As you might imagine, my mother was an interesting woman with very strong opinions. #AppleTree During her time, people did not have allergies, or asthma or lots of other things like broccoli or lawns with grass. It’s amazing the things we think always were isn’t it? So even when such things arrived she continued to deny the existence of some of them. Like seasonal allergies. We don’t believe in them in my family. I’m only half kidding. I say this to say that since I am forbidden by maternal doctrine to have allergies; I do not. But when the pollen count is in the mid four figures, as it is today, I feel some kind of way. My face feels dead, my eyes take effort to remain fully open. And I feel as though I’ve taken an “in-flight with high turbulence” level of Xanax when I have in fact had none. I tell you this longass story as an apology, in advance, for today’s lack luster blogging efforts.
Is it just me or does the last episode of Real Housewives of Atlanta seem like it happened three weeks ago? This week Only Phaedra, Kenya, Cynthia and Claudia submitted blogs and all used the question format provided by Bravo for I thought I’d just purple pen them all at once.
Let’s begin with Cynthia whose post has the lest amount of shady subtext.. Cynthia says:
“My favorite part of the Philippines trip was when Kenya and Phaedra finally agreed to sit down like the intelligent, grown women that they are and discuss their issues. I love closure, therefore I really appreciated seeing the two ladies talk, cry, apologize, hug, and hold hands to pray. Two years is too long to hold onto energy that is toxic and negative to your spirit and soul. Sometimes you just have to let things that no longer serve you positively go and move on. I applaud both ladies for their efforts. Their gesture was uplifting and great for the morale of the group. I am happy for both of them.”
This sets the tone that everyone is going to pretend like this was a real thing. A real apology from Phaedra. A real moment. Um, Okay. I’ll play along that suddenly this is a show where positivity, forgiveness and supporting each other as women. Oh wait. No. No I just can’t do that.
Then there are Claudia’s thoughts.
Bravotv.com: Were you surprised that Kenya and Phaedra were able to finally make up?
CJ: Yes and no. I think once they were able to talk without others constantly chiming in with, “Well I thought this, or I think that, and the way I feel, etc.” made it possible for Kenya and Phaedra to hash it out. I remember once before when Phaedra said she wanted to apologize to Kenya, but then others seemed to talk her out of it. This time there was no peanut gallery with a motive to sway things.
Um, dear, you realize you are the peanut gallery right? I love how everyone seems to think that Phaedra just needed a private moment to apologize. It’s the last episode of the show and someone is trying to pretend like she can film with the rest of the cast next season because she desperately needs the money to pay a lawn guy.
Deep down I don’t think many people really want conflict and negativity in their lives. But with this group sometimes things are done to show out, and it was awesome to see the two of them talk and have a moment. I actually got teary eyed watching a real moment happen. And I was proud of the progress these two ladies made. They have come such a long way. See how wonderful things can happen when you “do the work”?
Bullshit. All of this. This makes me wonder what season two Claudia will look like. Because we know not to get to invested in these ladies during season one. Don’t believe me? I give you Brandi Glanville. We all loved her season one. Poor little wound giraffe on crutches alone in the jungle hobbling into the lion’s den. Remember that?
And now for the two ladies who participated in the apology.
Bravotv.com: Were you glad that you sat down one-on-one with Kenya?
PHAEDRA: Yes, because we finally had an opportunity to express our feelings to each other without being interrupted by anyone else’s unnecessary contributions; we were able to have a real one-on-one conversation.
As opposed to the other eleventy billion times this could have happened, but you decided to keep screaming that Kenya is a whore.
It was not easy to let my guard down with someone whom seemed to relish in my hardships and played such a role in bringing conflict to my life.
And anyone who believes you are doing it now is a damn fool.
This conversation was a long time coming, and we were led to this moment by a force greater than both of us, so I decided to have faith, embrace the moment, and let go.
God sure took his time with this one.
Bravotv.com: Were you glad that you sat down one-on-one with Phaedra?
KENYA: I am glad I sat down with Phaedra, but I am happier for her more than myself.
Oh, Kenya, you selfless blameless creature. We are so fortunate to gaze upon your purity.
Once I sincerely apologized several years ago for whatever part I played in the demise of our friendship, I had hoped she could do the same. Sadly, she was incapable of it at the time.
Whatever part did you play? I recall you gave as good as you got. Remember that incident with the fishnets and the butt pads? Priceless. Yet here you are so selfless and compassionate. 🙂
However, if your heart isn’t open, it’s impossible for you to receive the message. Her agreeing to the private meeting was a sign that she was possibly ready to accept my apologies and take responsibility for her inappropriate reactions to Apollo’s lies and her hateful behavior towards me as well. It felt good to let go of the years of pain we each caused the other.
I’m sure it would. If that happened. Time will tell.
Bravotv.com: Do you think you and Kenya can sincerely move forward?
PHAEDRA: Words cannot be unsaid, stories cannot be untold, and old experiences no longer unfold.
The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone. ~ Harriet Beecher Stowe Unlike, Kenya who has a great grasp of language, you tend to misuse and mangle the words of others. A lot. This is an example. Porsha could do better than this.
As I have said before, wounds require air to heal, and I think this conversation was the air.
That wasn’t you that said it before. It was Iyanla Vanzant. Someone has been hitting the self help books. “A wound needs air in order to heal. We must talk about and expose those things which have hurt or harmed us in some way. Our wounds need nurturing care in order to heal. If we are to nurture and heal, we must admit that the wounds exist. We must carefully do what is necessary to help ourselves feel better.” ~Iyanla Vanzant And while Iyanla says it a lot it was not her original thought either.
Ultimately, time will tell, but no matter what happens, I have a clear conscience knowing that I truly listened to what Kenya had to say.
You have a clear conscience and I have six pack abs like Kenya. I mean if we are all going to play let’s pretend.
Bravotv.com: Do you think you and Phaedra can sincerely move forward?
KENYA: I honestly can’t say whether or not Phaedra can move forward, as I can only speak for myself. What I have tried to do is have an open heart and a listening ear and compassion for others in difficult times.
BWAHAHAHAHAHAH! Um, sorry girl. You know I love you. But, damn.
We all make mistakes, but in life you can’t live in the past. You cannot hurt people because you are hurting and never try to make amends. You also can’t cherry pick what parts of the Bible you chose to accept for your convenience.
Preach! Kenya is about to take Phaedra Parks to church, y’all.
The Bible says: Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. If Phaedra is truly sincere about accepting God’s word, she will do just that.
Your hypothesis “If Phaedra is truly sincere about accepting God’s word” is false, so then is the conclusion.So what you are saying is it was all bullshit. Just like I said. God it is tiring being right all the damn time.