Well, if Kandi and Phaedra did reconcile during the Super Bowl, as we suspected. The détente did not last for long. Kandi seems blindsided once again by Phaedra’s comments and behaviors on last night’s episode.
Since I am out of the house at the moment, I am breaking the usual rule ( that everyone except CocoBrown seems aware of by now Note to Coco: Please stop announcing the Bravo blogs every week) about saving the Bravo blogs until much later in the week. Kandi was the first one with a blog up this week which is not like Kandi at all.
If Phaedra’s plan was to pull Kandi in as an ally before the reunion films, that was an epic fail.
Bravotv.com: Did you and Todd ever finish your pros and cons list?
Kandi Burruss: No, we didn’t.
Doomed. P.S. Not sure if it was last night or Friday night that Todd was Instagramming about roaming around to movies and car racing places and such in the wee hours of the morning while Kandi was Instagramming yet another “girls night out” which apparently consists of strip clubs and tomfoolery. I’m just saying.
Bravotv.com: Why did you get so emotional with Phaedra?
KB: I had a lot going on at the time. Yes, I was upset about my play being cancelled, but I also had some personal family things that I was dealing with as well. So I guess I was just extra emotional. It probably wasn’t the best time to go talk to her, but I was wondering what was going on with our friendship that she had to discuss it with NeNe and Porsha without ever mentioning to me that there was a problem. Watching this episode, it irritated me to see Phaedra try to brush off what was going on with me by saying that I was just upset about a bad business deal. I wasn’t upset about the money. There was a whole bunch of stuff that was going on with me that she didn’t take the time to ask about either. And now just because I didn’t text her every day, I’m a bad friend.
I wonder if this was filmed when Sharon died? The filming was so out of order….
Bravotv.com: Did you feel like you resolved your issues?
KB: I don’t know if they’re resolved or not. Obviously she doesn’t tell me when there is a problem. I guess only NeNe or Porsha knows. Or I’ll find out while watching the show. I just find it so crazy that she was confiding in them about how I’m not a good friend… Had the shoe been on the other foot, I would never have discussed our friendship with them before talking to her about it.
That is because Phaedra is a full blown sociopath and you are just sort of a selfish, self-centered bitch. You are still winning.
Bravotv.com: What was going through your mind during the therapy session?
KB: I was thinking, “Why am I here?” Most of the conversation was about the problems between NeNe and somebody: NeNe and Kenya, NeNe and Claudia, NeNe and Cynthia… I didn’t want to be in that discussion. NeNe never feels that she is wrong, and if you tell her that she is or if you don’t agree with her, then she’s going to have a problem with you. I didn’t even want to say my opinion. I hate that Dr. Jeff even asked me to say anything.
Admit it. You were thinking about the food.
Bravotv.com: Were you surprised that NeNe walked out?
KB: Yes and no. Yes, because she put the counseling session together, and no, because she loves to give a dramatic exit.
Indeed.
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This is an important point — Phaedra has never explicitly said that Kandi was completely out of contact with her during this time (and we saw Kandi go to her house earlier this season when she told Kandi about how Nene was being such a “rock” and once before that when Phaedra was making guac). Phaedra has said that Nene has texted or contacted her *every* day. This has now turned into Kandi wasn’t contacted Phaedra at all — and that is bullshit.
Kandi isn’t my favorite, but she’s right — the fact that you don’t text someone every day, even if they are going through a rough period, doesn’t mean you aren’t a good friend, *especially* when you supposedly have a close relationship.
Egg-zactly.
Phaedra as a “businesswoman” and “mother” should understand that Kandi was busy with her show and that after all her work the tour being cancelled would be devastated. Even if Phaedra was going thru a rough time, it would be unfair to expect her busy friends to be capable of reaching out to her daily.
Exactly, Nene is not busy… thats why she has all the time in the world to contact Phaedra every day. correct me if im wrong but isnt that what nene previously did with cynthia calling her everyday. Im assuming she and cythia talked about her difficult time getting her family to approve of her marriage to peter. On a side note… could one of the real reasons that nene and cynthia fell out is because cynthia refused to let her use her ex Leon for some Hollywood contact. I mean Leon is pretty well established in Hollywood and may know alot of the right ppl. Nene prob saw that as an opportunity and when Cynthia told her no, so began the decline of that “friendship”. just a thought.
What would any “housewife” on this show have to offer, if not to focus and/or complain about NeNe? Let’s see: Claudia is trying to expand her role by focusing on the stand up thing KUDOS for her. That won’t get ratings but will parlay into other opportunities. Kandi, story line is tired, sad and nothing to offer a reality TV show. Cynthia, naked desperation, all bad. She’s wounded by the failed relationship; therefore, exhibits bitterness and loathing. Kenya, a leach, reality TV is not for her. Phaedra, too many issues, reality TV is not for her. PLEASE CANCEL AFTER THIS SEASON, IT’S RUN ITS COURSE.
I’ve noticed that now that Nene has showed her ass beyond denial by fighting with Dr Jeff (“You don’t know me like that”) the new line from the Nene fans is “The others have NOTHING to offer except complain about Nene. So CANCEL THE SHOW”
Not saying you’re a Nene fan– just saying you have something in common with them.
It’s an undeniable fact. I’m not a fan of anyone, just rubber necking the train wreck.
So true. The new line is “their is no show without Nene”. No. Not if it wants to remain the mean, backstabbing shitshow it currently is.
What if the other girls had fun and did things like go to Puerto Rico to watch Demetria, basically, focus of the show could turn positive! God forbid the show isn’t based on shit talking! These are the only women who go that low, calling each other “whores” and all kinds of awful things (except Brandi–but the rest of the BH ladies are horrified at her language)–its become the norm! There are enough funny, entertaining women to sustain a show if it became fun to watch, rather than gutter painful.
We’ve seen this happen hundreds of times… Kandi watched Phaedra use and turn on everyone else in cast yet somehow believed Phaedra would never do it to Kandi. I honesty believe that to Kandi “ride or die” means something… She just forgot it has to mean something to them both….
I always say this to people: When you see a person display “certain characteristics” with other people never think that you’re exempt or don’t act “surprise” when they do to you , what they have done to others before you.
Look, Phaedra doesn’t know loyalty. She only knows the word opportunity
(as in opportunist).
When someone can no longer serve a purpose to her, she disposes of them.
There is no way Phaedra didn’t know Apollo was doing something illegal.
Where was he getting the thousands of dollars he was blowing at the strip
clubs? He was not gainfully employed.
What about the money he was spending on remodeling their new house?
Where did it come from? That’s why he told Phaedra he ” built ” the house.
Either she knew or purposefully turned a blind eye to his activities, while reaping the rewards of his machinations.
Yet, she has shown absolutely no loyalty towards or support of her children’s father.
Even though Phaedra is now trying to present Apollo as a violent abuser,
she showed no concern when Apollo attacked Kenya’s friend at Nene’s so-called pajama party.
Of course she didn’t, it concerned Kenya and she secretly got a kick out of
It.
She is also desperately trying to come up with reasons not to bring the boys to visit their dad.
Yet, her lawyer and a relative of Kandi’s both made it clear that honesty and visitation with Apollo should take place.
Phaedra is the one that acts like she doesn’t know what’s it’s like to be newly married, a mother of a pre-teen, a business mogul, producer, etc..
She couldn’t see past her own pain, to see HER friend was also in pain.
And Kandi attempted to tell her about it, Phaedra shrugged it off like Kandi’s pain couldn’t possibly be as great as hers.
How self-centered can one person be?!
Kandi and Phaedra have their flaws, but kandi never ran off to the frenemy in hard times. I hope they let Dr Jeff host the reunion so he can do what Andy can’t….put Nene in her place.
THANK YOU! Dr Jeff needs to be hosting the RHOA reunions from now on.
Unless the producers are forcingTodd’s storyline to be him acting as if he has no use for Kandi, it appears that he has difficulty finding anything nice to say about her. I believe that if this were actually true, Kandi would be way more upset by his total indifference to her than she appears to be. I think it’s all bullshit. If it’s not, then that marriage is OVAH. Where’s the pre-nup?
I’m guessing, but I think Todd is panicking about having a baby with Kandi. If their marriage doesn’t last I believe, (correct me if I’m wrong), Kandi’s pre-nup stated that she can get money from Todd and he would probably have to pay Kandi child support too. Todd did a video in one episode with Kandi’s Lawyer. And, he agreed to everything Kandi wanted in her pre-nup. I’m thinking he gets zilch… nothing … if they divorce and he has to pay her. Correct me if I’m wrong TT!) If I were Todd , my penis would shrink when she wants sex. Kandi really wants Todd to copulate with her because she is dead set on having a baby. No IF, ANDS, OR BUTS with
Kandi. She seems to be determined she’s going to have a baby whether Todd likes it or not. Use TWO CONDOMS Todd or go secretly and get yourself fixed if you know what I mean!
I think Todd really should come out and tell her that now is not the time he wants a baby. But grow some gonads and just tell her what you think. That would be a nice beginning. Then “making love” would be glorious for you both. I do believe he wants to be working nearby IF they do have a child so he can see and interact with his child. But knowing Kandi, she will get her way. She’s wanting a child NOW. If I was Todd, I wouldn’t touch her with a “10-foot-pole” until I am ready to have a child. He can’t cuddle and kiss Kandi because it will lead to sex and a newborn baby. I say, “Lighten up Kandi for a while.”
Though I agree with some if what you said, where in the world are you getting your ideas about the pre-nup? Huh???
I think the reason Todd was so quick to pull the trigger on canceling the play was because of their pre-nup. If he only makes money if they turn a profit, he sure as shit isn’t willing to lose his shirt paying 50% of the losses. I don’t think he can float break-even projects, so he has no choice but to take jobs (that are out of town). If Kandi gave him a job with a salary, and he wasn’t responsible for footing half the bill, that show would risk touring.
You are wrong. Please don’t comment on the prenup with no idea about the prenup.
Taking a look at the commenting rules would also be a good idea.
On Tue, Mar 17, 2015 at 2:53 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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It was so awkward watching Kandi and Todd do their pro’s/con’s list. It took Todd forever to think of something pro, and then it was something lame like she was committed to her family (not a direct quote, but something to that effect). He was sitting there messing with his phone and seemed totally uninterested in the conversation. I think they were trying to remember what they liked about each other and what brought them together, and what I got out of it was sex. Yep, it’s all fun and games in the beginning, but when real reality sets in, then the sex suffers from the incompatibility. Those two probably should have just kept having wild sex and not married. Oh well.
Kandi is doing a lot of emotional eating. Whatever her stressors are, she has got do something about this behavior. Obesity and high blood pressure are killing African American women at alarming rates. Her daughter needs her and she owes it to herself to seek ways to get control of this situation. Genuine therapy with a competent professional would help her to get to the root of the problem.
Oh for fucks sake. Worry about your own damn self. Kandi is a perfectly healthy weight plus or minus 10 pounes.
On Mon, Mar 16, 2015 at 6:20 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Please STFU. You sound like an annorexic twit. They barely show anyone REALLY eating, this time I’m surprised they showed anything at all. Kandi’s weight is fine. When she’s 400lbs and bed ridden, then talk shit.
That pic with the umbrella is cracking me up!! Lolol
As someone who’s gone through the total breakdown of most relationships I can DEF identity with Kandi. It’s hard to garner sympathy from ppl when it looks to the outside world that ur life is soooo put together.
Phaedra was the one person on that show that Kandi allowed herself to show her ‘at home’ face too n she thought that it was reciprocated by Phaedra. Finding out that she’s not just private or ‘careful’ to who she lets in but to find out that she’s a totally soulless shell of a person has DEF thrown Kandi for a loop. Kandi was not really just crying abt the loss of the ‘friendship’ it was, if I may hazard a guess, a release of emotion as to how she could’ve been so completely fooled by Phaedra. Kandi is EXTREMELY hard on herself so she tends to go inwards n blame herself for her mistakes i.e. the crying when things go wrong.
With regards to her marriage I can’t say as I don’t know how much of a reality that is shown to us wkly. If what we see is the case then all I can advise Kandi is to RUN NOW!!!! I had the ‘badboy’ the one who everyone told me wasn’t ish, the one who I fought for n helped come into his own….. Kandi is still trying to save face by not accepting that everyone was correct n it’s a possibility that Todd is as callous n opportunistic as was said. The longer u stay to validate ur decision making prowess to u n everyone else will just make the destruction that much harder in the long run. Kandi the sooner u bite the bullet, the sooner u’ll have TRUE happiness again.
Sorry TT for the dissertation.
I don’t agree that Todd is an oppurtunist. Nothing he has done has pointed towards that at all. Anytime a rich person gets with a not-so-rich person people say that.
I am kinda starting to get annoyed with Todd. I understand that Kandi’s family has put him thru a whole lot. But the way he just blew her off as she was trying to talk about early times in the relatitionship when they sit and just kiss and talk. He was so uninterested. Maybe her family did see something we didn’t see in the glimpse we got to see of him. Cause what I’m seeing right now I don’t like. Kandi does at least want to try and work on things. I mean it could be that he is just sick to death of all her family and the crap from them so he is not trying.
They are both culpable. Kandi should have put her foot down with Mama Joyce, but Todd should’ve also recognized before they got married that Kandi wasn’t going to, and had enough self respect to bounce. I like both of them enough, individually and I wish them an easy and respectful divorce, when it comes to it.
Kandi needs to realize that Mama Joyce is toxic ! I believe that when she said bad things about Sharon on national tv Todd should’ve just left . He looks so upset and Kandi kind of blew it off. Now Sharon passed away and I think Todd is done trying to even work on the marriage . I just don’t understand why Kandi doesn’t put her Mom on the spot and stop buying her everything ! My kids don’t owe me anything , I don’t get why Joyce doesn’t understand that. I also loss a daughter in 2008 to cancer , but, that doesn’t mean my 2 other kids have to give me anything !
Love that gif. Kandi don’t let nothing stand in the way of food.
I just don’t understand why Phaedra didn’t pick up the phone and call Kandi. There is something much deeper going on. Todd and Kandi knows a heck of a lot more about Apollo and Phaedra than what is shown on RHOA. I am willing to bet that some things was brought to Kandi’s attention about Phaedra not having clean hands through people in the know.
…but super tickled with the free snacks. priorities people. priorities.
IDK but I think that with all the disrespect and marginalizing Todd has been through and now with Sharon gone and the way she was treated, Todd is saying f all you m*****f***ers, I’m out. All this can be a major turn off and that could be what Todd is going through. It’s really sad.
Can you see the look on Phaedra’s face in that photo? She must be Mama Joyce’s love child who was given up for adoption. They always look like they just smelled something bad.
I was also seeing that, comparing the “resting faces” of the women and I’m assuming that photo was taken when they were watching Demetria in PR. What a bitch Phaedra is that she cannot be happy for anyone else.
What the hell is Kandi doing holding an umbrella for Phaedra? The expression on Phaedra’s face is one of pure contempt. Claudia has a delighted expression, and one that would be appropriate for the occasion. Cynthia looks like she’s worried about what Peter is doing back home without her. Kenya is looking analytical as hell, like “what the HELL is that chick wearing?!….”