Kandi’s blog this week I one of the most interesting ones ever, at least to me. Remember just last month when we saw Phaedra show up at Kandi’s house for the Superbowl? We thought that was a sign they were reconciling. Kandi made a point of saying “even Phaedra” showed up. This was after much speculation that they were not close anymore. Well the big news is, Kandi didn’t really even know there was an issue with Phaedra until the “cancelling session.” That is if it ever even gets brought up during next week’s scripted session with the TV therapist before Nene storms off the set. Kandi was completely oblivious to Phaedra running around talking trash about her to Nene and Porsha.
Now that is some interesting tea. But that is not all.
Kandi’s Bravo Blog is in the Q & A format again this month. I actually prefer this format for her because it has her answer things she would probably not address in a freestyle format. Like this first question.
Bravotv.com: Did you find the marriage counseling helpful?
Kandi Burruss: No.
Um, care to expand on that answer, Kandi? Because this just reinforces what we all have been thinking about your relationship with Todd being less than blissful. I mean the expected storyline for you two newlyweds is lots of intimacy and trying to make babies. Plus family fun with the girls. Speaking of the girls we haven’t seen either girl lately. Did Todd’s daughter move out? Did you buy Riley a new house because she didn’t like her luxury suite in your house anymore?
Bravotv.com: Were you surprised to receive the award from Peter?
KB: I was very surprised! Todd and I wanted to be there to support Peter, but I had no idea that he would be honoring me. I was caught off guard.
Well, you were the only actual celebrity at the event. You unknowingly legitimized one of Peter’s wacky “music events.” You might oughta feel used rather than honored.
Bravotv.com: Why did you break down with your mom?
KB: Mom and I had been arguing a lot at that time, and I just felt that she never accepted any responsibility for being wrong. She always finds a way to make me the bad guy. When she said I’ve changed and that I’m not there for my family, I was too through! I had just bought a car for a family member that week, another family member was living with me, and I was and still am helping to take care of another elderly family member. To say I don’t care about my family was an insult. I love them all dearly, and for her to feel that I don’t care about them as much just because I’m married now hurts me.
Was the car for Todd’s kid? If so she would not count that and you know it. Basically, your mama sees you helping anyone that is not her as money out of her pocket. When she says you are not there for your family, she means you are not there for her.
Bravotv.com: What did you think of NeNe’s idea to bring everyone to a group counseling session?
KB: I thought it was a waste of my time, but that’s because I didn’t know what Phaedra was saying behind my back. It’s crazy watching the show and hearing Porsha and Phaedra discuss how I’m not a friend and that I’m siding with Apollo because my husband and Apollo are friends, and blah, blah, blah. At the time that they had that conversation, I didn’t even know Phaedra had a problem with me like that. I have argued with Todd defending Phaedra. I have defended Phaedra when Apollo came around talking B.S. to everyone about their relationship. There have been plenty of times that I have taken up for Phaedra. No one can say that I have taken anybody’s side against her. Last week at the dinner Phaedra was sitting next to NeNe and Porsha. I was on the other side of the table. They were the closest to her, so they should’ve been the first to grab her. They are her friends too… Right? There is so much more I could say on this subject, but I’m going to let it go.
I don’t think you are going to let it go until the reunion. This is why they make sure you see all the shows before the reunion, so you can see your ride or die friend stabbing you in the back with two people she has never liked. You have known Phaedra long enough to not be surprised by this. She is one of the most duplicitous people ever to be on a housewives franchise. You can’t possibly be that shocked. Right?
Great read–as always, your comments are spot on TT.
Tamara Tattles locked it down when she said “Well, you were the only actual celebrity at the event. You unknowingly legitimized one of Peter’s wacky “music events.” You might oughta feel used rather than honored.”
And That ,my friends, is why
1: The place was as empty as a compliment from a narcissist.
2. They didn’t have her name engraved on the award BEFORE the event.
3. Peter Thomas is the Title Holder for most jobs and least dollars.
YAY CHAY IS HERE! Sorry it took so long to moderate your first comment. I’m lazy this weekend. 🙂
As usual, perfection. Kandi needs to know that Phaedra only uses people as long as it suits her. She was never a friend.
Kandi’s anger and exhaustion at her mom is a good sign. Maybe the light bulb is finally starting to turn on. Mama Joyce uses guilt and never being happy to manipulate Kandi. She will never be happy or think she has done enough. She needs you to constantly try to live up to her expectations so she can squeeze you dry. Wake up, Kandi.
Like I said before. I knew this fake ass friendship with Phaedra & Kandi would eventually end. Phaedra is a SNAKE and cannot keep a friend. She will eventually stab a bitch in the back & leave you for dead. Kandi obviously neglected to buy Angela Stanton’s book and has also never heard of Jessica Voker (I know damn well Kandi’s heard of her). Kandi is ALWAYS befriending snake ass women (remember Kim Z.?) and falling head-over-hills for whack ass men (The fiancé AJ with 6 kids & several baby mamas’. Allegedly, Riley’s father was a married man who only fucked with Kandi for her money. Allegedly, there are many whorish men in ATL who had Kandi as a ‘suga mama’ ). Now, mama Joyce AINT SHIT EITHER, but it’s funny how she never likes the ones who turn out to be shit. I’m really starting to wonder if it’s true about her friend/employee Roslyn (whatever her name is. Y’all know, the big head bitch) just because of Kandi’s track record with snake ass females. When Phaedra and Kandi started twerkin & dancing when Phadra said “Cuz we have a bachelorette party to plan!” (while they were pacifying Porsha after she attacked Kenya ) I was like “:eyeroll: Dis bitch *smh*…Be glad when that shit ends. Phaedra aint’ NO-bodies friend.” Now it’s all coming to fruition. Kandi’s clueless ass was obviously more invested in the friendship while Phaedra was obviously going through the motions (like she is now with Nene & Porsha) Seems like Kandi’s family, friends, AND employees don’t really respect her. Those staff meetings!? All the rederic, bullshittin, bickering, and joking is ridiculous. Not to mention they don’t speak to Kandi (or her husband) with respect. Lawd I just SMH & fast-forward through it (Matter fact, I fast forward through ALL of Kandi’s scenes unless the other wives are involved). Yo, Kandi will give a bitch the shirt off her back, right!? Seems like Kandi has a “Michael Jackson” situation goin on. Like him, she’s the one in the fam with all the REAL money and EVERYONE comes begging Kandi when they want or need something, or get in trouble. She’s basically doormat, supporting all they asses, cleaning up their messes and no one appreciates it. I mean, did you see what her mother did to her house!? I’ll betcha’ ANYONE in here can cozy up to Kandi as a “friend” and in 3 months ask her for a $100k loan to start a business raising & breeding pine trees. I bet you’ll get it too! lol
Genius! Funny – thanks for the laughs 🙂
Rederic???
When Nene and Cynthia were discussing their fallout on the season 6 reunion Kandi chimed in and had said she has said done things that have really pissed off Phaedra but they were able to talk to each other about it and move on, maybe off camera something happened between the two and Phaedra wasn’t too happy about it, I just don’t see Phaedra starting a problem with her closest buddy on the show for no apparent reason and has anyone else noticed that they hardly filmed together this season? Up until this point these two were inseparable I really hope that whatever issues they have can truly be squashed because they have been friends prior to Phaedra coming on RHOA and their scenes together on past seasons have been comedic gold! Chuck Smith the little homie scene had me in tears.
The minute Phaedra “befriended” Nene I knew their (Kandi & Phaedra) was over ,and I’ve been saying the whole season that they’re not friends…..
Storyline. Phaedra hasn’t had anything to contrbute without Apollo, he was her story. He’s gone girl. (terrible pun) Now, Phadrea has to fight with everyone, the outcasts are scratching for a way to keep those checks coming. Phadrea, Nene and Porshsa are all boring.
Also Kandi strikes me as the type of chick that will say or do something that will piss you off but she won’t think its a big deal even though you might be highly offended by her actions…her mom behaves in the same manner. Just an observation
OR act clueless, knowing damn well she acted out of malice. Like the setup with Demetria. That’s why I don’t feel sorry at all for Kandi, at all. Demetria needed a firey friend there with her, to call Kandi out on her bullshit.
And Claudia, Cynthia, Kenya and Demitria are entertaining right? Emmmm. Good to know
Well, at least they are easier to look at.
Phaedra is a fraud and it’s about time Kandi figured that out. Her “bestie” is talking about her with NeNe, someone she really doesn’t care for & Porsha? If I were Kandi, I’d let them all have it.
One day she’ll get tired….One day….Then all hell will break loose…
Riley gettin sent off to a strict boarding school in France. Mama Joyce will get cut off. The cousins, great aunts & uncles, 2nd cousins, God nieces, and nephews, will ALL be cut the fuck off. Fake friends will be permanently cut off too. She’s gonna take a photo of her middle finger & post it on her instagram titled: “FUCK EACH & EVERY LAST ONE OF YOU. I’m DONE!”
Lol!! Too funny!!
I put money on it that Apollo confided in Todd that he is taking the fall for their illegal schemes and will continue to so his boys have their mother around. He probably was very emotional and whatnot. Todd probably told Kandi, naturally, and Kandi felt awkward. Who could blame her?
That combined with Phaedra girl crush Nene (who wanted nothing to do with her until she needed an ally against Kenya) made Kandi keep some distance.
@Lovejoy 02 and @TT, what is the tea on Apollo’s finances? Did they have a joint account? Are his accounts/money off shore? He embezzled millions (that the feds can prove). I think he would take Phaedra down in a SECOND unless she agrees to look after his hidden funds. If she’s not down with him like she says, she should divorce him and make sure he’s out of her and the boys’ life (unlikely). The only way Apollo isn’t selfish and takes the fall for her, is if he has enough money to live the rest of his life when he gets out, because I don’t think Burger King wants to hire a twice felon when it comes to financial crimes. He’s unemployable.
That’s what I believe.
Kandi lets certain people in her life walk all over her and she knows it so she picks battles where there are none to either make herself feel better or so she thinks she won’t appear weak (ie Todd).
Yes, TT! Did you notice how Kandi defended herself against Mama Joyce’s accusation of not coming around the family lately? She merely made a list of the people in the family she’s giving money to. That’s what Kandi believes relationships live and die by… money. And she’s about to R.I.P. her relationship with Todd because of it!
I think Kandi expected the marriage therapist to tell Todd, “Have more sex with your wife. It shouldn’t matter that she let’s everyone in your lives emasculate you. Her not defending you when her family and friends/employees talk about how small you are, how you haven’t accomplished shit, how you’re living off her, how your parents were a pimp and prostitute… all this talk plus a bonnet doesn’t get you going and wanting to procreate?! C’mon, Todd.”
I think Kandi’s launching right into listing what she has done monetarily for her family has been pretty much made a priority BY the family members. The Bank of Kandi has been around for awhile and by now they expect it to always be open. It’s pretty much emotional blackmail using finances as a basis. Poor Kandi! She was young when all of this started, and probably just never learned to set any boundaries.
Do you remember the episode surrounding one of her mother’s houses being freed up, and one of the aunts, the trollish little one, says so what you gonna do with the other house, and as I listened to that I thought that was a straight up gift request, and I was disgusted with that woman. I find her mother’s side of the family detestable.
@Wonky Tonk, I agree. Somehow generosity can result in people’s irides being replaced with dollar signs and folks acting like the giver has a day to live and a lottery fortune to burn.
100%
Run Todd Run!!!
Nene in that gif… it’s like the chaos of the moment is catching up to her, making her heart beat faster than the coke already was. Allegedly.
I never understood that friendship between kandi and Phaedra!!! Now she sees the true Phaedra??!
I think Kandi is naive. Most of these females are malicious, cunning and conniving. Kandi wants life to be paid for with her money and she wants it the way she wants. She was a teenage millionaire with good money management. All her life she’s been a fairy godmother, granting wishes and dreams in exchange for love, loyalty and control. She even tried to do it for kim zolciak… until kim messed with that money and Wig was dead to her. Kandi understands relationships fallout due to finances. She has never experienced having to maintain a relationship with respect, compromise, understanding, support (emotional support and physically calling and making yourself available for people in times of need), and unconditional love. Because her relationships are so simple, they aren’t deep. She can only force loyalty by putting a B on her payroll… she doesn’t have the emotional investments made for others to cash in on…and for people who dont/no longer need her finances/clout they are ghost as soon as the last check clears. I kind of feel sorry for her. Her examples are her mom, greedy family, xscape members/friends that fell-out over nonsense, etc.
Wow that seems very possible given the way she is in her marriage now too! It’s so sad that Todd probably has second thoughts now! He proposed too quickly, seems like she wanted to move quickly too and he had something to prove!
@shay, you have a point there. She did say once (I think when she and Kenya were together, and Kandi was stirring up some unnecessary shit) and Kenya started crying, Kandi said she did not know how to console somebody when they were upset like that. As you said she has no emotional investments with others outside of her money. But cue the waterworks if SHE feels under appreciated.Smh
Kandi is better off without Pheadra’s friendship. She will see that sooner or later.
Yes, she is. Don’t you guys see the similarity between Kandi’s friendship
with Phaedra and her relationship with her mother.
The mother and Phaedra are extremely manipulative. They are only warm and kind to you if you agree with them and support everything they do 100%.
Correct me if I’m wrong, but Kandi doesn’t seem to have any business sense and spends money like it’s going out of style. I don’t know how she has so much money.
Kandi is a multi-millionaire. She spends the money because she has the money to spend.
I agree, Rita. But I think the Kandi factory scenes don’t show her real “team”, because that business could not be successful with like four idiots led by Don Juan, reporting to Kandi running the show.
Yes, she does have the money, but yes, she also spends like crazy. Just because you have it, you don’t always need to spend it. I assume she has a steady stream of income, not just a piggy bank she’s depleting. After all, money is king in her world!
@BH Wannabe, are you saying Don Juan can’t run a company with side eyes and snappy comebacks? And what doesn’t qualify… nevermind, I can’t even come up with jokes that are funnier than those clowns running Kandi Factory.
I don’t know what you guys think Kandi is spending money on. First of all she has a shit ton and yes, the WRITER of the songs gets a steady income stream. Don’t believe me? Ask Dolly Parton.
She can surely afford to buy her Mama a house and her husband a car. There are all sorts of things you can find fault with about Kandi, but her finances and her spending are not among them.
On Thu, Mar 12, 2015 at 4:41 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Yes, Kandi buys love. But that’s about all she pays for. I remember when she got her new house & was showing it to Kim Z, she made a point of saying she wouldn’t pay for a decorator. She is tightfisted. Money IS king in her world.
She even admitted that she ignored Phaedra during the Apollo debacle because she was having money concerns & she doesn’t have time for anyone else when her money isn’t right. Kandi is a bad friend. She’s a better friend than Phaedra is but she’s still a bad friend.
Kand is basically cheap. She get stuff on sale and barbers.
Barbers? Do you mean barters?
Um what? Kandi is a grammy award winning song writer who makes a ton of money. She’s also very frugal and is very good at keeping her money making money.
None of what you said is anywhere near the truth.
On Thu, Mar 12, 2015 at 2:03 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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You’re wrong,lol. Kandi is worth about 40 million, she has it to spend…
I can not wait for this reunion. I have a feeling it’s going to be an all or nothing event. There will be a cast change after this season no matter what.
Yeah I already planned on NOT watching anymore after the reunion. The show is too scripted and phoney, and the producers INSIST on suppressing “real tea”. Like this bullshit with Phaedra. Unless Angela Stanton & Jessica Voker get to come on the show (at least as FOH) I will not be watching anymore if SHe is on the cast next season. Nene cant be allowed unless her SISTERS are invited on. AND show more of the ladies daily lives without the drama. It would be interesting to see what they do for money beside the HW checks.
I’m expecting Phaedra to not show up or walk out. NeNe may have a breakdown or may walk off set multiple times.
@jteaspills, I don’t think walking off will enough of a dramatic exit. I think she’ll quit and stomp off leaving nothing but a shocked Andy and a trail of hoof prints
Who is it that I remember walking off before and going to the bathroom and forgetting they had a mike on…
On Fri, Mar 13, 2015 at 2:07 AM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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TT, that was Teresa. “Kkkkaaattt, don’t bring up my fambly!”
If I were Kandi and Phaedra was throwing her damn side eye shade at me…I would be spilling everything I know about this so called Mr. Chocolate at the reunion…I’m vengeful like that.
That’s probably exactly why Phaedra showed up at Kandi’s for the superbowl.
On Thu, Mar 12, 2015 at 2:20 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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Unfortunately, I don’t think Kandi will do that. She lives by the hood code – no snitching. Let’s hope that she at least gives us hints on Phaedra’s dirt.
I would be okay with this.
In my opinion, Phaedra is THE most duplicitous person ever to be on the housewives franchises. She is rotten to the core.
Word. She disgusts me.
Me too!
Yep….she makes my skin crawl!
I guess I’m feeling differently than you, I felt for Phaedra after seeing how menacing Apollo was on camera. I can’t imagine how horrible he would be off. Him even bringing up murdering her in a crime of passion scared me. I feel she was justified in everything she did regarding him. He was going around telling people lies left and right. How people believed anything he said makes no sense. And if he lied about Kenya and dissed her completely, why is Kenya believing the “chocolate” story?
Can we talk “made up plotlines”? You really believed that bullshit scene?
THANK YOU! FAKE SHIT! I don’t feel sorry for that disgusting snake ass bitch. I’m glad karma comeuppance is getting her good….but it aint over yet. Keep watching :eats popcorn:
IKR!!! She is as afraid of him as I am of my maltese! Puhleez!!!
It was satisfying when Bravo showed the smallish hole in the wall, after Phaedra was saying that he ‘punched holes in the wall.’ I’m pretty sure if he had punched multiple holes in the wall, Bravo would have filmed it….gleefully. That Phaedra, she such a…um…exaggerator. Shoot, she may have done it herself or it could have been there for a long time, for all we know. I really wouldn’t put anything past Phaedra.
Snap @gingersnap! Yes, have you seen holes punched in the walls? Usually more than one, because people that punch walls have uncontained rage. I took in some angry teenaged boys and the holes were larger than their fists and at eye-level… because, punching. My condo was older and sturdy, too. That hole looked like a hook on the back of a door that was swung open or maybe kids rough-housing.
Between phaedra and Apollo, Apollo is the lesser of two evils
So you think Phaedra is just a poor damsel in distress and Apollo with an abusive husband. …. I see. I’ve heard people like this exist. I’ve just never run across anyone in the wild.
On Thu, Mar 12, 2015 at 3:58 PM, Tamara Tattles wrote:
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I used to like Kandi the best on RHOA, but she’s really kinda the most low down. She stomps on her husband’s neck, so to say. He seems so broken. What a mess. I hope they don’t procreate. And I hope he whisks his daughter away, quickly! Riley is so awful to her. These “Housewife” shows have become terrible.
I feel a bit bad for Todd too, he have up all his power when he married Kandi. She seems pretty inflexible with him and like she’s not very willing to understand his point of view, and therefore his feelings. If they are having this much trouble after only six months, and Kandi states that counseling (cancelling?!) didn’t help, then it ain’t looking good (at all). I imagine a Bravo wedding would be very enticing, even against better judgment.
Marry in haste, repent at leisure. God, I can’t believe I still remember that saying 😉
You called this a long time ago TT kudos to you!
TT you’re too much . (Sigh )I read your blog to wind down and make me laugh after my long day of rude people , can you please do a blog with snappy comebacks or “shady retorts”? Anyway enough about me . Should we start to assume that Kandi is mildly retarded ? Or maybe a touch of Asperger’s syndrome ,She’s a talented song writer but seems to be totally oblivious regarding any of her relationships. Kandi always seems surprised and hurt when people with snake written on their forehead bite her .
I felt that all the women need to be more respect of each relationship. I feel men get mad at their wives and then throw them under the bus. Apollo is trying to do what he can to destroy his wife. Now that he not going to be on the show anymore. I saw a big change in Apollo after he and Phaedra had their second child. It seem like he was more distance from his family then. His life was destroyed so he want Phaedra’s life destroyed. But she tried to get a business started with him lots of times. He didn’t have to do what he did. Apollo had a very supportive wife in every way. What he doesn’t realize is that destroying Phaedra hurts the boys. He was like a mad man at the end. Kandi has alot of issues she needs to work on. Her marriage is hurting right. So I think she can’t help Phaedra right now.
@ Bernadette perhaps he changed when he watched his “wife” demean him on national tv their first Season . Maybe he became phased off because he watched his wife tell the world that Apollo isn’t use good food because his mother is white therefore he only ate can food . Are you serious ? How else would a thug react ? I’m no Apollo fan but come on . She’s the devil with not heart or soul she’s mo better than him, the only difference between those two is she has a degree or two .She wasn’t in her stupid 20’s when she married apollo. She knew he was a criminal she knew he just got out of jail . She’s a 40 something year old educated woman . She should have thought about thr kind of father Apollo would before she decided to breed with him. The harm and emotional damage to those children is her fault . Who breeds with an idiot and expects father of the year ?
Kandi is pretty stupid if she didnt know that. Cynthia knows they’re doggjng her in her talking heads. But maybe this has never happened to Kandi before.
Their.
Contrary to some of the commenters here, I believe Phaedra and Kandi had a true friendship. They both love sex and talking about it, they’ve slept with the same men (i.e. Chuck) and they both have weight issues. The problem is that Kandi is a genuine person who shares much of her life to the viewers (probably too much) and Phaedra is a fake who shows a fake persona to the tv audience. In the few scenes that Phaedra and Kandi filmed together this season, Phaedra was clearly uncomfortable with Kandi asking candid questions about her relationship with Apollo. Kandi knows to much about the REAL Phaedra and she can’t deal with it.
Wow some of you are tough. Call me naive but I choose to believe that Phaedra and Kandi are TRUE friends just going through a rough patch. If Phaedra had anything to do with Apollo’s criminal schemes which I find very unlikely the Feds would be all over Ms. Parks. I think all the HW shows are about shifting alliances but you can tell the real friends from the friends who forge bonds due to a common enemy. For instance if you look at BH Kyle and Lisa were friends before the show during; the show that shifted and LVP grew closer to Brandi due to having a common enemy in Adrienne circa season 3. As much as Nene has irked me with her egomaniacal blogs/tweets/talking heads I feel that her friendship with Phaedra is out of both empathy and a common enemy. Kenya needs to removed from the show post haste cause Atlanta has been on a downward spiral since that “beauty queen on bath salts”(Ya’ll know no one serves scathing wit like Miss Phae Phae) fruit loop has taken up a peach. Porsha’s gummi bear loving ditsiness at least can be seen as comic relief. Get rid of Peter too, what heterosexual man makes it a practice of inserting himelf in other people’s marital affairs. Yaaaaaaaaaaassssss, Petra!!!!! GET YA LIFE HUNTY!!!! But for real this show is really becoming stale
Kenya has been great to watch and unlike that fake fraud phony Phaedra, she has parlayed the RHOA opportunity in to other ventures…. Phaedra has not been able to do that….. Also, Phaedra wages WAR on Kenya because of the booty video and Kenya had every right to go ahead and produce her own since Phaedra’ goal was to slick Kenya in to doing it for little or nothing or for free…. We can see Phaedra as clear as day.