I have no idea why this posted in the middle of the night. I was up, and I had started moving the blog parts I wanted to purple pen in last night and planned to save it for today. Weird that it posted. I must have hit the wrong button last night or something.
I THINK Stella is getting her groove back? It’s just taking some time. The last year had been a long painful journey for me and coming back to the show and filming scared me. I really did feel like I had been hit by a truck and I was learning to function again. What most people didn’t know I was going through some really painful issues while filming (last year) and I was not allowed to talk about them on camera for legal reasons. My ex-husband put me and the children thorough a painful custody battle that lasted a year. A year of court dates, attorney fees, sleepless nights, scared children, therapy appointments, false media stories, lies, embarrassment, but most of all the worst pain I had ever felt. These are memories that me and my children will never forget. This is pain that has changed each one of my kids in different ways. My two youngest kids are closer to me than ever. My oldest daughter has chosen to go live with her dad and every day without her is painful for me.
One reason I didn’t work on the post right away is I wanted to refresh my memory on the outcome of the case. The judge didn’t change anything about the custody agreement, it is all 50/50 EXCEPT for the 16-year-old who asked the judge to give Simon full custody. Tamra has visitation every other weekend and for a few set hours during the week and whenever else the daughter chooses to see her.
The press can be extremely hurtful and most of the time cause unnecessary stress in your life. They called me “monster mom, child abuser, unfit mother.” They said “my husband was leaving me, that I was fired from RHOC.” And none of it was true. The truth is the judge threw out the case without even hearing my testimony. There was NO evidence, NO witnesses and NO truth to any of it. Now I am left to pick up all the pieces and find my happy again.
Okay, here you are being an idiot. It was not “the press” it was one website who does not check facts and is notorious for misleading headlines. Yet, you continue to name the site (Rhymes with “Day Bar of Mine”) giving it even more hits. You need to stop reading that site. Sadly lots of sites get their “facts” from there and the stories go wild. But you don’t have to read there.
I tell you all this because not because I want your sympathy, but because you will hear me say on occasion “how bad last year was” I just want you to know it’s not because of what happened in Bali, although that didn’t help my state of mind.
Heather has been a wonderful friend to me and was one person that really helped me get through some hard days. I remember one day she called me and she cried on the phone with me because she knew how much I was hurting. That’s a good friend and I will never forget her being there for me.
Be careful with that one. I’m just saying…
But with every bad thing comes something good. When I felt I was at my lowest I went to church and my life changed forever. I am excited to share my journey with you. Already people are reporting that my faith is “fake” or “I had no storyline” and all I can say to them is keep watching and I hope you are inspired by my story. I am not perfect and I never will be, but now I got the man upstairs helping me thorough life. You’ll see me slip up, make bad decisions and do things without thinking…that’s just me! Like I said if you don’t like it you can SUCK IT!
Speaking for myself, people who have religious values that I admire don’t scream it from the mountain tops. Religion and wealth are both similar in that those who have a lot of either don’t have to advertise it, it is easily observable. Perhaps Tamra will find that kind of religion or spirituality in the future. But screaming to the world, I have God on my side and if you don’t like it you can suck it!” Doesn’t impress me. #FixItJesus
Thank you to all the teenagers and parents that have reached out to me on social media sharing their stories about parental alienation and how it affected their life. It’s helped me get through and understand a lot of things. Parental alienation is child abuse and needs to be recognized in the court of law.
From my limited observation, I don’t know that this is “parental alienation.” What we have here is a teenager with a mother who acts like a teenager and seems to have the maturity of a teenager. When Tamra and the daughter fight on social media and one side or another lets that information out to the public, it’s a very unhealthy environment. All of Tamra’s arguments with her teenage daughter have been all over the Internet (whether Simon was responsible or not, the fact is they were out there). And the daughter herself said several times she did not want to have those kinds of discussions anywhere else besides the therapists office where someone could referee. Both sides need to leave the courts out of the friction between mother and daughter other than custody issues.
Tamra went on much further to discuss the episode. She said that Vicki had invited her to join the Shannon faction after the party and only texted to tell her the bar was going to close soon so she needed to hurry up and get there. Which is NOT how she made it look to Meghan. A normal person would have just said goodbye to the hostess without saying where she was going. It was late and time to leave anyway.