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I wake up in the middle of the night and come to the faithful blog to find its writer up and on a life changing venture. Glad to catch you at this time.
You should! Confined spaces in life keep us from evolving into our truest potential. Challenge, adversity and change promote growth. It’s hard to transition. I’m still stuck. If a reader can give you a nudge to start walking the path, I’d love to encourage you. Everyone needs a little shoving sometimes. Good luck!
I’m totally freaking out. I have been up all night. drinking and freaking out. I have to sleep. I have to get a mani pedi I have nothing to wear. like I can’t FIT into ANYTHING. Can I go in my old man PJs they are really cute… Oh fuck I am going to bail again.
On Fri, May 22, 2015 at 6:28 AM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
Go take a hot shower or bath with somthing that smells like lavender. Put on those new PJs.Have a cup of hot water with lemon and honey. Take a xanex. Take some aspirin. Turn off the TV. Turn off the phone. Turn off the lap top. Darken your bedroom. Soothing music. Get into bed. Sleep. God is in his heaven and all is right with your blog.
You have a ton of readers that love you and the best dog in the world.
Miley Cyrus goes out in pjs, so why can’t you?? ficecatsownme is right, shower, fix your hair, put on your pjs and go have a spa day! Jump! Jump! Jump!
What are you going to bail on, a date?
As a commenter who has a girl crush on you, I think you can and should step out of your comfort zone. You have such a strong personality there’s got to inevitably be a strong sense of self and confidence within you as well. Maybe it’s just been stifled for awhile for some reason but take those baby steps and get out there girl. You’re an inspiration to a lot of your readers who identify with you, if you do it then we can too!
P.S. I know it’s not always as easy as, “just do it” so please don’t think I’m trying to oversimplify whatever it is you’re going through, I’m not.
Yes Ma’am!!! Do it! I can’t wait to read about your adventure!
In other news, there’s a &*%*$# frost/freeze warning up here in NEPA Damn Yankee territory here tonight. This has got to be a record. Drops mic. Walks away.
Well Jesus. you need to buy the Goliath plant if you are a yankee ( I have one) and otherwise you won’t EVER have a tomato. Sending Duke’s mayonnaise thoughts.
On Fri, May 22, 2015 at 6:35 AM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
@kendrawm -My AC has been running full blast here in Florida. I thought I was going to die the other day when I was standing in the checkout line in the garden department at Lowes. I couldn’t wait to get back in my car and turn the AC on.
In Florida, you sort of get used to the summer heat by saying several times a day, “My God, it’s FUCKING HOT out here.” And then you go about your business. The worst part is going from freezing AC to sweltering humidititty from the bowels of Satan’s Hell. As long as you stay in ou out, you kind o acclimate. Frankly, I don’t find Central Florida heat any hotter than suburban MD between Baltimore and DC . . .fucing HOT is fucking HOT.
I’m in Massachusetts NBJ…it’s awful isn’t it? But it’s pretty normal for most of us not to put maters in the ground till almost June. We’ll get fruit, just a lot later than the rest of y’all!
@kendrawnm @Romen – I thought it was a joke when I got the alert on my phone for a frost/freeze tonight. Granted, we usually don’t plant BEFORE Memorial Day, but DAYUM – this is cutting it close! I’m going to have to blanket everything again for a second time in a week…smh
NBJ, Thank You!!! I never plant before memorial day, now a days people look at me like I have 3 heads when I say that. Hello we live in friggen NE, we can still get a frost, stop planting your shit! I went to my 25th High School Reunion in PA the first weekend in May, on Sunday driving back 30 degree difference between RI and PA. PA were were sweating RI it was freezing.
Tell me about it! It’s been HOT here except for this week. Mother’s Day I was outside planting and got a 2nd degree sunburn and then sun poisoning and then ended up with a first class cold sore across my entire top lip. Every time I get a bad sunburn I get the cold sore. Now FROST??? Are you effing kidding me?
Well, no matter now. It’s been a rotten day. My bf, the CRIER, dumped me. Packed his shit and left. Turned off the utiltities on a holiday weekend, and I have $150 to my name. He knows I just started working from home but not getting paid for a while yet. I am an absolute wreck. What a fucking douchebag.
@neverbeenjaxed Take a deep breath. I am feeling your anxiety. Don’t make any rash decisions unless you have to. Give it a minute to sink in and then do what you do best . . . SURVIVE. . .and you will survive. Nothing has to be decided within the next 24 hours, so just take the time to collect yourself and decide your next move. Ultimately, you will by OK, like you always are after a life-changing disaster. You know you will be OK because YOU will make it be OK. Don’t focus on the douchebag. Focus on YOU God bless you, darlin’.
I definitely need to venture out of my comfort zone. There is so much to see and do here in KC. I’ve been here since 2007, and have done none of it: the art museum, the tiger reserve…those 2, especially, are things I want to see.
Money is not the issue. The art museum is free, just $8 for parking. And the admission to the tiger reserve is under $10, I think. The issue is, I hate driving in the city. Drivers are mean here, and will not hesitate to run you off the road, or worse, shoot you down. I know the odds of that are slim, but it’s not worth the anxiety. I used to love driving. Not anymore.
Go for a walk. Or get in the car and go to a park for a walk. Throw on anything that’s comfy and go. Don’t think too much about it. Walking clears your mind, gets blood flowing.
Then come home and drink water and go to bed.
Going to follow my own advice on the walk right now.
Oh, and breathe. It’s all good.
My daughter, THE NURSE, just told me the same thing. GET OUT and walk. Clears the mind. Gets the blood moving. Gives you a change of scenery. I’m going to listen to TT and and The Nurse. I work at home now and am chained to a computer for untold hours a day. The walking helps.
TT take Banjo for a stroll and walk around the hood. Come back and put on your new jammies and get some sleep. (hugs)
I finally surrendered to sleep. For whatever reason, when I have something to do the next day, find reasons to stay up all night. I need to catch up on my emails. I really have to watch this movie or TV show. etc.
On Fri, May 22, 2015 at 1:23 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
KC? That’s just a hop, skip, and a jump to Columbia, Mo where I went to school. Lots of great hiking and nature to see there. I miss it so living on the brown pancake of South Texas! Go visit for me and see the Big Tree!!
This tiger park is supposed to be really nice. They rescue tigers from zoos and circuses, and idiots who have them as pets. They are well cared for, and are in very large, natural enclosures. It’s only about 20 miles from me.
I wanna go too.
Why do people get wild animals for pets? Anything that can consider me part of the food chain does not make a good pet. My cats act wild enough.
I’ve always loved tigers. My older sister, once, almost bought a tiger cub for my birthday. Luckily, she told me about it beforehand. I had a heck of a time talking her out of it. Can you imagine? A tiger in a small two bedroom apartment? Ridiculous. Thankfully, it never happened.
The large Goldfish in the VERY small clear glass container is very confined as we all can see. He/she can’t swim around at all! I want to scoot this big goldfish into the much larger fish bowl (instead of the big Goldfish trying to make the “jump” by herself/himself ) into the big bowl. I think both goldfish would appreciate my kindness.:) And, hopefully they will get along, unlike the majority of the Real Housewives.
Some bits of coral, rock and seaweed and a small oriental bridge would be nice to add . But the fish still need plenty of space to swim around and places to hide when they want to be alone with their thoughts.
By the looks of the smaller goldfish, I do believe she/he is trying to make eye contact with his/her neighbor.
Tamara. I think I was mesmerized by those goldfish. Would it be crazy to ask what others think about the picture with the fish and the goldfish situation? I’m feeling just silly right now ! Ah duh… Have I lost my mind this morning and gotten all goofy!??!
Totally off topic. I was the queen of the dumb asses yesterday. Had some girl crap surgery ( not ashamed just can’t spell it). Husband did awesome, brought me home let me sleep for hours. Then went out to pick up dinner. I in all my brilliance said….”and a peanut butter milkshake.” It was sooo good going down…..fucking sucked coming back up. There I was at 10, not knowing if it was cramps from the surgery, gas, the milkshake, or some alien the doctor put in my stomach trying to make his way out.
All is better this morning, both the coffee and the pastry are settled in…oh and ladies….if you have to have to have surgery on your lady parts…it’s not that bad (so far for me). Thrilled to know at 47 I have a 50/50 chance of being sterile. Seriously…THRILLED, my son is 27 and the thought of having a baby at this age is a nightmare. Ok…that is my over sharing for this Friday morning. Everyone have a great Memorial Day weekend.
Rest up and take good care of yourself-If your husband is like mine, you never know when you’ll be called upon to use your lady bits again.
your husband sounds like a gent-you’re lucky.
Thanks Cat & Mum. Husband even got more credit when I asked when he thought I should go back to the gym…this stud muffin said ” when the doctor tells you too.” What a good guy. Cat I think milk and anesthesia just don’t do well together.
I get the feeling maybe your at some kind of crossroad. It may be keeping you from sleeping. Don’t overthink things to much. Trust your instincts. A nice long walk sounds like a great idea for clearing your head and tiring you out. Then some soft music and nighty night. But definantly try and get some rest exhaustion will make your mind play tricks on you.
Do IT! The first time I really did I kinda did something a LOT out there, and ended up losing my virginity which was the goal! Seriously what’s the worst that could happen? Go for it!
Comfort zones are kinda like a house. When you first move in, it looks big and empty. But eventually it ends up small and full of crap you don’t need anymore and you can’t move around and you don’t have room for all the new, wonderful, interesting stuff you’ve acquired. Put the comfort zone on the market and move out of it before those crazy neighbors ruin the neighborhood. 🙂
Are you worried about the big girl website maybe? Sleeping during the day when you were just turning it around? Relax sweetheart…it’ll work either way! Don’t forget to be grateful for the things you don’t *have* to be worried about. As you always say…you got this!
If it’s a date you are freaking out over, I hope we get to hear about it. Worrying about clothes, a mani/pedi… The funny thing about life for me, is that I stopped giving a shit and cut off my hair, don’t dye it, no make-up, and now guys are talking to me. I didn’t think I could be any more obvious that I have given up trying to be sociable.
Hi everyone, just popped in to say that the family dog is all better. She’s acting like nothing ever happened. How could she have been in such bad shape? I mean she was temporarily blinded and couldn’t use her hind legs well, and now it’s all better. She has eaten two meals by herself, started barking again, and even played a game of catch me if you can. Thank God.
The week from Hell is almost over. Just got to get through the recital tomorrow!
Thanks again for all the emotional support everyone!
That’s fantastic Angel – but I have to say that when I saw “have to get thru the recital” — I read it as “have to to get thru the rectal”. Isn’t that terrible and silly? I must be so worried about you.
âThat’s great news, Angel (?) Banjo lost his hind legs once. It was very scary. Then he took some prednisone and thing eventually got back to normal. It was a crazy time. Glad your dog is on the mend.
On Fri, May 22, 2015 at 11:49 AM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
Dogs and kids keep you up all night petrified they are going to die and the next morning up and running around wagging their tails.
You will get through the recital.
I have to make this public service announcement: everyone, please be careful. Outside comfort zones or in familiar ones, Memorial Weekend is NOT THE WEEKEND TO GO TO THE ER. I learned this ages ago when the BF had a serious injury on this weekend. The ER was jammed and 6 hours before someone could look at him. The Dr explained that Memorial weekend is the worst for injuries, over every holiday, including 4th of July.
Its the first 3-day weekend, people ignore symptoms all week, overdo it on the weekend and are stupid with their decision making. Go to a walk-in clinic or any alternative care but ER’s are not the place to be if you can help it. So hug your ER neighbor or tech today, they are getting it bad this weekend!
(hey – did you see the comment I left you on the Thur Varietal Tea, regarding bringing in your tomato at night? TT & I left you some comments, near the end of the comments section …)
Yes TT most definitely ! I have felt like a baby veal in a box for quite some time now & forcing myself to confront that & own it had helped change not only my behavior but my mind set as well ; its never easy & never quick enough but you owe it to yourself to at least try it…You bring so much pleasure & knowledge & laughter to all of us on this blog & I hope I speak for all when I say We are all rooting for you ! Extremely Fond Regards marc
Go check the wardrobe room – again. The only way the magic tomato plants will release tootsie from the hostage situation is if you take advantage of this opportunity and go out in the world to socialize with real people. Save tootsie!!!!
Jeans, t shirt, light weight jacket( you dont have to button it) nice scarf, earrings. Your best bag, and flats. Remove old polish, file nails, buff, add cuticle oil. Favorite lipstick.
In no uncertain terms you’ve been telling us to get the eff’ out of our comfort zones for months now. Yes you should take the jump. Plus unlike many of us, we only have you (& possibly a few others cheering us on) — you’ve got countless people ALL ROOTING FOR YOU. You can do it & you WILL do it damn it! Don’t make us place you in the Window Licking section (you’ve seen the hell firsthand). 😉
I’ll leave you with the words of the well renowned therapist Stuart Smalley (from SNL): “Because I’m good enough. I’m smart enough. And doggone it, people like me.” ☺
Dont worry, TT. Just go for it! Do it!! Dont worry about the mani/pedi. Clip toenails and paint any stinking color. For hand, just clip and a coat of clear. It is summer so just show your best asset. Boobs? Wear a little low cut. Just a nice white shirt, jeans, a little heel or dressy sandals, a clutch and some jewelry and you are comfortable and ready for date night. Have fun!
Some dickhead (or 2) just reported me to the Facebook police & I lost my account! Seems they didn’t like my comment re EDITED BY TAMARA TO REMOVE THE SUBJECT MATTER I DO NOT WANT DISUCUSSED HERE FOR PERSONAL REASONS Sorry,know it is a hot topic for it’s not something I want to think about There’s no way I can access my account unless I send:
Option 1: We will accept any government-issued ID that contains your name and date of birth. Examples include:
◾Birth certificate
◾Driver’s license
◾Passport
◾Marriage certificate
◾Official name change paperwork
◾Personal or vehicle insurance card
◾Non-driver’s government ID (ex: disability, SNAP card, national ID card)
◾Green card, residence permit or immigration papers
◾Tribal identification or status card
◾Voter ID card
OR Option 2: You can provide two different forms of ID from the following list (ex: a bank statement and a library card, but not two bank statements). The names on your IDs must match each other, and one of the IDs must include a photo or date of birth that matches the information on your profile. Examples include:
◾Bank statement
◾Bus card
◾Check
◾Credit card
◾Employment verification
◾Library card
◾Mail
◾Magazine subscription stub
◾Medical record
◾Membership ID (ex: pension card, union membership, work ID, professional ID)
◾Paycheck stub
◾Permit
◾School card
◾School record
◾Social Security card
◾Utility bill
◾Yearbook photo (actual scan or photograph of the page in your yearbook)
OR Option 3: If you don’t have an ID that shows your authentic name as well as your photo or date of birth, you can provide two forms of ID from Option 2 above, and then provide a government ID that includes a date of birth or photo that matches the information on your profile. We won’t add the name or other information from the government ID to your account.
Any advice? And no I don’t use my true name on Facebook, I had been using “Addie Here” for several years. Does this mean I’ll never be able to access my account again? People need to get a fucking life. Thanks in advance for any help or advice.
Wow. That is very personal info to give but I have seen people on twitter say they did it to get their account back. I guess you can also just start a new account. Contact your twitter friends and let them know what happened and to follow you with the new name. I am guessing maybe you had repetitive posts? If so, it is flagged as badgering and harrasment.
I’m not a huge Facebook person (or Twitter for that matter) — just had an account to comment when I felt like it (which was hardly ever) + I was only connected to a few groups which I supported & a small handful of people (anonymously). It was not a repetitive post but reading the vibe of TT’s redaction, I imagine my comment was similar to how she may feel.
It was not a personal blog like this (with clear rules) , but a public forum where I clearly pissed someone off. It reminds me of people who plaster their photos all over social media clearly expecting a reaction BUT if someone dares say something as simple as “I loved your brown hair” (& it’s now green) – you’re a “hater”. I hate no one, but I do hate cruelty & hypocrisy. If we don’t agree with each other, let’s talk about it. I’m always open to other’s perspectives.
If you ever see my avatar on social media, you better tell me I’m beautiful & the best thing since sliced bread → period! 😉
Damn Addie, what are you, commie pinko liberal former hippie that reads to much?. Ask them if they will just take a DNA sample. I find you one on the nicest posters here.(that goes for you too Cat)
I can not imagine what you did was offensive.
I sign on to facebook every 6 mos or so and see the same old stuff then put my account on hold again. I seriously had doubts when I posted somthing in French to my kid’s friend and I started getting French emails. Shopping and nasty porn ones too. I think we respect your privacy translates to we sell your email.
Thanks fivecats. I never would’ve imagined it was something someone would find so offensive. I always try to be cognizant of other’s feelings & when I screw up I’m the 1st to apologize (often excessively – BS that dates back to my childhood). I walk on enough eggshells with certain people in my life but didn’t think I’d also have to do so anonymously on friggin Facebook! C’est la vie!
Unless they plan on sending you a paycheck I wouldn’t provide any of that information. That is way over the top invasive. Is it your first suspension? When I got suspended on Twitter they basically made me appeal and check a box that I would never repeat my offense. I don’t use facebook so I am not familiar with their suspension process but that sounds excessive.
Are you on Twitter? Everyone is a cat or an egg on Twitter. I think the same thing happened to me, though. I was just starting out and had a handful of followers when the Brandiloons mass reported me thus the suspension. But Twitter is great for annomity and discussing reality tv and hot topics I think. Anyway I hope you stick around. 🙂
Addie: Based on the type of information they are requesting from you, it appears you said something that triggered the FB police attempting to verify that you are a US citizen or resident alien, and that they want your address. YIKES! If you have nothing to hide, and truly want to keep your current FB account, just send a copy of your DL.
JustJenn & Tootsie,
Yes it is my 1st suspension. On further investigation, Facebook strictly forbids anonymity (even though countless people choose to remain anonymous & just keep changing their anonymous names). So clearly someone looked at my account & realized it wasn’t littered with “selfies”, personal info &/or family photos & knew right away – she’s not “real”, therefore the suspension. As it is it took a few months to figure out I needed to “friend” & be “friended” by at least 2 people for any of my comments to even appear. Since many people don’t want to “friend” an anonymous user, it’s not as easy as just changing my account name.
I’m starting to think it may be time to totally remove myself from social media including reading the blogs & put myself out there in the real word 100%. On 1 hand it truly seemed like an innocent pastime but if it’s interfering with real life vs. I enjoy coming here & commenting + I’m unable to count the times this blog has helped me get through the day. I consider many of you my friends & I love checking it with you from time to time. Oh, the dilemma! If all my (our) problems were so easy. It’s truly silly.
Enjoy your weekend my friends 😉
Seriously people can be pricks. About a month ago one of the pictures I posted was flagged as obscene by two different people. The picture was of a plastic spoon on a purple table cloth. No shit. Two complaints for something that innocuous. Most likely some petty retaliation for something entirely unrelated. The picture was vindicated but what pisses me off is there’s no reprisal for the vindictive flagging. A while back Facebook came under a lot of fire for pulling what’s happened to you with drag queens using their professional names when they created their Facebook accounts. Facebook apologized and let them keep their accounts. People claimed that they would allow some to keep the accounts while they were simultaneously flagging other drag queen accounts. But since they publicly apologized it could be worth a shot. The other option is to claim you have to use an alias because you’re gay and in the closet with violently homophobic family members. If they claim you never post anything gay or gay related you could always respond “Duh! violent family, not taking the risk” Never know it might work. Facebook is evil screw em do what ya gotta do!
Love it! What a great analogy. There’s probably a few evil stepsister’s lurking around too – but they’re banished to the outside (looking in). 😉
Don’t forget your glass slippers TT
Get out of your comfort zone. Every. Fucking. Day. But, if you can, start with small steps, then work your way up. Avoiding discomfort or fear is no way to LIVE. I’m trying “100 days of facing my fears.” Even the littlest of things. A call I was scared of making, an outfit I was scared to wear, etc. Good luck! Now go out there and claim your life! The world needs you.
Tamara it’s time to take control of your life. You are much to smart not to know this. Day after day you motivate us in such unusual ways but you get the job done. Now, get up,oil in the mirror and say to yourself I’m more than my condition. Go out buy some clothes that fit, schedule a vacation to somewhere exciting, start preparing for a good time, then go. Come back refreshed and reformed. Don’t blog while you’re away just relax but you deserve it. You can do it girl, the world is waiting for you. Take a hot shower, put on nothing if you like except for maybe a soft perfume. Smile, thank God for giving you yet another day, then rest until you fall into a peaceful sleep dreaming about your wonderful future. This sounds hard to do but you can do it and I’m interceding on your behalf. I love you and wish you to be prosperous and in good health. Take this from someone who has been where you are now. Don’t stay there, make a change.
Grandmalou – What a sweet & touching sentiment. What’s going on around here lately – are the planets in alignment or is it Magic Tomato plant mojo? I haven’t read them all (yet) but between yours & Fivecats (3rd from the top) with her great advice (which truly works) this site is becoming the “to go” place for positivity & encouragement. Great energy & such positive affirmations. I’m loving these Daily Teas. ☕
Here’re the things I learned from thousands of dollars worth of therapy: 1. Every day do the thing you don’t want to do early in the day. Whatever it is you’re avoiding, do it. Make a friend hold your hand if you have to. 2. As soon as you notice you resent something or someone, it’s a red flag to change the situation, renegotiate the relationship, set boundaries, end the friendship – whatever it takes. 3. Living is not harder for me than for other people; just get on with it. 4. On parents: you get what you get. It’s okay if you don’t love them; they may not love you. Make your own family. 5. No one thinks about me as much I think about me. Everyone’s too consumed with their own shit to care much about mine. Do what you want to do; you don’t need permission. 6. Sometimes it’s better to let people have their own delusions and enjoy them in peace. 7. Mind my own business. 8. If you have to visit anyone out of town, book a hotel room; come and go as you please.
9. Exercise helps. 10. Do something on a regular basis for others; volunteer. Get out of your own head. As expensive and time-consuming as it was, therapy helped, but, like TT, I can “shrink” myself – free!
I wake up in the middle of the night and come to the faithful blog to find its writer up and on a life changing venture. Glad to catch you at this time.
You should! Confined spaces in life keep us from evolving into our truest potential. Challenge, adversity and change promote growth. It’s hard to transition. I’m still stuck. If a reader can give you a nudge to start walking the path, I’d love to encourage you. Everyone needs a little shoving sometimes. Good luck!
I’m totally freaking out. I have been up all night. drinking and freaking out. I have to sleep. I have to get a mani pedi I have nothing to wear. like I can’t FIT into ANYTHING. Can I go in my old man PJs they are really cute… Oh fuck I am going to bail again.
On Fri, May 22, 2015 at 6:28 AM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Go take a hot shower or bath with somthing that smells like lavender. Put on those new PJs.Have a cup of hot water with lemon and honey. Take a xanex. Take some aspirin. Turn off the TV. Turn off the phone. Turn off the lap top. Darken your bedroom. Soothing music. Get into bed. Sleep. God is in his heaven and all is right with your blog.
You have a ton of readers that love you and the best dog in the world.
Miley Cyrus goes out in pjs, so why can’t you?? ficecatsownme is right, shower, fix your hair, put on your pjs and go have a spa day! Jump! Jump! Jump!
What are you going to bail on, a date?
As a commenter who has a girl crush on you, I think you can and should step out of your comfort zone. You have such a strong personality there’s got to inevitably be a strong sense of self and confidence within you as well. Maybe it’s just been stifled for awhile for some reason but take those baby steps and get out there girl. You’re an inspiration to a lot of your readers who identify with you, if you do it then we can too!
P.S. I know it’s not always as easy as, “just do it” so please don’t think I’m trying to oversimplify whatever it is you’re going through, I’m not.
I say screw the mani/pedi for now. You need sleep. That is priority one.
Yes Ma’am!!! Do it! I can’t wait to read about your adventure!
In other news, there’s a &*%*$# frost/freeze warning up here in NEPA Damn Yankee territory here tonight. This has got to be a record. Drops mic. Walks away.
Well Jesus. you need to buy the Goliath plant if you are a yankee ( I have one) and otherwise you won’t EVER have a tomato. Sending Duke’s mayonnaise thoughts.
On Fri, May 22, 2015 at 6:35 AM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Thank you! <3
I grew up in NEPA! And then decided to really move into Yankee territory of RI, we still have our heat on!
@kendrawm -My AC has been running full blast here in Florida. I thought I was going to die the other day when I was standing in the checkout line in the garden department at Lowes. I couldn’t wait to get back in my car and turn the AC on.
In Florida, you sort of get used to the summer heat by saying several times a day, “My God, it’s FUCKING HOT out here.” And then you go about your business. The worst part is going from freezing AC to sweltering humidititty from the bowels of Satan’s Hell. As long as you stay in ou out, you kind o acclimate. Frankly, I don’t find Central Florida heat any hotter than suburban MD between Baltimore and DC . . .fucing HOT is fucking HOT.
I’m in Massachusetts NBJ…it’s awful isn’t it? But it’s pretty normal for most of us not to put maters in the ground till almost June. We’ll get fruit, just a lot later than the rest of y’all!
@kendrawnm @Romen – I thought it was a joke when I got the alert on my phone for a frost/freeze tonight. Granted, we usually don’t plant BEFORE Memorial Day, but DAYUM – this is cutting it close! I’m going to have to blanket everything again for a second time in a week…smh
NBJ, Thank You!!! I never plant before memorial day, now a days people look at me like I have 3 heads when I say that. Hello we live in friggen NE, we can still get a frost, stop planting your shit! I went to my 25th High School Reunion in PA the first weekend in May, on Sunday driving back 30 degree difference between RI and PA. PA were were sweating RI it was freezing.
Tell me about it! It’s been HOT here except for this week. Mother’s Day I was outside planting and got a 2nd degree sunburn and then sun poisoning and then ended up with a first class cold sore across my entire top lip. Every time I get a bad sunburn I get the cold sore. Now FROST??? Are you effing kidding me?
Well, no matter now. It’s been a rotten day. My bf, the CRIER, dumped me. Packed his shit and left. Turned off the utiltities on a holiday weekend, and I have $150 to my name. He knows I just started working from home but not getting paid for a while yet. I am an absolute wreck. What a fucking douchebag.
@neverbeenjaxed. What a jerkface ex. He needs a cup of sugar in the gastank, and the flaming bag of dogshit treatment.
@neverbeenjaxed Take a deep breath. I am feeling your anxiety. Don’t make any rash decisions unless you have to. Give it a minute to sink in and then do what you do best . . . SURVIVE. . .and you will survive. Nothing has to be decided within the next 24 hours, so just take the time to collect yourself and decide your next move. Ultimately, you will by OK, like you always are after a life-changing disaster. You know you will be OK because YOU will make it be OK. Don’t focus on the douchebag. Focus on YOU God bless you, darlin’.
I definitely need to venture out of my comfort zone. There is so much to see and do here in KC. I’ve been here since 2007, and have done none of it: the art museum, the tiger reserve…those 2, especially, are things I want to see.
Money is not the issue. The art museum is free, just $8 for parking. And the admission to the tiger reserve is under $10, I think. The issue is, I hate driving in the city. Drivers are mean here, and will not hesitate to run you off the road, or worse, shoot you down. I know the odds of that are slim, but it’s not worth the anxiety. I used to love driving. Not anymore.
Maybe some day….
Or fucking TODAY.
On Fri, May 22, 2015 at 6:43 AM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Next month. Or July, when finances ease up. I promise.
Okay what should I do? I just missed a night of sleeping in new pajamas… Stay up? sleep? I’m freaking.
On Fri, May 22, 2015 at 7:25 AM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Go for a walk. Or get in the car and go to a park for a walk. Throw on anything that’s comfy and go. Don’t think too much about it. Walking clears your mind, gets blood flowing.
Then come home and drink water and go to bed.
Going to follow my own advice on the walk right now.
Oh, and breathe. It’s all good.
My daughter, THE NURSE, just told me the same thing. GET OUT and walk. Clears the mind. Gets the blood moving. Gives you a change of scenery. I’m going to listen to TT and and The Nurse. I work at home now and am chained to a computer for untold hours a day. The walking helps.
TT take Banjo for a stroll and walk around the hood. Come back and put on your new jammies and get some sleep. (hugs)
I say sleep. You need sleep. Everything else can wait.
I finally surrendered to sleep. For whatever reason, when I have something to do the next day, find reasons to stay up all night. I need to catch up on my emails. I really have to watch this movie or TV show. etc.
On Fri, May 22, 2015 at 1:23 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Glad you got some sleep. Sometimes, you just have to let your body call the shots.
KC? That’s just a hop, skip, and a jump to Columbia, Mo where I went to school. Lots of great hiking and nature to see there. I miss it so living on the brown pancake of South Texas! Go visit for me and see the Big Tree!!
I had a best friend from Columbia, MO a loooong time ago! Small world. 🙂
Oh, I love trees!
Go see the Tigers. Fresh air and Tigers, what could be better than that?
This tiger park is supposed to be really nice. They rescue tigers from zoos and circuses, and idiots who have them as pets. They are well cared for, and are in very large, natural enclosures. It’s only about 20 miles from me.
I wanna go too.
Why do people get wild animals for pets? Anything that can consider me part of the food chain does not make a good pet. My cats act wild enough.
I’ve always loved tigers. My older sister, once, almost bought a tiger cub for my birthday. Luckily, she told me about it beforehand. I had a heck of a time talking her out of it. Can you imagine? A tiger in a small two bedroom apartment? Ridiculous. Thankfully, it never happened.
You can do it, Cat!
Thanks. I think I might do this the weekend of my birthday next month. I think they are only open to the public on weekends.
The large Goldfish in the VERY small clear glass container is very confined as we all can see. He/she can’t swim around at all! I want to scoot this big goldfish into the much larger fish bowl (instead of the big Goldfish trying to make the “jump” by herself/himself ) into the big bowl. I think both goldfish would appreciate my kindness.:) And, hopefully they will get along, unlike the majority of the Real Housewives.
Some bits of coral, rock and seaweed and a small oriental bridge would be nice to add . But the fish still need plenty of space to swim around and places to hide when they want to be alone with their thoughts.
By the looks of the smaller goldfish, I do believe she/he is trying to make eye contact with his/her neighbor.
Damn, why did I dwell on the Goldfish?!!
Tamara. I think I was mesmerized by those goldfish. Would it be crazy to ask what others think about the picture with the fish and the goldfish situation? I’m feeling just silly right now ! Ah duh… Have I lost my mind this morning and gotten all goofy!??!
I just googles something like out of my comfort zone and that is what came up.
On Fri, May 22, 2015 at 8:58 AM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Totally off topic. I was the queen of the dumb asses yesterday. Had some girl crap surgery ( not ashamed just can’t spell it). Husband did awesome, brought me home let me sleep for hours. Then went out to pick up dinner. I in all my brilliance said….”and a peanut butter milkshake.” It was sooo good going down…..fucking sucked coming back up. There I was at 10, not knowing if it was cramps from the surgery, gas, the milkshake, or some alien the doctor put in my stomach trying to make his way out.
All is better this morning, both the coffee and the pastry are settled in…oh and ladies….if you have to have to have surgery on your lady parts…it’s not that bad (so far for me). Thrilled to know at 47 I have a 50/50 chance of being sterile. Seriously…THRILLED, my son is 27 and the thought of having a baby at this age is a nightmare. Ok…that is my over sharing for this Friday morning. Everyone have a great Memorial Day weekend.
Did you drink it too fast?
Take care of yourself. Move slowly for a bit. Let your body heal.
Rest up and take good care of yourself-If your husband is like mine, you never know when you’ll be called upon to use your lady bits again.
your husband sounds like a gent-you’re lucky.
Thanks Cat & Mum. Husband even got more credit when I asked when he thought I should go back to the gym…this stud muffin said ” when the doctor tells you too.” What a good guy. Cat I think milk and anesthesia just don’t do well together.
Was it laparoscopic? Don’t they fill your belly with gas so they can see what they’re doing?
It was a hypo something, Amb something. I’m not sure what all they did up there. Hahahaha
I get the feeling maybe your at some kind of crossroad. It may be keeping you from sleeping. Don’t overthink things to much. Trust your instincts. A nice long walk sounds like a great idea for clearing your head and tiring you out. Then some soft music and nighty night. But definantly try and get some rest exhaustion will make your mind play tricks on you.
Do IT! The first time I really did I kinda did something a LOT out there, and ended up losing my virginity which was the goal! Seriously what’s the worst that could happen? Go for it!
Comfort zones are kinda like a house. When you first move in, it looks big and empty. But eventually it ends up small and full of crap you don’t need anymore and you can’t move around and you don’t have room for all the new, wonderful, interesting stuff you’ve acquired. Put the comfort zone on the market and move out of it before those crazy neighbors ruin the neighborhood. 🙂
“Put one foot in front of the other, and soon you’ll be walkin’ out the door.” (song from Here Comes Peter Cottontail)
“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” (Lao Tzu, Chinese philosopher)
“Just do it.” (Nike)
“Just freaking DO it!” (me)
Are you worried about the big girl website maybe? Sleeping during the day when you were just turning it around? Relax sweetheart…it’ll work either way! Don’t forget to be grateful for the things you don’t *have* to be worried about. As you always say…you got this!
If it’s a date you are freaking out over, I hope we get to hear about it. Worrying about clothes, a mani/pedi… The funny thing about life for me, is that I stopped giving a shit and cut off my hair, don’t dye it, no make-up, and now guys are talking to me. I didn’t think I could be any more obvious that I have given up trying to be sociable.
Well it seems like you are thinking about it! Stop thinking just do it! Do it now! Just jump!
Hi everyone, just popped in to say that the family dog is all better. She’s acting like nothing ever happened. How could she have been in such bad shape? I mean she was temporarily blinded and couldn’t use her hind legs well, and now it’s all better. She has eaten two meals by herself, started barking again, and even played a game of catch me if you can. Thank God.
The week from Hell is almost over. Just got to get through the recital tomorrow!
Thanks again for all the emotional support everyone!
Great news! I had a friend’s dog do that also. Strange stuff! Hang in there, it’s Friday!
That’s fantastic Angel – but I have to say that when I saw “have to get thru the recital” — I read it as “have to to get thru the rectal”. Isn’t that terrible and silly? I must be so worried about you.
Yay, Angel(?)!
Great news!
That’s awesome and encouraging.
âThat’s great news, Angel (?) Banjo lost his hind legs once. It was very scary. Then he took some prednisone and thing eventually got back to normal. It was a crazy time. Glad your dog is on the mend.
On Fri, May 22, 2015 at 11:49 AM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Weird how they bounce back. I really thought she was not going to pull through. If only humans could bounce back like they do. Thanks for listening.
Dogs and kids keep you up all night petrified they are going to die and the next morning up and running around wagging their tails.
You will get through the recital.
I have to make this public service announcement: everyone, please be careful. Outside comfort zones or in familiar ones, Memorial Weekend is NOT THE WEEKEND TO GO TO THE ER. I learned this ages ago when the BF had a serious injury on this weekend. The ER was jammed and 6 hours before someone could look at him. The Dr explained that Memorial weekend is the worst for injuries, over every holiday, including 4th of July.
Its the first 3-day weekend, people ignore symptoms all week, overdo it on the weekend and are stupid with their decision making. Go to a walk-in clinic or any alternative care but ER’s are not the place to be if you can help it. So hug your ER neighbor or tech today, they are getting it bad this weekend!
Agreed. I never drive on a holiday weekend. Especially when I know people will be drinking.
(hey – did you see the comment I left you on the Thur Varietal Tea, regarding bringing in your tomato at night? TT & I left you some comments, near the end of the comments section …)
And I vote, go see Tigers!
Yes, I did, thanks. Easier just to bring them in. It’s only 2 pots.
True that — the plants toughen up if left outside, even with the bag but yes, bringing inside is way easier when they are little ones =)
4th of July weekend is bad in a teaching hospital. 1st day for new interns.
Really throw them off the deep end of the pool, don’t they? How crazy that would be.
Really crazy
TT, I have to go back to work after not being there for a week. Shoulder is okay now. We can jump together!
Does this have anything to do with the “that could be me” comment that you made under Bethenny’s haircut blog post?
Curiosity will conquer fear even more than bravery will.
Aren’t you curious to see what happens?
Yes TT most definitely ! I have felt like a baby veal in a box for quite some time now & forcing myself to confront that & own it had helped change not only my behavior but my mind set as well ; its never easy & never quick enough but you owe it to yourself to at least try it…You bring so much pleasure & knowledge & laughter to all of us on this blog & I hope I speak for all when I say We are all rooting for you ! Extremely Fond Regards marc
If it scares you, you MUST
Oh god. I can’t do this. I LITERALLY. Like LITERALLY have nothing to wear.
On Fri, May 22, 2015 at 3:23 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Go check the wardrobe room – again. The only way the magic tomato plants will release tootsie from the hostage situation is if you take advantage of this opportunity and go out in the world to socialize with real people. Save tootsie!!!!
Order somthing on Amazon. They overnight.
fivecats: I think she’s supposed to be going out tonight.
Jeans, t shirt, light weight jacket( you dont have to button it) nice scarf, earrings. Your best bag, and flats. Remove old polish, file nails, buff, add cuticle oil. Favorite lipstick.
What did you wear the last time you went out?
In no uncertain terms you’ve been telling us to get the eff’ out of our comfort zones for months now. Yes you should take the jump. Plus unlike many of us, we only have you (& possibly a few others cheering us on) — you’ve got countless people ALL ROOTING FOR YOU. You can do it & you WILL do it damn it! Don’t make us place you in the Window Licking section (you’ve seen the hell firsthand). 😉
I’ll leave you with the words of the well renowned therapist Stuart Smalley (from SNL): “Because I’m good enough. I’m smart enough. And doggone it, people like me.” ☺
Go TT!
Dont worry, TT. Just go for it! Do it!! Dont worry about the mani/pedi. Clip toenails and paint any stinking color. For hand, just clip and a coat of clear. It is summer so just show your best asset. Boobs? Wear a little low cut. Just a nice white shirt, jeans, a little heel or dressy sandals, a clutch and some jewelry and you are comfortable and ready for date night. Have fun!
Yes. I will be soooo happy for you, when you do! A lil each day TT. You will get there! I’m praying for you!
Some dickhead (or 2) just reported me to the Facebook police & I lost my account! Seems they didn’t like my comment re EDITED BY TAMARA TO REMOVE THE SUBJECT MATTER I DO NOT WANT DISUCUSSED HERE FOR PERSONAL REASONS Sorry,know it is a hot topic for it’s not something I want to think about There’s no way I can access my account unless I send:
Option 1: We will accept any government-issued ID that contains your name and date of birth. Examples include:
◾Birth certificate
◾Driver’s license
◾Passport
◾Marriage certificate
◾Official name change paperwork
◾Personal or vehicle insurance card
◾Non-driver’s government ID (ex: disability, SNAP card, national ID card)
◾Green card, residence permit or immigration papers
◾Tribal identification or status card
◾Voter ID card
OR Option 2: You can provide two different forms of ID from the following list (ex: a bank statement and a library card, but not two bank statements). The names on your IDs must match each other, and one of the IDs must include a photo or date of birth that matches the information on your profile. Examples include:
◾Bank statement
◾Bus card
◾Check
◾Credit card
◾Employment verification
◾Library card
◾Mail
◾Magazine subscription stub
◾Medical record
◾Membership ID (ex: pension card, union membership, work ID, professional ID)
◾Paycheck stub
◾Permit
◾School card
◾School record
◾Social Security card
◾Utility bill
◾Yearbook photo (actual scan or photograph of the page in your yearbook)
OR Option 3: If you don’t have an ID that shows your authentic name as well as your photo or date of birth, you can provide two forms of ID from Option 2 above, and then provide a government ID that includes a date of birth or photo that matches the information on your profile. We won’t add the name or other information from the government ID to your account.
Any advice? And no I don’t use my true name on Facebook, I had been using “Addie Here” for several years. Does this mean I’ll never be able to access my account again? People need to get a fucking life. Thanks in advance for any help or advice.
Wow. That is very personal info to give but I have seen people on twitter say they did it to get their account back. I guess you can also just start a new account. Contact your twitter friends and let them know what happened and to follow you with the new name. I am guessing maybe you had repetitive posts? If so, it is flagged as badgering and harrasment.
I would not give any of that info out to anyone on FB. I would send them an email though.
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I’m not a huge Facebook person (or Twitter for that matter) — just had an account to comment when I felt like it (which was hardly ever) + I was only connected to a few groups which I supported & a small handful of people (anonymously). It was not a repetitive post but reading the vibe of TT’s redaction, I imagine my comment was similar to how she may feel.
It was not a personal blog like this (with clear rules) , but a public forum where I clearly pissed someone off. It reminds me of people who plaster their photos all over social media clearly expecting a reaction BUT if someone dares say something as simple as “I loved your brown hair” (& it’s now green) – you’re a “hater”. I hate no one, but I do hate cruelty & hypocrisy. If we don’t agree with each other, let’s talk about it. I’m always open to other’s perspectives.
If you ever see my avatar on social media, you better tell me I’m beautiful & the best thing since sliced bread → period! 😉
Damn Addie, what are you, commie pinko liberal former hippie that reads to much?. Ask them if they will just take a DNA sample. I find you one on the nicest posters here.(that goes for you too Cat)
I can not imagine what you did was offensive.
I sign on to facebook every 6 mos or so and see the same old stuff then put my account on hold again. I seriously had doubts when I posted somthing in French to my kid’s friend and I started getting French emails. Shopping and nasty porn ones too. I think we respect your privacy translates to we sell your email.
Thanks fivecats. I never would’ve imagined it was something someone would find so offensive. I always try to be cognizant of other’s feelings & when I screw up I’m the 1st to apologize (often excessively – BS that dates back to my childhood). I walk on enough eggshells with certain people in my life but didn’t think I’d also have to do so anonymously on friggin Facebook! C’est la vie!
Profitez de votre week-end de vacances mon ami. 😉
Unless they plan on sending you a paycheck I wouldn’t provide any of that information. That is way over the top invasive. Is it your first suspension? When I got suspended on Twitter they basically made me appeal and check a box that I would never repeat my offense. I don’t use facebook so I am not familiar with their suspension process but that sounds excessive.
Are you on Twitter? Everyone is a cat or an egg on Twitter. I think the same thing happened to me, though. I was just starting out and had a handful of followers when the Brandiloons mass reported me thus the suspension. But Twitter is great for annomity and discussing reality tv and hot topics I think. Anyway I hope you stick around. 🙂
Addie: Based on the type of information they are requesting from you, it appears you said something that triggered the FB police attempting to verify that you are a US citizen or resident alien, and that they want your address. YIKES! If you have nothing to hide, and truly want to keep your current FB account, just send a copy of your DL.
JustJenn & Tootsie,
Yes it is my 1st suspension. On further investigation, Facebook strictly forbids anonymity (even though countless people choose to remain anonymous & just keep changing their anonymous names). So clearly someone looked at my account & realized it wasn’t littered with “selfies”, personal info &/or family photos & knew right away – she’s not “real”, therefore the suspension. As it is it took a few months to figure out I needed to “friend” & be “friended” by at least 2 people for any of my comments to even appear. Since many people don’t want to “friend” an anonymous user, it’s not as easy as just changing my account name.
I’m starting to think it may be time to totally remove myself from social media including reading the blogs & put myself out there in the real word 100%. On 1 hand it truly seemed like an innocent pastime but if it’s interfering with real life vs. I enjoy coming here & commenting + I’m unable to count the times this blog has helped me get through the day. I consider many of you my friends & I love checking it with you from time to time. Oh, the dilemma! If all my (our) problems were so easy. It’s truly silly.
Enjoy your weekend my friends 😉
Better than sloced bread? Better than croissants, i’d say.
Back at ya’ Fivecats. 😉 ☞♡☜
J’espère que ces idiots à Facebook ne sera pas vous rendre fou. Bonnes vacances. Manger un beaucoup barbecue, ma chère.
Open a new email, and open a new Facebook account, under a different name. And avoid groups. They are nothing but trouble.
Keep your profile hidden to the public, and stick with friends you know and trust. Also, if you are worried, open a 2nd account for backup.
I have a Facebook friend who is constantly being reported for posting pretty tiger pics. Sometimes, the trolls run amuck.
Seriously people can be pricks. About a month ago one of the pictures I posted was flagged as obscene by two different people. The picture was of a plastic spoon on a purple table cloth. No shit. Two complaints for something that innocuous. Most likely some petty retaliation for something entirely unrelated. The picture was vindicated but what pisses me off is there’s no reprisal for the vindictive flagging. A while back Facebook came under a lot of fire for pulling what’s happened to you with drag queens using their professional names when they created their Facebook accounts. Facebook apologized and let them keep their accounts. People claimed that they would allow some to keep the accounts while they were simultaneously flagging other drag queen accounts. But since they publicly apologized it could be worth a shot. The other option is to claim you have to use an alias because you’re gay and in the closet with violently homophobic family members. If they claim you never post anything gay or gay related you could always respond “Duh! violent family, not taking the risk” Never know it might work. Facebook is evil screw em do what ya gotta do!
JUST.DO. IT!
We’ll be here to cheer you on, or to give you a shoulder to cry on if it doesn’t pan out.
Spread your wings!
It feels like we are the mice from Cinderella–helping her get dressed for the ball. Get out there, tt! We will be waiting…
Love it! What a great analogy. There’s probably a few evil stepsister’s lurking around too – but they’re banished to the outside (looking in). 😉
Don’t forget your glass slippers TT
Get out of your comfort zone. Every. Fucking. Day. But, if you can, start with small steps, then work your way up. Avoiding discomfort or fear is no way to LIVE. I’m trying “100 days of facing my fears.” Even the littlest of things. A call I was scared of making, an outfit I was scared to wear, etc. Good luck! Now go out there and claim your life! The world needs you.
Tamara it’s time to take control of your life. You are much to smart not to know this. Day after day you motivate us in such unusual ways but you get the job done. Now, get up,oil in the mirror and say to yourself I’m more than my condition. Go out buy some clothes that fit, schedule a vacation to somewhere exciting, start preparing for a good time, then go. Come back refreshed and reformed. Don’t blog while you’re away just relax but you deserve it. You can do it girl, the world is waiting for you. Take a hot shower, put on nothing if you like except for maybe a soft perfume. Smile, thank God for giving you yet another day, then rest until you fall into a peaceful sleep dreaming about your wonderful future. This sounds hard to do but you can do it and I’m interceding on your behalf. I love you and wish you to be prosperous and in good health. Take this from someone who has been where you are now. Don’t stay there, make a change.
Everyone would benefit if they channeled GrandmaLou. How sweet is your sage & savvy advice!
Grandmalou – What a sweet & touching sentiment. What’s going on around here lately – are the planets in alignment or is it Magic Tomato plant mojo? I haven’t read them all (yet) but between yours & Fivecats (3rd from the top) with her great advice (which truly works) this site is becoming the “to go” place for positivity & encouragement. Great energy & such positive affirmations. I’m loving these Daily Teas. ☕
Here’re the things I learned from thousands of dollars worth of therapy: 1. Every day do the thing you don’t want to do early in the day. Whatever it is you’re avoiding, do it. Make a friend hold your hand if you have to. 2. As soon as you notice you resent something or someone, it’s a red flag to change the situation, renegotiate the relationship, set boundaries, end the friendship – whatever it takes. 3. Living is not harder for me than for other people; just get on with it. 4. On parents: you get what you get. It’s okay if you don’t love them; they may not love you. Make your own family. 5. No one thinks about me as much I think about me. Everyone’s too consumed with their own shit to care much about mine. Do what you want to do; you don’t need permission. 6. Sometimes it’s better to let people have their own delusions and enjoy them in peace. 7. Mind my own business. 8. If you have to visit anyone out of town, book a hotel room; come and go as you please.
9. Exercise helps. 10. Do something on a regular basis for others; volunteer. Get out of your own head. As expensive and time-consuming as it was, therapy helped, but, like TT, I can “shrink” myself – free!
This⬆️⬆️⬆️!!!!
Copying, printing out, handing copies to my girlfriends and taping to my mirror … reminders never hurt!
Excellent!