys to be better (men) than that and get to know the girl. Embarrassing for the boys for their Mom to share that publicly? Sure…but then again even non-public parents embarrass their kids in their public environment too.
I could see myself doing something like this for my kids. I would leave out question about virginity and religion, as it is completely age inappropriate. It’s a nice thought to give him a list of questions and ideas to keep the conversation flowing and helping them get to know the person. Her heart was in the right place, but her methods were a mess.
Exactly!
Damn! I have been out of circulation for too long! I have never heard of a dating quiz before. We always just got to know each other through normal conversation. Times sure have changed.
In today’s world the kids will text the questions and answers back and forth across the table…
The virginity question reads to me as thinly veiled slut shamming on a 11-13 yesr old girl (assuming the firl is around the same age as her son).
I’m sure Brandi thinks she is just being ‘edgy’, but if I were the parent of the girl, I would gladly veto that date.
Yes! Lol email your solution shaming comment.
Crap! Getting used to new tablet. NOT LOL. I love your comment.
My comment isn’t any better. Those spelling mistakes. ?
It’s saying it’s important whether the girl is a virgin or not when really it shouldn’t matter.
What happened to “do you like me? Check yes or no?”
Yesss!!! How about a nice game of MASH?
This is so offensive on so many levels. This is a 12 year old girl. How about we start treating children like children. Obviously she was brought up with no moral compass and is now passing her experience along to her children. If I were the parents of the 12 year child I would squash this date immediately. I do feel sorry for her children.
12 year olds do not date.
I was a progressive mother, talked sex, HIV, condoms (why girls don’t want them used) why some girls have sex young (usually abuse) not to take advantage, and so on. Had very open sex talks in the car with team mates on the way to sports games in middle school.
There wasn’t embarrassment, not one pregnancy in the group and yes they remained friends thru HS.
Boys did not want to date until they had cars at 16 then with Calif law they had to wait. As a group they met places.
My boys were popular, played sports and this is how they liked it also.
Brandi is trash and thinks like trash.
Agree 100% with your last sentence. She was on Twitter attempting to defend posing the virgin question to a 12 year old and how other parents don’t “motherfucking get it” and “motherfucking check yourself” and all I could think was TRASH. Way to make your point.
I agree. 12 year old children should not date. I also made sure my child knew about sex, birth control, stds and no means no. He did not become a teen dad. At 12 he looked at girls, but he was no iterested in dating. We, as a society, over sexualize our children.
12 yr olds should be group dating. Real dates should start at 16.
That virgin question is ridiculous for a 12 yr old girl or for a girl at any age. Really, what the hell was she thinking…or was she drunk when she wrote it? More than likely.
Yes, educate kids on sex but no to inappropriate questions. Hope the poor kid didnt get slapped. ?
Something tells me that Brandi’s kids probably have more sense than she does. Imagine being a 12 year old boy in this situation. You like this girl and you want her to like you back. So you’re going to be careful about what you say. I bet the first words out of Brandi’s son’s mouth on his date will be “Sorry about my mom, she can be kind of a spaz.”
Awww…I sure hope so. Her boys are adorable. ??
I get that Brandi does stuff like this to gain attention, but she reaally needs to leave her children out of her publicity stunts. Being a preteen/teenager is hard enough without your lush of a Mother posting all of your personal info on Twitter for the world to see.
Brandi usese technology as an excuse, but having grown up with the internet (albeit AOL) I still was pretty innocent until later in high school. It’s all in how people raise their children and she’s setting hers up to follow in her crooked footsteps sadly.
I just…ugh..
Being through the family courts twice in my life i can guarantee whatever she says or does with her boys in the media including social media is BOUND to be brought up in court. I do not understand while she carries on the way she does when she claims shes a great mom.
Sure call your kid an asshole on your podcast but a great mom would not be giving out examples of her parenting approaches when it’s in the court of law. I know it takes a lot to get the change of care shifted but if she cared that much she wouldn’t be giving so much ammo to the other party.
Her poor kids.
I don’t think her boy will even follow through with this. 12 y/o me would be mortified.
Brandi is so proud of herself but she should learn a lesson from Tamra Barney & Sophia before it’s too late…
Even if the girl is not a virgin it’s really not Brandi’s business.
This actually smells likes shes wanting to cozy up to another powerful family. I’m hoping the answer to number 5 is Leanne Rimes (Pllleeeeaassse)
Hobbys. What are there names?
Holly and Bobby.
Okay to teach your kid some questions to start a conversation. What’s your favorite movie yada yada yada. But what the fuck is the purpose asking a girl that question? It is disgusting and weird. Quite frankly, it is not an appropriate question at any age unless you’re at the point of contemplating sex with each other. If her son asks this at school, he could get into serious trouble and possibly suspended for sexual harassment. As he should be. If I were this girl’s mother, or father for that matter, I would be losing my shit. Hope to God that this doesn’t mean that her son isn’t a virgin. My question is why does she think it is important that he know that information? What is he going to do with it? How depending on the answer does that change his behavior toward the girl? All in all, I am completely disgusted.
TT… far as I know, you and I are three only ones with teaching experience. If you had a boy student who told you that his mother told him to ask a girl, a particular girl in class if she was a virgin, or if a girl student came to you and said Jake’s mom told him to ask me if I was a virgin, what would you do? Frankly this would cause me to at least contemplate calling CPS.
I’d kick it to the social worker who would make the CPS call. I’d call the mother and say ” Did you know your kid said you told him to ask Susie if she is a virgin? Could you please explain to him what that word means so he understands it is inappropriate to ask at school? Oh and btw, obvious this is an issue that requires him to be set to the social worker for assessment. I imagine the vice principal will also be talking to him. You might want to come to the school. See you soon!
That said, she never said to ask the girl any of these questions. These are things that Brandi thinks a 12 year old should know about his date before taking her out.
True… about them not being actual questions, but 12 year olds are so damn literal, that I could see him asking directly.
Yep, probably would kick that one to the counselor/social worker. Might not tip off mom ahead of time though, not knowing if there was a deeper atory.
Oh great, so he can talk to the other boys to find out if she’s a virgin or not…ugh! Creepy!
Aside from the virgin question and the narcissistic “what do you like about me” (which are most likely for internet attention) these are more ice breakers and conversation starters. “oh you have a dog, me too…” most 12 year old I know, including the one that lives in my house need some help in the conversation department.
Some of the items on her list seem harmless enough, but I’ll admit, the virgin thing threw me.. Back in the midwest 80s, we didn’t have dates at age twelve. The best we kids could hope for was a school “steady” to carry our books to class or walk us to our school buses, or you would have someone to partner up with for the afternoon school dance that occasionally took place during the last 2 periods of a Friday. Telephone time with school crushes were fairly limited in the home, and while questions about favorite colors & clothes were standard fare for conversation (80s boys were vain, it was all about Izod shirts, penny loafers, & their first “expensive” male cologne, usually “Polo”, or whatever dudes were wearing on newly created MTV ,HA!) – ummm, we weren’t approaching questions about virginity yet. That was the furthest thing from anybody’s mind; we were too busy being terrified of our (seemingly) fascist dictator teachers or dancing to songs from Thriller. Even if there are those who would argue with technology and the generational gap as an excuse for that level of conversation between 12 year olds, I would still disagree. Understanding respectful boundaries in conversations begins at home. In my head can hear the voice of any niece or grand niece I have in that age range simply replying ( as dry as sandpaper), ” Excuse me, but that is a completely inappropriate question.” and keeping it moving until they later go to tell mom or dad.
So the kid going on a first date with a girl at age 12 constitutes being her boyfriend? Isn’t she jumping the gun in about a million ways there?
I am not a parent, but I can tell you I was allowed to “like” boys, or have crushes at that age and hang out with boys in my group of friends, but not go on an actual date. My parents’ rule for that was high school, not before age 14 or 15. I tend to think that’s a good age.
So I think it’s a bit off that she’s ok with her 12 yr old dating and that she thinks it’s ok for him to be someone’s bf, not to mention thinks it’s appropriate to even ask whether a 12 yr old girl is a virgin or not. God help the world. 12 yr olds should not be having sex, this makes my head hurt.
I don’t think a boy should ask a girl if she’s a virgin at ANY age. Vice-versa also, of course.
This may be slightly off topic but this whole thing has had me thinking. I was molested as a young girl. I grew up in a family where these things were never to be talked about and I was in my 30s before I got the help I needed to get perspective on what had happened to me. If a boy had asked me when I was 11-13 or so if I was a virgin I think it may have pushed me off the edge. I am not the only one who has experienced this sort of thing and a question like that could be extremely damaging.
I think 12 is way too young to date…although I don’t know if it was a group thing or not but still…he’s 12. Secondly this list of questions to ask is just dumb…again They are 12. The virgin question is absolutely disgusting to me. Why would you ever want your son to ask that of a girl? That is just bizarre to me. But this is Brandi we are talking about. I feel for those boys. How embarrassing for them. Smh…
I was astounded when I saw this list. The sad thing is Brandi really thought this was making her a super cool clued up mom. When she was challenged she basically told everyone who was horrified that they had no clue and were ignorant if they didn’t think kids at 12 were talking about these things. What she fails spectacularly to understand is that while kids might talk about stuff it does not mean that parents have to normalize it! The question had nothing to do with talking about the bees and the birds, it had nothing to do with awareness or boundaries. It was purely provocative and served more to try and make her look cool to her son than to make him a better boyfriend. There is a huge difference between talking openly about sex and relationships and telling your child that this is a perfectly normal question to ask another 12 year old. What about teaching him boundaries and respect – wouldn’t that be better for both him and his future dates? I really just can’t understand what the point of it was – why does she think it is an important question?
Sigh while Brandi’s children grow up she maintains the mentality of a horny 12 year old boy! Are we really shocked?
I was 15 before my parents even allowed me to couch sit with a boy. My goodness! One on one dates at 12? At 12 I was still playing with Sonic the Hedgehog and Barbie dolls! I wasn’t even thinking about boys on that level.
But… Maybe I was a late bloomer, and maybe I’m old fashioned now. Maybe this is just how it is in 2015 and Brandi is actually facing reality. Kids will always sneak and do what they want. I snuck out of the house many times as a teen and let’s not even talk about how wild I and other sheltered girls like me became in college. And maybe since she is developing an open door kind of relationship with her sons, they will be more grounded and well-adjusted later in life.
I don’t have any kids, and honestly, I think the open approach is best. My nephew is the best kid I know and he was never sheltered from anything. His mom let him drink, so now that he’s in college it’s no big deal. He was allowed to drive and take the car out until he felt like coming home, he’d come home by midnight, on his own. He graduated high school with honors, while in a gifted program and is a Chemistry major at a medically-oriented undergraduate school with plans to become a surgeon. He’s also on his university’s football team, volunteers in Christian programs, tutors his classmates. He has a girlfriend, and she’s innocent and sweet just like him. They took each other’s virginity this year and plan to get married after med school. That’s the kind of kid I want. And I don’t think he would have turned out the same way if he wasn’t exposed to real life until he was older.
I think that being open and forthcoming with kids and treating them like they have their own brain instead of sheltering them and making decisions for them, helps them to learn how to make good choices in life. They think about consequences and understand them at an earlier age and they become mature, productive adults. I can’t believe I’m saying this, but I actually think Brandi is being a good parent here, sans the fact that she shared this on social media.
You know, I don’t think it is really a question about whether or not Brandi should be open with her children when discussing sex. I think it is more an issue about what is and isn’t appropriate for a kid to ask another kid. By saying that the status of the girl’s virginity is information that Mason should have, Brandi crosses a boundary that really shouldn’t be crossed. It isn’t Mason’s business whether or not his date is a virgin. And I think that is true regardless of what age he is.
What she says is that these are things he should know about her. She does NOT say this is a list of things he should ask her. It may be common knowledge in her school whether she’s a virgin or not. Also, my first boyfriend and I discussed the fact that I was a virgin very openly. My opinion is that if Mason is thinking of having sex with her (cringe, he’s only 12) then it IS his business to know whether she is a virgin or not.
I always find people’s chosen names on blogs interesting. I generally find people with “truth” in their names the most full of shit. Also people with Mommy in their name tend to be on the Tamra Judge parenting plan. And today, I’ll say that people to call themselves, “Classy” don’t know the meaning of that word, or the work “lady.” What a crude and disgusting commented. Isn’t encouraging child sex acts a felony offense? Despicable.
@ClassyLady80: What possible reason can you have in thinking that Mason should know, “if he plans on having sex with her” if she’s a virgin or not? You mention that you and your first boyfriend discussed “openly” that YOU were a virgin. Are you kidding me? What about him? Talk about double standards. smfh
How would he find out if she is a virgin unless he asked her or asked his classmates? How would finding out that information without asking her directly in any way be appropriate? And if these are things that he should know before his first date with her, what business is it of his whether or not she is a virgin? Are we to assume that 12 year old Mason is contemplating having sex with her prior to even establishing any type of relationship with her? And even if that is the case, isn’t this her personal business to volunteer to him and not something he has any right to know unless she wants him to?
That question has NOTHING to do with having an open relationship with your child. It is about another person’s child!! How on earth will Mason find out unless he asks her? Are you seriously suggesting that a boy should ask around to see if a girl he wants to date is a virgin?!! What so people can gossip and spread stories about a 12 year old girl? What difference does it make to him whether she is or isn’t a virgin? No matter what age he is why would he need that information? For what purpose exactly?
These are things he should find out before dating her? the only way to do that is to ask her, or ask around school about her. Either way it is a recipe for disaster. For Mason. Also, the religion question offends me. Does a twelve year old know if they are religious or not, or do they just know what their parents are exposing them to? What kind of stupid question is that?
She is so damn stupid that it is a crime. Nobody, of any age or gender should be talking about a little girl’s virginity except her and the parents if necessary. At twelve, if you gotta ask that question, you are in a spot of trouble already. Should he ask her if she has gotten her period yet? I mean, that is just to demonstrate the inappropriateness of the question. How about if she is wearing a training bra. the whole thing reeks of perversity, Brandi. You are officially a pervert, congratulations.
Why do people keep saying “aside from the virgin question, these are ok questions”…the virgin question IS THE ISSUE!
Exactly!! No one cares
I read some of the concerned tweets Brandi received as well as Brandi’s responses to them. Her argument is that people have their heads in the sand if they believe 12 is too young to talk to your children about sex since kids that age DO have sex. She is a fucking moron! This has nothing to do with her talking to her son about sex and everything to do with: 1) dating at 12; 2) advising him to ask a girl if she’s a virgin. Absolutely it’s a good thing for parents to talk to their kids about sex at 12 or sooner. One reason it’s so important is because of kids with a parent like Brandi who encourages her sons to ask girls inappropriate questions and bring up sex on a “date.”
I held
up a sports bra in Walmart once to ask my 12 yr old if it would work for her. She was mortified and remembers this as an adult. Lol. If I had published anything like that– omg. I don’t imagine I’d be alive today. That’s awful, Brandi Glanville.
Wow, Brandi is really sick.