I have no idea why this posted in the middle of the night. I was up, and I had started moving the blog parts I wanted to purple pen in last night and planned to save it for today. Weird that it posted. I must have hit the wrong button last night or something.
I THINK Stella is getting her groove back? It’s just taking some time. The last year had been a long painful journey for me and coming back to the show and filming scared me. I really did feel like I had been hit by a truck and I was learning to function again. What most people didn’t know I was going through some really painful issues while filming (last year) and I was not allowed to talk about them on camera for legal reasons. My ex-husband put me and the children thorough a painful custody battle that lasted a year. A year of court dates, attorney fees, sleepless nights, scared children, therapy appointments, false media stories, lies, embarrassment, but most of all the worst pain I had ever felt. These are memories that me and my children will never forget. This is pain that has changed each one of my kids in different ways. My two youngest kids are closer to me than ever. My oldest daughter has chosen to go live with her dad and every day without her is painful for me.
One reason I didn’t work on the post right away is I wanted to refresh my memory on the outcome of the case. The judge didn’t change anything about the custody agreement, it is all 50/50 EXCEPT for the 16-year-old who asked the judge to give Simon full custody. Tamra has visitation every other weekend and for a few set hours during the week and whenever else the daughter chooses to see her.
The press can be extremely hurtful and most of the time cause unnecessary stress in your life. They called me “monster mom, child abuser, unfit mother.” They said “my husband was leaving me, that I was fired from RHOC.” And none of it was true. The truth is the judge threw out the case without even hearing my testimony. There was NO evidence, NO witnesses and NO truth to any of it. Now I am left to pick up all the pieces and find my happy again.
Okay, here you are being an idiot. It was not “the press” it was one website who does not check facts and is notorious for misleading headlines. Yet, you continue to name the site (Rhymes with “Day Bar of Mine”) giving it even more hits. You need to stop reading that site. Sadly lots of sites get their “facts” from there and the stories go wild. But you don’t have to read there.
I tell you all this because not because I want your sympathy, but because you will hear me say on occasion “how bad last year was” I just want you to know it’s not because of what happened in Bali, although that didn’t help my state of mind.
Heather has been a wonderful friend to me and was one person that really helped me get through some hard days. I remember one day she called me and she cried on the phone with me because she knew how much I was hurting. That’s a good friend and I will never forget her being there for me.
Be careful with that one. I’m just saying…
But with every bad thing comes something good. When I felt I was at my lowest I went to church and my life changed forever. I am excited to share my journey with you. Already people are reporting that my faith is “fake” or “I had no storyline” and all I can say to them is keep watching and I hope you are inspired by my story. I am not perfect and I never will be, but now I got the man upstairs helping me thorough life. You’ll see me slip up, make bad decisions and do things without thinking…that’s just me! Like I said if you don’t like it you can SUCK IT!
Speaking for myself, people who have religious values that I admire don’t scream it from the mountain tops. Religion and wealth are both similar in that those who have a lot of either don’t have to advertise it, it is easily observable. Perhaps Tamra will find that kind of religion or spirituality in the future. But screaming to the world, I have God on my side and if you don’t like it you can suck it!” Doesn’t impress me. #FixItJesus
Thank you to all the teenagers and parents that have reached out to me on social media sharing their stories about parental alienation and how it affected their life. It’s helped me get through and understand a lot of things. Parental alienation is child abuse and needs to be recognized in the court of law.
From my limited observation, I don’t know that this is “parental alienation.” What we have here is a teenager with a mother who acts like a teenager and seems to have the maturity of a teenager. When Tamra and the daughter fight on social media and one side or another lets that information out to the public, it’s a very unhealthy environment. All of Tamra’s arguments with her teenage daughter have been all over the Internet (whether Simon was responsible or not, the fact is they were out there). And the daughter herself said several times she did not want to have those kinds of discussions anywhere else besides the therapists office where someone could referee. Both sides need to leave the courts out of the friction between mother and daughter other than custody issues.
Tamra went on much further to discuss the episode. She said that Vicki had invited her to join the Shannon faction after the party and only texted to tell her the bar was going to close soon so she needed to hurry up and get there. Which is NOT how she made it look to Meghan. A normal person would have just said goodbye to the hostess without saying where she was going. It was late and time to leave anyway.
Yeah Tamra, alright. So your custody issues are why you went to Shannon and Heather individually, and told bold-faced lies to each of them about the other. (Also known as the “Let’s you and her fight” game). Whatever you say.
Hopefully, your new “faith” has made you a better person, but…I don’t see it so far.
Exactly. After reading all that crap, I came away from it thinking she is just making excuses. I can’t really tell a difference in her personality from one season to the next…she’s always been a bitch, and mean to people. She didn’t seem any different last season to me than any other season. Same ole Tamra.
I don’t buy into anything this woman says to make herself appear as the mother of the year or a reformed sinner. Over the years I have watched her mercilessly and methodically destroy anyone she can and she has probably tried to destroy her ex-husband for his disapproving ways. Simon was no saint but Tamra is evil to the marrow.
Eventually each cast member will have a turn in the barrel with Tamra as she is feral and needs fresh meat to sate her feelings of greed, jealousy, envy.
And now religion. Her newest get out of jail excuse for when she goes on a rant. She’s sickening.
Right on.
You write so well. Loved your descriptions!
Mmm hmm. Word em up, Dracla.
Tamra lost me when she insisted on speaking to how close she is with her younger children. She is suppose to be. Unless of course she is trying to say she is closer than Simon to the youngest two and then she should shut her mouth.
Simon pretty much got what he wanted and that was an order saying the oldest daughter didn’t have to go to mom’s house.
I was right there with her…… Until she accused her ex of parental alienation on a BRAVO BLOG and accused her very capable daughter of being brainwashed. Maybe she is embarrassed by a mother who says ‘suck it’. Did I mention I actually like Tamra? i just have my own custody issues and that’s gross.
I’m not speaking to my own mother currently. She is blocked from all forms of communicating with me. I am a grown adult who has lived away from her for more years than I lived/near with her at this point. She is a narcissist. Everyone who doesn’t understand, look up the effects of narcissistic mothers on their children, more specifically, their daughters. I am fully resolved in my decision that no communication is best for now, especially after she spread slander about my boyfriend and myself, threw him under the bus for an addiction he was trying to detox from to any and everyone…my dear sweet grandparents included. I have a much MUCH better relationship with my own father now that her chaos, drama, and manipulations are out of my life. I’m sure she’s also saying he has brainwashed me now too. Classic case of a narcissist. I feel for Tamra’s daughter. I hope she can heal while she’s still young instead of dragging it into her adult life. A narcissistic mother is one of the worst types of abusers out there. It’s a sick cycle carousel.
I don’t believe a word Tamra says or writes. ‘I have found Jesus’–what bull shit. I feel really sorry for her kids. At least her eldest daughter got out.
One of my dearest, nicest friends is a devout Christian. She lives it. I’ve never been proselytized by her and she rarely mentions God, Jesus, The Lord or the Holy Spirit in regular, ordinary conversation. Another friend is a pastor getting his Ph.D. in theology. He’s very quiet and sweet. Same thing, very normal, good people.
Tamra has in the past been very quick to tell people “you’re going to hell” when she’s upset with them. Has Jesus fixed that shitty-ass-showing behavior? Hmmm?
Tamar Judge is the devil. Full stop.
Yes she is. How conveeeenient!
LOL! Total SNL “Church Lady ” flashback
Now what could it be that’s influencing Tamra’s dirty, sinful behavior? Oh my, my, my, my, my. Could it beeeeeeee………SATAN?!!!!!
Explains why Mr. Judge is with her.
The post looks weird to me. I see no purple pen or title.
It was a holiday yesterday. Hope you’re OK Tamra! 🙂
Oops I meant Tamara…so sorry. Hope you have a great day. Thanks for the blog 🙂
It looks like WordPress is not working right. More storms?
You inspire no one, Tamra. Maybe to change the channel, but that’s about it.
Ugh, this woman is just the worst.
As the Grinch would say…hate, hate, hate, hate, hate, loathe entirely.
Naked, purple-less post. WordPress went wonky after too many fireworks.
Lol. I was a little confused at first…
Everyone finds God on their knees but it doesnt necessarily make them better people. There is rarely a magical transformation. She is probably still a manipulative cuntsatchel.
It takes self awareness and accepting responsibility for your actions to grow and become a better person. This post shows she has accepted no responsibility for what got her in the courtroom and why her daughter wants nothing to do with her.
Welcome to the Kingdom, Jesus Jugs! Wonder if that period of her life is flashing through that small brain of hers? If you believe it’s not nice to fool Mother Nature, then you need to read the book that comes with your salvation and what happens when you are using God.
I hope she is saved, and yes, I am a Christian. I love the saying, “Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future.” The Bible says that when you know Jesus, you will be known by your fruit. So I guess we’ll see if anything about her has changed.
Yes! I wanna see her on the show with Madea, Sister O’dell and Sister Bernice. You know what they’d tell her? “Shut up you dirty heifer!!!”
I can see it wont be a popular opinion but I will give hers chance to redeem herself this year. Being broken down to your lowest point can sometimes give you some life lessons and if she found God during that journey I’m glad. She will still make mistakes. A common misconception is that all the sudden Christians are supposed to now live perfect lives. I just hope she is not making a mockery for TV.
@Cheychey, I agree with you. I hope she finds joy and peace. Tamra has always been my most despised housewife, replaced by Meghan, and I hope she can turn her life around. Get off of the Bravocoaster.
She is truly the Queen of Delusion!
With all the enhanced boobs, butts and lips you would think science would come up with a Personality Transplant.
Tamra needs a new one.
Sure Tamra, “Suck it” is the massage the Lord wants you, as his vessel, to pass along to nay-sayers… This woman. I. Just. Can’t.
I think tamra is totally sincere in her religious turnaround. Sure.
So much so that I am now going to live by “What would Tamra do?” instead of that other guy.
“Tamra” and “Christian” should never be included in the same sentence without the preface “Un”. I’m not a christian, of course, but I know when I don’t see one.
Where’s my violin?
If she didnt talk about how could people reach out to her? Does any one believe that people actually did reach out?….for what?
Post is fixed and purple penned now.
On Sun, Jul 5, 2015 at 1:43 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Bless you!! Glad you are OK 🙂
Thanks for the fix and added info. My guess is Tamra will play both sides against each other, because that’s what Jesus would do.
At one point recent posts looked odd, just names no title of post. So WordPress may have been hinky 🙂
Where did you get the top picture of Tamra.Her expression looks like the posessed girl, Regan, from The Exorcist. Bad picture.
I thought it was the perfect picture.
On Sun, Jul 5, 2015 at 2:55 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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I am sure it is one Tamra would like to consign to oblivion.
Glad to hear it. I was afraid the Purple People Eater got the purple pen.
Wow…..I am sure Many people here didn’t get THAT old pop culture reference. LOL just revealed how old I am.
The fringe highlight in that first picture is REALLY upsetting me. I’m no hairdresser, but isn’t that verging on a tiger stripe?
This bitch is such a f*cking victim. Alway blaming everyone else around her but never herself. Always making excuses. Of all the housewives on all the shows, I think Tamra is the most vicious and disgusting of all. I can think of one tiny redeeming thing about all the other ones, even if it’s something small. This one though, I can’t think of anything good or nice about her. I think she’s a sociopath.
For some reason I can’t have but so much hate in my heart and MEK has it all. Tamra isn’t so bad compared to her. I wonder if she will miss being the “Mean Girl”?
Ha, I was thinking the same thing. I’ll give Tamra a chance here and see if she “proves” herself. Meghan, not redeemable in the near future anyway.
Never condoned but I sure do understand Tamra. Her most honest moments were during the women’s expo where she shared her need for love and attention no matter what form that came in and its subsequent attempts at suicide. She’s created a drama vortex so she never has to look very deeply at herself. Unlike BG, I bet Tamra does have a tiny bit of being self aware somewhere inside, she took accountability for the bad year without blaming production. I do hope the religion sticks or comes, agree with you TT, shouting SUCK IT doesn’t sound like something Jesus would be overhead saying!
I know this isn’t the place where it was defended but I can’t find it, remember someone talking about the Alaskan bush people and you were on the fence, several of us were all OMG so real!!!!!! Well I got some insider info, load of crap staged, overly produced etc, makes ang housewife seem really real and organic!!!
I was way way wrong and I’m sorry!!!
Are you talking about Jewel’s relatives or those really busted up people who look like a broke ass biker gang. I’ve read that it’s staged too. And I believe it. Every time they go hunting or fishing it becomes very obvious that they’re full of beans.
“Jesus knows all about our troubles
According to Steve Harvey, Sister O’dell liked to cuss a lot too. In church, during bible study, no less! Here’s one of her “Praise The Lord” songs. If you know the words, feel free:
I’m gone tell ya how good God’s been
I’m gone tell ya how good God’s been
the weather started getting rough,
the tiny ship was tossed
if it wasn’t for the courage of the crew
the minnow would be lost,
i said the minnow would be lost
i’m talking bout the love boat
exciting and brand new
i’m talking bout the love boat
a new adventure for you
now we up in the big league,
got my turn at bat
as long as we live
it’s you and sweet Jesus,
there ain’t nothing wrong with that
Well we’re movin on up!
Ha! I don’t mind cussing, I think it’s an arbitrary thing. I just think Tamra’s too dumb (and probably drunk) to engage in a real war of words.
Bwahahah. You’re a mess.
@ Tamara … Preach!
Don’t like the parental alienation accusations…..that is pretty serious. Will definitely poke the bear with Simon. And she states how she has become closer with her younger children…..is this implying they are less close with Simon now? She seems like such a game player and a huge part of the problem in this sad situation.
Jesus Jugs 2.0
In the words of Billy Graham, going to church doesn’t make you a christian any more than going to a garage makes you an automobile! I have to many of my won feelings about church and christianity and when I explain how I feel about it then people understand. You cannot hold god in 4 walls, anywhere 2 or more people are discussing the word of god that is fellowshipping and is church. I do not feel she has changed, and she has always played the victim so well. The things is, divorced parents need to love their kids more than they hate their ex.
I think some women need to get over thinking they are the only parent who counts. Tamra wanted a divorce, she got it, but why does she think that automatically guarantees her sole custody? I see other women act like this too, and the concern for the well being and the child being happiest is not the consideration. Its all about ego, winning or being old fashioned and antiquated about that one domain. Men are just as capable of being awesome dedicated parents as women are. So the daughter wants to live with her dad. If Tamra was a good mom she would graciously accept her decesion and wish her well and not make a big deal of it. Tamra is the one who broke up the family, and now she hurts her kids further by making them be in a position of choosing sides.